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The Hidden Cost of Living in Masculine Energy | Feminine Energy Inner Work · Mindful Success Path

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  When a woman lives too much in her masculine energy, it can cause a lot of problems in her life, like extra struggle, poor relationships, health issues.
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  And in this video, what I'm gonna be doing is I'm gonna be talking about the hidden costs when a woman lives too much in her masculine energy.
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  Built on my 15 years of experience living too much in my.
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  Masculine energy that I then completely shifted to manifest my husband moving to another country, other businesses in the best shape of my life over the next couple years.
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  Hi, my name is Amanda Avea.
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  On this channel, we talk all about how to manifest what it is that you want in life without all the extra stress, chaos, and drama that most people.
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  Are accustomed to, and if you're interested in working with me, uh, looking through my business training courses, my manifestation courses, all the free resources, anything like that you can find in the description below.
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  So let's get into, um, this feminine energy inner work, because that's essentially what this is.
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  Um, I believe that the feminine is rising, but unlike what a lot of like these.
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  Spiritual gurus and things talk about, I think.
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  I think a lot of what they're talking about is still not very grounded in reality.
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  And one of the things that I love to do in this channel is I like to show you the spiritual, but mix it with like the practical and tangible of like, Hey, here's what you can do in your everyday life, or Here's how these certain things show up.
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  Because ultimately at the end of the day, I want you to become self-aware and I want you to.
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  Empower yourself rather than, you know, rely on me or some guru or whatever.
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  And I also don't want you to think that there's anything wrong with you because there is nothing wrong with you, like a lot of these other gurus make you feel.
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  It's just a matter of becoming aware of certain patterns and things that we have as humans, and then correcting them as we go, which you have all the power to do.
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  On your own.
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  My only job is to simply make you aware of these things and then if you wanna go further or deeper, then you can purchase these things below.
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  But ultimately, at the end of the day, these free videos on feminine energy, inner work, you should be able to just take them and run with them.
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  That's kind of a the entire point.
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  And one of the areas in which we really need to do a lot of inner work is in real and self-awareness work, really more than anything is realizing when we've gone too far into masculine energy.
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  As women and the hidden costs of that.
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  So let's explain how we even get here to begin with.
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  Right.
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  So most women, as I've mentioned, start off in wounded feminine energy.
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  It's the doormat, the good girl, the people pleaser.
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  Uh, sometimes she overindulges in her feelings.
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  It can come off as lazy.
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  That's like wounded feminine energy.
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  Homegirl can't get anything done.
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  Okay.
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  She can't, she can't get anything done.
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  She probably can't take care of herself.
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  Uh, that's more the wounded, uh, feminine energy.
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  She tends to end up in pretty toxic relationships and controlling situations, uh, and things like that usually can't take care of herself, uh, financially.
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  Now, in order to get out of that, most women have to learn some masculine energy.
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  Uh, let's call them principles, uh, in order for them to be able to start taking care of themselves because when you're able to take care of yourself, then you're no longer in desperate situations.
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  Where you are easily a, a victim to predators or people trying to take advantage of you, for example, doesn't mean it can't happen, uh, when you are overly masculine.
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  'cause it certainly can.
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  Um, however, right, it's less likely, uh, to, to happen, right?
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  So in order to get out of victim hood, people pleaser, laziness, overindulgence in emotions, uh, things like doormat energy, things like that, easily controlled and manipulated.
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  She needs to take on masculine energy.
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  Right?
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  In this case, like I said, it looks like being able to take care of yourself.
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  So now you're making money.
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  Now you're becoming more self-aware.
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  You're probably more in like the personal development space.
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  'cause that's pretty much what happened to me.
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  I spent 15 years more in the personal development space before I started getting a lot more into the spiritual spaces.
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  I would dabble in it here and there, but I didn't really get it for about 15 years.
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  So like most people, I would spend a lot of time in that personal.
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  Uh, development, which has a lot of masculine energy to it, and it's extremely helpful.
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  You start learning how to make money, you start taking more personal responsibility.
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  Maybe you're starting to work out.
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  Um, but what happens to a lot of us, myself included, is because there weren't many examples of empowered feminine energy.
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  Most of the examples of empowerment that certain generations were given were essentially men.
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  Or women who were competing with men.
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  So there wasn't really like a, a template that we knew of, uh, for a few generations for something that could be more of an empowered feminine energy.
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  So for a lot of, uh, women, what that's turned into is they go overboard into masculine energy.
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  It's okay to have some of it, right, but when you go overboard, it starts to create a lot of problems in your.
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  Life, and this is how you're gonna know if you, any of these problems, you're like, oh, snap, that's me.
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  There is probably a chance that you're spending way too much of your time in masculine energy, and if you're like confused or need a bit more of a tuneup or you're not sure, then sign up for a one-on-one call with me below.
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  They're just as available because I'm literally in the middle of a move while, while I'm recording this.
