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Ep 13 | Unraveling Old Beliefs Beneath the Surface | Highly Sensitive Series · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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  Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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  the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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  is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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  and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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  explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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  your sensitivity as a strength, not something
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  to fix. You know, this is something that I feel
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  is very essential, right? Like we've all lived
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  a life that has had turmoil and triumph, you
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  know, things to mourn and things to celebrate.
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  And I really sense that My fascination with how
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  the mind operates, starting a mental health career
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  at the age of 19, has just really, it just keeps
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  calling me back to the importance of us understanding
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  how our mind is influencing. The journey that
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  we do walk, the one that we live. And what I
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  really love, I mean, it was probably, I don't
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  know, some 15, 16 years ago, you know, when I
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  started to study neuroscience and quantum physics
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  at the same time. And it was really, it was just
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  so wonderful. right, to learn about how we have
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  neuroplasticity, right, that the brain is malleable,
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  and just learning so much about how the brain,
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  you know, operates. But again, just the mind
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  and the brain are often seen synonymous. And
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  that's actually something that I've explored
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  extensively, just because, again, of my own fascination
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  with the mind. And, you know, I think I've referenced,
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  you know, in previous podcasts that I wrote a
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  nine part, highly sensitive series, because Again,
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  one of the other things that I've been really
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  called to deepen my understanding and relationship
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  with is what it means to be a highly sensitive
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  individual, right? Like, and again, Dr. Elaine
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  Aron's research on sensory processing sensitivity
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  and how there's a minority of us who are born
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  with this innate survival strategy that is normal
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  yet invisible, right? And you've heard me talk
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  about it as a sensory intelligence, but it's
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  certainly one that we need to understand and
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  come into right relationship with. So the part
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  two of the highly sensitive series is called
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  unraveling old beliefs. And this is really where
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  I feel my biggest contribution has been. You
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  know, it's been in raising awareness about this
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  high sensitivity trait, because again, we just
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  have unique ways of processing, you know, and
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  unique ways of seeing the world and why others
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  do what they do or don't do that influences our
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  experience, right? And so... to have the opportunity
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  to reframe our past experiences from a new lens
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  of, oh, I have this high sensitivity trait, but
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  yet when I was growing up, this wasn't researched.
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  It wasn't revealed. Although we can look at ancient
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  history and see that, you know, sensitive individuals
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  were seen as priestly advisors and were certainly
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  those who contributed greatly to our development,
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  right? I mean, there's certainly well -known
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  artists and scientists, right, who very clearly
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  are highly sensitive individuals. And of course,
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  you know, Carl Jung is one of, you know, a very
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  significant contributor to the field of psychology.
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  And so the reason that, you know, this is coming
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  up to share is because when we don't understand
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  how our life is unfolding. Granted, it is a complete
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  mystery, but there's a lot that we can delve
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  into to understand, which has been my journey,
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  right? Like I really want to understand this.
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  I really want to know that what I'm doing for
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  myself is for my highest and greatest good and
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  is aligned with what feels most true and alive
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  and authentic for me. And I want to support others
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  in that as well. So when we look at, you know,
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  how our beliefs formed, right? Like these beliefs
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  are passed down, right? Ancestral lineage wise.
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  We know that the mother line, right? The mitochondrial
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  DNA comes from our maternal line. There's that
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  piece, right? And there's also that, you know,
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  roughly nine month window of time where we're
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  immersed in our mother's womb, our mother's consciousness,
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  her experiences. So what she's thinking, what
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  she's feeling. and what her nervous system, right,
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  what those patterns are. So we inherit these
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  before, you know, we're even born into the world.
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  And so those are like our starting points. Now,
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  you know, some of that can be really beautiful
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  and, you know, strengthening, right, resilience.
