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We CRACKED The Code To Having A Boy + Watching Your Kid Make New Friends | For The Dads · Bussin' With The Boys

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  Speaker 2: Papa Team six Welcome to another episode of For the Dads.
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  Speaker 2: are listening today, it is March eleventh, March fourteenth for
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  Speaker 2: Seemen Team sixers, empty six ers that are listening MPT
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  Speaker 2: six ers. March fourteenth is Steak and blow Job Day.
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  Speaker 2: We love building community. We have a show starter here
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  Speaker 2: about a little one being born from the release. This
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  Speaker 2: releases at six am. This this Baby's coming out what
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  Speaker 2: an hour after release and it was not planned around
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  Speaker 2: for the dads. But my man here Marcus Sesson on
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  Speaker 2: te section.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna read.
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  Speaker 2: This to shout out, shout out the community. Please sending
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  Speaker 2: this just to Deeke Sherman for The Dad's Pod because
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  Speaker 2: in typical New Dad fashion, I currently only have have
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  Speaker 2: Facebook for social media, cry laughing emoji boys.
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  Speaker 1: I's been watching for the Dad since day one.
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  Speaker 2: So it just happened that my wife and I had
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  Speaker 2: just completed buds training prior to the podcast launching. If
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  Speaker 2: there's new listeners out there, buds training is breeding until
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  Speaker 2: Dad status. It's been a while thirty eight weeks for us,
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  Speaker 2: which included a kidney stone, some fibroid complications did I
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  Speaker 2: say they're right? Fibroid fiboid fibroid complications, yeah, and.
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  Speaker 1: Multiple trips to the er.
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  Speaker 2: My wife has been an absolute stud throughout the whole process,
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  Speaker 2: and God has kept our daughter safe, healthy and growing
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  Speaker 2: currently seven pounds two ounces at thirty six weeks, gonna
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  Speaker 2: be a unit just like her.
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  Speaker 1: Old man was good good all to say that.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't hesitate to push for a Wednesday due date
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  Speaker 2: when scheduling our c section, knowing that you boys always
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  Speaker 2: dropped the pod on that day. He would mean in
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  Speaker 2: the world to me and my wife Katie Joe and
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  Speaker 2: what are and what will be our first born daughter,
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  Speaker 2: Mia Everett to have a shout out that they will
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  Speaker 2: be able to revisit this for years to come. Our
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  Speaker 2: c section is literally scheduled for seven am on March eleventh,
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  Speaker 1: I was just about to.
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  Speaker 2: of PT sixers that tuned in last week Noon in Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: This is a comment on YouTube from Noon and Podcast.
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  Speaker 2: As a PT sixer who's a single dad, I needed
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  Speaker 2: the conversation on no last week. I struggled with my
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  Speaker 2: son when I tell him no, when he gets upset.
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  Speaker 2: I need to do a better job of controlling my emotions,
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  Speaker 2: my own emotions during these tantrums, so that hopefully that
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  Speaker 2: sets a better example for my son to hopefully learn
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  Speaker 2: from them.
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  Speaker 3: So that slid dude, that is solid. Who was that again?
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  Speaker 3: This was from Noon and Podcast? Oh it was another podcast.
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  Speaker 2: I'm apparently at Noon and Podcast seventy two zero one
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  Speaker 2: three days ago on our YouTube channel.
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  Speaker 1: Hey shout out, no free shout out.
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  Speaker 2: That's the game most of the time is like you
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  Speaker 2: know you, we would always love to go win perfectly.
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  Speaker 2: It's like crystal ball. We do a little bit of
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  Speaker 2: breath work before we walk into the house. So we
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  Speaker 2: do a little bit of breathwork before this tantrum comes.
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  Speaker 2: So we're we're a thermostat. But a lot of times,
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  Speaker 2: you know, you can go sideways whenever it gets it
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  Speaker 2: gets bad, or it gets a little too long for
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  Speaker 2: your liking. You're you're kind of sitting there with them
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  Speaker 2: in their emotion and you're kind of being stoic about everything,
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  Speaker 2: and then eventually it gets a little too long.
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  Speaker 1: And you pop your lid. As well. That's ever a
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  Speaker 1: good thing.
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  Speaker 2: You use all your skills, you throw the toolbox at
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  Speaker 2: them with trying to help them and be with them
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  Speaker 2: and everything else. But a lot of times, as a dad,
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  Speaker 2: you walk away from a situation I know I do
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  Speaker 2: where I'm sitting there thinking about how I could have
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  Speaker 2: handled something differently, you know what I mean, And as
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  Speaker 2: I've talked about on previous pods, where you circle back
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  Speaker 2: and do like a follow up conversation just to let
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  Speaker 2: her know, Like number one, it's like apologize if she
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  Speaker 2: feels like dad was being mean or you yourself a second,
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  Speaker 2: I did go a little sideways in that moment, and
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  Speaker 2: then explaining the reasons why, here's how we can collectively,
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  Speaker 2: you know, make progress like going forward. Yes, you know
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  Speaker 2: what I mean. You're having like a like everyone's like
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  Speaker 2: a performance review with them.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, everyone's learning in that situation and the stadium pulse
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  Speaker 3: of a tantrum, I'm being introduced to it with Scarlett's
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  Speaker 3: cries and screams are getting very loud, and uh, I'm
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  Speaker 3: already like, man, this is gonna be scary when she
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  Speaker 3: knows how to formulate her thoughts into sentences with that
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  Speaker 3: volume in pitch, I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Gonna be in the chamber. I gotta be ready to go.
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  Speaker 2: Their little brains develop, Yeah, spoiler alert brings developed. We
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  Speaker 2: spoiler spoilers for New New Parents for it. It's like
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  Speaker 2: there think they're they're like thinking about everything. They don't
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  Speaker 2: have control over all their thoughts and emotions obviously, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: they don't know how to articulate them, and it comes
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  Speaker 2: out it projects out as like tantrums. Yes, if you
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  Speaker 2: can't adapt, distract and overcome. If you can't distract them,
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  Speaker 2: that's usually the best thing is removing them from a situation,
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  Speaker 2: like going outside looking at the birds, looking at the trees,
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  Speaker 2: getting the crying to kind of stop, and then just
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  Speaker 2: kind of having a little conversation with them. Do you
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  Speaker 2: want to go back inside? Do you want to do this?
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  Speaker 2: Depending on what age that they're at. That's always usually
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  Speaker 2: been the best, and that was distract what adapt, distract,
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  Speaker 2: overcome tantrum happens.
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  Speaker 1: You have to adapt.
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  Speaker 2: Your perfect little child isn't being perfect in front of
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  Speaker 2: people in public to where you might be in your
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  Speaker 2: own head of like, man, what are people thinking? Obviously
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  Speaker 2: you want to block out that noise. But you are
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  Speaker 2: now seeing a situation where you have to adapt. You
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  Speaker 2: have to adapt to your toddler. You have to adapt
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  Speaker 2: to your little one. You have to distract them. Distracting
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  Speaker 2: is the best toolbox that you can use. Sting, calm, sting, poise,
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  Speaker 2: staying in the pocket. Let's go through our progression here,
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  Speaker 2: Let's adapt. Hey, there's an exit. Let's remove them from
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  Speaker 2: the situation. Let's just go talk to him, get them
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  Speaker 2: calmed down, like I said, looking at birds, looking at trees,
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  Speaker 2: feel in the air, Oh do you feel the wind?
