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Titus 2:1-5 - Teaching Women to Love Their Husbands · The Bible Explained with Jenn Kokal

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Speaker 1: Life Audio. Hey, they're faith listeners. Welcome to the Bible
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Speaker 1: Explained Podcast. I'm not gonna chit chat very much this
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Speaker 1: morning because we're going to be in Titus chapter two,
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Speaker 1: and there is a lot of content in this short
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Speaker 1: little passage. So before I begin the episode, here's a
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Speaker 1: All right, guys, well that sponsored dad was playing. Hopefully
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Speaker 1: you got the chance to grab your bibles and your
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Speaker 1: cups of coffee or our tea. Let's go ahead and
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Speaker 1: read Titus chapter two one through five this morning, And
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Speaker 1: as you all know, I'll be reading from the web,
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Speaker 1: but say the things which fit sound doctrine, that older
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Speaker 1: men should be temperate, sensible, sober minded, sound in faith,
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Speaker 1: in love, and in perseverance. And that the older women
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Speaker 1: likewise be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or enslaved too
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Speaker 1: much wine, teachers of that which is good. That they
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Speaker 1: may train the young wives to love their husbands, to
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Speaker 1: love their children, to be sober minded, chaste workers at home,
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Speaker 1: kind being in subjection to their own husbands. That God's
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Speaker 1: word may not be blasphemed. Hopefully you guys remember what
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Speaker 1: we talked about on Tuesday, but essentially in Titus chapter one,
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Speaker 1: Paul was talking about a whole lot of people that
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Speaker 1: were causing a bunch of destruction in the church with
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Speaker 1: their terrible doctrines, specifically the Judaizers who would go into
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Speaker 1: the church and tell people, hey, you're not saved if
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Speaker 1: you don't do all of the man made rules that
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Speaker 1: we made up, such as getting a circumcision, such as
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Speaker 1: not eating certain foods, such as doing this or doing that.
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Speaker 1: And Paul is like, these are destructive doctrines that destroy households,
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Speaker 1: upheave the faith of people, and diminish the grace of Jesus.
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Speaker 1: So these doctrines needed to be avoided, and not just avoided,
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Speaker 1: but they needed to be shut down, is what Paul said,
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Speaker 1: not through violence or anything like that, but through sound doctrine,
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Speaker 1: which is exactly what he says to Titus right here
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Speaker 1: in our first verse for today, he says, but say
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Speaker 1: the things which fit sound doctrine, not the garbage doctrine
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Speaker 1: going around the church. But say things that fit the
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Speaker 1: sound doctrine, specifically in verse two, that older men should
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Speaker 1: be temperate, sensible, sober minded, sound in faith, in love,
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Speaker 1: and in perseverance. So This makes it clear that sound
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Speaker 1: doctrine is not just what you say, but it's also
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Speaker 1: what you do. Because notice here that he tells Titus
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Speaker 1: to say sound doctrine, but then he also gives a
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Speaker 1: bunch of examples of how to live sound doctrine as well.
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Speaker 1: So this is really important for every single Christian to know.
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Speaker 1: It's not just about what comes out of your mouth.
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Speaker 1: People are also watching the way you live. How are
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Speaker 1: people viewing us? Are we actually living a lifestyle of Christianity.
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Speaker 1: We're not doing it so that other people can look
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Speaker 1: at us and see how holy we are. That's not
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Speaker 1: the point of it at all, you know. That's what
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Speaker 1: the Pharisees got into, where they're you know, praying out
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Speaker 1: in the street corners and fasting to make themselves look
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Speaker 1: really sick and just doing all sorts of crazy things
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Speaker 1: to get attention from the crowds so that they could
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Speaker 1: feel more holy to the masses. That's not what the
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Speaker 1: Christian life is about either. The reason we live good
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Speaker 1: lives is not for glory for ourselves, but for glory
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Speaker 1: for Jesus. It's all about Jesus. We are supposed to
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Speaker 1: shine our lights. We are supposed to show people that
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Speaker 1: Christianity is good, that the Gospel is good, and that
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Speaker 1: our lives have been changed because of the Gospel. That
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Speaker 1: we are truly following the principles of Jesus. That's why
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Speaker 1: we live. The Christian lifestyle is to give glory to Jesus.
