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Hot Takes with the Murphman - Ep 46 A Guide to Business Etiquette · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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  Welcome back. We are hot takes with the Murph
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  man. How's everyone doing this
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  morning? Connor, how you been?
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  Doing good this fine morning. How you doing Murph man?
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  This fine morning, huh? Well, so far so good.
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  But just put it that way, right? So, yeah, I think it's going to
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  be a really cool show today. We're going to be talking about
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  business etiquette, and we're going to talk about what
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  actually needs to be discussed because we don't talk about that
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  enough, about what we need to be able to do at work.
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  Right. And you told me, well, I don't
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  know what to do at work. I've never worked.
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  And I'm like, that's the whole point of this show because a lot
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  of people don't realize that this show is about helping young
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  adults and college students become better adults.
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  And this is brilliant when you get a job, right.
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  Yeah. So I think with that being said,
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  do you have any, anything you want to mention about what's
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  going on in the world right now or, or anything like that?
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  Nope, can't think of anything. You can't think of anything
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  right now. No.
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  All right, so I'll tell you what, let's go ahead and I'll
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  ignite that fuse and we'll get the show started.
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  It's not working for me. Your degree in skills get you
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  the job, but understanding workplace etiquette helps you
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  keep it and thrive We're talking about the fundamental, unwritten
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  rules of office life that separate the professionals from
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  the amateurs. Raises are earned, not handed
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  out. Welcome to Hot takes.
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  Today we are talking about a guide to business etiquette,
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  Part 1 The unspoken rules of the office.
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  Your degree and skills get you the job, but understanding
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  workplace etiquette helps you keep it and thrive.
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  This episode covers the fundamental unwritten rules of
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  office life that separate the professionals from the amateurs.
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  The rules that separate us from the professionals from the
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  amateurs. Well, you know, I, I've talked
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  about this. Even if you've been following
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  the show for a while, you'll you'll know that I've talked
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  about this before. The way we talk about at work is
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  very different than what we expect people to do in our
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  personal life right now. Got a little what we do it at
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  work is very different than how we treat people personally, you
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  know? And last weekend after our show,
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  I went to a party and met some new people.
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  And I was like, OK, are we going to be OK in this atmosphere?
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  Because these are all like college professors at UTIP,
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  right? And there's me.
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  I also, I too, am a college professor, but I'm just a very
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  different kind of person. Just that's just bottom line,
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  right? And I was like, OK, how is this
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  going to go? I had to be on my best behavior,
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  right? And all of a sudden, one of the
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  guys makes a joke, fairly inappropriate joke, in Spanish,
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  mind you, in Spanish, in Spanish.
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  And I laughed so hard. He looked at me like he got the
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  joke because I was the only one that got the joke.
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  So it was like instant friendship, so to speak, right?
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  And as the night went on, I became friends with everybody to
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  the point where at the end of the night, they're like, hey,
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  you know, let's get together next week, or which was
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  Wednesday, you know, let's get together Wednesday and let's
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  talk. And I said, all right, let's do
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  it. And we did, you know, So I made
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  myself some new friends. Now, how does this have to do
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  with business? Well, the reality is, how do you
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  act at work? How do you talk at work?
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  How do you treat people at work? Can you treat those people the
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  same way you would have them treated here at in your own life
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  personally? Or do you have to treat them a
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  little differently than you would your friends?
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  Treat them a little differently than Friends A.
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  Lot differently than friends most of the time, right?
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  Because it's one of those things where you ask yourself, I, I
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  can't do, I can't be myself a lot of times because I'm afraid
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  of offending somebody because that doesn't it.
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  Yeah, a lot. I wouldn't.
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  I would hope it wouldn't be a lot.
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  People getting offended, yeah. Well, if you're offending
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  people, something's wrong with you.
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  But. Not on purpose, they just take
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  it to heart. Even even then, even then if if
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  if OK, my friend has a way of explaining this that made me
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  laugh. OK, when he talks about his
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  marriage, he goes I was married to my first wife, got divorced.
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  It was all her fault, right? I was American.
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  My second wife got divorced. Maybe some of the reasons were
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  my fault. My third divorce, he says.
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  Yeah, it was mostly my fault. The thing is, if it's you're the
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  common denominator in every problem because you have
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  different friends who are getting offended, you're the
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  problem. If you get offended with one
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  person or one person gets offended by you and no one else,
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  that's probably that one person, right?
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  Same thing at work. So it could be the one person,
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  could be the whole group, could be you.
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  So you really got to be aware of what you're saying and doing
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  when you're in situations like that.
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  OK. Does that make sense?
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  Because it's, it's you're the common denominator and
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  everything. Like I had a kid I was
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  counselling and she was a really, really bad kid.
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  She was having a lot of issues. And I walked in there into the
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  counselling session and I said what happened?
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  You know, like why are you so angry?
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  And we're not supposed to ask why as counsellors but I always
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  did because why is there's only two answers to why?
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  Do you remember the 2 answers? Because and why not?
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  Like, so I asked this kid, you know, what happened that started
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  making me so angry? And she tells me that a couple
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  weeks before her quince, her mom used all the money they had to
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  pay off the dance hall to pay off the food, the DJ and all the
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  last minute expenses to bail her uncle out of jail.
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  And they cancelled her quince. Damn.
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  Damn right. Yeah.
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  You know, I try not to talk bad about parents, but I was like.
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  Wow. Wow.
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  Yeah. And once the kid realized, like
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  why she was acting so angrily and everything, I said.
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  I don't know what your uncle did.
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  I don't know, like had he stayed in jail with they have lost the
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  house, his family would be kicked out of the house moving
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  into this, you know, maybe your mom, there was other reasons
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  that your mom did that because she knew he needed the help or
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  the family needed the help instead of him.
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  You know what I mean? And the way I worded it, she's
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  like, you know, maybe you're right.
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  Let me go talk to my mom. She talked to her mom and they
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  resolved things and she was pretty cool.
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  Couple of months passing this case in trouble, cursing at a
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  teacher. And it was so funny because I
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  went into the principal's office and I'm sitting there talking to
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  the principal and her and the principal says, you know, you
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  cursed at a teacher. I'm going to have to push her
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  into an alternative. And the kid said, well, he
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  cursed at me first. And the principal says, what do
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  you mean? And I, I told the girl, I said,
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  tell him the truth. You know, she says, we always
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  joke like that. What's up?
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  Right. Only this time another teacher
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  was present. And because of that, he had to
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  say something. And I'm here now.
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  And the principal looked at me. He goes, how am I supposed to
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  handle this, this between you and your teacher, bro, right.
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  But I, I, I turned to the kid. I said, that's why you don't act
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  like that with certain people, because you never know who's
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  around you. He may not be the one getting
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  offended, but someone might hear you say something and that
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  becomes a problem. OK, does.
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  That make sense? Yeah, I can see that.
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  So this kid, she really, she got great.
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  She did great after I talked to her.
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  I, I can say that was one of my successes, but I told the
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  principal she was still wrong. And personally, the teacher and
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  you cannot ignore this because the other teacher is going to be
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  like, how come you didn't do anything to this student?
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  So he gave her two days in school suspension.
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  That was it. You know, Well, actually he gave
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  her one day. And I said, if she was another
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  student, how would you have treated this?
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  Because I would have put her in for two days.
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  I said then put her in for two days.
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  So I don't want you to, I don't want you to get into trouble.
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  Right. And the I thought you could just
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  chill for two days. You're cool with that?
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  She was yeah, I'm cool with that.
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  But the principal went and talked to his teacher and he
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  went up to the teacher and he tells them something to the
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  effect of, hey, can I talk to you about ex student?
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  Yeah. What's up?
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  You know, you referred her because she cursed at you.
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  Yeah. Was that the first time she ever
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  cursed at you? He goes.
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  Yeah. He goes, oh, so you've never
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  cursed with her? And at that point, the teacher
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  knew, like, oh, she know he knows, right.
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  And the teacher says, no, I've never talked to her like that
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  before. Straight up light.
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  Damn. And the principal says, OK,
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  we'll talk. We'll talk about this later.
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  And then since I was always at the school, he pulled me up.
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  He goes, hey, I talked to the teacher and he told me he never
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  curses a student. And I looked at him and just
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  like, well, what are you going to do?
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  And he goes believe your student because the kid didn't try to
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  get him in trouble. She just straight up said, like,
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  I don't want to tell him, you know how I get along with this
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  teacher because I'm going to get in more trouble.
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  And I was like, you're not the one in trouble.
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  He is right. And yeah, so the teacher
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  actually, you got rid enough for that.
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  Oh wow. And I don't know if he's still
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  teaching or not, but it it wasn't that big of a deal in my
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  opinion. Just teachers be cursing with
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  students. No, but if no one else is
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  around, is it OK? And that that's where that
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  personal relationship gets you into trouble professionally.
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  When you say something around you, treat that person like you
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  always have, but someone else sees it, you know?
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  And the best example I can give you in my own personal life was
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  I had a job one time and one of my Co workers was a lesbian.
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  So. And I've known her for years.
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  And I don't know, I knew her before she actually started
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  working where I worked. And one day, I don't know why,
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  but she says, can I pinch your butt?
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  And I said, oh, OK, yeah, I don't care, right?
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  So she was squeezing my butt. At that moment.
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  My boss walked in, right? And my boss just looked at me.
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  And she says, you guys got to be careful who's around.
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  My boss was realistic. And I have to know, OK, these
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  two have known each other for years.
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  This is how they get along. Don't do this at work.
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  Whatever, whatever. You know, she was just being
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  funny. And actually what she was doing,
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  it turns out I had gum on my butt and she was taking it off.
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  She just didn't want to tell me. She was just trying to be funny.
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  And after she pulled the gum off, she's like, he had some gum
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  on your butt. I'm like, oh, thank you.
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  But my it looked like she was grabbing my butt.
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  So my boss was like, just don't do that at work, you know?
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  OK. Yeah, that.
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  That's cool, you know, and that brings up another thing about,
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  and we'll talk about this later is relationships at work, like
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  dating relationships. Just before we get started, what
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  do you think? Should we?
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  Shouldn't we date people? I mean, it's a, it's a human
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  thing. It's going to happen.
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  That's not what I ask is should it happen?
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  I don't know. I don't think it should
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  personally. You never date someone where you
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  work at. I mean it never works then it
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  works. But when it doesn't, that's the
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  problem. I'll give you a perfect, perfect
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  example. The club that I met your mom at,
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  that's that's where she would go every week, right to that club,
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  right. I, I started going to the club,
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  met her, ended up married and you know, sorry, we got serious,
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  right? Bless you.
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  Thank. You.
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  And she says, what happens if we break up?
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  This is when we're dating. And I said it's very simple.
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  You were here before me. As much as I'd love this club,
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  it's your club. I won't come back here now.
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  That's just a real relationship, right?
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  But when you're both involved in something that affects the club,
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  and it really shouldn't, but it does.
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  Have you ever seen anything like that where your friends go to
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  the club and they're just being stupid because someone else they
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  dated was there was someone else or something or anywhere?
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  I mean, school, whatever. No, no.
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  OK. Well, you'll eventually see
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  that, you know, you're young, but it's one of those things
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  that you just. You just never know.
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  Yeah. But I don't recommend dating
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  anybody at work. But I do want to say this before
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  we get on with the show, I do want to mention the fact that
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  this is our podcast. I am the Murph man.
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  This is my close Connor. We are not professionals.
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  We just play one on this podcast.
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  We do not hold back on our thoughts.
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  We say whatever comes to our mind.
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  And if you don't like it, I'm sorry.
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  But most of the time we we were appropriate and you know,
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  sometimes we're not and a little bit of the language or topics
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  might slip up and come out. So just giving you a heads up on
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  that. It's not like we're always doing
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  it, but something might just slip and we might miss it during
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  editing or obviously on the live show we can't.
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  Can't. Really.
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  I can't. I can't fly around the room 7
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  times to go backwards and. Yeah.
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  Right. But it's one of those things
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  that we're just going to speak our mind.
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  That's the way it is, right? Yeah.
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  So I'll tell you what I want to get to the burning question
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  today. So let's talk about that in our
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  segment called the Burning Question.
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  Today's burning question is what is a workplace norm?
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  A. A company's official rules and
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  policies. B The unwritten accepted
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  standards of behavior. C The mission and values of a
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  company. D The way a company hires new
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  employees. The options are sizzling.
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  Murph Man, what is the real story?
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  All right, so a company's official rules and policies, I
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  should say, what's the workplace norm, quote UN quote?
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  No, it says in quotes. Why is it in?
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  Well. What is 1 quote normal?
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  Normal. Well out of all the answers I
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  would have. To hold on, No, no, no.
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  I'm talking about when it says workplace norm and that's in
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  quotations. What is normal?
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  And what I mean by that is based on where you work, the norm is
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  very different. How?
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  If I worked in a company that was very professional and
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  business oriented, I would have to be very careful how I speak,
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  how I dress, how I talk, right? Yeah.
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  If I'm working in the strip club, would that would it be a
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  different workplace norm? I mean, yeah.
