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Nobody Has It Figured Out · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello gorgeous, it's Lala Kent. Welcome to Untraditionally Lala. Hello gorgeous,
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  Speaker 1: welcome to the bonus episode of Untraditionally Lala. Hello mother.
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  Speaker 2: Hello darling.
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  Speaker 1: Hello TT, hello puppet.
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  Speaker 2: Hello, hello puppet.
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  Speaker 1: So because I was in straight struggle zone and have
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  Speaker 1: been for like the longest, I'm just waiting for me
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  Speaker 1: to feel like I don't need to be in hibernation.
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  Speaker 1: Which I feel like happens as you're approaching the end
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  Speaker 1: of the year, right?
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  Speaker 3: Yes. Like— Holidays are approaching.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Like, we come off and into a brand new year,
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  Speaker 1: and you're like the little engine that could. You're like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm coming off break. But then you get your power,
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  Speaker 1: and you're like, oh, fuck yeah. We're, like, plugging right along.
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  Speaker 1: And then when October hits, it's like— It's not even October.
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  Speaker 3: It's September. Kids back in school.
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  Speaker 1: I'm— 6.30.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: That's killing me, waking up at 6.30. Yeah. But for me,
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  Speaker 1: it's not so much the school aspect. Like I'm pretty
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  Speaker 1: good through September. It's when October hits that I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: we're done here.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Let's call it a day. So I wanted to know
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  Speaker 1: from my friends, aka my listeners, what is the biggest
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  Speaker 1: struggle for you right now? What is your biggest struggle, mom?
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  Speaker 3: I think my health. Your health?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. How are you feeling, by the way? Why don't
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  Speaker 1: you update people?
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  Speaker 3: When I don't take my medication, I still get tremors.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And I get headaches. So I got a bunch of pills, vitamins.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: That I'm going to take and see if that helps.
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  Speaker 1: Did you look it up to see what helps a headache?
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  Speaker 1: Because you're getting a lot of water.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Tons of water. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You've never had this much water in your whole life.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm trying to amp up on dopamine.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: With your almonds and your aspartame.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Do you feel like you've been doing pretty well with
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  Speaker 1: your workouts?
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  Speaker 3: I start on tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: PT? Yeah. That's great. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: My legs are tired. Like, I just want to.
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  Speaker 1: Feel good. Yeah. Can I tell you something, though? My
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  Speaker 1: legs are always tired. It always feels like I have
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  Speaker 1: run a marathon. Really? Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Even during my warm-up for working out, like, it's... The
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  Speaker 1: easiest thing and my thighs are on fire. Like I
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  Speaker 1: just ran really far.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. Good to know. Now I won't feel so bad.
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  Speaker 1: I think you should also implement either every week or
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  Speaker 1: every other week a massage. You should be texting Vicky
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  Speaker 1: and have a standing day where you do that.
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  Speaker 3: I think so too.
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  Speaker 1: That has to happen.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: You should text her today.
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  Speaker 3: Because I'm very stiff.
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: And you know what? You could even do it. You
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  Speaker 1: could do it right before bed when like kids are down,
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  Speaker 1: you could ask her, just say, you know, every other
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  Speaker 1: Tuesday or whatever it may be. Can you come to
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  Speaker 1: the house at this time? You just have a standing time.
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  Speaker 3: I think that's a great idea.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think that's what you should do. Yes. Um,
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  Speaker 1: so yours is health TT. Is there something that has
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  Speaker 1: been a struggle for you?
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  Speaker 2: Um, I won't say it's a struggle, but it's been,
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  Speaker 2: I've been working on it and that's my patients.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: That just life goes at its pace. And sometimes it's
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  Speaker 2: just up to me to kind of fit in life
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  Speaker 2: and that I can't control time. I can't control other
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  Speaker 2: people's time to just sit back and relax. If that
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  Speaker 2: makes sense. Cause it gives me anxiety, like time. So
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  Speaker 2: I have ETA on the side. Oh, if anybody knew,
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  Speaker 2: but yeah, estimated time of arrival because I'm so on time.
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  Speaker 2: Like It's just a huge thing for me. Like, I
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  Speaker 2: feel like if I wake up, I should be doing
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  Speaker 2: something different. And it's like, no, you can wake up
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  Speaker 2: and just get into the morning. So that's what I'm
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  Speaker 2: working on. And I feel like I almost.
