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My one health nonnegotiable right now · SAY GRACE | Weight Loss + Health for Overwhelmed Women- Stress, Busy, Consistency, Realistic, Motivation, Starting Over, No Restrictions

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  All right, y'all. Welcome back. Today, we're going to talk about my one health
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  non-negotiable right now.
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  And I say right now because it's different than what my one health non-negotiable
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  would have been in the past and maybe even in the future. But for now,
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  this is where I've got to focus. And so we're going to talk about what it is and also why.
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  So if you've been around, you know, during my pregnancy, being 38 and pregnant,
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  I actually was thriving.
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  Like, physically, I felt good. Mentally, everything. I mean,
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  I truly felt so great during my pregnancy.
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  But during that pregnancy, especially towards the end, there were some issues that came up.
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  And so then after having the baby and recovering from delivery...
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  This required exercise to actually have to be my non-negotiable.
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  So with like looking at my day full of newborn life, running my other two,
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  all the places and doing all the things with them.
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  The business, supporting Jess, all of this stuff that I'm also doing,
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  when I think about, okay, what am I going to do for myself today?
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  What am I going to do for my health today?
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  The answer is always exercise right now.
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  Now, I would love to be able to prioritize things like meal prep or cooking
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  healthy things like more often.
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  I mean, there are so many other things in my life that even like mental health
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  type stuff, I would love to be able to like make time for meditating more or
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  taking long uninterrupted walks or whatever for pleasure instead of for fitness.
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  But some days I can, but the bottom line is if I'm having to like compare them
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  all and make a decision, exercise is got to be the answer.
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  And so I'm gonna kind of give you a backstory on why because I was exercising
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  during my pregnancy. I was feeling good, right?
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  But about the third trimester, I started feeling like.
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  Burning burning and numbness in the tops of my feet.
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  And it creeped up my legs. I even started feeling like some carpal tunnel syndrome in my hands.
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  And so all of this, you know, if you if you research it, and I even of course,
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  asked my OB, and it comes with pregnancy, some of this stuff is just like your
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  big belly is pressing on some nerves, and it's supposed to go away after you have the baby.
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  And so I had side echo really bad with my first pregnancy. And so this was nothing new to me, you know?
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  And so I thought, okay, I'm still going to do what I can, but gosh,
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  even towards the end, some of the exercises that I would try to do in pregnancy
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  hurt so bad because of those tender areas that I just mentioned,
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  but still pushed through, still, you know, did my best, had the baby,
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  and it did not go away, okay?
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  I just kind of was waiting on it to go away, and it never did.
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  Now, could I have had better posture those first few weeks after having Evie? A hundred percent.
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  My posture is trash anyway. Like my whole life, my posture has been no good.
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  And then of course, like breastfeeding a baby and holding a baby,
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  you know, I just kind of sat slouched over a lot. And I spent a lot of time on the couch also.
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  You know, all of these things, it's like nothing that I can like fault myself
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  for or be shameful about because my gosh I had just had a baby you know.
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  But it's the reality of the situation so that on top of the fact that I have
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  had a bad back my whole life this is not something I really talk about here because honestly it's,
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  It's not really been a big issue for me, but I've seen a chiropractor in previous years for my back.
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  Even all the way back to high school, like I had, I was a cheerleader and I
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  had to wear a back brace during like, during cheer for a period of time,
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  just because my back was so weak.
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  One of my legs is longer than the other. I have scoliosis. So like all this
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  kind of mingled together puts a lot of extra pressure on my back and a lot of
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  extra strain on my back. So it was like just the perfect storm.
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  You know, I had just had a baby heavy on my belly, obviously wasn't able to
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  do very many core exercises during that time of pregnancy.
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  And then I just had like this, this crappy posture, you know,
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  during pregnancy and after.
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  And so the tingling and the burning did not go away. So I went for my six week checkup with my OB.
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  I told her about all this. She sent me to physical therapy. And so I literally,
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  y'all, my kids were still out for summer.
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  I had this baby with me all the time and I was having to go get.
