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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just - The Reality of Low Key: Humility in an Unpredictable World 4.23.26 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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On page 469 you're pointing out this idea and mentally one has
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to realize besides for through practice and through becoming
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accustomed to being adapting to being low key and being fine
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with that. He talks about the need mentally
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to see yourself in a low key manner, which three ways, where
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you came from, where you're headed and who you're going to
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stand in front of. And again, it initially it
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sounds like a very strong approach.
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I came from a small drop of something.
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I'm going to be to dirt eventually, and I'm going to
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stand in front of how sham be sound very tough.
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But what it's really telling you is be real yourself.
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Don't allow all the sketch and all the, you know, the persona
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that we build and the image that we think of ourselves and the
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reflection everything other people think of us, want others
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to think of us. Don't allow that to be the
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guiding definition of ourselves. Become much more real with
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yourself and you're functioning far.
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By the way, we said yesterday, being down to earth literally
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means down to earth because every person will be in the
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earth one day and down at the earth also means you're very
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real. You love when you see a person
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who's a big deal and you can talk to them like your actual
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right. You like when you see such a
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person we can talk to a normal way who actually doesn't make it
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sound like their life is perfect and they know exactly what
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they're doing, right? They actually make themselves
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silly, the human being. Oh, and their home they have,
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you know, I love when people say this because they came from a
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rabbi home. I love when people say, oh,
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really? Rabbis also deal with like, you
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know, like raising children and Shalom, buy it and, you know,
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and figure out how to pay the bills or whatever else you deal
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with. Oh, yeah, sure they do.
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Absolutely I do. And it's no condition at all.
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And maybe they have the Toronto on the side, so they have a
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little more and they definitely have a lot more guidance, stuff
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like that. But they deal with life too,
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just the same. That's called being down to
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earth. And any person that you deal
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with who's a big deal, who's a hotshot and then acts down to
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Earth, you love it. Why you love it?
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Because they're being human. What he's telling you over here
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is every single person on Earth should be down to earth.
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How they do get to get that way, knowing where they came from,
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where they're headed and whom they're going to face one day.
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Because when they face Hashem, they sure are going to be very
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real with themselves. And they got no choice but to be
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very much genuine and say, was I good?
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Was I not good? Did I make mistakes?
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Did I do the right thing? And they'll be much more real.
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So you might as well be that same real right now.
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That's what he told you right now.
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I hope so. I hope so.
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That's always my father used to say right now The Who made lift
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him freelance in the bottom of 469 more men lift him Garua
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pahoot Venezuela meets a small person going to stand in front
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of Hashem very limited in his mind full of flaws in front of
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Hashem Tami and we'll go all the with southern miles up and he's
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going to have imperfections and impurities and moments that he's
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embarrassed about Hayarimrush. You think he's going to raise
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his head. You think he's going to walk
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into God's head held high, chest out?
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I don't think so. Things open up his mouth and
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say, God, let me tell you about my life.
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Let me tell you what I did. Let me tell you about my
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accomplishments. I don't think so.
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And they ask him now where now is your mouth?
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Where's your confidence? Talk about your bravado.
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Let's hear right. Where's all your arrogance?
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Where's all your big bravado? Where's all your you know, your
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big name. Tell us about your name.
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Tell us about who you are. You think the guy's gonna start
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talking and saying you know what I did?
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How should you know what I accomplish?
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You should have seen me there. You should have seen me how I
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told them off in the meeting. You should have seen how how
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impressive I was when I made the deal.
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I don't think so. Instead, the person that go in
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is heavy to his legs. Probably right embarrassed.
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Why? Because the truth is about to
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come out. So let's be real right now.
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How about Maya or Maya sheep? I'll talk after.
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What's he going to answer? What will be his response to the
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rebuke? He Nevada.
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It's definite Shiloh vada Shiloh.
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He had, He said I'd done Mr. Ho, I met Azeh and you give him one
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second. There's no doubt that a person
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will imagine the truth in his mind even for one moment.
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Right parua to flock middle cola gava without a shoe.
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They'll race away from him all his arrogance and he'll have 0
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arrogance left. That's the reality.
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Real life is all is. Galva will go flying, it'll go
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to the moon because he has nothing to be arguing about.
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And it's real. When these three points tell you
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where you came from, where you headed and who you going to
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face, they don't really tell you some sort of deep punishment.
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They don't tell you some embarrassing points.
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What they tell you is be real. If you're real, you'll be the
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right person. If you're a sketch and you can
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play all this fake bravado in the world now another way and a
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person can build his mind, his sense of being low key Hashini
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who in Yan Hiluf Todotesman Vidov smood up to him, right?
