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164 // 5 Ways to Feel Less Overwhelmed with ADHD · ADHD with Confidence | Overcome Anxiety & Self-Doubt, Christian ADHD Coach, ADHD in Women

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  As women with ADHD, it's easy to feel overwhelmed,
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  whether that's something that requires executive functioning,
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  whether we are just trying to get through day-to-day, but there are also a few
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  sneaky ways that deplete our energy and exhaust us.
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  So today I want to give you five quick tips that you can use to feel less overwhelmed with ADHD.
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  Give you the strategies to build God-centered confidence so you can know in
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  your heart that you do belong.
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  You are enough and you are made on purpose and with a purpose.
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  Hey, I'm Kelsey Spronk, fellow ADHD mom and entrepreneur. Join me in building confidence so you can.
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  Hey friends, welcome to the ADHD with Confidence podcast. I'm your host, Kelsey.
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  And today I'm going to give you five quick tips that you can use to feel less overwhelmed with ADHD.
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  Number one, often something that exhausts us that uses a lot of our energy is actually internal.
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  It's in our minds. It's in our thoughts. When we fail or feel like we failed
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  or been rejected, What is it that we say about ourselves?
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  So I want us to bring down the inner critic that we have inside of us.
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  And part of that just takes practice. It takes practice to tell a different
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  story, to ask yourself, is there another way of looking at this?
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  Some examples could be something like comparison.
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  Not comparing yourself to other people and their journeys, not knowing how much
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  support they have, how much sleep they've had, what kind of life they've come
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  from, what they're working with,
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  or even genuinely how they're doing.
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  Comparison doesn't ever really work because we never truly know the whole story,
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  but also because it steals the joy of our own journey.
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  We can't focus on our own journey when we're so busy comparing to somebody else's.
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  Another aspect of comparison is not comparing,
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  to who you used to be at a different time in life, maybe before you had kids,
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  maybe when you were in a more stable relationship, maybe when you were in a
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  different job, maybe when your health was different or better.
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  We can't live in this place of comparison to a former version of ourselves without
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  robbing ourselves of the joy and the opportunity that we have in front of us right now.
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  Another part is comparison to who we thought we would be,
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  once again this is going to be exhausting when we're constantly comparing ourselves,
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  to ourselves as who we think we should be who we thought we should be or to somebody else,
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  it's so helpful and can save you so much energy when you are able to say this
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  is my own journey this is the one i want to focus on nobody is going to be perfect
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  i'm not going to be perfect that's okay it's about learning it's about progress
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  it's about growth not about perfection or some specific end goal,
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  the other part of this first piece here with that inner critic is quieting the voice of shame.
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  And part of this is something that I teach in this podcast.
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  And through coaching as well, if you're interested in one-on-one coaching to
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  help with this, you can go to ADHDwithconfidence.com forward slash offerings
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  and book a free intake call.
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  But this piece here with shame, when we feel like we aren't good enough,
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  maybe something happens and we start to put ourselves down and say, we aren't good enough.
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  We're stupid. We're a failure. Of course, you don't have friends,
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  whatever that inner critic is for you.
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  One of the ways to quiet that voice is to recognize how God sees you,
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  the worth that you genuinely have, no matter what you have or haven't done.
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  And that worth is unchanging of being made,
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  in His image, being a daughter of God, having that worth, being created with
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  a purpose and on purpose, not by accident, not a mistake, not wrong,
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  not deficient, not any of those things.
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  But exactly as he wanted you to be, and then learning who you are.
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  And that's something that we work on a lot here is discovering your unique ADHD
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  brain, your strengths, but also unique to you. What are you passionate about?
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  What do you feel is a purpose in your life? How can you help love and serve
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  other people? Because I guarantee you, you do have strengths.
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  You do have things to offer you can become this whole healthy version of yourself,
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  the second tip I have in Matthew 11 28-30 Jesus says come to me all you who
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  are weary and burdened and I will give you rest,
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  take my yoke upon you and learn from me for I am gentle and humble in heart
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  and you will find rest for your souls for my yoke is easy and my burden is light.
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  The second one is so important. At the end of the day,
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  when we are feeling overwhelmed, we're feeling exhausted, depleted,
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  we need to come to Jesus because He is the one who's actually going to replenish our energy.
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  It's so easy to turn to self-help books and try to do some of these worldly things.
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  And I think sometimes God can use some of those, but we also need to learn,
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  a dependence on God and a dependence on seeking Him, setting that time aside
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  to prayer journal or pray or read your Bible, whatever it is,
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  and making that a priority.
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  Because at the end of the day, when other stuff comes up, our worth needs to
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  be grounded in something that is unchanging.
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  It's not dependent on something that fluctuates, like our mood or how much sleep we got.
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  How accomplished we feel.
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  So that is number two for feeling less overwhelmed. Number three,
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  I mentioned this a little bit earlier, but finding ways to use your gifts,
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  your skills in your life,
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  find something purposeful, something creative, something meaningful that you
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  can engage in in your life.
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  And I find that that can combat that overwhelm by giving you that sense of purpose,
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  by giving you that sense of meaning, and by choosing something that is going
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  to be life-giving for you.
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  Number four is knowing what matters to you.
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  So what I mean by this is knowing what matters to you because otherwise our
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  thoughts and our actions, they can be all over the place.
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  We can just be reacting to what's happening in our lives and end up feeling
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  like life is happening to us instead of feeling like we are living with intentionality.
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  And it feels so much less overwhelming when we live our lives with intention
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  and a part of that is letting go of perfectionism,
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  that's number five letting go of perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking realizing
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  that we are going to learn throughout the journey we're going to grow we are
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  going to make mistakes and that's okay,
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  nobody is perfect but when we know what matters to us it helps guide the trajectory
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  of our life, if we know that having quality time with our spouse or our kids is really important,
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  we're going to make decisions around that.
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  It doesn't mean that we necessarily know within that how we're going to do that.
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  Once again, this is something that coaching can help with is helping you figure
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  out how to put those habits and systems in place.
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  So if that's something that you need help with, ADHDwithconfidence.com forward slash offerings.
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  But knowing what matters to you, what is life-giving for you,
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  what you want to focus on in your life, because otherwise we can end up just scrambling.
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  Like picture a bunch of little ants running around, you know,
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  shuffling here and there, not knowing what we're doing.
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  It can make us feel exhausted and depleted and overwhelmed without any kind
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  of purpose, without any kind of direction to it.
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  And that can be really discouraging, feeling like we're wasting our time,
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  we're wasting our energy.
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  Whereas when we know what we want we know what matters to us it helps guide
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  what direction we're going in which helps guide our decisions,
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  our goals our strategies which is going to help guide how we're going to fill
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  out our daily planner i have a daily planner that i can link below as well,
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  it helps guide the way we spend our time and we can feel more of a sense of,
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  control about living intentionally instead of feeling like life is happening to us.
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  I hope you have found at least one of these ways helpful to feel less overwhelmed.
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  Don't feel like you have to do all of them.
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  If you want to add one, if you want to take away a few of them,
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  you do you, whatever it is you find helpful.
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  Thank you so much for taking the time to be with me here today.
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  I look forward to the next episode. Until then, God bless.