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60. how to take care of YOU this fall season... · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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Hello you guys. Welcome back to another episode of the Hawkgirl Energy Podcast.
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I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is your weekly reminder that it's a
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new day, a new week, a new mindset, and another day for
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you to become the Hawkgirl Energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
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Happy Tuesday. I really wanted to make an episode about something how I'm feeling
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right now, and I feel like a lot of people might be feeling this
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way going into a new season. And maybe this also depends on where you
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live in the world, but personally, for me, I have been feeling
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kind of off these past few weeks since I've been home from my trip,
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and I think a lot of it has to do with just feeling a bit
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more stressed than you usual. You know, obviously, there's just stress that
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everyone deals with when it comes to work or school or anything like that,
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but I feel like, on top of that, I'm also dealing with stress
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with planning a wedding. Obviously, it's definitely a stressful experience. If you
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have ever been a bride, or if you currently are a bride, you
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understand that there's a lot of things to compromise on with your partner and also
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just yeah, finding a venue, going through budgets all that. So it's
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just been a stressful past few weeks. And not only that, I think
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the weather has also played a huge impact in how I've been feeling. We
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have not seen the sun at all this week, like I think, like
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not this week going into a new week, Like last week completely we had
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no sunshine, like every single day we woke up and it was just gloom
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like completely gloomy days, rainy days, all that. So going into a
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new week and it's going to be gloomy for the rest of this week as
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well. So I always find whenever the weather is like this, I do
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get in a darker headspace, just like not feeling my overall self and just
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not yeah, getting out of the house at all. I feel like whenever
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it starts to get colder and the seasons start to change, I feel like
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I hibernate. I don't like to leave my house. I think it's considered
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hibernation season, especially for people who live in Canada like myself. You guys
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get it. You know, it gets colder, the mornings are dark when
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you wake up, the sun sets earlier, so it gets dark super fast
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at night, it just feels off. Especially when you're in the summertime,
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it's completely different, right, Like the sun is up by like five point
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thirty in the morning, you have the sunset that doesn't set to like nine
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pm at night. You want to be going out with your friends. You
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want to enjoy the warm weather. So I feel like going into the colder
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season, it's more hibernation mode, like there's less going out and all that.
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And I consider myself a very so so like I like to be in
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social settings, So I think seasons like this, when it does get closer
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to the winter season and all that, it just gets a bit hard on
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me mentally. But that's okay. I really wanted to take the time to
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just talk about mental health in today's episode. I really want to talk about
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ways we can take care of ourselves during difficult times like this. Not saying
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that all these things are going to cure you or cure your mental health or
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anything like that. It's more so just to maybe remind yourself do these things
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for yourself to make yourself feel a bit better. And this is also a
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good reminder for myself because I know doing these things makes me feel so much
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better. And yeah, so anyways, let's get into this episode and talk
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about how we can take care of ourselves during a new season and just some
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tips on how to improve your mental health. Okay, first off, I'm
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going to talk about the one that I personally think is the biggest priority in
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everyone's life in general. Like I personally think everyone should be contributing this into
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their weekly schedule, and that is just exercise in general, just moving your
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body, finding ways to stay active. I always talk to you guys about
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figuring out a workout schedule for yourself. And maybe you're that kind of person
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that doesn't like to go to the gym. Maybe you're that kind of person
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that likes to walk a lot, or likes to go on runs, or
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likes to play activities like sports like soccer, hockey, anything like that,
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Like that is totally fine. Just figuring out ways to move your body is
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so important. I truly believe that working out has made such a big impact
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in my life for the better. I remember myself like back in my college
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days, where I did not do any workouts at all, and I know
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my mental health wasn't the greatest one I was back in my college days.
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Because I didn't take any time for myself to move my body and make my
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health a priority. So if there's one thing out of everything that I even
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talk about in today's episode, I think the biggest component out of everything is
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making sure you find ways to move your body and exercise. Like I said,
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if you're not a gym person, just do a bunch of daily walks.