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  Right. But every business has their own
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  like norm, so, but you can't really be like, what's the
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  workplace norm if every place has it differently?
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  That's my point. That's why it's in the
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  quotations, because the normal is different for everybody.
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  And what I, one of my favorite phrases is when I would talk to
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  somebody as a counselor and they would ask me, is this normal?
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  I'm like, I don't know, is it normal for you?
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  And I'll give you an example of that.
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  I had a kid who was 15 years old and she was assaulted, very
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  unfortunate situation. And she was a big drug addict
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  and alcoholic. So someone took advantage of
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  her. OK, I'm doing counseling with
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  this 15 year old kid and you know, you come up with goals.
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  What are some goals for this kid?
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  Get back to normal right after something like that happens.
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  After a trauma, it's very hard to find your normal again.
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  So in my first session, I said, so the goal is to try to get
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  back to your normal. I said, like, for example,
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  become sexually active again because that's, that was her
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  norm, right? And the mom's like, whoa, whoa,
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  whoa. You're saying it's OK to have
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  sex? And I said, I didn't say that.
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  I told the kid your normal was you used to have sex before this
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  and you haven't been able to do it since.
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  So that's one thing we need to change to get back to normal.
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  And then I was like, this is weird.
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  And I just told her mom. I said, think about that.
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  I said, let's talk about if it happened to you, what would the
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  goal be? And she said, well, I said.
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  Exactly, Yeah. And I and of course I told the
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  kid I said, does not mean I agree with your drug use, right?
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  So then after I got the kid back to feeling semi normal, it's
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  it's it's funny because I told her, I said do me a favor.
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  Can you go out one night and not do drugs or get drunk just one
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  night? That's all I'm asking.
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  Can you do that for me? Yeah, I can do that.
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  It's OK. The next session I said, so did
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  were you able to do it? She was yeah.
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  I went out with my friends and I didn't get drunk or anything.
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  I said Anne and she says I cannot believe my friends are
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  like that. Damn.
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  She says I realized drunk and sober or clean and sober, that
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  those weren't the kind of friends I want to have.
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  And I said, OK, within a couple, we should stop using drugs,
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  right? And I never told her you have to
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  stop using drugs. I mean, I told her I didn't
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  agree with you using drugs, but I also said, you know, that's
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  who you are. I I get that I don't like it and
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  it's causing a lot of problems but do me a favor one time and
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  she did and she made the decision on her own to stop
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  using SO. That's cool.
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  When you're when you're asked what is normal, it's it's
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  relevant to who you are and where you are.
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  OK, Last night, yesterday, you asked me a quick what?
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  I said OK, but you asked me what's the what's 1 story or
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  memory you have here in El Paso? Yeah, I told you a really crazy
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  story, right? That's not a normal experience
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  for people. Obviously, right.
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  Yeah. It's not too crazy for me.
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  Because you know, there's stuff that are like.
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  Oh yeah, there's stuff crazier than me.
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  What I'm saying is telling me that story, you you did not say
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  like, I don't believe you. You were like, oh, wow, OK.
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  Yeah, I believe you. Yeah, I wouldn't be surprised.
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  Right. Yeah.
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  Now if, let's see, if your mom had told you the same story
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  because she was there, would you have believed her?
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  No. Because she was not the kind of
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  person. Right.
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  So Norm is relative to where you are and who you're with.
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  OK. And when I told you the secret
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  yesterday, you were just like, yeah, I believe it.
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  Yeah. Let's get back to our question,
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  the burning question. All right.
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  So what is the workplace norm? Is it a company's official rules
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  and policies or the unwritten accepted standards of behavior,
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  the mission and values of a company or the way a company
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  hires new employees? What do you think that would be,
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  Connor? I would think it would have to
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  be excuse me, I I think it has to be B the I forgot the hard
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  worded but it's the unwritten rules.
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  The unwritten rules. Yeah, workplace, right.
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  That's why the workplace moment, right?
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  Everyone's different. All right.
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  Well, I think it's so funny as you think you're off camera and
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  you're still trying to do that. Throwing that out there.
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  Yeah, pretty much, anyway. Anyway.
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  So yeah, the unwritten rules and I, I've talked about this before
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  and I'll say it again. When you get to work in the new
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  place, you have to be your best behavior, best person, best
• 23:35
  everything. And someone's going to test you.
• 23:38
  They're going to say something inappropriate, they're going to
• 23:40
  do something inappropriate to see how you respond, to see if
• 23:45
  you're cool. And one of the things I'll tell
• 23:50
  you, as a counselor, I was there for 16 years.
• 23:53
  My boss only put me with one or two people as a as a model.
• 23:59
  Not that I'm a bad counselor, I'm an amazing counselor, but my
• 24:03
  style is very different than other people.
• 24:05
  And it's maybe not the best example for new employees,
• 24:08
  right? But there's people who had a lot
• 24:12
  of experience that or like I ever did this before and then go
• 24:17
  work with Sean, see what he does.
• 24:20
  And even one time I presented at the conference, the STARS
• 24:24
  conference in El Paso, and people were like, you know,
• 24:28
  you're not stress management. How many of us have no stress
• 24:34
  management, right? They were like, why would we
• 24:38
  come and, and see your show, right?
• 24:40
  You're, you're a seminar. This is like I said, out of all
• 24:45
  the other classes that were available at that moment, that
• 24:48
  was the best choice for me. I had either done the other ones
• 24:51
  or wasn't interested in them. He says, I came in here and you
• 24:55
  presented stress management in a very different way than I've
• 25:02
  ever heard mentioned. And she says, I want you to know
• 25:07
  I think that was pretty cool because you have a different
• 25:12
  outlook on life. And she says, I can see you
• 25:17
  doing this in real life. It's not.
• 25:22
  You weren't giving like meditate and journalize and breathe and
• 25:27
  meditate. You know, you're like, what
• 25:30
  makes you relax? You play heavy metal music, play
• 25:33
  heavy metal music. You know what works for you.
• 25:37
  How do you what do you find that gets your brain distracted?
• 25:41
  OK, then play. So, you know, have a very
• 25:45
  different outlook on how we do things.
• 25:47
  And that that difference is what makes me who I am.
• 25:53
  I just see things very differently.
• 25:56
  Even my comedy, like very inappropriate comedy.
• 26:01
  And when people see me, they're just like, hey, what is it that
• 26:13
  that you talk about? And I said, well, very
• 26:15
  inappropriate stuff. So I don't curse, but I'm very
• 26:19
  inappropriate. Afterwards, the comedian that
• 26:25
  was on stage with me, I, you know, I actually, I got to know
• 26:28
  him one day and I'll give him a ride home.
• 26:29
  And he says, you know, what's so funny is you don't curse and you
• 26:35
  don't see anything racial. And I said I, I but I do say
• 26:41
  racial stuff. He goes, no, you just say the
• 26:45
  way it is. And I'm like, but it's racial.
• 26:49
  He goes, yeah, but and that is because the way I look, if
• 26:53
  you're like, he's just an old man or he's he whatever, you
• 26:57
  know, he's not being offensive on purpose.
• 26:59
  He's, you know, he goes, no, you just the way you say things.
• 27:03
  Right. And a good example of that is
• 27:05
  the guy we're going to go see on Friday, Mark Britton.
• 27:08
  He's known as the Chinaman. That's how I said that.
• 27:11
  The Chinaman. Oh, because that's his name.
• 27:16
  Right. But is that appropriate to, say,
• 27:18
  call someone a Chinaman? That's his name, so yes.
• 27:22
  Well, see that that's the thing in today's culture.
• 27:24
  He hasn't done comedy in several years and it's just come back.
• 27:28
  His first show. Actually, I talked to him at
• 27:29
  Comic Con and we were talking about this and goes, a lot of
• 27:32
  people go, hey, China man, like they can't say Chinaman because
• 27:37
  it's offensive. And he goes, you're the first
• 27:41
  person that said that to me in a very long time.
• 27:44
  And I'm like, because that's who you are, right?
• 27:48
  He goes, yeah, but other people don't see it that way.
• 27:53
  And cancel, cancel cultural hold on.
• 27:58
  My lips are dry. Mine too bro, mine too.
• 28:02
  Cancer Cultural. Cancer.
• 28:10
  I heard it. I was like cancel all right.
• 28:14
  Is this something I want to say from my friend from the
• 28:18
  Dominican Republic with a very, very, very thick Hispanic mixed
• 28:22
  Spanish accent? OK Connor, we got to fuck us.
• 28:27
  OK, Got to fuck us on the show. OK, Cancel culture is real.
• 28:34
  And he says I I have to be very careful what I say or do.
• 28:40
  And I I think it's bull crap. Sometimes council culture is
• 28:45
  doing too much. OK, but like for I've shown you
• 28:49
  some movies, very inappropriate movies that could not be made
• 28:53
  today. And they're hilarious.
• 28:55
  They are, but they could not be made today.
• 28:56
  Too bad. OK, what's a movie that you can
• 29:00
  think of? Mine is Waiting with Ryan
• 29:04
  Reynolds. Yeah, I would say.
• 29:10
  That's very sexually inappropriate at work.
• 29:15
  Yeah. Blazing Saddles very racist.
• 29:22
  Very, Yeah. What's the one?
• 29:31
  God, I can't think of the name. I can't think of the name.
• 29:44
  I don't even know. OK, well one comedian that I
• 29:49
  don't think has been cancelled, correct me if I'm wrong, is Dave
• 29:52
  Chappelle. No, I don't know anything about
• 29:54
  Dave Chappelle. Know what I'm saying but you
• 29:56
  haven't heard of him? Cancel.
• 29:57
  Or anything. I don't know anything about him.
• 29:59
  He has a skit of a town that's very, very white, very, very
• 30:07
  country, very, very Hick, very, very racist.
• 30:12
  There's a guy who lives there who's black and he's blind.
• 30:17
  And he go, he's a racist black guy, but he thinks, you know,
• 30:21
  he's a black white supremacist. Oh, God.
• 30:25
  OK. And his friends are like, aren't
• 30:27
  you going to tell him that he's black?
• 30:30
  And the guy is like, no, because he's really, really racist.
• 30:35
  Like he's able to just kill himself because he's black.
• 30:38
  Oh God. No.
• 30:44
  I just told you this. I don't know how long ago that
• 30:46
  skit was, but could you do something like that today?
• 30:52
  No. No.
• 30:53
  No, no. OK, wow.
• 31:00
  OK. That's he's so racist he'd kill
• 31:04
  himself because he's so that's just like stupid but cancel
• 31:10
  cultural cancer. Cancel.
• 31:14
  Fuck us, cancel culture is real. OK?
• 31:21
  I haven't heard us repel being cancelled.
• 31:23
  I've heard him have other issues, but you can't talk about
• 31:29
  racism like that today. You can, or you'll be in
• 31:32
  trouble, right? Yeah, which sucks by me.
• 31:38
  Next week when we have our show, this is we're going to have a
• 31:41
  Part 2 to this. Yeah.
• 31:44
  We're going to talk about the show with Tinaman on Friday and
• 31:49
  I would love, I'm going to ask him if he'd come on our show.
• 31:54
  I would see, but he, I don't know if he'd get up that early,
• 31:56
  right? I don't think so, but what time
• 31:58
  is the show at? Is at 8. 8 till like midnight
• 32:04
  10. 10 But I, I mean like he might stay parting until 3/4 or
• 32:08
  five in the morning. I don't know his lifestyle.
• 32:12
  So maybe if we can get him to come on a show, that would be
• 32:15
  really cool. I, I would love, seriously, I
• 32:18
  would just love to have him on my show.
• 32:20
  That'd be so badass. Because one of the things that I
• 32:25
  talk about, right, is we're very real about what we talk about.
• 32:32
  We're not cursing up a storm or anything.
• 32:35
  But if that's the episode that I want to do next week, I'll start
• 32:38
  off with, hey, just letting you know, this show is going to be
• 32:40
  very inappropriate. Just straight up.
• 32:44
  And he can be himself. I can be myself and we don't
• 32:46
  have to worry about anything because I'm not going to be
• 32:50
  upset with what he says. True.
• 32:52
  And then my lifters don't like it tough.
• 32:55
  Well, I mean, I, I guess kind of, even though the whole show
• 32:59
  is about like it's supposed to be for students and adults.
• 33:05
  But we can also break away from our shovel program I.
• 33:09
  Mean, I guess, yeah, it's just going to be weird.
• 33:12
  It's like educational, educational, educational, China,
• 33:15
  man, educational. Just like the thumbnails will be
• 33:19
  so different. No, well, we'll still talk about
• 33:23
  that because he's not going to be on the show for now.
• 33:25
  It'd be awesome if he was on the show for two hours, right?
• 33:28
  But probably 1015 minutes, you know, so we can take a break and
• 33:31
  talk about like we do with Javi or or JJ, you know, all the
• 33:34
  other guys we've talked to, Jose Luis, you know we can have it or
• 33:38
  Trina, right? By the way, she's you don't
• 33:42
  follow her on Instagram, right? For those of you don't know, one
• 33:45
  of our very first shows, probably our third show.
