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Embracing Change Finding Authenticity with Kat Polsinelli · The One Small Change Podcast

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  Hello, everybody. Welcome to the One Small Change podcast,
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  and I am thrilled that you have taken time again to join me on
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  this exciting journey of transformation for all of us.
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  And I think that, you might know me or you might not,
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  but I'm the host, Yvonne McCoy, and I bring almost 30 years of entrepreneurial
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  experience and goofiness and a passion for discovering growth through
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  the power of seemingly small change. And so I wanna thank
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  you for taking time out of your busy day. And if you're walking or doing
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  something else, that's great too. So we're gonna be talking with
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  the amazing Kat Politz. I
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  I I stopped to think about it, and I goofed myself up.
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  Kat Tulsa
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  alright. Pats cats say it. Now I'm saying pat
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  or cat. Bolsonelli. Bolsonelli.
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  It almost it almost sounds like a pasta, anelle. Yep.
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  Well, it's Italian. So It is. It is.
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  And this is why I love her so much because she has such a great
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  sense of humor and laughter, and she can roll with the
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  punches. And when you're working with me, you have to expect the
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  unexpected. And that's part of what we're gonna share is how a smaller
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  unexpected, decision sparked a a remarkable
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  transformation either in your growth, either personally or professionally.
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  So, Kat, now that I've totally screwed your name up,
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  I am so sorry. Tell us tell us what
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  you do and and how this change had an
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  impact on what you do, whether it's personally or professionally.
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  Yeah. Sure. So first off, do not worry about the name. I
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  promise there's a lot of people that have a hard time with it. No. I
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  I think it's funny. It it I I love it. So, yeah. So as far
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  as my company oh my gosh. I have tears. I was laughing so hard. I
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  found another company, called the lotus effect,
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  which, interestingly enough, is not the direction I
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  ever thought that I was going to take in my life.
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  The one small change, which I
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  I guess is is kind of a big change as well,
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  was both personal and professional, and that
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  was that I decided to start
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  standing up for my own morals. I started standing up for
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  what I believed in, which happened shortly after getting out of a
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  10 year abusive relationship. And in making that
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  decision, I actually lost my job in my
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  medical field that I had been in for 10 years. So
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  that completely catapulted me into
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  another direction in my life, but something
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  that, to be honest, I was ready to try because
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  what I had been doing wasn't working, and the way that I was being treated
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  wasn't appreciated, and I was starting to acknowledge that.
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  Well, you know, I I think and we we we talked about this
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  earlier, that sometimes when something happens and it kind
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  of unexpectedly knocks you down and makes you take a pause,
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  it's really an opportunity to look around. I had
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  the I had the same thing kind of happen to me in a corporate job
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  that I was in. That, they didn't renew my contract,
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  and I was, like,
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  devastated, first of all. Mhmm. But it gave me an opportunity
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  to really go, what is you know, I
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  have some time. You know, it's gonna be, like, 4 years before my kids go
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  to college. It's gonna you know, I have some time to do some
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  things that I wanna do and not worry about bringing in a
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  salary on a regular basis and decided to volunteer for adult
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  literacy, which led me in a whole different direction than I
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  had anticipated. Yeah. So tell me,
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  you talked about working in your values. I talk about also working
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  in your vision and your values. So it
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  to me, when things have gone wrong
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  or not working the way that I want them, the first thing that I say
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  is, you know, where was this in my vision, or what is this
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  person's values? And, you
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  know, what is their commitment level? So tell me how
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  how that kinda came into if it did come into
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  into your story. Yeah. So I feel
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  like, you know, everybody has values,
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  and a lot of us actually don't think about what those values are.
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  I think that, you know, generically, we're like, oh, well, you know, obviously, I want
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  someone that's honest and someone that's trustworthy and, you know, the
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  these, I wanna I don't wanna say superficial, but kind of superficial
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  pieces that society kind of puts out there. It wasn't until
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  I decided that I was sick and tired
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  of everyone telling me who I was. I was sick and tired of
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  people telling me the way that things needed to be done when I knew that
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  there was a better way, or I disagreed with the
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  way that things were being handed handled morally.
