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UNLEASH YOUR INNER REBEL FOR 2024 · All In with Allie

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Hi. In this episode, I am putting my own spin on the rebel
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archetype, and I'm going to share with you six actionable steps on how you
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can craft your own inner rebbel and channel her fiercely into twenty twenty four and
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beyond. Let's go. Welcome to Aline with Ali Podcasts, the podcast for
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online business owners and entrepreneurs who are ready to create the life and business of
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their dreams. I am so happy you are here, Hi. I'm not
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trying to brag, Okay, I'm I'm not trying to be that person who
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kicks off a podcast full on bragging about what she's wearing right now. But
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I am wearing a shirt with a Teddy Bear on it that says God,
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grant me the serenity to accept the vibes that aren't root and tutin. So
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here we are, and don't ask me where I got this, because I
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totally got served an ad. I was actually looking for crop tops for a
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concert I went to this year and got served These ads was super super cute
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crops with all these different designs on him, and I ordered a handful of
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them and came one hundred months later from China. Shout out China, and
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they were cute, but like, I don't know, it looked like the
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designs were ironed on, which isn't what I wanted. I was hoping for
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something a little more higher quality. But I literally couldn't remember the company that
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I ordered from because it was so far past since I had ordered it,
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so I had to keep them and now I wear them and actually I've watched
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it a couple of times and it's not half bad. So anyway, Hi,
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this episode, I think we're going to air it. I can't.
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I don't know if we're going to air it on Christmas because it's due to
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come out on Mynay, which is Christmas, or if we're going to do
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the day after. I don't know. I don't know what the best course
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of action is and what we have decided in the future. But regardless,
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if you celebrate Christmas, I hope you are having or had a wonderful Christmas.
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Otherwise, I hope you're having a fabulous holiday season and you're happy and
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you're well, and more than anything, I hope you're as excited about a
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new year as I am. Because when I tell you, I'm not one
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of these people who like shits on a past year is like, oh,
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I'm so ready to leave this year behind and go into a new year,
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because I really, I don't know, that's just not who I am.
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Even twenty twenty, I wasn't one of those people. I was like,
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yeah, this year was whack. I mean it was, But even then
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I was like, eh, you know, not half bad. I'm an
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introvert've I dug it a little bit. But twenty twenty three, I mean,
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you've probably already heard my Year in Review episode, which was a couple
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of episodes ago or less, I don't know whatever it was. And yeah,
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if you haven't listened to that, go listen because you'll hear my full
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thoughts on twenty twenty three. It was such an interesting year. And I
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want to say this because we're going to be talking about some energy that we're
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going to be channeling, right, We're going to source this within ourselves,
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and we are going to be channeling this and pushing it through and busting up
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into twenty twenty four, like it's our freaking job. Okay, I'm calling
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it the rebel archetype, you call it whatever the hell you want. Really,
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you can take these six things and you can call it, like,
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if you don't love the word rubbel genuinely, do you want to know why
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I'm calling this rebbel? It came to me in a dream, Isn't that
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crazy? I literally dream this, And when I looked up the like what
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the actual definition of rebel is, I was like, oh, I don't
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know, that's exactly. I wasn't obsessed by the way, the definition is
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a person who resists any authority, control, or tradition. And then also
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like has to do with resisting the government. So like, I'm not exactly
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calling us to be anarchists here, which is why I said, I'm putting
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my own spin on it. But like I said, it came to me
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in a dream, So I'm like, well, shoot, who am I
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to argue with my subconscious? So we're going with it, you know,
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but you can call this whatever you want. And I talked in the Year
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in Review episode about how I noticed for myself such a distinct difference in energy
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and how I came into the year twenty twenty two versus how I came into
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the year twenty twenty three. And listen, everything happens for a reason,
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and I had plenty of reasons plenty of excuses, as I'm sure you do.
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We can always pull up as many excuses as we need out of our
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ass to justify whatever kind of behavior we're putting out into the world. We
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know this, and I had my own and it was just night and day.
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I went into twenty twenty two guns of Blazon that that was going to
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be my best year period, not just even in business. It was just
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like, I am going to make this year my BIA, okay, and
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I did. For the most part. I did. Things came off the
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tracks a little bit end of the year. We're not even going to get
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into it, but I did. And we have so much control. We
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don't have control over everything, obviously, but we are co creators here.
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We do have a say in a large part, I think, probably bigger
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than what we give ourselves credit for. We have an amount of control in
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what it is that we create and bring forth into this minute, this hour,
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this day, month, year and beyond. So with this being an
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episode that's airing right before the new year, this is the perfect time to
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get clear on this, to dream up what's the vibe? What are we
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calling forth in twenty twenty four, How are we going into twenty twenty four,
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What is going to be your perception of yourself your level of self belief,
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self worth, Because if you go into a room believing something with all
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of your heart, if you go into a room with a certain level of
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confidence, what are other people going to perceive your confidence? And vice versa.
