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Ash Perrow · Postcards to the Universe

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Capria. Do
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Speaker 1: you believe in magic? What if you were told that
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Speaker 1: all you had to do was get a little creative
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Speaker 1: and work a magic spell to bring anything you can
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Speaker 1: imagine into your life. Here on Postcards to the Universe,
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Speaker 1: we will share manifesting tips, postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity.
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Speaker 1: Here's your host, Melissa Capria.
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Speaker 2: Hey everybody, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with
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Speaker 2: Melissa creating the life you crave. How are you guys
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Speaker 2: doing today. I hope everybody is doing well. I have
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Speaker 2: a super interesting guest and an exciting show. Today. We're
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Speaker 2: going to get lessons from a near death experience from
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Speaker 2: my guest, Ash Parrot, and he will join me in
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Speaker 2: a few minutes. And I think it's Pero, not Paro.
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Speaker 2: Excuse me. He will let me know when I have
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Speaker 2: him on. I just asked him, and of course it
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Speaker 2: flew out of my head. But that's what happens when
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Speaker 2: you hit middle age and you start going through all
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Speaker 2: these wonderful changes, you forget things you heard ten seconds ago. Anyway,
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Speaker 2: for my regulars who joined me each week, thank you
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Speaker 2: so much for being here. It means the world to me.
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Speaker 2: You have no idea. I get your emails, I get
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Speaker 2: your messages and I love it. And if you're joining
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Speaker 2: me for the first time, I want to say welcome,
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Speaker 2: thank you so much. A little bit about me. I
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Speaker 2: am a photographer, I'm an artist, and I'm also an author,
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Speaker 2: and I have a book titled Postcards to the Universe,
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Speaker 2: Harness the Universe's power and manifest your dreams. And in
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Speaker 2: my book, I talk all about manifesting, and I have
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Speaker 2: people make manifesting postcards. I photograph them. It's kind of
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Speaker 2: like a vision board, but just we pick one area
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Speaker 2: that we want to bring something into our life, and
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Speaker 2: when that shows up in your reality, I can share
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Speaker 2: your story. A blog that I put out every week
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Speaker 2: O pretty much almost every week on the show, and
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Speaker 2: I have more books I'm working on, so please you know,
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Speaker 2: make them. They're so much fun. If you have any
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Speaker 2: questions on how to create one or where to send it,
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Speaker 2: go to Postcards to the Universe dot com. I have
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Speaker 2: a whole section on how to create a manifesting postcard,
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Speaker 2: how to set the space, where to send it, and
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Speaker 2: I will help you. If you want any help, Please
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Speaker 2: just reach out to me and check out my book.
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Speaker 2: You can find it on Amazon or Barnes and Noble,
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Speaker 2: or you can ask your favorite bookstore and they'll get
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Speaker 2: it for you. Also, just wanted to tell everybody that
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Speaker 2: I started doing these three to four minute videos and
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Speaker 2: I'm posting them on YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok, and they're
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Speaker 2: on a variety of topics. It's all things inspirational and
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Speaker 2: I'm purposely keeping them short. So please go and check
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Speaker 2: them out. And I would love it if you would
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Speaker 2: like comment, follow, or share. That would mean the world
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Speaker 2: to me. I feel like I need to put out
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Speaker 2: as much positivity as possible right now because there's so
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Speaker 2: much negativity going on in the world, and you know,
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Speaker 2: I feel like the more positive we can throw out there,
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Speaker 2: the better. So check them out. Let me know what
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Speaker 2: you guys think, all right, So let me get to
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Speaker 2: my guest today, Ashparo. In twenty sixteen, a near death
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Speaker 2: experience following his back surgery became a pivotal moment for Ash,
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Speaker 2: leading him to dedicate his life to guiding others to
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Speaker 2: live and work authentically. For the past eight years, he
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Speaker 2: has delved into the unseen obstacles of fear and self doubt,
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Speaker 2: insights that now inform his coaching. Ash has empowered individuals
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Speaker 2: to break through their inner limitations, trust their inner wisdom,
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Speaker 2: and confidently pursue their purpose. His personal journey of recovering
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Speaker 2: from severe PTSD and depression deeply informs his understanding of
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Speaker 2: healing and resilience. He coaches heart centered professionals, therapists, and
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Speaker 2: thought leaders to confidently share their work by refining their
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Speaker 2: message and expanding their visibility without sacrificing authenticity. His Levels
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Speaker 2: of Visibility quiz helps professionals understand their current stage and
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Speaker 2: the necessary steps to reach more people with their valuable work.
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Speaker 2: Integrating inner critic transformation, authentic communication, and conscious marketing, his
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Speaker 2: expertise has gained significant traction. He has over two million
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Speaker 2: views on TikTok in twenty twenty four, and he features
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Speaker 2: in publications like Men's Health Magazine Australia and lad Bible.
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Speaker 2: As the host of the Beyond Turning Points podcasts, Ash
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Speaker 2: explores the transformative moments that shape lives and the subsequent
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Speaker 2: journeys of walking one's true path, and you can find
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Speaker 2: out more about him if you go to his website,
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Speaker 2: I'm Going to for everybody since we're on Radio A
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Speaker 2: Welcome Ash, thanks so much for being here with me today.
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Speaker 3: Thank you for the wonderful introduction.
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Speaker 2: Oh you're welcome. I love the accent. So he's calling
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Speaker 2: all the way in from Australia today to be Or
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Speaker 2: what time is it where you are? By the way,
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Speaker 2: is it it's night? Right?
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Speaker 3: Oh it's morning. It's just going past six am.
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Speaker 2: Oh my god. Well I really appreciate you show me up.
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Speaker 2: I don't do anything at six am except for sleep.
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Speaker 2: So thank you so much. Oh good, good, So Ash,
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Speaker 2: So tell tell everybody a little bit of your background.
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Speaker 2: And obviously you had a near death experience with completely
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Speaker 2: shifted your life. So can you share what you were
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Speaker 2: doing before and what happened and how this changed you.
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Speaker 3: So before that, before my new death experience, life was hard.
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Speaker 3: I was always trying to work life out. I was
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Speaker 3: doing my best and I was best to be kind,
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Speaker 3: help other people live a life of just being happy.
