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Episode #201: Genuine Laughter vs. Avoidance · Tea Time w/Amie & Bev

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I welcome to tea time with Amy and Bev. Hello, Hello, top
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of the Day, to you half of the day. I love it.
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Oh my gosh. So yes. So just before I hit the button to
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record, I was like cracking myself up, which I do all the time,
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and I've gotten to where I don't even care if other people are in
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the room. I mean, like, this is going out on social media,
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and this is going to go out into the world once the recording is
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posted, and it's like if people will be in the room and I'll do
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or say something and I start laughing and I'm just like, Okay, I'm
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cracking myself up. So that is something new for myself in recent time,
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not like just today, It's been happening for a while. And uh,
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definitely not something I would have done in my past. So just saying that
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because having that introverted background, we don't you know, we don't want attention
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and to laugh at nothing and people all eyes on on you, like what
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dollars your problem? Wouldn't something I would do in the past. But I
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just wanted to point that out. I mean, we roll with that,
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that's fine. I had something else to chat about. But whatever your input
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is BEV, how are you today. I'm doing good. No, it's
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awesome. I think about that kind of stuff because it's it is. I
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am more in the same space too, And I don't know if more people
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are noticing that. You're just more light about stuff. Although when the heavy
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days are here, the heavy days are here, right, and it doesn't
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last as long. You kind of look at it a little bit and like
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you just said, you just kind of laugh it off a lot. It's
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like there's not and it's not laughing it off like you're trying to push it
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aside. It's just like it's not that big of a deal exactly at all.
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Because laughter some people do use laughter as a coping mechanism. It's a
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I used to abstraction, right. You remember, like we would have a
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group when you gosh, it was very very we didn't we weren't even do
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the recordings yet. And I remember we were in a big, huge group.
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It was our first location that we were working together in that under that
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group and we were all sitting there and then someone started to get emotional and
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what do I automatically do? I was automatically, let'st I'm going to start
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making them laugh. I'm going to get them to laugh and to get through
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this so they don't have to feel this. Oh my god. The first
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thing is I'm telling you this, and the first thing that popped in my
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mind is my mom used to make us laugh. She would get us laughing
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before we got our shots, our vaccinations, so she would have us laughing.
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And that's just, all of a sudden, what hit my mind.
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And it's like, that's a way. That was a way of really kind
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of pushing your own emotions and feelings aside, like trying to ignore that it
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hurts. Right, We're not, it's not. We weren't even paying attention
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to that, but it's not. Her intentions were great for it, but
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it's just that's what kind of came forward. So I always would try to
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make people laugh. Always I would try to change the mood or change the
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mood. So I didn't want to do anything in that. And I remember
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you. You said something to me and said we need to allow this emotional
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You kind of got on me, and of course I got When I say
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you got on me, I felt like the little child being chastised at the
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time. And now look reflecting, it's true you know there's a time for
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the laughter, but there's a time for us to just deal with these emotions
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as were going through it. And I wasn't in a space to deal with
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emotions. So the way that I dealt with anything was just laughing. That
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was it. And I had recently. I had that when I had that
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event on February tenth, and I had a exercise where two people pair up
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and it plays some song and all they have to do is sit there and
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make eye contact. And I think you've done this with in some of my
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workshops, just sit there and make eye contact. And two people who paired
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up pretty much laughed the entire time. Now I know what's happening. Yeah,
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I think they're having a good time, which is all cool. You
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know, they're keeping it lighthearted for themselves. But I also know that's avoidance
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that they're avoiding being seen and they're avoiding feeling that discomfort of somebody seeing them.
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And it's really that and they're like, strange, it was the first
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time they met in this room. And what we think in our head when
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because I know it to be true, because I've done this exercise many times
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myself is in the beginning in the very beginning, when you're sitting in front
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of somebody and you have all that emotional heaviness and baggage in you, and
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you're just beating yourself up, and you're living in that victim, victim to
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your circumstances and all the things right, all the stories have been telling yourselves,
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and somebody is just making eye contact with you, And what plays in
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my head is, oh, my gosh, what if they knew who I
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were? Was? What if they knew all the things I've done? What
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if they knew my story? What if you know? And so as all
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that's playing and somebody is just sitting there making eye contact, and all that
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emotion is coming up, all that heaviness is coming up, right, it's
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uncomfortable. It sucks. But the truth is this person don't know shit about
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you. They don't know nothing about you. All they know is they're supposed
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to sit there and make eye contact with you. And guess what, they're
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probably not even thinking about you because they're thinking the same dang thing in their
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own body. Oh my gosh, if they only knew my story and my
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history and the things I've said and done and the people I've heard, Right,
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it's not it's really not that those words are actually going through your head.