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The second way a person can be humble is by thinking about the
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fact that life is so unpredictable.
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We all know that to be the case. Life is extremely unpredictable.
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Things switch, things change in a hobby, right?
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How many people do you know without the course of history,
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your life, forget about the world's history, your own life,
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who are a big deal. Take any scenario in life and
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imagine so and so is a big deal. You got a lot in school or in
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high school and an anti high school, all that where the real
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guys are a big deal. And now they're you know,
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they're they're they're nothing going for them.
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That's very sad. Think about those.
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That's classic. Those guys, as quick as they
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made it, lost it. Not as quick, but they lost it
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pretty quick. And how about people who even
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after that, literally in the community were deemed a big
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deal? No names, of course, right?
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They were a big deal. They were well known, they were
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hot shots, They were the whole thing.
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And then they had a story. They had a scandal.
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Even less than that. They just lost it all.
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And sadly, and not that case anymore.
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Not at all a big deal. Some of them are ashamed to come
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out of their home safely, right? There've been many of those
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throughout the course of the community, Jewish history, the
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world. Many, many.
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I mean, you go into the political world, how many
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politicians ended up in jail or how many politicians at least
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ended up embarrassed speaking in front of the public, right,
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because of their scandal or story or failure, you name it.
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It's a lot out there. There's so many out there.
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It's pretty much a big percentage of the famous people
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either remain famous or full. If you know this to be the case
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and you're aware of the the unpredictability of life, how
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can a person be arrogant when two years from that point it
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might be a zero, literally a 0. It's a waste of time.
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Let's see you too, Kiashi Kaliotani.
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We know a wealthy person is a couple of steps away.
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I'm becoming poor. I know a person.
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I don't know them directly, but I know someone who was their
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gardener. OK, that's a funny thing.
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Someone who was their gardener, A landscaper, OK, and his
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customer, Jewish guy had owned about 10 companies.
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And not just he owned 10 companies.
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He had them all set up in a way I don't fully understand how,
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but as I was told to me he had them all set up in a way that
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one protects the other. If this one fails, that one
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backs it up and that one fails another one backs it up.
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They were investments and they all were there to protect each
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other. That was a back in the
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structure. But in his mind this guy was a
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very well off guy and in his mind he set it up in a way and
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they protect each other. OK Literally in one day natural
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in one day one investment failed and the entire thing went
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totally to dust in one day, so much so that I know from his
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landscaper he could not pay his landscaper anymore for his lawn
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for his lawn and the guy that wasn't a small thing to do.
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The guy out of a different corporations he did he had see a
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different corporation but somehow back each other up said
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I don't know exactly how it was something some pull out the
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needle and only fell apart. Whether it made sense his idea
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or not clearly didn't. But the point is he probably
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thought he was so small. He probably thought he was as
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safe as he gets. He's not just staying.
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There is no interesting thing. He's saying I'm as safe as it
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gets because I know we have many examples of people who were
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extremely well off and made a mistake and the whole thing went
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off. The whole thing when they made
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an investment, they were guaranteed that they were fine
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and now they have to pay it back, right?
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Is that? Destined to happen.
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Definitely is. Or is that actual bomb going to
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happen to his brother the ship sink?
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I don't know. Yeah, it definitely happens to
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many people. Who was it?
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That's not happened. It might have been this guy
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might have shown a little bit extra arrogance, or maybe he
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probably played into Inshallah and Munan himself.
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I'm pretty confident about that. But Hashem still had his opinion
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and still had what he does. And this tells the person, chill
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out. Don't be so arrogant.
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There's no way in the world, any person I had a conversation with
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someone who's a very big deal today, last week, I had this
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conversation. I told them any person I know I
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can play out for you and they're 2 steps away.
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Outright failure. I'm talking about in our
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circles, which means in the rabbi shul school, you can find
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in 2 minutes I can do if you don't want to do it in words out
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to FEPE, but you can do in 2 minutes how in someone's own
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could be an outright failure. That school, that shul, that
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organization, you name it. Right, that's the coded lesson.
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Right, exactly all the. All the real estate.
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Together humble them two minutes right it's the way it is and
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they're all structured that they're based on they're.
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Selling paper towels with a millionaires.
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Right. It is no based on one donor.
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If you go to organizations, they're based on one big thing,
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or a big family, or a big this or a big block.
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Anything could change in a minute if you know that it's not
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meant to scare you, which it does to me.
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It's meant instead to make you chill out.
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There's no way you can walk around and bang your chest.
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How many people don't need to go into details?
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How many people throughout the history of the community have
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risen and fallen? How many schools have had their
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highs and then their lows? How many schools have had the
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highs and those organizations big time memes.
