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The Ship Can't Sink... · Billy & Lisa in the Morning: The After Show

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  Speaker 1: All right, let's get this going here after show podcast
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  Speaker 1: is on. It is a Wednesday, June third. Welcome in, everybody.
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  Speaker 1: A lot's going on. As always, I am moving and
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  Speaker 1: shaking here at the radio station. Well, I had a
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  Speaker 1: special guest that set in on the last segment of
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  Speaker 1: the show. His name was Sammy. Is Sammy. He's a
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  Speaker 1: student at UMass Lowell and I got reached out and
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  Speaker 1: they said, you know, we have this kids really into
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  Speaker 1: production audio production. Could he come in and sit and
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  Speaker 1: watch you? And I love that so much, so shout
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  Speaker 1: out to young Sammy. He came in, sat in for
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  Speaker 1: the entire nine am hour. So I was just talking
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  Speaker 1: to him after the show and kind of explaining to
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  Speaker 1: him different things that I do. And you know, it's
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  Speaker 1: always situations like that where an outsider comes in and
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  Speaker 1: they watch kind of how the show works and how
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  Speaker 1: it runs, what I do, what Billy does, Lisa to everybody,
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  Speaker 1: and how he kind of worked together as a team.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I do it every day. I don't take
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  Speaker 1: it for granted, but I definitely it becomes normal. But
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  Speaker 1: when someone sits in and watches and you just watch
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  Speaker 1: their jaw drop like almost like how do you do that.
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  Speaker 1: How do you, you know, put this thing together and execute it.
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  Speaker 1: And it's a good failing. You know, it's a really
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  Speaker 1: good failing. And you know, I explained to him, it
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  Speaker 1: didn't start like that. It started just like you a
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  Speaker 1: college student. I didn't know anything. I didn't know how
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  Speaker 1: to edit, I knew nothing. All I knew was I
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  Speaker 1: loved radio. I loved radio. I love music, I love entertainment,
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  Speaker 1: I love all I love news, I love all that stuff.
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  Speaker 1: And so that's what I wanted to do. That was
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  Speaker 1: my dream, and I made it happen. And I said
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  Speaker 1: to him, you can too, you know you can. Don't
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  Speaker 1: ever let anybody tell you that you cannot do anything.
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  Speaker 1: I swear to God. That's like the one of the
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  Speaker 1: top things messages that I love to get out to
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  Speaker 1: people is that anything is possible. My story speaks for itself.
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  Speaker 1: It still blows my mind all these years later that
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  Speaker 1: I ended up here. So for young Sammy, he can
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  Speaker 1: do whatever he wants. So he's a junior UMass loll
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  Speaker 1: and he's really into like audio and production. So it
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  Speaker 1: was really cool for him to sit in and watch
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  Speaker 1: what I do. And you know, when we're on the air,
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  Speaker 1: and how I'm kind of managing talking and also playing
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  Speaker 1: sound and pulling sound in real time, playing talkbacks live
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  Speaker 1: like right off the system. Is uh, it's pretty cool,
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  Speaker 1: you know. So he was kind of blown away by it.
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  Speaker 1: So thank you to him for coming in. I love
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  Speaker 1: helping the young ins and give them kind of a
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  Speaker 1: glimpse into how this works. You know. Again, I don't
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  Speaker 1: take it for granted. So anyway, welcome in everybody. That's
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  Speaker 1: what I'm laughing because on Friday's episode, you said the
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  Speaker 1: sake just ships or whatever, and you caught yourself head.
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  Speaker 1: But also now that Jen has so much free time now,
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  Speaker 1: she can be on the podcast more if she wants. Yay,
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  Speaker 1: but not yea losing her job. Yeah, definitely not yet
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  Speaker 1: losing her job. She is doing really good though, she's
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  Speaker 1: doing great. But yeah, maybe I will have her back
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  Speaker 1: on why not. She's not doing anything else, She's hanging
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  Speaker 1: but she has job interviews. She had an interview yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: She out to one of our listeners too. So she
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  Speaker 1: applied at this place to be, you know, a nursing
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  Speaker 1: place because she's really into mental health psych She works
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  Speaker 1: in addict She worked, I should say an addiction but
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  Speaker 1: she's going to be a psych NDP, so she really
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  Speaker 1: wants to get into that, you know, kind of mental
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  Speaker 1: health psych part of it. So she applied at this
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  Speaker 1: place and then I didn't know, I don't know where
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  Speaker 1: she's applying, but then I got a DM from a
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  Speaker 1: listener and she's an After Show Army member and she said, hey,
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  Speaker 1: have her apply at my job. I'm not going to
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  Speaker 1: name it. They have openings. So I said, it's my wife,
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  Speaker 1: and she goes, I just applied. So the listener is
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  Speaker 1: going to put a good word in for my wife.
