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Ep. 14 - Same Team, Different Seasons: Staying Connected Through Change · Shared Light

• JR And Dustie Rodriguez: Good morning all. Welcome back to another episode of Shared Light with Dustie and JR. I am obviously JR. And I'm Dustie. How was your week? I feel like it was good. Yeah, we got sick. That kind of sucked. yeah, we did get sick. Couldn't get out of bed for a day or two. But that's life. So last episode, I believe we talked through. safety. Creating emotional safety. Create. Yeah. That's a good segue into our topic for today. Yeah. how safety can create an environment that promotes growth, So no secret that... You are my guiding light. have told that to people for at least 20 years now. We are each other's. Right. Guiding light. So. but like we talked about when we first met. could be considered a little bit of a project, I think. A No. I think all have room for improvement at every phase of our lives. Right. But I was at a bad phase when we met. throughout our time together and throughout the years, there have been a lot of moments where we maintain status quo, where ⁓ we could have ⁓ I regressed at points. Maybe we could say that you regressed at points, found each other. But there has been some ups and downs and there has been some ⁓ periods time where there was a lot of change and growth happening. Yeah. I would say particularly for me in the last five so right? It is a pretty round number, I think, where I would it exponentially sped up. Yeah. Still soul searching. decided to work on myself quite a bit. a lot of things about myself that I really didn't like and really just started. facing a lot of my demons and... and faults. I mean, I really took ownership and tried to have been trying to take ownership over the mistakes that I've made and I'm consistently striving to be a better person. But sometimes it's a little scary. It can be a scary in a relationship. One of the outcomes of that has been feelings of maybe you feeling like you're getting left behind. Yeah. I think there's. different, certain phases that you go through, I think, in ⁓ relationship, but especially a marriage, where it does feel like one is, I mean, both on the same path, but one is forward, like, at times the speed. So the other one is like, still back at home base. not left behind, almost for anyway, was like, what am I not doing? Why does he need to do more? Am I not being enough or doing enough? And that's just my own personal feelings. Nothing that you ever. like specifically made me feel that way. But because I do see the growth in you and not just personally, but in your career. And so it kind of just leaves me feeling like, or left me feeling like he's leaving me behind. Like he, back and it's not what I'm doing or what I am is not enough. He needs more, ⁓ more, more. ⁓ You know, right. Right. So that really lends into what I want to talk about today. And ⁓ that idea of what do you do in that situation? How do you manage to? So like in your case, how do you manage to resolve some of those feelings? And in my case, how do I acknowledge those feelings? to ensure that, because I mean, I think the thing that gets lost sometimes, even between us, that we don't ever talk about or not, we don't talk about a lot, is that for me, it's like I'm playing catch up. Right? Because you have been this good person for as long as I've known you, and I'm just now coming around. to getting on that wavelength. But along with that, there is a lot of other things that have motivated me to want to do different things, take on different roles, do different tasks, go back to school, work on myself. a lot of that is just because I'm finally getting comfortable in my own skin, which talked about. But. Having to that sometimes, I feel like it can be tricky because ⁓ I mentioned when we first started, it's to be like that throughout the relationship a lot of the times. So one of the things that I have come to learn. think you might agree with me on is that when growth happens. It's very rarely that it happens at the same pace for both people. one person might be, you at the point where they feel and then all of a sudden it's a breakthrough happened. that's kind of like what happened to me, right? So a breakthrough happened. I started feeling really feel like I dealt with a lot of the, the, ⁓ the negative that I, I had, which led to a lot ambition and a A lot of desires for, for more, but it was really more for us than anything. Right. How do I, how do I use this to keep us moving on a path that I think we want to go toward. Right. the flip side to that is ⁓ it can leave like in your case, right? Where you say that you had some of those feelings where it was like, he's leaving me behind. What is it like, what am I not doing? So you're on like a survival mode, You stuck, you're not sure what to think about it. Yeah. And I think it depends on, know, certain situations, you know, overall, I felt like you. ⁓ I was of course proud of you and I know that is a path that you were wanting to go down and needed to go down for yourself. But at the time we were not communicating like we do now. And so reasoning ⁓ in your I didn't know. I didn't know what were thinking or why you were doing it or ⁓ I just knew you were doing it and were... you know, like anything that you do, like hyper-focus, I'm doing it 120%, and it depends, there's certain situations that, we touched briefly on, which we don't need to go into detail maybe we will at some point, but, ⁓ you know, when you were shortly talking somebody else, you know, on the phone or whatever, that for you was a