• 33:50
  You don't think it was third? Like later on.
• 33:52
  No, I think it was pretty. Close.
• 33:54
  It had to be like 10. It was pretty close.
• 33:56
  It had to be double digits. You think double digits?
• 33:58
  Anyway, we had a listener from the Philippines start texting us
• 34:01
  and chatting with us, and eventually she came on the show
• 34:05
  and she's an amazing person that I've been following her.
• 34:08
  And like I told you, hey, Trina's going to come on the
• 34:11
  show. You're like, yeah, whatever.
• 34:12
  You didn't believe me? Yeah, kind of forgot who she
• 34:16
  was, OK. Yeah, you forgot who she was.
• 34:19
  Yeah. Yeah, but when I told you I've
• 34:21
  been talking to, you're like, no, you haven't.
• 34:23
  I'm like I have. Well, what about?
• 34:31
  It the point being is we, we veered away from our regular
• 34:33
  content for that. You know what I mean?
• 34:36
  We talk about earthquakes. It's in Philippines.
• 34:38
  So yeah, you know, we, we never know what we're going to talk
• 34:40
  about. So veering away and doing an
• 34:43
  interview with China man would be really cool.
• 34:46
  That that, that that would be my ultimate.
• 34:48
  Like amazing, amazing. Like seriously, I would.
• 34:52
  Like that for like to happen maybe?
• 34:54
  Right. Yeah, if I could, I really, I
• 34:58
  would do that and then I would send him the clip and be like,
• 35:02
  hey, are you OK with me publishing this, this, this, you
• 35:06
  know, and see what he says. So if I can do that'd be, that'd
• 35:09
  be really cool. I'll have my business cards by
• 35:11
  then. So yeah.
• 35:13
  That's true, yeah. So yeah, there's just there's a
• 35:16
  lot of things we can do. Anyway, I digress.
• 35:19
  I digress. Cancel culture, I thought I was
• 35:25
  going to get it that time. Cancel culture is real and the
• 35:30
  norm from 1520 years ago, 60 years ago, 100 years ago, 200
• 35:37
  years ago, very different than today, very different.
• 35:43
  OK. And it's the pendulum.
• 35:44
  It's swinging, goes from one side to the other and sometimes
• 35:49
  we're in the middle of the swing as we, you know, our
• 35:52
  generations, one generation goes one way, one generation is
• 35:55
  through the other way and goes really quickly.
• 35:57
  Other times it takes like several years for the pendulum
• 36:00
  swing aisles closed everything. The 80s you talk about the 80s
• 36:07
  and 90 kids, very different attitude than the kids of today.
• 36:12
  Yes, they talk about at 14 years old I was out there stealing
• 36:18
  cars and getting drunk and partying in Mexico.
• 36:22
  No, I didn't steal a car just once.
• 36:25
  So you did. I didn't steal it.
• 36:28
  I was they gave me a stolen car. I'll tell you a story, but you
• 36:40
  know, I reckon the 14 and I'm like, there's no way inhale this
• 36:43
  guy's like doing anything like this.
• 36:46
  Yeah, no, I was doing nothing straight out of COVID.
• 36:50
  You know, I was a little chubbiness from eating too much.
• 36:54
  I had no friends. What was I going to do?
• 36:56
  Party. Hell no.
• 36:57
  Well, OK, you had COVID, but I'm saying at 14 years old, your
• 37:01
  mentality, I was playing Fortnite.
• 37:03
  Yeah. What?
• 37:04
  I was playing Fortnite. Oh Fortnite 124, your mentality
• 37:09
  at 14 was very different than my mentality at 14.
• 37:12
  Well, yeah, because I wasn't exposed to it.
• 37:14
  Right. But it's also the time of, you
• 37:15
  know, the 80s and 90s were very different than today's kids.
• 37:19
  And we were also in a pandemic, so that some major like.
• 37:22
  Difference, yeah, but I don't think it the pandemic changes
• 37:25
  anything. I was in my house for two years
• 37:29
  making no friends. Right, but I didn't start
• 37:33
  getting that crazy at 14 is my point, you know?
• 37:36
  Mommy and. And the stolen car, just so you
• 37:38
  know, we met some girls, they gave us a ride and they drove
• 37:43
  the car home and they lived in a shelter for actually there are
• 37:47
  no shelter where I worked many, many years later.
• 37:51
  They dropped, they stopped there and like, OK, we're home.
• 37:53
  They were like, oh, how are we going to get home?
• 37:56
  They're like, just take the car. OK, well, do I get a number to?
• 38:02
  They're like, oh, it's not our car.
• 38:03
  We stole it from some guy and my friend are like, OK, we're out
• 38:06
  of here. We just left the car over there
• 38:07
  and we walked away. So I wonder if like, my prints
• 38:10
  are somewhere we're stolen cars. It I wasn't, I didn't know it
• 38:20
  was. Stolen police station right now
• 38:21
  and go ask. I didn't know it.
• 38:23
  I didn't know it was stolen, and as soon as I did, I left.
• 38:26
  They reported no, but I was also 14 and 15 years old.
• 38:30
  OK. Anyway, cancel cultural.
• 38:36
  Oh, man, I'm just going to stop saying that word.
• 38:38
  I'll tell you what, let's get to today's hot take before we go
• 38:41
  too much further and get off subject, OK?
• 38:43
  All right. Value is the only relevant
• 38:51
  metric. Today's hot take is this true.
• 38:54
  Workplace professionalism has nothing to do with dress codes
• 38:58
  or formal titles. It's about situational awareness
• 39:02
  and deep respect for others boundaries.
• 39:04
  The person who cleans up their communal microwave mess is
• 39:07
  showing more integrity than the one wearing a $5000 suit.
• 39:15
  Oh. Hold on, hold on.
• 39:20
  Yeah, I missed it. Oh, so we don't have the hot
• 39:29
  take? We do not have the hot take.
• 39:32
  Oh well. Day, I'm like, yeah, we don't
• 39:38
  have it. Wow.
• 39:40
  I could add it as we talk. Well, hold on, I'm not worried
• 39:50
  about it. All right?
• 39:54
  The person that claims with their microwave communal miss
• 39:57
  has more integrity than the person with the $5000 suit.
• 40:01
  What does that mean? I don't know.
• 40:06
  Have you ever cooked in the microwave?
• 40:08
  Yeah. OK.
• 40:09
  Have you ever cleaned it up when it's splatters?
• 40:12
  Yes. No, you haven't.
• 40:14
  I can. I can say you haven't.
• 40:15
  No, it depends if it's like what do you mean like splatters?
• 40:20
  Like if you have spaghetti you're cooking then and you
• 40:22
  don't cover it, it splatters all the spaghetti all over the the
• 40:24
  microwave. If it's like a good chunk and
• 40:29
  all that, that's my. Point.
• 40:30
  Any splatter should be cleaned up.
• 40:33
  Oh no OK, well you should use a lid.
• 40:35
  There's things you can do to avoid it, but you after you use
• 40:38
  the work microwave you should clean it up.
• 40:42
  OK, Character is what you do when no one is watching, right?
• 40:52
  Yeah. If I'm walking in the middle of
• 40:55
  the desert and I'm eating a lollipop, you can't just throw
• 40:58
  the rapper into the wind. Yeah, no one's going to know,
• 41:01
  right? But I know.
• 41:06
  OK, and you'll forget about it later on.
• 41:09
  The point being is I wouldn't do it.
• 41:12
  I would put it in my pocket because that's not who I am.
• 41:14
  I'm not a litterer. Yeah.
• 41:20
  OK, does it matter? I'm not going to litter.
• 41:23
  I'm not that kind of guy that throws trash on the floor.
• 41:26
  Well, I do hear I have a trash can over here, but, you know, I
• 41:30
  just throw it. Yeah, I don't live that.
• 41:37
  OK, if I'm walking down the street and I find $100 bill, do
• 41:42
  I try to ask who it belongs to? No, no, I'd be like, oh.
• 41:47
  I haunted. Take it you know.
• 41:49
  What you're supposed to do legally?
• 41:51
  Will I report it? Yeah.
• 41:52
  Oh well, to the Police Department and you say I found
• 41:55
  $100 bill. Should have not been there for
• 41:58
  all while they're leaving it. After, I don't know what the
• 42:02
  dates are, I think 30 or 90 days, you can go back to the
• 42:05
  Police Department. Did anyone claim the $100 bill?
• 42:07
  No, give it back to me now. It's legally yours because you
• 42:10
  did everything you could to return it to the owner.
• 42:19
  This happened in El Paso and I think it's happened twice.
• 42:28
  An armored truck is driving down the highway.
• 42:32
  OK. And the doors open up and money
• 42:34
  flies out the back. Hundreds of thousands of
• 42:38
  dollars. Or maybe just thousands of
• 42:40
  dollars. Dang.
• 42:43
  People stopped and picked the money and drove away.
• 42:48
  Yeah, it is. Arm, yeah.
• 42:52
  I wouldn't say armed, you know, just because you're picking up
• 42:55
  with your hands and making armed robbery.
• 42:56
  Well, I mean, the money's in. Arms.
• 42:59
  You get it. Anyways, anyways.
• 43:08
  The money is out on the floor, so you're picking it up.
• 43:10
  Yeah, but it came from an armored truck, so it's
• 43:13
  technically like you open the truck and took the money out.
• 43:16
  If, you know, if there's an armored truck pulled over and
• 43:18
  they're picking up money and you know the money belongs to them
• 43:21
  and you take it, that's theft. Yeah.
• 43:23
  OK, I'll tell you right now. That's happening in El Paso
• 43:28
  once, maybe twice. I know it's happened at least
• 43:31
  once, maybe more, but I know once for sure.
• 43:35
  OK, that's theft. OK, This reverse rose a little
• 43:44
  bit. A Bud Light tractor trailer is
• 43:46
  driving down the road. Falls, crashes and there's Bud
• 43:50
  Light all over the floor, all over the freeway.
• 43:52
  Can you go pick up those beers? Is then I cracked or dented?
• 43:56
  It's still theft. That's I mean, I would never
• 44:07
  but. But it's still theft if you know
• 44:10
  where it comes from. Obviously, if there's 2000 cans
• 44:14
  of beer on the freeway, you know, that's not an accident.
• 44:17
  You know something happened. Now what?
• 44:19
  Alcoholic did all this. Right.
• 44:22
  So yeah, you have all that kind of stuff to worry about, OK.
• 44:26
  And just because you, you do something because no one's going
• 44:32
  to see who it was, doesn't mean it makes it right.
• 44:36
  Now, am I going to sit there and pick up the money and then go
• 44:39
  hand it over to the guards? No.
• 44:43
  OK. I might not stop.
• 44:45
  I might just keep driving and be like, if someone else wants to
• 44:47
  steal it, it's on them. I'm not going to be part of it,
• 44:49
  you know? Yeah.
• 44:51
  Could I help them pick it up? Yeah.
• 44:53
  Have I taken money that I found on the floor and not turned it
• 44:56
  in? Yes.
• 44:57
  I'm not going to see her and say I never have.
• 44:59
  When I was a kid, I say a kid. I was 14 years old because I was
• 45:03
  working at the arcade. A kid in front of me dropped a
• 45:06
  bill. I don't know if it's a 1510.
• 45:09
  I don't know what the bill was, but I'm walking behind them.
• 45:12
  He dropped it. I picked it up.
• 45:13
  As I walked past him, he turned around to see where the money
• 45:15
  fell. There's no money, I took it.
• 45:23
  And your phrase at the start of the conversation was if you're
• 45:25
  stupid enough to lose the money. Yeah, I'm too bad.
• 45:29
  It is still theft, yes. Yeah, but that's only be get
• 45:33
  caught. So a character is what you do
• 45:37
  when no one is watching. I mean, yeah.
• 45:40
  OK, that's who you are at your core.
• 45:45
  If I did something that was horrible and I never felt guilty
• 45:52
  about it at my core, then that means I'm a horrible person.
• 45:56
  If you have no remorse, there's a problem there, OK?
• 46:01
  No matter how much justification you can give yourself for saying
• 46:03
  it, you still doesn't make it OK.
• 46:07
  And as we're doing this, OK, realize that your character is
• 46:16
  what you do because that's who you are.
• 46:21
  And whether you do it or not, it tells me who you are as a
• 46:24
  person. If I were to tell you, would you
• 46:32
  litter in the desert if nobody was watching?
• 46:35
  I mean no, because I mean I'm just used to like put it in my
• 46:37
  pocket, maybe like the stick, I guess that's it.
• 46:42
  But not, I don't know, not everything.
• 46:44
  I still wouldn't litter that's you don't see me throw yourself
• 46:47
  out the the the window, do you? Well, that's different because
• 46:51
  it's in the city, not in the middle of a desert.
• 46:54
  But. No one know going to know where
• 46:57
  it came from. OK, then no one's going to know.
• 47:01
  But someone could see you and you're like, is that why you
• 47:03
  would not do it? No, no, like, I don't know.
• 47:07
  I would do it. I'm like, I finish it.