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It's the energy of the emotion that's stored in the body that's coming up
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that's really uncomfortable, which equates to all of that stuff I just said.
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And to be seen. A lot of people are not seen. Like being
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an introvert, you didn't want to be seen. You don't want anybody looking
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at you, and especially to sit there with a stranger and make eye contact
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with them. No, no, thank you. But I did it.
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And it was way out of my comfort zone and it really sucked, but
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I did it. And then the sharing piece afterwards was like things like,
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man, I just saw how beautiful her eyes were. I just saw how
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beautiful her skin is. Or I just saw this broken this person who feels
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like they're broken and I feel the same way, right, and all these
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things that resonate with each other and making this connection, and all you had
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to do is sit there and look at each other. That is the entire
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exercise. But when people do not want to feel that, they don't want
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to feel their own discomfort, or if somebody is sitting there because they are
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being seen for the first time and they're bawling their eyes out, and I'm
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sitting there and it's making me uncomfortable because they're crying and I don't know what
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to do. I don't know them. I'm not gonna touch them, so
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I'm gonna make them laugh so that we both can feel better. Right,
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So it's the distraction's distract from my own discomfort, and the people please or
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the fixer to fix them so they're not in their discomfort, because then I
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definitely won't be in mind. Right. So distraction, avoidance, fixer,
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it's the whole package. And that's exactly what these two ladies did in during
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that exercise. I totally get it, and I do tostand it. I
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have so much benefit from that, Yeah, because there was a time that
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I couldn't even just for me to even be sitting here, like I look
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at you in the eyes when I'm talking to you, doesn't mean that we're
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actually seeing eye to eye because of the way videos, the way that records
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and everything like that. But it's like a natural thing. Once you get
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past that part of it, it's like a it doesn't make sense to me
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that we ever disconnected in the first place, because that is a disconnections.
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You're just connected and staying inside the story and not allowing yourself that freedom of
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being connected to others. And then when these emotions come up, it's like
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asking ourselves, you know, questions if you don't know what to do with
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it. It's like, oh, I'm feeling all these emotions right now,
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I don't know what to do with this, And it's just going from there
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and then seeing what comes forward. You don't have to automatically have the answers,
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although I believe the answers automatically come in. It's just a matter where
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we're at as far as receiving or listening. There's so much to be said
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by doing that practice because you've done it and it's I've seen how it changes
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the room of separation to a room of total connection. Like people are all
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connected. They see how they're connected, which is awesome. But at the
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same time, if you're familiar with your energy, even if you've ever done
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this exercise before, if you're familiar with your energy, to sit across that
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other person is an opportunity for you to flex the intuition muscle, right It's
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for you to notice what are all the feelings and emotions that I'm feeling right
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now because I know my feelings and emotions. And now I'm sitting across someone
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and I have an opportunity, and I'm looking into their eyes, looking into
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their soul, and what am I feeling right now from this person? And
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am I and then from that layer? Am I feeling from this person's physical
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or am I feeling from this person's soul? Because there's two there's different ways
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for us to connect. So I can connect with the energy of it,
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or I can go deeper, you know, I can stay with the surface
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or I can go deeper. Deeper to me means the soul, right it's
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I'm just looking past the surface, although I don't think it's really there is
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no difference in depth or anything like that, but it's just respectively here in
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our human being. This that's how it feels. So it's everything's an opportunity
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and it's just how we want to look at it. Of course, when
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we're in victim or any of those other things, we're not we're feeling those
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emotions. And again it goes back to even if you don't know what to
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do with it, asking I don't know what to do with this I don't
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know what's the best way to process this. So I don't have to feel
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this way anymore. I want to feel good. So looking at those emotions,
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feeling those emotions and just see what kind of comes forward for you.
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Well even so, you know how many people actually look at them look in
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their eyes in the mirror, Yeah, they don't. I know. I
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didn't. I didn't do it until I learned Louise Hayes's mirror work, and
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then I hated her. I did it, but I didn't like her.
