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Ben Needs Someone To Spy on Mercedes · I Do, Part 2

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  Speaker 1: iHeart podcasts, bring you the ultimate Summer of love Tree.
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  Speaker 1: This is Famously Available. Hey, I'm your host, Ben Higgins,
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  Speaker 1: back with you on Famously Available and we are getting
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  Speaker 1: ready for mercedes jingle Ball blind date. So I think
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  Speaker 1: this is the perfect time for me to bring in
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  Speaker 1: someone that I love, that I trust, I do trust
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  Speaker 1: that I think is one of the best encouragers I've
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  Speaker 1: ever met for me personally, and I believe she can
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  Speaker 1: be an encourager to everyone she's around. She's going to
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  Speaker 1: be my reinforcements tonight, my eyes and ears on the ground.
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  Speaker 1: I'm bringing in no other than Famously Available Gal Kathy Swartz. Kathy, Hello, those.
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  Speaker 2: Are such kind words. Ben. Thanks. I'm glad to be
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  Speaker 2: here and be your.
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  Speaker 1: Spy now tonight. Kathy and Deanna are going to be
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  Speaker 1: my eyes and ears. You're going to be looking out
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  Speaker 1: for Mercedes on this date. Kathy, Okay, I got her.
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  Speaker 1: Will you agree to the terms that I'm offering.
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  Speaker 3: If it's protecting her from life and limb, I'm on it.
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  Speaker 1: You are going to be I mean, Mercedes has a
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  Speaker 1: lot of really close friends going to jingle Ball with
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  Speaker 1: her tonight, which is awesome and so Kathy. Really, what
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  Speaker 1: I want from you and Deanna is to be the
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  Speaker 1: eyes and ears, to be the watchful supporters, sometimes from
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  Speaker 1: a distance and sometimes up close. I need you paying
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  Speaker 1: attention to body language, the conversation that's happening, and how
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  Speaker 1: he mingles with others. Now, Mercedes has already told me,
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  Speaker 1: Kathy that something very attractive to her is when her
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  Speaker 1: dates can mingle with her friends. Well, so we got
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  Speaker 1: to watch for that.
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  Speaker 2: Got it. I'm on it because.
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  Speaker 4: He's coming in because it's like, you know, Katie, Jess,
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  Speaker 4: Gabby's going to be there too. Oh, and we're all
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  Speaker 4: in the same season. So I'm like, it'll be very
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  Speaker 4: telling how he like.
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  Speaker 2: You know, Yeah, can I be his mother? Yes?
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  Speaker 5: You got it?
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  Speaker 2: Girl actually holds doores?
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  Speaker 5: What is that?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, you can yell at them. I would love
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  Speaker 1: for you to yell at them, Kathy. I would love
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  Speaker 1: for you to be the the antivity, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: I gently encourage.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, fair Mercedes uh talking to Kathy right now, as
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  Speaker 1: she will be the eyes and ears and also kind
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  Speaker 1: of the the spy on the ground, but strategically placed
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  Speaker 1: to also step in when she sees it's necessary and needed.
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  Speaker 1: What are some red flags that Kathy can be looking
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  Speaker 1: out for on this date and paying attention to.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, like in me or him?
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  Speaker 1: I guess both.
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  Speaker 6: You yeah, zero, I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like sometimes like my body language, you can
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  Speaker 4: tell if I'm like, someone else could come in the conversation,
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  Speaker 4: like maybe it's like it's awkward.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know, so they I don't know. Maybe just
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  Speaker 5: like my body languige.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, what do you do when you're nervous? What'ta be
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  Speaker 3: looking for? What do you do when you're feeling awkward
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  Speaker 3: or nervous?
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  Speaker 5: Laugh a lot?
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  Speaker 4: Like I think like someone will be like say something,
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  Speaker 4: I'll just like laugh just because I feel like that
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  Speaker 4: makes it feel better.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 6: So maybe that I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: That's good.
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  Speaker 2: It's good ice breaker. Yeah, yeah, for sure.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know other red flags. I don't know what's
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  Speaker 5: his red flag?
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  Speaker 2: What's something that could end this before it gets started?
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  Speaker 6: Ooh maybe?
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  Speaker 4: I mean honestly, what if he gets there and he's like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, mingling doing his things and then doesn't give
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  Speaker 4: me the attention, like doesn't make me feel seen, I'll
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  Speaker 4: have a word with him.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah okay, Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So that's that's the red flag that you got to
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  Speaker 4: be looking for. Make sure he's giving me attention.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, got it.
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  Speaker 1: I trust Kathy when she says I will have a
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  Speaker 1: word with him, she will make sure this guy is
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  Speaker 1: on the straight note tonight. Now, Kathy, I need you
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  Speaker 1: to be slick like this is not an upfront like
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  Speaker 1: he doesn't need to know that. I've asked this of
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  Speaker 1: you and Deanna, but I need you to be slick.
