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Season 2 - Episode 133 - Working with selfish behavior · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Ooh, so let's talk about selfish behavior.
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  Now typically when we talk about this kind of stuff, we will go
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  through the rigors of defining. Well, am I being self-centered
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  in order for self-preservation to take place?
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  And, you know, I'm a big proponent of that.
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  I think it's important that you take care of yourself.
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  I think it's important. You put the mask on yourself,
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  and then you can go out and take care of other people.
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  And it's all wonderful. I'm talking about another
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  component of this today though. I'm talking about when someone
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  has legitimate selfish behavior and In the midst of it because
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  it is a hard thing to deal with. We look at other people's
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  behavior and we regularly will be judgmental of someone else's
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  behavior and will say the so selfish.
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  And and it is like, let's face it is.
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  Now the question is, did they not know?
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  Did they not care? Because everything always boils
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  down to one specific. Fact, you are there, don't know
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  you don't care. So you have to start to look at
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  this, from a perspective of how am I going to let this Behavior
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  affect? Me, first of all, because it's
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  important to understand, the more you get offended, the more
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  your emotions are going to go up the more, you're going to feel
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  off-put by it and then you're going to start reacting and
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  being angry, which is rightfully.
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  So mind you. And then you've got to make
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  decisions about what to do with it because selfish behavior is
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  all around us. I however, believe many people
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  don't know, like, they just do things and they don't know.
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  And that's why it's our job to inform.
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  Of the how it makes us feel, what happens to us in the
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  process of their actions of their, of their true actions.
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  Coming up, what that does to us, because I just don't think that
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  many people are aware. I think that they are aware of
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  certain parts of things, and then they kind of like, you
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  know, compartmentalize it or just put it aside, we could sit
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  there and we could say, Hey, you know, I think they knew, but I
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  think they get so caught up in their world.
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  They don't think about other people legitimately Yeah, I
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  don't think they think about other people so it's incredibly
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  important for us to be aware of what we're making something mean
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  that the other person might be doing and it's incredibly
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  important for us to decide how we want that to show up further
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  in our day and our actions and our relationship with these
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  people because it's very easy to get all caught up.
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  It's very very easy to get all caught up and it's very, very
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  easy to have challenges trying to unwire it because we Quick to
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  pull the trigger and point the finger, and sometimes that's
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  necessary. And sometimes we do it as a
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  habit. I know I am, I'm quick to pull
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  the trigger and I can look at something, and I can go that
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  selfish behavior. And is it self preservation for
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  some things? Sure, I'm sure that's what it
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  is. But other times I'm like, no, I
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  think that this was just uncalled for and in saying that,
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  I want to be very clear about this.
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  Yes, you have to have self preservation.
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  Yes, you have to take. Care of yourself.
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  But you have to also understand that the other person on the
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  other side may be uninformed, may be uninformed, so it's your
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  job to inform them in a way with grace that that affected you,
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  their actions, their choices affected you.
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  And then you can take it from there.
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  How you want to see fit of how it you can blend this into the
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  conversation as far as how do we move forward with this?
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  How do we fix? It is an apology.
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  Required. But looking out there at the
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  world I'm going to tell you you have to assume that most people
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  are just so self-centered that they're not thinking about other
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  people at this point in time they're just thinking about
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  themselves and in that action of course it comes across as
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  selfish but is it always selfish and is it wrong?
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  If it's always selfish. I mean I don't know that's
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  that's one of the big fundamental questions of life.
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  So you have to decide what it means to you, and then you have
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  to share it. Otherwise it will continue and
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  you will Bubble Up and not like it.
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  So always go back to the one fundamental fundamental question
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  of well, they either didn't know or they didn't care and I'm
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  going to assume they didn't know and I'll be able to tell them
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  and then find out if they just don't care, that's probably the
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  smarter way to do it. And in red, you know, in the, in
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  the flip side of this, you have to ask yourself what selfish
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  phase Behavior. Is.
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  Am I doing that? Someone is is affected by and do
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  I actually know if I'm aware of them?
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  And that's a tricky one and you have to dig into that because
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  hmm. Gosh, selfish behaviors, I'm a
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  fan of some of them, you know, you've got to take care of
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  yourself. I've said it a thousand times on
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  this podcast. You have to take care of
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  yourself or you can't take care of other people, but it can't
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  come across as a selfish behavior without letting people
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  know and informing people. Exactly of what, you know, you
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  need and with a little information, everything becomes
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  easier. So just remember that.
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  Alright? I hope you guys have a very
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye. Exactly of what, you know, you
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  need and with a little information, everything becomes
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  easier. So just remember that.
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  Alright? I hope you guys have a very
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  blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.