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Speaker 3: But it wasn't working. And so to go back even
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Speaker 3: further in two thousand and five, my ex wife and
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Speaker 3: I all together then, but we had a stillborn daughter
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Speaker 3: together and it was up until that point, you know,
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Speaker 3: I'd been this enthusiastic young man, full of life and possibilities,
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Speaker 3: and that experience really rocked me. And there was a
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Speaker 3: moment where I was holding my daughter and she was
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Speaker 3: so perfect in my arm, so it was as if
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Speaker 3: she had been made on my arms. I was looking
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Speaker 3: down at her and my wife was crying next to me,
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Speaker 3: and I thought, I'm never going to let anything bad
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Speaker 3: happened to my family ever. Again, that was the moment
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Speaker 3: PTSD got locked in. It was like a glitch that
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Speaker 3: happened in my brain where it just went, Okay, we
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Speaker 3: must protect, we must protect. Wee being me right. But
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Speaker 3: it was this anxiety that was the starting point. But
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Speaker 3: it developed very gradually over a few years. And after
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Speaker 3: three years, I wasn't sleeping. I was obsessed with making
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Speaker 3: money on the internet, and it was all about trying
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Speaker 3: to protect my family. Except I didn't have any emotional
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Speaker 3: intelligence then. I'd never done any therapy. I knew much
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Speaker 3: about anything as far as the emotional and spiritual world went,
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Speaker 3: and so that compounded and it led me down this
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Speaker 3: road of ending up mental health clinics and on pharmaceutical antidepressants.
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Speaker 3: And this whole process of questioning my life, but also
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Speaker 3: this sense of there's something wrong with me. Sure, yeah,
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Speaker 3: And so I gradually began to recover from that, and
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Speaker 3: then I still had severe depression. And I got to
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Speaker 3: this point where the relationship had broken up and life
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Speaker 3: had moved on, and I had a new partner and
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Speaker 3: we had a blended family, and life was still hard
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Speaker 3: and I interestingly, I love surfing, and I haven't been
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Speaker 3: able to surf for over ten years now because I
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Speaker 3: developed a back injury. There was a particular day where
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Speaker 3: I was standing on the edge of the water. The
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Speaker 3: surf was fantastic and there's nobody else out and I thought, okay,
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Speaker 3: I'm going to grab my board, and I heard this
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Speaker 3: voice in my head and it was like God's voice.
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Speaker 3: It said, if you go surfing today, you will hurt
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Speaker 3: your back.
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Speaker 2: Oh wow.
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Speaker 3: And I didn't like my job and I said, bring
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Speaker 3: it on, and so I started paddling out. It was crazy.
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Speaker 3: The universe gives you a very clear message.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, delivery, bring it on.
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Speaker 3: I see. So if there's anything anyone gets from this call,
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Speaker 3: if the universe gives you a message and you say
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Speaker 3: bring it on, hold on, right, I started paddling out.
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Speaker 3: I duck dived through the first wave, and then I
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Speaker 3: went to duck dives through the second wave, and I
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Speaker 3: popped two discs in my back, which if anyone that's
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Speaker 3: had a back injury like that, it's extraordinary pain. And
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Speaker 3: so that let me down this road where I was
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Speaker 3: in a lot of pain for a year and a
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Speaker 3: half and my discs disintegrated in my back and I
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Speaker 3: ultimately made the choice to go in for back surgery.
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Speaker 3: And then during the surgery, the surgeons tore a vein
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Speaker 3: and they were unaware that they had torn a vein,
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Speaker 3: and it was it was a simple thing to overlook
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Speaker 3: because they were operating on my lower back, but the
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Speaker 3: vein tour and my groin, so they were unaware that
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Speaker 3: that had happened. And then they stitched me up and
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Speaker 3: sent me back to the ward and I bled out
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Speaker 3: internally for sixteen hours, and then the next morning is
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Speaker 3: when I had my near death experience.
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Speaker 2: Wow, oh my god. Well, first of all, I want
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Speaker 2: to say, I'm so sorry about your daughter who was stillborn.
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Speaker 2: I can only imagine the trauma that that caused for
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Speaker 2: you and your act. I mean I can't. I actually
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Speaker 2: for a little while, volunteered for an organization called Now
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Speaker 2: I lay me down to sleep because I'm a photographer,
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Speaker 2: and I would photograph babies that were still born so
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Speaker 2: the parents could bring something home with them because a
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Speaker 2: lot of people you don't get to come home obviously
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Speaker 2: with their baby and their room is already and how
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Speaker 2: traumatic that is. So I did that for a little while,
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Speaker 2: and it was very humbling. It was a very humbling experience.
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Speaker 2: So I can just imagine what that trajectory that it
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Speaker 2: sent you on and the surfing. I'm not surprised that
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Speaker 2: after everything that you've gone you were going through that
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Speaker 2: you just said bring it on and this cause of
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Speaker 2: that whole trajectory. So what happened? What did you see
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Speaker 2: in your near death experience or what did you experience?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, So the initially what happened was that a
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Speaker 3: physio came in to get me up for rehab and
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Speaker 3: I'd been in a lot of pain that night and
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Speaker 3: I looked down at my leg and it was very swollen.
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Speaker 3: It was about double the size of what it would
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Speaker 3: normally be. And he was just young and likely just
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Speaker 3: out of college, and I said to him, my leg
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Speaker 3: is not normally like this. He said, you'll be fine,
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Speaker 3: just hop up. So I stood up and then I
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Speaker 3: collapsed on the bed. He pressed the red button and
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Speaker 3: the siren went off and the Code Blue team came in.
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Speaker 3: And at this stage, I'm still conscious. I'm thinking everything's
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Speaker 3: going to be okay. You know, things happen, and you know,
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Speaker 3: after what I've already been through my life, I was like, okay,
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Speaker 3: we'll get through this, right, And so they put the
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Speaker 3: oxygen mask on me and they're trying to attach the
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Speaker 3: ECG monitors, but my body is just in this cold
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Speaker 3: sweat and they're having a lot of difficulty attaching the monitors.
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Speaker 3: And then they start talking about what's happening, and they say,
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Speaker 3: he doesn't have a pulse, he's not breathing, keep your
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Speaker 3: eyes open, stay with us, Ash, And initially I'm like, okay, okay,
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Speaker 3: I'll get through this, and I'm hyper aware of where
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Speaker 3: everybody is in the room. It's a quite interesting experience
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Speaker 3: to look back on and have that awareness of what
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Speaker 3: was happening and the clarity of what was happening extraordinary,
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Speaker 3: extraordinary and also no pain, zero pain, as this is
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Speaker 3: all happening. So they then they start talking about my
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Speaker 3: blood pressure and I hear them say his blood pressure
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Speaker 3: is fifty two on thirty six. Oh wow, yeah, And
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Speaker 3: I thought, oh, I'm dying. This is dying. I'm dying
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Speaker 3: right now. And I say, call my partner, Call my partner,
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Speaker 3: and somebody runs out of the room and they're saying,
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Speaker 3: keep your eyes open, ash, stay with us. And then
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Speaker 3: I had this thought, nobody I love is here in
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Speaker 3: the room with me, and I just had the most
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Speaker 3: extraordinary wave of sadness. He just I thought, Oh, I'm dying,
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Speaker 3: and no one I love is here. And it was
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Speaker 3: so such a deep moment of sadness and realization that
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Speaker 3: I'd been keeping people at arm's length, not in this moment,
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Speaker 3: but in life because of the judgment of myself and
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Speaker 3: how I was in the world. And then I started
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Speaker 3: to black out. And the last thing I remember was
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Speaker 3: looking in the corner and I saw the physio standing
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Speaker 3: there and he was just pale with fear, and I thought,
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Speaker 3: your poor guy, you think you've killed me.