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  Physical therapy two and three times a week just to start that recovery of this
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  back weakness that was also causing these nerves to stay pinched,
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  and continue the numbing, tingling, burning issues that I was having.
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  And so it was hard. Like, I'm not going to sugarcoat it.
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  I'm not going to like, it was really, really hard to like get to physical therapy,
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  number one, with all this, with kids in tow.
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  And, you know, also I'm just like sleep deprived and hormonal and exhausted
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  and like still bleeding.
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  Like if we're being, you know, transparent here, none of my clothes fit.
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  Like, my gosh, just to get ready to go to physical therapy. I'm like,
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  okay, none of my maternity clothes fit anymore, but none of my old clothes fit
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  yet. You know, it was just, it was a lot for me emotionally.
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  And also obviously worrying about myself. Like, am I going to heal?
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  Is this going to get better? That kind of thing.
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  And so, yeah, I wanted to like do all the other things too for my health, right?
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  Like nobody knows wanting to bounce back the way a postpartum mama does because
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  you just look down and see this skin on your belly and you just kind of feel so yucky, you know?
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  And so, yeah, I wanted to be able to dedicate time to cardio,
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  honestly. Like, I did not want to go do, like, weight-bearing type things.
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  I wanted cardio. I wanted to burn some fat. I wanted to sweat it out.
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  I also wanted to be able to spend more time in the kitchen, like,
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  preparing healthy foods that I could then put in a container to pull out and
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  heat up, you know, all throughout the week when, you know, I did have Evie on my hip all the time.
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  There were just so many other things that I was wanting to prioritize.
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  And like the truth is, I just couldn't.
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  Like we can't hold it all, right? And so I just couldn't.
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  And so the priority had to be exercise. And that's where I've been ever since.
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  So physical therapy and then doing my physical therapy exercises at home as well.
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  And that's always number one. And then if I can fit in something else,
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  I will physically, you know, physically, if I can fit in something else,
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  I will like going to the gym, getting on the elliptical.
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  I've started recently running, doing some other like my, I love this online
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  exercise program called form.
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  If I can do that, I will. but like number one is focusing on that back, right?
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  And so throughout all this, I had to find some time to reflect because it's
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  like, not to like pat myself on the back, but I'm a pretty healthy human being.
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  And during my pregnancy, I can say that I was pretty dang healthy.
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  You know, there were a lot of things I could have not done.
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  And so it was like, oh my gosh, I am pretty healthy And I'm still having these issues.
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  And so then I'm like, okay, what would my physical state have been had I not
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  been exercising during my pregnancy?
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  Had I not been, you know, being mindful of other health habits?
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  Like, where would I be now if I had neglected myself in that way during my pregnancy?
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  Right? That was the first question I asked.
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  And then also I'm thinking, okay, as I'm aging, like this is only going to continue
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  to be the question I ask myself.
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  Like when I am 50 and, you know, who knows like how, what will show up for me or, you know, but,
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  but like, what would it have been like if I had not been exercising and taking
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  care of my body in my 40s, right?
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  Like we're, whether, you know, we cannot stop time. We cannot stop the progression of age.
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  You know, we cannot, you know.
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  But we can support ourselves in the age that we are, in the level of health that we are right now.
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  So we can either show up for ourselves every day the best we can for our health,
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  or we can neglect ourselves 100% for our health, right?
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  And so my mentality is, yes, I'm going to continue to age. Yes,
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  things are going to continue to kind of weaken and break down and whatever.
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  But if I stay active, if I stay doing the things that I,
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  know to do to support myself and to strengthen myself, well,
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  gosh, I will be so thankful for it
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  when I'm when I am 50 and looking back on, you know, my 40s or even truly like looking back on how I,
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  prioritize recovery from having a baby at 38.
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  Right. Like I want to heal my back.
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  I want to regain my strength. But like most importantly, I don't want to be
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  60 years old talking about how my pregnancy at 38
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  is what wrecked my body and why I still have these aches and pains,
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  you know, because of my pregnancy when I was 38, when I'm 60 years old, right?