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Speaker 1: It is all about that mission. So the older men
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Speaker 1: need to be taught to be temperate, sensible, and sober minded.
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Speaker 1: This means not violent, not angry, not overly judgmental. They
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Speaker 1: need to be fair, they need to be kind and gentle,
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Speaker 1: and they also need to be sober minded. As we
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Speaker 1: know with what we've studied of the Creeds so far,
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Speaker 1: the last chapter called them lazy gluttons, and Paul was like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's actually true. So if the Creeds had that type
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Speaker 1: of reputation of being lazy gluttons, that probably included a
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Speaker 1: lot of substance abuse as well. That's why Titus had
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Speaker 1: to teach these men to be sober minded. So in
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Speaker 1: other words, clear headed, not addicted to anything that's going
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Speaker 1: to cause them to not think clearly. But they also
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Speaker 1: have to be sound in faith, in love, and in perseverance.
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Speaker 1: Other versions might say the word patience in place of
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Speaker 1: perseverance or endurance in place of perseverance. So what does
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Speaker 1: that mean to be sound in faith, in love, and
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Speaker 1: in perseverance. Will that word sound in sound of faith
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Speaker 1: is applied to the word doctrine, So that means that
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Speaker 1: they have to have a healthy Christian lifestyle in all
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Speaker 1: of these things. A healthy Christian lifestyle in the matter
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Speaker 1: of faith, in the matter of love, and in the
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Speaker 1: matter of patience, perseverance, or endurance. So they have to
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Speaker 1: have a strong faith. They have to have true love
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Speaker 1: for God and for other people, which is the first
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Speaker 1: and second greatest commandments. And they also have to have
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Speaker 1: the ability to persevere, whether that means being patient with
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Speaker 1: other people or even being patient during times of trial,
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Speaker 1: testing or persecution. These men have to be taught these things.
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Speaker 1: That's why Titus is at this church, because the Cretans
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Speaker 1: were known for not doing these things. They were known
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Speaker 1: for the opposite of all of these things. So Titus
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Speaker 1: has to teach them what they should do, how to
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Speaker 1: live the Christian lifestyle the way God wants them to live.
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Speaker 1: And this is how God wants us to live. He
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Speaker 1: wants us to be sober minded, he wants us to
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Speaker 1: be sound in faith, love, and in perseverance, and to
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Speaker 1: teach other people these things as well. But notice in
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Speaker 1: this passage that Paul mentions the older men first before
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Speaker 1: he mentions the older women, not because women are inferior
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Speaker 1: to men in any way. In fact, Paul himself preached
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Speaker 1: that the men and the women are both equal in
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Speaker 1: the eyes of God. But there's two reasons why Paul
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Speaker 1: mentions the men first. The first reason is because Titus
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Speaker 1: himself was a man, and Titus should be focusing his
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Speaker 1: ministry on the men, not on the women, because it
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Speaker 1: is inappropriate for men to counsel and teach women without
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Speaker 1: another man being present. And we'll get more into that
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Speaker 1: in just a second. The second reason was that Titus's
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Speaker 1: entire purpose for being in Crete was to find elders
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Speaker 1: and pastors of these churches, because apparently these churches in
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Speaker 1: Crete were really really lacking in good eldership, and the
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Speaker 1: elders and the pastors, as we know, based upon other
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Speaker 1: scriptures in the Bible, we're supposed to be men, not women,
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Speaker 1: because the Bible follows a complementarian viewpoint. The complimentarian idea
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Speaker 1: is that men and women are equal, but their roles
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Speaker 1: are different. The egalitarian viewpoint is that men and women
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Speaker 1: are equal and their roles are also equal, so men
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Speaker 1: can do anything women can do, and women can do
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Speaker 1: anything men can do. But as we've seen from other
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Speaker 1: passages of Scripture, specifically in the books of First and
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Speaker 1: Second Corinthians, we find out that women are not supposed
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Speaker 1: to be pastors of the church. And I've talked about
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Speaker 1: that at length, and I will try to find an
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Speaker 1: episode to link in the description if you're curious more
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Speaker 1: about that topic why women should not be pastors, so
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Speaker 1: that will be linked. But let me just tell you
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Speaker 1: something based upon my own personal experience. Ladies, you don't
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Speaker 1: want to be a pastor. You might think you want
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Speaker 1: to be a pastor. You don't want to be a pastor.