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Speaker 2: Hah.
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Speaker 3: So then I blacked out. And my experience with blacking
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Speaker 3: out it wasn't like what would normally happen if someone
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Speaker 3: fainted or or passed out and so normally people wake
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Speaker 3: up and go what happened? Whereas I became these ripples,
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Speaker 3: And it was as if these ripples were just going out. Infinitely,
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Speaker 3: the ripples were me. I was the ripples. There was
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Speaker 3: no separation, and there was just this deep understanding that
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Speaker 3: I was one with these ripples. And I was really
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Speaker 3: surprised that I had conscious thought and was able to
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Speaker 3: observe these things. And there was also this sense of
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Speaker 3: being myself, and I thought, I thought I'd become like
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Speaker 3: this enlightened Buddha when I die. And so from that
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Speaker 3: my understanding is we all have this unique fingerprint of us,
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Speaker 3: of our soul, and and that's who we are. And
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Speaker 3: once once I blacked out right, the conditioning was starting
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Speaker 3: to fade away. So the experiences of life and how
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Speaker 3: I'd learned to live life and manage life, and they
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Speaker 3: was sliding away, and what I was left with was
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Speaker 3: in essence of myself. Extraordinary to experience that in one's life,
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Speaker 3: and I know people experience that in yoga and meditation
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Speaker 3: and nature, but to experience it in that moment after
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Speaker 3: I had blacked down, was so close to death.
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Speaker 2: It was extraordinary in my impact on my life, so
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Speaker 2: you have no pain. Did you see your body like
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Speaker 2: some people have experienced looking down on what's going on
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Speaker 2: and they're separated from their body. Did you see or
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Speaker 2: feel any beings with you, like your guides or angelic
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Speaker 2: beings or anything like that, or you were just experiencing
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Speaker 2: in the sense that you felt one with everything.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I didn't see any light. I wasn't able
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Speaker 3: to observe remote view or anything or anything like that.
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Speaker 3: It was just me as ripples going out with this
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Speaker 3: absolute surprise that I could still think I still had
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Speaker 3: this awareness.
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Speaker 2: M so what So they obviously were I'm talking with you,
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Speaker 2: so you're back in your body, so they bring you back.
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Speaker 2: And then what started to happen, like how did your
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Speaker 2: mindset shift? Obviously it had a profound effect on you.
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Speaker 3: So as I was those ripples and going out, I
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Speaker 3: said I want to stay, and I started to say
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Speaker 3: I want to stay, and I was repeating I want
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Speaker 3: to stay, I want to stay, and the ripples were
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Speaker 3: just going out and out and out, and I knew
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Speaker 3: that this was still dying. I am still dying. And
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Speaker 3: then I started to see people I wanted to stay for.
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Speaker 3: I want to stay for my partner. I want to
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Speaker 3: stay for the kids, and the ripples are still going out,
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Speaker 3: and I know that I am dying, and I had
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Speaker 3: this sense that it was almost too late, and okay,
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Speaker 3: I felt the warmth come over me and I said,
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Speaker 3: which totally came out of a different place, and I said,
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Speaker 3: I want to stay for the work that I do
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Speaker 3: and walk the planet from my heart. And the instant
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Speaker 3: I expressed that straight back into my body. Open my
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Speaker 3: eyes and they're saying, we've got a poles. He's breathing.
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Speaker 3: I was in level leven pain and I started moaning
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Speaker 3: and screaming, but I was still alive, and it was
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Speaker 3: just that was a turning point for me where oh, okay,
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Speaker 3: I wasn't living from my heart, Otherwise that would not
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Speaker 3: have just happened in that very instant.
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Speaker 4: Interesting.
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Speaker 2: Okay, well, now obviously you're back. You have to recover.
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Speaker 2: So what are you thinking, like, I have to change
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Speaker 2: my whole life. I'm going to do this now. I
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Speaker 2: can't even imagine what your thought process must be like
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Speaker 2: that be after that.
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Speaker 3: Initially, I was so so ill that my focus was
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Speaker 3: to just get back to health and I had lost
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Speaker 3: I'd lost almost half my blood.
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Speaker 2: So oh wow.
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Speaker 3: That took a long time to recover from and there
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Speaker 3: were complications with blood clots and a baseball sized heemotoma
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Speaker 3: developed in my abdomen and it was a It was
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Speaker 3: a very, very, very challenging time and it took me
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Speaker 3: eight months to get back to full time work. But
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Speaker 3: within the first couple of days, I was laying in
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Speaker 3: the ICU and I'm thinking, oh, I wasn't living from
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Speaker 3: my heart, and so I started to process that and
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Speaker 3: thinking what does it mean to live from the heart?
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Speaker 3: M hm? How was I getting it wrong? And that question,
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Speaker 3: what does it mean to live from the heart? That
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Speaker 3: became a driver for me. Whereas, okay, because our questions
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Speaker 3: will often drive our human behaviors, right right, we have
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Speaker 3: a picture in our head where we want to be,
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Speaker 3: and then we have the questions that are going to
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Speaker 3: lead us there. So how do I share more good
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Speaker 3: in the world? So for example, with what you do?
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Speaker 3: How do I impact more people with my book and
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Speaker 3: with my work and with my videos, and so those
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Speaker 3: questions will will drive the behavior. And so my question
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Speaker 3: was what does it mean to live from the heart?
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Speaker 2: That's a good question. What was your question before this? Experience.
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Speaker 2: What was it like to live from my head? Was
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Speaker 2: it ego based? Was it were you blocking your love
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Speaker 2: from coming from giving and coming into your heart?
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Speaker 3: You think that's a great question, Melissa. I was trying
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Speaker 3: to make everyone else happy. So I was trying to
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Speaker 3: second guess what everybody else needed, what everybody else wanted,
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Speaker 3: and then thinking that I would be happy from doing
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Speaker 3: that for them, or so instead of listening to my
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Speaker 3: guidancestead of saying, hey, don't go surfing today, right, you know,
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Speaker 3: because I was in pain and the pain there was
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Speaker 3: emotional pain that you know from I had a beautiful upbringing,
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Speaker 3: but we all have pain. We all have these little
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Speaker 3: micro traumas or significant shows. And the pattern that I
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Speaker 3: had incorporated was make everybody else happy, don't have people
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Speaker 3: unhappy with you. Of course that's this mouse wheel that
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Speaker 3: you're just never going to get there.
