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What Is Wholehearted? (and what it’s not) · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

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  SPEAKER_00: I want to begin today by inviting you to name something honestly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because this thing keeps surfacing in my conversations, in my coaching work, and even in my own story.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's this a lot of faithful women are tired.
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  SPEAKER_00: Faithful women like you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And not because you've stopped loving God, or not because you lack discipline or you aren't trying.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're tired because many of the ways that you were taught to grow, try harder, stay disciplined, push through, keep showing up.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, it's just not bringing the life that you were promised.
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  SPEAKER_00: And for you, it may have even led to faith feeling heavy and more demanding than life-giving.
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  SPEAKER_00: And perhaps even faith feels more like managing yourself than meeting with God.
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  SPEAKER_00: Underneath it all, I imagine that there's a fatigue settling in.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with a question that sounds something like this why does this faith thing, this life, feel harder than it should?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to be very clear about what I mean when I say wholehearted, and just as importantly, what I do not mean.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because, my friend, wholehearted living is not just hype, and it's not spiritual intensity driven purely by personality or emotion.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wholehearted living is what happens when you stop trying to manage your faith through responsibility and start responding to God from belovedness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast, the Enneagram for Real Life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here is where you'll find conversations where faith meets story and strategy for lasting transformation.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Amy Wicks, here to help you find wisdom and wholehearted rhythms for moments that matter most.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whether you're learning your type or deepening your spiritual formation, these conversations will remind you that the Enneagram shines a light, that Christ is the transformation.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the heartbeat behind everything that I share here on the podcast, in my emails, and even on social media.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is, transformation doesn't only come from dramatic breakthroughs.
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  SPEAKER_00: It comes from a formation that unfolds slowly through perseverance, wisdom, and a whole lot of grace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wholehearted formation is slow.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's deeply relational and it's formed on biblical principles.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, I didn't learn this principle because something suddenly worked.
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  SPEAKER_00: I learned about true transformation in a season where nothing was changing quickly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Prayer wasn't bringing the immediate clarity or answer I was looking for.
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  SPEAKER_00: And faithfulness just looked like small, wholehearted, repetitive rhythms.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what surprised me over that time or that time that I was learning this and practicing it is that something did change, but it wasn't my circumstances.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was my capacity to persevere in my relationship with the Lord.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you listen to the recent wholehearted rhythms series, I shared about word, worship, writing, and wisdom, you probably noticed a pattern.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that is none of those practices or rhythms were about fixing anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was just ways of formation that unfold slowly through perseverance, wisdom, and grace.
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  SPEAKER_00: When Jesus is asked about the greatest commandment, he tells us, love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.
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  SPEAKER_00: And nothing about that commandment lends itself to thinking that we have to be perfect.
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  SPEAKER_00: So wholehearted doesn't mean perfect, it means integrated.
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  SPEAKER_00: It means loving God with all of your heart, your emotions, desires, and longings, with all your mind, your thoughts, beliefs, patterns, with all your strength, your body, your instincts, and your actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about compartmentalizing, and it's certainly not about fragmented, nor is it about forced.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about being integrated.
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  SPEAKER_00: And one of the reasons I feel confident that I can share this wholehearted framework and concepts and rhythms with you is that scripture never assumes your heart is automatically whole, or that my heart would be automatically whole.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, the Bible names many different heart postures that we might experience, or that those that have something to tell us experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: The Bible names broken hearts, divided hearts, faint or weary hearts, hardened hearts, and even double-minded hearts.
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  SPEAKER_00: And all of that tells me something important.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wholeheartedness is not the default or the given.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wholeheartedness comes from formation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's important to note that God does not shame divided hearts.
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  SPEAKER_00: So wholehearted formation is not about forcing unity inside of you or mendedness or that we have to hold it all together.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about allowing God to mend what has been broken with amazing grace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this is one of the reasons I think the Enneagram matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not as a label and not as a shortcut necessarily, and not as something else to fix in you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the Enneagram can help you notice where you've learned to over-rely on one part of yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you might think your way through life, you might feel your way through life, or you might even push, endure, or power through.