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  Speaker 1: Feel badly calling you in the morning because for the
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  Speaker 1: most part, it's like, yes, there are times where I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I really fucking need you this morning. But for the
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  Speaker 1: most part, it's just that I've woken up and like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm ready to be with my crew.
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  Speaker 2: No, sometimes I will say me and mom have talked
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  Speaker 2: about this. I'll wake up in my room and sit, chill.
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  Speaker 2: I'll go down in my house and like, just hang out,
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  Speaker 2: watch TV. Cause there are times where I would just
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  Speaker 2: go over to your house. And I sometimes think like,
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  Speaker 2: maybe you i want you to have like you and
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  Speaker 2: your kids time does that that's how i feel yeah
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  Speaker 2: so like mom even said like she'll stay in my
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  Speaker 2: room a little bit longer because we just want to
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  Speaker 2: give you your time with your kids in your space
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  Speaker 2: so when you call to like come over i'm like
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  Speaker 2: okay yeah i like the call.
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  Speaker 1: Because i'm like i just don't want to add to
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  Speaker 1: the pressure it's like i just i'm calling because i
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  Speaker 1: want you to.
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  Speaker 2: Come over like from my family at all this is
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  Speaker 2: like even just me like When today I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: go and do a whole bunch of things like right now,
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  Speaker 2: it's my time. And I'm like, well, what if I'm
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  Speaker 2: missing out on something with you guys? You know, like
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  Speaker 2: I just have to relax. Time is what it is.
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  Speaker 2: I'll fit in life when I can.
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  Speaker 1: I'm working on that too. Yeah. Or like I'm thinking
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  Speaker 1: a million miles ahead and it's like, when have you
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  Speaker 1: ever not gotten something done?
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  Speaker 2: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Like when the time comes. You'll get it done.
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  Speaker 2: I'll get it done.
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  Speaker 1: I don't need to know what I need to get
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  Speaker 1: done on a Sunday because there's nothing to be done.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. So like that's mine because just like patience, just time, patience,
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  Speaker 2: and breathing through them.
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  Speaker 3: You get to my age and it's like, I got
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  Speaker 3: all the time in the world. If I don't get
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  Speaker 3: it done right now, I can get it done in
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  Speaker 3: an hour.
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  Speaker 1: That's nice. You've always been that way though.
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  Speaker 2: When you get to this age, well, Lisa, you're like
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  Speaker 2: a golden girl.
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  Speaker 1: You've been living in the golden age for your whole life.
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  Speaker 1: I have.
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  Speaker 2: It's okay to say yes.
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  Speaker 1: This person said trying to balance motherhood of a toddler
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  Speaker 1: and deciding on baby number two. That's their biggest struggle
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  Speaker 1: right now.
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  Speaker 2: How could you help out with this one?
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  Speaker 1: Gosh, I don't even know because here's the thing. I've
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  Speaker 1: always been told there's no right time to have a baby, right? Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And like I had.
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  Speaker 3: I think the longer you go, the harder it gets.
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  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, because then you've got a kid who's self-sufficient
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  Speaker 1: and you're basically starting over.
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  Speaker 2: Over.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, I look at Sosa right now and
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, you're two. If I really did want another baby...
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  Speaker 1: But if you wait.
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  Speaker 2: Until they're seven, it's kind of like you got a
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  Speaker 2: built-in babysitter.
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  Speaker 1: Babysitter, that's also true. But they still have places to
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  Speaker 1: go and be and like.
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  Speaker 3: And Seven's a little young for a built-in movie.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm saying, like, not leave them at home.
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  Speaker 1: No, but think about how helpful Ocean is.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like Ocean and Sosa just go and... Like, I'm
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  Speaker 2: not leaving.
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  Speaker 1: Sosa together while I, like, catch a movie.
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  Speaker 3: You're not?
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: But it's like, Ocean, can you get.
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  Speaker 2: They play in her room. They play... Like, they just play.
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  Speaker 2: You can do your own thing. So it's kind of
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  Speaker 2: nice having them at a close age.