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It's been a million. And it's not meant to scare
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people, but it's meant that people chill out.
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You're having your high right now.
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You're on your peak. Just thank our sham and continue
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walking. Don't be a guy who starts to
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turn around and say, let me tell you how it works.
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Let me tell you how you're doing things.
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Let me tell you how I made it. I don't know how you made it.
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You don't know either. Let's just let's be real.
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And this is meant to make people very low key and that people
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understand this are the best people.
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If they ignore this, they're really the most impossible
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people to deal with because they have no sense of reality.
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That's what he's telling you, right?
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The unpredictability of life is scary.
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I mean, you can take a ballplayer.
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How many guys do you know who the guy drafted?
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They were first round draft picks.
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They were top over all, right? Top over all.
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And they had that whole scene by the draft where they put the cap
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on and they had the family around and two minutes later
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they were a big deal. They signed a big contract and 5
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minutes later they they ripped their Achilles and goodbye.
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You look, there's been a lot of them, right?
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So what did I tell you, Chalamet?
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Just tell us you relax, be down to earth.
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Val Moshelle levee. How many rulers have become
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servants? Val Mahubali declare how many
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people who were extremely inspected became embarrassed?
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They've we a whole Coco on the Calais esu al Hamat Saavan of
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Zebe Navajo. If any person is technique
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speaking, prone to fall into this predicament in a minute,
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eh, you volleyball. How can it be arrogant based on
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outside factors? So people say no, I'm not
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arrogant cause of that. I don't feel good 'cause I feel
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good 'cause what I've done, that too can be undone.
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Alma Savo I said no. But what makes people arrogant
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is not themselves. They don't control themselves.
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What makes you arrogant is the situation and the situation is
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dictated by God. No guy is too arrogant 'cause
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he's a very small man, right? People are arrogant because of
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their money and their power and their fame.
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And there was. People inflate them.
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Yeah, it's true. It's part of the problem.
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The power is given to you by others, your mother, your
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respect of your money. If people know about the money,
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respect of the money is given to you by others.
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And so it is true when it comes to overall success.
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And it's done by other people. Between you and I, I've said
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this all the time, our wonderful community, the best community
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out there, it, it builds and destroys people in a sense.
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Because when someone does well and becomes a name and become a
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name in a few minutes, it takes very short of them to become a
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name. And then they run the risk of
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living the rest of their life living up to their name.
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And then they can't function because it's the reality is life
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has ups and downs. Not even as human as he's
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telling us here. It's basic business.
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I mean, guy, he sells to Walmart and then sadly, he doesn't sell
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to Walmart anymore. That's it.
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And that thing, it's over. That's one buyer turning him
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down. And it's, it's completely very
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different change. It's very tough for people to
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function this way. It's very hard to exist this
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way. So when you tell that person is
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don't be worried about eyeing that opera, say just chill, just
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relax. I want people to say someone's
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always doing so well. And this person knows that he's
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doing well because of one person that he knows in Arkansas.
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It's one connection and change his fortune, right?
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He lives life with that mindset and he keeps himself down to
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earth and low key because he knows that he can flip on a
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dime. He's not scared, but he's just
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real. Am I right there or you're
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always scared of Walmart Always scared, right?
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He's not even exactly. He's not even out of him.
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It's true. So you God listening.
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But how should you not be scared?
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No, if you a a person who's about beat the horn, right,
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knows, right, that the source is on a string and we don't, and
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then we know that we don't really deserve what we're
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getting. Yeah.
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So it is like scary, I mean. I'll tell you in my process, I,
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I have to worry about certain things in the shoe, right?
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Same. My my mechanism.
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And for example, the how it is coming up.
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This is coming year. It's a big concern for all the
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shoes because a lot of people are going to be in Jersey.
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It's Labor Day is right after the, the, the whatever.
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Yeah, two more. I'm sorry.
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It's three days before the Russian.
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It's a fetus Russian. It's a big fear.
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And the wise person was told me you being the wise person,
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they're all by this is your tariffs.
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You're right. This is your tariffs.
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So let's look at tariffs for a second.
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Now, I'm not saying everyone, some people got hurt by tariffs.
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Very Bailey. But there are people I've spoken
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to in the business world who are about to make it big through
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tariffs. How so?
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Because the government took away their money.
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All right, big money. The government held it.
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They're giving it back, I believe, with interest.
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And even without that, you work and you negotiate your margins
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with the retailers right out with China.
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And it turns out for many people, I don't serve people
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personally. They're actually making a lot of
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money because of this process, whether they're making money or
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not. The fear that they have, the
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devastation that they felt. I mean, I fundraised last year
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through tariffs, right? That's a great time to
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fundraise. Being sarcastic.