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I didn't like Louise. I'm like, oh, I do this, but
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I did it anyway. I'm so glad I did. But to actually look
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into my own eyes in the mirror, I was so so hard. It
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was so hard because I didn't like me. I didn't like the choices and
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decisions I made. I didn't like the experiences I had because I didn't have
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a voice to stand up for myself. I didn't like, you know,
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the things that happened to me. I didn't like, you know, nobody
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like, nobody cared. Like all the stories and I don't need to say
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all of them because everybody knows the stories. And then to stand there and
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look in the mirror into my own eyes. That was frightening. So just
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note people, we don't look. Majority of the population does not take a
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minute to look into their own eyes. They look at the hair, they
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look at the makeup, they look make sure the clothes look good, and
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the jewelry, and hou's my butt look in these jeans? And that's that
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right, and off we go. You stand there in front of a mirror
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in the bathroom. How many times wash in your hands. Do you ever
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look at yourself in the eyes? Probably not. You look at your hair,
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you look at your makeup, and you make sure your clothes are on
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straight. You do not look at yourself in your eyes. And I and
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I know this to be true. I did it for many, many,
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many years until I learned to stop and look see myself, see myself,
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and really just acknowledging how amazing you are, because because because of all the
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things you've been through, because of all those sucky decisions you made, because
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of all of it, Look how far you come and how much how much
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you've been through. So you know, turning those the way you're seeing yourself,
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the perspective of yourself from I suck to wow. I made it this
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far. That's pretty cool, right, pull it crap and I I'll speak
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for you too. But to make it this far and be in more of
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joy and love that in itself is I mean, I shared this last time
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that just to stand and think about my life right now, I'm just like,
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I'm amazed by it. And so it's pretty cool. It is pretty
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cool, you know. It's and all that being said, it's really just
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taking time for yourself. It's taking the time when you're putting on that makeup
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stuffer or if you don't put on makeup in your gentleman or if you do
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put on makeup and you're a gentleman, doesn't matter. But if you're in
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front of the mirror, like take the second to look at yourself in the
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eyes, take a second and tell yourself that you love you, that you're
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amazing. Because when you're looking in your eyes, you're looking into your soul
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and you're there's amazingness there. So if you can sit there and call yourself
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all kinds of ugliness, okay, there's something to work on. It's funny
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because we talk about some of the stuff and it feels foreign when I think
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about sitting across from someone looking in the eyes, and I'm like neutral.
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My shoulders just kind of came up and went down. It's like neutral,
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I don't have any of the motions before that I had, right, it
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doesn't even it doesn't even feel it feels I mean, neutral is the best
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way to say it. But it's like it doesn't even feel real anymore.
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And it's recognizing that there's so many times that I and this is how I
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know that I was really so focused on everybody else from my perspective that when
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I try to think about what did I look like back then, or what
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did I whatever, I can't for the I couldn't create it, or even
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if I wanted to create what I want in my mind, I would struggle
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with visualized. And I'll say that I wanted to make more muscular legs,
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and I would struggle with that visualization because I wasn't there right which is such
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a huge gauge letting me know really where I'm at right now, that I
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haven't really built up enough of my menu to see what I do want and
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what I don't want. So it's like it's all the stuff that if we
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just look at it, it's just we're on this journey and it's amazing.
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I was talking to Freeman the other day talking about going into the energies in
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town because we live outside of town, so we're the energy that's around us
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is pretty easy going flow, you know, there's just not a lot of
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distraction or stuck out out there where we're at. And he says, well,
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it took him a while, but he and then he finally told me.
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He says, the thing is, when I go into town, if
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you recognize the energy is not good or bad. So if you go there
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with the knowledge that all this energy is coming to you, so it's almost
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like setting your attention right that it's going to fill up your cup because all
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this energy coming to you can feel like that. And that would now that
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I'm saying that would say I was still flexing my victim muscle really to go
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on the go in the town and it'll be so heavy and the you know,
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all this other stuff and putting all this energy, giving away power to
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something that's not even true. It is true because I put it in my
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experience and that's where I put my power to. But bringing that power back
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to me and then recognizing I don't have to walk around in that space.
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It's that's totally up to me. But it's like if I can recognize that
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every time I go into town, I'm just filling up my cup. This
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morning, I'm having my I like to miss like cacao, and there's a
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bunch of other like honey, our local honey and stuff like that. It
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makes it taste like a hot coca without being hot coca because I don't do
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the capping stuff. But I'm drinking this and before I'm putting my hands on
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it, and I'm like, this is like a cup of love. This
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is the cup of peace and joy right here in this cuff. Every sip
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that I take, and it's all these little things. It's playful, right.
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We're creating all the time. It's like, what do you want to
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create? We talked about this on our last recording. I'm focusing on how
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did if I'm the person that I am now, if I was that mom
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to my daughters when they first came into this world. It's totally different because
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I'm in a different space. I've gotten to I've gotten to become soft,
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softer. I listened to a person, a lady yesterday, and she said
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that she had found this she has her man helped her become soft, helped
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her become recognize that she didn't have to be the warrior, and helped her
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to just step more into peace and not have to feel like you have to
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do all the time, like all these things. And she said it's made
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her softer. It's allowed her to be softer, And that's to me,
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that's huge because when more soft like that, we're more tender and we're more
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vulnerable, but we're more open to receiving or more open to all the energies
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that are out there. And I'm not saying it's like I just said a
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few minutes ago. Freiman said, it's not good or bad, and I've
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heard that numerous times. It's not good or bad, it's how do I
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want to utilize this energy. I used to always tell everybody, Smoky courts,
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harryous smoking coorts on you, because it's going to transmute all the negative
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energy coming towards you or around you into positive, usable energy. Well,
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that's utilizing something else. And it was funny because I had just told someone
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that same story that day, and then that evening Freeman is telling me his
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story about how he goes into town and he just sets it sets his intentions
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that I'm like, you just can't. The stuff can't be made up like
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it's it's it's parallels, and it's making sure that I understand what's being taught
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to me. Really, that's how it feels. It feels like I'm on
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this journey, but the soft I get, I'm allowing that information to come
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in instead of feeling I have to defend myself. I have to always protect
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myself. It's me against the world, which separates us from everybody, and
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you don't want to listen because you're always prepared for that fight or flight.