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  Speaker 3: But at the same time, there's a little, like, strife
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  Speaker 3: going on. I don't know the word I want to say,
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  Speaker 3: but because Sosa... will color on Ocean's projects when she
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  Speaker 3: leaves it out.
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  Speaker 1: But we had a talk about that yesterday and I
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  Speaker 1: was like, Ocean, you have to understand your sister wants
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  Speaker 1: to color too. And she doesn't know that this is
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  Speaker 1: your art project that you've worked really hard on or
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  Speaker 1: if it's just a piece of paper. So if it's
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  Speaker 1: that important to you while she's still young, you have
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  Speaker 1: to put it somewhere safe. And you also, if she's
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  Speaker 1: coloring something on something, you can't just like claim every
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  Speaker 1: sheet of paper or... you know, page of the coloring book. Like,
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  Speaker 1: she has to be able to play, too. And she
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  Speaker 1: did understand. I'm like, if it's important, you need to
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  Speaker 1: put it away.
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  Speaker 3: Good, good.
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  Speaker 2: I always think you should have two kids because I
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  Speaker 2: know people that have one child.
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  Speaker 1: It's a lot.
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  Speaker 2: And the children....
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  Speaker 1: Demand a lot.
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  Speaker 2: Well, not only that, but then they grow up and
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  Speaker 2: they're like, I wish I had a sibling. You learn
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  Speaker 2: how to share. I definitely think.
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  Speaker 3: You should have at least two kids.
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  Speaker 2: Like Ocean right now is learning how to share, not
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  Speaker 2: through other people at school and being, because then you
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  Speaker 2: come home and then everything's yours again. So it's like,
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  Speaker 2: it's very hard to figure out. And I'm sorry. I know,
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  Speaker 2: you know, just a one child in the family and
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  Speaker 2: they are rough. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: No, I love having two kids. But I do understand
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  Speaker 1: the balancing motherhood because then if you're deciding on baby
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  Speaker 1: number two, you don't know how the pregnancy is going
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  Speaker 1: to go. You've got to chase them around. You could
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  Speaker 1: have morning sickness. You could be sick your entire pregnancy
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  Speaker 1: like Brittany was.
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  Speaker 2: But guess what? That's not her reality.
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  Speaker 1: I love when you say that.
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  Speaker 2: Her reality is going to be perfect.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. My kids are three and a half years apart
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  Speaker 1: and it is perfect.
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  Speaker 3: And see, you guys were two years and five months
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  Speaker 3: and I thought that was perfect.
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  Speaker 1: This is great. I love this.
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  Speaker 2: No, the one thing that I will say that I'll
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  Speaker 2: try to do, I think it's ninth grade though, like
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  Speaker 2: high school, but I loved, ours was 10th, 11th and
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  Speaker 2: 12th for high school into the new school. And I
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  Speaker 2: liked being in 10th grade and you being a senior.
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  Speaker 2: So we at least went to school together, at least like.
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  Speaker 1: Went to school together through elementary school, junior high and
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  Speaker 1: high school. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But you had two years where you were at a
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  Speaker 2: different school, but then I got to come in and
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  Speaker 2: we had one year together at Churchill and then one
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  Speaker 2: year at Skyline.
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  Speaker 1: Yep. Work from home. Mom trying to keep an 18
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  Speaker 1: month old occupied while I try to work is exhausting.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, you are seen, sweetheart. Holy shit.
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  Speaker 1: I'm telling you. I think being a stay at home
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  Speaker 1: mom period is the hardest job on the planet. It is.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Especially when you have to get other things done.
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  Speaker 1: And now you're not only, you're a stay at home
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  Speaker 1: mom who works from home. You're like a superhero. That
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  Speaker 1: is so hard. Like when I'm podcasting from home and
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  Speaker 1: I've got kids coming in and out and wanting to
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  Speaker 1: talk to me about whatever grievances they.
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  Speaker 2: Want to air.
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, can we discuss this when I finish? I know, mom,
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  Speaker 1: but you never do this with me. I'm like, all right,
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  Speaker 1: I got it. And 18 months, that's when they're on
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  Speaker 1: the move.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that is a struggle. This person said morning sickness.