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Speaker 1: And if you do want to be a pastor, you
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Speaker 1: don't understand what goes into being a pastor. It is
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Speaker 1: an irritating and annoying and difficult and conflict filled job.
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Speaker 1: You don't get rest. You have to be at that
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Speaker 1: church twenty four to seven. You have to listen to
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Speaker 1: the complaints of every single person that comes through your doors.
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Speaker 1: You have to deal with people backbiting you, your husband,
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Speaker 1: your kids, You have to deal with friends who you
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Speaker 1: thought were friends just up and leaving the church. If
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Speaker 1: the pastoral position is done correctly, it is probably one
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Speaker 1: of the most mentally and emotionally exhausting jobs on the planet.
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Speaker 1: And I honestly am not being dramatic when I say that,
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Speaker 1: because I've worked very closely with pastors. My brother in
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Speaker 1: law actually is a pastor, and the things he has
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Speaker 1: to deal with on a day to day basis would
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Speaker 1: shatter an average individual. Not to mention my past you know,
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Speaker 1: when I go to the church, my pastor is always there. Always.
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Speaker 1: I don't know that I've ever not seen him at
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Speaker 1: the church, like it's a rare occurrence. He's always there
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Speaker 1: because there's always something to do at the church. You
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Speaker 1: have to oversee every single ministry. You have to make
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Speaker 1: sure everything is being taught correctly, whether it's the children's
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Speaker 1: programs or the women's ministry thing that's coming up. The
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Speaker 1: pastor and the elders have to be the gatekeeper of anything,
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Speaker 1: every single thing that comes into the church. It's a
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Speaker 1: difficult and tough job that gives you almost no break.
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Speaker 1: I'm not saying across the board that every single woman
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Speaker 1: can't handle conflict, but the majority of women that I
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Speaker 1: do know have a really hard time with conflict. There
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Speaker 1: might be some aspects of the pastoral role that you
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Speaker 1: or any other woman would be very good at, but
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Speaker 1: when it comes to the conflict, when it comes to
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Speaker 1: bad ideology, like having to shut that down, when it
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Speaker 1: comes to friends stabbing you in the back, could you
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Speaker 1: honestly say that you'd be good at handling those things,
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Speaker 1: and not just handling those things on a one time occasion,
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Speaker 1: but maybe handling it on a weekly kind of basis,
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Speaker 1: because that's what pastors do. It's like a battlefield. And
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Speaker 1: Titus right here was supposed to be the man that
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Speaker 1: had to shut down all of this garbage philosophy and
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Speaker 1: all of this fake doctrine that was coming into this
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Speaker 1: church while possibly having to experience persecution because of it,
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Speaker 1: and trying to find men that were sober minded and
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Speaker 1: sound in doctrine. Titus had a huge job set in
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Speaker 1: front of him, and he had a big job because
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Speaker 1: he had to find other men who were also suited
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Speaker 1: for this role because it's not even for every man.
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Speaker 1: That's another thing. The pastoral role isn't even for every
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Speaker 1: every single man. I mean, we just talked about the
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Speaker 1: qualifications of elders in Titus Chapter one, is that every
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Speaker 1: single man, No, it is a slim minority of men
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Speaker 1: that actually qualified to be a pastor or an elder.
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Speaker 1: And that's why Paul right here talks about the men first,
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Speaker 1: because that was Titus's job, was to find these men
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Speaker 1: that could actually do this very difficult job, especially back
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Speaker 1: in these days where persecution, where extreme persecution was ramping
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Speaker 1: up under the reign of Nero. These were tough times,
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Speaker 1: not like it is in Western societies today. This was
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Speaker 1: a very very tough time, so Titus has to worry
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Speaker 1: about the men first, and then secondly, in verse three,
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Speaker 1: he says, also the older women likewise be reverent in behavior,
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Speaker 1: not slanderers or enslaved to much wine, but teachers of
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Speaker 1: that which is good. So the older women needed to
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Speaker 1: be trained as well, so this would be modesty. This
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Speaker 1: would probably include things like not gossiping or slandering other
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Speaker 1: people or backbiting. And also, like the men, they needed
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Speaker 1: to be sober minded, not enslaved to much wine. Again,
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Speaker 1: we've talked about how there's nothing wrong with drinking some
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Speaker 1: wine or some alcohol, because even Jesus drank wine and alcohol,
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Speaker 1: but being enslaved to it where you can't function without it.