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So it's life is difference. It's it's totally different. And so now I
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go back. We can call it fantasy, we can call it creativity,
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we can call it our imagination, daydreaming, whatever you want to call it.
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But I'm going back into those spaces and I'm sending so much love to
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my kids, even if it never made it to them and it only made
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me feel better. What difference does it make. It doesn't make a difference.
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But I've seen the opposite of that. I've seen it how it's benefited
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my kids just by doing that, and I tell people all the time,
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we don't have to go and say something. People get so wrapped up in
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this whole doing thing that we got to go do something. And you taught
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me a long time ago. If you're having a struggle with someone, if
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you're missing someone, and whether they're departed or they're in you know, maybe
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they're across the world, go into meditation and go to your whatever your beautiful
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looks like, and then bring them into that space with you and have the
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conversations that you want to have. We've been taught to be so disempowered,
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and here we are having these conversations to help empower. We want people to
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recognize that the your energy is your responsibility. It's not up to anybody else,
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because if it's up to someone else, then you just throw yourself out
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there on whatever roller coaster you're willing to write on at that moment and just
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take in whatever you want to. And I would say there's nothing wrong with
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that either, because that's a learning experience. But at some point it wasn't
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enough for me. I needed something more. I wanted to have a better
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understanding. I wanted more peace. I don't want to be in that space
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of struggle anymore, not even recognizing that. I spent a lot of time
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in there already, so I'm very familiar with it. So it's being on
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the opposite side of things, and one thing leads to the other. All
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of it, it's all synchronistic. I feel like when you were saying that
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you're setting your attentions for your kids and maybe they never re even I was
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like, what came to my head kind of a cartoon type of thing,
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was was, these intentions are going to your kids, right, you're setting
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the intentions. They're going to them, but they're not in a good space,
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so it stops. And then in those moments when when when it's uh
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an opportunity for that intention to get them, like smacking them in the heads,
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just waiting, waiting, wait, okay God, And you say that,
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and then I see like all the shields up on the ship or whatever,
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and all of a sudden, the shields go down. It's like you're
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bombarded with all this amazingness, right, so keep doing it back. They're
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getting it. They're getting it. And that's why to say so funny because
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you said I sit there with my little my cup of love, I actually
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bought during Valentine's Day, I bought a cup that says cup of Love is
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at my on my desk at work. That's awesome. I love it.
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But see that's the stuff you can We just can't make it up. And
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here we're having the conversation because there's real of It's like the universe is saying,
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I'm listening to you, I'm watching you, I'm with you here all
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the time. I got your back. Yeah for sure, yep. I
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was contemplatd and when you were talking about you know, talking about stones and
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stuff like setting our setting. Okay, so I'm just processing this out loud
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because it's just coming up for me, and so I'm open to india input
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that when I started this journey and learning about all the things, all the
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tools and stuff, and I carried stones with me every day like that was
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my lifeline. Right, Well, if I have these, everything's going to
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be good. And then I just says you were talking about the smoky courts
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and stuff. I'm like, we are we putting our power into something outside
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of ourselves and thinking that because if I have this, just like what I
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said, as long as I have this in my I'm gonna be okay or
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and to me as I say that, it's like I'm not trusting myself to
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be okay. I'm not. I don't feel empowered enough to feel like I'm
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okay. And so that would be similar to leaning on somebody else's strength so
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you can be strong. But really, when you get into that space of
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it's all in me already, like I already have all this power in me
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setting my intentions, that's powerful. That is energy that you're putting, like
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I've been utilizing that. How can my life get even better? And things
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have just been happening and I'm like, this is so cool and it just
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like all these things just keep unfolding and turning out so amazing. And I
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haven't been carrying I haven't been carrying stones. I you know, when I
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teach, I usually wear my little crystals Qurts stone bracelet that's got a little
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angel wing on it, like I always wear that to my classes. I
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haven't been wearing that. I haven't been carrying stones on me. And I'm
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like, I'm good, Like I feel it like more in my power,
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Like it's about my intentions and what my energy puts out. And I watch
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it because I know how I'm feeling, and when when I'm not in a
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higher vibration with myself, it shows up in other people, and I'm recognizing
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how it shows up in me. And when I am feeling a little more
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high vibrational, it shows up in other people, and I recognize how it
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shows up in me. So, so, what what do you have to
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say about that? Because I was just processing that, I'm like, hmm,
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that interesting because I've had a lot of conversations with people about carrying stones.