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  Speaker 1: But she's trying to decide on what to do honestly,
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  Speaker 1: you know, does she go back into addiction treatment? You know,
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  Speaker 1: there's there's several opportunities. There's one that's like she's like
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  Speaker 1: a hospice nurse manager, which would be really tough, but
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  Speaker 1: I feel like she feels like it would be very rewarding,
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  Speaker 1: you know, although very very tough. And then I reminded
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  Speaker 1: her of remember we used to do local legends years ago.
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  Speaker 1: We used to go out into the community and kind
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  Speaker 1: of surprise these people that are doing great things in
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  Speaker 1: the you know, their community. Probably they were all great,
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  Speaker 1: but the one that really sticks out to me is
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  Speaker 1: the hospice nurse at Mass General Hospital. This woman has
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  Speaker 1: worked in hospice for years and years and years, and
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  Speaker 1: she is like the last person, one of the last
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  Speaker 1: people that these people see before they die, and she
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  Speaker 1: does such a great job. And I remember we went
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  Speaker 1: there and they had the whole administrative staff, all the
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  Speaker 1: employees were all they're waiting for us. There must have
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  Speaker 1: been one hundred people to honor this woman and they
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  Speaker 1: just went through like what she does, and it's unimaginable.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's sad. Obviously, a loss of life is sad,
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  Speaker 1: but what she provides for these people is just it's
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  Speaker 1: so so powerful what she does. So that was like
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  Speaker 1: the super honor to honor her and the work that
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  Speaker 1: she does. So I was telling my wife about that,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, she is very She's a caretaker in nature.
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  Speaker 1: That's just how she is. She is so loyal and
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  Speaker 1: so loving, right, Like, that's the so many great qualities
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  Speaker 1: of my wife that I love and and and those
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  Speaker 1: are my top right, It's like how loyal she is,
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  Speaker 1: how great of a mom she is, how much she
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  Speaker 1: loves and puts her puts others before herself. So she
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  Speaker 1: would be really great at it. She really would be
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  Speaker 1: great at I remember when we first started dating, dating right,
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  Speaker 1: and she had broken up with her boyfriend, so she
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  Speaker 1: was with this kid, and it was kind of a
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  Speaker 1: rocky relationship. Anyway, she moved in with him. They were
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  Speaker 1: together for several months, and he was also a recovering
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  Speaker 1: addict who was kind of using too, and they had
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  Speaker 1: an apartment and he was a roofer and he fell
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  Speaker 1: off the roof crazy and he broke all these things
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  Speaker 1: in his body and he was in a wheelchair and
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  Speaker 1: she so basically the relationship wasn't going good, like she
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  Speaker 1: was going to leave, like she wasn't happy, and then
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  Speaker 1: he fell off the roof, and she took care of him,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and she wasn't going to leave, like she
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  Speaker 1: she told me that She's like, you know, he needed me,
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  Speaker 1: I needed I needed to be there. This is way
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  Speaker 1: before she was ever thought about being a nurse. She
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  Speaker 1: didn't even work in the medical community. She was a
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  Speaker 1: server at Denny's, okay, And I just always remembered that, like,
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  Speaker 1: she loves taking care of people, So I think the
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  Speaker 1: nursing thing is the perfect thing for her. Although now
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  Speaker 1: she's more into the management part of it. But she'll
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  Speaker 1: be just fine. I think the biggest thing she wants
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  Speaker 1: is just to take a little bit of time off
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  Speaker 1: to do things that she's been wanting to do. Things
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  Speaker 1: at the house. You know, she gets up, gets the
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  Speaker 1: kids off to school, and then she does whatever she wants. Man,
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  Speaker 1: you know, so shout out to my wife. Maybe I'll
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  Speaker 1: get her on here again. Some other updates, non show related.