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  Speaker 1: That is rough. I hope it's like you don't have
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  Speaker 1: another child to take care of. of because morning sickness
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  Speaker 1: is brutal. It's like being car sick.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I remember when I was sick with you.
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  Speaker 2: Is that help?
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  Speaker 1: Can I tell you what they use for it? That
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  Speaker 1: is Unisom.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Okay. And that makes you go to sleep. Well, so
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  Speaker 1: does Dramamine. Perfect. But it, like, makes you go to sleep.
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  Speaker 2: I'd rather do that than feel like shit.
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  Speaker 3: Can I tell you, I had morning sickness I'll never forget.
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  Speaker 3: I was driving to Bountiful.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Which was 25 miles from my house. Oh, my gosh.
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  Speaker 3: And I barfed in my lap. I was pregnant with you.
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  Speaker 1: And then what did you do?
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  Speaker 3: I had to pull over and go home.
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  Speaker 2: Oh. Yummy.
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  Speaker 1: You had to drive yourself home covered in vomit? Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: That was awful.
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  Speaker 2: You know what? I'd rather be driving home in vomit
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  Speaker 2: knowing I'm going to change than going somewhere feeling sick.
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  Speaker 3: What do you mean?
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  Speaker 2: Like if she didn't vomit where.
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  Speaker 1: She was going.
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  Speaker 3: Did you feel better?
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  Speaker 2: Hell yeah. There's nothing like a good vomit.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I had morning sickness with both of my kids,
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  Speaker 1: but never actually tossed my cookies. It was always just
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  Speaker 1: feeling very nauseous.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I would have stuck my fingers down my throat
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  Speaker 2: and made something come out.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. I'm scared for my future. I am a
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  Speaker 1: senior in college and don't know what I want to
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  Speaker 1: do in life. My love.
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  Speaker 2: I'm 33 and in your boat.
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  Speaker 1: The amount of pressure we put on these kids when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to high school and knowing where you want
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  Speaker 1: to go to college and what you want to major
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  Speaker 1: in and what is your future like, it's like, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know.
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  Speaker 3: Is that a senior in high school or college?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, and then I'm saying by the time you graduate,
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  Speaker 1: you're what, 22, 23, and you're expected to know what
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  Speaker 1: field you want to go into?
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  Speaker 3: Your frontal lobe hasn't even fully developed.
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  Speaker 1: Exactly. The amount of pressure this person is under. Like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm sure they are listening, but like, take some air
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  Speaker 1: out of the tires. You don't have to know. Do
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  Speaker 1: you know the amount of People who I know who
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  Speaker 1: went to college, got degrees, they don't use their degree
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  Speaker 1: in any capacity. Just take a step back, and it's
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  Speaker 1: not that serious.
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  Speaker 3: Can I tell you? I picked my job as in
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  Speaker 3: a dental office because I only worked four days a week.
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  Speaker 2: That's the only reason.
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  Speaker 1: I love that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, when I first started out, it was four. Then
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  Speaker 3: I went to three. That's why.
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  Speaker 1: I love that. Most people don't think... this person is
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  Speaker 1: a senior in college and feeling the exact same way
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  Speaker 1: that I'm feeling at the age of 36.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Where I'm like, I'm scared for my future. I don't
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  Speaker 1: know what I want out of life. And there's like,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if it's like the generations that came
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  Speaker 1: after you where we think this way, but I do
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  Speaker 1: want with my kids to let them know like you
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  Speaker 1: have time just because you're graduating from high school, I
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  Speaker 1: don't need you to know what you want to do.
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  Speaker 1: Just be, if you choose to go to college, just
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  Speaker 1: because you're graduating from college, you don't need to know
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  Speaker 1: what you want to do because guess what? You figure
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  Speaker 1: it out. Then life throws you a curve ball and
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  Speaker 1: it's completely different. You have zero control. I just want
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  Speaker 1: you to like relax. Obviously don't think that things are
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  Speaker 1: just going to be handed to you, but like live
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  Speaker 1: in the moment.
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  Speaker 3: Because I like that live in the moment.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Because there's going to, you're going to be fine.
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  Speaker 2: Yep.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to be fine. You're going to figure it out.
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  Speaker 1: You're going to find your partner. You're going to have kids.
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  Speaker 1: And life just happens.