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  Right? That was one of the reasons why I had conflict in my medical
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  job was because we were not on the same terms. My
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  doctor at the time was all about money, and I was all about honoring
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  what we had told our patients. And it wasn't until the
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  that time that I realized I wanted to do something different
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  that values actually started meaning something instead of
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  just being something there that you hope people kind of meet you
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  halfway. So for me now, values
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  are extremely important when it comes to who I
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  connect with, who do I allow in my circle, and who I work with.
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  And that actually goes beyond just being honest and trust
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  trustworthy. It goes to, do you
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  honor yourself? Are you willing to take ownership for your
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  fault in whatever it is even if there's a fault on the other
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  side? And are you willing to see the perceptions or
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  the perspectives of others around you and have an open mind to
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  that so that you can continue to grow. Because if you have a
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  closed mind, you're not gonna hear anybody else's
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  ideas. You're not gonna understand anything that they have see because all you have is
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  blinders on in the way that you want to do it. So those are values
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  of mine that kind of progressively started becoming more
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  apparent throughout the years as I started working on my own
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  personal development. And it's been one of the best shifts I've
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  ever had when it comes to being able to pick out
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  who I want around me and who I don't really quick. But,
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  you know, I I I think I I resonate so much with what
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  you said because, you
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  know, there are kind of like the basic things that that you
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  expect to people. You know, you don't wanna work with murderers or thieves and that
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  kind of stuff. Right? But but what we don't realize,
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  I I think, is that
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  some of the limiting beliefs that we have or that or that
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  are put on us were put on from a
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  society that, you know, the education part was
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  done kind of, you know, so that you became the follower. So
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  when you step out of that and try to do something out of the
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  box, you know, in our childhood I mean, they
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  did it in our childhood to keep us safe, but but, you know, you do
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  something extraordinary and they go, keep your head down. Don't you know?
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  And so one of the things that I have found
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  recently, that has been a big thing for me
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  is I wanna work with people who understand
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  that there's enough for everybody. It's not a I win, you
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  lose. You know, that there's enough abundance
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  out there for everybody and that your weirdness and
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  your, you know, your uniqueness is the thing that makes it
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  makes you really special. So I don't want you to say don't do that or
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  don't be like that. And Yeah. The other thing
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  that has been amazing is,
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  I took a positive intelligence course. And so
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  the idea that with every, you know, with everything,
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  you know, thing that happens, there's an opportunity or a gift.
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  And that has been amazing. I mean, that, you know, I I
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  I share with you the fact that I couldn't send out any emails for 10
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  days. And I was, like, you know, a person with their hair
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  on fire. And I said to my husband, I was born in the wrong century.
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  I should be driving a horse and buggy. You know? I just
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  I'm like, I'm so tired of these tech issues. Right?
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  But, you know, what I found was how much time it actually
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  took me to send out those broadcasts, and I was actually doing more
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  personal contact with people as opposed to just, you know,
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  blindly sending out emails. So I think Mhmm. You know,
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  you know, we may say, this is how I like to work,
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  but there's actually a value in there. I, you know, I
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  value the relationships. I want to have relationships where
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  we can support each other. I want to have relationships
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  that are honest where somebody says to me you know, I had one of my
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  clients go to one of my workshops, and she said to me afterwards, she
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  goes, I don't you know, I I feel really weird
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  saying this to you. I I said, just blurt it out. Right? And
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  she goes, the person that show that presented that workshop
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  is not the per is not the coach that I work with.
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  You know? The coach that I work with is, you
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  know, spontaneous and, you know, and this workshop was just
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  so structured. And I was like,
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  wow. That is, you know, and, you know,
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  from that I went from, like, 45 slides down to 9. Do
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  do you know? So awesome.
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  Yeah. So I think that, you know, we think
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  about values kind of, like, as honesty and stuff like that.
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  But how does that actually you know, when you say that, how does that actually
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  show up when you're looking for people? Like, what are the things
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  that are, like, you know, areas where you go, this is a
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  red flag for me? For
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  me, when we are defining values and we're
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  thinking about what is super important to us or
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  to me in general, First, it was clearly defining what
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  was really important to me, and that was really hard in the beginning. So
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  then it was, okay. Let's look back at the people I've had in my life,
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  and what did I value from those people? And
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  then which one of those seemed to kind of constantly overlap?