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Speaker 1: That is not a good quality for an older woman
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Speaker 1: of Christ to be emulating to other people. Instead, they
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Speaker 1: need to be teachers of that which is good. So
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Speaker 1: that shows right here that the job of the men
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Speaker 1: is to focus on the younger men, and the job
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Speaker 1: of the older women is to focus on the younger women,
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Speaker 1: because if that doesn't happen, things can get really shady
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Speaker 1: very quickly. As we know, it is not good for
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Speaker 1: an older man to be alone with a young woman.
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Speaker 1: There's too many temptations there. There's too many things that
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Speaker 1: can go wrong, and unfortunately that happens a lot in
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Speaker 1: our churches today. There's too much temptation. So Paul tells Titus,
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Speaker 1: don't even focus on the younger women. Instead, focus on
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Speaker 1: teaching the older men and women how to actually train
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Speaker 1: up the younger generations. Specifically, the older women need to
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Speaker 1: train up the younger women. This kind of goes back
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Speaker 1: to something else that Paul said. I don't remember specifically
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Speaker 1: where this verse was. I should have looked it up,
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Speaker 1: but I think it's found in First Corinthians, where it
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Speaker 1: says that women need to be submissive while they're in
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Speaker 1: church and silent, and if they have any questions, they
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Speaker 1: need to learn from their husbands at home. Now, a
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Speaker 1: lot of women hate that verse because they're like, that
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Speaker 1: is the most sexist thing I ever heard in my
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Speaker 1: entire life. That women just have to shut up in
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Speaker 1: church and they can't say anything and they have to
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Speaker 1: learn from their husbands. That is just misogynist. But there's
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Speaker 1: something that people don't understand about that verse. Firstly, in
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Speaker 1: Greek culture back in these days, the Greeks actually believed
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Speaker 1: that women could not learn, that their minds were not
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Speaker 1: actually sharp enough or good enough to learn. The only
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Speaker 1: purpose of a woman was to be a trophy wife
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Speaker 1: and to pop out a bunch of babies and take
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Speaker 1: care of the house. That is honestly what Greek men believed.
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Speaker 1: You can look that up. When Paul wrote that letter
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Speaker 1: to a widely gentile and Greek audience and said women
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Speaker 1: need to learn at home, he was actually sticking up
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Speaker 1: for women in a way that other men would not
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Speaker 1: do by saying, no, actually, women are very intelligent and
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Speaker 1: they have the capacity to learn, and they should learn,
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Speaker 1: but they should do it in a way that is respectable,
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Speaker 1: not going to the missionary or the pastor where things
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Speaker 1: can get really shady. But instead they should go home
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Speaker 1: to their husbands and have a conversation, actually talk to
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Speaker 1: the husbands. And that's another thing Paul was putting the
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Speaker 1: responsibility on the men there. He's saying, men, you need
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Speaker 1: to talk to your wives. You have to have a
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Speaker 1: conversation with them and teach them, because of course they
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Speaker 1: have the capacity to learn, and they should learn. They
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Speaker 1: should learn about these things. The majority of women back
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Speaker 1: in these days could not read. They didn't have the
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Speaker 1: ability to read, so they had to learn from somebody.
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Speaker 1: So who are they going to learn from? Are they
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Speaker 1: going to go to Titus and learn something. No, they
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Speaker 1: shouldn't do that. They should instead go to their husbands,
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Speaker 1: or if they don't have a husband, go to an
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Speaker 1: older woman, because that removes any kind of temptation or
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Speaker 1: problems that could arise in the church from two opposite
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Speaker 1: genders meeting together on a regular basis. That's why Paul
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Speaker 1: says the older women must be teachers of that which
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Speaker 1: is good, that they may train verse four, the young
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Speaker 1: wives to love their husbands, to love them, their children,
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Speaker 1: to be sober minded, chaste workers at home kind being
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Speaker 1: in subjection to their own husbands that God's word may
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Speaker 1: not be blasphemed. So that show's right there. Even if
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Speaker 1: these younger women do have husbands, not all of these
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Speaker 1: husbands are going to do their husbandly duty by teaching
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Speaker 1: the wives what they need to be taught. Sometimes these
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Speaker 1: women are going to need extra instruction, and the best
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Speaker 1: place to get this is from older wiser women, and
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Speaker 1: these older wiser women are going to train these young women,
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Speaker 1: it says, to love their husbands. Oh man, you know,
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Speaker 1: I can remember when my husband and I were first married.