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If you prefer running, going for runs outdoors, Like, just finding
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ways to move your body is so so important. Talking about walking and all
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that makes me think of another key component, and that is just being outside,
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getting fresh air, enjoying the nature. I think it's so healing to
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be in an outdoor space. I love, love, love just going on
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a long walk with Freddie, enjoying the fresh air. Sometimes I put music
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on, sometimes I put a podcast on. I find it very therapeutic in
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my opinion. And even running in the trails, like that's something I absolutely
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love to do. During the summertime, I definitely feel like I need to
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make it a bigger priority even during the fall season before we head into winter.
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I think for myself, I need to start investing in myself by you
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know, maybe investing in proper apparel, to wear for running in the colder
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season and you're spending money. There's wants and there's needs, And I feel
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like needs could be for me is buying running apparel that could actually be fitting
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for the colder season instead of me spending money on, you know, a
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sweater that I liked from Zara. I don't know, but just a comparison.
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But I personally think I need to be better at figuring out ways to
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invest in myself that could help my mental health. But yeah, I think
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being outside in general is so important. I also love to go on hikes
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with my friends, especially during the fall season when you see the leaves change
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and all that. I think it's really enjoyable to go on a hike with
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your friends and it gives you an opportunity to be in a social environment,
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chatting with them and obviously getting some fresh air, and it's just something to
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look forward to as well. Right, So, I think a key component
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when it comes to hibernation season is making sure you stay in social environments,
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making sure you keep yourself busy in different ways and force yourself out the door.
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Like I'm even telling this to my I'm like, I need to force
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myself out of the house today, Like, even if it is just going
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for a twenty minute walk, I know I'm gonna feel so much better just
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kicking my butt out the door and just enjoying the nature and enjoying the fresh
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air. So yeah, I just personally feel like nature makes you feel so
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much better emotionally and it contributes so much to your physical well being. It
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could also just bring so much positivity when it comes to emotions, calmness,
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joy, creativity, all that. Just I really believe that there is something
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connected to nature when it comes to people's mental health and yeah, just helping
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out anxiety, stress, anything like that. So that's personally my opinion.
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When it comes to going outside and getting some fresh air, I do truly
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believe that just walking outside for fifteen to twenty minutes a day could really make
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a huge difference in your mood. Okay, another one, as I just
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mentioned, which was about being in social settings, is making a social connection
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to someone, whether it's face to face or a FaceTime or calling someone,
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just having that communication with someone else besides being on your own. So I'm
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going to give a very realistic example. Last night, my sister and I
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were on FaceTime for two hours, and I was alone last night. Zach
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had a work meeting with his job and was gone for like three hours.
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So I ate dinner alone. I enjoyed some solo time, but sometimes you
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have to be in the right headspace to have a solo night or day to
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yourself, you know what I mean. Like I think last night, I
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personally really wanted to be in a social setting. I really wanted to interact
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with someone else. I felt a little alone last night, and I didn't
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really want to be alone. I wasn't really, you know, not like
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I wasn't prepared, but I just wasn't. It wasn't in my schedule yesterday
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to have a solo night to myself. Like I didn't want to glamorize a
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night to myself. I don't know why. I just wasn't feeling that way.
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So instead, me and my sister FaceTime for two hours, and that
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was honestly probably the high light of my night, just connect with her,
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touch base with her, catch up on things all that. So it's important
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to schedule FaceTime calls with your friends or a family member, whether it's going
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to get a coffee, going to get ice cream, anything like that.
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I think it's so important to again force yourself out of the house to be
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with someone and be in a social environment. I feel like I really really
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enjoy being in social environments. It's just something that personally makes me feel so
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much better, and I know it makes my mood so much better. And
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it was just like nice to connect with my sister and just it's always nice
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to connect with a friend. And just if you have any concerns or stress
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or worries, this could be a good opportunity for you to also share that
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with your friend and maybe they can help you think of ways to overcome that
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stress, overcome those concerns or worries or anything like that. So sometimes it's
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good to also talk it out with a friend or a family member. So
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yeah, it was just like really nice to have a night like that with
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my sister. And as I said, I just really really really like to
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prioritize some social time when it comes to my mood and just feeling this way.