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  Like I want to be 60 and I want to be thinking about how freaking strong I am,
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  how many health challenges I have prevented by taking this time for myself, right?
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  And how much better off I am because I chose to recover properly and strengthen
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  myself after having a baby at 38. You know, it's like a, it's a mindset switch.
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  And so exercise is just where it's at for me right now. And also like not to
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  mention all that is, you know, fabulous and wonderful and whatever, but yeah.
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  The endorphins that exercise provides for me, the mental break and the mental like positivity state
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  that exercise puts me in, you know, plus like the physical transformation that it does provide,
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  all those things can only support me in the season that I'm in of recovering
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  from a pregnancy at 38, of having a newborn at home, of having two other kids that have
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  way different demands because of their age gaps.
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  Exercise can only support me in having the energy to run this race of being
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  a mother and a business owner and a wife every single day.
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  I just want to talk about how I got to that point.
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  Of deciding, okay, what is my priority?
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  Now, obviously, right, I just explained why exercise has to be my priority,
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  but also don't miss that I explained why I had to lay some other things down, right?
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  If you've been following me on social, I've been talking about how my weight
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  loss after having this baby is a lot slower than it was after I had my second,
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  and this is very much the reason why, right?
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  I had to flip my mindset to gaining strength instead of losing fat after having
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  this baby, which is opposite of what I did after I had my middle daughter.
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  And so a lot of you are right here in this same season, like I am,
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  where it's like, oh my gosh, I've got so much going on. You know,
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  I'm pulled in every direction. Like, I want to focus on my health. I want to get healthier.
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  Like, I wish I could do it all, but I can't find the time. And so just because
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  we can't find the time for everything doesn't mean we should say,
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  well, forget it all. I'm never going to get healthy because I don't have the
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  time to get healthy, right?
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  And so can I even possibly step on some toes and dare to say,
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  like, that sometimes we use this as an excuse to just be lazy.
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  Like, if we can't fully do it, then why even try at all?
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  Versus like, you know, I could have easily said that in this season.
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  Like if I can't fully like exercise and strengthen my back, but also,
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  you know, eat healthy and also meal prep and also X, Y, Z, then like,
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  why am I even, I'm never going to reach my goal of losing this baby weight.
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  So why am I even trying, you know, because the truth is I may not, I may not,
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  I mean, Lord, I pray that I do reach my pre-baby weight, you know,
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  that I was, but like, I'm not going to do it on the timeline that I had expected.
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  Because of this shift in priority.
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  And so why even show up for myself, right? I could easily flip to that mindset.
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  And so, and even, even still, like even still in this current phase where I'm
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  saying exercise is my priority, y'all,
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  if you think I'm still getting like these carved out 30 to 45 minutes of uninterrupted
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  time to work out, you have lost your dang mind.
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  Okay. Because there are things in my day that are demanding of me, right?
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  There are days that I'm keeping Evie home with me.
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  And so that looks like, oh my gosh, I'm going to do 10 minutes here.
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  Then I'm going to stop. I'm going to feed her. I'm going to finish 10 minutes here.
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  And then I'm going to lay her down for a nap, finish 10 minutes here.
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  It's kind of wild. It's kind of mind boggling. You know, there are days that
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  work has taken over my timeline. Like I thought I'd be finished with work and
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  enough time to get to the gym before I had to get the kids.
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  And I wasn't. And so I've had to run in the gym instead of it being a 30 minute
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  session on the elliptical. It's a 15 minute session, right?
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  Or instead of making it to the gym, it's walking a lap or two around my neighborhood,
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  you know, instead of following a full-blown strengthening workout that I've
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  had to have chat, right, me all, oh my God,
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  my physical therapist gave me so many different exercises.
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  And then the pelvic floor therapist gave me so many different exercises that
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  I put them all in chat. And I'm like, can you create me a circuit workout? Yeah.
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  To do every other day, you know, or whatever that incorporates all these different
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  movements and these different target areas, right?
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  And so if some days I can't even get a circuit in that chat has written for
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  me, and he wrote them like 10 to 20 minutes long, you know, so what do I do?