• 47:12
  I throw it away. You would just throw it out the
• 47:15
  window? Yeah, You're a homo person,
• 47:19
  Connor. On that note, I think we need to
• 47:22
  take a break. We'll be right back after these
• 47:25
  messages. It's time for a break.
• 47:28
  Hot takes with the Murph man will return.
• 47:29
  After these messages. According to the V as Suicide
• 47:40
  Data report, an average of 22 veterans die by suicide every
• 47:44
  single day. This figure is a sobering
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  I was waiting on like. It's a long pause, I know.
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  That's yeah. I was like, wait, I'm like, OK.
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  Yeah, I got to edit then. I was like did freeze.
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  I keep saying I'm going to edit and I don't, but hold on, let
• 51:05
  me. We all do.
• 51:07
  We all say we want to do something, but yeah, we don't.
• 51:10
  Yeah, I know. Let let me.
• 51:15
  I I have a a quick rant. I want to say here real quick.
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  I had a package delivered. I paid extra for delivery on
• 51:21
  Friday by UPS. I'm going to call them out.
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  OK. UPS has a thing where you can
• 51:27
  change delivery. For example, when I got my
• 51:30
  laptop that was $3000. I don't want that dropped off in
• 51:34
  my car report. Does that make sense?
• 51:36
  Yeah. All right.
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  So I had it picked up an alternate application to CVS.
• 51:42
  So I guess dropped off at CVS. I pick it up, everyone's happy,
• 51:45
  right? Yeah.
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  Apparently I clicked the button when I was registering that says
• 51:50
  have all packages go to CVS. All right now I've had
• 51:57
  medications delivered here. That's by CP, by UPS.
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  Here, yeah, or it's CVS. No, it's UPS.
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  You said from UPS. Yes, you said yes.
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  I'm staying where though. Two CVS, 2 here, OK, 2 here.
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  OK, OK. Where we are our studios at our
• 52:15
  home, we're not at CVS. You never said studio.
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  I know, but we're, we're in our studio right now, which is here,
• 52:21
  which is our home right here. But we're talking about, OK,
• 52:22
  just continue. And those medications come from
• 52:25
  UPS to here. For some reason, this delivery
• 52:30
  that I made for yesterday got sent to CVS because all
• 52:34
  delivery, it wasn't all delivery.
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  That's been my problem because I've had other stuff shipped by
• 52:38
  UPS. So it wasn't here yesterday and
• 52:44
  it was it was delayed. I said OK, well, I paid for next
• 52:47
  day air. Well, tomorrow when you get it,
• 52:49
  you can call us and you can complain and we'll refund that.
• 52:51
  We'll see what we can do, but we can't do anything until the
• 52:55
  package is delivered Fine. Later at night I got a message
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  that said package has been delayed until tomorrow and I'm
• 53:03
  like I'm not getting it. Today I was pissed.
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  As I went to the system, I changed the option of sending
• 53:11
  all packages to CVS. Boom, took it off right.
• 53:15
  It changed my package delivery for that one package.
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  So now I got delayed to come back to the house.
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  I didn't even change it, it's just the system that did.
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  It well, you just said you cancelled it though I cancelled
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  it so it's. Going to go here in my profile
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  but I didn't affect that one tracking that's already been
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  chosen to go to UPS. Well, I'm trying to press
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  cancel. Isn't is going to get rid of the
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  change? All right, here's an example.
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  It's not examples what happened. We went to Walmart.
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  I mean Walmart 'cause we get to McDonald's at Walmart.
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  When we went to McDonald's the other day, you ordered right in
• 53:53
  the kiosk and it said this is a favorite order, right?
• 53:57
  Yeah. OK, you have a favorited order.
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  Well, you can't 'cause I made it a favorite.
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  If I put in the system, that's the only order to make every
• 54:07
  time, right? It's gonna make the order.
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  But what if I have an order made and then I go and I change the
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  option to take it off as a favorite?
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  Should it change the order that I already made?
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  Yes. Why?
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  Because it's not a favor anymore, so it's not going to
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  make the order for you. But I already ordered it.
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  No, you didn't like it. It's already being made in the
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  back. Why?
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  Because I made the order. You just, no, you never said you
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  ordered. You said if you get rid of it as
• 54:40
  a favorite. If I have it as a favorite and I
• 54:43
  order it then and then I go in there and change it as a
• 54:45
  favorite, should I change the order?
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  Well, if it's a McDonald's, I mean, you haven't really made it
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  since you haven't like selected it.
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  Well, that's. OK, again, it's a favorite
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  order. I make the order, meaning I've
• 54:59
  submitted the order, then I take it off as a favorite.
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  Should it change the order I submitted?
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  Oh no, that's. What happened with the UPSI took
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  off a preference, not the actual order change.
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  I don't. Know I get to see on the UPS to
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  see like. Anyway I'm so pissed at the end
• 55:22
  of the I was yelling I was mad at this girl I'm trying to get
• 55:24
  online my Internet wasn't working and just Sir we have
• 55:26
  other customers in the queue. I said I don't care I am your
• 55:32
  customer right now and I'm going to get this fixed and she pissed
• 55:37
  me off. She just both UPS people I
• 55:41
  talked to yesterday pissed me off 1 couldn't get my name
• 55:43
  right. Anyway, UPS, if you're out there
• 55:48
  right, kiss my ass. Anyway, back to our show.
• 55:54
  Don't say that what UPS is going to be like, oh, OK, you want to
• 55:59
  add like that? OK, no packages whatsoever.
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  That's fine. OK, like millions, dude, yeah.
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  Everybody rose up against. No one's going to rise up
• 56:14
  against dude. Everybody needs the packages.
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  It's it's just going to be you. Yeah, with no packages, right?
• 56:21
  Yeah. All right, I'll tell you what.
• 56:24
  Let's go back to the show. Let's talk about those
• 56:26
  definitions we're going to be talking about and laying down
• 56:28
  the coals. Define your value.
• 56:36
  Define the ask. Before we dig in, let's clarify
• 56:40
  some of the key terms we'll be using today while laying down
• 56:43
  the coals. Workplace norms, the accepted,
• 56:47
  unwritten standards of behavior and social expectations within a
• 56:51
  given company culture. Professionalism, Demonstrating
• 56:55
  competence. Situational awareness, respect,
• 56:58
  and integrity in your appearance, communication, and
• 57:02
  conduct. Shared space etiquette, the
• 57:05
  rules of courtesy, cleanliness, and boundaries for common areas
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  like kitchens, hallways, and open plan offices.
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  Situational mirroring. The practice of observing and
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  adapting to the communication style, punctuality, and habits
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  of top performing peers. Now that the coals are laid,
• 57:24
  Murph man, let's discuss the foundation.
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  All right, workplace norms we've talked about already, right.
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  The unwritten standards of behavior and social
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  expectations, professionalism, demonstrating competence,
• 57:38
  situational awareness, respect and integrity in your
• 57:41
  appearance, communication and conduct.
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  Would you say common sense there?
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  Yeah, Yeah, right. You're a professional act,
• 57:51
  right? Talk, right.
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  Dress right. Yeah.
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  Now share space etiquette. This is where we talked about
• 57:57
  the microwave, right? The roles of courtesy,
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  cleanliness and boundaries for common areas like the kitchen,
• 58:06
  hallways and open living offices.
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  Now, where I used to work, my job was stuck at the front desk
• 58:16
  and people would be walking by me all the time, right?
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  Could I leave anything personal on my desk?
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  No. No, because it can get stolen,
• 58:26
  right? It's sad that you have to think
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  like that. It'd be nice to be able to say,
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  hey, I can leave something on my desk and I was going to touch
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  it, right? But in today's society, I don't
• 58:39
  trust people. It is what it is, right?
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  But the last one, Situational awareness, the practice of
• 58:46
  observing and adapting to 1's communication styles,
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  professional punctuality. I can't.
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  I can't. Try to say it again, all right?
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  Cancel Culture. The practice cancel culture, the
• 59:04
  practice of observing and adapting to the communication
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  style, punctuality and the habits of top performing peers.
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  Now as it says top performing, why would it say top performing?
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  Because of the ones that are at the top.
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  Because that's the ones you want to copy.
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  Yeah. You don't want to copy the
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  losers, right? Yeah.
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  OK, let's talk about that real quick.
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  All right? Mirroring the behavior.
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  You go around and you see people, how they act, how they
• 59:36
  talk, everything, and you take on those behaviors.
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  Yeah. All right, not always be a.
• 59:45
  But you want to do that with the top people.
• 59:50
  OK there was a guy used to work with that.
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  I knew he was lying on his numbers.
• 59:58
  I caught him red handed one time and my boss didn't fire him.
• 1:00:05
  And another time after that she says hey how come you can't do
• 1:00:09
  what X nut guy is doing? And I said, don't even.
• 1:00:15
  I know he's lying. I gave you proof he was lying.
• 1:00:18
  He told us not to do nothing about it.
• 1:00:19
  You can never use him as a reference to me.
• 1:00:23
  Is that fair? Yeah.
• 1:00:25
  Could have been that one mistake, one time.
• 1:00:27
  Doesn't matter. I believed he was doing all the
• 1:00:30
  time. Especially since I caught him.
• 1:00:32
  Caught. OK.
• 1:00:41
  You want to mirror those good employees now.
• 1:00:46
  At the same time, can you have a good employee that has habits
• 1:00:50
  you don't want to follow? Yeah.
• 1:00:54
  One thing I'm going to say about my old CEO, he always parked the
• 1:01:01
  furthest away in the parking lot.
• 1:01:10
  Because the parking was for the employees.
• 1:01:13
  He didn't do it for health reasons.
• 1:01:14
  He didn't do it for any other reason.
• 1:01:16
  Isn't he an employee though? Yeah, but that's my point.
• 1:01:19
  He did by example, and that's one thing I'm going to give him
• 1:01:25
  credit for was he would park something that's so minimal like
• 1:01:30
  that that the difference to anybody, but he would park
• 1:01:34
  furthest away so that people can have a closer parking spot.
• 1:01:40
  Wow, right. I.
• 1:01:41
  Mean, yeah. OK, again, we go back to
• 1:01:44
  character and who you are, right?
• 1:01:46
  That's something about him. But yeah, so the other thing is
• 1:01:54
  you, you haven't talked about TikTok in forever with you.
• 1:01:57
  OK, But there's a TikTok of this girl who says she got fired in
• 1:02:01
  the second day of work. Have you seen that video?
• 1:02:04
  What did she do? She was late to both days.
• 1:02:08
  The first day she was late for some reason and the second day
• 1:02:11
  she was late was because she was having period cramps but she
• 1:02:15
  couldn't get out of bed and they fired her.
• 1:02:22
  Yeah, why? I don't know. 2 days of work and
• 1:02:32
  you're not showing up, you're doing your part.
• 1:02:34
  Yeah, you've already shown you're not dedicated to this
• 1:02:37
  job, right? I've, I've said this before and
• 1:02:41
  I'll say it again. Get rid of the poison as fast as
• 1:02:43
  you can, right? Because when someone's not doing
• 1:02:48
  what you need them to do, you need to learn how to fire fast.
• 1:02:52
  You need to hire fast. Meaning you need to fire, you
• 1:02:57
  need to hire someone as soon as you can, but if they don't work,
• 1:03:00
  then you need to fire faster and get another person in there.
• 1:03:03
  Now here, here's a strange question for you.
• 1:03:05
  Connor and I, I I don't know the actual number.
• 1:03:07
  You can, we can look it up, but what is the number of employees
• 1:03:12
  you should interview before you find the best employee?
• 1:03:17
  There's a number. Before you find the best
• 1:03:20
  employee. Yeah, well, there's no best
• 1:03:21
  employee. Hold on.
• 1:03:22
  I mean. Look it up the number of
• 1:03:28
  interviews. I hate this computer or the
• 1:03:32
  keyboard. To find the best employee, a
• 1:03:38
  best candidate, I think it's 28. 4.
• 1:03:49
  Interview rounds. Oh, that's not, that's not what
• 1:04:00
  I was asking. What?
• 1:04:00
  What number does it save for you?
• 1:04:02
  This same thing. Let me see.
• 1:04:18
  That's not what I mean all. Right.
• 1:04:25
  Hold on. Most recruiters aim to interview
• 1:04:27
  46 candidates per open roll after a strong initial resume
• 1:04:33
  Screen for like the four rounds of interviews because it's 4
• 1:04:40
  rounds of screening which would be like just a little chat, like
• 1:04:44
  phone call or video call skills in depth which is just talking
• 1:04:49
  about past work, technical skills.
• 1:04:53
  Around 3 is how you work with your team and how professional
• 1:04:59
  you can get and then 4 is if you take leadership or not and it
• 1:05:04
  says every four to six for one. That's not the one I'm looking
• 1:05:09
  for anyway. The the number of candidates I
• 1:05:14
  think is 28. If you can't find the right
• 1:05:19
  employee within 28 candidates, you're something's wrong.
• 1:05:23
  You've already lost the the candidate.
