Latest / STOPTIME: Live in the Moment. / Lisa Hopkins: The Paradox of Change
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- 0:25Lisa Hopkins: So, according to the meteorological season, autumn starts on September 1st and ends on November 30th.
- 0:32Lisa Hopkins: According to the astronomical calendar, which is based on the position of the sun in relation to the earth, autumn begins this year on September 23rd and ends on December 22nd.
- 0:45Lisa Hopkins: No matter which calendar you follow, I have no doubt that, like me, you are already feeling the inevitable pangs of change and departure that come with fall.
- 0:57Lisa Hopkins: You know, it's a feeling so familiar and yet so hard to name.
- 1:06Lisa Hopkins: It elicits a kind of physical response in the pit of my stomach and it impulse to both hide and explore all at the same time.
- 1:17Lisa Hopkins: And the angle of the sun or the rustle of a tree branch against the cold blue sky can trigger it, at first lonely and ominous, and then just as quickly, vibrant and full ripe, with opportunities as plentiful as the harvest.
- 1:36Lisa Hopkins: A beginning and an ending all at the same time.
- 1:45Lisa Hopkins: You know, psychologists say that the feelings that often crop up in the autumn stem from our discomfort with change and anxiety and uncertainty about what that change might bring.
- 1:58Lisa Hopkins: The melancholy we feel, they say, is a form of grief, mourning the loss of the long summer days.
- 2:05Lisa Hopkins: Nat King Cole nailed it when he called them those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer.
- 2:12Lisa Hopkins: Don't you feel that somehow the longer summer days invite and encourage us to slow down and take our time, to play more and enjoy time with the people we love?
- 2:24Lisa Hopkins: I feel that way, and yet there's never been a time when, even though we have slowed down, that I haven't felt like summer went by so quickly.
- 2:34Lisa Hopkins: That's the melancholy, I suppose.
- 2:37Lisa Hopkins: But I'm learning that you can't long for something if you didn't experience something wonderful enough to be missed in the first place.
- 2:47Lisa Hopkins: I think maybe wistful is a better word to describe how it feels to me, and if I stop thinking about what is gone, I can see much better what is here right now.
- 3:04Lisa Hopkins: There is a quintessential beauty to the fall season, as the leaves magically turn color and offer astounding views of the glorious nature of Mother Earth.
- 3:18Lisa Hopkins: The vibrant colors are matched only by the deep blue melancholy that accompanies the crisp air as the idle kayak knocks against the dock.
- 3:30Lisa Hopkins: But isn't that also wonderfully poetic in its loneliness?
- 3:41Lisa Hopkins: I could choose to live in scarcity and mourn the loss of summer, or I can smile when I recall the early morning summer sounds of laughing ducks and seagulls singing high in the sky as they dive for fish.
- 3:58Lisa Hopkins: I could drown myself in worry about when I'll see my family next.
- 4:05Lisa Hopkins: Or I can feel my heart warm when I remember hosting my family gathering at the lake for the last weekend of summer.
- 4:18Lisa Hopkins: These memories are not being replaced now by the change of season.
- 4:25Lisa Hopkins: These memories are ours to keep and to take with us.
- 4:28Lisa Hopkins: Soon the skies will be ringing with the honking return of the Canada geese who, like bullies on the playground, take over the lake until the last vestige of open water freezes over and they finally migrate to warmer places for the winter.
- 4:47Lisa Hopkins: But you know, by that time we will be looking forward to the holiday season and, who knows, maybe, if we put our minds to it, maybe we will take the time to live in each moment and enjoy what the new season brings.
- 5:11Lisa Hopkins: So if you're feeling that fall feeling today, as I am, you're not alone.
- 5:16Lisa Hopkins: But remember.
- 5:18Lisa Hopkins: Remember how brave you are.
- 5:21Lisa Hopkins: Remember that you have those memories and you keep them with you.
- 5:27Lisa Hopkins: And then curl up in a cozy corner and allow yourself.
- 5:32Lisa Hopkins: Allow yourself to feel all the feels again.
- 5:35Lisa Hopkins: Schedule some time for yourself to not worry about the future and not dwell on the past, on your favorite boots and sweaters.
- 5:46Lisa Hopkins: Breathe the fresh, crisp air linger in a bookstore and enjoy all the fruits of the harvest.
- 5:56Lisa Hopkins: I'm Lisa Hopkins.
- 5:59Lisa Hopkins: Thanks so much for listening.
- 6:01Lisa Hopkins: Stay safe and healthy, everyone, and remember to live in the moment.