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  I do, I only do one round instead of three rounds, like it calls for,
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  or I only do half of the movements that it's asking me to do.
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  Like I'm definitely not completing workouts daily over here, right?
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  But I am still like my mindset is if I just show up for myself.
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  Golly, if I could just do 20 clamshell exercises today.
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  No, it's not three sets of 20, but it is 20 and that is taking me somewhere.
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  It is better than zero, right?
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  And so I want to talk about how this can look for you, Not necessarily for exercise,
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  that may not be your non-negotiable right now.
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  You know, for some of y'all, it's literally impossible, especially if you're
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  working full time and you don't really have a break to go to the gym or to get
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  a workout in before you have to get the kids or do whatever, right?
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  And so I want you to just really though, moving into, okay, if it's not exercise for me, what can it be?
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  Okay, I want you to really think about your health right now, where you are right now.
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  Not what you did in college. Not what you did before you got married.
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  Not even what you did two years ago that made you feel so great and you were
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  so successful and all that. Y'all, I just had this conversation with my oldest
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  daughter this morning about friendships.
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  We are always moving forward. Life is always changing.
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  Things are always evolving and adapting and moving and shifting.
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  Her friendships from two or three years ago may not be the same friendships
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  that she's going to have today.
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  And that makes her sad sometimes. Like the dynamics of how friendships are changing
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  around her makes her very, very sad.
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  And rightfully so. We can be sad about it, but there's a difference in being
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  sad and then saying, okay, but yeah, things are changing.
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  Let me move on. Let me make some new friends. Let me do this,
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  that and the other. There's a difference in that versus sitting in it and dwelling
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  in it and saying, oh, well, my friend's not the same that they used to be.
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  So I'm just going to sit here and be sad about it and hope that one day she
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  comes back around and starts acting the same or whatever.
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  Those are very different mindsets.
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  One, we are dwelling. We are having a pity party. We are just sitting in the
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  past instead of moving forward.
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  The other, we're moving forward. We're accepting that it sucks.
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  We're accepting that time has changed, but we're still going to move forward
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  in it. Okay. And so I'm talking to you, if this has been your mindset around
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  your health, right? Like,
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  Oh, well, I was able to get to the gym before I had my baby and,
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  you know, and now I have to get home and cook dinner or I was able to,
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  you know, cook healthier dinners when I got home earlier or I was able to,
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  you know, do whatever when my husband was picking up the kids.
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  Like, that's the past.
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  We're in a new season. It is time to move forward. No, you may not be able to
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  make the 5 p.m. boot camp anymore, but what can you do now?
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  Now we are not dwelling on why it sucks because it's not the same anymore.
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  We are thinking about what can I do now?
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  So thinking about your health from that perspective, right? And then the version
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  that you want to be six months from now.
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  Okay. Who do you want to be six months from now? Assuming that your season that
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  you're in is not changing, not changing.
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  We are not waiting on it to change. We are not waiting on it to go back to the way it used to be.
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  You are in the season you were in current present day. who would you like to
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  see yourself be six months from now?
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  Okay, and not like blanket, like empty statements. Like I want to be skinnier
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  or I want to have abs, right? Like that's cool, same, right?
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  But that's not really getting us anywhere past that wish. That's a wish.
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  That's not a goal, right?
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  And so instead, who do you want
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  to be? I want to be the woman who can confidently walk away from deserts.
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  Or I want to be the woman who loves doing core workouts. Or I want to be the
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  woman who cooks healthy meals daily.
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  Or I want to be the woman who meal preps her lunches.
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  Okay, like specifics. What kind of woman do you want to see yourself as in six
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  months? Not, oh, I need to get it together. Like, I hate that statement, right?
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  No, what do you think you have the capacity for? And what would you like to
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  see yourself doing six months from now?
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  And then ask yourself, do you really want that for yourself? Like truly sit in this.
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  Do you really want it? Or are you just saying it because it's something you've always been saying?
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  Or are you saying like, I want to be the person who loves to do core workouts
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  because that's what the internet has told you you should say, right?
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  Or I want to be the person who cooks healthy dinners daily because that's what
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  your doctor has told you you need to do, right?