• 1:05:25
  Oh, and 20, Why not like 10? Well, I'm just that's what I was
• 1:05:29
  hoping. 10's already a lot. That's how I.
• 1:05:31
  Was hoping to find the actual number and I couldn't.
• 1:05:33
  All right there. There's a mathematical equation
• 1:05:35
  that says based on so many interviews, you can interview
• 1:05:38
  1000 people with the same job. You can run the exact 2 on it at
• 1:05:43
  20. 8. But up to 28. 6.
• 1:05:48
  No, it's that's not what I'm talking about.
• 1:05:50
  No, it's six. It's saying every role should be
• 1:05:56
  filled with the first six people you find.
• 1:05:58
  Within the first six people, OK, that's a low number to me.
• 1:06:02
  I've I've seen it over. Because I mean, you don't need
• 1:06:04
  20 people for one job. You can't find 20 people to do
• 1:06:10
  that one job. That's something.
• 1:06:11
  No, no, I, I, I. Agree.
• 1:06:12
  If you do 10 the. Number I had seen was higher,
• 1:06:14
  the number I had seen was higher.
• 1:06:15
  But if you say use 6 to 10, OK. It's 4:00 to 6:00.
• 1:06:18
  Based on your on the application.
• 1:06:19
  Be a handful. OK, that's it.
• 1:06:22
  If you can't find someone in the handful.
• 1:06:25
  OK, but if you get 1000 resumes, you have to read 1000 resumes.
• 1:06:31
  Yeah, I'm not doing that. You have to because you don't
• 1:06:34
  know if that Alan's resume is the best employee.
• 1:06:38
  Now, do you have to interview 1000?
• 1:06:40
  No, but you have to read 1000. Yes.
• 1:06:43
  OK. That's why you have these
• 1:06:44
  systems that read interview resumes.
• 1:06:48
  It avoids all that hassle, right?
• 1:06:52
  I've told you the job that I applied for, for Bliss, that the
• 1:06:56
  person says that my resume was very confusing, that's why I
• 1:06:58
  didn't get the interview. And I said, OK, if you could
• 1:07:01
  give me feedback, I would really appreciate it.
• 1:07:03
  And she says, yeah, like, for example, here it says you teach
• 1:07:05
  introduction to psychology. What does that mean?
• 1:07:09
  Like, what are you freaking stupid?
• 1:07:12
  I'm a college professor and teach the class introduction to
• 1:07:14
  psychology. She says, OK, I guess.
• 1:07:17
  And there's only here that says you're certified and
• 1:07:21
  preventative management and aggressive behavior.
• 1:07:24
  What is that? I said.
• 1:07:28
  I'm certified to prevent and manage aggressive behavior.
• 1:07:33
  Like, what the Hell's wrong with you?
• 1:07:36
  I told Rush. You know what?
• 1:07:37
  I am so glad I might get hired because if you're hiring people
• 1:07:41
  off the you're idiot ways of thinking, you get some really
• 1:07:45
  poor candidates, I said. And obviously I'm never going to
• 1:07:50
  apply for that job again. What job was even 4?
• 1:07:54
  I remember you told me the story, but I forgot.
• 1:07:56
  It was a social worker working with family advocacy on Fort
• 1:07:59
  Bliss with kids who've been abused.
• 1:08:03
  Wow, I. Would have been approved for the
• 1:08:05
  job. I'm going to apply for the
• 1:08:08
  director of Family Services. I mean of of family Protective
• 1:08:12
  Services in El Paso for adults and Child Protective Services.
• 1:08:16
  But for the director position, I was just trying to be a worker
• 1:08:19
  at Fort Bliss. Wow.
• 1:08:23
  And what happened with that? With what?
• 1:08:26
  Director. I wasn't qualified for it.
• 1:08:30
  I mean, I'm not going to lie, I don't know, I thought.
• 1:08:34
  You would get an interview. Or something.
• 1:08:35
  My my point being is I felt I could have taken that job
• 1:08:39
  because I knew the system enough.
• 1:08:41
  Yeah. You know, but yeah, there was a
• 1:08:45
  little people that actually had worked in their program, so they
• 1:08:47
  wouldn't hire those before me. And they made a great hire, I'm
• 1:08:53
  not going to lie. But the the point being is this
• 1:08:57
  person looked at my resume and was confused, which it wasn't
• 1:09:01
  me, trust me, I'm a college professor and I teach
• 1:09:04
  psychology. What I mean?
• 1:09:05
  Are you sure she wasn't like trying to test you to make sure?
• 1:09:08
  It's you. I didn't get a job interview.
• 1:09:11
  I never even got called for an interview.
• 1:09:13
  And she told me, oh, I remember your resume.
• 1:09:14
  It was very confusing. Oh, really?
• 1:09:18
  Can you tell me what was confusing about it?
• 1:09:19
  OK, and the fact that I'm a college professor teaching
• 1:09:22
  psychology was confusing to her. That's how the brain works.
• 1:09:29
  Or the fact that I don't know what this means.
• 1:09:31
  It's literally in the title. I prevent the manager aggressive
• 1:09:34
  behaviors. I don't know dude.
• 1:09:39
  Forget all my other experience as a counselor, as an advocate,
• 1:09:44
  as a day treatment program supervisor.
• 1:09:45
  None of that was an issue. It was these weird, confusing
• 1:09:48
  things. She thought I was in a good
• 1:09:50
  candidate for the job. Well, it was actually her brain
• 1:09:53
  that was just stupid. And I hope she's listening to
• 1:09:56
  this, because if she is, you're stupid, you know?
• 1:10:00
  And how long ago was? This oh, too long too long how
• 1:10:03
  long My first marriage long at least 25 years ago, I.
• 1:10:08
  Was going to say 25. Yeah.
• 1:10:11
  Yeesh. Early 2000s, new decade, am I
• 1:10:14
  right? God damn millennials.
• 1:10:20
  But anyway. So yeah, that that's one of
• 1:10:22
  those things. But I'll tell you what, that's
• 1:10:24
  my story. But let's hear the story from
• 1:10:26
  the fire about Ben. Ben, 10.
• 1:10:29
  Bend over. OK.
• 1:10:40
  Raises are recognition, not rewards.
• 1:10:43
  In today's story from the Fire, a new hire, Ben, frequently
• 1:10:48
  takes loud personal calls at his desk and microwaves fish in the
• 1:10:52
  communal kitchen. His colleagues are annoyed but
• 1:10:55
  say nothing, creating a tense environment.
• 1:10:58
  Ben remains oblivious until his manager has to have an awkward
• 1:11:02
  conversation with him about workplace awareness.
• 1:11:05
  He learned the hard way that professionalism is just respect
• 1:11:09
  in a work outfit. That was a story from the fire.
• 1:11:14
  Murph, man, are you feeling the heat?
• 1:11:17
  What, what, what? What do you say?
• 1:11:18
  What the hell? What are you referring to?
• 1:11:22
  I was reading it and just thinking about someone
• 1:11:26
  microwaving fish. I hate tuna.
• 1:11:30
  I hate fish I don't like. I'm not a seafood guy.
• 1:11:34
  If someone cooks something in the microwave that smells, I'm
• 1:11:38
  not getting in there for the whole shift.
• 1:11:40
  OK, I will sit somewhere else. Is it fair to say that I can't
• 1:11:45
  fit work? Yes, if it's interrupting
• 1:11:50
  everybody else, yes, it's a break room, not a kitchen where
• 1:11:55
  you cook whatever you want. Like, yes, I know it's food, but
• 1:11:58
  like you got to think about everybody else on how they feel,
• 1:12:02
  but they don't eat finish. When I found the story right and
• 1:12:06
  I'm like, I'm going to use it, I was like, so I can read shit
• 1:12:09
  work. Yeah.
• 1:12:14
  That's too funny. That's the reason I'm like
• 1:12:15
  working from home. I can eat whatever I want.
• 1:12:18
  Yeah, dude, especially if it's like you have to punch in a cup
• 1:12:22
  to get in the break room, so it's not like you could just
• 1:12:24
  open the door or whatever, you know?
• 1:12:26
  No. It's trapped in there.
• 1:12:32
  I had to spray the break room because of how bad it smelled
• 1:12:36
  from that microwave. We had to get a new microwave.
• 1:12:38
  Actually I forgot we got a brand new microwave because of like
• 1:12:44
  the smell. It was bad dude.
• 1:12:48
  It was really terrible. That's too funny.
• 1:12:50
  You had to get in the microwave. Because it's like that's all he
• 1:12:54
  ate and he made like mixtures. Oh my dude, come on.
• 1:13:01
  Yes, I know. But I don't know.
• 1:13:03
  There's just some stuff where it's like you need to know what
• 1:13:07
  to bring to work, like to eat and be considerate for all the
• 1:13:13
  other people that don't eat what you eat.
• 1:13:15
  Well, let let me tell you last night.
• 1:13:17
  That's why I get bagel bites. Out of all things to cook.
• 1:13:20
  Bagel Bites. No smell, no nothing.
• 1:13:23
  Oh, it's pizza. Yeah, Yum.
• 1:13:26
  Not tuna or fish. God I hate seafood with a
• 1:13:35
  passion. Last night I was, you know,
• 1:13:37
  folding my clothes and clothes up, hanging and after washing
• 1:13:40
  and whatnot, right? And I had tuna and I had a new
• 1:13:43
  tuna that I bought. It's not the best, but I mean,
• 1:13:45
  I, I it's like already pre flavored, pre mixed.
• 1:13:49
  And I was eating it. And then after I was eating it,
• 1:13:52
  a little while later, I said, you know, I want to get some
• 1:13:54
  celery and peanut butter, right? So I took it and I was waiting
• 1:13:58
  for you to come in and go, I smell of tuna and I smell peanut
• 1:14:01
  butter. I was like, Oh yeah, dude,
• 1:14:03
  they're really good together to see your reaction.
• 1:14:06
  But you didn't. You didn't smell it.
• 1:14:07
  Thank God. Thank God, right?
• 1:14:10
  Thank God, Oh my God. But I saw you brought it home.
• 1:14:15
  I was like, oh hell no. I walked straight to my room.
• 1:14:19
  Never came out because I knew you're going to cook some tuna.
• 1:14:21
  Well, first of all, I don't cook it.
• 1:14:22
  It's all cold, but yeah. Oh, but like, you heat it up and
• 1:14:25
  all that. Like what?
• 1:14:28
  I don't heat up tuna. You don't heat up tuna.
• 1:14:30
  Yes, he do. No.
• 1:14:31
  Yes. Yes.
• 1:14:32
  Tuna sandwiches are cold. You've heated up tuna before, I
• 1:14:36
  swear. No, I've had fish shrimp I've
• 1:14:41
  never had. I don't tuna.
• 1:14:44
  I. Don't know what I'm thinking
• 1:14:46
  then. You know tuna?
• 1:14:47
  What? I'm going to cook it for us.
• 1:14:50
  We cook it. I remember you.
• 1:14:51
  Yeah. Like you.
• 1:14:52
  Heat it up for you. I just make it cold as a cold
• 1:14:54
  sandwich. Mayo, lemon pepper, throw some
• 1:14:58
  lettuce in there and I'm good. Anyway, neither here nor there,
• 1:15:04
  going back to bed, he gets on the phone and talks Ally at
• 1:15:09
  work. First off, shouldn't be using
• 1:15:11
  personal phone network, Can we agree?
• 1:15:13
  Well, it depends where he's at. Oh, at his desk?
• 1:15:17
  Yeah, that's right. As a desk I used to be at, I did
• 1:15:22
  my personal stuff. You're not supposed to use work
• 1:15:24
  stuff for personal stuff. And I get it, but I literally
• 1:15:27
  was. I had nothing to do.
• 1:15:29
  There was nothing. You know how they say you never
• 1:15:31
  want to tell the boss you have nothing to do because they'll
• 1:15:34
  give you, Yeah, they'll give you work.
• 1:15:36
  I, I, there was nothing I could do.
• 1:15:38
  There was literally nothing. So it's just saying they're
• 1:15:41
  like, I started doing some personal stuff and you know, the
• 1:15:44
  guy that I hate so much would come by and, and give me smack
• 1:15:46
  about it. One time I was talking to a
• 1:15:48
  parent and I was talking to her maybe 25 minutes and he text me.
• 1:15:52
  I think the conversation is over now.
• 1:15:54
  Dang. Elementary school also.
• 1:15:59
  Same guy and I'm like, yeah, I know my daughter's A10 parents.
• 1:16:03
  I'm, I'm yeah, I'm messing with her, but like.
• 1:16:08
  Yeah, it's like going to be all like.
• 1:16:12
  What should be if you have nothing going on?
• 1:16:15
  Let me talk to someone. There's going to be some videos
• 1:16:17
  no matter what. We got the story.
• 1:16:19
  You got to experiences, I mean personal.
• 1:16:22
  You were just right about when I screwed up and all the parents
• 1:16:25
  left me. They didn't file a complaint.
• 1:16:26
  Yeah, that's why I was building those relationships, you know?
• 1:16:30
  Anyway, I really hope everybody take somebody soon.