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You go into a room or a year with a certain amount of self
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doubt and and you know, whatever else negative trait we want to throw in
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there, people are going to pick up on that too. So this is
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important and this is a really freaking exciting conversation. Also, what came to
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me into like the full thing that came into a dream? Actually it's two
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parts. There was an idea suggested to me from my friend Laura and a
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past client, and she's incredible. She'll be on the podcast at some point
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in twenty twenty four, I know. But she messaged me and she was
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like, I want you to create this thing for twenty twenty four. And
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at first I was like I don't know, and then it I was like
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wait that I kind of love it, and then I had this dream of
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what it could be because the way she brought it to me, she was
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like, I would love some sort of group, some sort of like month
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long something to get your mind right for twenty twenty four, you know,
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whether we talk about goal setting or we talk about mindset or whatever. She
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was like, I just love having something like that to lean into going into
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a new year, because it really sets the tone. She was like,
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and I would love to do it with you if this is something that that
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you're creating or you want to create. She told me this like a week
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ago, and I was not planning on doing this at all, but I
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kind of thought about it, and I was like, I love this idea
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too, but I didn't want it to be like a cheesy not it's cheesy,
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but basic like goal setting, mindset, positivity, random group that you
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know everybody and their mom is doing or hosting or has been part of at
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some point. I didn't want it to be anything like that. I wanted
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to, of course, put my own spin on it, and that's where
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the idea of rebel came from. So if you like the VI of this
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conversation, I have a group. I'm hosting it all of January, okay,
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January one to January thirty first, where we are sending out daily prompts
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activations, call to actions all around this vibe to help you take this energy
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and cultivate it even more and bring it forth even more than just listening to
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a podcast and getting fired up for five minutes. Okay, So I'll give
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you the details on that at the end of this episode, and I'm very
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excited about it. Okay, So rebel, like I said, rebel,
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the actual definition is a person who resists any authority, control, or tradition,
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especially government that you know, those sort of things, And that's that's
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not what we're doing. So here's my spin on it. My spin on
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it is a person who resists the status quo, A person or what's considered
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normal, right I want to be clear. A person who resists the status
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quote or what's considered quote unquote normal because they can see and envision something better,
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because that the status quo is just not serving them in some way.
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Not simply to resist it just because, right there are those people out there
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that just if it's popular, they want to resist it just because it's popular.
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That's not what I'm talking about here. If that's revived, fine,
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But I'm saying a person who resists these things because they dream and dare to
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dream bigger. They know that it can be done better. They know that
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for whatever reason, that's not it, it's outdated, it doesn't serve them.
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It doesn't serve you know, they're what they think could be better and
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healthier and stronger in their own mind. You know. So a lot of
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things that are considered quote unquote normal or standard or basic or conventional. Rebel
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And you know, my spin on rebel is the person who dares to resist
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that and actually take action on it. So this goes so much further than
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bitching and complaining about things that you wish were different. That does nothing for
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anybody. This goes so much further than talking the talk. I'm talking about
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people that are willing to actually make a change. A person who dares to
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zig one other's zag, who isn't scared to to speak her truth even when
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it's unpopular. My definition of rebel is a woman with her eyes fixed on
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what it can be versus on what it was. Okay, so instead of
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saying, well, this is what it's always been, this is what I've
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always done, this is my proof, this is my past, she's not
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focused on that. She knows that with a strong enough vision and a strong
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enough belief in her power to make a change, she can make that happen
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with the correct focus and mindset and actually moving toward that thing and taking action
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toward what she wants to see versus again what it was, what it's been.
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That is my definition and my spin on rebel. So why I want
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us to bring this energy into the new year is because I have this unique
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perspective in a sense on the past two years. I have, like my
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experience of the past two years, which I've talked about many times. You
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know, twenty twenty two was was something. Twenty twenty three was very different.
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And I've also been in a group. I've been in a high level
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mastermind for the past two years almost two years, it'll be two years in
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March. And in this mastermind, I have the pleasure and opportunity to be
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in this group of very successful women who are in their own right just slaying
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the freaking game, but in different industries, which is really really neat.
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It's a really cool opportunity, right because we don't all do the same thing.
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We all do we all have different passions and focuses and businesses in different
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industries. For the most part, some of us definitely overlap. But anyway,
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I've had the pleasure and the opportunity to put myself in this room for
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the past two years in a row. And while I have my own experience
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of the past couple of years and what twenty twenty three has been, I've
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also seen a lot of parallels with other people as well, where there's just
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been a difference, Like twenty twenty three. I don't know what I'm gonna
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call it yet, but it feels like a test. Twenty twenty three feels
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like a big ass test, or it's felt like a big test. It's
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felt like, Okay, you've come this far, You've received a certain level
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of success and accolades, and you say you're in this thing, but so
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far, all you've been is successful. Are you still in it when you're
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not hitting the same level of success? Are you still in it even when
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it's hard? Are you the person you say you are when you are put
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to the test and when pressure is applied. That's what twenty twenty three feels
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like. And we have talked about this, especially in my in my mastermind.
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Often this is just something that keeps coming up because we're all feeling this
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in different ways. We're all experiencing and have experience, especially this past year,
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a level of testing, a level of just frustration and confusion and feeling
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a little bit I guess like where you're not grounded right, like which way
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is up? Which way is down? Am I on the right truck?
