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What Happens When You Tell a Narcissist The Truth About Themselves? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what are narcissists addicted to?
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  That's what we're talking about today, y'all.
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  We're talking about 5 things that a lot of narcissistic
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  people could absolutely be addicted to.
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  Some may have more than one. You can be.
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  You can be addicted to more than one thing, y'all.
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  If you're new here, my name is Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist myself.
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  And welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Welcome back folks welcome back welcome back yes a narcissist
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  addictions. We talk about that today y'all
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  y'all, this is my first time shooting on my new camera, so
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  y'all got to bear with me. I'm still learning new functions
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  and stuff like that, so hit that subscribe button if you haven't
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  already to support the channel. I'm super grateful for every
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  single one of y'all, but these addictions that I'm going to go
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  over, y'all, they are not in any particular order.
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  Like everybody's addiction is going to be different, right?
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  But one thing that I will say before I hop into the different
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  addictions is that if a narcissistic person somehow gets
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  rid of one of these addictions, they have to replace it with
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  something else, right? Something healthier.
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  That's for me, that's the only way a narcissist can get better.
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  And to get rid of their addictions, right, you have to
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  replace it with something healthier.
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  Because I've heard people say before like, hey, guys, I
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  stopped drinking, like yay. And then they said what they
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  doing METH? Like wait, what?
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  How you get How you get from drinking in.
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  There. You stop drinking, but you doing
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  that What? You see what I'm saying?
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  So that's what we're talking about there.
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  Y'all directly talking about the addictions of narcissistic
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  people. Number one, what I have written
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  down right here is drinking. Now let me say this, just
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  because you have an addiction does not make you a narcissist.
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  Y'all, I'm about narcissist with addiction, addiction issues, not
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  how addiction makes everybody a narcissist.
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  I'm not saying that at all. That's literally not what I'm
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  saying. But number one, it's going to be
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  drinking. There are a lot of narcissistic
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  people that have alcohol issues. A lot of a lot of us have issues
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  with drinking, right? And sometimes you get an an
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  alcoholic narcissist that is really, really good at hiding
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  their addiction. They get exceptionally good,
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  exceptionally good at hiding their addiction.
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  They just get really good at you ain't know they're addicted.
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  Like some people just like, oh, they my partner just drinks
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  casually. And then you somehow for some
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  reason end up going in their car and going in their trunk and
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  they got like a bunch of beer cans, a bunch of stuff like
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  that. And they're always blaming their
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  issues on drinking. Like, it's never, ever.
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  There is never, ever my fault directly.
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  It's always has something to do with my drinking.
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  It always has something to do with me drinking or whatever the
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  case may be. They blame the addiction on how
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  they're treating you or how they're behaving, right?
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  So they could be absolutely addicted to alcohol, but that
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  does not mean they get to treat you badly.
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  And again, I know that people have addiction issues.
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  Addiction issues absolutely exist.
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  And this is I'm I get. Yeah, I'm agreeing with you.
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  But when you're dealing with an abusive, manipulative,
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  narcissistic person, this is one of the things that is kind of a
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  non negotiable. If they are dealing with
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  addiction issues, they're the most time they're going to treat
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  you terribly, especially if it's out in the open.
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  If it's out in the open, they start to use their addiction as
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  an excuse to treat you badly. They started to use the
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  addiction stuff as a reason why they're behaving erratically and
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  doing bad things to you. So you got to be very, very
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  careful with a narcissistic person that stops drinking,
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  right? Or this hiding drinking or they
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  try to diminish their addiction issue, right?
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  It's just, I'm not, I don't have an alcohol problem.
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  You had a problem, I'll, or they'll blame it on you.
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  They'll blame their addiction on you.
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  They'll just say, well, I only drink because I'm around you.
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  I only drink 'cause I have a horrible wife.
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  I have a horrible husband. That's the only reason I drink
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  because I have a horrible spouse.
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  And they'll put it directly onto you as to why they're behaving a
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  certain type of way or why they're drinking or whatever the
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  case may be. So this happens a lot.