• 1:16:33
  A lot of time would go to hell. But using your phone at work,
• 1:16:38
  You know, like when I'm on the playground and I was supposed to
• 1:16:40
  be watching kids. Yeah.
• 1:16:45
  I, I, I sometimes I would text the other coaches, right, and
• 1:16:49
  say, Hey, look at this kid over here, right?
• 1:16:54
  And then one time the this guy comes over and goes, you're not
• 1:16:57
  supposed to be using your phone. And I said, I want you to read
• 1:17:02
  what I'm writing because this is work related.
• 1:17:04
  I'm texting the other person way over there to check on the kid
• 1:17:08
  that's next to him. They saw something happened.
• 1:17:12
  You want me to walk over there and wait for whatever's
• 1:17:15
  happening to finish before I get there?
• 1:17:18
  You want me to yell across the whole playground?
• 1:17:20
  Is that what you want me to do? Because I will.
• 1:17:23
  I was pissed, dude. God, he was awesome.
• 1:17:26
  That's so triggered. Anyway, can you say that using
• 1:17:31
  your personal phone at work is not a good thing, especially if
• 1:17:34
  you're making personal phone calls?
• 1:17:35
  Yeah, right. Phone calls.
• 1:17:37
  Yeah, OK. Are we using it like it's not
• 1:17:40
  interrupting anyone? I would say it's fine if you
• 1:17:43
  have no work to do, try to stay busy, But if there's nothing to
• 1:17:47
  do then can't really help it. If if I'm working at Walmart.
• 1:17:53
  There's got to be something to do sometimes.
• 1:17:57
  And I take a personal phone call and I'm in just in the aisle
• 1:18:00
  hiding, taking the call. And the manager walks by me.
• 1:18:04
  He's going to think I'm avoiding work.
• 1:18:07
  That's, that's his perception. Yeah.
• 1:18:09
  OK. Could could it be that my kids
• 1:18:11
  in the hospital, Right. Like I work from home.
• 1:18:17
  When you were in the hospital, I worked one day from the
• 1:18:19
  hospital. Oh, you did.
• 1:18:23
  OK, because I took a couple of days off, but I was like, now I
• 1:18:26
  just wanted to be with you. And, you know, I, I texted my
• 1:18:32
  boss and I said, are you OK with me working from the hospital?
• 1:18:35
  And she's like, yeah. And she says if something
• 1:18:38
  happens, you need more time, just let me know.
• 1:18:39
  You know, she's very, I love my boss.
• 1:18:42
  But was that a professional thing to do?
• 1:18:47
  Well, I mean, if I had a student come in and they're going to see
• 1:18:49
  this wall behind me. They're gonna be like, where you
• 1:18:52
  at? Yeah, the hospital.
• 1:18:53
  Yeah, just whatever. Is that appropriate?
• 1:18:56
  It's not, it's not not appropriate.
• 1:18:59
  Does that make? Sense, but it's not appropriate
• 1:19:01
  either. But it's not inappropriate
• 1:19:03
  either, right? So.
• 1:19:05
  Yeah, it's, it's a great line. It's just a.
• 1:19:07
  It's a great line. No, it's a wall.
• 1:19:10
  It's you got a place for personal reasons, but yet you
• 1:19:13
  still make time for work. That's what I would say.
• 1:19:17
  Again, I, you know, I, I'm your dad.
• 1:19:20
  I think differently. Ergo, you, you think differently
• 1:19:23
  because you know, I haven't been like that with you, I mean.
• 1:19:28
  What would you do if you saw your teacher at the hospital,
• 1:19:31
  but you're still doing class? Go ahead, go have fun.
• 1:19:35
  We'll we'll do class another day.
• 1:19:38
  The color code blue, I needed to come in giving you CPR and I'm
• 1:19:40
  like OK, class today we're going to cover.
• 1:19:44
  Well, then yeah, if if it's like for that.
• 1:19:47
  But if you know, it's like your kids doing better and you go
• 1:19:52
  back to work. Yeah, but you know, in the in
• 1:19:54
  the nurses, they come by every 2030 minutes.
• 1:19:57
  If I'm in class, that's going to interrupt me.
• 1:19:59
  It just there's potential for problems.
• 1:20:01
  Can we agree on that one? I mean.
• 1:20:02
  Yeah, but it's it's not a bad thing to do it, but wouldn't
• 1:20:07
  recommend it because you're going to get distracted, you're
• 1:20:11
  going to get upset, even though it was your choice to do class
• 1:20:14
  in the hospital. Right.
• 1:20:15
  So, you know, there's some things that you don't want to
• 1:20:17
  do. You know, the reality of it is,
• 1:20:23
  do I expect you to not return text messages?
• 1:20:27
  No. Is there an excessive amount of
• 1:20:30
  of text messages? Yes.
• 1:20:32
  But if you once in a while you get on the phone and return, I
• 1:20:35
  don't care. Just just.
• 1:20:36
  Do your job. That's life.
• 1:20:38
  Today we have a phone with us. In the old days, we had to wait
• 1:20:40
  till we got home and checked our voicemails and we'd have 15
• 1:20:43
  voicemails. If someone's trying to reach us,
• 1:20:44
  there's an emergency because we have a phone.
• 1:20:47
  No. You know, there's another thing.
• 1:20:50
  I don't know if you know this or not.
• 1:20:50
  Have you heard of a party line? No.
• 1:20:54
  Back when people couldn't afford a whole phone line for
• 1:20:56
  themselves, they had a party line.
• 1:20:58
  So like 5 houses would ring and he would pick up the phone.
• 1:21:04
  Oh, it's, it's for the guy down the street.
• 1:21:08
  So what would that do? I, I, I I've never had one so I
• 1:21:11
  don't know if they had a call back or what.
• 1:21:13
  So I'm like, out of all the five houses, someone rings and it's
• 1:21:18
  like, oh, it just hangs up and everybody else is like.
• 1:21:21
  As well. Yeah, I, I don't know how that
• 1:21:23
  would work, but yeah. So, you know, the old days we,
• 1:21:29
  we didn't have the phones like we do nowadays.
• 1:21:31
  We didn't have access to instant information.
• 1:21:34
  You know, the, the perfect example that I can think of is
• 1:21:36
  what happened with Charlie Kirk. Everyone know about it because
• 1:21:39
  of social media, right? In the old days we have to wait
• 1:21:45
  till we get home and watch the news at night.
• 1:21:48
  Or CNN started a 24 hour news station.
• 1:21:51
  So you could tune into CNN anytime and watch news anytime,
• 1:21:56
  right? Yeah.
• 1:21:59
  All that was before we had a little computer on our phone.
• 1:22:02
  I'll tell you what, let's go ahead and let's talk about those
• 1:22:05
  steps you can take so that you can avoid, not avoid, but handle
• 1:22:11
  these situations in a more professional manner.
• 1:22:14
  All right, let's get to today's heat map.
• 1:22:24
  Track your wins, not just time. The heat map will show you where
• 1:22:28
  to focus your efforts for the most impact.
• 1:22:31
  Be punctual. Being consistently on time shows
• 1:22:34
  deep respect for your colleagues, schedules and
• 1:22:36
  commitments. Observe dress codes.
• 1:22:40
  Observe the office dress code during your first month and err
• 1:22:43
  on the side of being slightly more professional.
• 1:22:46
  Respect shared spaces, Keep your personal workspace tidy and be
• 1:22:50
  hyper respectful of shared spaces by cleaning up
• 1:22:53
  immediately after yourself in the kitchen.
• 1:22:56
  Practice active listening, silence your mobile devices and
• 1:23:00
  avoid checking notifications during meetings to give your
• 1:23:02
  full attention. The map is drawn back to Murph
• 1:23:06
  Man for the next segment. All right, so be punctual.
• 1:23:10
  Being consistently on timed shows deep respect for your
• 1:23:12
  coworkers. Let's talk about that real
• 1:23:14
  quick. If I start work at 9:00, what
• 1:23:19
  time am I punching in at? 9.
• 1:23:22
  All right. And then 9:00 what should I do?
• 1:23:25
  Go straight to work. You should already be at work.
• 1:23:28
  Or should I walk by the time clock, punch in, then go put all
• 1:23:32
  my stuff in my locker and everything, then change or
• 1:23:35
  whatever I need to do and then go out to work?
• 1:23:37
  No. First you go get changed to
• 1:23:41
  whatever, put everything away, then you go clock in and start.
• 1:23:44
  Right. Yeah, OK.
• 1:23:49
  You could try to get some extra like cents if you wanted to
• 1:23:53
  before, but no it's not worth clocking in then going to break
• 1:23:59
  like to the break room to change and all that and then going to.
• 1:24:01
  Work right there was one time I was late to work for whatever
• 1:24:05
  reason. I, I, I was probably about 1520
• 1:24:08
  minutes late to work. And you know, I was supposed to
• 1:24:11
  have monitor the playground, right?
• 1:24:14
  I was so late I was rushing. I'm like, what can I say to be,
• 1:24:20
  I'm so sorry, but I was stuck in the bathroom with stomach
• 1:24:23
  issues. I go and I clock in and the guy
• 1:24:30
  that I don't like stops me. Why are you late?
• 1:24:32
  And I'm sorry, I had some stomach issues.
• 1:24:35
  I just, you know, try to get as fast as I could.
• 1:24:38
  I'm sorry, I'm late. My nurse here is actually goes.
• 1:24:41
  Then maybe you need to be at home and go see the doctor.
• 1:24:48
  And I said, you know what, you're right, I'm going to go
• 1:24:52
  see the doctor clocked on left, right.
• 1:24:57
  How many minutes do you think? That was probably 20 minutes
• 1:25:00
  late. I meant like you clocked.
• 1:25:02
  In Oh no, like the conversation I just had with you was how fast
• 1:25:05
  I clocked in and out. Oh, and I actually told them I
• 1:25:08
  said just don't clock me in, call me in sick so she can go
• 1:25:11
  delete it. So then I went to the doctor and
• 1:25:15
  I told him I've been having stomach issues and they gave me
• 1:25:17
  some medications and I went back and I gave him the note that I
• 1:25:20
  was at the doctor. She was like, well, the doctor
• 1:25:25
  says you you can stay home for two or three days, so why are
• 1:25:29
  you here? And I'm like because.
• 1:25:30
  I want to work. Because I want to work.
• 1:25:31
  And they're like, well, if you're sick, we don't want you
• 1:25:34
  contagious. And she sent me home again.
• 1:25:37
  I was just like, I'm not sick. I was just late, so I ended up
• 1:25:44
  having to use three days of my vacation time.
• 1:25:46
  Go to the doctor for fake everything right?
• 1:25:52
  Could have came up with a better reasoning, dude.
• 1:25:55
  Could have came up with a better reasoning.
• 1:25:58
  Jesus. Now, has there been times where
• 1:26:01
  I've been sick at work? Yes.
• 1:26:02
  OK. Wait like contagious sick or
• 1:26:06
  just like I don't feel good? Well, let me tell you, I I love
• 1:26:12
  this nurse, by the way, OK, There was one time in December
• 1:26:19
  that I had a, a very bad respiratory disease.
• 1:26:23
  I was coughing up a storm. I remember.
• 1:26:27
  And this is before COVID. The December before COVID hit,
• 1:26:31
  it wasn't in the United States yet.
• 1:26:34
  OK, No. What?
• 1:26:36
  No. No, I'm like, I agree.
• 1:26:37
  I'm like, yeah, no, it wasn't. I had COVID.
• 1:26:42
  I can tell you right now I had COVID, OK?
• 1:26:47
  I know I had COVID. How it wasn't diagnosed.
• 1:26:53
  The different strands that were in the air.
• 1:26:55
  But. OK, I think I had got one of
• 1:26:57
  those strands before they got officially recognized in the
• 1:26:59
  United States. But it was in China.
• 1:27:01
  Yeah, but people were traveling and that's how they traveled,
• 1:27:04
  exposed to the whole world. But anyway, I, I was so sick,
• 1:27:09
  dude. She tells me you need to go to
• 1:27:11
  the doctor. She says either you go to the
• 1:27:15
  doctor right now or we call the ambulance for you.
• 1:27:23
  And I'm like, OK, so I go to the doctor and I had flu, A&B, very
• 1:27:35
  sick, contagious. And Jesus, I, I just had a
• 1:27:40
  cough. In my opinion, I wasn't like
• 1:27:42
  feeling sick or nothing. I just had a cough.
• 1:27:43
  But it was a really, really bad cough.
• 1:27:46
  And yeah, so anyway, sometimes not going to work is the best
• 1:27:53
  professional thing you can do because if you go, you get sick,
• 1:27:57
  you pass it on to everybody. And it turns out I did get a
• 1:27:59
  bunch of people. Where did I get?
• 1:28:05
  I don't know. No, because they did catch pay
• 1:28:08
  zero and kept them there. No, Yes.
• 1:28:12
  No, yes. OK, I don't want to get
• 1:28:17
  sidetracked but. We don't have to anyways.
• 1:28:21
  Can you come back to patient zero if we're done with this?