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Speaker 2: No, you're never going to get there, and then what
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Speaker 2: starts to happen is resentment builds, right.
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Speaker 3: M hm hm, yes, And so that was playing out
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Speaker 3: of my relationships where I didn't feel valued because I
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Speaker 3: had done X, but then I didn't receive why, and
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Speaker 3: it was just you know, so there was a lot
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Speaker 3: to do with me in the way that I was
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Speaker 3: relating because I was thinking that people should appreciate me
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Speaker 3: for doing what I was doing. Mm hmmm, because and
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Speaker 3: it wasn't coming from a place of I'm going to
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Speaker 3: use the word purpose right, coming from a place of purpose.
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Speaker 3: And so for me, what I understand as purpose now
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Speaker 3: is that that comes effortlessly from a place of me
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Speaker 3: being happy and healthy, connected to my heart right, connected
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Speaker 3: to me intuition and my guidance. When I come from
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Speaker 3: that place, purpose is easy. I naturally help people. So
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Speaker 3: if I can be happy and healthy first, then I'm
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Speaker 3: going to have a lot of clarity on how to
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Speaker 3: move forward in life.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So what question do you ask yourself now if
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Speaker 2: some a situation or an experience comes up, do you
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Speaker 2: say to yourself while doing this, make me happy? Like
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Speaker 2: for anybody who's listening, Like, what are the some of
23:31
Speaker 2: the questions we should be asking ourselves to live from
23:35
Speaker 2: our heart?
23:38
Speaker 3: Well, So one thing I guess rather than and I
23:41
Speaker 3: know I mentioned happy, it's in my I've got my
23:45
Speaker 3: hands in front of me and I'm making a circle, right,
23:47
Speaker 3: I'm like fulfillment. Yeah, Yes, when life is fulfilling, it
23:52
Speaker 3: can be challenging. Sure, yeah, yeah, but there's still and
23:57
Speaker 3: there's moments of absolute devastation and challenge, and that that's
24:01
Speaker 3: a full life. So my way that I make decisions
24:09
Speaker 3: and go forward now is mostly checking in with my guidance.
24:13
Speaker 3: In the past, it was my head making the decisions.
24:17
Speaker 3: So for me, my guidance can be my own intuition.
24:21
Speaker 3: Or I talked about my stillborn daughter. Her name is Lucy.
24:24
Speaker 3: I have a little angel there called Lucy, and she's
24:28
Speaker 3: always in my corner and it's like, keep going, dad,
24:30
Speaker 3: keep going, dad. And then I've been blessed over the
24:34
Speaker 3: last few years to have other guides come in and
24:38
Speaker 3: guide me, and so I can ask right and I
24:41
Speaker 3: can also check in with my body's wisdom. So a
24:45
Speaker 3: little strategy for anyone that's listening is that you can
24:51
Speaker 3: tap into your own body's wisdom at any time. And
24:54
Speaker 3: a good way to learn what that is is tune
25:00
Speaker 3: into the sensations of your body. And so just take
25:03
Speaker 3: a moment where you're on your own and then say
25:07
Speaker 3: out loud. For example, you say someone else's name, so
25:12
Speaker 3: I might say my name is Melissa. When I say that,
25:16
Speaker 3: my personal my body has a reaction when I say
25:22
Speaker 3: my body is when I say my name is Ash,
25:25
Speaker 3: there's a different sensation in my body. Right. So that's
25:28
Speaker 3: a really simple way that people can tune into their
25:31
Speaker 3: own guidance. Is what's a yes, what's a no, and
25:35
Speaker 3: you will get a sensation. So one of my clients
25:37
Speaker 3: I was working with last week is he when it's
25:40
Speaker 3: a yes, he feels this warmth and his abdomen. When
25:44
Speaker 3: mine is a yes, I get tingles up the back
25:46
Speaker 3: of my neck. And when I know, I get a
25:50
Speaker 3: sinking feeling in my body.
25:52
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I know what you mean. Because when I
25:55
Speaker 2: get a yes, a real strong yes, I get goosebumps.
26:00
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26:02
Speaker 1: I do.
26:02
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26:04
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Speaker 2: I was thinking during the break about how there is
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Speaker 2: this change, such a significant change after your near death experience,
29:05
Speaker 2: and we were talking about tapping in with our bodies,
29:09
Speaker 2: you know, to know that we're connecting with our heart
29:13
Speaker 2: instead of living out of our heads, living out of
29:14
Speaker 2: our hearts. How has that specifically changed your life now
29:23
Speaker 2: that you lead from your heart?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, fantastic questions. Listen. So that what happened was after
29:34
Speaker 3: I got our hospital. So I was in hospital for
29:36
Speaker 3: three weeks, two weeks after that, the relationship I was
29:40
Speaker 3: in fell apart.
29:43
Speaker 2: Wow.
29:44
Speaker 3: Yeah, we had been together for five years. It had
29:47
Speaker 3: been very challenging for a few years, and we cared
29:51
Speaker 3: about each other or doing our best. But it was
29:54
Speaker 3: time for it to end. And it was like, couldn't
29:58
Speaker 3: stop it from ending, even though I'd spent the last
30:01
Speaker 3: few years trying, you know. And so it just ended,
30:05
Speaker 3: and my daughter and I we moved out, and I
30:10
Speaker 3: had very few possessions because I'd sold them all to
30:12
Speaker 3: move into this house for this relationship, and so my
30:17
Speaker 3: health was very poor. I had very few possessions and
30:20
Speaker 3: just other than my daughter's toys and her bedroom and
30:24
Speaker 3: things like that. And so the life started from zero,
30:28
Speaker 3: you know, not quite zero. I had the greatest gift
30:31
Speaker 3: in my daughter, who was born eleven months after Lucy,
30:37
Speaker 3: and so.
30:39
Speaker 1: It was.