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  Speaker 1: Whatever it is. There's a car. Oh my gosh, look
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  Speaker 1: at that over there.
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  Speaker 2: Distract them and you overcome the situation. Overcome the situation.
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  Speaker 2: If you have an older one, rubbing almost four makes
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  Speaker 2: me sadder every.
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  Speaker 3: Every every day. That's a big number.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but ru.
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  Speaker 2: Is one adapt Distract, distraction, doesn't work as much because
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  Speaker 2: they have more of a grip of what their emotions
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  Speaker 2: and what their feelings are to where they're doing their
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  Speaker 2: best to articulate. Or ru's a big solver, or she
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  Speaker 2: wants things solved. She's very independent. She wants them solved immediately.
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  Speaker 2: So something goes sideways and she wants it a particular way,
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  Speaker 2: she can get off the tracks a little bit, So
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  Speaker 2: the distraction with her is almost like distract removing her
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  Speaker 2: from the situation, getting down on her level, having a
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  Speaker 2: conversation with her and talking through This is why it's
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  Speaker 2: okay to ask for help. This is why it's completely
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  Speaker 2: fine to fail at things or not like that is tough,
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  Speaker 2: That is very frustrating. I know you want to get
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  Speaker 2: it right the first time. Then I'll bring up examples
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  Speaker 2: of her riding her bike or getting on the scooter
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  Speaker 2: or things, swimming, things that she's gotten better at to
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  Speaker 2: where there's there was a needed progress to take place
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  Speaker 2: before you could just jump in the pool to where
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  Speaker 2: you're kind of leveling with them like, hey, that is
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  Speaker 2: going to be hard. I know that didn't go the
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  Speaker 2: way you wanted it to go. Back in here, we're
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  Speaker 2: all good now. I'm sure you know, you start labeling
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  Speaker 2: their emotions. They're probably embarrassed that they were crying in
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  Speaker 2: front of everybody. Yeah, but you bring them back into
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  Speaker 2: the fold, and that is how you overcome. A small,
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  Speaker 2: little example of a situation.
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  Speaker 3: Someone that also needed to adapt, distract, and overcome in
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  Speaker 3: a huge way from our last episode is Trenton Cleins. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: he's the one hundred and thirty seven miss Calls guy
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  Speaker 3: remember that one. Yeah, yeah, I was the one hundred
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  Speaker 3: and thirty seven miscalls guy. Voicemail on the pod today
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  Speaker 3: and one to give an update. So this is this
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  Speaker 3: is live. Not only was I three hours away, but
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  Speaker 3: my wife was also coaching a volleyball tournament in Tulsa,
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  Speaker 3: about two and a half hours from home.
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  Speaker 1: She's an absolute sicko.
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  Speaker 3: That's a I forget how many weeks pregnant she is,
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  Speaker 3: but like she was literally about to pop.
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  Speaker 1: She is a sicko. She drove herself home at a
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  Speaker 1: I'm eleven PM. Of course she did, yeah et six
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  Speaker 1: or just what you said, it would us sick out.
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  Speaker 3: She thought her water broke, so she was like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: I'll drive home really quick, make sure if it did
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  Speaker 3: or not. Then finally got ahold of him at four am,
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  Speaker 3: when the water actually broke. They both made it to
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  Speaker 3: the hospital. Luckily, they already knew that they had to
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  Speaker 3: do a c section because the baby girl was breach,
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  Speaker 3: so they planned it as soon as they got on
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  Speaker 3: a call with the doctor and showed up.
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  Speaker 1: Everything was good to go.
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  Speaker 3: Baby and mom are doing great and we got to
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  Speaker 3: come home on Tuesday. Thank you all, love you guys.
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  Speaker 3: That's tritting clients.
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  Speaker 1: Thank you trend for the update. Ten and a half
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  Speaker 1: hours wait for a volleyball tournament. That is sick.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, and Oklahoma does have some good gay hunting,
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  Speaker 3: so that Mike see him.
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  Speaker 2: That is that's a mentality of I'm not adapting to
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  Speaker 2: the world. The world will adapt to me, yes, sir, Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: like I'm going, I'm carrying all. We got a volleyball tournament.
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  Speaker 2: I'm close to pop in Like good, that's as you
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  Speaker 2: love to say. That's a thermostat. Yeah, that's a thermostat.
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  Speaker 1: Oh water Brooke. Let's see if I make it back
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  Speaker 1: two and a half hours home for a drive, like good.
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  Speaker 1: I dare you. Let's play.
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  Speaker 3: Let's play this little game I like to call is
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  Speaker 3: the baby coming or not. Yeah, low steaks, low steaks.
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  Speaker 3: I also have from Joe Thomas. You boys have been
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  Speaker 3: putting out the best sodes yet these past few weeks.
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  Speaker 3: Appreciate the heads up for March fourteenth, which you so
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  Speaker 3: graciously brought up a few days, few.
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  Speaker 1: Days from now.
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  Speaker 2: If you're listening right now, a few days from now,
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  Speaker 2: how many days away are we? So it will be
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  Speaker 2: three days? Three days listeners are hearing this that does
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  Speaker 2: involve Let me just check the calendar. March fourteenth and Saturday. Oh,
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  Speaker 2: great day of the week, March. Great day for some
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  Speaker 2: grilling of steaks.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Rather you like to do a reverse year. Maybe
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  Speaker 1: you like to do the chef.
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  Speaker 3: I know you love doing some steaks in the oven
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  Speaker 3: sometimes keep the juices in as long as possible.
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  Speaker 1: Uh yeah, on the steak. Yeah yeah, I was thinking too, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: on the steak.
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  Speaker 3: And then you're saying, obviously we know what comes after
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  Speaker 3: the steak, and I believe the steak is prepared by
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  Speaker 3: wifey as well. You do not have to practice that.
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  Speaker 3: If you want to practice it, the pet sick but
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  Speaker 3: grill butter it up.
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  Speaker 1: Butter butter it up? Do it?
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  Speaker 3: Uh? Do it Chicago style? Get some grilled onions on there.
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  Speaker 3: Uh what's the uh one where they put the oyster
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  Speaker 3: on top of it?
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  Speaker 1: What's that called of the steak? Sometimes crotter on there? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: a little surf and turf. Yeah yeah, hey, surf and turf.
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  Speaker 1: That's a nice paper. Is Pittsburgh styles the Pittsburgh rare? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the Pittsburgh evenhere they black and.
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  Speaker 3: Then it's just bleeding on the inside. Just quickly, just
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  Speaker 3: get it rolling O. So yeah, Steak and blow Job
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  Speaker 3: Day is coming up. I put on my wife and
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  Speaker 3: i's joint calendar. Good job, Joe. She will be thirty
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  Speaker 3: seven weeks pregnant at that point.