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If we look at it, for me, I would look at it
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as a gauge because that's where I was at the time, right. And
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I don't mean to make light of religion or crystals learning that stuff, but
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it's to me, it's like people sometimes need the religion to get from point
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A to point B, and for me, I needed to I needed the
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crystal, you know, because and I do agree with you. I tell
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people it's outside of stelf, but at the time it was my crutch,
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right, I needed that, or you know what I mean, it was
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someone something to lean on. I needed that. I still wear this one
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that's my daughter made it and it's got pins and greens and it just makes
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me think of the heart chakra. So I love it, but I don't.
24:45
I was the same. I wore wore all the crystals and all this
24:48
stuff, and I also would tell you you could hold on to any crystal.
24:53
And I remember, I'd go there's a certain website I would go to,
24:56
or what it was right now because I haven't done it for years.
24:59
But I would get up, get that new crystal that I have, and
25:00
I'd sit and read all the stuff that was the benefits of it, not
25:03
realizing I'm putting my intentions into it. Right, So it's just another form
25:07
of a shield or whatever. It's like boundaries. We create boundaries because that
25:12
means we're at a space where we're not able to tolerate something, so we
25:17
create a boundary. It's where we can tolerate. And then once we get
25:18
a little bit higher in our frequency, or we get into a neutral place,
25:22
let's not even call it a higher frequency, then we're not affected by
25:26
these things in the boundaries. It doesn't matter because things will always just fall
25:30
into the right divine place. It always is on the other side of all
25:34
that stuff. Without even utilizing the crystals because I don't use them like I
25:38
used to at all. I mean, I just don't. I have them
25:41
in my house and it's like they're cool. I love going out and looking
25:45
for new stones and stuff like that. It's fun because it gets me outside,
25:48
right, But it's not the same thing. And I do realize I
25:51
have this power with inside of me. But gosh, there's nothing wrong with
25:55
carrying them around, right because we didn't at the time. Like I said,
25:59
it's like it's like having healthy boundaries, or like having that crutter,
26:02
or or it's just like us setting our intention. Oh, I'm putting these
26:04
crystals on today because this protect me from this I know I'm gonna be up
26:07
against this person to day or whatever. You know, you're preparing but not
26:11
even realizing the whole time you're setting intentions, and then you realize after a
26:15
while, those training wheels kind of fly off, right, you don't even
26:18
need them anymore. And that's what it felt like, is training wheels on
26:19
this new journey. Didn't know where I was going, but it was something
26:22
tangible that we could hold onto, right. It was something that we could
26:26
physically hold on to until we realized, I don't need to hold on to
26:30
anything physical because we're connected it's so easy to look at everybody. I tell
26:34
people this a whole time. It's so easy to look at all of us
26:37
sitting there in these separate individuals, these little compartments, and these bodies that
26:41
we're in and not recognize if you choose not to not recognize how much we're
26:45
touching each other outside of this physical body, how our energies are. They're
26:51
together the whole time, they're co mingling, there's there is no separation.
26:53
So it's like all of this leads into the next part of the journey.
26:57
And for me, that's why I say it kind of just lets me know
27:00
that's where I was at that time. So when I talk to people and
27:03
they say, oh, they're gravitating towards crystals and stuff, I think it's
27:07
cool because I can kind of get a gauge where they're kind of coming from
27:11
right now, where they're at right now. And then that's the opportunity,
27:14
like we're talking right now, that we're presenting. Oh, but you don't
27:17
need to put those, you don't need to have those. You can hold
27:18
onto that cup, you could put that, You could grab that shirt and
27:21
be like, oh my god, this shirt today is going to make me
27:23
feel amazing. It's your intentions taking the time for yourself because you love yourself,
27:29
to take the time because you want to have that piece in that space,
27:32
because you love yourself and you love everybody around you, and how can
27:34
you give them anything more than what you're giving yourself. So I have to
27:38
give myself more. So the more that I fill my cup up when I
27:41
take that time to look at myself in the eyes and to put love into
27:45
the drinks that I'm drinking, or even to take my plastic jug that we
27:48
can be so worried about because the plastic can be so harmful. If you
27:51
want to go getwn that route, you can, or you can just right
27:52
on there love because love cures all and it's not going to harm you.