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Like? What is? It's been very confusing, And again I'm not just
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for me. There are many other women who have felt very similar. So
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again, this has been a conversation we've been having quite often. And I've
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said this before, but one of my favorite quotes from a mentor is leaders
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are bridges, and bridges get tested. And that is what we've been here,
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or what I've noticed I've been feeling, and so many women that I
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look up to and respect have all and my own clients as well, who
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I also look up to and respect, have been experiencing as well. Because
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here's the thing, and it makes sense. In twenty twenty, there was
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an influx, right, there was this huge rise of online businesses, especially
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coaches. Why obvious reasons, right, COVID hit people were getting laid off,
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people were scared, and it was this incredible opportunity to take something and
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create something online and you had a larger audience, a more susceptible audience,
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an audience that just wanted to be distracted and that wanted a sense of hope
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more and opportunity more than anything else. Right, It's like shooting fish in
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a freaking barrel. So if you were already in business in twenty twenty,
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or you start your business in twenty twenty, chances are you had a pretty
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good time in getting that business off the ground or growing your business. I
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know this was my experience. It was just like boom, okay, we're
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we're off to the races. Twenty twenty one, you're still riding that wave,
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twenty twenty two, still riding that wave. Right, Like if you
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know two years to ride a wave and get really skilled at it and again
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to maximize the shock waves of such a massive year of twenty twenty, it
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creates a pretty solid business in a lot of ways. You know, you
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learn a lot. But business in general will always come in waves. Entrepreneurship
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will always come in waves. What goes up must come down, and so
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on and so forth. So we've been riding this wave. It's felt like
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from you know, twenty twenty to twenty twenty two, and then it feels
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like twenty twenty three was a little bit of a dip, a little bit
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of a shudder in a way, you know. And what I've noticed is
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it's taking it. It's genuinely a good thing. Because when business is good
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and opportunity is there, you have to have skill to have a business period.
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You have to have skill and level of passion to make something work.
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But again, when things are just easy, that is that only says so
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much, right, any most people can do that when things are easy,
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but not everybody can continue to ride that wave and stay in the game and
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stay dedicated to what they say they believe in when things aren't as easy.
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Right, It's easy for anybody to fix their mouth and say, yeah,
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I'm passionate about this, and I want to make a change in the world,
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and I want to help this many women, and I want to do
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this, and I want to be a thought leader and a leader in this
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space. And like, it's so easy to say that when the money's there,
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when the clients are there, when things are good, why would you
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not say that? But as soon as those things start to dissipate or just
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business again, business challenges arise. Now you got to put your money where
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your mouth is. Do you believe it or not when things are good and
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when things aren't as good. So what we've seen this year is we've seen
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a lot of people fall off. We've seen a lot of people all of
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a sudden change their tone and say, actually, it's not about this.
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Actually, you know, the coaching industry is whack. Actually this coach is
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whack. Actually this is all you know. It's not going to last.
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It's whatever. You know, there are some people who quietly just like say,
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okay, this wasn't for me and go. But then there are other
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people their ego literally cannot handle it. So then they have to make enemies
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out of the people who are still in the game. And that says a
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lot too. You see a lot of that. So anyway, that's what
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Tony twenty theory has been in my mind, is this opportunity to demonstrate what
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you've learned and how much you believe in yourself, and how much you're willing
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to stay in the game and keep playing the game even when you're not winning
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the whole time. How bad do you want to be here? How much
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do you believe in yourself? So leaders or bridges. Bridges get tested.
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I feel like twenty twenty three was a test year, and I'm praying that
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twenty twenty four will be the year that we are awarded for still being here
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going into it, but I don't know. It's an election year. It's
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I feel like it's about to get freaking cray. The Epstein list is about
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to be released. I think January first, it's about to I mean,
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I think our reality is about to be put on its head again. So
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hey, let's just hope this is good for online business. Right Anyway,
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all of that said, we are co creators, Okay, we cannot control
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every single circumstance that happens in our life. Also, we would not want
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everything to be easy all the time. You don't learn jack crap when things
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are easy. You learn when you're tested, right, That's where the real
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skill comes in, when you are being put to the test. So while
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in the moment it feels like, ah, I don't like this, this
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sucks, you come out the other side and you're like, whow we made
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it, And look how much I learned. Look how much skill I gained.
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Not to mention, look how much I can support somebody else who goes
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through something like this in the future. I say this all the time to
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my clients and to myself when I'm going through a shitty time and I'm like,
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dude, why me, this is so annoying? Why do I have
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to go through this? But I think to myself, if a client comes
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to me in the future and it is having a hard time, having failed
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launches, or is getting dragged on the internet, or you know, whatever
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the case may be, I can't support her if I've never been through it,
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right, Like, imagine if you come to me and you're like,
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Hey, I'm having a dip in my business and it's really hard and I'm
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questioning everything and I really want to stay in this, but I'm having a
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really hard time. Imagine if I was like, oh man, I can't
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relate to that, but here's what I here's what I think you should do.
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I've never experienced this, so I can't tell you what I've done in
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this situation, how I came out the other side, but I can speculate.
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You'd be like, no, thank you, I'm paying for speculation.
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So that's another reframe for whatever it is that you went through this year or
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whatever year or we'll go through in the future, and and we are co
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creators. We are co creators. We can reframe all day long, and
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we can rewrite the story. We can re the narrative. All of the
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best stories, best movies, best books, heroes in history. There is
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that moment where you're like, are they or aren't they? Are they gonna
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make it? Are they gonna survive? Are they gonna stand back up?
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Or are they gonna stay on the ground. Well, I can guarantee you
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every single story where they do get back up and they become the hero of
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that story. They didn't go into that situation. Woe is me. They
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didn't go into that situation thinking, Oh, man, last year was awful.