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Speaker 1: There were things that just graded on me that my
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Speaker 1: husband would do, and honestly, I was not and still
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Speaker 1: am not a very patient person. So my husband and
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Speaker 1: I would get into these huge fights, like really bad
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Speaker 1: fights sometimes because of our pride. We couldn't let our
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Speaker 1: pride go, and so we'd end up just like treating
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Speaker 1: each other like enemies. I am so thankful for my
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Speaker 1: mom because I would call my mom up sometimes in tears,
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Speaker 1: sometimes with vulgarity towards my husband, and she would tell
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Speaker 1: me she'd be like, Jen, is there anything true that
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Speaker 1: Garrett said to you? Even if he was saying something
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Speaker 1: harshly or mean. Is there anything true that he said
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Speaker 1: that you should be changing. I can just tell you
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Speaker 1: that those words were what I needed to hear in
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Speaker 1: that moment, because I was so angry at my husband.
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Speaker 1: Because I'm like, oh, he said this mean thing to me,
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Speaker 1: or he you know, accused me of this. My mom
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Speaker 1: would be like, well, Jen, is there any truth in
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Speaker 1: those things that he's saying to you? Do you actually
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Speaker 1: need to change so that you can have a healthier,
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Speaker 1: happier marriage. That's what I needed. My mom was this
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Speaker 1: older woman to me that was teaching me to love
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Speaker 1: my husband. And now I can honestly say, almost eleven
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Speaker 1: years into my marriage, my marriage has never been stronger.
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Speaker 1: If I had had a mom who told me things like, oh,
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Speaker 1: you know, your husband is terrible, you need to leave him,
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Speaker 1: I would never have experienced the joy of marriage that
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Speaker 1: I do now how wonderful marriage can be because guess what,
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Speaker 1: your husband is broken. Your husband is a jerk sometimes,
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Speaker 1: but so are you. There are things that you've done
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Speaker 1: to your husband to hurt him. There are things that
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Speaker 1: you've done that cause your husband a lot of pain.
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Speaker 1: Being married is about grace and love. Now I want
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Speaker 1: to tread this topic very lightly because I am not
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Speaker 1: saying that you need to stay in a sickeningly abusive relationship,
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Speaker 1: like physically abusive relationship emotionally abusive. I think women throw
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Speaker 1: that term around a lot as an excuse to get
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Speaker 1: out of a marriage. I'm just going to say that
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Speaker 1: is a hard truth for all of you, ladies. I
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Speaker 1: think that that term is widely overused and an excuse
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Speaker 1: to get out of marriage. But I'm not saying you
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Speaker 1: need to stay in a physically abusive relationship where this
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Speaker 1: man is beating you up, or beating up your kids,
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Speaker 1: or sexually abusing you or the kids, or cheating on
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Speaker 1: you with other people. I am not saying that you
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Speaker 1: need to stay in that relationship. But if your husband
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Speaker 1: is just the average jerk, you need to learn how
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Speaker 1: to love that man, because I promise you that you're
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Speaker 1: a jerk too. You need to learn how to love
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Speaker 1: your husband. You need to learn how to live out
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Speaker 1: the vow that you made to God, and you need
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Speaker 1: to learn how to pray for your husband. And that's
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Speaker 1: what these older women must be teaching these young women,
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Speaker 1: because I can tell you know, if marriage is done
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Speaker 1: the right way the way that scripture tells you marriage
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Speaker 1: should be done if it is done that way, because
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Speaker 1: I've lived both ways. Marriage was not fun back in
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Speaker 1: those days. We were at each other's throats. There was
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Speaker 1: so much pride in both of our hearts. We are
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Speaker 1: blaming each other for everything that went wrong. Life was
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Speaker 1: not fun back in those days. But when marriage became
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Speaker 1: more of a partnership, where we let go of our
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Speaker 1: pride and started honestly serving each other, that was when
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Speaker 1: my husband and I got closer together and marriage honestly
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Speaker 1: became fun. Back in December, my husband and I went
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Speaker 1: to Vegas for our ten year wedding anniversary, and it
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Speaker 1: was the most enjoyable trip I ever went on. You know,
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Speaker 1: my husband and I were just so in sync. We
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Speaker 1: had so much fun together. That is what a marriage
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Speaker 1: can be like. And these older women are supposed to
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Speaker 1: be helping these younger women achieve that kind of marriage
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Speaker 1: by telling them, Hey, maybe in this situation, you have
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Speaker 1: a lot of pride. You know, your husband didn't talk
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Speaker 1: to you the right way, or your husband did something
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Speaker 1: to hurt you, But maybe think about some of those
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Speaker 1: things he's been telling you, he's been complaining about is
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Speaker 1: there something you can change to make your marriage relationship better?