27:57
It's not when you put love on you're not going to drink that from that
28:00
plastic bottle and receive harm. You're going to receive love. So it's our
28:04
intentions, right, it's just taking the time to love ourselves and do these
28:08
things every day. That's taking time for yourself. We don't have to take
28:12
a freaking vacation every couple of days and go take some time to ourselves,
28:17
our time to ourselves are these little little nuggets that we can do all throughout
28:21
the day. And now we're just feeding this energy and then we're just like
28:25
you said, when you're in a high vibration now or when you're you know,
28:27
flying and you're feeling great, it's being mirrored to you out in your
28:32
experiences, and it's also highlighting what's already inside of you. And when you
28:34
acknowledge that and you appreciate it, you just freaking grow it bigger and bigger,
28:38
bigger, and next thing you know, you're the goo ball I would
28:41
have called the goo fall once upon a time that walks around that's excited and
28:45
happy in light and what the hell is their problem? Why are they so
28:48
freaking happy all the time? And now I've I've crossed the line of god,
28:52
dang, it's but I've crossed over to the other side, so to
28:56
speak, because I'm not in that same space anymore. And you would never
28:57
have caught any of my behavior like this is not this was not me then,
29:03
but this is me, This is me minus all the other things that
29:07
I decided to take plain to in my experience. Yeah. Well, and
29:14
what came up too is because I, as you were, talking. I
29:18
was thinking back when I did carry the stones in my pocket, because I
29:22
I will put my hands in my pockets a lot, and when I feel
29:26
those stones, I'm like, oh, it's a reminder. And it's just
29:30
like when you you have that knickknack that you bought when you went to you
29:36
know, the the parks or whatever. You know, you went and did
29:41
some family trip and you got a souvenir that when you look at it,
29:45
it reminded you. But when you're going about your day, that memory wasn't
29:52
in your brain all day. You weren't consciously thinking about it all day.
29:56
You looked at the knickknack, you you were reminded of that moment and of
30:00
joy with whatever you were doing, but then off you went with the rest
30:03
of your day and you get caught up in your day. So the same
30:07
thing with the stones. When I put my hands in my pockets, it
30:08
was like, oh, yeah, these stones represent and I'm okay, and
30:14
I'm grounded and and you know, the angels are with me or whatever I
30:18
was thinking about. And so every time I put my hands in my pocket,
30:22
it was a reminder. And I think that's awesome. Yeah, I
30:26
think that's similar to you know, in the beginning of working with archangels,
30:32
was calling an archangel Michael several times a day as a reminder. Right,
30:37
but once once you're like more in your power, it's a knowing it's already
30:45
done. They're already here. And so the power, yeah, resides within
30:52
yourself. And that also the reminder that every thing that is good is within
31:00
me. Opposite is true as well. I've lived that life as well.
31:07
Right, that was that was the other person in my life. That was
31:11
me, but the other person. But all that is good is in me,
31:18
and it's up to me to be in that that vibrational frequency to match
31:22
up to it. And that's my job. And so yeah, the more
31:26
I'm in my joy, the more and the more I'm giving my brain something
31:30
to focus on as far as great because we've talked about this that your your
31:34
brain is a problem solver and it needs a problem to solve. And the
31:40
thing is, if I just had this conversation with the coaching session just before
31:44
this, before we did teach time, was we create We're really good at
31:48
creating shitty problems to solve. We're really really good at that. But when
31:55
I'm when I'm now going how much better can my life get? How much
31:59
how how how much more fun can it get? That means it already is?
32:04
But how much more? But can I can I receive? How much
32:07
more is there for me to enjoy? Now? My brain's like, oh,
32:14
oh, this is what we're working. This is the problem. You
32:15
need more goodness. Okay, let's find it, right, And that just
32:20
sounds so much more fun to me. So now I'm giving my brain that
32:23
that thing to work on. Okay, look for all the things that is
32:30
affirming that my life is even better and all that goodness is already here,
32:36
It's already around me. I need to see it. My brain needs to
32:40
see it or find it so my eyes can see it and so I can
32:45
acknowledge it. But I gotta do the work. Yeah, mean you're saying
32:53
all that step in what flashed on my mind. Remember we were talking a
32:57
couple of weeks back about the rubber bands on the wrist and snap them,
33:00
Yeah, like to get your attention. Likes to me that that's not helpful.
33:07
But when you said you stuck your hands in your pocket and you can
33:09
fill those that helps you with being right, That helps you with being present
33:14
right now if you think about that, when you snap your wrists with that
33:16
rubber band, it helps you to snaps, you smack your face, got
33:21
to your attention. You're present right this moment, you know what I mean.