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This year is probably gonna be worse. Oh did you hear what CNN
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is saying about this year? Did you hear about what they're saying about the
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economy? Oh, nobody's buying anything. You know, nobody buy anything last
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month. It's probably gonna be the same this month. It's just gonna get
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worse. No, it would. You would never hear that story because that
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person would have just stayed on the ground. Nothing would have changed, and
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it would not have been revolutionary or interesting or inspiring at all. That's status
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quo. That's basic stuff. That's the average person. I hate to say
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this, but average people don't do incredible things. That's why we call them
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average. So it gets confusing sometimes when you're trying to go above average and
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you're trying to be the person who dares to do things different and be the
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rebel in your own right, and you're looking around and everybody's walking the same
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way, talking the same way, believing the same things, and you're like,
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wait, am I crazy? Or are they crazy? The answer is,
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it's up to you. It's whatever you tell yourself. You're the star
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of your show, your movie, So how are you going to go into
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this next season? How are you going to go into today, tomorrow and
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next year and the rest of your life? So I hope you go into
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it like a mother fn a rebel, all right, like somebody who takes
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the status quo, looks in the face and says, hm hm, you
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thought that's how it always has been until it met me. Okay, it
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happened until it ran into me. I'm going to change things up. So
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how can we take this rebel energy and make it our own and carry this
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vibe into twenty twenty four in any room you walk into in the future.
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I've got six things that I've been reflecting on that we're going to go into,
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starting with number one. And these are in no particular order, starting
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with number one moving forward. If you want to really embody the rebel archetype
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in the way that we're talking about, we don't ask for permission anymore anymore.
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That's old childish stuff. No more asking for permission, no more relying
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on validation, don't. We don't do that. Another conversation that we were
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just having in the Mastermind that I'm in is one of the chicks in there.
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She runs Facebook ads and she's created this insane business that has just skyrocketed
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in success so fast, and she's not even thirty years old. She's an
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enigma. It's unbelievable. And she was talking about how last year she was
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setting up for this really big launch, right they were gonna put they were
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gonna invest all this money into this giant launch, and it was gonna be
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like her biggest launch yet. And she was like super prepared and fired up
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about it, and she was reflecting on it months later, and she said
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it actually ended up being one of my most disappointing launches. She was just
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like, you know, we put in all this money and it just it
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wasn't what I was expecting. And one of the reasons why she was reflecting
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on why that was so was because with her marketing and her messaging, she
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brought it to the mastermind. She was like, what do you think?
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What would you change about this? Right, So she took her ideas that
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she was going to use and launch, and she brought it and she was
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like, give me your notes. What would you say? How would like
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how's this image? And she got feedback and she made changes and then it
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didn't go as planned. And this was such a profound moment because we are
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visionaries here, Like, there's how can I explain this? I want you
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to think of online business owners and online creators in like two different categories.
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And this is an oversimplification, but just for this example, think of it
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in this way. Two categories. There are the visionaries, the people that
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come up with the ideas, the people that take pure magic from their head
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and put it out and and actually create something new. And then there are
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people that see that and put their own spin on it, not necessarily copy,
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although they're definitely creators who copy, but they take what's become normal in
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the new status quo online and they just follow suit with the zero question,
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zero regard about is this actually what I want? Or do I have new
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ideas? Like when's the last time you've gone to create something in your business
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or online, whether it be a piece of content or an offer or whatever,
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and ask yourself, can I do this a different way? Do I
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want to do this a different way? Would this be better and more serving
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to put a different spin on this even though nobody else does. That's how
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you innovate. That's how you go from just a a basic person on the
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internet to to somebody who's who's actually creating something new right a visionary. So
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her reflection was she took her vision and let people that aren't even in her
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industry, that aren't even you know, people that she respects, but people
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that don't really understand why that's her vision, why she's saying those things,
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and letting them put their red panel over it. Right, that'd be like
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somebody whoever you look up to right now. And the example that we were
29:37
talking about in the Mastermind was like Taylor swift right, She's she's having this
29:41
this huge, huge moment right now, and she's like one of the best
29:45
creators of all time. You can't argue that, no matter what your thoughts
29:48
are on her. And that'd be like her writing a song from the depths
29:55
of her soul and going to somebody else who's not a songwriter, or who
30:00
writes a different style song, or who wasn't there to understand why she said
30:06
this word versus that word, and so on and so forth, and letting
30:11
them make their red notes all over it and then changing it and assuming that
30:15
they know better than what was in her soul. We do this all the
30:21
time. And that doesn't mean that you can't have mentorship. That doesn't mean
30:27
And the difference here is this, if you are new in a space,
30:32
if you don't if you genuinely don't know how to copyright or how to launch
30:38
or create an offer, right, if you're just like Green and trying to
30:42
get your foot in the door, get a mentor to support you. There's
30:47
a big difference in that in saying, hey, am I on the right
30:51
track here? Like? Am I focusing on the right thing? Am I?