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Speaker 1: Can you thank your husband for something that he did?
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Speaker 1: Can you be more appreciative of what he does outside
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Speaker 1: of the house. You know, the marriage relationship is not
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Speaker 1: just on the man. There are things that the woman
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Speaker 1: also has to do in order to have a successful marriage,
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Speaker 1: and that's what these older women are doing. You know,
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Speaker 1: it might feel harsh in the moment, especially if these
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Speaker 1: young women feel hurt over what their husbands have done,
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Speaker 1: but the goal of it is to actually help these
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Speaker 1: young women in the long run achieve the right kind
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Speaker 1: of marriage relationship that they can honestly be happy in,
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Speaker 1: be excited and proud of their husbands and the relationships
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Speaker 1: that they have with them. But women also need to
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Speaker 1: train these young women to love their children as well,
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Speaker 1: not just their husbands. This is probably a perplexing verse
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Speaker 1: for a lot of women because of that maternal instinct
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Speaker 1: that most women have towards their kids. You might be
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Speaker 1: asking what mother doesn't love their kidskids. Well, to answer
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Speaker 1: that question, all you have to do is scroll through
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Speaker 1: the motherhood TikTok for about five seconds and you will
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Speaker 1: find a woman that does not love her kids because
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Speaker 1: she's complaining about her kids, or she's saying I wish
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Speaker 1: I never had kids, or she's exploiting them for her
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Speaker 1: own personal gain, or doing any other number of absolutely
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Speaker 1: terrible things to mistreat or abuse or not love her children.
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Speaker 1: There are many women who struggle to love their kids,
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Speaker 1: and the reason they struggle so much is because parenthood
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Speaker 1: is honestly very hard. Now I'm not around kids, but
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Speaker 1: I know it's hard because I see my friends that
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Speaker 1: do have babies, that do have children that need constant attention.
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Speaker 1: And that constant attention that you have to give those
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Speaker 1: kids is time away from yourself, time away from the
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Speaker 1: things you want to do, time away from your job
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Speaker 1: or your husband. You have to literally be thinking about
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Speaker 1: a little human like one hundred percent of the day.
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Speaker 1: You are giving everything of yourself to care for another
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Speaker 1: human being. And that is hard because you can't be selfish.
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Speaker 1: And a lot of women, I am sure, struggle with
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Speaker 1: this very very greatly understandably in a lot of senses.
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Speaker 1: But that is why the older women need to be
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Speaker 1: there to train these younger women up not just to
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Speaker 1: love their husbands, but to love their children as well.
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Speaker 1: Because if you love your children, you're not going to
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Speaker 1: give your kids every single thing that they want. You're
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Speaker 1: gonna want to raise them the way that the Bible teaches,
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Speaker 1: not spoiling them all the time, but you know, sometimes
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Speaker 1: being the bad guy. And I'm sure that's very difficult
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Speaker 1: for women as well who want to have a fantastic
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Speaker 1: relationship with their kids and struggle to say no. That's
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Speaker 1: another reason the older women are important here is because
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Speaker 1: they can encourage these young mothers that when the mothers
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Speaker 1: discipline their kids, they're doing the right thing because they're
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Speaker 1: helping to raise a child that is going to be
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Speaker 1: a good adult, not somebody that gets their way all
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Speaker 1: the time, because that's just not how life works. And also,
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Speaker 1: they're going to train these women to teach their children
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Speaker 1: how to love Jesus, because we know that teaching them
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Speaker 1: about Jesus is the most important thing as Christians we
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Speaker 1: can ever teach our kids. So that's the point of
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Speaker 1: these older women to teach the younger to love their
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Speaker 1: husbands and to love their children in many different ways.