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  Some of that is also things that are unresolved,
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  right? And beliefs that can interfere in our
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  own path to live the life that we're here to
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  live, that we prefer, right? But when we live
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  life and do not understand that there are beliefs
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  under the surface, right? When we are experiencing
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  life and find ourselves in reactionary modes,
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  right, without question, then life doesn't feel
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  quite as fun. It doesn't feel quite so freeing,
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  right? We don't feel so connected to who we really
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  are. But when we're so... conditioned to living
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  life that way, we don't necessarily question
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  whether it can be different. And so I've certainly
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  lived a life where this has been, you know, expanded
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  for me to understand. I absolutely, you know,
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  lived an experience where those old beliefs,
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  that old conditioning went silent and the field
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  of possibilities opened up. right? And this aliveness
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  within my body opened up and, and my health shifted
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  so much shifted, you know, um, it was just a
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  new level of consciousness that I previously
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  had not lived from, but what, you know, I then
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  experienced was a resurgence of those old beliefs
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  and how I needed to walk that path to understand
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  how these old beliefs, you know, are under the
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  surface and how they show up in our lives, you
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  know, but we need to wake up, right? Like we
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  need to create the space to recognize What are
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  these beliefs that are operating under the surface?
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  Now, again, I speak to highly sensitive women
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  specifically because this is the path I've walked
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  and I've experienced, you know, my own grieving,
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  right? My own losses, my own health challenges.
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  You know, I've... felt unsupported by conventional
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  medicine and, you know, just not understood.
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  And so the opportunity to create some space where
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  you can recognize that beliefs are under the
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  surface and they will continue to show up until
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  we sit with them, we explore them. And there's
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  many different ways that we can do that. I certainly
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  have always been a proponent of, you know, breath.
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  You know, many people don't realize. And I'm
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  telling you, throughout my career, I've worked
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  with, you know, health professionals. We're talking
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  chiropractors. We're talking acupuncturists,
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  you know. It doesn't matter what profession they're
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  in. Medical doctors, too, actually, now that
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  I think back to some of my other clients. And
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  it's amazing how after I talk about breath, how
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  I talk about the importance of nasal breathing,
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  right, and really slowing the pace down, that
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  they'll come back and say, wow, I had no idea
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  how often I hold my breath. wow, I had no idea
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  how shallow my breathing is. And that's where
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  I introduced different types of breath practices
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  to create more space. But if you see from this
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  example, right, like, it doesn't matter what
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  we're living as far as whether we're, you know,
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  in a professional role, or whether we're, you
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  know, doing the amazing work of, of being a mother,
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  right, where that's, that's your full time commitment,
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  which is beautiful and goes so incredibly unrecognized.
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  But, you know, there's so many beliefs around
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  these different things, right? Around, you know,
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  how we need to push through, you know, or how
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  we need to keep striving. We need to keep performing,
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  right? And so I actually got... certified in
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  heart -centered clinical hypnotherapy a few years
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  ago and explored other ways, you know, that we
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  can access old beliefs. But what I've found is,
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  you know, for highly sensitive women, that wasn't
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  always, you know, the safest approach. You know,
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  even when I set anchoring sessions in place to
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  help the nervous system and help them feel safe.
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  Like there are certain approaches that are just
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  counterintuitive for somebody who has a more
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  finely tuned central nervous system, like those
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  who have this high sensitivity trait. And so
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  we always want to approach exploring, you know,
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  old beliefs. in a way that feels safe and supportive.
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  Because we're not going to access, you know,
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  those deeper layers if we're still hypervigilant
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  and not feeling safe, right? So we always need
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  to be tuning in and trusting our own intuition.
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  But many don't. And when I say many don't, I
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  mean, not only do they not tune inward, right?
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  They don't trust. And again, that's just this
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  old operating system that hasn't had the space
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  to breathe, right? And to realign. And so, I
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  mean, this is really why I'm doing what I do,
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  right? Rise and realign. I have a lunar letter,
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  rise and realign conversations for the sensitive
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  soul podcast, right? I have the realigned journey.
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  You know, it's all about raising awareness, right?
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  I mean, that's what rise is. I mean, there's
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  multi, multi aspects to what I mean when I use
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  the word rise, but it's about raising awareness
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  so that we can rise up out of old conditioning.
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  It's a way to rise up in the morning in a way
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  that honors, you know, you and your unique path.
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  Because we are all completely unique, right?
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  Our journeys are so complex and there's so many
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  variables. But, you know, your beliefs shape
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  your reality. And the power to change them lies
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  within you. You know, not anyone else. It's all
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  you. You know, and this is where, you know, Rise
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  is about, you know, coming into right relationship
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  with you, what matters to you, and recognizing
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  what limiting beliefs are operating under the
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  surface. Because you can absolutely release old
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  patterns and step into a life of self -compassion,
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  strength, and empowerment. And it all starts
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  with you. And this seems like a great moment
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  to, let's just pause. You know? Let's take a
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  nice slow inhale through the nose. Breathe in
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  deep and strengthen that spine to be tall. And
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  then exhale out your mouth nice, long, and slow.