• 1:28:23
  We'll talk about it later, all right?
• 1:28:25
  We'll talk about it after the show.
• 1:28:28
  In Christmas, when we get sick, do you remember?
• 1:28:31
  This Christmas. Yeah, Yeah.
• 1:28:32
  This Christmas? Yeah, it was.
• 1:28:36
  That was maybe when I was sick years ago.
• 1:28:43
  I think I was probably about 3 or 4 times as sick as I was this
• 1:28:47
  past Christmas. What?
• 1:28:49
  Yeah, that's how sick I was. So give you an idea of how bad I
• 1:28:54
  was when I was at work. Jesus, I didn't.
• 1:28:56
  I didn't even think I felt that bad.
• 1:28:58
  OK. I just had the regular cold that
• 1:29:01
  was. No, this past Christmas, Connor,
• 1:29:04
  you were out for days. I had the cold.
• 1:29:09
  I don't want to give out personal information, but you
• 1:29:12
  were out really bad. I was sleepy, yeah.
• 1:29:16
  But you were sick, remember? I was coughing, that was it.
• 1:29:23
  I wasn't like nauseous. I wasn't thrown out, but I
• 1:29:26
  wasn't banging. You were 19 years old.
• 1:29:30
  Yeah. And you felt sick.
• 1:29:32
  You couldn't lay down in bed with me.
• 1:29:35
  I got a little kid. What happened?
• 1:29:36
  I want to try my stomach. Yeah.
• 1:29:40
  And my bed was hot, that's why. That's right.
• 1:29:43
  Yeah, because my bed was hot. Oh yeah.
• 1:29:46
  Fever and my bed was hot, so I went to your room with the
• 1:29:49
  fever. Because your bed is cold, you
• 1:29:52
  don't have a soft comforter like I do.
• 1:29:55
  A blanket. My point being this you were
• 1:29:57
  really sick. I wasn't, I was just cold, dude.
• 1:30:01
  I'm I'm just, I'm trying to cool off, OK?
• 1:30:03
  We were. Really sick.
• 1:30:05
  And it was on New Year's, dude, New Year's Eve.
• 1:30:08
  Yes it was. Anyway, yeah it was horrible but
• 1:30:12
  the point being is I still was sicker before COVID.
• 1:30:16
  Yeah, I think I was more sick with COVID.
• 1:30:18
  Yeah, if. If you're that sick, don't go to
• 1:30:20
  work. I know we don't want to use days
• 1:30:22
  but but it. Dude, your personal life matters
• 1:30:25
  more than your work. Let me ask you a question.
• 1:30:27
  If I went to the movie theater and I was sick like that, should
• 1:30:33
  I have gone to work? No, because A.
• 1:30:35
  Lot of popcorn, you got food. A lot of other people would have
• 1:30:38
  gotten sick, not just my coworkers, but I mean, imagine.
• 1:30:40
  All the Evie cough on the seeds you were going to get the Evie
• 1:30:43
  cough on the. Just imagine how bad that could
• 1:30:45
  be. So working at Walmart, OK.
• 1:30:47
  Working from home. Can I kind of work if I'm sick?
• 1:30:49
  Yes. All right.
• 1:30:50
  But yeah, All right. Observe dress codes.
• 1:30:52
  Observe the office dress code during your first month and earn
• 1:30:56
  the sight of being slightly more professional.
• 1:31:00
  OK, no jeans, no tennis shoes. Oh yeah, you wear shirts with
• 1:31:07
  collars, ties if you can. Not polo shirts, but enough
• 1:31:12
  shirt. You know you got to dress a
• 1:31:14
  certain way until someone says something like.
• 1:31:19
  You can wear whatever. You can wear whatever you know.
• 1:31:21
  Or wear uniform or something. Yeah, I mean the first day I
• 1:31:26
  would say. Respect those shared spaces,
• 1:31:28
  keep your personal workspace tidy and hyper respectful of
• 1:31:31
  shared spaces such as the communal kitchen and keep
• 1:31:35
  everything clean, OK. And not to bring fish.
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  And don't bring fish. Yeah, and last but not least is
• 1:31:42
  practice active listening. Silence your mobile devices and
• 1:31:47
  avoid checking notifications during meetings to give your
• 1:31:51
  full attention. Now I will tell you one of my
• 1:31:54
  things is I I end up on the phone a lot during meetings and
• 1:31:57
  I'm playing games and my boss didn't like it and she called me
• 1:32:01
  out and I said I'm sorry. I said if I stay here and I'm
• 1:32:05
  listening to you and doing nothing.
• 1:32:07
  I'm not. I'm not listening.
• 1:32:09
  I'm doing something else. I'm listening.
• 1:32:11
  Yeah, because you're actively using your brain.
• 1:32:14
  And I said, do me a favor and ask me anything.
• 1:32:18
  This is just a fact of life. I listened better.
• 1:32:22
  Yeah. And till then I want to bring it
• 1:32:26
  on sound and like a. Little like gay boy.
• 1:32:30
  Yeah, nothing like that, right. But yeah, so it's those things
• 1:32:35
  that, you know, is, is the rudest thing when it's the
• 1:32:46
  table, when they're on the phone and you're not.
• 1:32:49
  Now, you and I do this a lot. We go out to eat and you'll be
• 1:32:54
  on your phone or I'm on my phone or we're both on the phone.
• 1:32:56
  And I've actually had people tell me like.
• 1:32:59
  What? What's going on?
• 1:33:01
  Here why don't you, you guys are so disrespectful like.
• 1:33:04
  We're like the quietest people in the restaurant because
• 1:33:06
  they're always on the phone, because they're like, someone's
• 1:33:08
  eating and I'm on the phone. Well, like, I'm eating your
• 1:33:11
  phone. Yeah.
• 1:33:12
  Both on the phone and eating or on the phone?
• 1:33:14
  People have seen that said. Why?
• 1:33:16
  Because like, you don't talk to each other.
• 1:33:19
  I'm like, no, we actually talked to each other too much that we
• 1:33:21
  had nothing to say. Yeah, we talked on the car right
• 1:33:24
  there. Yeah, we're actually able to sit
• 1:33:25
  down and play our games now. Yeah, I know.
• 1:33:27
  I'm like, this is the only time I could, like, play games and
• 1:33:30
  eat and like, you know, do my stuff.
• 1:33:32
  Yeah, you know, in the car. Then I still play games.
• 1:33:35
  But I mean, I still listen and all that.
• 1:33:38
  All right, well, I'll tell you what, let's take one quick break
• 1:33:41
  in and we'll back and we'll talk about places you can get burned
• 1:33:45
  in our in, I mean in the pitfalls that you can have and
• 1:33:48
  where you can get burned. So right back.
• 1:33:53
  Sounds good. You're going to rest play.
• 1:33:57
  I'm trying. All right, welcome back.
• 1:38:22
  Let's jump into those pitfalls that we'll have in our Simon
• 1:38:25
  called Where are you going to get burned?
• 1:38:32
  Facts, not feelings. Let's talk about where you'll
• 1:38:36
  get burned. These are some common pitfalls.
• 1:38:39
  Being too casual, too quickly. Observe the office culture
• 1:38:43
  before diving in. It is a professional
• 1:38:45
  environment, not a college dorm or home lounge.
• 1:38:49
  Ignoring social cues. Pay attention to body language,
• 1:38:52
  volume levels and team tone to avoid interrupting deep work
• 1:38:56
  blocks. Oversharing personal details.
• 1:38:59
  Maintain professional boundaries.
• 1:39:02
  You can be friendly and warm without being over familiar.
• 1:39:05
  Danger zone identified. Back to Murph, man for the
• 1:39:09
  warning all. Right.
• 1:39:11
  So being too casual too quickly, what did I tell you?
• 1:39:15
  Don't be yourself for the first couple of weeks.
• 1:39:18
  Yeah, observe, mirror, watch, and then slowly let yourself
• 1:39:26
  out. Ignore social cues.
• 1:39:28
  Pay attention to body language and volume levels and team tone
• 1:39:31
  to avoid interrupting deep work blocks.
• 1:39:37
  OK, you got to be aware of what people are doing.
• 1:39:45
  Are they socializing or are they working?
• 1:39:49
  Are they talking about something that you're interrupting?
• 1:39:52
  That could wait. All right, be you got to be
• 1:39:56
  really aware of all that stuff and over shattering personal
• 1:40:01
  details, oversharing, overshadowing, oversharing
• 1:40:04
  personal details. Maintain professional boundaries
• 1:40:06
  and careful what you share with people because I will tell you,
• 1:40:10
  you can give up a lot of information too quickly before
• 1:40:13
  people know it, like for example your very first Friday on the
• 1:40:16
  job. Who wants to go get drunk with
• 1:40:18
  me tonight? Yeah, you don't want to do that
• 1:40:20
  kind of stuff, right? If if you're asking people the
• 1:40:28
  1st to go job A. So how can I get around doing
• 1:40:33
  this and then be like, you got to do it, you know, doesn't mean
• 1:40:40
  that it can't be done. It's just they're not going to
• 1:40:42
  tell you, yeah, you're new, you can do whatever you want, right?
• 1:40:45
  So just be careful with all this stuff.
• 1:40:47
  Don't be yourself too much, don't be sharing too much
• 1:40:49
  information. It's it's one of those things
• 1:40:50
  where, you know, just it varies, right?
• 1:40:54
  All right. So let's talk about ways we can
• 1:40:57
  prevent that in our segment called the heat Shields.
• 1:41:06
  The prep is the protection. Here are your heat Shields, the
• 1:41:11
  situational mirror. Deploy this shield by
• 1:41:15
  intentionally mirroring the behavior, tone, and punctuality
• 1:41:19
  of the most respected person in the room.
• 1:41:22
  Corporate culture guides read essential workplace reading like
• 1:41:26
  unwritten rules of the workplace to demystify complex corporate
• 1:41:30
  expectations. Digital tone checkers use
• 1:41:34
  communication tools like Grammarly's Tone detector to
• 1:41:37
  audit internal emails and messages before pressing send.
• 1:41:41
  The Shields are up, Murph man, What's next?
• 1:41:45
  All right, so the situational mirror we've been talking about,
• 1:41:49
  watch and observe and follow. All right.
• 1:41:52
  Yeah. Corporate culture guides like
• 1:41:55
  The Unwritten Rules of the Workplace.
• 1:41:57
  You definitely want to read that because there are some things
• 1:42:01
  you have to think about, like having your ringtone silent,
• 1:42:08
  right? Having your computer screensaver
• 1:42:12
  be appropriate, you know, and I don't mean like, you know,
• 1:42:14
  appropriate, like nudity. I mean, like, have it pop up as
• 1:42:17
  Bud Light, you know? Yeah.
• 1:42:19
  Or something like, you know what I mean?
• 1:42:22
  It's not a big deal. But again, you don't know what
• 1:42:25
  the rules are at work and how they're going to treat you.
• 1:42:26
  So you want to be very careful how you present yourself.
• 1:42:29
  And the digital tone checkers. I've talked to this about this
• 1:42:31
  before. Writing an e-mail, checking it
• 1:42:34
  with Grammarly. Make sure it's more
• 1:42:35
  professional. Word has that option as well.
• 1:42:38
  I use Gemini, you know, things of that nature, right?
• 1:42:42
  Those heat Shields are something that we all look at that will
• 1:42:45
  help you avoid those pitfalls. OK, because we're not perfect
• 1:42:54
  and we're all going to have issues in the new job.
• 1:42:58
  I, I told you about that one job I had where the first day of
• 1:43:00
  work, I had to miss it because I was in called to, I was
• 1:43:03
  subpoenaed to go to court And her response was this is going
• 1:43:06
  to happen a lot. And I just really said, I, I, I
• 1:43:09
  don't know, I, if I get subpoenaed, I get subpoenaed.
• 1:43:13
  How am I supposed to stop that? Right?
• 1:43:16
  She's, but you're not working there anymore.
• 1:43:20
  And I said, you're right, someone else needs to handle the
• 1:43:23
  case. But I already had this court
• 1:43:26
  date scheduled before you offered me the job.
• 1:43:29
  And I tried to get out of it, but I couldn't.
• 1:43:31
  So they had to subpoena me and I had to go.
• 1:43:33
  So I don't think it's going to happen anymore, but I don't
• 1:43:37
  know. She didn't like it.
• 1:43:41
  I'm like. Well, too bad.
• 1:43:43
  Well, yeah, but I understand that it looked bad.
• 1:43:46
  But it's not my fault, right? Yeah.
• 1:43:48
  You couldn't control it. I mean you tried telling them.
• 1:43:51
  Yeah. But they're like, no, we're
• 1:43:53
  going to subpoena you. You're going to have to come.
• 1:43:55
  Right. And the reality of it was I
• 1:43:59
  needed to be there and I asked to be subpoenaed.
• 1:44:02
  That was really funny. When I got subpoenaed, they show
• 1:44:04
  up in my in laws house. That's where I lived.
• 1:44:12
  She opened the door to sheriff's deputy asking for me.