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  Speaker 1: Joe. That sounds ideal for you and your sweet empty SICKO. Hey, sweet, look,
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  Speaker 1: I know you're on the drying Master. I was listening
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  Speaker 1: for the dads. You know what you listen to it?
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  Speaker 1: You just let me know what your thoughts are. I'm
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  Speaker 1: about to fucking few. What is this from a podcast?
• 15:33
  Speaker 1: Shut the fuck up? Who is who is Willie one shelf?
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: What is a fat Stafford? Let's hope the stars aligned
• 15:42
  Speaker 1: for your boy. Baby girl number two is due on
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: three twenty six, but she might come earlier. Any advice
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: for the second kid, and how to get my firstborn
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: daughter to address to having.
• 15:53
  Speaker 3: A little sister. She has quite the sassy personality. This
• 15:58
  Speaker 3: will be interesting. Pet sicko, pet fit out. I feel
• 16:02
  Speaker 3: good about this one. This one feels in my ballpark.
• 16:06
  Speaker 4: Roue.
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: She's got a sassiness to her, very much like a
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: very much like a firstborn type a.
• 16:12
  Speaker 1: All the things she wants to be involved. She wants
• 16:14
  Speaker 1: things to go her way.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you try and manipulate the game to make her
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: feel like things are going her way. But second one
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: coming in what we did with Rue is making Rue
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: a part of the experience, like making her a part
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: of this newborn, this next child, next kid, Scotti. She
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: is entering into our family. Rue, you are a part
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: of this family. So when Mama had Scotty and we
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: were sitting there with Scotty, whenever we were bringing Rue
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: to introduce her to Scotty. And I know I've said
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: this on previous possible man's asking a question, So any
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: new listeners anything for your second child. As I'm bringing
• 16:52
  Speaker 2: Rue into the hospital room to check on Mom, the
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: entire goal is let's check on Mom first and then
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: we will introduce you to Scotti. And Rue comes in
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: the room. Our our nanny was holding Scottie. So that
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: way Mom is just laying on the bed by herself
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: and checking on mom. Crawl up on bed, hug mom,
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: checking on Mom, be excited for Mom. So that way,
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: when Ruth comes in, it's like you're you know, we're
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: dealing with very you know, the developing brain. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: So we're walking in the science or the research or
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: the things that I was reading on this is that
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: if your first one walks in and mom is holding
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: the second one, This isn't like across the board. This
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: isn't like an aggressive opinion that I'm about to say.
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: This is just what I was reading.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, that's fascinating, Like I can get my head,
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: I can wrap my head around that. But your first
• 17:38
  Speaker 2: child sees mom holding the second one. The first child
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: in their eyes and in their brain, they are your
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: entire world. And now mom is holding the second baby.
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: Not that they throw a tantrum, not that they get upset,
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: but just building the foundation of what this is going
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: to look like the whole tribe.
• 17:55
  Speaker 1: The new baby is entering into our tribe.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: Rue is going We wanted Ru to walk into where
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: Ru was checking on mom first and loving on mom
• 18:02
  Speaker 2: and checking mom, and then we asked.
• 18:03
  Speaker 1: Hey, do you want to meet Scottie?
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: And then Rue's like all of us go over together
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: or around the area together. Yeah, meeting Scotti for the
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: first time. And we're telling Rue, you know, we're fired
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: up for Rue and how she's gonna be a great
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: big sister and you're gonna love Scotty so much. She's
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: gonna love you. She's already been telling us about you. Yeah,
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: she knows, like she can't talk or anything, she's been
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: telling us about you. And matter of fact, Scotty got
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: you a present for when we get home. We end
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: up going out and buying This was shout out to
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: Stephen Shay. He kind of gave you this idea before
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: we had. Scotty and I went out and got Rue
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: some like jewelry from frozen something at Walmart.
• 18:40
  Speaker 1: Let's go.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: And so when we brought everybody home, the gift was
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: sitting there. Oh, Scotty already got this in in and
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: Rue opens it up. So it seems like baby sister
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: is giving big sister a gift already, just to establish
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: like the foundation and love and everything that's going on
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: yeah with Rue, the dynamic of having your second one,
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: the dynamic of having two kids, and a lot of times,
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: like a lot of our language when we had the
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: newborn wouldn't be Rue, I'll play with you, or I'll
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: get your toy, or I'll get your milk, or i'll
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: do this thing for your first child. Hey, I will
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: do that for you when I get done with Scotty.
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: A lot of our language and verbiage would be Hey.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: If I knew I needed to feed Scotty and Rue
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: just wanting me to play with her or get a
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: toy or debt it, can you get this, it would
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: be Hey, Scotty, when I'm done feeding you, I got
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: to help Rue out. Okay, when I'm done feeding you,
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: I gotta go play with Rue. And then I would
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: lean down and tell Rue I just let Scotty know
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: whenever I'm done with her that it's all you know.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna play with you or I'm gonna get you
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: your bottle or whatever the thing is. But we would
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: change a lot of our language, so it's not like
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: we're diminishing Rue wanting our attention and we're like we
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: can't right now, I have to feed Scotty, and they
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: just in their brain they're seeing you. They're witnessing like damn,
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: like I was the kid, or I was I'm the
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: one that you guys always mess with, and now this
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: new kid comes in and you're with her all the time,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: or you're telling me no because you know I'm getting
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: punched down, because you're holding Scotty, or because you have
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: to do things for Scotty. A lot of our language
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: would be talking to Scotty as they don't know what's
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: going on, and you're just telling them whenever I get
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: done doing this with you, I'm going to go attend Roue.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to go tend to.
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: Rue, talking loud enough so Rude can hear, and yes, exactly,
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: so Rue is witnessing the dynamic going on. So those
• 20:22
  Speaker 3: were like little things that we did when introducing Scotty,
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: our second one into our world as a family, when
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: we're thinking about the same things you are, which is
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: how do we balance the dynamic or how's the first
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: one going to feel? Those were a few tools that
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: we leaned on to kind of help us introduce Scotty
• 20:40
  Speaker 3: into our family, and they're phenomenal together, Like Scotty kind
• 20:43
  Speaker 3: of bullies Rue. But Scotty, well, we'll jump into it.
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: But dude, Scotty is so funny. Dude, with the way
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: she plays. We had a little play Dave. I'm sure
• 20:54
  Speaker 3: we'll talk about it later in the sude. But her
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: dangling stuff in front of you and then pulling it
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: away from you was She's electric. It was like watching
• 21:04
  Speaker 3: Will Compton play with Will Compton.
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: It was. It was honestly incredible. She's fun to be around.
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: But that would be Those are things I look back
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: on and I'm like, I'm really glad I learned those things,
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: and I'm really glad we incorporate them because it obviously
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: challenges us because again, you're kind of making a lot
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: of reactive decisions where they're they're pulling at you. There,
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: people are needing different attention. You can kind of get
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: in your old own head and then you just react.