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  Now again, having an alcohol addiction does not necessarily
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  make you a bad person y'all, and also it does not make you a
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  narcissist. I feel like I have to repeat
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  that again because people will see this video log off like
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  they'll listen to the very first part and hear me say drinking.
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  They'll stop watching the video and they order listen to the
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  listen to the podcast and go directly to the comment section
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  and say something crazy as hell that I address that I address if
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  they would just kept listening. So be very careful #2 addiction,
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  the number, the second thing that I have written down, again,
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  these are in no particular order, but I just got it written
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  down. Drugs of all kinds, drugs of all
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  kinds, drugs for everybody. There are a lot of narcissists
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  have drug addiction problems. And yes, when you're dealing
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  with a narcissistic person has any kind of any type of
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  addiction, right? What it, what whatever it is to
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  like, I feel like the addiction can be a form of escapism,
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  right? For me and me in particular, I
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  have a very addictive personality.
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  I really do. If I find something I like, I'll
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  just do that to the end of times and I will not stop doing it
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  seriously. I will.
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  If I find something that I actually enjoy doing, I very
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  rarely will stop doing it. So I'm just like, OK, I cannot
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  keep, I cannot do this again. I cannot keep doing this type of
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  stuff right. I will not do it right because I
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  can't do certain drugs or whatever case may be because I
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  know, I know I get addicted to it.
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  I ain't trying to be on the street corner begging.
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  I ain't trying to sell my life. I ain't trying to do that today,
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  right? So I understand who I am and
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  what I have going on. So hell no, I'm not trying to do
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  that. Absolutely.
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  And I absolutely am not trying to do that.
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  I hope that brings you all some clarity right there because a
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  lot of narcissists do have addiction to certain type of
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  drugs. And yes, I will say there's some
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  drugs are worse than others. I would say.
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  And again, don't take that the wrong way.
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  I'm not trying to diminish anybody's addiction, but if you
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  have a narcissistic person that's addicted to drugs, they
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  will use their they get more manipulative when they need a
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  fix or when they need a high or when they need a drink.
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  When they have these addiction issues that they're ashamed of,
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  they will because they can absolutely become more
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  manipulative, right? They can become more toxic.
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  They can do a lot of this type of stuff right here, you know,
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  and I feel like this is what ends up happening to so many
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  people in these scenarios or in these situations or, or what of
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  what I would say, right? And this is the mentality I go
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  through. I'll also say this right here.
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  Yeah, be very careful because they will take your money.
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  They'll like you. You might be unknowingly
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  enabling their addiction by continuously giving them money
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  and whatever the case may be, right?
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  So I'll say that too. Also, I will say this, the next
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  one, number three on the list is people.
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  Yes, some narcissists are addicted to people and you might
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  absolutely be one of those people that a narcissistic
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  person is addicted to, right? They can absolutely be addicted
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  to people. Like again, obsession
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  addictions, they can be very they can run, they can run into
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  the same thing, like the obsessions and addictions can be
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  1 and the same. They can absolutely be addicted
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  to you as a person and which which could also be an equal
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  thing like they can equally be addicted and obsessed at the
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  same time. But when you get a narcissist
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  that is obsessed with you, you have to be very careful because
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  addicted to you, they this is type of narcissistic person that
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  will move on to a new relationship and refuse to let
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  you move on. This is the type of narcissistic
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  person that will absolutely treat you horribly, do the worst
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  things to you, cheat on you, lie to you, start a whole new family
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  elsewhere and refuse to let you go because they are obsessed or
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  addicted to you. I think a lot of narcissists can
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  have people addictions that come out as obsession that looks like
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  them trying to own the person that they're that they're with.
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  They can't absolutely try to own you.
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  You will be a they will try to claim ownership over you because
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  of what has happened and what transpired in the relationships.
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  You have to be very, very careful when you're dealing with
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  a narcissist. It look like out, it might look
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  like love or feel like love or sound like love, but it's not
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  love. It's like love adjacent, right?
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  It's like that. It's like Splenda.
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  It's not sugar like look like look like sugar tastes like
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  sugar, but it's Splenda different.
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  It's different. It's, it's Splenda love.
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  The fourth thing. So and part of like what
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  narcissists get addicted to, it's still #3 out part of what
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  narcissists get addicted to with people is the love bombing.