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I think it's really really important to continue being in social environments and continuing
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to express how you feel to a friend, or to a parent, or
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to a family member. Okay, another one is take up some relaxation practice.
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This is definitely something I could definitely improve on, which is either meditation,
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yoga, mindfulness, deep breathing. I think deep breathing is probably the
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easiest one out of all those for someone to take on to their day to
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day life. I think it's really easy to ease something like that into your
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routine. So I think one thing for me, when it comes to overwhelming
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and being stressed or anything like that, sometimes you just need a second to
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take a break, you know, get away from your computer screen or your
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phone or anything like that, take a few deep breasts, just kind of
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reconnect to yourself and get back into the zone. Like meditation is obviously a
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huge one. I think that one has played a really big impact in my
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daily routine. It's not something I'm very consistent with, to be honest,
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I wish I could be better at it, but I am not. But
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I do feel so relaxed and so much better when I do meditate, And
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there is a lot of practicing deep breathing and all that when you are doing
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meditation, So personally, for me, that's probably one of my favorite ways
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to really relax myself and just really distress. But there is ways, Like
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I said, like just doing some deep breathing and stepping aside for a few
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minutes just to really control your mind and all that. And a good thing
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could be also just setting reminders in your phone of hey, take a second
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and just breathe and almost like reevaluate yourself, like just like take a second
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to yourself and then get back into what you have to do for work,
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Like it takes literally two minutes, as I said, And I think it
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could be a really really good practice for yourself just to really feel distressed and
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really just get refocused as well and what you're doing and all that. So
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yeah, I think it could be really important just to set some times for
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yourself to practice some conscious breathing. Another huge factor when it comes to our
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mental health that I really think people don't think about is what we eat.
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I think it's really important to pay attention to what we are actually fueling our
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bodies with. I think eating healthy could play a huge role in your mood
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specifically. Obviously, I try eating healthy as much as I can. I
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am human, though, and I do crave certain foods like everyone else does.
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And I wanted to do some research on foods that can actually help change
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your mood, Like, what are the top foods that are good for your
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overall health and just boosting your mood in general and apparently with consistency these foods
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specifically. This is what they said, is that vegetables omega threes, beans,
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nuts like walnuts, almonds, cashews, peanuts, avocados, greens obviously
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like spinach, kale, bread sprouts, and then fruits. I think blueberries
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is one of the top ones they said for fruits. Another one was dark
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chocolate. I actually knew about that, but dark chocolate has also been found
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to be potentially very beneficial for your mental health as well. So I am
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not obviously a nutrition as I am not a dietary coach or anything like that,
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but I think it's important to do your own research figure out things that
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could help improve your mood. And I'm not saying these foods are going to
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cure your mental health. I'm not saying that at all. These are just
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foods that I research that could be considered high nutrient foods and that could really
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just help support your overall mood, mental health and all that. And as
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I said, just being mindful of what you're fueling your body with, I
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think is just important in general. I think if you're eating like crap all
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week and you feel like shit, I mean realistically, it's because you've been
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eating like crap all week. If you know, change your diet to more
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of a healthier lifestyle and eating more healthier foods like there could be a small
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impact where I could actually affect your mood of it. So that's I think
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a huge one that if you're you know, not following a healthy lifestyle when
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it comes to eating, I think it's probably important to maybe reevaluate and see
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what can you change in your day to day foods that you eat that could
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potentially help you improve your mood and your mental health by including these healthier foods
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like greens, fruits, all that. So again, do your own research.
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I think it's important for everyone to figure out things for themselves because everyone's
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different, everyone likes different things. But yeah, I think it's really really
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important to really make sure you're aware of what you're fueling your body with.
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Okay, this next one I think is something that is going on with me
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and that is not getting enough sleep. I think with the whole time change
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and all that, when we were in Europe and coming home, I think
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I was not getting enough sleep these past few weeks since I've been home.