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  Like, yeah, we need to listen to our doctors, but you also have to have the want to behind it.
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  You have to really be the person you say you want to be.
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  And y'all, sometimes that is not the common phrases or common statements that
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  we hear out in the world, right?
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  Like something like, I want to be the woman who can walk away from desserts.
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  But baby, do you really? Because I don't. I do not.
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  I mean, you may, right? Because the dessert may have a hold on you in a different
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  way than it does me. But like, I'm not walking away from a dessert.
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  So that is not a statement that I'm going to say about myself, right?
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  I do, though, I really, really do want to be the person that loves strength-based exercise.
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  Like, I do want to be that, right? And so that's why I'm continuing to show
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  up for myself in that way.
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  But if it's something, if you find yourself in this exercise that I'm kind of
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  walking you through, if you find yourself repeating the same statements that
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  you've been repeating, like you said the same thing two years ago,
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  like I want to be the person that walks away from desserts or I want to be the
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  mom that cooks healthy dinners.
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  But you were saying it two years ago and you haven't really done anything to
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  make progress in that area. Like, I really encourage you to look at that and
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  say, am I just saying this because it's what I think I need to say?
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  Am I just saying this because it's what the influencers have told me is what's going to get me skinny?
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  Like really thinking about that, right? And so it may take you a little while.
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  Like you may have to, you know, come back and visit the next steps to this another
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  day. But really identifying who do you truly want to be? Who do you truly want
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  to make an effort towards being in the next six months, right?
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  And then identifying one action that you can commit to that actually helps you
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  start becoming her, right?
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  One action. Keep it so, so simple.
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  You should not need a flow chart to accomplish it. You know,
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  like it kills me when we have new clients and they're like, okay,
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  well, I sat down with my Excel sheet and I mapped out every single breakfast,
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  lunch, dinner and snack for myself for the next month.
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  And I'm like, cool, you're going to hate that by next week.
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  And you're definitely not going to complete that activity for the following month, right?
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  Because that just feels so heavy and like so much pressure and so overwhelming.
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  Okay. And so for me in this season, it's like Constance, what is this?
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  What is the one action I can commit to showing up to physical activity at least
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  three to four times a week, period.
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  So again, sometimes that looks like a walk.
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  Sometimes that looks like doing my form activities. Sometimes that looks like,
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  you know, most of the time my priority, like I said, is walking through,
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  those exercises that my physical therapist gave me, you know,
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  but something of the notion of I am moving my body in a way that supports it
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  three to four times a week.
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  That's it. I have not put a time limit on it.
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  You notice I didn't say I'm showing up 30 minutes three to four times a week, right?
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  I have not put a specific, you know, today I'm going to do arms,
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  tomorrow I'm going to do legs. Nope.
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  Can't even get there right now. Honestly, honestly. Like my mind,
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  my brain cannot comprehend that at this season of my life.
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  And so it is just showing up for myself with some sort of movement that supports
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  me three to four times a week, right?
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  And then what do you do? You show up for yourself.
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  You just do it. You do it in the heart. You think about when am I going to be
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  able to accomplish this?
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  You try to show up during those times. If you can't figure out another time to show up, right?
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  Show up for yourself again and again and again for the version of you that you
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  said you truly deep down desire to become, right?
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  And this is something I just want to hit on as we wrap this up.
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  Do not be afraid to change your plan of action if you notice that it isn't working.
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  Okay, do not be afraid of that. I think this is something for me that,
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  yeah, just in this season alone, I told myself, well, I'm going to do my form workouts.
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  I'm also going to go to the gym and get on the elliptical or the treadmill.
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  And I'm also going to do my back strengthening stuff weekly.
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  Like that's what I kind of kept telling myself.
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  And then I would notice like I would get overwhelmed and confused like what am I going to do today?
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  What do I have time to do today? Like I want to try to do two out of the three today.
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  I want you know whatever and so for the longest for the longest really up until
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  like just the past week or two told myself no I'm only either going to the gym
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  and getting on the elliptical.