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  Authenticity and just being yourself was huge for
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  me. And I think that that was because for the really longest
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  time out of my career and also out of my personal
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  life, that wasn't allowed. It was a specific
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  way. It was very structured. And so I value that
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  to its absolute core. And I think that that's the difference
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  between having values that we are aware of and having
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  values that really mean something to us at
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  our absolute core. But it also means that we have to be
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  willing to follow those values. So authenticity is really
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  big. Right? So I like to be quirky. I screw things up. I think
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  it's hilarious, and I still think that you can share a powerful message.
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  So I look for that in other people, but I also make sure that
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  I'm showing up in that way. I look for people
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  that, you know, are willing to see the other side of
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  something even if you disagree and understand that
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  someone can have their perspective and you can have your perspective and it doesn't make
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  anyone right or wrong. There can be a very neutral space to be
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  in. So it's a very big value for me, and I stand
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  behind that in myself. So when I am meeting with someone,
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  those are the first two things that I really pick up on that I really
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  pay attention to. Do I feel like you and I are having a very
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  open, honest conversation in the beginning,
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  or are you trying to be a specific person
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  to feel me out to see how I am going to open up to
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  you? Those are huge indicators. And it's not that I don't like
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  those people. And for some of them, we've had conversations
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  and turned out to be friends, and they've continued to grow, and I've continued to
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  grow. But it's an indicator of being aware of it and then
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  assessing where is that person at in their
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  growth stage, and can you 2
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  match or are you gonna end up surpassing them? And that
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  doesn't always happen in a 30 minute conversation. Right? It happens
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  in the follow-up. It happens in the continued conversations. It
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  happens in the actions behind that. Right? If I tell you,
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  hey, I have these amazing people I'm gonna make introductions to, and I'm gonna give
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  them to you in a couple of days and you never receive them, that
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  says a lot about me. It may be that I'm overwhelmed. It may be that
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  I just got busy and forgot, but that says a lot about me. That says
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  a lot about how important the conversation that you and I had was
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  to me. So those are the things that I'm looking for that I'm picking up
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  on. If I'm meeting with someone and we are strategizing or
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  brainstorming, but they are constantly bringing the same problem to the
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  table and not willing to do something different about it,
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  that lets me know that we are not on the same growth pattern. And that's
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  fine, but that means that I need to not always
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  say yes when they want to meet. Maybe start hanging out with other
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  people or kind of just let that relationship kind of fizzle for
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  a little bit. It doesn't mean that it's forever. I've had people come back into
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  my life when they hit that next phase. But it's being very aware
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  of that and being aware of what you are willing to put up with
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  and what you are willing not to. And
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  clearly defining those and being wholeheartedly
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  okay with standing behind those core values.
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  Well, you know, I think I I do agree with what
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  you're saying and, you know, I have this thing called the 4 the the 5
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  the far. Who knows
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  what I did today, but my lips are not working. The 5
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  r's. You know, you wanna do the right thing for the right reason at the
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  right time, the right way that's right for you. And so
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  that's kind of a moving target because any of those things can change and, you
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  know, and so when you're working with people, I've one
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  of the things that I find that I have had to ask
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  to have a successful relationship, and I don't know if this is a
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  value, but it's a truth. It's like, if we're gonna do
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  something together, you have to tell me what your
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  time frame and your time commitment is. Because
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  I I I do not have an off button, unfortunately.
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  And so if you say we're gonna do something, I'm going at a 150%.
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  And if you've got something else that's going on in your life,
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  you know, I need to know that upfront. Not that I'm not
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  gonna still participate, but it's like, okay. I'm not
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  gonna start working on this till a little bit later or when we get
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  closer to what we're gonna do so that we're putting in the
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  same amount you know, the equal amount of effort or whatever. I mean,
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  I I I did a big project with somebody. We put it on a
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  fast track only to find out that, and they didn't
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  hadn't shared, that they had a planned trip in the middle of the time
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  frame, which totally shifted,
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  you know. And I was really happy for them for the trip that they were
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  taking, but it was like, really? We we if I had
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  known that, we woulda just pushed this back a month. Right? Yeah.
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  So that for me is, you know, the same amount of
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  effort and and and and I think it's really important for me.