30:41
Speaker 3: Like the universe just went, huh, You're going to learn
30:43
Speaker 3: to live in from your heart by having nothing to
30:46
Speaker 3: start with. And so I just kept thinking to myself,
30:52
Speaker 3: am I making this decision from my heart and not
30:55
Speaker 3: really knowing what that even meant? By just working it
30:59
Speaker 3: out right, like we do with life, we're just taking
31:01
Speaker 3: the next step and working it out so my relationship
31:06
Speaker 3: that had had ended, and I had done this work
31:11
Speaker 3: which it's all over the world. It's called the Path
31:13
Speaker 3: of Love, which is a retreat, and so I had
31:18
Speaker 3: done some of their small weekend work and I thought,
31:22
Speaker 3: I know where I'm going to learn to live from
31:23
Speaker 3: my heart. I'm going to go to the Path of
31:26
Speaker 3: Love and it's a week long retreat. So you know,
31:31
Speaker 3: I went there. I was still in like a full
31:33
Speaker 3: leg stocking from blood clot and was still recovering from
31:37
Speaker 3: back surgery, and my health wasn't amazing, but I just
31:41
Speaker 3: had the most beautiful experience of connecting to my heart
31:46
Speaker 3: and what that meant and working through things from the
31:50
Speaker 3: past and learning how to connect with other people and
31:54
Speaker 3: be vulnerable but also hold other people in their vulnerability.
31:58
Speaker 3: And it was extraordinary, extraordinary, And so that work really
32:03
Speaker 3: I thought, Okay, I'm going to do this work for
32:06
Speaker 3: the next twelve months, and so I committed to myself
32:11
Speaker 3: to that work of the heart. And in that process,
32:15
Speaker 3: I met my now wife, and so we've been together
32:19
Speaker 3: for eight years and it's that so my relationship change.
32:27
Speaker 3: And then a couple of years down the track, so
32:30
Speaker 3: I was a school teacher and I was teaching music,
32:34
Speaker 3: and one day I was leaving work and I thought, oh,
32:39
Speaker 3: everything's in place, and I'm so content. And then the
32:43
Speaker 3: voice of God came back in my head and ed
32:47
Speaker 3: it said it's time to play bigger, it's time to
32:50
Speaker 3: move on. And I just I remember just sitting in
32:53
Speaker 3: the car saying, you're joking, You're kidding. I can't believe it.
32:59
Speaker 3: I can't believe Are you serious? Yeah, And so I'm
33:04
Speaker 3: not surprised. Yeah, And of course I was open this
33:08
Speaker 3: time though. Okay, I'm not sure what to do, but
33:12
Speaker 3: I'm over. Okay, please don't hurty, Oh my god.
33:19
Speaker 2: Well, you know, I'm not surprised because I know from
33:22
Speaker 2: my own experience and from other people that I've talked to,
33:25
Speaker 2: when we make these decisions to change something super significant,
33:30
Speaker 2: like deciding to live from your heart or wanting to
33:34
Speaker 2: raise your vibration or level up your life right, things
33:39
Speaker 2: will fall away that are no longer an energetic match
33:42
Speaker 2: to that. So it doesn't surprise me actually that your
33:46
Speaker 2: relationship before your wife fell fell apart when you made
33:50
Speaker 2: that decision because it had to for you to live
33:54
Speaker 2: authentically of where you wanted to be, and that happens
33:58
Speaker 2: with jobs, careers, money, homes, relationships, families. I mean, it's
34:03
Speaker 2: it's crazy. It's like when we say we're going to
34:07
Speaker 2: take this on, I do think God says, are you sure?
34:12
Speaker 2: Are you sure? Are you ready? Because it's not going
34:15
Speaker 2: to be all rainbows and butterflies like people think.
34:20
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have a saying that commitment leads to more commitment.
34:26
Speaker 3: You think you think you're in, right, you think you're
34:29
Speaker 3: in this relationship, or guess what, how committed are you?
34:33
Speaker 3: You think you're in for this work of the heart? Well,
34:35
Speaker 3: guess what, how committed are you? And so there's also
34:40
Speaker 3: this yeah, and I love this idea that which came
34:44
Speaker 3: to me one day was that the angels they're always watching, right,
34:50
Speaker 3: and it's like they're they're there, they're watching, they're watching
34:53
Speaker 3: with love. But what's required is for you to step
34:57
Speaker 3: into your warrior. Right, So they're watching with love when
35:02
Speaker 3: you step into the warrior of your commitment and advocate
35:07
Speaker 3: for yourself through your actions and your discipline, which could
35:11
Speaker 3: be no substances or meditation or whatever that might be
35:17
Speaker 3: for whoever's listening. When you step into the warrior and
35:22
Speaker 3: you really commit to the warrior, and keep showing up.
35:25
Speaker 3: Then the angels actually come down with the rewards.
35:31
Speaker 2: I like that. I never heard thought of it or
35:33
Speaker 2: heard it described that way, but I do. I like that.
35:36
Speaker 2: Become your own warrior. So going off of that, what
35:40
Speaker 2: do you think and you work with clients one online?
35:44
Speaker 2: And do you work with groups? Also?
35:48
Speaker 3: Not at the moment, I am just about to start
35:51
Speaker 3: a group for Heart Center and professionals with their social media,
35:55
Speaker 3: which for me it seems crazy, right, But that's where
35:58
Speaker 3: guidance has led me. Because what happened was that my
36:03
Speaker 3: guide had started saying, you need to share the story,
36:07
Speaker 3: and I was like, no, I don't want to be
36:10
Speaker 3: out speaking and sharing the story. People are going to
36:13
Speaker 3: think I'm crazy. I don't want to do this. Yeah,
36:17
Speaker 3: so but of course, okay, I get it.
36:21
Speaker 2: Don't hurt me, right, I'm being calm to do this.
36:24
Speaker 2: So that's what I never got to finish. What I
36:27
Speaker 2: wanted to My question was why do you think we
36:32
Speaker 2: are from your one on ones or most of the
36:35
Speaker 2: people that you're meeting in your journey. Why are we
36:37
Speaker 2: always getting in our own way? Because I really think
36:41
Speaker 2: we get in our own way.
36:44
Speaker 3: It's such an interesting balance between our let's say our
36:49
Speaker 3: soul and our soul mission and our humanness and say, okay,
36:54
Speaker 3: we're getting in our own way because of what we think.
36:58
Speaker 3: Where does thought? Where we do We think that that's
37:01
Speaker 3: in the brain, right, consciousness, which is outside, But there's
37:06
Speaker 3: thought that is in the brain, and that's come from
37:08
Speaker 3: our conditioning, and it's come from our DNA, right, and
37:11
Speaker 3: so it's been programmed into our DNA through our ancestors.
37:16
Speaker 3: Is that Okay, how do we become free? How do
37:20
Speaker 3: we experience free with the intensity of emotions and conditioning
37:25
Speaker 3: that we have.
37:28
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's a and that's a big question because
37:32
Speaker 2: you're going to get you're going to get some some
37:37
Speaker 2: serious answers. And that's why it's good to have somebody
37:41
Speaker 2: to work with to help you find clarity. Because I
37:45
Speaker 2: think a lot of us, many of us, or at
37:49
Speaker 2: least at certain times in our lives, we see ourselves
37:53
Speaker 2: very differently than the world sees us. And you know,
37:57
Speaker 2: we have a lot of anxieties, a lot of fears.
