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The Daily Mess Why Do We Remember The Bad First Plus Retraining Our MInd To Feel Positive · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: when you start researching for answers such as does the
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  Speaker 1: average person remember more of their bad times than good? Plus?
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  Speaker 1: How can we retrain our brain to take note of
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  Speaker 1: the good times? My name is Erro. I'm a daily writer,
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  Speaker 1: a chronological walk through an everyday world. It is my
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  Speaker 1: morning writing as a receiver of thoughts and ideas. We
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  Speaker 1: as people tend to naturally throw things to the side
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  Speaker 1: because we're convinced that we're going to deal with it
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  Speaker 1: later on. Not true at all. When a subject arrives
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  Speaker 1: the picture becomes clearer. This is the daily mess. Do
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  Speaker 1: most people only remember their bad times versus you know
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  Speaker 1: those good moments? All right, here's the cold hard facts.
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  Speaker 1: We as a generation find it easier to call up
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  Speaker 1: a bad memory. I'm talking pretty dang fast. But but
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  Speaker 1: but but it's not wearing a label that's screaming I'm
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  Speaker 1: the only one. The negative bias has a good time
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  Speaker 1: with our daily behavior. We can blame this method of
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  Speaker 1: remembering the bad first on survival wiring. Our brains prioritize threats.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it loves to deep dive in the way
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  Speaker 1: of trying to figure out what the hell went wrong here. Plus,
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  Speaker 1: let's not leave out a much stronger emotion imprint such
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  Speaker 1: as pain, fear, and embarrassment. Oh, that's going to activate
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  Speaker 1: the brain. That's when your inner problem solver says, I
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  Speaker 1: got this, I got this. Everybody, calm down. I'm here,
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  Speaker 1: I'm here. The mind endlessly plays negative things over and
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  Speaker 1: over again, and the inner problem solver things. I'm here,
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  Speaker 1: I got it, I got it, Back it down, back
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  Speaker 1: it down. Well, here's the thing. Over time, people will
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  Speaker 1: experience a better feeling. It's called the fading effect bias.
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  Speaker 1: That's when your negative emotions start to fade faster than
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  Speaker 1: the good times. In short terms, your bad feelings, they're
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  Speaker 1: not going to be so loud anymore, and it usually
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  Speaker 1: loses out to winning, which is a positive. So hold
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  Speaker 1: on tight. Change is on the way. But how well,
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  Speaker 1: that's what we're going to talk about next. How do
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  Speaker 1: you retrain your freakin' brain to look at the good times? Hey,
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  Speaker 1: thanks for coming back to the daily mess. How do
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  Speaker 1: you retrain the brain to take note of the good
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  Speaker 1: times without creating a fake positive? Oh, this is a
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  Speaker 1: very real deal here. The brain naturally tilts toward being negative.
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  Speaker 1: The daily goal isn't to override your emotions with a
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  Speaker 1: fake positive, which I call a candy coated plastic bathroom mirror. Smile,
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  Speaker 1: get rid of it. Your mind and heart are constantly
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  Speaker 1: working and rebalancing attention, which allows better times to be registered.
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  Speaker 1: We aren't pausing in the right place. What y'all say
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  Speaker 1: that again? We are not pausing in the right places.
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  Speaker 1: A compliment is shared, and what do we usually do
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  Speaker 1: instantly throw it to the side. Ah, that was fun.
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  Speaker 1: That was a jolt of celebration. Wooo. But we don't
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  Speaker 1: do a pause, We don't take one. No, we take
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  Speaker 1: it in and just keep moving on. You gotta let
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  Speaker 1: your body feel this stuff. Man, This strengthens your neuro
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  Speaker 1: pathway without pretending that you are bigger and larger than
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  Speaker 1: the situation that's really taking place. I mean, it's okay
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  Speaker 1: to say, hey, I gotta get my balance in order. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so how am I gonna do that? You see how
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  Speaker 1: that is? Oh my god, I'm freaking out. Oh my
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  Speaker 1: balance is off. Well, then figure it out. There's your balance.
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  Speaker 1: Have the opposite side. If you take the time to
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  Speaker 1: practice this, your body isn't going to hold on to
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  Speaker 1: just the bad stuff. I mean that good stuff is
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  Speaker 1: knocking on your heart saying come on, give me some love,
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  Speaker 1: give me some light, and you're gonna start registering the
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  Speaker 1: oh wow moments I marrow