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  Speaker 3: It sure does.
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  Speaker 1: Right?
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  Speaker 3: With no predictions.
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  Speaker 1: Biggest struggle right now, my mother-in-law.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have one, thank God.
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  Speaker 3: That's tough.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, the movies like Monster-in-Law exist for a reason.
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  Speaker 1: They are difficult. Very. We're wishing you luck. By the way, though,
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  Speaker 1: that's going to be on my list. I was talking
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  Speaker 1: to Amber on last week's episode of Unlikely. And we're
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  Speaker 1: putting together a list of like our non-negotiables, what we want,
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  Speaker 1: and then like our dream man and a part of
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  Speaker 1: that list. Is going to be the family units must connect.
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  Speaker 1: Because I need to be able to say, like, where
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  Speaker 1: are we spending Christmas together? What are we doing for Thanksgiving? Like,
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  Speaker 1: I just want a house full of people and families.
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  Speaker 3: I like that, too.
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  Speaker 1: Yes. Like, that would be my dream. Mine, too. Not
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  Speaker 1: getting married, but like a commitment ceremony with like a
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  Speaker 1: tiny little tot, maybe a boy running around where it's
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  Speaker 1: like you and his mom are like thick as thieves.
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  Speaker 1: You guys can call each other.
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  Speaker 3: I love that.
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: Isn't that so fun?
• 14:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: I want that.
• 14:54
  Speaker 3: I want that.
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: Biggest struggle right now, money. Oh.
• 14:59
  Speaker 2: That's life.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: Can I tell you though, there's no stress like a
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: money stress. There's nothing you can do about it.
• 15:06
  Speaker 2: No, especially when gas keeps going up, everything keeps going
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: up and you're pay is the same you know.
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah it's fucked up yeah and i wish that there
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: was something i could money too by the way i
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: need to go through my subscriptions and cancel a bunch
• 15:22
  Speaker 1: because the bundling i have like four different disney accounts
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: i just signed up for that on your phone youtube.
• 15:29
  Speaker 3: The subs what Subscriptions. Is it on your phone?
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: I got to ask.
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: I know. But now I've got YouTube that has HBO
• 15:37
  Speaker 1: because I wanted the Sunday ticket so I can watch
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: the Ravens games and not through just the red zone.
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: I don't know if you can do it through chat
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: GPT or, but Google Gemini, I saw a commercial and
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: in the commercial they were like, they asked Gemini to
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: go through and see all their subscriptions. And what Google
• 15:53
  Speaker 2: did was go into their, um, email.
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: Hmm.
• 15:57
  Speaker 2: And filtered the email and went like confirmation codes. And
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: it said how many they were paying for. And then
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: he could go through and like, it's ridiculous. So chat
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: GPT might be a good way or Google.
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: Let's do that because I don't even want to know
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: how much I'm spending each month on these fucking subscriptions.
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: I'm over $ 500 in just TV.
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: That is ridiculous.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: Well, I have to be because I pay for the
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: live TV at home and it's that in itself is
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: over 200 and something dollars with all of the things
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: that I get so we can watch movies.
• 16:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: And then I have all of the subscriptions at the
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: LA house and then I pay for it.
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: And then I pay $ 7. 99 for mine.
• 16:31
  Speaker 2: Oh, geez.
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: What I would give for a $ 7. 99. You're paying for Netflix.
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: We're living in the same house. We should cancel them.
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: I'm paying for Netflix in that house and in Palm Springs.
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: A whole new thing. NFL Network shit.
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: $ 7.
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: 99 for my room.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: We need help. Yeah, we do. Wait, isn't it Rocket something?
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: Rocket money.
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: Hey, rocket money, come to help us.
• 16:54
  Speaker 1: Help me. Help me get rid of my subscriptions and
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: also pay me to do an ad. Oh, I love
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: this one because I relate. Keeping the dang house clean.
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: I cannot. I went to bed, the sink, all dishes done.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: I come down this morning. I'm like, what are all
• 17:24
  Speaker 1: these fucking dishes?
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: I loaded the dishwasher.