30:55
You know? Is this is this based on your asked knowledge of this
31:00
thing that I'm hiring you for. Am I on the right track versus I've
31:04
been in this game for years, I know what I'm doing. What are
31:07
your thoughts on this incredible idea I have, you know, best case scenario,
31:12
people get it and they're like, damn, that's fire. Worst case
31:18
scenario. They don't get it. They don't understand your vision or your soul,
31:22
and they make you doubt it or change it when it was perfect to
31:27
begin with. So Number one is, we're not going into a new year
31:34
looking for people to tell us it's okay to do the thing that we want
31:38
to do. We're not looking for somebody to validate us and say, yes,
31:41
you're good enough to do this thing that you want to do. Yes,
31:45
you have what it takes, you have the it factor. You're smart
31:48
enough, you're funny enough, you're pretty enough, you're charismatic enough, go
31:55
for it. We're not doing that. You don't need that. You have
32:00
everything that you need in your heart. Even I'm even going to take this
32:05
a step further and say, with our partners in our house, even if
32:12
you have a partner who is floating your lifestyle, who's paying for your lifestyle.
32:16
We don't need their permission anymore either, because if you believe in yourself
32:21
enough and you go to them with that conviction and you say, hey,
32:24
I'm going to do this because I have to because it's why I'm here on
32:29
this planet, and I believe in myself. And it may not pop off
32:32
the first freaking month, maybe not even the first year, but if I
32:36
don't do this, I will forever regret it. If you have somebody who
32:40
looks at you in the face and says, no, we have a problem,
32:46
we have a problem, So no, we're not doing that this year.
32:52
You don't need other people's validation. You need to validate yourself. You
32:59
need to validate yourself well because and I've experienced this. I've experienced this.
33:05
If you believe on what you're doing, and you know why you're doing it,
33:07
and you're connected to it, and your heart and soul is connected to
33:12
it, and again you believe that. If not now, it's only a
33:15
question of when. When things are gonna click into place for you, it
33:21
won't matter what other people say. I've experienced this in ways where I get
33:28
an idea and I'm not really like I'm like, oh, this would be
33:31
cool just to ruffle feathers, right, Like, I'm going to do this
33:37
thing because I feel like it'll get attention or it's like the cool thing to
33:43
do. This is what everybody's doing. I'm trying to think of an example.
33:45
Probably content is the best example that I've had where I'm saying something that
33:52
like just to be a little controversial because I'm like, yeah, this is
33:57
what you need to do. You need to be a little polarizing, and
33:59
then when you get pushed back, it's like, ugh, I wasn't even
34:02
really like Then you start doubting yourself because you're not saying it with your heart.
34:07
You're saying it just to say it. You're saying it because it's like
34:09
a business strategy versus it's what you really believe and really want to stand by,
34:15
you know. So when people say something like or push back or give
34:21
their own opinion that's different than yours, you feel wobbly. You're like,
34:24
waituh, is this really what I believe? Is this really what I want
34:29
to do? Do I really have what it takes versus For example, I'm
34:35
launching Rebble right now, right and I've been as I record this, I've
34:38
been for the past few days. I've put it out into the world and
34:42
I am doing like the marketing for this is unlike anything I've ever done before.
34:47
I've got pictures applying liquid eyeline, are using the blade of a knife,
34:53
like these are my visuals. Okay, I've got pictures I haven't shared
34:59
yet of me smoking a cigarette. You have not seen these yet. Maybe
35:04
by the time this goes live. I've posted one of them. By the
35:06
way, it's a healthy cigarette. Its a cigarette I found Amazon calleed Chelsea's
35:08
Healthy's It's like no nicotine, no nothing. And I don't smoke. I've
35:12
never spoke a day in my life. But it was just like the market
35:15
it was just so fun And I haven't had this much fun in a launch
35:22
and in the creation of the visuals since I can remember. And I don't
35:27
care what anybody says, Like if anybody sees these images and is like this
35:31
is stupid, this is like who are you trying to be? What?
35:35
Like, I genuinely would give zero fs because one I believe in this thing
35:42
that I'm putting out into the world. Two I'm having so much fun,
35:45
and three this is like who I am. That's that's a version of me
35:47
that that's very, very real and a true reflection of who I am.
35:52
So do you feel the difference. I'm not doing this. I'm not launching
35:57
it in this way and using these visuals to be cool just to get attention
36:00
because I think they're going to get a rise. I'm doing it because I
36:04
want to, because I believe in it, because it's I'm having a good
36:07
time. So anybody who positively validates it, it's nice. It's like,
36:14
okay, you get the vision. But if anybody were to come up and
36:16
be like this is whatever and disagree, I respectfully wouldn't give to you know
36:23
what you know? So that's the vibe. No more permission, no more
36:30
relying on validation to believe in what you're doing and to pursue the things that
36:37
you want to pursue. We don't need it. Number two, blinders up,
36:45
blinders up, blinders up, blinders up, No more comparison. We're
36:50
not doing it. It's unhealthy, it doesn't serve anybody, it's distracting,
36:55
and it threatens to totally strip your magic out of what could be your signature
37:02
on this freaking planet. How many times have you gotten an idea that you
37:08
were really excited about, and then you got online you saw somebody doing maybe
37:13
something similar or something completely different, and then you start to question the thing
37:17
that you wanted to do. I know for me that's happened many times.
37:22
There have been many times with my own mentor by the way, that I
37:25
get an idea and I'm like, ooh, that would be really cool,
37:28
and I get really excited about it, and then I happen to be on
37:31
the same wavelength of her Melanie and she puts out or says something super similar,
37:37
So I'm like, I can't do that now. You know, there's
37:42
who like people are going to get similar ideas. When you're on the same
37:46
wavelength and you're frequency match to people, you're going to get very similar ideas.