38:00
Speaker 2: We hide a lot of who we are because we're afraid.
38:04
Speaker 2: And sometimes the best thing to do is work with
38:07
Speaker 2: somebody that can help us overcome that. Because do you
38:11
Speaker 2: find that most of us are afraid to be seen.
38:15
Speaker 2: I had an ex tell me something like, oh, well,
38:17
Speaker 2: you know when you meet somebody new, their representative shows up.
38:21
Speaker 2: And I thought, well, that's really interesting, right, because that's
38:24
Speaker 2: what we do. Our representative shows up the way we
38:28
Speaker 2: wish we were, the way we try to be. But
38:30
Speaker 2: really we have a lot of stuff we got to
38:32
Speaker 2: work out first to live up to that, to be
38:35
Speaker 2: that person who we want to embody, what do you
38:38
Speaker 2: think about that?
38:40
Speaker 3: So humanity has survived from being in communities. Right, So
38:48
Speaker 3: one person out in the jungle or the desert or
38:51
Speaker 3: trying to catch a wily mammoth, it's not going to
38:53
Speaker 3: go so well, right right, So, but when we're in community,
38:59
Speaker 3: humanity will is much more likely to survive. So we
39:04
Speaker 3: have thought processes to keep us in that community no
39:09
Speaker 3: matter what. All right, So what happens is we worry
39:13
Speaker 3: about what people think. We worry about changing the status
39:18
Speaker 3: quo or changing our role. So, for example, people that
39:22
Speaker 3: want to change careers or what they want, or they
39:24
Speaker 3: want to just put themselves out on social media to say, hey,
39:28
Speaker 3: this is the work that I do now, or this
39:31
Speaker 3: is what I've discovered and can help you. They have
39:34
Speaker 3: to work through that tribal structure that is in their brain,
39:40
Speaker 3: this primal structure holding them in the same place in
39:44
Speaker 3: the tribe. It's a bit like that movie Cruds don't
39:46
Speaker 3: go out of the cave. I don't know if you've
39:49
Speaker 3: seen that as an animated movie, right, and it don't
39:53
Speaker 3: go out of the cave, right, because otherwise you're going
39:56
Speaker 3: to threaten the tribe. So it's actually not about it
40:00
Speaker 3: comes from a place for the tribe, but that was
40:04
Speaker 3: in survival mode. Now in life, we're much more resource
40:09
Speaker 3: than we were one thousand, five thousand, one hundred thousand
40:13
Speaker 3: years ago, but we still have the primal structure that's
40:16
Speaker 3: trying to hold us in the tribe, and so we
40:19
Speaker 3: have to work through that and test out. So it's
40:23
Speaker 3: almost like this confidence comes from knowing ourselves and understanding
40:29
Speaker 3: ourselves then testing ourselves in the world or in conversations
40:35
Speaker 3: with people or whatever it might be. And as we
40:38
Speaker 3: do that, we get feedback that hey, we're okay, where okay,
40:42
Speaker 3: that worked, and so that we're more likely to back ourselves.
40:46
Speaker 3: And as we back ourselves, we learn more about ourselves.
40:50
Speaker 3: And as we learn more about ourselves, we test it
40:52
Speaker 3: out again, and so it creates this beautiful momentum of
40:55
Speaker 3: confidence and courage and that people start getting the moment
41:00
Speaker 3: and some of doing what they want to do.
41:03
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that makes a lot of sense to me.
41:06
Speaker 2: And then this can lead me to this question, because
41:09
Speaker 2: I know you talk a lot about this in your work,
41:12
Speaker 2: our inner critic. How do we handle the inner critic
41:20
Speaker 2: who says to us, let's say we are trying to
41:24
Speaker 2: expand our life or grow in our life. You know,
41:26
Speaker 2: the inner critics says, who do you think you are
41:30
Speaker 2: that you.
41:30
Speaker 3: Can do this?
41:31
Speaker 2: Right? That's what we do to ourselves. Who do you
41:33
Speaker 2: think you are? And it holds us back in a
41:39
Speaker 2: lot of ways because then we'll say, yeah, really, who
41:41
Speaker 2: do I think I am? I can't? And then we
41:43
Speaker 2: you know I can't, I shouldn't, I won't. It's going
41:46
Speaker 2: to upset the apple cart here. It's going to mess
41:49
Speaker 2: up this relationship. How do we maybe say, maybe I
41:55
Speaker 2: talk to my inner critic. That's what works for me,
41:58
Speaker 2: But but how do we work with our inner critic?
42:03
Speaker 3: So if the inni critic didn't serve us, it would
42:08
Speaker 3: have been evolved out over time. Oh interesting like that
42:13
Speaker 3: nature by.
42:14
Speaker 2: I thought about it, never thought about it like that. Okay,
42:16
Speaker 2: tell me more about that.
42:19
Speaker 3: So nature by design evolves out things that aren't beneficial, right, Yeah,
42:26
Speaker 3: So all the people that in the inner critic was
42:30
Speaker 3: ruining their lives, they would have died and not passed
42:33
Speaker 3: it on.
42:34
Speaker 2: Hmm. Okay, true. I never thought like I said, I
42:37
Speaker 2: never even thought about it like that. But yeah, you're right.
42:40
Speaker 3: Okay, so you're getting extreme, right, But so what it
42:44
Speaker 3: wants for us is survival. Okay, Okay, it's the any critic,
42:49
Speaker 3: so what we want to do? And beautiful that you
42:52
Speaker 3: said that you talked to you in a critic, it's okay,
42:56
Speaker 3: what are you saying, like, really with presence and self
43:00
Speaker 3: compassion that you have this part of you that's trying
43:03
Speaker 3: to protect you, and it can be overbearing and it
43:05
Speaker 3: can be very challenging, but you sit down with it,
43:10
Speaker 3: get a pen, or just contemplate with it. Okay, what
43:14
Speaker 3: do you want for me? And then a critic will
43:17
Speaker 3: be well, I don't want you to get hurt. I
43:19
Speaker 3: don't want you to do me embarrassed, right, and ultimately
43:22
Speaker 3: it doesn't want you to harm the tribe. So when
43:27
Speaker 3: you sit down consciously with your inner critic and go, Okay,
43:31
Speaker 3: I know what I'm doing is good for my family
43:35
Speaker 3: or good for me or good for humanity. Okay, well,
43:40
Speaker 3: thank you for your concern. But in a critic, I'm
43:43
Speaker 3: doing this anyway, and you're coming along. You're coming along
43:48
Speaker 3: with me. So then you're embracing all of yourself. Yeah,
43:52
Speaker 3: because if you try and reject the inner critic, you're
43:55
Speaker 3: rejecting part of your human self, and so there's going
43:58
Speaker 3: to be this disharm in your actions as you go forward.
