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Lil Scrappy On Parenting: 'Moms Are The Emotional Ones, Dads Teach Their Kids How To Be Solid' · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 1: Morning. Everybody is dj n V just hilarious.
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  Speaker 2: Charla mean the guy we are the breakfast Club. Now
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  Speaker 2: a little scrap he was online yesterday and he was
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  Speaker 2: talking about parenting a little bit and this is what
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  Speaker 2: he said.
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  Speaker 1: Who're gonna teach them, the dabies how to be silent?
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  Speaker 1: But they did?
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  Speaker 3: They Mama the emotional person. Nah, you know what I'm
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  Speaker 3: saying you. It is very rare that you have a solid,
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  Speaker 3: complete mom all the way around. Sometime the daddy too,
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  Speaker 3: but you got to tap in.
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  Speaker 4: Let the daddy do a thing.
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  Speaker 3: Man, I'm real good daddies, watch your kids when they
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  Speaker 3: grow up, if they have a real good dad in
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  Speaker 3: their life or a far good father figure in their life,
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  Speaker 3: watch a kid when you grow up. Guarantee they're gonna
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  Speaker 3: be doing something great in their life. They gonna be
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  Speaker 3: they gonna have a balance.
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  Speaker 2: Telling you, so, we're asking eight hundred five A five
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  Speaker 2: one oh five one, what are your thoughts?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 2: A little scrappy said that, you know, moms are the
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  Speaker 2: ones that are emotional ones, and.
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  Speaker 1: Dads teach their kids how to be solid. What's your thoughts?
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  Speaker 1: Start with you? Jess?
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I guess it depends on the situation, you know,
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  Speaker 5: because you got some dads that ain't solid. You know,
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  Speaker 5: you got moms who are do you got moms that's
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  Speaker 5: not that you know, Yeah, that has to do, and
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  Speaker 5: then there are dads that do both too, you know.
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  Speaker 5: You know, so it just depends. I think he's also
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  Speaker 5: speaking like from his situation. I guess so what he's seen,
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  Speaker 5: but I agree with him. But it can also be
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  Speaker 5: the other way around as well.
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  Speaker 6: You know, mane one of the biggest lives ever told
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  Speaker 6: is that women are emotional and men are rational.
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  Speaker 7: F out of here.
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  Speaker 6: Okay, men are just as emotional, if not more. And
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  Speaker 6: you know, sometimes women can be rational, sometimes men can't.
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  Speaker 6: So you know that whole dynamic about you know, hey,
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  Speaker 6: you need the father in the life because the father
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  Speaker 6: is going to teach the son to be silent.
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  Speaker 7: And not be emotional. That's just not true.
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  Speaker 6: And you know what you've got to teach people how
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  Speaker 6: to do is deal with their emotions. Men need to
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  Speaker 6: learn how to deal with their emotions. Women need to
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  Speaker 6: learn how to deal with their emotions. That's how you
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  Speaker 6: teach your child how to deal with their emotions. Because
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  Speaker 6: it sounds like a lot of times men we be
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  Speaker 6: telling especially our sons, to be emotionless.
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  Speaker 7: We don't want that.
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  Speaker 6: We don't want to raise a generation a sociopaths because
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  Speaker 6: we've already done that.
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  Speaker 7: That's why so many of.
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  Speaker 6: Us are in therapy right now dealing with or dealing
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  Speaker 6: with so many different traumas.
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  Speaker 7: So I don't like that.
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  Speaker 6: I've never liked the whole Men are rational, women are
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  Speaker 6: emotional thing, because it's just not true emotional as I don't.
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  Speaker 2: I don't disagree with you when you say that, but
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  Speaker 2: he's talking about as far as parenting and concern because
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  Speaker 2: men are definitely just as emotional most men, or just
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  Speaker 2: as emotional as women. But I notice, and I recognize,
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  Speaker 2: and when you parents are kids, women are usually more
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  Speaker 2: into the emotional side of a child than their father is.
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  Speaker 1: That's just what it is. I see it.
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  Speaker 2: Like even with me growing up, when I had problems
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  Speaker 2: or there was anything that was affecting me, mostly I
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  Speaker 2: would go to my mom because my dad was more
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  Speaker 2: of the tougher skin when it seemed.
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  Speaker 1: Same thing about relationship with my wife.