37:52
That's okay. You will always put your own spin on it, always
37:57
as long as yours that's your or intention, you will. But to get
38:04
an idea, to do something that you're genuinely excited about, and then to
38:10
change your mind because somebody else has done blank is awful. It's very depressing.
38:21
Now, if you have an idea for an invention and you look and
38:23
you see somebody else has done it, then yeah, that's probably going to
38:25
save you some time. But as far as like an online offer, idea
38:30
or marketing or whatever, it doesn't need to happen. It's just a waste
38:35
of time. It creates an opportunity to overthink and to dim your light.
38:42
So what I recommend that we all do is unfollow and mute be happy to
38:50
so. Me personally, I do not follow or have anybody in my feed
38:55
that's in my industry unless I have a very healthy relationship with that person and
39:04
I respect their style, but it's very different than mine, and there's none
39:07
of that feeling of that I need to compare myself or worried about what they're
39:15
doing. You know, there are just some people out there that you can
39:17
respect what they do and watch it and it doesn't it carries no charge.
39:23
And then there's other people that you also respect what they do, you admire
39:29
them. But for whatever reason, there's a charge. We don't need to
39:32
judge the charge. We don't need to. It doesn't matter. It's there
39:37
for whatever reason. We don't need to psychoanalyze it. You don't need to
39:40
judge yourself or them for that reason. It's just not serving you. You
39:45
can feel it in your body when you scroll past somebody and you stop,
39:50
and it gives you a feeling in your gut. For whatever reason, unfollow
39:53
or mute I realize sometimes unfollows non option because we don't you know, you
40:00
want to play the political game. Whatever. Mute, They don't know if
40:06
they're muted. It's the best thing that you can do. This is going
40:10
to leave you so much space to create and innovate versus what the mass does
40:16
with the average person does, which is consume and compare. That's what basic
40:22
bitches do. Basic bitches scroll, scroll, scroll, consume other people's magic,
40:28
compare themselves to other people's magic, and then don't take action because now
40:32
they're left sick and over consumed and stuffed full with other people's stuff that there's
40:38
no room to create their own. And then they doubt themselves because again they're
40:44
over consuming. We are not basic bitches. We create and we innovate,
40:49
but we have to have space for that. So put your blinders up.
40:53
Do you know why that's even as saying. So where that saying comes from
40:59
is for horse racing, So horses have to have these blinders on, like
41:07
on either side of I don't know, I don't know I heard this.
41:10
I don't know if this is actually true. I think it's true. But
41:15
they have to have like some sort of blinders beside their eyes, because otherwise,
41:20
if they're they're running at however miles per hour horses run, which is
41:24
freaking fast racing, there are all these other horses beside them, and if
41:29
they get distracted and even for a split second look to the left or the
41:32
right, what's going to happen. They're going to fall. That's what's gonna
41:37
happen. And that is detrimental in a horse race. I can kill a
41:40
horse, kill a jockey, no blaino. So blinders up. Same thing
41:46
for us. If you want to do something incorreredible in this lifetime, in
41:52
this year, this month, whatever you cannot afford to be in your own
41:57
race, putting out your own magic and then look to the left or the
42:00
right, get distracted and fall. That happens all the time. Put your
42:06
blinders up. Number three. We're going to respect the status quo, but
42:14
if need be, we are going to disrupt it. So back when I
42:19
said, when is the last time you have gone to put out a piece
42:22
of content or an offer or whatever it is that you do in your business
42:27
and for your art, your craft, and you stop to ask yourself,
42:32
how can I make this different? How can I put my spin on this
42:37
my energetic signature? This is what I'm talking about here. We don't need
42:44
to shit on other people. We don't need to We don't need to lower
42:49
ourselves to hate on anybody who isn't here yet. We're all on our own
42:53
path, right, We're all on our own different levels of awareness and wokeness
43:01
or whatever, you know. And it doesn't serve anybody to look at other
43:06
people who are maybe a little slower or a little faster than you and compare
43:10
yourself and hate on them for whatever reason. That's not the energy we're trying
43:15
to put out. So just because you think differently than somebody else, it
43:21
doesn't matter. So respect, not even the status quo, but like respect
43:27
everybody else's timeline. You're if you're really focus on what it is that you're
43:34
doing, and you're proud of what you're putting out into the world, then
43:37
naturally your blinders are up and you're not really concerned with what other people are
43:40
doing. Right, And that's why they say, like, for the most
43:44
part, successful people don't hate because they're busy creating their own stuff and having
43:49
a good time. They're not concerned about what somebody who's less successful than them
43:53
or more successful is doing. In most cases, so respect where everybody else
44:02
is at. But how can you disrupt it? How can you put your
44:07
own energetic signature on what's considered the norm? Just ask yourself that question.
44:15
You're going to get ideas. Something's going to come up for you, and
44:20
I bet it's freaking incredible. Number four, how to channel and carry the
44:28
energy of the rebel archetype into twenty twenty four. You are going to have
44:34
the audacity to go big and believe in your capability to make that big thing
44:42
come to life, even if everyone else thinks you are delusional for believing it
44:47
that strongly. So this is what I was talking about earlier. The rebel.
44:55
She doesn't care what's happened in the past. She doesn't care the amount
45:00
of revenues she made last year or the year before, or what went wrong
45:05
in twenty twenty three or yesterday, or what failed launch, or you know
45:09
what so and so said, or how she even thought of herself yesterday.
