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Season 2 - Episode 134 - The gifts of Mother’s Day · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop and Happy Mother's Day.
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  So today I thought I would talk about how special moms are
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  because you know what, we've all had a mom one way or another and
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  whether we get along with her or we don't get along with her or
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  whatever status we have with our mom's.
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  We have to look at the fact that their imams and it is such a
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  unique role to be in because often it means you have to be
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  everything often it Is that you have to be the nurturer.
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  You have to be the provider. You have to be the
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  disciplinarian, you have to make choices for the family.
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  And let me tell you, as one of those people who's a mom, it is
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  tough. It's really the toughest role
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  that I've ever had, because you have to think Beyond yourself,
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  and when you don't think Beyond yourself and you're just focused
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  on yourself, there are implications with that and, you
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  know, I'm not talking about the kind of thing of self.
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  Preservation of taking care of yourself so you can take care of
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  them. I'm talking about if you just
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  start making choices that you know.
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  Okay, this is what I want and I don't really care and it's going
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  to really hurt children that has implications for other on.
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  And boy, I'll tell you firsthand.
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  I've made some of those choices when I was young and not bright
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  and had a beautiful little girl and I will tell you it's not
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  that I regret them because they're all part of the fabric
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  of my life. But when I go back and I look at
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  it and Say wow I could have done a different job for sure.
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  We can always go back and we can say, I could have done a
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  different job, maybe I could have done better.
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  It is what it is. Because I did what I did and it
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  all happens for a reason. Yes, absolutely.
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  But at the same time when you, you know, Monday Morning
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  Quarterback it, you look at it. So when you're, when you're that
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  Mom, and you're sitting there and you're doing those things
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  today, give yourself some Grace be grateful for the choices, you
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  have made. Be grateful for where they
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  brought you to and be grateful for all the things that you
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  learned from it. Now, when you're looking at
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  someone else that, you know, if you're looking up and saying,
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  well, my mom wasn't a great mom and Mother's Day really bothers
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  me, well, look at it for the fact that there were gifts and
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  what she gave to you. So like for instance my mother's
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  anxiety is a well-known on this channel.
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  I talk about it often about how anxious she was and how that
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  affected and infected My life with different things, but if it
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  wasn't for her being anxious, I wouldn't be here with you guys.
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  I would be doing something else. I wouldn't be doing, I wouldn't
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  have had this experience with emotions.
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  I wouldn't have been able to go through all of this.
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  Now, when I was little, I didn't like it, I didn't like the
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  feeling of getting in the car and going somewhere with her and
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  never understanding, you know, if she was going to be able to
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  find her way home way before GPS and cell phones.
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  And all of that, I didn't like that she couldn't do certain
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  things because she would get anxious about About it.
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  And it drove me really, really, really insane.
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  When I was little and then to know that I picked up some of
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  those things, you know, I was not proud of them but now I can
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  sit here and I can say to you all these years later, you know,
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  what it was for the best, and I have no resentment towards it
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  because it was part of the fabric.
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  It was, it was one thread of many that made up this beautiful
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  blanket of my life. So, I really want to Press if
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  you can sit today, if you have those situations today is a
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  great day to heal them because it's supposed to be about the
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  mothers. It's supposed to be about that
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  part and you can sit and you can just say, you know what rather
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  than operating from a place of pain, I'm going to choose to
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  operate from a place of learning.
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  I'm going to operate from a place of curiosity.
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  And there are always things that you don't know.
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  I mean I can't begin to express to you.
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  Even in my own family, the Family secret.
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  It's that we find out and the things that we never knew and
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  you know as people get older and they are you know they have more
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  of their life behind them than front of them.
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  They want to start sharing some of those and before you know it
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  you're finding out things that you had no idea and you you
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  can't imagine what it's like to to be in someone else's shoes,
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  not only in their shoes but at a different point in time.
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  So when we go back and I think about what my Grandmother had to
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  go through and living in the 1930s and not having enough
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  money to feed her children and her husband out of work.
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  And her trying to figure out, how can I make money?
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  How can I do something that's going to help our family?
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  How can I be that person? I can only imagine because you
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  got to think it's totally different point in time.
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  There's they don't even have the number of Opera job
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  opportunities that we have. Let alone Own the amount of
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  places to go shop the places for anything it's limited.
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  So when you go back and you start to use your imagination
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  for the greater good. Not for the problem.
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  You start to learn a lot and you can see, wow, okay.
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  I don't know what I didn't know. Just like I don't know what it
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  was like to be my mother living in you know, in the 1950s
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  growing up. I don't know what that's like I
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  can look at historical records but I don't know what it was
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  like. I don't know what Is there were
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  I we want to believe it was the good old days but was it, who
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  knows? So I'm going to say, show up
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  with some Grace, use your imagination, rewrite it and come
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  to a place of Peace if you can. And for those of you who had
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  great mothers and want to celebrate them, you know, the
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  appreciation that you can give to a person, is it just feels so
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  good, when that's the case, when you're on the receiving end of
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  it. So and I know because both my
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  kids have been doing that for the last, you know, couple days
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  because it was my birthday and now you know it's Mother's Day
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  and I can just say it is a gift. So if you're planning to do
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  something, make it special, say the words make someone feel
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  illuminated. Go in illuminate.
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  Someone today have something. Really special and just say it
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  from the heart. So I hope you have a blessed
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  day, my friends and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.