very... awakening moment. You know, like you said, like it left you like, ⁓ it was like a shock, like, I to do something different. We need to, that was a big moment for you and for me as well. But you took as lesson, started right away on and growing and moving on it. And I was still stuck in that survival mode from it, you know, from the emotions and the feelings of it. And I was stuck there for a long time. so think that was like, I think it just depends on the situation during that, those different growth periods. ⁓ that make sense? It does. Because there's a lot of uncertainty that's tied to that, right? All of a sudden now this person is doing new things, trying new things, really just to blossom for all intents and purposes. And why? ⁓ At point, I could understand the perception as well. Why? Maybe he's trying to find somebody new. Maybe he's trying to, ⁓ like, not, it's not. If you're not in tune, which is why we harp on communication, right? Open communication. If you're not completely in tune and not completely in sync with your partner enough to and let them know what's going on in your mind. And I am one that is ⁓ I just do not talk about my feelings. ⁓ is like, I rather do anything else. It wasn't until very recently that we had that conversation. well, I was disgusted with myself. didn't want to be that person. Yeah. But not knowing those reasons and how you felt and is where that. where you get off kilter. And then like with everything else, there's gonna be points where like I'm that way, there's also been points where you've been that way, where you're very independent. You wanna go do this and you wanna try this and you wanna do that. And I not that I was ever jealous of it, but there was times where I was like, what the hell, like why? It's one of those situations where you're going to have a slippery slope. like climbing a mountain, right? You're have points where people are going to get ahead of you because they find the right path. So they're going to start speeding up against and you're slipping a little bit because you're trying to find that same path. And sometimes don't find it. Right. And you are behind, you know. But that's the thing, right? Is that it's not always, like I said, that's your, that's the way you perceive it. I perceive it from a different angle and a different perspective of like, I've been holding you back this whole time. Like you've been holding us up and making us work towards things. And you've seen things in me that I didn't see in myself. And you've always been the supportive. You've always created that emotional space for me. to take advantage and do what I'm doing now. Right. But, you know, after 15 years of not doing it, and then all of a sudden it's like, it clicks and I do it. Yeah, I'm like, what? Wait a minute. And that's, think another aspect of it is been hard for me in moments is because you are so different now I ⁓ you just get used to... ⁓ how things are and who that person is. don't, and one for I do not like change. It's hard for me. Change is very difficult for me to grasp. And so... you're not the same person, you know, I married and not in a bad way, in a good way, but also scary for me because that's change and that's different. you know, ⁓ and guess when you look at yourself, you don't think like, I mean, maybe you do because you have done a lot of self growth, but I feel like for me, I'm like, I'm just me, I've always been me. I don't feel like I've done... I mean, I know I have grown in certain aspects, but when you look at it internally, you're like, for me, I look at you and look at me even there's moments where I compare and I've told you that, like we've had that conversation where it's like, but doing so much more than me and I just feel like I'm here and you're here and... And I think to a lot of those situations and I think if we had the communication that we have today, like could have saved myself a lot of grief anxiety and ⁓ some of my dark because I feel like it's just something we could have shared each other's perspective and ⁓ then we found it's ⁓ Okay. Well then there really is nothing to worry about. Well, and like I said, for me, it's always been like playing catch up. It's, it's not even like you, I think see all of the external stuff school and focused career growth and trying to make sure that, you know, we have a house and that you have cars that we're not having to worry about breaking down on. that to me is just like, it's great. I'm not discounting it. And I'm not discounting that I am able to do those things partly because of the growth that I have gone through. But I'm also, like, I guess you're always your worst critic, right? ⁓ I see all the stuff that I compare myself to you and like, ⁓ no, I've still got a long way to go. You know? And it's, it's one of those things where, where like that dynamic is I think for us, especially where I really see you as like for all intents and purposes, have emulated you, you who you are as a person, like in my career as a leader. Right. because. when I look back, like you were that leader I needed back when I was just getting out of prison and on house arrest. I needed somebody to help mentor and guide me. And whether you did it intentionally or just out of the goodness of your heart, right? still is very tied to that leadership perspective where like, And I haven't told you this, like my perception and my belief is that leadership is in place. Like ⁓ a true leader is there to inspire. You're there to inspire people to do things that they do not see in themselves. Yeah. Right. So that was you for me. And that is for me what I have tried to emulate the