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: It was Lauren, probably from her cheeseburger.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: No, it's it's Sosa's little bin with all the like stuff.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: I'm like, where is this coming from? I've got dishes
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: coming out of my ears. Every time I come into
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: the room, I've cleaned up in arts and crafts, which
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: you too, you said you cleaned Ocean's room four times yesterday.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: No, we need to start making.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: I told her I said because it was in her
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: room and then the bomb went off down the hallway
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: into the family room. I said, here's the deal. And
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: I'm not playing with you. I am setting a timer.
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: If in 20 minutes your room is not clean and
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: this area, it will all be thrown away.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: And I'm not joking.
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: Or given away.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: Whatever.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: It won't belong to you anymore. So she was busy
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: as a little bee getting all.
• 18:09
  Speaker 3: Her stuff cleaned up.
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: Well, I was talking to Easton.
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: I said, oh, Easton, this will be easier. I said,
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: we'll just toss it.
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: Throw it in garbage bags and give it away. And
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: she started going. But there is going to be a
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: time where I think you guys need to throw things
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: in a garbage bag, act like it went somewhere, bring
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: it to my house, put it in the garage or something.
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: And when she starts to clean up, she gets those
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: things back.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: Because I don't clean, but I only watch you guys
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: and you're always cleaning.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: I'm exhausted.
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: And last night I started the dishwasher and put the
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: dishes away. So I don't know what.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: I had some plates that came down last night, but
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: it wasn't that. It was like the stuff I hand
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: wash for Sosa where it was more shit in the sink.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: It's fine. It's not a big deal. I just relate
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: to this person.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: You want it clean.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: I relate to so many of these, you guys. Being
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: stuck between wanting to find my happily ever after or
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: just say fuck it and live my life. Like, same.
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: Did you write that?
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: I feel like I wrote most of these.
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: I feel for this person. These fucking period cramps. I
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: get it. I've got two good weeks a fucking month
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: because my PMS makes me want to drive off of
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: a cliff. Then the period hits and I'm sobbing and
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: need like a fucking diaper. I'm like, enough already. And
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: then it's over and I'm like, I'm so happy. I
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: feel great. I'm like.
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: But doesn't it make you feel good that other people
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: are going through the same things? You're not alone.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: That's why we do this for the bonus though. So
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: that we can all just like relate.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: Feel like we're not alone. Yes.
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: Misery loves company. I'm telling you what.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: And I'm fucking miserable.
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: Damn it.
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: My weight. I've been struggling for a while now and
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: I feel defeated.
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: I can feel that because.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: You cannot relate to that in any capacity.
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: And it really is like, I can only imagine what
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: it is like to lose weight. I try to put
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: on weight. I can't put on weight. I'm eating. I
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: do things. I feel I ate so much one day
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: that I literally went over to my house and threw
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: up in the toilet. And I was like, I can't
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: eat that much. I can't put on weight. I looked
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: at my family, things like that. And I'm sorry. There is,
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: I want to put on weight as bad as they
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: want to lose weight. I want to put it on.
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: It's a two way street. So I feel it.
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: Yes, there are my, there are options. A GLP-1, but
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: also I think, was it Weight Watchers that I think
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: has such a perfect formula to this, the point system?
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: Don't you think?
• 20:29
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: You don't deprive yourself of anything. It tells you if
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: you want that piece of cake, you have this many
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: points to use. That's going to take up 20 of them.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: You've only got 40 more left. Do you want the
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: whole piece of cake or maybe we just have a
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: bite of it? I find that to be a very
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: healthy way of doing things, the point system.
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: And there's Jenny Craig where they prepackage meals.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: For you too. Prepackage meals. The thing is, and I
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: don't know if this will help because I personally have
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: never struggled with weight loss. Like I genetically just haven't.
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: I have had times where I'm like, I feel very
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: thin and I don't feel womanly and my clothes are
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: baggy and I can just, I feel like people are
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: looking at me like feed this woman.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: Like as a guy, like I think people are looking
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: at me from the back, looking at my like little
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: elbows and stuff, you know, and they look and I just,
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: I'm self-conscious too. We all are self-conscious in our own way.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: That's the beauty of this is we're all self-conscious. Yeah.
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. But I want to validate this person.