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I think I really need to catch up on that. So I've been really
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allowing my body to sleep in, Like, just listen to my body.
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If my alarm goes off and I feel awake to get out of bed,
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I will get out of bed. If my body is telling me, killy,
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no, you need to sleep more, I will sleep more. So
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I think right now, I think a huge thing for my mental health is
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not getting enough sleep. I need to really get back into a good bedtime
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routine schedule. I truly believe that having a good sleep schedule really makes a
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huge difference. I personally like to go to bed at ten and I like
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to wake up for seven. That's like my ideal sleeping schedule. Some mornings,
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I go to bed at ten and I wake up at five. Some
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mornings I go to bed at ten and I wake up at six. It
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really just depends. I don't really go to bed much later than ten PM
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because Zach works a very hard labor job. He's an electrician, so he's
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in the trades, so he's usually in bed by like nine thirty. So
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I'm usually awake for about thirty minutes more going on my phone or just watching
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a TV show or reading whatever I decide to do. And usually around the
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ten PM mark is when I feel tired, maybe ten fifteen sometimes, But
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I wouldn't say I really like go to sleep later than that. I just
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my body naturally wants to go to bed at that time, but waking up
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I kind of change it up sometimes. But yeah, I think right now
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I really need to listen to my body and just really focus on getting good
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night's sleeps. I usually need about seven eight hours of sleep to function at
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my best. I think that's pretty common for a lot of people as well.
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But yeah, I think having a good sleep schedule is very very important.
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So if you're someone who doesn't have a good sleep schedule, then I
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think it's important to try and create one for yourself. It's not going to
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happen overnight. It's not going to happen in a few days. It's going
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to be a few weeks until you get into a really good, consistent routine.
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But it will really help out your mental health. I truly believe that.
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I truly believe that it's going to help you, you know, have
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lower risks of you getting sick and just your overall physical health. So yeah,
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I just think it's really really important to make that a priority. And
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if you're having trouble sleeping, this might be something that you need to change
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into your night routine. Maybe you need to remove your phone from your bedroom
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for thirty minutes before you go to bed and read a book instead. Maybe
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you need to find different ways to relax yourself, like maybe meditating or maybe
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taking a hot bath before bed. Anything that's really going to relax your body
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and mind before bed is so important because I truly believe that would make a
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huge impact in your sleep. So yeah, maybe reevaluate your night routine and
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find ways to relax yourself before bed if you are someone that just always has
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a hard time falling asleep. Another one is finding a hobby, finding something
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you enjoy doing and making time for it. So this is something that I've
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actually recently discovered about myself, and I've realized that I don't really have a
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hobby with other people, Like I have hobbies for myself, but they're all
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by myself, Like I don't. It's not in social environments. All the
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hobbies that I do are by myself, So I've been wanting to get into
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a hobby this winter season, and I decided to join a soccer team and
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a few of my friends are on it, and I think it's going to
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be something that I going to really enjoy because I'm getting out of the house,
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I'm in a social setting, I'm with my friends already, I'm doing
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active activity, which is even better being able to move my body and get
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some exercise in. But also consider this a hobby is a huge, huge
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bonus, and I think that's one thing that I really feel like I am
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missing in my life is my sports. I grew up playing two competitive sports
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my entire life, like always, always, always was at a soccer field
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or at an arena playing ringette. So no matter what, I was busy,
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like five nights a week while I was in school in like elementary school
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and high school, it just was a huge sports girl. And then college
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came and I completely dropped all my sports and just focused on school. And
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then eventually I started to figure out, you know, going to the gym,
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working out all that. But I truly feel like I have been missing
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out on that social aspect and having that hobby in my life of getting back
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into my sports. So I'm really really excited to join this winter soccer team.
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I did join a soccer team this past summer, but I unfortunately got
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injured. So I'm praying to God that it will be a very successful soccer
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season this winter and it will prep me for the summer season. But yeah,
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I'm looking forward to it. I'm looking forward to being with my friends
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and as I said, just getting out of the house and being in a
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social environment and doing a hobby that I enjoy. I love playing soccer.