longest time. And I think like thinking through it it's like we've almost reversed roles a little bit. Yeah. We have in a lot of aspects of our But to where now ⁓ it's me to that for you ⁓ because you have some struggles. Situations that impact you in a negative light you had some darkness and things to deal with but And that's not to discount any of that, but it is very much that dynamic shift that I Has helped us to mitigate a lot of that negative that can come from those situations You know, especially there before we started communicate Like, it could have went totally the opposite direction if I had leaned into some of that. Because a lot of the self-growth I did, yes, I did a lot reading ⁓ on ⁓ choices and that. a lot of the growth that I really focused, hyper-focused on was leadership, ownership. So I was able to lean into some of that to finally connect the dots of no, in leadership, have to be able to communicate and you have to communicate with the teams, the people, ⁓ whoever mentoring, like it has to be an open communication. it ⁓ has, it's no different in marriage. Yeah, no. So. We have switched that dynamic, but it also has enabled to that we're not going to be. in the same spot. Yeah. In terms of growth. Yeah, we're going to grow at different paces throughout our journey. And that's okay. And I feel like honestly, just like we talk about, those dark times that you do have in your marriage. ⁓ where ⁓ the light happening. it brings the light into the situation. I think it's the same type of thing as it's okay that you don't grow at the same paces because you need your partner in those moments and vice versa. know, like when I'm stuck and I'm not growing and I'm whatever it may be, I'm stuck in my anxiety. ⁓ you in those moments, you know? ⁓ if we're on the same exact pace, I don't know that we're able to help each other grow those moments. Well, and I think that goes back to the conversation we had. a while back about, that 50 50 dynamic. Like it's not that way in marriage. It's not that way in growth. It's not like that's just not real life in most situations. in any relationship. If you really sit down and analyze it, you are there are points in times where you're the one that's really invested in pushing the issue and pushing those conversations. And there's times when the other person is. Yeah. And then obviously there's those times when either one of you is in it. And then it's just like, it's not a friendship, right? But roommates. but it, it is that offset, also into the polar opposite conversation that we had where, yes, when you're down and feeling what, like I'm in a pretty good mood and excited and I've got something new that we're doing. And whether you like it or not in the moment, like I'm dragging you along to come and look at this, right? Right. But you're right, you're absolutely right. It's those moments that allow you to really be there for your partner marriage. To show up. right. And help learn what you're learning. just through, call it psychic energy and my... my rants on a lot of leadership. ⁓ learned, you'll forget more about leadership just because of all of the talk that I do than most people will ever understand. But it's... It's that ability to take in information, whether you apply it or not, but you're still getting that information. that eventually helps you maybe like it does for me, right? Where it connects some dots on some other aspects of things that I know that you use it with the kids. you will approach a situation differently just because now you ⁓ a better understanding. Like, I can't match energy. can't, you know, especially with our little one, like when she is anxious in her head or like you approach it now differently than you did even six months. Yeah. So it really is about tapping into each other's strengths when. when you're experiencing something. And obviously it is really easy. if you're not communicating and you're not. You know, the other side of it is if the other person really just doesn't want to right? Because there are situations like that where like, this is me, this is who I'm going to be forever. And unfortunately, that's when situations sometimes you have to make the choice of is more important to you ⁓ that point. Which mean, we don't have that issue either. But like I for me, it's always been about catching up to who I think you are as a person, who I think. What you reflect out into the world and what you enlighten the world with like that. I'm just trying to capture a piece of that but When you're not communicating and when you're and when you are Shutting down and ⁓ getting further and further into those feelings of feeling left behind that's when People start feeling misunderstood. Yeah, or start feeling unsupported Yeah. I think, you know, like we talked about a couple episodes ago, that's when a lot of those unspoken expectations come into play because you're not communicating. you know, it's something we always talk about every single episode because it's so important is the communication. But I just keep thinking back to like, so many of our situations could have been navigated so differently if we would have just communicated. ⁓ I have a feeling that that is the case for so many people and in their relationships is that they either don't have the tools or know how to approach situations. openly like you didn't for a long time. They're not Whatever the case may be. It's just so important that and so many things can be navigated, not even resolved, but just navigated. with communication. Well, yeah, because it opens up the. Like we talk about it all the time, right, is it opens up and gets