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: I've been struggling for a while now and I feel defeated.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: Like I think everyone goes through those moments of feeling defeated.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Maybe have like a little like ceremony for yourself where
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: it's like you can thank every part of your body
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: because if you really think about it, you've always said, mom,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: your health without it, you have nothing. Nope. So, like,
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: thank your body for what it does for you. And then, like,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: have a cutting of the cord where it's like, we're
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: now going to make changes. And my mind and body
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: are going to work together to make that happen. And
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: I'm going to fucking do it.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: The mind is a powerful thing. Yep. Balancing trying to
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: enjoy holidays again, but still not used to my mom
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: not being here. That's brutal. Brutal. Mm-hmm.
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: You guys relate with dad not being here.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Only time is going to be able to heal that.
• 22:24
  Speaker 1: But even now, like, even football, when we watch, I, like,
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: still go back to, like.
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: No, yeah, dad downstairs.
• 22:29
  Speaker 3: Growing up, yeah.
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: It's like, it's what it was.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: Teaching my daughter to drive as a single mom, that
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: sounds terrifying. Oh, shit. Do you imagine? No.
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: Thank God I don't have to.
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: I'm wildly unhappy with my son's father.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: Baby daddy.
• 22:56
  Speaker 3: Another relatable moment.
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah. It's not called baby mama drama. It's called baby
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: daddy drama because you guys cause the shit. We just react. Yep.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: All right. You may be the little waves, but we're
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: the fucking storm that comes. So don't fuck around and
• 23:12
  Speaker 1: find out, buddy. Fuck around and find out. Fake and
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: selfish people just feeling so unappreciated by the people around me.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Get to burning the bridges or have a productive conversation
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: because I have many people, not many, I've had people
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: in my life where I really enjoy them. They fill
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: my cup, but sometimes I feel like it's a one-way
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: street and I have voiced this to them. And then
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: it's like, I'm so happy you said something. Like, I
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: want to show up for you. That's not my intention
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: and I'm so sorry.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: You know? She should have a conversation.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: You should have the conversation. My estranged mother died on Friday.
• 23:49
  Speaker 1: I will never get the closure I need.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: I think you got to write it out on paper
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: and give it to the wind or put it in
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: the ocean. Something to get it off of your chest
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: and put it out there where you believe she will
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: see it.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: You know what? I love that you just said that.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: Because for dad, I would do it in the beach
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: or into the ocean if I felt that need, you know?
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: You can't put it in the ocean. It's littering.
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: Well, life is just, you know, put it on a...
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: I would do it on a biodegradable golf ball. Right
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: on the golf ball. Throw a biodegradable.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: Boom!
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: Are there biodegradable golf balls?
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: I don't think so. What I would do if I
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: were her is like.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: Because so many people hit them into like lakes and
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: things like that who on the... So instead, they just
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: Dissolve into the water.
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: It's not like hitting a nice golf ball. I'm pretty
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: sure that is 100% false. I think there are many
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: a golf ball in the ponds and lakes.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: This is not on the golf course, yes.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: No. Google it. You know what, though? I like where
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: your head's at. I think she should write it down.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: She should also have like the little ceremony. Wow, first
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: thing that.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: Pops up, biodegradable golf balls, 4.5.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Okay, so you have to get a biodegradable golf ball. Yes,
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: but like... I'm sure she has a lot more to
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: write than what's just going to.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: Fit on a golf ball, Easton. They probably come in
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: more than just one golf ball. You might have to
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: use 20 of them, but.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: No, just write it on a piece of paper, have
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: a ceremony, and light it on fire.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: Oh, like they do with those things that they push up.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm, exactly. Having so many.
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: There's that Rise Festival she could go to.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: You should go to the Rise Festival, babe.
• 25:26
  Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking of. Yes.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: In the desert in just outside of Las Vegas. That
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: is a great idea. That's what she should do.
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: Isn't it coming up?
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: No, it just passed.
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: Having so many bills with a job who isn't giving
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: me a better pay raise when I put work in.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: Fuck the man, dude.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: Fuck the man.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: My baby's four-month sleep regression. There's nothing that will depress
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: you more than lack of sleep. How expensive it is
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: to be alive. I know. They're trying to charge us
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: to breathe. It really does. When I think about it,
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I have to pay to do every single
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: thing on the planet. And like you said, you want
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: to have a night in? Well, then your lights are on.