33:23
And to me, that just does show it's another gauge of like,
33:27
which tool are you using to get you present? And it's awesome that you
33:30
said you would stick your hand in there, because that's to me, that's
33:32
the like you said, it was a reminder and and people could still utilize
33:37
that as a tool right now while you need it, Just like having those
33:39
boundaries while you need them, because after a while, you won't even you
33:44
don't need I don't I don't need to set boundaries like I set boundaries before.
33:47
I don't get all sideways. I have gotten sideways. I have a
33:51
I have a friend that's pretty close to me. She can freaking trigger me
33:54
being good sometimes I'm telling you and it's like I have to stop and think,
33:59
like and we'll be having conversations and I'm like I can catch myself all
34:02
of a sudden, like I don't know, this looks like Wiley coyote just
34:08
before he got hit by the train or something like that. But that's how
34:12
it what it reminds me of. But it's like, yeah, so she
34:15
will say things and it's like I catch myself. But when I'm having that
34:17
opportunity, I walk through it to see how things fill and then I go
34:23
through the process of, you know, asking myself questions, making sure I'm
34:28
present. Am I grounded right now? It was funny. I watched one
34:30
of my clients left the other day and she's, you know, for the
34:34
last couple of years, she's been falling over. She's had some medical issues
34:37
and stuff. But I told her what I told her as she was leaving.
34:40
I was like, they're spending way too much time in your head and
34:43
I and it reminds me of those little onesies, the zippers onesies that you
34:47
put your feet into. I said, you're so far up here that your
34:50
feet aren't even down on the ends of your onesies, of your little suits.
34:54
I said, So you've got to get out there. It's up to
34:57
you but to get grounded, and that's going to help you with your stability
35:00
and not feeling like you're But she was caught, you know, she had
35:04
gotten sideways with family stuff with one of her daughter or whatever, and so
35:09
that had that's been a struggle for her. But it was just recognizing all
35:14
these things and all that stuff. When we recognize that, that means we're
35:16
being we're present right now, we're being aware. And then when you recognize
35:22
those things and I recognize, oh, maybe I should be making sure that
35:24
I'm grounded right now, or I need to make sure that I'm not,
35:29
you know, it's just it's a check in time. Life is so different
35:34
when you go through this process, and that's kind of what we're telling you.
35:37
There's so many different stages of it, and we've gone through so much
35:39
stuff. Like initially it was setting the boundaries, and then for me,
35:43
I carried the crystals for a long time because it was for that that one
35:46
moment that I walked into the first time I'd ever been into a New Age
35:49
store that I knew that I had been into a new Age store, and
35:52
I'm holding onto the cell night tower, and I felt hired in the kite,
35:54
like higher than I could ever have possibly been from smoke a pot or
35:59
anything that i'd I've ever tried. I felt high and giddy and giggly and
36:04
you know, just bouncing off the walls and everything was thrilling and exciting,
36:08
and that's awesome. But I feel like life can be like that a lot
36:12
more frequently, and I just got a taste of it in a space in
36:15
my mind space. I was not in a great place, but it was.
36:20
Man, it just was that opportunity for that to come in and show
36:22
me there was something more. So that's why I say, don't discount things
36:27
if you want to. If you go buy a store and you want to
36:29
go check it out, go check it out. If you feel a poling,
36:31
go check it out. Like, don't just drive by all the time
36:35
and put yourself off all the time when you're when inside of you is like,
36:37
hey, we should go check out that store. I'm saying that out
36:40
loud to this advantage for me to the store downtown, But I've been being
36:44
told over and over and over and over again to go check it out and
36:46
haven't gone in to this downtown. It's not on my path that I typically
36:52
go each day, so I will. But it's just interesting because there's so
36:58
much to experience, and there's the reason of our being pulled in directions and
37:02
sometimes it's just to even bump in. You've had the occasions numerous walking going
37:07
into the pizza place, going into the grocery store, running into someone you
37:10
haven't seen for years, didn't want to go maybe, but then you're like,
37:15
oh, we'll just stop right here and get this taken care of it.
37:16
And there was a reason that you just stopped right there. So it's
37:20
like all these things that we're talking about. I feel like that we're talking
37:23
about today is just being present. It's being aware. It's looking at yourself
37:28
in the face. It's taking the time for you because you can't expect everybody
37:32
else to take the time for you if you don't even take this time for
37:35
yourself. Yeah, that's fact. There was a lot. There was a
37:44
lot in our conversation, and I think it's a lot of valuable stuff for
37:47
people to have to work with and have a foundation to get started and to
37:54
keep moving forward. If you're already practicing a lot of things that we're talking
37:58
about, keep doing it because it's witch need for now. And Bev and
38:00
I've been there, like we did what we needed to do for now until
38:06
we we uh progressed, right. It's not that we're better than anybody else,
38:13
it's just we've we've done a lot of work on ourselves and more and
38:17
more feeling more empowered in ourselves, and then we're not. We're leaning in
38:25
on our own confidence and strength and self worth. That that that I don't
38:31
need the stones in my pockets all the time. Put it that way.