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  And I did start picking up a little bit of running but I mean I was at the gym
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  the the treadmill was like 10 feet from the left goal, I could choose one or the other, right?
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  Or I am doing my back strengthening exercises, either or.
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  And that sucked for me, honestly, because I love to do these form exercises
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  because they're targeted legs, arms.
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  I love the feeling of getting stronger all over my body.
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  But what I noticed is I would do the form exercises and then not make enough
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  time to do my back exercises and my back has got to be my priority, right?
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  So I had to scale it back even further.
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  I had to narrow it down even further, right? Because again, I was coming back
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  from maternity leave, still getting used to kids, you know, in the shuffle.
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  Evie was home with me sometimes like there just wasn't room for it all.
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  So do not be afraid to change that plan of action even once after you've started
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  it, right? And think about it this way.
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  Like if your mission was, if you said the version of me that I want to be in
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  six months is to be the mother who makes the best chocolate chip cookies ever on the planet, right?
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  If that is who you say you want to be six months from now, you know,
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  same sis, you know, but, but if that's the version, okay.
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  You would probably try more than one recipe before saying it was accomplished, right?
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  You would probably get in that kitchen and try it multiple different ways before
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  you found the one that was like, oh no, this is it.
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  This is the one. This is what's going to stick for me.
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  You know, when they asked me to make chocolate chip cookies from here on,
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  this is how I'm going to show up and do that with this recipe.
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  You would try many recipes before you got it perfectly right,
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  right? So it's the same with this.
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  Like, even though you put a lot of thought into it, a lot of effort into it,
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  it may not work out perfectly the first, second, third, fourth, fifth time, right?
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  So keep showing up.
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  And I'll tell you, y'all, I could come on air and come do this podcast again
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  next month, you know, or the next few months.
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  My exercise schedule or priority habits or whatever may be totally different with it.
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  Like, okay, now I'm really showing up for the treadmill or now I'm really doing
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  my form exercises first or whatever.
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  Like I am still actively trying to figure out as the season evolves,
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  the best time for me to go.
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  Sometimes it's in the morning. Like this morning I went in the morning because
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  Jess needed me to drop the kids off.
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  But yesterday I went in the afternoon before I went to pick the kids up.
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  You know, like it's always changing.
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  And so I'm still trying to figure out that rhythm for myself.
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  But what's not going to change is that exercise is my priority.
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  Exercise, when I think about what am I going to do for myself today,
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  exercise always has to be that number one focus.
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  And then I can figure out if I have time for like a bubble bath or whatever
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  else, you know what I'm saying?
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  And so just know that like, it's always evolving.
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  It's always changing and that's okay too.
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  It doesn't have to stick to, again, you don't have to be the lady with the flow
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  charts and the Excel spreadsheet to get the job done. You know,
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  You just have to be the lady who is saying to herself, I will not quit on myself this time.
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  This is the one thing I'm prioritizing, and I am choosing to show up for it
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  and for myself daily, right? That's it.
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  That's it, okay? And so I just, I wanted to share that with you guys today because
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  it's actually, it's wild because,
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  in my past postpartum, like after I had my first daughter and after I had my
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  second daughter, exercise was actually something that I did not prioritize for
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  a really, really long time.
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  Because again, that time, that time slot, like it was just really hard to get
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  exercise in with a kid on your hip, you know?
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  And so it's been a really big shift for me to figure out how to get it,
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  get it in, in this season, because it is my priority, right?
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  But back then I was able to make more time to put a baby in a bouncer seat and
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  cook some healthier meals, you know?
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  And so again, it's a trade-off. It's a trade-off. You cannot do it all.
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  You literally cannot do it all.
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  And the sooner we realize that and like.
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  Let that, let that, those chains fall from us.
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  The easier than it is to step into the thing you can show up for without the
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  shame and the burden of trying to do it all, sitting on your back.
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  You know, if you, if you say this, this is the one thing I'm going to show up
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  for, it feels so much easier than trying to show up for all the things that
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  you physically and mentally cannot do.
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  So Anyway, as always, y'all, especially in your health priorities, remember to say grace.
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