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  Speaker 1: My friend is being released from Detox today. He's getting
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  Speaker 1: picked up right now actually, so I'm awaiting his phone call.
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  Speaker 1: I am looking forward to hearing from him. He seems
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  Speaker 1: to be in good spirits. His wife is pretty happy.
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  Speaker 1: I know he was only in there for a week.
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  Speaker 1: Actually it was a week ago today that I brought
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  Speaker 1: him in. But she says he's in good spirits and
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  Speaker 1: again he had a long time clean. He can do
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  Speaker 1: it again. He knows what he has to do. I
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  Speaker 1: did tell him that although he was fed up when
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  Speaker 1: I was with him, but he completed the program. He
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  Speaker 1: stayed there. He was gonna leave Monday because of work.
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  Speaker 1: He owns a company, you know, like he needs to
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  Speaker 1: work and manage the company and support his family. But
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  Speaker 1: he chose to stay and complete the program, which I
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  Speaker 1: think is is really really huge. So he's gonna call
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  Speaker 1: me today and we're gonna make some plans to get
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  Speaker 1: together and hang out and hopefully, uh, he'll stay clean.
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  Speaker 1: You know, who knows. There's just so much going on, man,
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  Speaker 1: There's always so much going on in life, you know,
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  Speaker 1: not even just at work, but just in my general life.
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  Speaker 1: There's always things happening, things with my friends and family.
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  Speaker 1: And it's all good, man, It's all good as long
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  Speaker 1: as I just keep showing up. That's what it's about.
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  Speaker 1: Just keep showing up for life, for my family, for
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  Speaker 1: my job. I really believe that consistency is such an
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  Speaker 1: important part of life, you know, like you want to
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  Speaker 1: be depended on and and I feel like that's one
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  Speaker 1: of the stronger characteristics character traits I guess I should
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  Speaker 1: say about myself beause I'm consistent. Man. I show up
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  Speaker 1: like I do the same things every day. You know,
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  Speaker 1: when I get to work, I've never been late for work.
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  Speaker 1: Knock on wood, you know. I show up on time
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  Speaker 1: every day, and not just at work too. I show
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  Speaker 1: up to the gym, say, or I you know, show
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  Speaker 1: up for my family. Like everything is about consistency because
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  Speaker 1: I feel like when you start not being consistent, that's
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  Speaker 1: when you start falling off making bad decisions. You know.
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  Speaker 1: It's like when you start lying right, Like this is
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  Speaker 1: such a common thing, especially like in my world, when
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  Speaker 1: you start lying, it opens up the door, right and
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  Speaker 1: then you get hit with the liabetes, which is a
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  Speaker 1: disease that you do not want to have, you know,
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  Speaker 1: if you live a life that's you know of honesty,
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  Speaker 1: and then you veer off and you take a left
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  Speaker 1: turn and you start lying, the lies just keep coming,
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  Speaker 1: and before you know it, you're caught in a spider
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  Speaker 1: web of lies that you cannot get out of. And
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  Speaker 1: that can happen so so fast. You know, I lied
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  Speaker 1: my entire life, man like I was a professional liar.
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  Speaker 1: I thought I was. I told so many lies that
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  Speaker 1: eventually I did not know what was real and what
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  Speaker 1: was not. And this is I don't think I ever
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  Speaker 1: shared this before. I lied so much about so many
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  Speaker 1: different things that when I look back on my life
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  Speaker 1: growing up, there are some things that I do not
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  Speaker 1: remember if they're true or not. Like there are stories
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  Speaker 1: that I've told where I think they're true or I
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  Speaker 1: might have made them up honestly, because for whatever reason,
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  Speaker 1: I just lied about the story. I mean, I'm not
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  Speaker 1: gonna name anything in particular. It's just more of a
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  Speaker 1: general statement. Like when I got clean. I remember thinking back,
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  Speaker 1: I remember telling stories to people, things that happened, and
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  Speaker 1: then in my mind thinking did that happen or did
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  Speaker 1: I make it up? That's how much I lied. So
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  Speaker 1: when I stopped lying and lived an honest life, things
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  Speaker 1: got better and I didn't have the anxiety anymore. And
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  Speaker 1: I didn't have to, you know, have this pressure of
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  Speaker 1: who I told what to. There was just no more lying.