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: I'll get that in a second. I got to finish
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: with your sister.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: For it's like I'm like, okay, I'm I'm coming across
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: these things. I'm like, oh, that that does make sense
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: to me. Like let's try these and then Troll and
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: I are talking about them collectively, we're both kind of
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: leaning on each other. Hey, I found this, you found this.
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: I love that idea. You're kind of feeling like a
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: team building out how you're going to you know, grow
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: this foundation for Ru and Scottie. Yeah, you're also on
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: the same page with your wife. You're doing learning things
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: with your wife.
• 21:53
  Speaker 3: And I'm just I'm sure that that exact same format
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: of with Rue for the introduction of Scotty will be
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: the same way of like during big events of Rue's
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: first time trying out for a sports team and Scotty's
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: old enough to like know what's going on, and bringing
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: Scotty along of like we got a cheer on big
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: sister and we got it.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's about big Sister.
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: It kind of like creates that whole dynamic of we
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: we we Yeah.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: And then down the road when Scotty's going through her
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: first things and Rue's wanting to go to the playground
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: or I don't want to do this, and you're having
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: those moments of telling her, hey, Scotty came to it
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: comes all your stuff, like oh, this is all like,
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: this is how we go about this is Scotty's very
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: first time and how did you feel when it was
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: your first time and Mom and dad, we're all excited
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: for you. Felt good, right, you are now part of
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: this with helping Scotty like she's very excited. You've gotten
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: to do your first time or you gotten to do
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: your ballet class and we love doing it with you. Yes,
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: and that probably made you feel really good and really comfortable.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: And now we want to We want Scotty to feel
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: all the same things, all the same excitement. How do
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: you think she would feel her big sits? Try to
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: smile on her face watching her helping her, not too much,
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: don't get out there on the day floor with her instructing.
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, but helping her and just being happy
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: for it make her feel really good.
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: And dude, I hate to jump ahead, but I think
• 23:13
  Speaker 3: you're gonna have no trouble at all having Scotty be
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: willing to help. Will you please tell the Sichos about
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: when we asked Scotty to help teach Scarlett how to
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: crawl and what comments, because that was one of the
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: best moments I've ever seen in my life.
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: So on Sunday we had a little playdate with Scotty
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: and Scarlett.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: Very quick Scotty between naps. Eight months, Scarlet's eight months.
• 23:40
  Speaker 1: Scar Yes, Scarlet's eight months. Scotti's fifteen months or sixteen months.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: Scotty's actually shout out, Scotty, she's sixteen months. She's sixteen
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: months March tenth, come on yesterday, she was sixteen months.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: But we're upstairs.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: We're in the playroom and they're both sitting across with
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: each other, you know, kind of playing with toys together,
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: Scotty grabbing stuff or like trying to pull the We're like, hey,
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: we share, can you give that to scar scar And
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: she'd hand it over and give it a scar Star,
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: and we're doing the whole thing where you're trying to
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: Scarlet is just fascinated with Scotty.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: She's fascinated to be them sest with Scotti and.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: Sharm was telling me that they were trying to work
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: on crawling with her and like doing tum me time
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: and doing all these things to where it's like getting
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: her up to her base, like using her arms and
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: using her hands and getting her up to her hands
• 24:24
  Speaker 2: and knees, and so we're like, Scotty, will you show
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: Scarlet how to how to crawl? And I kind of
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: put Scott kind of put Scotty on the ground. Scotty
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: like crawls a couple of steps and then like stops,
• 24:33
  Speaker 2: you know, and then does the whole stand.
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: Up literally literally the loudest grind of all time.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: And so Sharm takes Scarlet and lays Scarlet on her stomach,
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: and we're trying to help her crawl, like come on,
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: you gotta you gotta get your hips up or try
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: to push your trying to push your legs to where
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: her knees get upright, and Scottie walks just walks over there.
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: She's fasting by Scarlet too.
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: She walks over there and she just starts grabbing Scarlet
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: by the back of the onesie to lift her up and.
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: Then heaving dude, like full on both hands and trying
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: to just.
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like around the like around the waist, like grabbing
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: the back of her one's and like lifting it up
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: to where the closes are stretching. And then we're laughing
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: like hey, Scotty, like give give Scarlet some space, like
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: she's gotta we gotta give her some space.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: And then Scotty.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: Would like walk back over and get to her hand
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: is around like her shoulder and around like the side
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: on her stomach and she's trying to like take and
• 25:25
  Speaker 2: lift her up.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: Bro. We explicitly asked Scotty before this, We said, Scotty,
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: Scarlet's trying to learn how to crawl. Do you think
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: you can show her how to crawl?
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: So she totally received that message as a sixteen month
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: old from you. Crawls over to Scarlet and she said,
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: Scarlet's not crawling. So she's like, don't worry, I got this,
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: gets up and just is like she's not getting her
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: hips up. He was like, watching will try and teach
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: somebody how to attack.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: The egg up. She's like, get it, get the hips
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: off the ground. What are we doing?
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: It was like watching Dane Gables had enough in his
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: wrestling room and he's going and helping position all.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: The wrestlers on the mask.
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Scotty just again just waddles on over and she's
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: trying to take full control of the situation at grunting,
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: trying to like lift her up all around like the
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: hip airy and everything else. Like she's not getting too
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: much where she grabs her face or anything. That's what
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: I'm sitting there being nervous about Scottie.
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: He was saying very which I as a parent, I'm like, bro,
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: I got no problem. Like Scotty even kind of fell
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: on Scarlett at one point and Will was like, oh,
• 26:28
  Speaker 3: I'm like, dude.
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: Every parent goes the dynamic, whether you're with a great
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: friend or whether you're around like a stranger. There's just
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: there's something going on that's happening in my brain to
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: where we all know we do things differently, even though
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: we're all kind of aligned on same things we want
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: to happen with our kids. And when my kids like
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: standing over yours are grabbing or in my brain seeming
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: invasive or getting to where she could like fall over
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: her like fall in her head, I'm thinking of worst
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: case scenarios and thinking like I don't want to just
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: let this go and let this happen because I don't
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: know how you're.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: Feeling in the moment. I don't know why anything's going on.
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: So you're just trying to think your instinct is control
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: your kid a little bit, because we're trying to have
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: like some manners. Oh, and you have no control over
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: what your little ones are thinking. You you're sitting there
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: and you're.
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: Both parents and you're stating there watching your little ones
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: player go at it, and both parents are kind of
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: standing there like we're or any boundaries.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: This one seems a little bit more aggressive than mine.
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: Like that, parents probably thinking I wonder if this is okay.
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: You're sitting there thinking I don't mind this at all,
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: But I'm like.
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: Well, what does he mind? This?
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: Being is as at an eight month old Scarlett is
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: a perpetual dough in headlights, Like she all she can
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: do is sit up straight and smile.