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Speaker 1: But also in verse five, Paul continues, and I'll go
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Speaker 1: through these pretty quickly. The older women need to teach
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Speaker 1: the younger to be sober minded again, not drunkards. They
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Speaker 1: also need to be chaste. That would mean purity, not
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Speaker 1: dressing in a way that encourages lust or acting in
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Speaker 1: a way that encourages lust, but being pure, because that
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Speaker 1: is what God wants from these young women. As we know,
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Speaker 1: lust is a sin, and so if these young women
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Speaker 1: are encouraging lust in other men, that is a sin
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Speaker 1: for them to do. The young women also need to
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Speaker 1: be workers at home kind being in subjection to their
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Speaker 1: own husbands that God's word may not be blasphemed. I'm
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Speaker 1: going to focus specifically on workers at home because I
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Speaker 1: think that could be misconstrued in some aspects to say
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Speaker 1: that every single woman must be a homemaker and can't
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Speaker 1: have a job outside of the house. But as we know,
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Speaker 1: based upon Proverbs thirty one, that entire chapter talks about
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Speaker 1: a working woman who didn't just work at home, but
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Speaker 1: she also had businesses where she went out and sold
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Speaker 1: her things at the marketplaces, and even bought and sold
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Speaker 1: land and planted vineyards. The woman in Proverbs thirty one
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Speaker 1: was not just a homemaker, even though it talked a
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Speaker 1: lot about her working at home. But the point of
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Speaker 1: Proverbs thirty one is to show that that woman focused
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Speaker 1: first on her husband and her family. The jobs that
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Speaker 1: she had were not for her own gain or for
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Speaker 1: her own pride. They were to supplement and help her
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Speaker 1: family at home, which is why it says that with
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Speaker 1: all of these things that she does, she clothes her
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Speaker 1: household in scarlet, which was a beautiful, expensive dye that
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Speaker 1: not many people had. And primarily in Proverbs thirty one,
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Speaker 1: this woman was talked to most about her love for
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Speaker 1: her family and how she made sure that her family
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Speaker 1: was well clothed, well fed, and taken care of before
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Speaker 1: she went out into the world to you know, have
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Speaker 1: all of these different careers and things. So we know
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Speaker 1: that women can absolutely have a job outside of the home,
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Speaker 1: and many women do, but it should not be a
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Speaker 1: job that takes away from the family. There are so
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Speaker 1: many women that I've seen that are like, I wanted
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Speaker 1: to go get a job for me. You know, I
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Speaker 1: was so sick of taking care of my family for
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Speaker 1: my entire life that I decided it was time to
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Speaker 1: do me. And she regrets all that, and her family
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Speaker 1: is secondary. So she's going to go out and now
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Speaker 1: do this career that she always wanted to do. That
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Speaker 1: is not how a young Christian woman should be viewing
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Speaker 1: her family. By all means, women can have jobs, and
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Speaker 1: they can find fulfillment in those jobs and love what
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Speaker 1: they do. There's nothing wrong with that, but those jobs
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Speaker 1: should not come before their families. Now, I don't know
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Speaker 1: if this rule applies to single women without children, you know,
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Speaker 1: because in today's day and age, you have to protect yourself,
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Speaker 1: you have to take care of yourself, and you can
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Speaker 1: absolutely be working just to support yourself. But if you
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Speaker 1: have a family, they should come first in your mind.
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Speaker 1: That is the order of how God set things up
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Speaker 1: in the woman's life. All right, Faith for listeners, Before
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Speaker 1: I end the episode, I'm going to give you a
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Speaker 1: for you in the description of the episode if you
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Speaker 1: want more about this topic. There is an episode about
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Speaker 1: women's roles when it comes to the church. And I'm
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Speaker 1: also going to link Proverbs chapter thirty one for you guys,
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Speaker 1: so that you all can read it. To those two
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Speaker 1: resources I think will be really good for you. All Right,
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Speaker 1: Faith listeners, I hope you enjoyed the episode. Have a
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