38:35
I don't. I don't. I have stones all around me as I sit
38:38
in here, and I love them. I think they're beautiful and there they
38:42
are. They have many benefits. At the same time, it's not a
38:47
tool that I feel like I need on my person all the time. If
38:52
I know I'm going into like a heavy maybe a something that might be heavy,
38:58
or I'm going through something heavy, you dang right, I put something
39:02
in my pocket. I put a stone in my pocket and maybe both pockets,
39:06
and many multiple stones in my pockets because I need that reminder. I
39:12
mean, it's easy, it's easy to do things when life is good.
39:15
Yeah, but we still face adversity, and in those moments of adversity,
39:21
leaning on those tools it helps, and it's it's still something I do use.
39:28
I just don't use it as often because things are so good. Yeah,
39:36
my house is full of stones. I've got them. I've got them
39:37
all over my room. I mean the whole house is I've got a base.
39:42
I've got bases. I've got bases that are huge, that are full
39:45
of stones, Like there's a lot of stones. There's a less but you're
39:52
right, but it's one hundred percent and it is a good reminder. And
39:54
what's what what best reminders could you possibly have? Right? If you put
39:59
on that bracelet me, I know you're going to be in a space where
40:01
your hand goes up and it catches your eye and it's like it reminds you
40:05
you got that one little moment, oh, taking a breast, You got
40:07
this. It's a piece of cake, even though you had it all along,
40:10
right, but it was just a reminder. It brought you to present.
40:13
And that's that's how these tools work. That's what's so wonderful about them.
40:17
And I just want to say, you know, you're always telling me
40:20
how thankful you are for me and how much you appreciate me. I just
40:23
want you to know how thankful I am for you, because if we wouldn't
40:28
be on this journey, if you hadn't, it would never have happened.
40:31
I wouldn't be here, I wouldn't even be where I'm at. I'm in
40:35
such a space of joy now. And I know that I've had numerous people
40:38
that have been in my life that have been orchestrated to be there for this
40:43
growth. So thank you for being in my life. Thank you. I
40:45
received that. Thank you so much. It's been an honor to be on
40:49
the journey with you because so we have so many similarities and so I seeing
40:57
you know, it's amazing is to be able to weld please, to see
41:06
the greatness in somebody because somebody saw the greatness in me, that's awesome.
41:15
I get to do that for others. So yeah, so we thank you.
41:24
Okay, So I gotta to redo my makeup, so no, I'm
41:29
SKay, it's all good. See avoidance, we're avoiding feeling the emotion and
41:38
it's okay, like this for me, this is so wonderful. Yeah,
41:42
so wonderful. And but the difference is you're not apologizing. Oh I'm sorry,
41:45
I'm sorry because I used to do the same thing, Like it was
41:47
so bad for us to be crying in front of somebody else. And to
41:51
me, it's awesome because it's genuine and it's it's palpable, right, I
41:55
can feel it and it's awesome. Yeah, absolute, So it has been
42:00
a great journey, and to have somebody as amazing as you to be on
42:07
it is it's been great. And so just keep going right, just keep
42:14
showing up in our best way and sharing this information with anybody who is willing
42:19
to spend the time with us each week. And if you're if you as
42:24
the audience, are getting anything from this, please share it, whether you're
42:29
just having conversations about what you're learning, or sharing the videos and content with
42:35
other people. Just help others. That's what we're here to do, is
42:38
help each other grow and learn and get better and better and better, to
42:43
show up better, to be and do better in this world. And that's
42:46
what I feel like our mission is being here in the physical body on this
42:52
planet, just to learn to be and do better in the physical body.
42:55
And so that's that's my practice each and every day, and I show up
43:01
in my best so in each moment, and that's all I can ask for
43:06
you. So so please share us any final words, probably the same thing
43:13
I said, I think I might have said recently is just stay in the
43:15
light. Remind yourself to stay in the light. Yeah, And then here's
43:19
the BJ sing in the background, but not Staying alive is staying the light,
43:22
staying the light in the line light. You can have the same tone,
43:28
but you know different. Yes, all the above. Celebrate yourself.
43:34
This is I feel so empowered. I'm going to go up and just be
43:37
my I'm just going to be in my every moment. Nice, that's my
43:42
plan. Awesome, all right, friends, thanks for hanging out with us,
43:45
Amy and Bev. Tea time with Amy and Bev. We appreciate you
43:50
and we'll see you next time. Bye.