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  Just release tension. Relax. Let everything go.
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  And I invite you to continue. You know, just
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  a nice slow inhale through your nose. You know,
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  inhale. I'm here. Exhale. I relax. You know,
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  inhale. I'm here. Exhale. and just continue to
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  relax and let go and allow yourself to be in
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  this moment. What I have found through my own
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  personal journey and the work I do with sensitive
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  women is you know unraveling old beliefs is not
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  like you know uh one time you know let's explore
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  this oh there it is you know um we come in oftentimes
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  with some some deep you know subconscious beliefs
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  and we don't necessarily access that in in one
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  sitting right one session um But what the realign
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  is about is as we become more aware, right, as
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  we rise above old conditions, old patterns, as
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  we rise up out of that, I guess, victim consciousness,
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  you know, where we feel like we don't have control.
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  right like we're we're just stuck in these patterns
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  but as we slow the pace as we come into the moment
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  as we breathe as we connect more with our breath
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  right i always say you know take a break and
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  breathe love because that's what's at the core
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  of you there's just old beliefs that are causing
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  interference. And, you know, when we continue
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  to realign with ourself, with our heart, right?
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  What feels true and correct for us, that's when
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  it becomes easier to recognize when an old belief
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  or an old pattern is surfacing, right? But like
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  I was saying earlier, when You know, one of my
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  clients would say like, wow, I didn't know how
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  often I was holding my breath. I didn't realize
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  what a shallow breather I was. Like, think about
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  how many years, right, for some decades that's
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  been happening. So not only are old beliefs running
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  the show for us, you know, when we don't have
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  that awareness, you know, the body. is in direct
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  connection and communication with the mind. So
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  we have to understand there is this relationship
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  between the mind and the body that's inseparable.
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  And so it's worth it. You know, you're worth
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  it to create more space to breathe, to slow down,
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  to wake up. right? To these patterns that may
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  be running the show more than you realize and
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  causing interference in the sense of you feel
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  more disconnected, right? You're not feeling
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  that flow of love and light that's within you.
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  I mentioned the Realign Journey as one of my
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  offerings. It's an 18 week. It's a very intimate
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  and immersive journey. And when I say intimate,
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  it's because it's highly sensitive women, right?
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  Like our nervous system's ability to feel safe,
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  to relax is essential. And so when I offered
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  this group, it's very small in numbers. You know,
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  six women maximum per group is what feels most
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  supportive so that women can, again, feel safe
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  to share what they... feel ready to share. But,
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  you know, creating the space for yourself, right,
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  to rise and realign with you. That's what, you
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  know, my offering is about. And so I do have
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  a free live gathering. a moment to pause, a space
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  to inquire, that I invite you to consider joining
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  me. It's February 5th at 5 p .m. Pacific time,
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  and you can find the link to register in the
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  show notes. I also, you know, share this on LinkedIn.
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  There's many ways to connect with me. You know,
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  if you're ready to rise out of old conditioning
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  and return to your own rhythm, you know, continue
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  to listen here. You can join the Rise and Realign
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  Lunar Letter. And like I said, everything will
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  be in the show notes, but also realignwithmelissa
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  .com. And, but yeah, as a reminder, you know,
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  we're here together to rise, reclaim, remember.
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  Where the heart leads, the body remembers, and
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  the soul awakens. So I've walked this path as
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  a sensitive woman, as a solopreneur. as a solo
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  parent. And my heart just continues to guide
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  me to share this information so that sensitive
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  women can reclaim their voice, their health,
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  their rhythm. Because this modern world is so
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  noisy, so busy, so overstimulating. You know,
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  we need a space to come together where we can
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  breathe together, where we can relax, where we
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  can soften, when we can start to understand how
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  uniquely we're designed and really nurture our
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  relationship with ourself and our sensory intelligence.
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  Because it's incredible. So before we close,
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  I invite you to return to your breath, to your
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  body, to what feels true for you right now. There's
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  nothing you need to fix. Just notice what's here.
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  And then choose you. Keep choosing you and what
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  you need. What is for your highest and greatest
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  good. So take good care of you. Much love and
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  light.