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  Love bombing brain a lot of like releases a lot of dopamine or
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  oxytocin, whatever, whatever the feel good chemical is in our
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  body. Like love releases, love bombing
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  releases a lot of that. They chase the high of the love
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  bombing phase. That's why you get a lot of
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  narcis who are consistently in new relationships, consistently
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  love bombing other people because it's addicted.
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  Love bombing makes me feel good. Love bombing.
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  I can get a high from love bombing.
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  Love bombing can absolutely be an addiction in my mind.
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  So from my perspective, in my opinion as a diagnosed
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  narcissist, I think the love bombing could absolutely be a
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  viable addiction to for narcissistic people to
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  absolutely have. And then #4 I got right here is
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  bedroom stuff, clapping cheeks, SEX.
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  There are a lot of narcissists who have addictions to bedroom
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  stuff. Absolutely.
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  And this addiction right here. And so let me say this real
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  quick. Can a lot of narcissists fake
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  having this addiction? Yes, there are.
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  Yeah. There are a tremendous amount of
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  people that will fake having a SEX addiction just to sort of
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  they can justify their cheating. I don't know what's wrong with
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  me. I just can't stop cheating.
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  I don't know what it is. I wish I could stop but I can't.
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  I don't know what it is about me, but I just can't stop
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  cheating. Damn it, damn me to hell I don't
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  know what's. Wrong.
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  They will blame everything but themselves, right?
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  They'll put it on to everybody but themselves, everything but
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  themselves. Like they will lie.
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  Now it RSEX addiction is real. Can you somebody be addicted?
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  Yes. But a lot of narcissist will
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  fake this addiction to have an excuse to cheat on you.
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  I just can't control myself, but there's a lot of them can.
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  They will lie about having an SEX addiction in order to
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  manipulate you in order to get over on you, in order to just
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  have excuses for their behaviors.
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  Now, some are real. Again, this isn't like if any of
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  these addictions that you see a narcissist has, right?
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  Because sometimes they can drink, they can do drugs, they
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  can, you know what I mean? Be addicted to you.
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  Some of them might have all of this type of stuff, y'all?
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  I think you can have all the new ones I'm going over and it's can
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  seemingly be a functional person.
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  So you have to make the decision if you want to stay with them
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  through these addictions or whatever because sometimes it
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  does not. Most times with a narcissist, it
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  does not get better. They just tend to switch
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  addictions. If they addicted to want
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  something, they get rid of that addiction.
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  They find one that's worse if they don't have the if they if
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  they can't track to finding a healthy 1.
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  All right, last but not least, I'm going over 55.
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  The last one I got rid now is social media.
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  Now there are a ton of people out there.
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  They have an addiction to social media.
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  Let's keep it hot and ready. Let's keep it real.
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  Like a ton of narcissists, they have an addiction to this.
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  Like social media is a place where narcissistic people can
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  get unlimited narcissistic supply.
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  It's somewhere where I can get unlimited validation for the
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  stuff that I'm doing and the stuff that I have absolutely
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  done to other people. I can get unlimited supply.
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  Why wouldn't I keep doing certain things if I can get
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  unlimited narcissistic supply from it?
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  That's something that you absolutely need to consider.
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  Like social media is the easy, one of the easiest functions for
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  narcissists to get addicted to and get narcissistic supply and
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  validation. It's one of the easiest places
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  what narcissists can have online and just lie.
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  They asses off. They can lie to the end of the
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  earth, right? They can lie to the end of time.
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  They will just lie, lie, lie, lie, lie, lie, pans on fire.
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  They would just lie about it. But a lot of narcissists get
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  addicted to social media. It would not.
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  You know those narcissists right there.
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  It's hard to break free of that type of stuff.
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  Anybody. I say again, having any of these
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  addictions did not necessarily make you a narcissist.
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  But narcissists have these addictions and they can make
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  them absolutely horrible people to deal with.
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  I didn't say every one of them was horrible.
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  I say it can make them horrible to deal with, y'all.
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  So if I missed any addictions that you thought I could, you
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  know any addictions that you feel like I would be valuable,
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