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That's literally he became a therapist when you funded his
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new diapers. He called a person and he got
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the story. I.
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I I thank God happens to be we did as I this sort of fundraiser
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I did as well as ever done. That's because people are very
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nice, but the truth is, is that techniques become the the
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conversation open up with that type of fear.
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And it made a lot of sense. And yet most probably for many
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people, they'll be fine. What that tells you is that you
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don't know the story. I am nervous that shul realize
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every shul realized about at least 20% of their entire year's
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funding comes from the holidays. At least 20%, maybe more, 30,
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maybe more, right? And now that's that's for many
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people that's going to be wiped almost completely out unless
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they figure something out. Am I nervous?
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Yes Wasn't on my mind the entire year.
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Yes. Do I know for a fact that
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something's going to come along and they may even be better?
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I know that should I figure out a way to chill out?
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I can't I wish I could, but overall that should make me low
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key. Even if I were a businessman and
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they sure were a business and then we made a lot of money that
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year. I'd I would never say to myself,
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wow, we're rolling because I know next year is coming.
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The goal of this is to know, be completely humble, be low key,
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and then you realize you're hanging on Hashem's balance.
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Will He take care of you? Yes, because He'll be the one to
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take care of you and not you. And because you know that
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there's no plan for tomorrow without Him and you know that
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well, that makes you remain the same person.
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The only reason people change is because they start to believe in
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something outside of Hashem. If you believe in Hashem
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totally, which we do, how can I change?
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How can I be be reliant and trusting and be feel good about
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my own abilities and when I know there's so many angles in a
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goggy, even if there are a lot of Buddhas on my own and I am
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very good good at producing a product and I am very good at
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selling. All that might be true.
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All you need is 1 snafu and it's all game over.
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We all know that. All you need is they need.
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They don't ship. They make it wrong.
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The buyer's upset. One day they find they've been a
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competitor. We all know the game.
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We've all been down the road. So because you know that, how
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can a person be arrogant? How can a person think to
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themselves? I figured it out.
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There's not one area of business that a person can see.
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I figured it out. You can't figure out real estate
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because your laws can change on a dime, right?
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Commercial real estate, local real estate.
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You can't figure out wholesale. You can't figure out retail,
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that's for sure. You can't figure out anything,
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right? You can't figure out anything
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because all these things can change tomorrow and you can't
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figure out the more with the community.
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You can't figure out schools, you can't figure out schools,
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you can't figure out organizations.
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It can't be settled in any of these areas.
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So therefore not being the case, every person says to themselves,
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I am blessed to be here. I'm fully confident that someone
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will take care of me going forward, but it won't be me.
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And because it won't be me, how can I be the one to really look
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at myself in a manner that makes me think I'm great?
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I'm not great. I didn't do anything to get
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myself here and I won't do anything to get myself there.
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And therefore I'm gonna remain low key.
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Low key is being real. It's always a thing.
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And he's telling you to do this. And how do you convince yourself
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use the vulnerability of life? Is life vulnerable today, Today
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with the news and everything going on and you just watch the
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stock market over the last couple of years, guy?
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Sneezes the wrong. Way right, right.
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And the stock market is because it gets crazier and crazy
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nowadays because of the news being much more hectic and
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because no one knows settled. There's no such thing as being
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settled anymore. There's just no such thing.
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All right. I've learnt that if I follow the
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the World News, I will not be settled on days that I follow
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the World News. I have a little bit of a high
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blood pressure on this tense right right now.
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I'll give you an example. Right now, if you ask the
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Israelis, they're choked. They're back to normal in Israel
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today. He's back to normal right in
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America's version of Israel today, because you have Iran
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officially hanging over the heads and America officially
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about to attack at any point, which we both know.
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I don't think he's true anymore, but that's the side point.
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But that's irrelevant. We know it's only over already,
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but he's just the president talking talk for some reason.
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Now it is real. It's fine and they know it's
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fine. They knew the Iran attacks were
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coming when they were coming and they know they're not coming
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now, right? So based on that, but we from
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our perspective, we have World News and we have the fear of
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World News. And because of that, we are
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tense about Israel. OK, I'm debating to book tickets
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for now for a month from now and I'm tense.
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I don't know. People who are going to come
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along on me backed out. I have to convince my wife now
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they come alone and I don't know if she's going to come alone
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because she's scared. I'm not really scared, but I am
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when I follow the news. Life is very volatile, evolved
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news. If that's the case in the world,
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it's so much so the case, very much so the case and our
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business life as well. And that is meant to keep us
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humble. The vulnerability of the world
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around us is meant to chose out. I think we can rely on.