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  Speaker 1: And I also, if you can, would you text me
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  Speaker 1: some pictures? Does it have to be the two of
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  Speaker 1: them together, even just some pictures and updates as the
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  Speaker 1: night goes on. Absolutely, I appreciate that. And you know
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna be strategically talking through the night about how
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  Speaker 1: things are going now. I think the two of you,
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  Speaker 1: because we have the ability to set this up beforehand,
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  Speaker 1: need a code word. So Mercedes, when you need Deanna
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  Speaker 1: or Kathy to step in, I think a code word
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  Speaker 1: would be really helpful, helpful or necessary, good or bad?
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  Speaker 1: Like she maybe you just need a break and you
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  Speaker 1: need somebody to distract him for a bit.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, that code word, Bell.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know what what comes to mind for you.
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  Speaker 2: It's got to be something that you feel comfortable utter ring.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know. I'm not good with coming up with
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  Speaker 5: stuff like this.
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  Speaker 6: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I got it's not a code word, But Mercedes, I
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  Speaker 1: think you need to give Kathy a very clear wink
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  Speaker 1: when you need it, like just a nice little wink,
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  Speaker 1: because that can come off as you're just saying hey
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  Speaker 1: to Kathy or I'm saying hey, Kathy, Deanna, I need
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  Speaker 1: you to step in right now. But a nice wink
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  Speaker 1: is just a really kind you.
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  Speaker 4: Do.
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  Speaker 1: So this this is going to be a ton of
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  Speaker 1: fun and it is an event whether it's loud and
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  Speaker 1: there's a lot of people. Kathy, obviously you and Deanna
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  Speaker 1: are also participating with us in this whole experience when
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  Speaker 1: it comes to a first date. Kathy, Uh, what is
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  Speaker 1: your advice for Mercedes as she walks into these type
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  Speaker 1: of scenarios.
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  Speaker 3: You mean specifically tonight, I think tonight's a good Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: In general, I think it's.
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  Speaker 3: Going to be a little different because there's it's going
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  Speaker 3: to be so many people there and loud. So if
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  Speaker 3: I were him, I'd probably be saying, hey, do you
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  Speaker 3: want to just step out in the hallway and just
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  Speaker 3: talk for a few minutes. I would do that if
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  Speaker 3: I were you, because otherwise, you know, you're just not
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  Speaker 3: going to be able to necessarily hear what you say.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, it'll be like chaotic too long.
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  Speaker 3: You know, you just just long enough to see if
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  Speaker 3: he deserves a second date.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, tonight will be a hard place to have, Like
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  Speaker 1: it's a fun place to have a first day, I think,
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  Speaker 1: but it will be a hard place to have too
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  Speaker 1: high expectations of how much you're going to get to
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  Speaker 1: know about this guy because it is loud.
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  Speaker 2: Come on, let's be honest.
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  Speaker 3: When you see someone and you look him in the
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  Speaker 3: eye and you see his smile and how he's dressed
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  Speaker 3: and what he looks like, you're going to know whether
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  Speaker 3: you would really rather listen to the music or talk right.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, very true.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, the two of you have met how many times
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  Speaker 1: previous to this?
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  Speaker 3: Just once before at Katie, Katy and Zach's wedding party.
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  Speaker 1: At Katie and Zach's party.
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  Speaker 6: Last week was very recent.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Mercedes, I probably should have asked for your consent
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  Speaker 1: before I asked Kathy to be your wing woman at
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  Speaker 1: this then are yes?
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  Speaker 6: One hundreds?
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  Speaker 3: She is gorgeous and listen to any guy that doesn't
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  Speaker 3: just say, how did I get so lucky? Unless he
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  Speaker 3: decides he wants a cougar, in which case you're out,
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  Speaker 3: in which case, which in which case this experiment is over.
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  Speaker 3: That does lead me to a question, Kathy, for you. Obviously,
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  Speaker 3: you and Deanna are going to be there tonight, taking
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  Speaker 3: part in everything going on and having a blast. But
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  Speaker 3: will the two of you be keeping your eyes open
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  Speaker 3: for yourselves you think at this event?
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  Speaker 2: Does that really require an answer that?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, he does.
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  Speaker 3: Answer, But yes, always, I always have one eye in
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  Speaker 3: the present and one eye.
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  Speaker 2: In the future.
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  Speaker 5: Love that.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's interesting, Kathy to be in the position
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  Speaker 1: you are with Mercedes. You guys have different tastes. Everybody does.
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  Speaker 1: But is there anything specific that you would be looking
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  Speaker 1: out for, Kathy from a distance when it comes to
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  Speaker 1: this guy that would maybe bring you a red flag?
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  Speaker 2: Well, Mercedes said it.