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: That that's what there will was Vince Vaughn and wedding
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: Crashers talking about the dates. Is she happy? Am I
• 27:45
  Speaker 5: at the date? Am I talking too much? Is she
• 27:46
  Speaker 5: not talking enough? Like the dad version of that, that
• 27:49
  Speaker 5: is like the vibe. It's like you're sitting there. Do
• 27:52
  Speaker 5: they think this is okay?
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: I think this is okay, but I will I won't
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: let it be okay if I feel like you don't
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: think this is okay. But if you think it's okay
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: and I think it's okay, and we just think, if
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: the worst case scenario happens, and we're all okay with
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: that together, we can allow that to happen.
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: But if we don't want the worst case scenario that
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: I'm thinking.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: Of my head to happen, then I can just I
• 28:08
  Speaker 2: can intervene and pull them off. But if you say
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: to me, hey, I'm totally cool with this, I'm thinking, oh,
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: I I'm cool with this too.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: I just didn't know, you know what, let him wrestle. Yeah. Yeah.
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: And I was the girl on the date that that
• 28:19
  Speaker 3: looked at nervous guy and and just said, hey, it's
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: all good.
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: It's all good, no matter what. Keep saying like, hey,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: it's all good. I was like, I know you're concerned,
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: and I appreciate that.
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: I just know Scotty goes about her business with the
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: reckless advantage, you know what I mean. Like it's we're
• 28:36
  Speaker 2: talking about we're talking about Scott's Yeah, we were.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: I forgot about that.
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: It's dinner on Sunday night with the boys, and for
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: the first portion of dinner, like, I'm getting Scotty her snacks.
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: I don't tell your mother. I'm feeding all these snacks
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: and you weren't even known. Scotty's really sitting there with us,
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: We're chopping up, keeping up. Scotty's just like on her
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: best behavior, just having a great time. She's smiling, guys
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: are engaging with her every now and then. But then
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: the back half, when she's kind of getting a little
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: wrestless or she's done eating, she won't eat her chicken.
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: I'm like, sweet, are you gotta stop eating fries? And
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: you gotta eat your chicken? And we kind of let her.
• 29:09
  Speaker 2: I pick her up, I let her out of her
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: out of the high chair, to let her kind of
• 29:13
  Speaker 2: walk around Pinewood Pine Woods, an officer spot here in Nashville.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: No free shoutouts, but got a lot of space to
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: walk in and there's like bowling and others.
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, and Scotty's just having a great time walking around,
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: kind of working the room, going around the wall. Hey,
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: not that far and now you can't like leave our site.
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, kind of getting on you know. Other people
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: were fascinating thinking she's adorable, but she's kind of like
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: leaning on their booth. I'm like, Scotty, hey, come over here.
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: But she's just having a great time. Ryan's messing with her.
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: All the boys are messing with her.
• 29:40
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, she was a lot of fun.
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: The best part too, of the uh saga of Scotty
• 29:46
  Speaker 3: training Scarlet to crawl was will then coming in and
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: pulling Scotty off of Scarlet fully and being like, hey,
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: too much, guy, too much, but appreciate you. And Scotty
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: didn't break down into fl tears, but she was letting
• 30:01
  Speaker 3: you know, dude, you explicitly asked me to teach her
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: how to crawl. She wasn't getting her button there, and
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: now you're pulling me off of her.
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, what doesn't make sense to me that she
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: can't crawl? Like can't all of us crawl? And you
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: said we got to get her going. Hey, Scotty, teach
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: her how to crawl? And what am I doing teaching her?
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: And then now you're pulling me off of her. But
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: she literally was like ah ah, she.
• 30:23
  Speaker 1: Didn't like it.
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: She didn't like it. Great dad hack. For over the weekend,
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: I was solo with Scottie. Mom and Rue were in
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: d C for the weekend doing Bar three sight seeing
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: and doing a lot of things on Mom's in with
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: Bar three and so a great dad hack is having
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: the boys. I got a couple obviously, play dates, things
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: that burn time. I take Scotty to the coffee shop,
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: burn some time there, take it to the playground, burn
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: some time there. We did a playdate that else burnt
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: time before nap time, but also the boys. I conned
• 30:53
  Speaker 2: three of the boys from the shop to essentially help
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: me watch her eat. Yeah, because I wanted to get
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: her out of the house. Let's go get some dinner.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: Was it just gonna be me and Scotty? I would,
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: I'll be totally fine if it's just me and Scotty.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: But how can I also cross off a social aspect
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: of my life, like I haven't eaten at all or
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: anything yet, like one on one with Derek or gotten
• 31:10
  Speaker 2: to know him outside of the shop. Yes, I was
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: hopeful you were gonna be one of the guys to respond.
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: But I reach out to all the guys who are
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: from that work with busting.
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: I reach out to all the boys who were that
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: I knew were in town. Full chat.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, meal On, your boy who wants to come?
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: Really set up? It's gonna be an early dinner because
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: it's basically gonna be it's gonna be with me and Scotty,
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: But anybody interested if you guys hit up, made a
• 31:32
  Speaker 2: smaller group chat and basically told him I just conned
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: you guys and essentially helping me watch Scotti.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: What we eat dinner. But great dad hack out. There
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: is a good day.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: Hit off some friends stuff, hit off some work stuff,
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: hit off some Scottie stuff.
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: It scotti around people.
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: I went and got pot belly with BC four my
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: guy here with Scarlet. That was actually on Valentine's Day.
• 31:54
  Speaker 3: That was our Valentine's Day date, little daddy daughter date.
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: And but dude, so easy and fun to just rip
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: with a friend. Yeah, like any parent that's sitting there,
• 32:05
  Speaker 3: that's like, I'm never gonna see my friends again. Oh contrere.
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: It's it's very simple to go. Just grab a bite.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: I did, grab a lollipop, grab a drink. Like I'm
• 32:17
  Speaker 3: a believer in that. I don't see anything weird in that.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: He also, you didn't even need to.
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: It was funny because like you texted the smaller group
• 32:23
  Speaker 5: and said, haha, I've conned you into watching my daughter
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: eat with me, and all I think all three of
• 32:28
  Speaker 5: us were like we kind of knew that, we could
• 32:33
  Speaker 5: have assumed there was something else here, but like that's
• 32:35
  Speaker 5: we yes, we want to go.
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: Funny. He was like, I got all of you guys,
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: and we're like, all right.
• 32:43
  Speaker 2: We were totally cool with in the beginning we kind
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: of knew what we were signing up for.
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: You said free meal though, right, but you're getting a
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: check right. Oh my god, I was. He was texting
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: back and go I was with Alex. I was like, damn,
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: Will's having everyone else to eat and I'm gonna miss it.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: And now it's like, oh, that's crat.
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: Oh he just said that he conned everybody into watching
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: scott And she goes, that sounds even better, Like what's
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: the That doesn't sound like a drawback at all.
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, it was a lot of fun, man,
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: Like it fired me up coming in the next day
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: and some of the boys were talking about how fun
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: Scotty was and everything else. Because again, like as a parent,
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: and you you just think in terms you don't want
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: to be.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I don't know, you don't want to annoy people with your.