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  Speaker 1: And I've been pretty good. I've been consistent, That's what
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  Speaker 1: I said, consistency since then. And I just like I
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  Speaker 1: like the freedom, man. That's what I love is freedom.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have to answer to anybody. I didn't hurt anybody.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't lie to anybody. Like my name is good,
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  Speaker 1: and I like to keep it that way. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you don't want your name to be bad, man. I'm
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  Speaker 1: telling you, because once you crossed that line, it is
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  Speaker 1: no good anyway. It's a beautiful day today, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: get out and enjoy it. Today. I gonna go see Jenna.
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  Speaker 1: I go see her every two weeks and she works
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  Speaker 1: on my broken body. She is just amazing. She really is.
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  Speaker 1: Like if you've never been to a stretched person, she
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  Speaker 1: would be the person to go to. And it's so
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  Speaker 1: funny because she's just my friend, Like she's not like
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  Speaker 1: a client. There's not like a deal. It's just what
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  Speaker 1: she does for people is I think everybody should experience.
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  Speaker 1: And that's just from a personal standpoint. It isn't like
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  Speaker 1: an ad. You have to understand that, Like I'm not
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  Speaker 1: being paid to saying I'm a customer of hers. But
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  Speaker 1: one thing I do love about her is when you go,
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  Speaker 1: you could go one time. Now granted it's a business, right,
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  Speaker 1: she would want you to come back again and again
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  Speaker 1: and again, like I do right, Like I'm a good customer.
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  Speaker 1: But when you go see her, you know she will
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  Speaker 1: look at your body and see what's going on, and
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  Speaker 1: then she'll literally show you what to do at home.
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  Speaker 1: She'll be like, if you want this to get better,
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  Speaker 1: do She'll write a plan for you right there and then.
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  Speaker 1: And it's not like you know, hey, come back and
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  Speaker 1: see me. It's like I'm here when you need me,
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  Speaker 1: but do the work. And I just love that so much.
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  Speaker 1: It's such an honest thing, and you know, I like it.
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  Speaker 1: We hang out and you know, she stretches me and
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  Speaker 1: I have issues. Man, I have issues. My shoulders messed up,
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  Speaker 1: my hips messed up. I mean they're getting better. I've
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  Speaker 1: been doing a lot of exercises on my own, but
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  Speaker 1: she kind of goes and kind of works them. And
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  Speaker 1: she has all these like gadgets and stuff. So I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna go her see her this afternoon, and then that's
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  Speaker 1: pretty much it. My son had baseball last night late.
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  Speaker 1: I did miss the game. It was seven thirty to
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  Speaker 1: nine thirty, which is like crazy. So I hit all
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  Speaker 1: his games, and I said, I felt guilty a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: But then I'm like I talked to him and I'm like, buddy,
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  Speaker 1: you know I'm there every single game, Like I never
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  Speaker 1: ever miss a practice, miss a game. I'm like seven
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  Speaker 1: thirty to nine thirty, like on a Tuesday night. It's
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  Speaker 1: gonna mess me up the whole week. And he's like, Dad,
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  Speaker 1: it's not a big deal, Like mom can take me.
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  Speaker 1: Mom will just take me. You go to bed, and
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  Speaker 1: I'll be at the next game. So there's that. Anyway.
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  Speaker 1: Check out the show's podcast today. I always say that,
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  Speaker 1: but we had a lot of fun today topic time.
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  Speaker 1: I knew it would be a wild one, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Kristen Cavalieri went on our podcast and was talking about
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  Speaker 1: the celebrity second date. The guy's like, I have a
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  Speaker 1: mole on my dick. Can you look at it? Like?
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  Speaker 1: Does she look like a friggin doctor to you? Like?
