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Season 2 - Episode 342 - The big moments · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  One of my favorite all time authors is Sarah Ban Brenneth
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  and she wrote so many wonderful books.
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  Any one of them that you grab is awesome, but there is a quote
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  from her in one of her books that I want to share with you
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  guys today. We think that it's the big
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  moments that define our lives. The wedding, the baby, the new
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  house, the dream job. But really, these big moments of
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  happiness are just punctuation marks.
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  The narrative is written every day in the small and the simple,
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  and that is such an important thing to remember, especially
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  coming up to the end of the year because we get distraught over
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  doing all the little chores. We get distraught over feeling
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  overwhelmed by the chores, the laundry, living life as it is.
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  We allow ourselves to become angry, irritated, frustrated in
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  having to do the mundane things because we do them all the time.
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  So we feel robbed by it. The real question comes down to
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  can you control your thought to say I don't have to feel that
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  way about it? Yes you can.
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  You can choose to recognize that this will not be here.
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  You know my son's bathroom is a chronic issue because he will
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  just destroy his bathroom. I tell him go in and clean it
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  up. He does.
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  Every day I have to say the same things.
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  And you would think, doesn't the kid get it?
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  But it's frustrating because I don't like messes.
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  But I realize, you know, he's not going to be here forever.
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  He's not going to be here forever.
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  And it is. Yes, as one of my friends
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  informed me, you are training another woman's husband.
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  And yes, that is true. I am.
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  But I'm not training him. I'm showing him possibilities of
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  who he gets to be. I don't train people like that
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  it if, especially if they're not wanting it.
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  I'm showing possibilities and I'm showing him that he can be a
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  different person. By deciding to do things
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  differently, I can give him the opportunity to always rise above
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  and choose different things and show different paths to him.
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  And in the process of doing that, one of those things that I
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  want to show him is that you can find appreciation in the
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  mundane. You know, the lessons of monks
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  all around the world is that in the chores, while you're doing
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  your chores, while you're doing all these things that some
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  people may see are not important, mundane things, you
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  can find love you can find and cherish those moments.
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  And I think that that's the piece of it that's so important.
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  You can find that the the actual centeredness in those
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  predictable moments because they are certain you will be doing
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  dishes you will be cleaning. You will be doing that and
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  rather than choosing to find aggravation in it, you can find
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  possibility of peace in it and use that time and actually put
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  your brain on to something different.
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  Now, if you can't control those thoughts and frustration, I
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  highly recommend that you use Audible while you are doing it.
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  And I don't get paid to recommend Audible.
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  Trust me, but I will tell you it is a very useful tool.
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  Put only one earbud in. Even if you have it.
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  You know you want people to feel like you're just zoning out.
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  You're not. Your subconscious mind is
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  constantly absorbing and remembering everything.
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  So allow it to do so and just put one earbud in and then you
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  can still talk to people, but your brain, your subconscious
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  part of you is working on that and calming down and saying to
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  yourself, this is part of the life that we have as human
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  beings. These are part of the things
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  that we do so that we can have those moments to rest our brain
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  and to not be aggravated by it. Aggravation is a choice, my
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  friends. And if you choose to just let it
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  go and say, OK, I'm not going to be aggravated by this, I'm just
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  going to allow it to go. You're actually performing an
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  act that's even bigger than most people realize because you are
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  now in charge of driving that bus.
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  You are in charge of pulling those people back from those
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  driver seats. All those emotions, and you're
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  saying I am in control of this and I choose this instead.
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  Now, this doesn't mean you should run amok and let somebody
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  misuse you and you do all the chores and whatever else it
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  might be that's aggravating in those moments.
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  But the point is, it's about making those choices to say I
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  can, I can put myself into a different headspace with this
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  stuff. I don't have to be so
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  ridiculously hard about it, and I don't have to be so aggravated
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  by it, Because someday it will all be gone.
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  Someday it won't be here. Someday you you will wish you
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  were doing laundry for other people.
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  Someday you wish you were doing the mowing the lawn.
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  Someday you wish you were able to go out and run errands all
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  day long. Because someday you won't be
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  able to. And that day, I promise you.
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  You know, if we're all lucky when it comes, you'll think
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  about this and you'll be like, damn, I wish I had enjoyed that
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  a little bit more. So try it.
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  It really does work. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.