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  Speaker 2: If my kids are having a problem when it comes
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  Speaker 2: to something emotional, they talk to their mom first because
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  Speaker 2: mom is more understanding she's more patient. She'll sit there
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  Speaker 2: throughout the whole thing. I see that with parenting though,
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  Speaker 2: But who's faulted that though?
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  Speaker 6: Like like it shouldn't be like that, Like your kids
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  Speaker 6: should feel be able to come to you about anything.
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  Speaker 2: I mean they do, But mom is it's the truth.
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  Speaker 2: Mom is easy to talk to. Mom is more patient.
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  Speaker 2: Mom is you need to work on yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Man, maybe you can't even recognize to do that.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe you know, but it's also is as a man,
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  Speaker 2: you raised a certain way, right, So if your kid
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  Speaker 2: gets hurt, the first thing that usually thinks on a
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  Speaker 2: father's mind is not picking up you can shake it
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  Speaker 2: off because you don't want your kid to be out
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  Speaker 2: there in the world and have the world attack them
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  Speaker 2: and him not be able to because the world is
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  Speaker 2: a very nasty and scary place, right and you don't
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  Speaker 2: want your kid to be attacked out there in the world.
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  Speaker 2: So you teach your kid to be tough out there
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  Speaker 2: so that he doesn't think about suicide, he doesn't think
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  Speaker 2: about hurting himself, he doesn't let the comments of other
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  Speaker 2: people in social media hurt him and affect him. So
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  Speaker 2: as a father, you make sure that you try to
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  Speaker 2: make sure that your kid is strong enough to do
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  Speaker 2: that physically and.
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  Speaker 6: Most but the comments hurt you hurt me, Oh my good.
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  Speaker 7: Okay, well not you. The comments hurt most parents.
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  Speaker 1: The comments.
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  Speaker 5: You're lying going, I mean, all right, so instance my dad,
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  Speaker 5: all right, so going off with what he's saying and
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  Speaker 5: what you just said.
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  Speaker 1: So my dad, I wasn't. I was more emotion know
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  Speaker 1: with my mom.
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  Speaker 5: My dad still he was very tough with me about
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  Speaker 5: things like when I was when I would I would
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  Speaker 5: go fight and I would cry, We'll lose a fight.
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  Speaker 1: And I would cry.
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  Speaker 5: He'd be like, no, go back out there to you
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  Speaker 5: with her ass like that type of stuff. That same
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  Speaker 5: thing you did with my brother right now. My father,
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  Speaker 5: he didn't have his father, my grandmother, well, my father
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  Speaker 5: kind of raised itself, but my my the only present
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  Speaker 5: parent was my grandmother.
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  Speaker 1: And my dad is solid. You feel me.
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  Speaker 5: So it's like I get what he's saying for his situation,
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  Speaker 5: but it's different. My dad ain't had My dad oh
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  Speaker 5: silient nigga, I know, and he he ain't never had
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  Speaker 5: no fault.
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  Speaker 6: And I don't want to raise my kids out of
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  Speaker 6: fear and not love. And that's something that I learned
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  Speaker 6: in therapy. That's how I feel like I was raised
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  Speaker 6: by my pops. And it wasn't because he didn't love me.
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  Speaker 6: It was because he didn't want me to make a
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  Speaker 6: lot of the same mistakes that he made. And he
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  Speaker 6: to Envy's point, you know, he's like, oh, the world
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  Speaker 6: is tough, and you know, the world gonna be hard
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  Speaker 6: on you this and that. But you can still raise
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  Speaker 6: your kid with love and empathy and nurture them and
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  Speaker 6: they still be solid.
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  Speaker 7: You don't have to have them fear.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 7: Are telling you got to be tough, and you got
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  Speaker 7: me hard in order to survive.
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  Speaker 1: Like I kind of disagree on some of that. Right.
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  Speaker 2: So for instance, right, I remember the first time my
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  Speaker 2: daughter of Madison, who's twenty.
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  Speaker 1: Three, she cried over a boy.
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  Speaker 2: Right, they got into a thing and she cried in
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  Speaker 2: front of him, and she spoke to her mom, and
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  Speaker 2: she came and spoke to me, and I was like,
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  Speaker 2: you don't have a cry for fun of no nigga
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  Speaker 2: yeh excuse my friends. But the reason I said that
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  Speaker 2: is because I felt like, you give somebody the power.