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  It's really important to understand
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  that the magic happens when somebody
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  is not exactly like you. And so what
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  happens for me that I always have to be really careful about is I
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  tend to go with my gut. Do you know? It's like,
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  oh, I wanna do
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  You know? And the and and other people I seem to be
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  attracted to are much more methodical in in what they do.
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  And so I'm like, you know, whatever it's attracting me to them
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  is also it's kinda like in the marriage. The thing that attracted you to them
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  is the thing that irritates you, you know. So,
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  you know, after a while. So that's true a lot in the collaborations too.
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  And and so a lot of what you're talking about, I call
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  situational awareness. What's going on in the whole
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  picture? If you've got stuff that's happening
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  that that is, you know, you're tired. And you and I have
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  both had the situation where we've had medical issues in our family
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  that have totally changed our focus or our
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  time commitments and and that kind of thing. So
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  if you were going to
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  talk about how people can take action steps, you know,
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  in in their in their entrepreneurial, you know,
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  or or their personal life with this? What would be some ways that they
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  could actually put this to use?
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  As far as if you're looking to really
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  start stepping forward with your values and your core
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  beliefs and looking at meeting people
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  in that direction instead of just meeting people for the sake of meeting
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  people. There's a couple of things that you want to
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  do first and foremost. And that is,
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  1, you need to take a look internally, and you need to see
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  where you're at. 2, you need to get brutally
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  honest with yourself of what you were good at,
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  what you have been failing at, and what you were really committed to
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  changing. Right? And then 3, you write those
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  pieces down. What sticks out? What is important to you? And what have you
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  valued in other people that have been around you? Now I say
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  write them down because that stuff can shift when you're in
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  different phases of growth, when you're in different phases of your life, both
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  personally and professionally. That's going to shift a little bit.
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  Right? And so you have to be aware of that. So it may be that,
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  you know, for a few years, maybe commitment is a
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  big thing for you. Honesty, integrity, and commitment. Right? That's
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  what you're craving. That's the kind of people you want in your life because that's
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  what you want to bring more of in your own. And that's
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  great. Well, then a couple years down the low road, you may realize that like
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  authenticity and just being silly and being fun is become a
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  core value. So like you said earlier, they can always shift. They can always
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  change, but being very present and aware of
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  it is where it starts. You cannot go out
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  and seek other people of the values that you are looking for if you don't
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  understand the values that you already have internally and
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  the values that you are willing to bring to the
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  table. There has to be an energy swap.
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  So, I mean, one of the one of the things that that I say,
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  and I I wanna I want your take on this,
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  Is sometimes we don't see the best in ourselves, and that happens
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  a lot. And so sometimes, I the exercise that I do when I do
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  my workshop is think about a time when you think you were your best,
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  and then ask somebody who actually knew you then.
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  Do you know? And I go back to when I was 21. And
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  so, you know, one of the values that I one of
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  the dimensions that I wanted was in I had an incredible amount of
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  energy. I mean, I worked a part time job. I went to school full time.
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  I partied. I did that. I did all
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  kinds of stuff. But I asked a friend of mine, and she said,
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  you were the most adventuresome person I knew. You would try
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  anything. Do you know? And I was like, oh my
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  god. It became such a stick in a mud. I won't try anything now unless
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  I'm I'm sure about what's gonna go on. I'm not you know? And I'm
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  like, I miss that. Mhmm. I miss that in my life. And
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  so I think, yes, I think you have to look in
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  yourself and be brutally honest, but I think sometimes
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  you have to also and I and I preface this by saying,
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  don't ask your family. Because your
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  family your family remembers every bad thing you've
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  ever done in your life, every failure that you've had. And I I used to
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  joke that when my dad was in his nineties
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  and I was in my sixties, he would
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  still tell the story about when we went camping, and I was cooking
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  the corn. And he'd say, is the corn done? And I would go, no. And
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  he'd say, is the corn done? And I go, no. And and finally, he goes,
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  Yvonne, the corn has gotta be done. And I said, but it hasn't turned
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  yellow yet. And he goes, but it's white corn. Well,
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  I didn't know. I'd never had some white corn beef. So I
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  was waiting for it to turn yellow. I thought that's what it I mean, makes
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  sense. You know? But I'm I'm saying that's a
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  story that was, like, 50 years old. You know? And
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  so you don't don't ask your family. Ask them ask
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  them ask them the person that knew you kind of, you know, where you wanted
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  to capture that. Because I think
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  part of the success is being able
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  I mean, if I said write a vision statement, write a mission
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  statement, write a value statement, we would spend so
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  much time word shopping it, you know, wordsmithing it that
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  we would never get it. And so the exercise that come up with 3 words.