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  SPEAKER_00: We all tend to lean on one strength or another, but wholehearted formation isn't about fixing your personality type.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about inviting God to meet you right where you've learned to compensate, right where you found yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Again, this is not about pressure, but it's through awareness, practice, and loads and loads of grace.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think it's important for me to say this really clearly and for you to hear this: that wholehearted is not about trying harder, forcing hope, emotional hype, constant self-improvement, and spiritual intensity that burns you out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't believe it's white-knuckled obedience.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just obedience in a long direction.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not about religious performance, it's about relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's not about transformation through big moments alone, because uh you have probably been exhausted by those approaches.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's a reason.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have been too.
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  SPEAKER_00: In the end, though, it's important for you to hear me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm not rejecting spiritual disciplines, but I'm inviting you to reorder your spiritual disciplines around love, specifically God's love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Scripture tells us very clearly that we love because he first loved us.
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  SPEAKER_00: And wholehearted living is always a response.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not a requirement.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can choose to reject it.
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't show up to earn God's love.
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  SPEAKER_00: You show up because you're already belonging.
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  SPEAKER_00: You already are loved.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why rhythms matter more than just resolutions.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's why repetition matters more than intensity.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why wisdom matters more than urgency.
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  SPEAKER_00: Jesus tells us in John 10.10 that he came to give life that we might have life and have it abundantly.
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  SPEAKER_00: Abundance isn't about ease, my friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about awareness and aliveness and being attuned to all the good things that God is giving you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And wholehearted formation or wholehearted rhythms help you stay present in your life, even when things are unfinished, when things are hard, and when it feels like all you're living in is unanswered prayer.
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  SPEAKER_00: If this idea or even the word wholehearted is starting to feel relieving to you, it's probably because you've been carrying too much responsibility.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've been trying to expect change through big moments, and you've been trying to outrun disappointment or trying to protect yourself from false hope.
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  SPEAKER_00: I want you to know that scripture gives you permission to acknowledge the condition of your heart right where you find yourself without forcing it towards wholeness.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, my friend, wholehearted formation does not remove effort, but it removes fear as the fuel.
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  SPEAKER_00: My prayer is that this podcast isn't just about consuming more insight, or that as I create it, it's not just about you consuming more insight.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's about learning how to live in the rhythm of formation that begins with your true belovedness, not responsibility, and instead formation that unfolds slowly through perseverance, wisdom, and grace.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's why I share about rhythms, not striving, wisdom that develops over time, the wholehearted story work, paying attention, giving time, or even putting yourself in community to have discernment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's why this year I'm inviting you to move slowly, thoughtfully, and deeply, especially as I share about Enneagram types one at a time, all throughout the year.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're gonna spend one month, one whole month, four episodes on one type before we move to the next.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's gonna be so intentional.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm going to share ideas, not as labels to fix, but invitations to notice where God's grace is already at work in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you've been longing for growth that doesn't exhaust you, faith that doesn't demand certainty, and transformation that honors your story, well, you found yourself in the right place.
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  SPEAKER_00: So together, we're not gonna hurry, we're not going to just perform for the sake of performance, and we're not gonna have to figure everything out by the end of things.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just want you to show up with a willing heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Wholehearted doesn't mean you have it all together.
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  SPEAKER_00: It means you're willing to show up with all your heart, your mind, your strength, and your questions.
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  SPEAKER_00: And over time, it's God who forms your wholeheartedness slowly through perseverance, wisdom, and grace.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks so much for joining me for the Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast.
• 11:02
  SPEAKER_00: If this conversation spoke to you, please share it with the friend.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can also visit simply wholehearted.com to take the free Enneagram quiz and also get your personalized podcast playlists specific for your Enneagram type.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember, friend, your starting point doesn't have to be your stuff point.