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  Speaker 2: That's just me the way you cried in front of
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  Speaker 2: your woman we've been married for thirty years. You can't
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  Speaker 2: just tell somebody not to express their emotions. But but
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  Speaker 2: me and my wife are in a different relationship. A
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  Speaker 2: lot of times men are used the fact that you
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  Speaker 2: are crying and you are hurt against you.
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  Speaker 1: We've seen a million Maybe you just like that person
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  Speaker 1: me and my wife are. We've been together thirty years.
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  Speaker 1: Like it's a lot different.
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  Speaker 7: Maybe you just like a person.
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  Speaker 1: And at that point he had to cry, he was
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  Speaker 1: about to leave that.
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  Speaker 6: Listen you you was button neck and running up the cycle.
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  Speaker 6: You was in the club DJ and with the freaking
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  Speaker 6: nurse gown on in your ass out because of what
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  Speaker 6: you was going through. But you gonna tell your daughter
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  Speaker 6: that she can't be she can't have emotion.
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  Speaker 1: But that was my wife and this and this was
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  Speaker 1: somebody that was in relationship. It is totally different.
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  Speaker 6: No, not really, it is totally I'll tell you why
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  Speaker 6: it's that different, because humans are humans, and it don't
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  Speaker 6: matter what the relationship is. If you feel something for
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  Speaker 6: a person, that's going to come out. Like I think
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  Speaker 6: one of the worst things we do to people is
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  Speaker 6: tell them to suppress their emotions. I really do, Like,
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  Speaker 6: I don't not I don't. One of the first things
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  Speaker 6: your therapist is gonna tell you is feel your feels.
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  Speaker 1: It's a nasty place and I just want to protect
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  Speaker 1: my kids from all of it. But let's go to
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  Speaker 1: the phone lines. Hello, who's this.
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  Speaker 4: Boy? Man from Charlton, man A four to three?
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  Speaker 7: What's happening right?
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  Speaker 8: Tell the man, well, listen, I agree with scrap people, man,
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  Speaker 8: I disagree with them at the same time, right, because
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  Speaker 8: I've been riding a single parent household just by my mama,
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  Speaker 8: and my mama really ain't never split no emotions, you
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  Speaker 8: feel saying, she just to provide, and you know, so
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  Speaker 8: that right there was she just instilling me.
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  Speaker 4: So I just got a real grandom mentality.
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  Speaker 9: But I did learn what nothing to.
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  Speaker 4: Do from my old man being absolutely you feel like
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  Speaker 4: I'm saying, so, it's just kind of you know, I
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  Speaker 4: agree on a Breanne doesn't agree with them, all right?
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  Speaker 1: Thank you? Brother?
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  Speaker 4: Hello, who's this this divine from Detroit?
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  Speaker 1: Don't talk to us? What's your thoughts?
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  Speaker 4: Good morning, Good morning, Envy, Good morning, Charlotte Mann, Good
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  Speaker 4: morning Jane. I feel like fatherhood is very important. I'm
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  Speaker 4: a single father myself, and just the lessons that I
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  Speaker 4: have to teach my daughter on a daily about conflict
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  Speaker 4: resolution and not the panic. You know, she wouldn't have
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  Speaker 4: that because of that emotional aside from her mom. It's
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  Speaker 4: just act once that emotion is up, they just act
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  Speaker 4: without reason. And I'm trying to get her out of that.
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  Speaker 7: Now she's singing, that's just that's just not true.
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  Speaker 6: And I don't know why men act like We don't
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  Speaker 6: do the exact same thing, depending on what is pushing
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  Speaker 6: us at that moment. No, we not what he said,
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  Speaker 6: we not. Men resort to violence way more than women do.
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  Speaker 4: But we can't. We under much more scrutiny. It's a
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  Speaker 4: it's a much more punishment for if we lose our
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  Speaker 4: control than if they do.
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  Speaker 9: I don't know.
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  Speaker 6: It depends depends on how you lose your control. I'm
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  Speaker 6: just saying I don't. I don't like when we act
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  Speaker 6: like human beings don't have emotions. That's what it sounds
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  Speaker 6: like men are emotionless and women have all the emotion.
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  Speaker 7: That's just not true.
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  Speaker 1: No, that is not true. Though I don't think he
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  Speaker 1: was saying that. I think he was saying in parenting.