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  Um, so just grab a spot, uh, on the calendar and I can kind of, uh, pinpoint.
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  What might be going on in your life that is creating those things.
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  But I'm just gonna go through this list and if it resonates, it, it resonates.
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  And let me know in the comments which one is actually resonating with you.
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  So number one, burnout.
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  Right?
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  So a lot of women who go way too much into their masculine energy experience burnout.
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  This is essentially what happened to me.
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  Um, I got burn out so bad to the point where I basically like broke down physically, mentally, so on and so forth.
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  I went into anxiety and depression.
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  Um, I didn't realize at the time that that's what was going on now through the work of therapy and stuff like that.
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  I'm like, yep, that's definitely what happened.
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  I didn't realize that's what was going on at the time.
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  Um, and then once I went through my burnout stage, I went through like a lot of let lethargy, I didn't, uh, have, I didn't, I didn't have a wheel to do much of anything after I went through, through that burnout stage.
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  But a lot of the burnout feels like maybe brain fogginess, you're losing energy for things.
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  Uh, and I'll get to the physical symptoms, um, momentarily'cause there's physical symptoms that come with burnout as well.
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  But it, it's like you're just exhausted all the time.
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  And a lot of women are just running around exhausted all the time.
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  And one of the reasons why is because they're too much in their masculine energy and a lot of it has to do with societal conditioning.
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  Case in point 50 50 relationships, which neither work for, for basic human psychology or biology.
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  They don't work to maintain the polarity.
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  Uh, in relationships.
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  And at the end of the day, it's just turned out to be a raw deal for most women because you're paying bills, you're being forced to pay bills by a lot of these men.
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  And again, they don't really know any better either because they're like, yay feminism.
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  Right?
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  If a man says he's a feminist, it's usually just don't date him, right?
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  It's probably not gonna end well, um, for you or you're gonna end up getting frustrated, uh, with him because again, most of the men are also super confused.
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  By the way, so don't blame the men.
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  They're also totally confused by the societal programming that we've been getting.
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  But you're paying bills, you're taking care of kids, you're taking care of a household, and you feel like you're taking care of a grown man.
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  That's where most women are feeling these days, and they're understandably, extremely frustrated.
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  Um, you might be another hidden cost, right, is um, so that's like more of your mental health.
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  It's the anxiety, it's the depression, it's the burnout, so on and so forth.
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  In terms of health, a lot of times what we'll end up seeing, um, and I'm a, I'm actually a certified holistic, um, healer here in Mexico.
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  And one of the things that you'll end up seeing a lot of times with women who are having hormonal issues, for example, so maybe it's thyroid issues or issues with their cycle and so on and so forth, and this is like assuming that.
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  You know, they're not pregnant or not after menopause, or there's some sort of medication that they have to take for some reason, and that it's causing issues.
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  Um, with that, like assuming that's off the table, right?
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  In which case we know what's going on there, assuming that's off the table and women are having all these like issues, uh, with that area of their bodies and there's really not much of an explanation for it.
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  Usually the explanation is she's gone overboard into her.
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  Masculine energy.
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  So for example, with me in my twenties, I always had a, I, um, had issues with my cycle.
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  They were very painful.
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  I remember, um, you know, at one point they did a blood test.
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  I had hypothyroidism, then they were gonna put me on medication for the rest of my life.
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  Fortunately I was smart enough back then to not opt for that option.
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  And I ended up shifting it, uh, with nutrition and things like that.
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  But that's super common.
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  Um, as well, in terms of physical health.
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  Another physical symptom is low libido.
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  Like you, you don't have a libido, um, at all.
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  And a lot of times in relationships, like you're gonna find yourself less and less attracted to your partner.
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  If you are holding more of the masculine energy and then he's holding more of the feminine energy, you're gonna find yourself eventually less and less attracted to him because you're not gonna have very much respect for him.
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  Um, at some point, and again, that goes back to you might be too much in your masculine energy, so a hidden cause.
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  Might be, uh, we went through the mental, we went through some of the physical, now we're going through the relationships, right?
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  You're probably not having sex.
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  You might not even be attracted to your partner.
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  You've turned into roommates.
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  That's usually another sign.
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  Or if you're not partnered and you're dating, then you keep attracting very feminine men.
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  Uh, that is another area in which this can come up very easily is, let's say you're in the dating scene and you keep attracting men who want to be the prize, who wanna be pursued.
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  Um, it is like wild when it's going out here with dudes these days.
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  It's so crazy.
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  Um, you know, they're making you pay half the bills or all the bills in the worst of situations that I've heard.
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  Um, which by the way, that amount of stress on a woman, by the way, can also lead to a lot of physical symptoms.
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  I remember having clients back in the day, and this was.
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  Before I understood what all of this was, that was mostly just in like business coaching and marketing and sales training.
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  I remember having clients where I would have conversations, and I didn't understand the link back then, but for example, like their spouse isn't working, they're basically doing nothing.