you to a baseline understanding. Whether you're miles apart or inches apart, it still forms that baseline of this is where we are right now. Yeah. And. Like in this specific instance, if you have one person that is. Like you're stating, right? Where you feel like I'm so far in front of you now. Yeah. It does leave you feeling like. Like you said, behind or threatened or And they're like not talking about it. Yeah. You're always going to feel that way. But I feel like now, you know, may be instances where you are growing faster than I am or, you know, like ⁓ in our journey and our working out journey, you are further ahead than I am. And. That's okay. Like for me, it's okay. We've communicated it. you know, we have that communication. And so I may not always up there with you on every single thing that we're doing or growing towards, but I'll get there, ⁓ know, and I'm okay with you going ahead of me ⁓ those things or whatever, because for one, I know I will get there. And for two, we have that communication where I don't feel like You know, back then I probably would have felt like he's working out, he's getting fit, he's... Why? Because, you know, there was other things coming into play at that same time where it was like, maybe he is looking for somebody else, you know? Like, maybe he is planning on, you know, us separating or whatever. ⁓ And now I can look at it and just be like, no, I know the reason is because that helps his mental. He needs that, in his day to get him started, to get him going. And it just it helps you for yourself. It has nothing to do with me. And so an example of You are further ahead Than I am and that's okay. Well, and I understand it I think it in in a lot and having the conversations that we've had we have been able to identify that we're headed to the same place. Like we have the same destination. Yeah. So I say like, I know, okay, I'll get there. I'll catch up because we're on the same path. You know, you're just running the mile faster than I am and that's okay. But, but it is an interesting dynamic because, you know, some of the fears ⁓ that up or that can come up, Obviously there's that fear of that. mean, the big ones like you fear getting left behind. Yeah. And not just left behind, but I think for me that translates into translates to I'm being left. Like the end game is I'm being left. Right. And that's one of my biggest fears. So that ties into the second big fear, right? Is that you feel like you're losing that connection with that person because now they're starting to maybe like things that you don't. And you're not on the same ⁓ or same. You may think you're not on the same path. I mean, that has to tie in with the fact that, ⁓ you, you risk like, ⁓ we even going to like, like the same things ⁓ this is all sudden done? and with that, found now ⁓ I look at it and say, I want you to have things that you love ⁓ and, okay that I don't love them. You know what I mean? Like, you're very into leadership and mentoring and the logistics of it all. And I mean, it's interesting to me, but I'm more interested in, I think, because you love it. You know? But that doesn't mean I need to dive in and follow that same path as you and be 120 % into it like you are. but I think I felt like that for a long time that I had to be. well I wanted I didn't I didn't want to feel left behind or that you know you looked at me like You she doesn't like anything. I like or she you know we're not on the same page and so That just creates more fear. I think for me well, and I think that I did I mean that that's probably true for a lot of people especially in marriage like yeah, because this is the person that you're You're spending the rest of your time like your best friend, it's the person that you're with all the time, it's the person that you're supposed to have all of these. I mean, you see it played out in movies and in like, well, they always have all these things in common and they're always and almost gets a point where ⁓ you don't want to disappoint other person because you don't like what they ⁓ like. I mean, we talked about it. you, like going shopping with the kids and your sister, don't want to do that. Right. Yeah. And then it to feel like there's a disconnect if you're not liking the same things or doing the same things or, know, you're not running the race at the same exact pace. You know, and I mean, some of that ties into just like your own self-esteem. Which I think that's, I mean, that for me is the one biggest takeaway that I've had through a lot of the work I've done. And I think that's where you're starting to get to, too, with some of the shadow work and anxiety stuff that you're doing. Like it really does tie down to your self-esteem and how you feel about yourself. I did not like the person I was for a not going to say it caused me to do a lot of the stuff and you know, I'm not, I've never, I'm not one to ever blame any situation. Like those are choices that I made and I'm to live with all the choices that I it does add some of Like you feel a certain way about yourself. So you're trying to escape that constantly. Yeah. which is why it, mean, there's. you get to a point where, like in my case, was, I'm always trying to be that, that. cool guy, that top dog, whatever it may be, ⁓ you, was more like you wanted people to love you. You wanted ⁓ please, you wanted to... So you start having that little bit of, I don't wanna call it disconnect, but when you start having those differences, it can to that feeling of like there's something wrong with me. Yeah. What am I not doing? Right. ⁓ doing enough or being enough or even, you know, there have