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  Speaker 2: I think usually women are more emotional when it comes
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  Speaker 2: to a relationship of a parenting because they tend to
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  Speaker 2: their kids feelings more. They have more patience, and I
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  Speaker 2: think dads are a little different. I just don't have
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  Speaker 2: the patience. Really, I just don't have that patience.
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  Speaker 6: So when your daughter comes to you and she's crying
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  Speaker 6: over a boy and you say that you don't cry,
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  Speaker 6: when is it that you're showing emotion?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, you're trying to tell how to protect her heart,
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  Speaker 2: just like when my when I'm my female friends come
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  Speaker 2: and talk about their man and they tell me the
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  Speaker 2: things that's going on. I tell them from a different angle.
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  Speaker 2: I tell them from an angle of I've been there,
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  Speaker 2: or my friends have been there, and I tell them
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  Speaker 2: what it is it's not.
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  Speaker 7: Do you tell them?
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  Speaker 6: How do you tell them how your friends was trash? Yes,
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  Speaker 6: and they needed to do a lot of work on themselves.
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  Speaker 6: So nine times out of ten, it's not them, it's you.
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  Speaker 2: It was you tell them that her, it was them,
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  Speaker 2: not her, it was Now now they they don't half
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  Speaker 2: the time.
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  Speaker 1: They don't want to listen. But I tell them all
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  Speaker 1: my fee like.
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  Speaker 2: They trash, Like this is not the way to go,
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  Speaker 2: but most men are because you know whatever, But that's
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  Speaker 2: what I'm.
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  Speaker 6: That's a lot of stuff. Huh, that's some whole stuff.
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  Speaker 6: I'm being honest with you. That's like you.
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  Speaker 7: That's like you. So when you MG, I'm be honest,
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  Speaker 7: that's what I feel like. You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 7: But you're right, I'm not mad at you.
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  Speaker 1: That's another conversation for another day.
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  Speaker 2: But eight hundred five eight five one on five one,
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  Speaker 2: let's discuss what scrappy that.
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  Speaker 1: This is what he said us.
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  Speaker 7: Listen, it's the Breakfast Snuggle morning.
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  Speaker 2: We are the Breakfast Clubs eight hundred FI.
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  Speaker 1: Who's this.
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  Speaker 4: Hi?
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  Speaker 10: This is Ronnie this morning. I'm feeling well, thank you.
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  Speaker 11: Can you hear me?
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  Speaker 10: Okay?
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  Speaker 1: To hear you clearly? What's your moment?
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  Speaker 10: Okay. I am a COVID widow. I spoke to you
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  Speaker 10: guys last year when my son called in about Chance
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  Speaker 10: the rappers making making bombses. I agree. I think it
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  Speaker 10: makes sense on the surface level, but when you go deeper,
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  Speaker 10: I can testify to the fact that it's not necessarily true.
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  Speaker 10: I was orphaned at nine and I am now a
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  Speaker 10: COVID widow and a solo parent, and I think that
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  Speaker 10: connection when you're raising children, I think connections to both
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  Speaker 10: parents are necessary. However, you have a large segment of
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  Speaker 10: this population due to COVID and many other diseases, who
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  Speaker 10: are being raised as orphans or parents who are on
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  Speaker 10: their own. With the diseased parents, that's not there to
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  Speaker 10: lend the other hands. And I think what matters the
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  Speaker 10: most is that people are healthy, mentally well, mentally healed
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  Speaker 10: whole spiritually. I think that it's important to look for
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  Speaker 10: churches and community organizations. My church, Cornerstone Baptist Church, has
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  Speaker 10: been instrumental in our healing. My family has been a
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  Speaker 10: part of introducing four bills into New York state legislation.
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  Speaker 10: One of them is named after my late husband. If
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  Speaker 10: you search Fairness for Fallen frontline Workers, we're also on
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  Speaker 10: NBC New York Hidden Pandemic. We're also CNN Orphaned by COVID.
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  Speaker 10: My sons are empowered to talk about the emotional aspect
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  Speaker 10: of their journey and what it means to have lost
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  Speaker 10: their father at an early age. But they also have
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  Speaker 10: learned how to give that pain and passion purpose by
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  Speaker 10: helping other people. And it's because of the positive aspect
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  Speaker 10: of both their father and their mother.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, well, thank you, mama. I appreciate the work that
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  Speaker 1: you're putting in.