44:02
Speaker 3: Whereas if okay, I have an inner critic, and my
44:05
Speaker 3: inner critic says that I have a stupid Australian accent.
44:09
Speaker 3: It doesn't say that good. But I have an Australian
44:12
Speaker 3: accent that doesn't say that right.
44:13
Speaker 2: But I love Australian accent.
44:20
Speaker 3: So if I can accept that and move forward, going okay,
44:24
Speaker 3: I have an Australian accent. Okay, I'll keep going right,
44:28
Speaker 3: And then that way, then I'm testing it out in
44:30
Speaker 3: the world and I'm getting feedback and I'm backing myself
44:33
Speaker 3: and I'm learning more about myself, and it just creates
44:35
Speaker 3: the cycle again. So the key is the inner critic
44:39
Speaker 3: is trying to protect you. It has a purpose if
44:43
Speaker 3: you listen to it, spend a bit of time with it,
44:46
Speaker 3: and then tell it, guess what, I'm doing this anyway,
44:49
Speaker 3: and you're coming with me. We're going to do this together.
44:53
Speaker 2: Yeah. No, I like that. You said that, and it's true.
44:57
Speaker 2: I never really thought about it until you described it.
45:00
Speaker 2: Is the part of the inner critic is how it
45:02
Speaker 2: affects the tribe. Right, So, if you want to make
45:05
Speaker 2: a big move in this sense, you want to end
45:08
Speaker 2: a relationship, right, And so your inner critic is going because, well,
45:13
Speaker 2: if I end a relationship, how is this going to
45:15
Speaker 2: affect my kids? How is this going to affect the
45:17
Speaker 2: in laws and the parents and this, you know, the
45:21
Speaker 2: siblings and the community and the home and so yeah,
45:24
Speaker 2: I can see how you're thinking of that as how
45:29
Speaker 2: is this inner critic also affecting the tribe? And then
45:33
Speaker 2: working from your heart, tells me, well, if this is
45:37
Speaker 2: what's in my best interest, I have to make this
45:40
Speaker 2: move anyway. I have to make this move anyway because
45:44
Speaker 2: it's in my own best interest, and I have to
45:46
Speaker 2: listen at my heart.
45:48
Speaker 3: Yes. And an extension on that, which was one of
45:50
Speaker 3: my big learnings after the New Death experience. When it's
45:54
Speaker 3: in your best interests, it has a positive impact on
45:57
Speaker 3: everybody in your ecosystem.
46:00
Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes sense, right.
46:01
Speaker 3: The children get a happier mother, right. The in laws,
46:05
Speaker 3: you know, they might be hurt, but ultimately you're creating
46:10
Speaker 3: an opportunity for them to look within themselves and where
46:13
Speaker 3: their happiness is coming on and pressure that they might
46:16
Speaker 3: be putting on others or al ways that they are
46:19
Speaker 3: that pushes people away or brings them in. And so
46:24
Speaker 3: you acting in your best interests, you're the best person
46:27
Speaker 3: to decide that for yourself. Of course, that has it
46:31
Speaker 3: that just I'm trying to find the word. It proliferates
46:36
Speaker 3: out into everybody you interact with, sure, and you know
46:41
Speaker 3: your children get to see a happy version of you
46:44
Speaker 3: rather than someone that's trying to navigate conflict all the time.
46:47
Speaker 2: Absolutely. Oh that's so true, because that's what we do,
46:51
Speaker 2: right We going back to what you said originally, always
46:56
Speaker 2: trying to make everybody else happy, And actually it has
46:59
Speaker 2: the opposite of fact, because when you're not happy, the
47:02
Speaker 2: people that love you around can sense that energetically, even
47:05
Speaker 2: if you're pretending, because you can't really pretend people. People
47:09
Speaker 2: can feel the vibe. I'm convinced of that. You know,
47:12
Speaker 2: I think we think we're pretending, but we're not. But
47:15
Speaker 2: you have because I want to make sure I mention this.
47:18
Speaker 2: Because you have a lot of free access tools and
47:21
Speaker 2: quizzes and stuff on your website. You have something called
47:24
Speaker 2: the free Inner Critic Quiz that helps people do a
47:27
Speaker 2: self assessment that they can find on your website.
47:30
Speaker 3: Correct yes. And so when they do that, they'll be
47:33
Speaker 3: able to see, you know, am I doing what is
47:37
Speaker 3: my primary behaviors that are stopping me from doing what
47:40
Speaker 3: I want? So, for example, self sabotage, self judgment, perfectionism
47:44
Speaker 3: is that. And then they'll go into my email newsletter
47:46
Speaker 3: and they get tips how to work with those aspects
47:49
Speaker 3: as well as a weekly newsletter where I just it's
47:54
Speaker 3: called hot head hand right, and so it's an insight
47:58
Speaker 3: from the heart. It the logical part of that. So
48:03
Speaker 3: because we I'm human with a brain, so let's lurn
48:07
Speaker 3: to the heart. Let's let to the head. And then
48:10
Speaker 3: the hand is the actions. What actions can you say
48:13
Speaker 3: which could be a reflection or anything like that. And
48:16
Speaker 3: the goal is that is this resource that comes to
48:18
Speaker 3: you every week that if you want to you can
48:21
Speaker 3: use it for a reflection and it might be aligned
48:24
Speaker 3: with something that's happening in your life at that time.
48:27
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, absolutely, And I think that and I talk
48:32
Speaker 2: about this and I always say this on my shows
48:35
Speaker 2: with my different guests set. It's it's always an insight job, right,
48:38
Speaker 2: Like you can't people say, oh, I want to change
48:40
Speaker 2: the world, Well, you can't change the world, but you
48:42
Speaker 2: can change the world by changing yourself. Because it does.
48:46
Speaker 2: It has a ripple effect, like you're I'm not I'm
48:49
Speaker 2: not surprised now the more I'm talking to you that
48:51
Speaker 2: your experience, with your near death experience was the ripples.
48:55
Speaker 2: You were extending yourself in ripples, right, because the work
49:00
Speaker 2: you're doing is going out in ripples. And we're talking
49:02
Speaker 2: about the ripple effect here, how our own journey and
49:06
Speaker 2: our own fulfillment affects everybody in our sphere around us,
49:10
Speaker 2: which I love. Yeah, that's just great. And you talk
49:14
Speaker 2: about this a lot on your own podcast, Beyond What
49:16
Speaker 2: is It? Beyond Turning Points, that's the title of your podcast.