45:14
That is in the past. It's done, it's dusted, it doesn't freaking
45:17
matter. All she cares about is her vision and what she is creating and
45:22
what is happening, what will happen. She believes in her vision so strongly
45:30
that it's done in her mind. She's already acting as if she's already preparing
45:35
for the award. She's preparing for the money to flow in. She's making
45:38
plans of how she's going to contribute and what she's going to buy and where
45:43
she's going to travel, and what she's going to say for her acceptance speech
45:45
or whatever like. That's the level she believes in what she does so much
45:50
so that people that's never seen her do it or seen anybody do it,
45:52
think she's freaking Craig Cray, delusional, Delulu. That is rubble freaking energy
46:00
right there. Why because the average person could never That's not true. They
46:07
can, but they're not there yet. They don't have the level of self
46:15
belief or belief in general, to allow themselves to risk believing in something so
46:22
big because they're afraid of what happens if it doesn't happen. They're afraid of
46:27
the judgment. They're afraid of the failure, they're afraid of the fear in
46:31
general, so much so that they won't even allow themselves to dream bigger than
46:37
what they're dreaming. But not us. We've been there, We've done that,
46:47
and we have the audacity to go there even when the average person doesn't.
46:54
And more so than that, it's so much more than just talking to
46:59
talk and so saying yeah, I can do that, Yeah, I'll probably
47:00
I'll probably do that, But like in a chill cool if it happens,
47:04
great, if it doesn't, whatever, I'm not really gonna commit because I
47:07
don't want to, like mank a fuol of myself, you know, because
47:08
I'm too cool. It's like, no, I'm going to be the biggest
47:14
podcaster in the world soon. And you're like, Okay, didn't know you
47:24
were, Alex Cooper, Joe Rogan, No, I'm not. It's fine,
47:29
I'll be up there, Okay, crazy, Yeah I am crazy,
47:32
don't forget it. That's that's what we're looking for, that level of think
47:39
what you want. I'm going for it because you know that you miss one
47:44
hundred percent of the shots that you don't take. That's something so big it
47:50
doesn't just happen accidentally. Right. If you're dreaming big enough then it's not
47:57
something that you're just gonna wake up and boom when the award boom had that
48:00
level of revenue, boom, fly you know, to all those countries or
48:05
whatever your big, big vision is. If it's something that could just randomly
48:09
happen, you're not thinking big enough. This has got to be something that
48:13
you put the dart on the map, put the dot on the map,
48:16
and move toward consistently, or it's not going to happen. That is what
48:23
we're looking for. So the audacity to claim it and the level of delusion
48:30
to believe that it's already done because of course, because what else would it
48:37
be. Because I said, so, that's the energy we're looking for.
48:42
Number five, we are going to be clear and unapologetic about what we want
48:49
and deserve. So this is a conversation about boundaries. This is a conversation
48:55
about self worth. This goes back to the audacity conversation. And this is
49:00
anything that you feel like like any kind of standard that look you know you're
49:06
reflecting back on. You're like, oh man, I let this thing happen
49:12
to me right, Like we are taking full responsibility for what has taken place
49:15
in our life and we're realizing, like I let that person treat me that
49:20
way, I let that thing happen. I let that thing go on too
49:23
far. I either didn't set the standards or I didn't hold the standards.
49:29
That's on me and moving forward, because I'm not going to spend any time
49:34
flowing any energy to a past situation. Moving forward. This is what I
49:38
want, this is what I need, this is what I deserve, and
49:42
this is what I refuse to not accept from you from a situation, from
49:49
anything. Do you hear the decisiveness in that? Do you hear the energy
49:53
of that. I'm not asking you if it's okay to believe in myself.
49:59
I'm not asking you to please respect me. I'm not asking you to please
50:05
don't copy my stuff or to please finish your payment plan. I'm saying these
50:09
are terms that you signed. I'm saying this is the mark of a true
50:15
gifted creator, somebody worth respecting in an industry, and you will act like
50:21
that and treat me as such. So boundary self worth, audacity. You
50:27
are going to be clear about what it is that we want and what we
50:30
deserve, and no apology about it not happening. It just is what it
50:36
is, it's written in stone. And if you don't match that, we're
50:39
moving on across the board. What is the saying roll around with dogs,
50:45
you get fleas, don't throw your pearls amongst swine like you know, you
50:50
get it. That vibe and then the last number six, this is the
50:54
sixth thing that we are feeling into and and getting clear on to channel the
51:04
rebel archetype going into twenty twenty four and beyond, is we are taking full
51:09
responsibility for the change that we wish to experience. No more looking for a
51:17
hero, no more praying for somebody to swoop in and fix things, whether
51:25
it be a mentor, a romantic partner, a sugar daddy, a friend,
51:35
a good samaritan, none of it. You're the boss of your life.
51:43
You're the hero of your story. When you think back on your story,
51:47
do you want to be the hero or do you want to think of
51:49
some random good samaritan or mentor or a romantic partner that was the hero that
51:54
saved you? Ew ow, no, no, no, no, we're
52:02
not doing that. Everything that you have experienced in business and life, in
52:08
whatever situation, you have to take a responsibility for that. There's a reason
52:14
why it happened to you? What was the role that you played in that.