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  Speaker 1: What kind of move is that? And so that kind
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  Speaker 1: of transitioned into crazy you know, first dage stories and
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  Speaker 1: let me tell you, these things never disappoint. We could
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  Speaker 1: do a weekly topic on this, on the crazy World
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  Speaker 1: of dating. And I don't know, man, I'm not in
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  Speaker 1: that situation, but I feel like I would know not
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  Speaker 1: to say or do these things. I know, I told
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  Speaker 1: a story about falling asleep on the first date with Jen.
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  Speaker 1: I was high, Like I didn't say that on the show,
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  Speaker 1: but I was jammed out of my mind, like I had.
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  Speaker 1: I was kind of chipping away and getting high, and
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  Speaker 1: I had, you know, done some drugs before the date,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because I was nervous. I really liked her,
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  Speaker 1: and you know, I had no self confidence, so I thought,
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  Speaker 1: let me do a little bit. But a little bit
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  Speaker 1: turned into a lot, and so by the time we
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  Speaker 1: got to the movies, it's dark, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 1: you start like falling asleep. So that was that's what
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  Speaker 1: happened to me. But I'm telling you, it's like a
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  Speaker 1: PSA for people of what not to say or do.
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  Speaker 1: Uh when you're dating. You know, guy have friends that
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  Speaker 1: are dating and they're pretty successful, honestly, they really are.
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  Speaker 1: Facebook dating seems to be the one that that they're
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  Speaker 1: having the most success on. But still it's like trying
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  Speaker 1: to find that one, you know, if you're really trying
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  Speaker 1: to find that person, it's hard. Man. I'm really lucky
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  Speaker 1: and I know that, Like I'm grateful, and I know
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people that are in my life look
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  Speaker 1: at my marriage, my relationship with my wife and they're like,
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  Speaker 1: how the fuck did you do that? Like how did
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  Speaker 1: you get into this position? And you know, the truth
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  Speaker 1: of the matter is listen, I've told that story a
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  Speaker 1: million times. Like when we knew each other when we
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  Speaker 1: were young and there was a connection, years went by,
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  Speaker 1: we reconnected. It wasn't like we met for the first
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  Speaker 1: time and had to build this connection. The connection was there,
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  Speaker 1: it was just lying dormant. So by the time came
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  Speaker 1: when we got back together, we were both in a
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  Speaker 1: position where by chance we moved one city apart, far
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  Speaker 1: away from where we grew up. Like I grew up
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  Speaker 1: in Malden, she was in Medford, and then years later
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  Speaker 1: I ended up in Behavioral and she's in Lawrence. You know,
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  Speaker 1: so like, what are the chances of that? But when
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  Speaker 1: we got back together, that connection was just like boom,
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  Speaker 1: it was already there. And we were both in a
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  Speaker 1: position of life. We were both single, we were both
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  Speaker 1: like getting out life lives together, and we just continued
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  Speaker 1: on from there. Not any easy, you know, I've shared
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  Speaker 1: about that a million times. But remember, let's see if
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  Speaker 1: I can get this right. For that talkbacker, the ship
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  Speaker 1: doesn't sink. The ship cannot sink. And when you live
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  Speaker 1: your life like that in your marriage, like no matter what,
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  Speaker 1: it can't sink. Now, if I go and cheat on
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  Speaker 1: my wife, right, if I go and sleep with another girl,
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  Speaker 1: or if she sleeps with another guy and cheats on me,
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  Speaker 1: obviously the ship might be going down. You know, I
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  Speaker 1: don't know. But if none of that is happening, And
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• 15:36
  Speaker 1: you know, not every day is paradise, but the ultimate
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  Speaker 1: kind of mindset is that the ship doesn't sink, that
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: we need to keep it afloat. So that's what we do,
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  Speaker 1: all right, Friends again, always talkbacks. I love to hear
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  Speaker 1: from you on the after show. I don't know what's
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: going on tomorrow. I think we have a meeting. God
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: so many meetings tomorrow, so I will check in. Don't
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  Speaker 1: know the length that it will be, but listen, five
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  Speaker 1: days a week. You're got to check in on the
• 16:02
  Speaker 1: after show because I like being a part of your routine.
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  Speaker 1: And if the Billion Leads to Show podcast is a
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: part of your routine, then hopefully the after show is
• 16:09
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