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your feelings are not your reality · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  For a long time. I felt like I was moving inside
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  of a haze. I knew that there was more to
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  life but I just didn't know how to live it.
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  I felt draft Within These Feelings and I didn't know what
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  to do. Hey there and welcome back to
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  another episode of feel your feelings with me.
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  Ethan Jewel. This is a podcast.
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  I started all about mental health, and mental health
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  awareness. Now I'm not a doctor, a
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  psychiatrist or professional in the mental health industry
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  whatsoever. I'm just a normal guy who was
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  felt some big big feelings and wants to start the conversation.
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  So thank you so much for being here.
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  And as always, let's feel some feelings.
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  I've spent a lot of time feeling trapped inside of my feelings.
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  I think of it like being a bird and a bird cage.
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  As cheesy as that sounds. I know that I meant for more, I
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  know that I shouldn't feel this bad.
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  I know that I shouldn't feel trapped and yet no matter what I
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  do, I am cornered in caged in and I never know how to get out.
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  I personally have struggled with depression a lot through my
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  Especially over the past few years and whenever it really
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  hits, I feel totally cornered. I know that there's more to
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  life, but I don't know how to live it.
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  I don't know how to get out there.
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  I don't know how to get out of the hole, how to get out of the
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  cage that I have been trapped in, and it feels like an
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  impossible battle, and I never know how to get started.
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  I never know how to get out of it and I let my depression and
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  mental illness. Consume me, I allow my feelings
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  to consume me. I allow my feelings too.
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  Become my reality, when our feelings become our reality,
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  they completely replace who we are, they replace our
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  personalities, they replace our wants and needs.
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  They slowly try to consume us, they demand more and more from
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  us. They demand our attention.
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  That's a difficult thing. If you have ever struggled with
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  mental illness, difficult feelings, trauma, depression.
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  You know what I'm talking about intense feelings like this.
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  Don't want to Simply exist. They demand more.
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  You. They demand you to lay in bed
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  all day. They demand that you cut people
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  off. They demand that you stay in
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  your cage. They demand that they become
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  your entire reality and they're very good at that.
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  They're very good at convincing you that they're more than what
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  they are. Your feelings are very, very
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  good at convincing you that they are who you are and this is
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  something I briefly touched on in another episode.
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  The fact that your feelings do not have to Define you, however,
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  I think it goes a little A bit deeper than that.
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  I think our feelings don't just try to Define us.
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  I think they tried to become us. I think they try to overtake us,
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  and they try to keep us trapped inside of this metaphorical
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  Birdcage. And that is so difficult.
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  I've received lots of DMS over my time doing podcasts and doing
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  music and 1 DM that I receive more than any other is from.
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  People telling me that they feel stuck that they feel lost, they
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  feel overwhelmed and they don't know what to do.
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  Oh, Admittedly that is those feelings, talking, they become.
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  So ingrained in us that we don't even know how to start.
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  And we don't know how to get out of this cage and we don't know
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  how to find our reality. That is, ultimately how we can
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  get over these feelings. That is how we can get over.
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  Our mental illnesses, is to find a reality outside of them and
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  live within it. Many people think about fighting
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  mental illness and fighting depression and fighting drama,
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  all wrong, people believe that we need to get rid.
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  Rid of these feelings that we need to find a way to live
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  without them. But no, we just have to find a
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  reality in which we can coexist comfortably with them.
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  Let me repeat that in my opinion.
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  The best thing for you to do is to find a reality where you and
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  your problems can co-exist where you can feel let out of that
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  bird cage. It is very very difficult and
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  overwhelming to try to get rid of feelings of drama and try to
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  get rid of mental illnesses. That's And unrealistic place to
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  start, so where you should start.
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  It's trying to find a reality in which your feelings are not your
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  reality. Now, I would like to repeat.
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  I am not a psychiatrist. I'm not a professional.
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  This is my own personal opinion based on my experiences.
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  So let's talk about the steps that we can take to finding this
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  reality for me. I realized that my inaction was
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  keeping me trapped. Opt-in, my bird cage, every day.
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  I woke up and I felt these feelings of depression and I
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  stayed in bed. Of course, that's what
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  depression demands of you and that's what it demands of you
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  when it becomes your reality. However, there was a small part
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  of me that realized I was trapped in this Birdcage and
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  there was a small part of me that was still screaming at me
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  to start moving and to find myself outside of this
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  depression. And eventually I managed to find
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  that and I managed to find a way out and I started moving.
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  And I started small, this is something.
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  I will always encourage starting so small that it feels
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  ridiculous. Making small changes every day,
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  is one of the best things that you can do.
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  Incredibly incredibly small changes.
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  Making yourself a snack getting up walking to make that snack
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  getting outside for 5 minutes. Taking some deep breaths,
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  choosing to call a friend, or family member and talk to them,
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  reaching out to people when you're hurting, slowly building
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  on these. The steps in finding your way
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  out of this Birdcage, one of the hardest things with mental
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  illness is accepting sometimes that we need help from other
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  people that we need people to lean on as a crutch and it can
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  be anybody. A lot of us may feel that we can
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  only lead to professional help but it's okay to lean on friends
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  or really anyone that we can when we're hurting.
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  After all, if you're trapped in a Birdcage sometimes you need
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  somebody with a key to come and unlock it.
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  This is a great place to start. Start small start with Students
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  start with a walk, start with a little bit of exposure to the
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  Sun and slowly work your way up to bigger broader movements.
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  Don't try to fix yourself right now.
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  Don't try to find a new reality from scratch instead build on a
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  foundation and build into a reality where you can coexist
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  with your feelings. This is not an easy process
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  whatsoever. It's one that I'm still learning
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  and frankly many days I still feel trapped inside of this
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  Birdcage. I still feel trapped inside of a
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  reality where my mental illness over ways me where my depression
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  or mental illness, outweighs the rest of me, but I'm closer than
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  ever to coexistence and I'm closer than ever to finding a
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  reality where I can exist with my feelings and you are capable
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  of finding this too. And I absolutely believe in you,
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  to be completely honest with you.
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  Today is one of those days where I feel trapped in a Birdcage,
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  and I feel like, depression, or Something else is taking me
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  over. I'm incredibly anxious, and I
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  really struggle to get out of bed today, but recording, this
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  podcast is one of my small steps for today, and it's one of my
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  steps in the direction of finding my own reality and
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  coexisting with these feelings. It's not easy.
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  It's really really hard. I wanted to go back to bed.
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  I didn't want to record this episode yet.
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  Here I am and that's living proof.
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  That the best thing we can do is take one small step at a time
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  and you are absolutely capable of doing the same.
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  Same thing, I believe in you, that's going to wrap it up for
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  today's episode. Thank you so much for joining
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  me. If you need help, feeling your
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  feelings, go check out my music on all platforms, under the name
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  of Ethan Jewel. Also please shoot me a message
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  on my Instagram at Jewel will underscore and tell me what you
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  thought about today's episode. I'm going on to where all of the
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  west coast of North America and I'm going to be performing my
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  music and giving Little Talks just like these episodes live on
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  a stage. So if you have any interests
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  please go to my website Ethan Jewel.com and come see a show.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  Thank you for realizing that your feelings do not have to be
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  a reality. And as always, thank you for
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  feeling your feelings. I'll see you next time.