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: Kid, And I know that's a fake assumption, that's a
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: fake fear that we all make up.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: But you're sitting there.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: It's like, you know, number one, it'd be fun to
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: go out and socialize, but you don't want to sit
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: there and annoy people with all the things you got
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: to do with being a parent. And now that I'm
• 33:36
  Speaker 2: singing out loud. I sound ridiculous. I sound ridiculous saying that.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: It's not ridiculous thing unless you're like that type of
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: guy that's like, hey, I or gal of like I
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: really hate babies.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: I really hate small children. Why in the world is
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: my friend asking me to hang out with them? I
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: don't see who would not be like down and cool
• 34:01
  Speaker 3: to hang that you. I wouldn't already know going into
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: asking the question. They don't really care to be around,
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: or they don't for whatever reason they want to draw
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: a line and hey, no kids, Yeah, no kids, which
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: there are those no kids situations obviously, like hey, we're
• 34:17
  Speaker 3: doing this big golf trip, we're doing this big hunting
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: for sure, and then you roll up with you know,
• 34:21
  Speaker 3: Scarlett on your chest.
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: They're like, what in the world you got a shout
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: out from demon?
• 34:26
  Speaker 5: Because we were sitting there and Scotty was kind of
• 34:28
  Speaker 5: operating and like ran over another family and this and that,
• 34:31
  Speaker 5: this and that, and I believe the words Dared said
• 34:33
  Speaker 5: were like hanging out with shrm so much, like I'm
• 34:36
  Speaker 5: so much better around babies now because we was all
• 34:39
  Speaker 5: talking about like our comfortability with like children and things
• 34:42
  Speaker 5: like that, and he was like, yeah, I don't really
• 34:44
  Speaker 5: get babies, but like scar scars helped me get.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: Babies, Demons Demons twenty four And when he explained some
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: of that stuff like being around Scarlet and everything else,
• 34:53
  Speaker 2: I'm like, buddy, I'm with you, Like I completely understand
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: where you're coming from. Before I had my kids, like,
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: I wasn't a big baby guy. Not that I didn't
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: like babies, but anytime they wanted me to hold him,
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: I was always very nervous to whole kids. Yeah, I
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: don't know how.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: I didn't have like, you know, any game with like
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: talking to the child. You know what I mean? Yes, story,
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: I do the little baby voice.
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: I never felt comfortable doing it around people or like
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: operating with kids. I was like, I was the same
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: way as you. Obviously I'm a parent now, so you're
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: you're way more comfortable, you have way more fun. It's
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: kind of like open your eyes, Like, man, it's weird
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: how much I was just kind of uncomfortable around babies.
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: But I wasn't a big baby person whatsoever until I
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: had real.
• 35:34
  Speaker 3: I feel like naturally people from birth to like probably
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: around like Ruth's age, because Ruth's like really out and
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: about at three almost four. Uh, like they just kind
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: of only do stuff with the family, or they're only
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: doing stuff at the house, so like you don't really
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: just run into a bunch of newborn babies.
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: All that are true.
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: And if I think back to me growing up, like
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: my dad was an only child. We lived in Francis
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: County where my dad's parents, my grandma and grandpa that
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: were talking about a couple of others, Yes, those are
• 36:05
  Speaker 2: my dad's parents. So we grew up around My dad
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: was an only child, so there was no uncles. Like
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: my mom, she lived away her her family's kind of
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: scattered across the country. But I didn't grow up around
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: you know, aunts and uncles or where there's new kids
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: coming into the fold. Like Whyatt is six years younger
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: than me, so by the time why it was born. No,
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: Cody's a year below me. So there's two of us
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: and we were a great part. And then Whyatt was
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: the youngest who's six years younger than me, So you
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: know that I just we were never around babies or
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: kids like some of my like one of my best friends, Logan,
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: they were they were like twelve of them. So he
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: was always very good with babies a couple of different marriages,
• 36:43
  Speaker 2: and ultimately there was a full twelve of them. Some
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: are step some are step siblings. So he was just
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: always comfortable because he's around the house and operating with
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: a newborn or whatever it is, or.
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: He was always comfortable.
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: But I just didn't grow up around where there's kids everywhere,
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: and I just knew what to do all the time.
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what makes sense? Yes, and thank you
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: for sharing that.
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: That's actually really cool to hear from demon And and
• 37:07
  Speaker 3: Asket's sick.
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: Still thinks raising a dog is the same as he does.
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: He does there are those people again.
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: And there are those parallels. I'll give him that, Yeah,
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: there are.
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: My parents got a Conyan named after Conan and the
• 37:21
  Speaker 2: Barbarian and rottweiler who they trained and did all this stuff.
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: They spent a year with Conan before they were doing
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: that to trial, before they had me, before they had
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: their first kid right on. So some people do think
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: in a way like responsibility of a dog, because there
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: are a lot of responsibility there are a dog. Then
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: when you become a parent you almost laugh at the
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: dog people. But I completely get It's like you sit
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: there and trial run a dog. We had Waffle before
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: we had Rue. Yeah, Waffles. You know, she's pretty low maintenance.
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: She's a bulldog.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah. But there are those parallels, like to.
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: Those dog people that that equate it to having a baby.
• 37:54
  Speaker 3: I will say this, if you are raising actual puppies,
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: like you you get that dog when it is a
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: puppy and you're having a house breaking stuff, I do
• 38:04
  Speaker 3: think it's a good training tool of like throw yourself
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: into some suck.
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, Like if you're ready for the sixer, do you
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: have a dog chef girl, a pseudo. I'm like a
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: stepdad to okay step step dog dad. Yeah yeah, yeah
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: dog stepdad. Yeah.
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: But if you're a Seeman Team sixer and you don't
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: have a whole lot of responsibilities going on to where
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: you might have a job, or you might be going
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: to school or whatever, it is, absolutely you want to
• 38:30
  Speaker 2: get into what the world of responsibility and not saying
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: you don't have responsibility of course, but if you're caring
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: for a little puppy like that is gonna break you.
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: It's gonna make you think about how you structure your weekends,
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: how you kind of structure your day to day because
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: you do have to map out what a routine looks
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: like to where it does pull from you and other
• 38:48
  Speaker 2: angles where you're like, fuck, I.
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: Have this dog.
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: I have to think about my dog. My boys are
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: going out of town. Who am I going to get
• 38:53
  Speaker 2: to watch the dog? I gotta start thinking about all
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: these things.
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: Yes, I gotta wake up at three o'clock in the
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: morning to clean up this p and poop puddle or
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: they pooped. They pooped in the fucking bed and I'm
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: having to claim that. Throw some newspaper on it.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: Throw some spray and spray. Yeah, we kind of just
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: got off on a tangent there. We got to keep
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: it under an out, do we do? Did you have something?
• 39:15
  Speaker 4: I just wondered while we were doing the callbacks from
• 39:18
  Speaker 4: last episode, Smith and Lenz pizza's money all remember Derek
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: and Will got into it, right we we got it Friday.