• 1:44:16
  And she says 1 moment close the door and she yells, the police
• 1:44:22
  are here for you, Sean. And I said, OK, I knew what it
• 1:44:26
  was right? And I said here, I I said, where
• 1:44:30
  do I sign? He was here.
• 1:44:31
  All right, thank you. And he goes, you're not even
• 1:44:33
  going to ask me what I said no, I've been expecting this, this
• 1:44:36
  so I know what's happening. I said, oh, OK, Because the way
• 1:44:39
  she answered the door, I was like, oh, this is not going to
• 1:44:41
  go good, you know? But yeah, I, I needed to be in
• 1:44:49
  court. And it was funny because in that
• 1:44:52
  court, the, the judge was asking me questions.
• 1:44:56
  I mean, the lawyer was asking me questions over and over, trying
• 1:44:58
  to get me to trip up my story. And the judge said he's going to
• 1:45:03
  answer to you. You already know where we are
• 1:45:05
  with this. Like just drop it in other
• 1:45:08
  words, saying like, I'm I'm going to roll against you
• 1:45:10
  already, right. So I needed to be there to tell
• 1:45:14
  the judge a story. If I hadn't been there, could
• 1:45:15
  have got a different story. But the judge was like, yeah,
• 1:45:17
  he's totally whatever, whatever, whatever.
• 1:45:23
  But yeah, so workplace norms are, are one of those things
• 1:45:25
  that you really don't know what it is.
• 1:45:27
  You can research them, but you just got to observe your Co
• 1:45:29
  worker. That's the best thing you can
• 1:45:30
  do. All right, let's talk about
• 1:45:33
  those reflective questions and let's reflect back on today's
• 1:45:35
  episode, Conor in our segment called the Afterburn.
• 1:45:43
  Reflect on your value in today's Afterburn.
• 1:45:46
  Here are some questions for you to reflect on.
• 1:45:49
  What are the primary unwritten rules and norms of my current
• 1:45:53
  workplace? How can I actively show more
• 1:45:56
  respect for my colleagues, time, focus, and shared space?
• 1:46:01
  What professional first impression am I making with my
• 1:46:04
  daily conduct and communication? Who's professional conduct in my
• 1:46:09
  organization is worth observing and mirroring?
• 1:46:15
  All right. Situation mirror I've been
• 1:46:17
  talking about. I'm not going to go over that
• 1:46:19
  again, but the culprit. Thank you.
• 1:46:26
  So what are those primary unwritten rules?
• 1:46:28
  We talked about that already, but how can the activity show
• 1:46:32
  more respect for your colleagues?
• 1:46:34
  Time focused and shared space? Think about that real quick.
• 1:46:39
  Actively thinking, what can I do to help my team?
• 1:46:46
  What can I do right now to help my team?
• 1:46:50
  You may not know what your job is, but what can I do right?
• 1:46:54
  OK, what professional first impression am I making now?
• 1:46:58
  I'm going to ask you a question. When does that first impression
• 1:47:02
  start? On your resume I would say.
• 1:47:11
  Wow, that's, I like that answer. That's not what I was going to
• 1:47:16
  say, but I like that answer. I was going to say in the
• 1:47:19
  interview, but it starts in the lobby while waiting for your
• 1:47:22
  interview. But yeah, your resume says a lot
• 1:47:24
  about you, right? Yeah, that's already in first
• 1:47:26
  impression. I'm going to give you props in
• 1:47:27
  that one. OK?
• 1:47:29
  Yeah. That that is the first
• 1:47:30
  impression someone reads resume. And if it's all like in on pink
• 1:47:34
  paper with flowers and roses, what?
• 1:47:37
  Maybe I'm the most professional person, right?
• 1:47:39
  Yeah. If I'm a guy, it's a little too
• 1:47:44
  girly for me. I was going to say.
• 1:47:46
  A guy with flowers on his. Yeah, you know, OK, whatever.
• 1:47:49
  Is his girlfriend showing him love?
• 1:47:51
  Yeah. Good luck on your job, babe.
• 1:47:53
  I can see right resume is an issue, but with me I was going
• 1:47:59
  to what I was going to say was the interview starts.
• 1:48:01
  I mean, the first impression starts off during your waiting
• 1:48:05
  for that first interview. When you go up to the employee
• 1:48:07
  and be like, I'm here for the interview, OK, Wait in the lobby
• 1:48:09
  or something, Yeah. Where I used to work at this
• 1:48:12
  program with adults who had been diagnosed with mental
• 1:48:17
  retardation and autism, you have to be very understanding of them
• 1:48:22
  and everything. So when my boss would too, I
• 1:48:26
  laugh about it because they did it to me.
• 1:48:28
  And it was funny what I did. But how they treat the clients
• 1:48:34
  that we have, the consumers, right.
• 1:48:37
  It's one big lobby. There's a new person in the
• 1:48:40
  room. They walk over and they're like,
• 1:48:41
  who are you? How can I help you?
• 1:48:42
  Are you going to work here? Oh, cool.
• 1:48:44
  You know, or they'd be like, what?
• 1:48:46
  Whatever. And he said, I don't have a
• 1:48:47
  comment with you. Yeah, she'd be watching you
• 1:48:53
  through the blinds to see your reaction, and she'd make you
• 1:48:56
  wait for, like, 5 to 10 minutes, just observing you the whole
• 1:49:00
  time, how you treated people. Again, we go back to character.
• 1:49:03
  How you were. Yeah.
• 1:49:06
  When I went in, I started having a conversation with the kid.
• 1:49:09
  All right? Like, she actually told me,
• 1:49:13
  like, I let you go like another 15 minutes, like, probably the
• 1:49:17
  longest I've ever because I didn't.
• 1:49:18
  I felt bad interrupting you, but when I went to go work at the
• 1:49:23
  runaway shelter, I went for my interview and I sat down and I'm
• 1:49:27
  sitting there and the secretary from you, right?
• 1:49:32
  And I, I hear sound like, like the, you know, the grunt, like
• 1:49:36
  what happened? She goes, oh, I, I'm having
• 1:49:39
  problems with this. I said, well, what, what's
• 1:49:40
  happening? And I said, let me help you.
• 1:49:44
  And she tells me I'm having trouble.
• 1:49:46
  I said, here's what you want to do This this this, this this it
• 1:49:50
  fixed it. I said cool and I just sat back
• 1:49:54
  down and and she was like, I thank you for your help us
• 1:49:59
  you're welcome. I, I was not going to get into a
• 1:50:04
  conversation with her, right, because I didn't want to work
• 1:50:10
  there. And I told you that like I got
• 1:50:12
  fired next door. It was just a basic interview.
• 1:50:15
  I didn't want to work there. I honestly didn't want to work
• 1:50:16
  there. So I didn't care about making.
• 1:50:17
  What even was it for? The runway shelter, the
• 1:50:20
  counseling position, the one that got and worked there for 16
• 1:50:23
  years and loved. But the point being that I was
• 1:50:28
  fired from next door and I just didn't hear you because why not?
• 1:50:33
  The AFF in the experience. I really wasn't thinking I was
• 1:50:36
  going to work there. Nothing.
• 1:50:37
  Yeah. And I go into the job interview
• 1:50:40
  and my boss says, So what makes you want to work here?
• 1:50:42
  And I said, I don't think the guy got fired next door.
• 1:50:45
  And there was a lot of genuineness in that and joking.
• 1:50:51
  Yeah. So I set the tone for the
• 1:50:52
  meeting. And then I she says, so why'd
• 1:50:56
  you come for the interview? And my response wasn't you're
• 1:50:57
  going to hate this. My cheese is moving.
• 1:51:03
  Always. Your cheese is moving, huh?
• 1:51:05
  No matter where we are. Actually that that's the first
• 1:51:09
  time I read the the story. OK, that's the first time I read
• 1:51:12
  the story. For a place you didn't even want
• 1:51:14
  to work at. Right.
• 1:51:15
  I had heard it that weekend. I said, I have a job interview
• 1:51:18
  Monday working with kids, and it was the funniest thing.
• 1:51:23
  And she says, oh, you like, who moved my cheese?
• 1:51:25
  And I said, yeah, And just what what do you like about it?
• 1:51:28
  I started talking about it. The interview wasn't about my
• 1:51:30
  skills 'cause I, she knew I had the skills.
• 1:51:33
  It was like, do I like this guy, Don't want to work with him?
• 1:51:36
  And then like after about 3 or 4 months, we were talking, you
• 1:51:40
  know, how am I doing and everything.
• 1:51:41
  And she tells me, you know, I really thought you wouldn't last
• 1:51:43
  this long. You were just like a temporary
• 1:51:45
  hire hoping you would quit. And then I could hire someone
• 1:51:49
  that really had the experience working with kids, she says.
• 1:51:53
  But I think I made a good hire. I said.
• 1:51:54
  I think you did too. You should have asked her how
• 1:51:57
  many people it took. No, she'd do about 8 to 10
• 1:52:02
  interviews. I, I learned that over the
• 1:52:04
  years, you know, she always had eight to 10 people she didn't
• 1:52:06
  interview. There was one time she saw one
• 1:52:09
  resume. She's like, this is going to be
• 1:52:10
  the person I want to hire. And she still did 8 to 10
• 1:52:14
  interviews. And I said, are you giving those
• 1:52:18
  other 7 to 10 people a fair shot?
• 1:52:22
  And she's the I am shot. I said, OK, that guy did not get
• 1:52:27
  hired. Why?
• 1:52:30
  Because he didn't interview. Well, now we imagine she would
• 1:52:34
  have only interviewed him, right?
• 1:52:39
  Yeah. So you always want to do a few
• 1:52:41
  more interviews. All right, So I want to talk
• 1:52:48
  about this real quick, our digital inferno.
• 1:52:52
  So we're going to talk about this technology.
• 1:52:59
  Your Slack message is your reputation.
• 1:53:02
  Digital communication is the new shared office space.
• 1:53:06
  Communication channels. Never use personal abbreviations
• 1:53:10
  or excessive emojis in professional Slack or e-mail
• 1:53:13
  channels. Tone Detectors.
• 1:53:16
  Use AI tools like Grammarly's Tone detector to check that your
• 1:53:20
  digital messages sound clear, professional, and respectful.
• 1:53:24
  Notification Management. Utilize communication settings
• 1:53:27
  like turning off notifications during meetings to show respect
• 1:53:31
  for others. Focus recipient Verification
• 1:53:35
  Always check the recipients of emails or chats before sending
• 1:53:38
  to avoid accidentally oversharing personal information
• 1:53:41
  with the wrong group. The Inferno is digital.
• 1:53:45
  Back to Murph Man to talk about the segment.
• 1:53:49
  All right, everything we've been talking about.
• 1:53:54
  Use Grammarly. Use Gemini.
• 1:53:56
  Use professional writing software.
• 1:54:00
  Use those don't detectors. Make sure you're writing
• 1:54:02
  appropriateness notification management.
• 1:54:05
  Don't have your messages on loud, have it on on silent,
• 1:54:09
  right? Or just mute them all.
• 1:54:10
  Mute them all and then you'll see it when you go to break,
• 1:54:13
  right? That's what I would do.
• 1:54:14
  And request verification, recipient verification.
• 1:54:18
  You want to be aware of who you're sending stuff to because
• 1:54:23
  you want to make sure you get the right person, right?
• 1:54:24
  Yes, makes sense. So let's just get to today's
• 1:54:29
  final burn, all right? All right.
• 1:54:33
  No work. OK, what does that mean?
• 1:54:39
  Well, the final take is professionalism is just respect
• 1:54:45
  in the work outfit. Be mindful, be present and don't
• 1:54:49
  be the reason someone needs noise cancelling headphones.
• 1:54:53
  True, you like that. I like that you don't want them
• 1:54:57
  to join you out. There's one of my Co workers I
• 1:54:59
  didn't like and I mean I liked them, but he was annoying and he
• 1:55:03
  had ticks and he'd get, he'd make noises and it was really
• 1:55:06
  weird. And I put that all aside because
• 1:55:10
  I, I, I knew it wasn't him doing it right.
• 1:55:13
  It didn't get annoying like I hated that.
• 1:55:16
  It just was, I was just like, hope this guy can get some help.
• 1:55:20
  So it was funny because after he left the job, we were talking
• 1:55:25
  about him and I said, I'm so glad he's no longer making those
• 1:55:29
  noises. And then it was like, God,
• 1:55:32
  that's rude. I'm like, it was annoying a
• 1:55:34
  little bit. It was annoying.
• 1:55:36
  I said, you know, he had ticks. So I didn't like say anything.
• 1:55:39
  But he can't control it. Well, that's my point.
• 1:55:41
  Paid on him for it. That's my point, he can't
• 1:55:46
  control it. So I told him go get some help,
• 1:55:48
  get some medication for your tourettes.
• 1:55:52
  You don't just get medication. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:55:53
  Not. Not if it's like severe.
• 1:55:56
  But you can get medication anyway.
• 1:55:58
  Still wouldn't. Help.
• 1:55:59
  Anyway, I didn't hold it against them and I never say anything to
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