been instances where I can look at your growth and your career and your, you know, the things that you're doing. And I have felt like intimidated also, not by you, but you know, it comes in along with the self-esteem and other things that were going on in the moment. you know, and my anxiety, I looked at it as like, maybe he will like that person or find that person attractive because they do. ⁓ They are into the same things that he is either, you know, she's a leader, she's a this person, this person, like she all these things that you were growing into and learning to love and diving into, you know, are things that another person also is. And so, you know, it can feel intimidating, especially when you're already in that. mode of I'm not enough. I'm not being enough. We're not on the same page. We're not on the same level. So it can be like it create a lot of fear or it did in me anyway. Well, and I think that that probably I have been lucky enough that I I guess always been that perspective for me that I'm trying to catch up to you. So it's not like I've ever felt like I need to pull you along with me, right? Which I think that probably exasperate those feelings. And that's probably a mistake that a lot of people make when they start having this type of problem is that. You want so desperately for your partner to be on the same wavelength of you. You're like forcing. Yeah, you're pulling them along to do things that again, they might not even be into The counter to that is you're also making them feel less worthy at point, I like. Yeah. the idea ⁓ trying to compare, like, well, look at what I'm doing compared to what you're doing. Like, why can't you do it? Or trying to pressure people to do, that is one that I think I fell into when we first started working out. Is that was situations where I felt like you weren't pushing yourself as hard as I was. And then you ended up getting injured and I felt terrible. But it really like also forced me to take a look at me, right? why am I so worried about? I mean, part of it was just that I was so excited that we were doing it and I wanted us to be healthy. And well, and I think you see when I do have moments of growth, you see how it does for me. ⁓ And so continually want that for me in every situation. Right. You know what I mean? You just want me to have those moments. Well, and those are the moments that I latch onto the most because those are the moments where, not to say that I've ever lost who you were, but I really see that core of who you are, that light that really just inspires me. Which you do have them when we work out, especially when you're pushing yourself and you do something that you in your mind have told yourself you cannot do. then you do it. But that is a trap that you can fall into is, and like I said, it's a trap that I fell into where you are pressuring this person to do more than they're ready to do. And then one that we've already talked about is assuming that because someone is not interested in what you're interested in, that means that they don't love you. Yeah. that ⁓ they on the same path. Right. That you guys were both supposed to be headed down. And just, I back to communication, there's just so many assumptions when you don't communicate and that's just one of them. Right. Right. So. That's why we harp on it, right? Like you have to be able to communicate. Whatever that communication looks like. I think every episode, because it's so important when we talk about communication, because it's literally. the core of our foundation. And it is, and it has been for the last, the last two to three years. But so, I would say in the last year and a half, when I finally just realized like, this is what you need. I need to get past my own feelings of. Whatever in terms of communicating my feelings and some of the things that I don't like talking about Because it is About meeting your partner where they are. Yeah, if you want to work Yeah But. You need to try and steer clear of, even if you are communicating, you still do need to try to do your best to steer clear of trying to use. your growth as a measuring stick of where you are in the relationship. Yeah. Um, yeah. And I think that goes back to comparing, right? You know, because I've done that before where I've compared like, yeah, but you're over here, like way up here and I'm way down here. And, um, there you just, you can't do that. You can't compare because you're never going to be exactly 100 % at the exact same point on probably anything throughout your marriage. You're two different people. Yeah. Well, perspectives are different and that's the one. takeaway that I have always is that you perceive it a different way than I do. Nobody's wrong in the situation. It's just that that's just the way it is, is why ⁓ those instances like was worked for us and has been working for us is very much got away from sharing. What? Yeah, we're we talked more about why why we are feeling the way we are feeling. Yeah and really talking through. Like what, like we're not just, I'm not just dumping like this, this, this, and this, ⁓ I'm really to come at it from, like, this is my thought process behind it. This is what I want. This is why, this is why I feel this way. ⁓ And you do same thing. You come at it from, you know, why I'm feeling this way, what triggers it, just the ⁓ information that you're, throw on at the person them trying to figure out like what has happened. What is the reasoning behind it? Why do you feel that way? And ⁓ also it like I do now, even like we're working out now, right? It's pushing you to do more. It's inviting you to come out and work out