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: I'll I'll pass it to you guys. But that might
• 39:28
  Speaker 4: be the best slice in Nashville. It's gonna be hard
• 39:30
  Speaker 4: to argue that one. Yep, awesome pizza.
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: And by the way, we got in a little taff
• 39:38
  Speaker 2: we got in a little dust up last week. The
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: under the under arching theme there is we are allies.
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: We are allies. I need a deep to be mobilized more.
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: In previous engagements that we've we've had over the food topic. However,
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: Derek crushed it with Smith and Lyn's Great Pizza in Nashville.
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: Loved every slice add about of him. He brought it
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: to the shop. How many box of pizza? About eight
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: box of pizza.
• 40:03
  Speaker 5: Up in six and then a ranch for each one
• 40:06
  Speaker 5: when it was all said and done, yet six all
• 40:08
  Speaker 5: taken the problem.
• 40:09
  Speaker 1: And to put out there people who are ranch people
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: with pizza one ranch per box. We were light on ranch.
• 40:14
  Speaker 1: We right on ranch.
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: But with this type of pizza and we can get
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: into it. We can get into it. You don't need
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: a whole lot ranch. But this is my one note one.
• 40:25
  Speaker 3: When I took my first bite, I completely understood where
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: my boy Dick was coming from. In three seconds, Yeah,
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: said I would die on that hill any day with
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: you now. Like I went up to him, I said,
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: truly like top five all time. We had an artist
• 40:43
  Speaker 3: in place back in Fort Worth that was like some
• 40:46
  Speaker 3: big name pizza chef guy from like one of the
• 40:48
  Speaker 3: big cities LA New York, and it was very reminiscent
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: of that, if not better.
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: I told him tough five, all time, great pizza, to
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: the point Derek will tell you too.
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: When I got in the smaller group chat about dinner,
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: I had options in my head, but I'm like, based
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: on the resume that Derek is painting youtwo with him
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: and beer and food and everything else, I'm like, what
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: are some spots wind up just obviously landing on Pinewood.
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: But I have nothing but respect for Derek's for Derek's paller. Derek,
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: blindfold me, spin me around, and then just.
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: Pay something in my mouth. Put something in my mouth.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: I don't care that you free Saturday, Yeah, sta can
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: blowjob day.
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: Yeah, March fourteenth, blindfold me, spin me around, and put
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: something in my.
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: De only Hey, Derek, what are you doing on the fourteenth?
• 41:36
  Speaker 1: You only gonta worry about the first part, don't worry
• 41:38
  Speaker 1: about the second part.
• 41:39
  Speaker 5: When he shot me the text being like, hey, you know,
• 41:41
  Speaker 5: I got some food ideas I'd love and you did
• 41:43
  Speaker 5: say I'd love to hear what Derek. It was a
• 41:44
  Speaker 5: good stamp of approval. Feeling like I feel like I
• 41:47
  Speaker 5: got a good stamp, Like if I send you to
• 41:48
  Speaker 5: somewhere or I show you a song or a movie,
• 41:50
  Speaker 5: like I feel good about it. But the other side
• 41:52
  Speaker 5: of it is I brought this up at dinner, like
• 41:54
  Speaker 5: adding a kid to the mix. It threw off my
• 41:57
  Speaker 5: whole skip because if you were like me and char
• 41:58
  Speaker 5: are going to dinner or rinks or something, you know
• 42:01
  Speaker 5: what I mean, then like, hey, no, I'm like, dang,
• 42:03
  Speaker 5: we are bringing Scotty, Like what would be? Which is
• 42:05
  Speaker 5: why we picked Pinewood because there's a lot of room
• 42:08
  Speaker 5: to move and like it's a pretty watched environment, so
• 42:11
  Speaker 5: you haven't.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: Been to the other spots.
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: I admitted, Now, whatever you think is going to be
• 42:15
  Speaker 2: the best environment for Scotty. Yeah, because I threw a
• 42:18
  Speaker 2: couple of Mexican like Fonda Fonda on Eighth Avenue or
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: on twelfth on one of them. I think it's found
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: on twelfth very like a little more money, but great
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: Mexican food. Awesome Mexican food. Masorrow is another Mexican texts
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: Massero text mex on twelfth.
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: Have you been there? I've been to the one in
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: Fort Worth, Okay, but that's a that's a good one.
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: I was, you know, I'm like, I wonder if they've
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: been to this spot or somebody's gonna be like, hey,
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: let's go here. We ended up laying it on piewood.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: But yes, nothing but respect for Derek's food.
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: Just a little future note for any pet sikos out
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: there that are gonna invite me to a meal. But
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: I'm more specifically talking to this group. I went to
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: the corner bar with Jared and his girlfriend and it
• 43:08
  Speaker 3: was listed as a restaurant. We walked into it. It
• 43:11
  Speaker 3: was very much a bar. And now I might be
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: speaking out turned for other pet siccos I felt very
• 43:18
  Speaker 3: comfortable walking in with Scarlet and we had her a
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: little high chair thing, and I did get some looks
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: from the people sitting at the bar top going, oh,
• 43:27
  Speaker 3: that dude's walking in here with the baby.
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: What was that gonna look like?
• 43:31
  Speaker 3: Scarlett was on her best behavior and you know, didn't
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: cry at all, but I just plopped her right there
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: and we just we sat and Nate wings and they
• 43:41
  Speaker 3: had some drinks. I was driving, so I didn't partake,
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: but like, I felt very comfortable in that situation.
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: It felt normal to me. Yeah, I don't know if
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: other people like, you know whatever, so.
• 43:52
  Speaker 5: Did that thing because you were bringing up about like
• 43:54
  Speaker 5: dog people and babies comparing. I have the same thing
• 43:57
  Speaker 5: that you described when I take as my dog's a
• 43:59
  Speaker 5: pitbull to dog park where he fights at other dogs,
• 44:02
  Speaker 5: and I'm thinking, I'm cool with it? Are they cool
• 44:04
  Speaker 5: with it? The dogs are playing, and there was a quote,
• 44:06
  Speaker 5: I'm gonna do another quote. You aren't who you think
• 44:08
  Speaker 5: you are. You aren't who they think you are. You
• 44:10
  Speaker 5: are you think they think you are, which is a
• 44:12
  Speaker 5: tongue twister to say, shirm you walk, You aren't who
• 44:16
  Speaker 5: you think you are. You aren't who they think you are.
• 44:20
  Speaker 5: You are who you think they think you are. So
• 44:23
  Speaker 5: when she walks into the bar with a baby, he's
• 44:25
  Speaker 5: not just shirm and he everyone at the bar probably
• 44:28
  Speaker 5: didn't care, but he goes. Those guys are probably thinking
• 44:32
  Speaker 5: this guy is bringing a baby in when we're all
• 44:35
  Speaker 5: nobody cares. That guy's probably thinking about ordering this third
• 44:37
  Speaker 5: beer or something. So yeah, I get that a lot.
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, yeah, that is true. That that is a
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: really really good point.
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: I am often and you know that about me too.