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  Speaker 10: Thank you and thank you Jess for I spoke to you.
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  Speaker 10: I was right in the middle journey you're just with
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  Speaker 10: the mess segment at the podcast festival. Oh yeah, and
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  Speaker 10: I asked you for dating advice about what those like
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  Speaker 10: you said. I was beautiful, I.
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  Speaker 1: Was so ho ear. Thank you so you welcome. I remember,
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  Speaker 1: I remember, yes.
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  Speaker 10: Thank you, and thank you Charlomagne for giving us tickets
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  Speaker 10: the first time last year.
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  Speaker 7: We'll be doing it again.
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  Speaker 6: Uh, we'll be doing it again next year in April,
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  Speaker 6: the Black Effect Podcast Festival.
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  Speaker 10: So well, when do they go and sale? Because I
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  Speaker 10: need to do the meet and greet and this time
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  Speaker 10: all the kids are coming.
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  Speaker 6: I got to talk to Dolly about that, but I
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  Speaker 6: would so as soon as as soon as we find out,
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  Speaker 6: we'll let you know.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you Mama.
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  Speaker 7: And she's absolutely right.
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  Speaker 6: We need you need both man like you need the
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  Speaker 6: perfect balance of man and woman. I just don't like
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  Speaker 6: when we act like one is a moremists and one
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  Speaker 6: is it like I know too many emotional men.
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  Speaker 7: Emotional emotional man.
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  Speaker 1: Good morning, what's your thoughts? Good morning?
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  Speaker 12: Good morning? Okay, so my thoughts are women and men
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  Speaker 12: both bring an equal element to a relationship. Women bring
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  Speaker 12: the nurturing and men bring discipline. You can't. Women aren't
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  Speaker 12: really that good with discipline, and men aren't that good
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  Speaker 12: with nurturing, which is why both both elements are needed.
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  Speaker 12: I think we forget that women represent this. We are
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  Speaker 12: different and there's nothing wrong with our differences, and we
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  Speaker 12: need each other. That's why, you know. So that's what
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  Speaker 12: I think. I just think that he has a point,
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  Speaker 12: but not in the sense that women are emotional women.
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  Speaker 1: You're right, emotional was the wrong word. Nurturing. It was
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  Speaker 1: a word he should used.
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  Speaker 7: But men can be.
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  Speaker 6: Men can be nurturing to not not maybe not as
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  Speaker 6: naturally as women, but men can be too if they,
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  Speaker 6: you know, if they go out there and do the
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  Speaker 6: proper work on themselves.
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  Speaker 7: And I won't say this.
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  Speaker 6: Discipline is very hard with kids, especially if you was
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  Speaker 6: raised the nineteen hundreds like we were, because you just
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  Speaker 6: be wanting to beat them, you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 7: I know I don't hit my daughters. I refuse.
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  Speaker 6: My oldest is sixteen, so when I didn't know no better,
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  Speaker 6: I spent when she was young, and it just felt
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  Speaker 6: stupid to do what I mean.
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  Speaker 7: But we grew up.
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  Speaker 6: You gotta go pick your own switch. I was getting
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  Speaker 6: beat with extension cars and made to.
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  Speaker 7: Go take a bath on like anything. Sure, of course
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  Speaker 7: it was, but we didn't know that when it was
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  Speaker 7: young and raised.
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  Speaker 6: It's like, now you be telling your kids, hey, I'm
• 14:45
  Speaker 6: gonna take such such a way. They'd be like so,
• 14:47
  Speaker 6: and all you can say is or if you was
• 14:49
  Speaker 6: raising the nineties, your as my second child, that all
• 14:53
  Speaker 6: the time. If you was raised in the nineties, you
• 14:55
  Speaker 6: know what would happen to you?
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: She said, I would call the cops on you.
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  Speaker 7: She's like, what is the nineties.
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  Speaker 1: All the time? I boxed that little boy up? Hello?
• 15:06
  Speaker 7: Who's this?
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: Hello? Good morning? This Erica, Good morning? What's your Erica?