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  And so the 3 words for me were energetic,
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  adventuresome, and my husband said intriguing. And so when
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  I wanna when I wanna make change and I wanna, like, be in
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  myself, I say, how can I make this
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  energetic, adventuresome, and intriguing? And at the time I was
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  writing these, you know, really awful reports,
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  and I would sneak little things in it. And I'm sure they took them
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  out. But to me, it was, like, just a little, you
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  know, something that made me happy.
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  I mean, why not? So I think I think the steps that I'm
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  hearing is be brutally honest with yourself,
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  You know? And then and then the other part is
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  get get a little bit of help from somebody who knew you
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  at a time when you really, you know, were yourself and
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  start to use it in a simplified manner every day. I mean,
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  so, you know, you wake up every morning and go, what can I do today
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  to be energetic and productive and profitable
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  in my business? You know, or what can I do that's intriguing and
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  adventuresome? That, I think we can handle in our busy schedule.
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  I do you know what I mean? Yeah. So Yeah.
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  So before we run out of time, let me let me just you've come with
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  a gift, and so I want you to tell us about that.
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  Not so today, I do not have a a
• 23:32
  gift, because we are making some changes in the
• 23:36
  business. But I will say that for anyone that is looking for
• 23:40
  additional information, around some pieces in
• 23:44
  their business or just honestly how to get organized and how to
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  simplify things down, they're actually gonna wanna go to,
• 23:51
  whitenerpros.com. So it's someone that I've with. We're doing a lot of
• 23:55
  business strategy and operational, progression pieces together, and
• 23:59
  we are actually putting together some goal setting journals that we are gonna be
• 24:03
  able to share and things like that off of, her website. So I'm super
• 24:06
  excited about that piece, but it's just currently kind of
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  unfolding. But as you know, as far as my business, and I know we had
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  kind of talked about this before, we're transitioning and it's something
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  that I'm super excited about for 2024 and 2025. I
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  know I emailed you about this earlier this year, you know, was that I got
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  sick and tired of trying to be the one to build all the things. And
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  I started figuring out what really meant something to me and
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  collaboration and working with amazing people alongside is
• 24:35
  where I feel like I thrive. And I think that that's a huge important thing
• 24:38
  for a lot of people that are listening to hear and understand.
• 24:42
  No one way of doing business is the correct way. The way that
• 24:46
  you want to do it is the correct way, and we have to remember that.
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  I'm a very multipassionate person, so sticking to one
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  niche never has worked for me, and I knew that. And so trying to put
• 24:57
  myself in that box has not worked for me. And for some people, it
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  really does, and I love people that can do that. But it's really understanding
• 25:04
  who you are and how you operate to be able
• 25:08
  to decide those things and then be able to have a trajectory forward.
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  So we're gonna put that link in in the information. And as Kat
• 25:17
  comes up with some other stuff, we'll update that. So you're gonna wanna come back
• 25:21
  and see it. You if I'm correct, you're you don't
• 25:24
  actually do any events, right, or workshop? Not
• 25:28
  currently. Not currently. I have to say that you you're gonna wanna
• 25:32
  reach out and book a call with her, because
• 25:35
  she is a fabulous person to talk to, and she is an amazing
• 25:39
  referral partner. And, you know, I was on her
• 25:43
  podcast I don't know how long ago. And I don't
• 25:46
  know if you want me to tell people this. I think, you know but but
• 25:50
  she has sent me some amazing referrals, and so that is worth
• 25:54
  its weight in gold right there. Somebody that remembers
• 25:57
  you and thinks about you and goes, oh, this is a good match. And
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  she is when she said I do this, I was like, yeah. That's what
• 26:05
  everybody says. And within the, you know, in
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  in the next, like, 2 weeks, she had sent me 3 or 4 people to,
• 26:12
  you know, to follow-up with. So she is, you know,
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  true to her word. So when was the
• 26:20
  last time that you did something for the first time? Oh my
• 26:23
  goodness. Spot. Last time. Something for the first time. I I really
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  haven't think about this now. I don't
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  know. Oh, I you know what? I will tell you something I did for the
• 26:33
  first time, and a lot of people will probably laugh, but I've shared this
• 26:37
  story online. So, for any of your your viewers that are
• 26:41
  interested, give you a quick backstory. So I was in an abusive relationship for 10
• 26:44
  years. I've taken care of people since I was, like, 12. I'm the oldest of
• 26:47
  3 girls as well. So, I've never actually
• 26:51
  traveled anywhere on my own because I've always taken care of kids. Once I
• 26:55
  got out of my abusive relationship, it was me and my 2 boys.
