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Living with uncertainty · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So with everything that's going on in this world and how quickly
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  and fast paced, it seems to be every day if it's not one thing,
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  it's another I would like to talk to you about living with
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  uncertainty. So we all have it, we all
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  understand what it means. We all understand the concept of
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  uncertainty and I think that for most of us we don't realize how
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  much of it is around us and how much it's played upon every day
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  in our media in our families. And how much time we as human
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  beings spend thinking about. What if, if this goes on, if
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  this goes on, if this goes on now.
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  Let's don't get me wrong. That is an actually really good
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  part of who we are, that we can project and future pace and
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  think about something and say, how will I handle that?
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  If this happens, the challenge we have is when it comes into
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  our lives and stays there and it just ruminates in US it gets
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  into our bones, it gets into our very fiber and Our soul and it
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  creates Havoc because you can't stay in that state part of our
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  well. Being part of our psychological
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  well-being, as human beings is to gain certainty, and it makes
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  us feel safe, right? We all need safety.
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  We all understand the concept of basic human needs and we all
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  need shelter. We all need food.
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  We all need to feel like we have a safe umbrella.
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  If you will. Well, when you stay in Auntie it
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  does a lot of things to your biochemistry that are not great.
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  So on a very basic level is why they say stress is the worst
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  thing for your health. Well, it really is because when
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  you stress all that that energy has to go somewhere and it,
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  shifts your biochemistry. So that's why people who are
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  very stressed out have heart attacks.
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  Typically it leads to other behaviors, that aren't great as
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  well, such as abuse of alcohol, abuse of food.
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  Of drugs, abuse of sex, lots of different things because that
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  stress that is energy and that energy has to go somewhere, so
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  you can't just like, ignore it. It's got to do.
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  You got to transfer it into something?
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  That's why if you quit smoking, let's say often the person
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  you're working with to help you. Quit smoking, will say well we
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  have to replace that with something with your place that
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  habit was something. Well think of the Habit as
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  energy that energy has to go somewhere.
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  So uncertainty. For us is a huge buildup of
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  energy that blocks us, it blocks our systems.
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  And the more we focus on uncertainty, the more we
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  actually get uncertainty, because as you've heard me, say,
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  and you will continue to hear me, say it's such an important
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  factor. To realize energy is everything
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  and emotions are nothing but pure energy and their potential
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  energy, right? It can go in either direction,
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  it can go left or right, it can go to the dark side.
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  Light Side. However, it is that you want to
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  look at it, but their emotions are pure energy.
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  So, when we start focusing our attention on uncertainty and
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  giving it undue attention too long of an assistant with it.
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  We do ourselves psychological damage and we do ourselves
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  physiological damage. So, why am I bringing this up
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  today? Well, it seems that lately
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  again, here we go again, with all the drama out of everything
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  that's going on in the world, you can't escape it.
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  It's always been this way. However, since we've had the
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  pandemic, it's gotten more and more and more intense, and it
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  seems to get more and more intense because they have to get
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  our attention because we have been desensitized.
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  So everything is made into drama.
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  Everything is Big, everything is huge.
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  And we have to choose to dial it back in our heads and we have to
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  decide how we want to show. Then who we want to be the
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  fundamentals of this process are pretty simple.
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  I can tell you shut the news off.
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  I can tell you to do tactical things, I can say, you know, for
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  those of you who want to be informed, you can dive in for
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  one minute, set your timer. And say, let me just take the
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  USA Today version of the news and walk away.
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  But even at that State, it doesn't mean you're letting it
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  go afterwards. It doesn't mean that you're
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  going about your day and you're not having it do.
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  Dwell inside of you, having it sit there and eat it, you all
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  day long, because that's what it does.
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  So how do we actually live in with uncertainty?
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  What do we do with it? Well, the fundamental piece that
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  I think is. So critically important is to
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  constantly be monitoring your attention where it's going.
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  If your attention and you find that your attention is
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  constantly floating to worry, if you find that your attention is
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  constantly going to uncertainty. Well I don't know, I don't know.
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  Listen to how many Times a day you use the words.
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  Well, I don't know because that's that actually denotes the
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  fact that you are in uncertainty and your kind of processing
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  looking for answers. But you don't know how to get
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  there and that in itself is stressful.
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  You've got to become okay with not knowing you've got to become
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  okay with it, doesn't matter how much I know or I don't know what
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  matters is that. I'm okay when I dunno so for me
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  I'm hyper certainty driven I want Uno on a Monday, what we're
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  doing on Friday? I want to know where we're going
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  to eat. I want to know how the whole
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  years going to lay out. I get very hyper focused on
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  things like that. And I have to work really hard
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  personally on not driving, everyone crazy around me because
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  I might like certainty, but my husband does not even come close
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  to that. So I have to realize it's his
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  space to and when I get over certainty driven, I push that to
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  Him and I Look to Him for answers and he's a guy that's
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  like, okay, with not knowing he is, he is really great with
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  uncertainty, he's just like, all right, whatever is going to
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  happen, is going to happen, and he can just check out and let it
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  go. So the first thing you have to
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  do is recognize, you don't need to know everything.
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  And it doesn't help to know everything.
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  I remind myself constantly. This isn't something I need to
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  know right now, but I do need to be healthfully prepared and
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  taking care of myself. So, if something does show up, I
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  can be good to deal with it. The second thing is you need to
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  monitor that internal dialogue and ask yourself.
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  How much am I saying? I don't know.
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  I don't know, I don't know. And is that creating angst in my
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  body so that you can stop that process and slow it down and
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  say, I don't need to know. I am, okay, not knowing I am,
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  okay, not knowing I am fully equipped to be able to figure
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  this out on the Fly. That's one of my favorite
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  statements to tell myself. I can figure this out on the
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  Fly. Good because I'm centered and
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  I'm taking care of myself. And the third thing is really
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  start to dial back. How much you tap into things
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  that bother you, it becomes an addiction in itself.
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  So shut the news off, don't pay attention to everything because
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  tomorrow is going to be the same thing and you can always catch
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  up. If you're someone who's really
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  addicted to it. Just realize you could skip a
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  whole week and come back. And you'd be hearing the same
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  crap all over again. So it's really Important to pay
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  attention to that dial it back, go to things that make you
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  happier, go to things that make it easier on your soul so that
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  you don't have to deal with it Non-Stop and give yourself a
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  little break and a little Grace and realize this is a practice,
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  this isn't going to happen overnight.
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  But it's a beginning that I wanted to introduce you guys to
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  and we will talk about it more. And this is awareness is the
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  fundamental piece of it. So let's start there and I will
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  see you guys tomorrow. Have a great day.