49:20
Speaker 3: It is it is And that came about because I
49:24
Speaker 3: just kept meeting all these amazing people and it wasn't
49:28
Speaker 3: the actual event that made the difference in their life,
49:31
Speaker 3: but what they did afterwards. So that's why it's beyond
49:34
Speaker 3: turning points, because stuff can happen, but what are you
49:37
Speaker 3: going to do with it? And so that's the main
49:41
Speaker 3: focus for that podcast, And occasionally I'll do a solo
49:43
Speaker 3: cast where I'll just share something. So one of the
49:46
Speaker 3: last ones was a three ways to Manage a chaotic world. Right,
49:52
Speaker 3: So if people feel like the world is coming at
49:55
Speaker 3: them and it's getting a bit too intense, well, how
49:57
Speaker 3: do you manage that?
50:00
Speaker 2: Yeah? Can you give us a couple of tips, because
50:02
Speaker 2: it's pretty intense, especially if you're living here in the
50:04
Speaker 2: States right now, Oh my lord, the energy you walk
50:08
Speaker 2: out the door here and the energy is yeah, you
50:12
Speaker 2: can cut it with a knife right now. What's going on?
50:15
Speaker 2: And I know that that ripples all around the world.
50:19
Speaker 2: So do you have some tips for us?
50:22
Speaker 3: Well, we all have different roles that we're here for.
50:27
Speaker 3: But one of the insights for me and I see
50:30
Speaker 3: you doing this, is that I'm here to create, not fight, right, Yeah,
50:36
Speaker 3: And so my way of subtly changing the world is
50:41
Speaker 3: through creation. And so when my brain gets into protection
50:47
Speaker 3: mode and starts to fight, no, no, no, no, that's
50:51
Speaker 3: not my role. My role is to change through creating,
50:56
Speaker 3: and so it's a process of letting go and acceptance
50:59
Speaker 3: and that there's only so much I can control in
51:01
Speaker 3: the world, which sometimes I struggle to control myself. So
51:06
Speaker 3: you know, now control though I truly have that, I
51:10
Speaker 3: that I can create and so that that's my focus.
51:13
Speaker 3: That's one of the ways that I manage that.
51:16
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, that's one of the that's the biggest
51:19
Speaker 2: way that I manage it because I have a definitely
51:22
Speaker 2: have a fighting spirit within me, right, and I have
51:26
Speaker 2: to remind myself is this and I'll ask myself this
51:30
Speaker 2: a lot is saying this is going there serving you?
51:35
Speaker 2: What do you expect to get out of it? You
51:37
Speaker 2: can't change other people. You can't make them see things
51:41
Speaker 2: if they're not ready to see them. So how is
51:44
Speaker 2: this benefiting you? And ninety nine point nine percent of
51:47
Speaker 2: the time is it's not? And that will stop me, right,
51:52
Speaker 2: I mean, of course there is that one percent where
51:54
Speaker 2: I'm just like, screw it. I'm saying it anyway. I'm
51:56
Speaker 2: going there anyway because I have to like expel it
51:59
Speaker 2: from my boy. But you're right, you know, learning asking
52:04
Speaker 2: yourself those very very important questions is this serving me?
52:10
Speaker 2: How is this living from my heart? I think it's
52:12
Speaker 2: just such a simple question that everybody can ask themselves
52:16
Speaker 2: every day with the choices that they make.
52:20
Speaker 3: Yes, and beautiful that you have that insight in the
52:25
Speaker 3: If your brain will try and solve whatever problems you
52:30
Speaker 3: give it, yeah, that's its job. It's a tool for
52:33
Speaker 3: solving your problems. So your heart tells you where you
52:36
Speaker 3: want to go, right, this is the guidance your mind
52:41
Speaker 3: is to solve the problem. So if you're on social
52:45
Speaker 3: media or lord watching the news, you're being and your safe.
52:50
Speaker 3: You know, you can hack your social media feeds, so
52:52
Speaker 3: it's more conscious, it's more loving. Sure your mind is
52:56
Speaker 3: going to respond that way. Whereas you know what's happening
53:00
Speaker 3: in the Middle East, you know it's horrific. I know. Yeah,
53:05
Speaker 3: I can send empathy and love and have little microactions.
53:11
Speaker 3: However that conflict for me, it's not mine to solve,
53:15
Speaker 3: but I can love the people that are going through
53:19
Speaker 3: that experience. These absolutely, So being mindful of the inputs
53:25
Speaker 3: that will feed what my mind wants to solve for me.
53:29
Speaker 3: So they're coming back to the question how do I
53:31
Speaker 3: live from my heart? That's what my mind is solving
53:34
Speaker 3: from me and still solves for me. Actually, like it's
53:37
Speaker 3: aligned with the mission of my heart of.
53:40
Speaker 2: Course, of course. I mean it's a journey, right, it's
53:43
Speaker 2: not a destination. We're always learning, we're always growing. So
53:48
Speaker 2: is there anything ash we only have a couple of
53:50
Speaker 2: minutes I see. Is there anything that we didn't get
53:52
Speaker 2: a chance to talk about or anything you're offering or
53:57
Speaker 2: people can find you on your website and out to you.
54:00
Speaker 2: Let everybody know the best way to connect with you.
54:04
Speaker 3: Thanks me listen. So if people resonate they would like
54:08
Speaker 3: to have a conversation about what it's like to work
54:10
Speaker 3: with me one to one, they can contact me through
54:13
Speaker 3: my website. There's lots of free resources there. And my
54:18
Speaker 3: way of operating is that I want you to trust
54:22
Speaker 3: yourself and back yourself and do what it is that
54:25
Speaker 3: you want to do in the world. And so my
54:28
Speaker 3: role is to facilitate you becoming aware of what's stopping
54:32
Speaker 3: and assisting you to move forward, be it connecting to
54:36
Speaker 3: your heart or seeing you in a critic structure, or
54:40
Speaker 3: learning how to do your social media really well so
54:42
Speaker 3: that people connect with it and that you can share
54:45
Speaker 3: your message and your work with the world, because we
54:49
Speaker 3: all have that unique fingerprint that is ourselves, and that's
54:54
Speaker 3: the gift. The more you can be that unique fingerprint
54:56
Speaker 3: in the world, the happy you're going to be.
55:00
Speaker 2: Oh, thank you so much, Ash for being here with
55:02
Speaker 2: me today. And guys, I will have a link to
55:04
Speaker 2: his website in the bio about the show. Thank you
55:08
Speaker 2: so much. It was a really great conversation. I appreciate
55:12
Speaker 2: you coming and joining me today. All right, everybody, thanks
55:15
Speaker 2: for listening to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating
55:19
Speaker 2: the life you crave. And I'm wishing everyone a wonderful
55:21
Speaker 2: week filled with joy, abundance and love. Peace,