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  Speaker 3: If he is not looking at you and trying to
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  Speaker 3: cultivate a relationship as best he can, if he's really busy,
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  Speaker 3: for example, talking to the other single girls and not
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  Speaker 3: spending time with you, that is a crimson waving red flag. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: he better be devoting his time and attention to you.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Well, and me, it'd be nice if you could listen
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  Speaker 1: to this because it is very simple tonight. There's not
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  Speaker 1: a lot of like hoops and things you have to do.
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  Speaker 1: All you have to do is just give, you know,
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  Speaker 1: to be curious about Mercedes, give her attention to see
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  Speaker 1: where this can go. There's nothing else. And if he doesn't,
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  Speaker 1: I would say that is a red flag.
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  Speaker 5: Absolutely I would agree with that too.
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  Speaker 2: And I would say it's here's your hat, what's your hurry.
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  Speaker 1: I hope you do, Kathy. I hope you don't have
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  Speaker 1: to do that, but I hope you would if that's
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  Speaker 1: the scenario that you get placed in tonight. I can't
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  Speaker 1: wait to hear how this all goes. It's going to
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  Speaker 1: be absolutely fantastic, Kathy. Before we close out, though, is
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  Speaker 1: there any updates on your love life as we talk?
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  Speaker 2: Not really.
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  Speaker 3: I mean I met a guy I think I talked
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  Speaker 3: to you about him, and it just it didn't He
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  Speaker 3: kind of went for the local girl, nice guy, but
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  Speaker 3: he decided Texas was a little too far away for him.
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  Speaker 1: Is long distance now, Mercedes? Kind of in the back
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  Speaker 1: of your mind after Boston?
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  Speaker 6: Man, is it in the back of my mind?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? Is it something that could be a problem for
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  Speaker 1: you or are you still open to it.
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  Speaker 4: I'm still very open to it. I feel like it
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  Speaker 4: doesn't matter where you are. If you like each other,
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  Speaker 4: you're going to make it work. Yeah, it doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 2: You find a way.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, And because like because that was the same thing
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  Speaker 4: with Boston, Like he was like, oh the distance. But
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  Speaker 4: I'm like, okay, so you just like you weren't willing
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  Speaker 4: to make it work. We could have, but you didn't
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  Speaker 4: want to. And that's fine.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, So like that's fun.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you know, you figured out as far as I'm concerned.
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  Speaker 2: Nice guy. But he didn't waste my time.
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  Speaker 6: I didn't waste his exactly. I that was one thing too.
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  Speaker 4: I think to him, I'm like, thank you for like
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  Speaker 4: doing this now rather than in six months when we're like,
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  Speaker 4: you know, deeper or whatever.
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  Speaker 3: Although I will say, being from Boston myself, you would
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  Speaker 3: love the city.
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  Speaker 2: I know.
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  Speaker 4: I went there one time and I fell in love
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  Speaker 4: with it. I want to go back. But I'm like,
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  Speaker 4: not for him, yeah, no, by myself.
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  Speaker 1: This is going to be a night full of stories
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  Speaker 1: and we're going to be recapping him all here at
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  Speaker 1: Famously Available. I cannot wait for Kathy and Deanna to
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  Speaker 1: be the slick little supporters from the South on Mercedes Date.
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  Speaker 1: We'll be introducing Mercedes to her date tonight on the podcast,
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  Speaker 1: so make sure you tune in for that. These episodes
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  Speaker 1: will be coming out very very soon, and of course
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  Speaker 1: we're gonna get a full recap after the date to
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  Speaker 1: get all the details with all the parties that are involved. Mercedes,
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  Speaker 1: you just found out that you're meeting him on the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: How does that make you feel?
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  Speaker 3: Now?
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  Speaker 6: I'm nervous.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know why that made me more nervous than
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  Speaker 4: just like at iHeart or at the jingle bell.
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  Speaker 6: But it'll be fine, It'll be great.
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  Speaker 1: It's gonna be awesome. You are fantastic, Mercedes. You catch
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  Speaker 1: in a half. You guys go in, you know, stand
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  Speaker 1: tall and just enjoy an evening, because goodness gracious, I
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  Speaker 1: have a feeling that that guy is going to be like,
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  Speaker 1: how did I get so lucky?
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  Speaker 2: How did I get it'd be smart? That's exactly what
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  Speaker 2: he's gonna.
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  Speaker 1: You're If he doesn't, then he's not smart and you
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  Speaker 1: don't need him.
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  Speaker 2: Anyways.
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  Speaker 1: This has been famously available. I've been ben and I
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  Speaker 1: am so excited for all the interviews. And content coming
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  Speaker 1: your way about jingle Ball and Mercedes Date. We are
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  Speaker 1: giving you the Listener the exclusive look into what a
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  Speaker 1: first date sounds like, feels like, and how it's experienced.
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  Speaker 1: And goodness gracious, what an opportunity. Until next time, I've
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  Speaker 1: been Ben