with me or, really leaning you know, celebrating the baby steps the two of us. when something gets to your point, like when you do something, when we're lifting weights that I see that you haven't done before, really celebrating that so that you know that I'm proud of you, like I'm always proud of you, but really just so that you understand that I'm not wanting you to feel like you need to do this. I celebrate with you that you did do this. Cause that ends up really getting us more on that same wavelength. Yeah. I mean, it makes a difference now that I can. I haven't been working out the last few weeks and so I can, I still go out and spend the time with you out there, but I don't have to feel that guilt of I'm not working out with him. I'm not meeting him up here where he's at and growing with him, with him, with him all the time. You know, I'm here and I'll get there, but I don't have to have that guilt ⁓ that not the guilt you put on me, but the guilt that I had in myself that I felt like I needed to catch up, Because you do look it differently now ⁓ and it's okay that you're that I'm my own pace and you're on on yours. we can still be on that path and still working out and we're still on a health journey. I'm just at a different spot than are in it. And that's okay. I know you look at the camera. can't tell that I work out, but do. But And it really is about I Mean we harp on it communication, but you know having those check-ins with each other. How are you doing? How are things going like what? Can I do? Right would do with what do you need from me And being grateful for each other yeah having those moments of like we about it every morning We shoot a text back and forth Yeah. Just most of the time it's just us being grateful for each other. Right. I'm grateful for you or the things that. I love about you or that you, know, how you make me feel. Right. I think is important because I mean, I feel it. You should know about it. it's very helpful for you to know ⁓ how I about you and the and vice versa. it's very important that you're you communicate that with your partner because you especially if you are on different growth paths. It kind of keeps you. together. you are, especially if you're starting to feel separate or disconnected. Right. Because it really well, and like for me, ⁓ right, it's it's really good stop and be present in the moment and really just be grateful for what you have. Right. I'm grateful for the kids. I'm grateful for the, the house that we have. I'm grateful for all the blessings that we have. Yeah. But like you're one of those biggest blessings that I have because I wouldn't have any of it if it wasn't for us. Right. And I think it's important to recognize just in general how grateful we are for the marriage that we have and the marriage that, we have built. and the marriage that we put a lot of work into, ⁓ and that proud of. And I think it's important to, to say those things to each other because it does keep, it does keep that light going, even, especially on the hard days or, but, know, your person needs that communication from you. Well, and it really is about learning. Like for me, it took me a minute to just learn how to support you in that. Yeah. I mean, a lot of it I learned the hard way, but like I learned it, right? And that's why it's one of those situations where. We, mean, you can talk and talk and talk, but if you're not effectively communicating, and that's the bigger underlying issue, right? Is that it doesn't matter how much you talk, if you're not actually communicating, if you're not really getting to the heart ⁓ what's going on in your mind, ⁓ what does partner need from you? What do you need from your partner? you guys can talk day-to-day things all the time. And that's not necessarily communication. That's just having a conversation. And that the same that you find not just in marriage, but in life. ⁓ if can't communicate with people, you know, I see it at work. I see it outside of work. Like if I'm not able to effectively communicate with people, it just a lot of... negativity or it can create a lot of negativity because people form assumptions, just like you say, or, their emotions get involved and they start making things up or perceiving things a certain way. And it's, it's about ensuring that. the way you communicate. really promotes how the two of you are growing together. Cause that's how you stay. Ultimately, that's what keeps you together. Yeah. It keeps your relationship healthy. I mean, you talked about it. you have to create that emotional stability, that emotional safety. You have to that environment. And sometimes when you're up, higher on the mountain, you're creating that environment. maybe I'm at a higher part of that, but now I need to create that so that we can end up at the same destination. Because. You are not just husband and wife. partners. Yeah. I mean, you're a team. You're. ⁓ It you should always approach it in that aspect. Like it's you two versus. Everything. Everything else. Yeah. Everything else that comes at you is a lot easier to deal with if you guys have a unified front and are able to work through together as a team. One thing that we have found in our relationship is there is nothing, I mean, there are situations and things that are too much for me. There are situations and things that are too much for her, but there is not a lot that is too much for the both of us if we are. A team. Yeah. So. I agree. With that, it has been a pleasure as always. I hope you guys have a blessed week and keep sharing your light. You'll find that a little bit of light can a whole lot of wonder in a dark world.