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  The woman's, you know, paying, working, paying all the bills, raising the kids, so on and so forth, and then suddenly she has some full-blown health crisis or some sort of ailment, and now I'm like, yeah, no, duh.
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  Because you're under so much stress that now your body's like revolting.
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  Uh, basically is what's going on.
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  So you'll notice as I'm going through these lists, a lot of these things kind of, um, affect each other.
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  Or you may have, um, physical symptoms as well as, um, uh, mental symptoms.
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  Or you might be feeling like, okay, I'm noticing that in my relationship and I'm having physical symptoms.
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  You'll notice that sometimes these things come in like clusters, right?
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  It may not be like one individual thing.
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  It might be.
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  Multiple things.
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  And then finally, uh, in your career, one of the things that I have learned, um, and I've done other videos on this, on quantum jumping and how I've used feminine energy to attract what it is that I want in my life.
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  If a woman is too much in her masculine energy, she's gonna be making money, but it's going to be a grind, right?
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  And there's always gonna be a challenge and there's gonna be a problem.
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  Not to say that challenges and problems go away necessarily when you get more into your feminine energy.
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  It's just different kinds.
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  Um, of problems and they're definitely not as dramatic.
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  And there's a bunch of men around you helping you solve those problems.
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  So you don't have to necessarily solve it all yourself because you are far more supported than you were when you were too much in your masculine energy.
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  But for example, like when it comes to making money, and I see this with women all the time, they're grinding like a man.
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  Um, and the reality is like women don't have to grind like men in order to attract abundance.
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  But because that was mostly the template.
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  That we had, uh, we didn't know how to do anything else.
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  I mean, my best mentors in business have been men, including my husband by the way.
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  But that's obviously a different dynamic than male mentors, uh, that I had in the past.
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  And I don't have to work.
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  I do it because it's fun.
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  My husband's like, you don't have to work, uh, if you don't want to because he's a provider and, and he's a protector and things like that.
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  I do it'cause it's fun.
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  Um, but in, in that, he provides a lot of mentorship and things that make my life and my business, um, easier.
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  And I will find women in these dynamics or these situations in business where they really have to grind.
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  They're working way too hard.
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  Um, I've seen women working 80, 90, 100 hour weeks and I'm like, why are you doing this?
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  Um, exactly.
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  Especially if they're married to a, well, usually if they're married to a provider, they're not doing that.
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  They're, they're working because it's fun for them, um, but a lot of them are not.
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  So then they're again, in this high pressure situation that we're not built for necessarily, although men are built for it.
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  And this is not me being woo woo like you can find in the psychology, our hormones, everything in how we're different.
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  We're not built to grind like a man, but a lot of women out here are grinding like men.
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  And one of the things that I've noticed is when I got more into my feminine energy, not only did I attract a provider husband, but then suddenly making money became a whole lot easier and a lot more, uh, fun, right?
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  And I was able to let go of things that I didn't wanna do anymore, um, thanks to my husband mostly, um, because it, it was just not necessary.
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  I don't have that insane amount of pressure on me anymore.
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  So again, it's like I said, if you're too much in your masculine energy as a woman, you may have a combination.
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  Of these things going on right now.
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  And when I did a lot of business coaching for women, and now in retrospect I can see it a lot of times it was a, a bunch of things bundled in together that were then creating this vicious cycle where she would have to get more and more and more, uh, into her masculine energy essentially just to survive.
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  And once you get more into the empowered feminine place, which I just did another video on, wounded feminine versus empowered feminine, you don't have to grind.
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  Nearly as much as you used to when you were just more in that masculine energy space.
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  So in your career you might notice, yeah, I'm making a lot of money, but it's coming at a very high cost, uh, either to my body or my sanity or my relationship.
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  Uh, because once you get into the empowered feminine place, you can start manifesting in all areas of your life all at the same time.
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  And that's one of the biggest shifts I've noticed from when I was too much in my masculine energy.
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  Where I could do like one focus area at a time, but I couldn't do everything all at once.
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  And now that I live more in my empowered feminine now, it's seeing manifestations and ease and flow in every single area of my life all at the same time.
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  Uh, which is a huge difference from when I was more in my masculine energy.
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  So I hope you guys found this video helpful in terms of helping you get more clarity in terms of the hidden costs of living way too much in your masculine energy.
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  Share it with a friend, save a sister, like I say, so we can start getting more.
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  Uh, oh my God, I'm in between two languages right now.
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  I'm thinking of the Spanish, uh, more awareness.
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  Uh, around these types of things because a lot of women just don't know either, right?
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  So you have a bunch of, you know, unaware women running around and a bunch of unaware men running around, and that is causing a whole bunch of mess and a whole bunch of confusion.
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  And I do firmly believe, and I've said this before, that once women realize the power that they have in empowered Feminine, we wouldn't have a lot of the issues that we are having in society right now.
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