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I love that I'm able to get back into that from something that I used
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to love when I was a kid, and as I said, like getting
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some exercise, which is a huge bonus into this hobby. So if you're
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someone that you know doesn't have very many hobbies and maybe you've been feeling off
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and you feel like something's missing, maybe it's finding a new hobby for yourself
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to do with your friends and being in a social setting. Like hobbies could
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be so many different things. You could join a paint class, you can
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join a book club. Like doesn't have to be active, but obviously active
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is a bonus. But I think it's important to really figure out do you
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have any hobbies, and should you be joining a new hobby maybe in a
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social setting because maybe you spend too much time alone, Maybe you need to
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be in a social environment. I think for myself personally, I spend too
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much time on my own because I do work for myself. I am home
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alone whenever I do work, and I think I need that push to be
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in more social settings. So joining a soccer team is going to be a
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good way for me to be in a social setting and enjoy some physical activity
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and enjoy a hobby. So that's personally what I think is super important.
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And another thing is is that it also allows you to take a break from
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anything that's going on in your life. Like for me, it allows me
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to take a break from social media and just get out and live like a
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young version of me again of just enjoying time with friends and playing the sport
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I love and not having to worry about social media or my job or anything
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like that. Right, So it's a good way to take a break,
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and it's a good way to ease some stress on anything that you are going
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through currently. So yeah, so it's a good thing for your mental health
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in general, just to really get a new hobby into your day to day
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life. And then lastly, if you personally feel like you are doing everything
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you can to improve your mental health and you personally feel that you are still
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not where you want to be, then maybe it's time for you to seek
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professional help. There is nothing, nothing wrong for you to go to a
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therapist if you are not feeling one hundred percent. There is mental health professionals
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out there for a reason. They have that job for a reason where they
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can help you. I have been fully open about my experience on seeing a
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therapist the beginning of this year. I was seeing a therapist for the first
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four months of this year and I haven't been back since. To be honest,
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which I think as I said, I do think there is a huge
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weather impact in my mindset. Unfortunately, I don't want to say I have
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seasonal depression, but I definitely have something when it comes to the seasons,
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because summertime, I feel like I'm a whole new human. I feel like
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I'm at my happiest self. But as soon as we get into the colder
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months, I feel like I mentally am not in the right headspace. And
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having that therapist was hugely beneficial and talk to her about anything that I know
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personally wanted to get off my chest or anything like that. So I really
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want to try and get back into it and at least try and do a
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monthly session, maybe even throughout the summertime. I may not need it,
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but it would be a good way for me to connect with someone who is
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a professional and being able again just to talk to that person out through anything
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that I'm going through. Obviously, everyone has their ups and downs no matter
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what. There's going to be highs, there's going to be lows, and
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you know, not every month will be perfect. And being able to have
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someone that you can connect with that is obviously professional and just knowing that you
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have someone to talk to if you need to, I think is really really
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important. So yeah, I think if you definitely feel like you've done everything
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you can to improve your mental health and maybe it's time for you to seek
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professional help, and there's nothing wrong with that, absolutely nothing wrong with that.
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If anything go you, I think it's so so important to just,
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yeah, do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel your best self.
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But yeah, those are just some tips I can think of currently of
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just what I personally think helps me out when I'm feeling not my best self.
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I think, as I said, there's going to be highs and lows
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no matter what. I know. This is just a low right now,
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but I'm going to get back into my high sooner than I think. And
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I think a lot of these things I need to take in for myself and
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just start making it a priority. And I'm definitely going to walk away from
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this episode and just really take a lot of these things into my routine and
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just day to day life for the next few days just to really improve my
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overall mental health and just really ease my stress and all that. So if
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you're going through a hard time right now, just know you're not alone.
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I love you all so much, and I just know that these things are
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really really going to help you out if you personally feel you are at a
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low right now. So just no, as I said, you're not alone
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and things will get better. We are all about positivity here. We are
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going to be okay and things are going to get better for us. Anyways.
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you all so much and I hope you guys have the most amazing week