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: You're using water, power, gas. Got to eat.
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: Got to eat.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: Like no matter what, you got to pay money. You
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: want to watch something? We're going to need you to.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: Pay for it. And the house payments are growing.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: Every time I leave the house, I somehow end up
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: spending at least $ 50 for no reason.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: Oh, a minimum. Are you kidding?
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: It's usually around a hundred and it's not even things
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: I need. It's like, okay, well I got to stop
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: and get gas. Oh, dog food.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: Oh, this.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: By the time I spent the money, I'm like, wow,
• 26:37
  Speaker 2: shouldn't have left the house.
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: For real though. Today's a fasting day. Resetting the body
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: and mind. Entering cold and flu season as someone who
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: has severe phobia of being sick.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: It's not your reality.
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: Not your reality. What I highly recommend is colloidal silver spray.
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: And wellness pills.
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: And health and wellness pills. I also take zinc and
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: vitamin A, which I love the combination of that.
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: And vitamin C.
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: Vitamin C is a great one. I usually only put
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: that on my skin, but I should be consuming it
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: as well. That's what I'm into. Oh, and elderberry. Yeah.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: I'm a holistic kind of bitch. My three-year-old girl tantrums.
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: Nothing funnier than a kid tantruming. Taking everything not to
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: throw a tantrum back at her. Have you seen that
• 27:28
  Speaker 1: video of like the millennial moms checking their kids to
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: show how much pettier they can be?
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: Yes, because of you.
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like you. I don't like you more.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: I'm going to stay cool then. I'm going to stay cooler. Okay, bro.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: All right, sis. So good.
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: No, that's the one thing that I have to catch
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: myself on when I am arguing with your daughter. Like,
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: I'm the adult. I am the adult. I cannot fucking
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: do that. Sometimes I do it, though.
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: Oh, sometimes I get real Vanderpump Rules lala on her ass.
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: That's for sure. I'm like... She can take it, though.
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: You better recognize.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: She was built for it.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: She was built for it.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: She handles it and sometimes... After I give it to
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: her and I'm like, I won. She'll say one thing
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh, wow.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: To put you right in your grave.
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: Yes, and then I kind of just go over to
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: my own house.
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: Oh, I told you. Even her teachers are like, she's
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: got some grit to her. She does.
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: She's an old soul for sure.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: One more thing that I want to say about Ocean
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: before we sign off. So they have uniforms and you
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: have to stick to the colors, right? And she wore
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: leopard shoes. And she said to the teacher... that her
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: leopard shoes are a neutral, which I've told her leopard
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: shoes are a neutral. So she relayed that to her
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: teacher and her teacher obviously had a rebuttal. And Ocean
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: politely asked her, you know, if there is a problem
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: with my shoes, can you please talk to my mom
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: about it? So I go to parent teacher conference. The
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: teachers are so sweet and cool and I love them.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: But before I get there, I had taken her to
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: school and she said to me, are you going to
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: talk to my teachers today about my shoes? And I
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, of course. She said, you know, I'd
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: really like you to ask them, mom, why I can't
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: wear leopard shoes, but girls can come to school with
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: pink and blue hair. Because those are not a part
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: of our uniform colors.
• 29:16
  Speaker 3: I love that.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: And I didn't have an answer. So I walk in.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: The teacher's like, we got to talk about the shoes.
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: Ocean asked me yesterday, are you going to talk to
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: my mom about the shoes? And I asked her straight up, like,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: how do I have that conversation with her? And? They
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: were like, it's a great point. I don't really know
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: what to say. I was like, I'll get her uniform
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: appropriate colored shoes, but like- I'm just letting you know,
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: this is the way my daughter thinks.
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: Which is smart.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah. She's like, and we pull up and the woman
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: who's doing the carpool situation drop off has bright pink hair.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: She'll see that woman's an adult mom and she has
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: pink hair.
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: Makes sense.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: I'm like, makes sense. Anyway. Anyway. Best of luck to
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: all of you as we finish out the year that
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: is never ending yet flew by so quickly. I love
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: you guys. We're on the struggle bus together. We will
• 30:09
  Speaker 1: catch you next week. Love you. Bye. Bye. Bye.