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  Speaker 11: Okay, So I don't think there's that way either. I
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  Speaker 11: think it's I think may agree, which I learn with
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  Speaker 11: that because it's like I have four kids and my
• 15:26
  Speaker 11: kid's father was an emotional part I was more so
• 15:31
  Speaker 11: just like I care for my kids like I do
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  Speaker 11: the the basics. He was my my kids, a daddy,
• 15:38
  Speaker 11: broke both my girls, a daddy brother and then his
• 15:40
  Speaker 11: stepfather is one of my kids. And my son would
• 15:43
  Speaker 11: rather go to him over me. Now now that they
• 15:46
  Speaker 11: got older, they want me more than they want him.
• 15:48
  Speaker 11: But it's I think it's a it's like, oh, it's
• 15:51
  Speaker 11: going both parties.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, well, thank you mama. Hello, who's this?
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  Speaker 4: Hey, this is Chris.
• 15:58
  Speaker 1: Chris, good morning.
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  Speaker 9: What you're thinking Jersey on the radios?
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  Speaker 1: Turn down?
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  Speaker 4: All right?
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  Speaker 9: Yeah, so I like what you're talking about. But at
• 16:14
  Speaker 9: the same time, you're correct.
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  Speaker 4: You know, we grow up as men.
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  Speaker 9: Trying to suppress our feelings and emotions and everything, but
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  Speaker 9: our children nowadays, like you look at all the suicide
• 16:24
  Speaker 9: rates and everything that's going on with the substance abuse
• 16:26
  Speaker 9: and everything around the whole world. You know, suppressing our
• 16:29
  Speaker 9: feelings is what is what got us in this situation.
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  Speaker 4: Us.
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  Speaker 9: Being more open and understanding is definitely what we need
• 16:36
  Speaker 9: to do. We need to express our feelings and emotions,
• 16:39
  Speaker 9: especially to women as well. Women you know, they like
• 16:43
  Speaker 9: a guy that can be open. You know, that's how
• 16:46
  Speaker 9: you that's how you have a longevity.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: That's right, Thank you, Chris, And no problem. All right. Well,
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: what's the moral of the story, guys?
• 16:55
  Speaker 6: I mean, the moral of the story is I think
• 16:56
  Speaker 6: that we need to stop with these uh, these stupid stereotis.
• 17:00
  Speaker 6: You need to stop profile and stop saying. You know,
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  Speaker 6: men aren't nurturing, and men don't know how to deal
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  Speaker 6: with emotions, and women do know how to deal with emotions.
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  Speaker 6: Here's the thing, my brothers, if you don't know how
• 17:10
  Speaker 6: to deal with emotions, go learn how to deal with them.
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  Speaker 7: You know what I mean. Take your ass to therapy.
• 17:15
  Speaker 6: I'm not I don't be out here telling brothers they
• 17:17
  Speaker 6: investigate mental wealth for no reason. These are the reasons
• 17:19
  Speaker 6: that I pushed those conversations, and I push those narratives.
• 17:22
  Speaker 6: Go out there and learn how to deal with your emotions.
• 17:24
  Speaker 6: So you cannot only be more nurturing, you know, for yourself.
• 17:27
  Speaker 6: You could be more nurturing to your spouse. You could
• 17:29
  Speaker 6: be more nurturing to your kids. I think, I think
• 17:33
  Speaker 6: if you got a problem, you know, dealing with your emotions,
• 17:35
  Speaker 6: then you need to go fix that's right.
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: And I think everything is perfect with balance in a relationship, right.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: I think you need balance.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: And I'm seeing now you have a young little baby,
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: and how.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: Are you and Chris gonna raise that little baby?
• 17:47
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, balance because he's not a disciplinarian at all,
• 17:53
  Speaker 5: you know, what I mean, I am.
• 17:54
  Speaker 7: He's a hard worker or both of y'all.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah very much.
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: Yeah, so I mean we got this, but he's definitely elite,
• 18:00
  Speaker 5: the opposite, like you know, hes.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: His baby girl. Girl.
• 18:05
  Speaker 7: When you're a guy, it's hard.
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's crazy. He's gonna be a sucker for
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: his baby real like we all off our little baby girls.
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: All right, now we got just with the mess coming up.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: What we're talking about, hold on me said, Oh my.
• 18:20
  Speaker 5: God, Sena Right, Serena Williams explained why she looked how
• 18:25
  Speaker 5: she looked out for that, all.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: Right, that's what they said. She was bleaching the skin.
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: We'll talk about it when we come back. It's the
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: breakfast cloug In morning.
• 18:34
  Speaker 7: M hm.