Self-Abandonment: Why You Keep Doing It and What It's Costing You

The Lulu Essey Podcast · Apr 9, 2026 · 15m

Self-abandonment is why Self-Love does not stick. If you keep saying yes when you mean no, staying quiet when you have something to say, or pushing through when your body is begging you to stop, this episode names exactly what that pattern is, where it comes from, and what it is costing you.

Self-abandonment disguises itself as kindness, humility, and being low-maintenance. Most of us never question it because it looks so much like virtue from the outside. In this episode I break down what self-abandonment actually is, why it is a learned survival response and not a character weakness, what…