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  And so actually a few months ago, I
• 27:02
  traveled like 2 and a half hours away from my
• 27:05
  home. And I spent 2 days with, another business partner
• 27:10
  who had an event that she was doing. She was the speaker that was there.
• 27:13
  And so I got to actually go there. I stayed at a hotel by my
• 27:17
  self. I've never done that before. So yes, I am 36. And that's the first
• 27:20
  time that I have ever, taken it, but I
• 27:24
  it's, I've always taken care of other people and my children and things like that.
• 27:27
  That hasn't been a part of my life. So that is something new that I
• 27:30
  got to do. And it was a lot of fun. I think I, sang myself
• 27:33
  until I was hoarse as I was driving to the hotel, and the people
• 27:37
  driving next to me probably thought I was crazy because I was dancing in my
• 27:40
  car down the interstate. Well, it's somebody
• 27:43
  gave me that question, and I went, oh. And I think the
• 27:47
  reason that I put it out there on each podcast is we should try we
• 27:50
  should be adventures and try something new for the first time,
• 27:54
  you know, whenever we can, whether it is you try a new dish or you
• 27:58
  travel or whatever. I think it it it lights your soul
• 28:01
  up. And so I am really sad to say that
• 28:05
  we have gotta wrap this up. And so the couple things that
• 28:09
  I wanna do is remind you that, the information is gonna
• 28:12
  be in the notes and that we're gonna we'll update that if
• 28:16
  we, you know, if other things come up. But, you know, we wanna make sure
• 28:20
  that you subscribe and share and engage with the podcast on social
• 28:23
  media. And I'm doing the podcast because it's a way for me to
• 28:27
  help build community and to help fuel your quest for growth and
• 28:31
  an impact. So I am so glad that you joined me for that and
• 28:35
  that, you know, it it comes out every week, and I hope that, you
• 28:38
  know, you have learned you have enjoyed listening
• 28:42
  to each episode and diving into the world of bold vision
• 28:46
  and innovative possibilities. So the other
• 28:49
  thing, Pat, is if you have a
• 28:53
  quote or something that you like to to say to people all the time,
• 28:57
  your last words of inspiration or innovation for
• 29:01
  us? My last words of inspiration. I always got something to say.
• 29:07
  Just yeah. Anyway, I would I would say
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  that and this has been a a
• 29:14
  huge lesson for me and something I love to remind myself and other people
• 29:18
  of is it's not as hard as you
• 29:22
  think that it is. We create complexities
• 29:26
  around our world because we're raised in a world where things are supposed
• 29:30
  to be complex. But when you let go and you
• 29:33
  follow, it's not as complicated as you
• 29:37
  think it is. That's amazing. That's amazing. And and
• 29:41
  and I think you're absolutely right that
• 29:45
  simple can be very powerful. Mhmm.
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  And so I add to that that change can be simple, but it is
• 29:53
  doesn't mean that it's always easy. And I think it takes a certain amount of
• 29:57
  courage to do something that you've never done before. So that's what I want
• 30:00
  you to remember, that it's it requires courage, resilience.
• 30:05
  And I think that that's the thing that makes life worth
• 30:08
  living is that you can change and get closer and get better
• 30:12
  to what you want. So join me again for the the one small
• 30:16
  change as we embark on this journey together. And
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  until the next time, try to stay curious.