52:19
I'm not talking about anything from childhood, okay, I'm talking about as
52:22
adults. What is the role that we played in that and allowed that to
52:30
shape our reality, allow that to whatever whatever the situation, anything that doesn't
52:32
serve you, What is our role that we played in that. It's different
52:38
if something awful happens to you and you take it and you learn from it
52:43
and it changes your life in a good way in hindsight, and then ee
52:47
see situations where something happens and that's just the life story right there. You
52:52
know that's just And obviously we're not going to I mean, there's a ton
52:57
of nuance here. But regardless, you stop looking for the hero, it's
53:05
you. Go look in the freaking mirror. You are the person to pull
53:08
you out of this mess. You are the person to create the experience and
53:13
the life and the business of your wildest dreams. You are the person to
53:19
love yourself deeper and more than anybody else has on the planet. You are
53:22
the person to save your life, your bit, everything that's you. You
53:29
have the power in you and you can make it happen. So much faster
53:32
than praying for somebody else to because they're doing it for themselves. That's a
53:38
you thing. That is the rebel energy that we're carrying into twenty twenty four.
53:45
Okay, so here's what I want to say to you, wrapping up
53:51
and then I'll tell you about this thirty one day situation that we can all
53:55
do together to like really really really seal the us in, package this up,
54:01
infuse it into our veins and soul and freaking go into the year like
54:08
the rock stars that we are. Here's what I want to say to you.
54:14
You are magic, You are magnetic. You are complicated, you are
54:19
confusing, you are dynamic. You are a rebbel in your own right.
54:25
But you are a rebbele with a cause. There are things that you believe
54:30
in deeply. There are things that you came here to experience to create.
54:32
There is a reason why your life and the way that it's played out has
54:37
played out. There's a reason why you chose people to come into your life
54:39
and your parents and the trauma that you've experienced, Like, there's a reason
54:45
why these things happen to you. Because you are meant to be the person
54:50
that makes the change in that area. You're meant to be the person that
54:52
relates to other people, that can relate to that thing. You have a
54:55
cause, you have a mission. It's already in you, it's yours.
55:02
But it will not play out on its own. You have to decide to
55:07
ride that ship into the sunset. You have to be the one to steer
55:10
the ship. Otherwise it's just going to keep going in circles and circles and
55:14
circles. This vessel of all of this potential that goes nowhere because you refuse
55:22
to steer it, because you refuse to move forward, because you're so focused
55:24
on the past, or you're so concerned with what other people are doing,
55:29
or doubt or whatever. The thing is. Move, decide where you want
55:38
to go, Realize that if you have that thing in you, there's a
55:43
reason why, and then freaking move. Believe that you can make it happen,
55:46
and go into every single step along the way with that energy. And
55:52
if you forget, which you will, because that's normal, that's human,
55:54
that's part of it. You remind yourself again, you redecide, and you
55:59
move again. That is how you're going to make your wildest dreams come true.
56:07
In twenty twenty four and beyond. Okay, So Rebel, who is
56:13
rebel for it's for her capital h her, the seeker, the creator,
56:21
the dreamer, the truth teller, the troublemaker, the outcast, the breakout,
56:27
the glitch in generational DNA, the never satisfied, the happy to not
56:34
fit in, the often left out, the one they gossip about, the
56:38
one who doesn't give a you know what, the one that carries, that
56:43
cares deeply and honors herself anyway. It's for the destined, the star,
56:50
the doer, the rebel. So Rebel is a thirty one day group program,
57:01
whatever you want to call it, to set yourself apart for the rest
57:06
of your life. You will receive daily prompts, activations, prayers, and
57:14
actions to spoil your spirit, sharpen your wit, explode your self love,
57:20
and forge your own way. So when you join beginning on January first,
57:30
you're going to receive something every single day from me to your inbox or I
57:34
think, well, you'll get an email, but it's going to be in
57:36
your library when you buy it. But there's a module for every day,
57:40
So day one, day two, day three, all for every single day
57:44
of the month, even the weekends. And each thing will take you somewhere
57:46
between like five and fifteen minutes to complete. But it's all to infuse your
57:55
heart and your soul and your spirit with this vibe. Because you may be
58:04
fired up right now. You may take this and be like, yeah,
58:07
yeah, I done, I got it. But for a lot of you,
58:14
that feeling is going to last fifteen minutes and then it's going to be
58:17
right back to where we started, which is fine, but we've all been
58:22
there. So if you really want to seal this in and make it part
58:29
of your freaking DNA, get in Rebel. The price is pretty low ticket
58:37
for what it is. For sure, it changes pretty much every day,
58:43
so definitely go check it out today. The link is in the show notes.
58:46
But I made it as low ticket as absolute possible. And when you
58:51
consider what this can do for your vibe and your business, it ain't nothing.
58:58
It ain't nothing. So if this resonates, I hope to see you
59:04
there. I love you, I believe in you. I cannot wait to
59:10
hear like the craziness and the magic that you create this year and the obstacles
59:17
you overcome, and I just can't wait to hear it all. And same
59:23
for me twenty twenty four, doesn't know what's hit it yet. I love
59:30
you. I'll see you next week, which is New Year's Day. I
59:34
think next week. Hold on, let me see my calendar. No,
59:37
I think we have. Yeah, this is cool, so it'll be January
59:42
first, when Rebel starts. I'll see you then, love you bye,