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: I'm an overthinker. I think I think a.
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: Lot of us people in general kind of overthink everything.
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: I see what you mean, You're like people pleaser, You
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: think a lot about yeah, yeah, everything going on.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: I don't have a problem. I'm just here for the food.
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, all right, and I love my kids. Sue me.
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: I have a nice little kind of a follow up
• 45:14
  Speaker 3: comment from last week.
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: I have a bigger one.
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: Yea, yeah, this is a saddler one. This is from
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: following up last week. I have gotten several messages about
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: the message I had with reading the book and my
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: mom and everything else. This is from Landing freet Does
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: on Facebook. I just want to give a big shout
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: out to Will for being so vulnerable about how much
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: he misses and still thinks of his mom since she passed.
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: I was watching the video of him talking to talking
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: to Rue about her, and it got me really emotional.
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: I lost my dad a while back, two days after
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: he watched me play football for the first time in college.
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: Just like Will missus his mom. I missed my dad
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: every day.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: It's been thirteen years, and I still think about him
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: randomly when I'm sitting in traffic or when I wanted
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: to talk to him about cool fishing video I just watched.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: We'll probably know is this shit doesn't get any easier.
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: We just kind of learned how to cope with it
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: in a little bit and get a little bit better
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: with it over time. I'm a father of a beautiful
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: four year old girl now, and I can't help but
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: think of what a great grandfather he would be. Oh,
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: how much you would love spending time with his granddaughter,
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: how much he would make her laugh. It hurts so
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: much knowing that they will never get to have a
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: relationship together, and I'm sure Will feels the same absolutely,
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: my friend. I guess the beautiful thing is that, in
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: a way, my dad is still in me. It's still
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: in me with the lessons he passed down to me
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: and the love he gave me while I was still here.
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: Maybe that's how my daughter gets to see him through me.
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: Thank you for reminding me that it's still okay to
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: miss him, and it's still okay to feel so emotional
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: about it, no matter how long. It's been very good message, Land,
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: and I do appreciate that, and I empathize to you
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: with on all of those levels.
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: It is.
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: It's dude, it and when I want to keep myself
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: in an optimistic perspective, ripple effect on making myself feel
• 46:57
  Speaker 2: like you're at peace with it, or you have a
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: happy is from it is like I do think about
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: because my mom is at the forefront of my mind
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: a lot with a lot of things, whether it's with
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: parenting or missing or wishing I could talk to or
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: send her a message, all of that stuff. I do
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: feel like I parent better because of everything that happened,
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: because I feel so emotionally attached to it and I
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: think about it a lot, and it's helped me reflect
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: on the mom that she was to me when I
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: do feel like I communicated those things to her a lot,
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: like she knew how much like we were, we were tight,
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: and things you still think about.
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: You're like, ah, man, did she fully know that?
• 47:36
  Speaker 2: I wish I could just tell her and articulate it
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: so well one last time how much she knew. And
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: I'm like, ultimately, I do know that, and I know
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: it pours through me with parenting because I know how
• 47:46
  Speaker 2: precious now that it's Now that it's gone. I'm not
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: saying I didn't I took it for granted, or I
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: didn't appreciate it.
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: Obviously. You battle with.
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: Those demons all the time because you want such closure
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: on a moment like that you felt got taken from
• 48:02
  Speaker 2: you versus you knew what was gonna happen, or this
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: was the plan the entire time, and you kind of
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: package it like like I am the dad I am
• 48:13
  Speaker 2: because my mom was such an example and I'm able
• 48:16
  Speaker 2: to reflect on how much she meant to me because
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: it's gone, it doesn't happen anymore, So I get to
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: think about what she absolutely did for me over time,
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: through all of my years of life, through all my communications.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: Now that I'm parenting and trying to be intentional and
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: trying to think of ways to connect with Rue and
• 48:35
  Speaker 2: Scottie and be a dad, I'm like, I know she
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: went through all of these same things, and this is
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: what this meant, and now that I see it from
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: this perspective, these are all the things that she did
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: on why the decision led to this.
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: Once upon a time in my childhood.
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: Like I think about all those things to where I
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: know it gives me that north star, that guiding light
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: in my own parenting that I might not be if
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: she was still here. And I say that I can
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: probably be saying because I'm just trying to always wrap
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: my brain around it a nice silver lining, yeah, silver
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: lining with all because I do I get angry, and.
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: I talked about it a podcasts in the past.
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I do get angry knowing that she can't be
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: the grandma that I knew she was going to be,
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: Like she would have been the best crush crush because
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: it makes me laugh at my dad, or you know,
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: get frustrated with my dad because he can't just come
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: in for the weekend. If Tarl and I are going
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: to go out of town and doing and our own thing,
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: and I can't just leave the kids with my dad.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean. And I just know it's
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: like my mom would be up.
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: But at any moment I wanted to to worry, You're
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: almost we would have had to create boundaries for my
• 49:37
  Speaker 2: mom because she would have loved me and Grandma so much,
• 49:39
  Speaker 2: or putting her input on things that she's not not
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: a part of her has to know like hey, we're
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: our own tribe. Like she was a very A type personality,
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: badass mom. And I do get angry knowing that RUE
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: will never know her through her own relationship with her.
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: She's going to know her through me, through my actions
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: and when I'm having my moments and I'm trying to
• 50:00
  Speaker 2: until I'm blue in the face, hoping that I can
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: imprint on what Grandma would have meant, even though you
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: never met her, you never talked to her, you never
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: talked to her. But yeah, man, I empathize with all
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: of that message. I appreciate you writing in man and
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: knowing thirteen years somebody who's lost somebody super close, not
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: too long ago. It's been four years for me because
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: I lost my mom when charl was pregnant with Rue,
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: and knowing that it can be as long as thirteen
• 50:26
  Speaker 2: years and then it just never goes away.
• 50:28
  Speaker 3: And will this might not be the time or place
• 50:31
  Speaker 3: so like cut me off. But what was the cause
• 50:35
  Speaker 3: or timeline? I don't know if I've ever asked you that.
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: So the cause was she had a blood clot, she
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: got knee replaced, she got a new replacement, her second
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: one for her other knee, and she was so excited
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: to get it done because her other knee felt so
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: much better, and.
• 50:51
  Speaker 1: She got a knee replacement, and weeks after.
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: I don't know this to be fact, but in my head,
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: she I remember when we were talking on the phone
• 50:59
  Speaker 2: because that was year I went to the Raiders for
• 51:01
  Speaker 2: my last year of playing, where I went to Las Vegas.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: It was planning on Raiders. I got signed.
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: I actually went to my last moments with her was
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: I went back home and visited. We went to a
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: high school football game to watch ye coach, and we
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: spent the weekend there and it was a lot of fun.
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: I went to the Raider Junior Football League and watched
• 51:17
  Speaker 2: the kids on Saturday. We had a great time. And
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: that was in That was around. That was in October November.
• 51:25
  Speaker 2: Shortly after that is when I got the call to
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: go to Vegas to finish out. I was on the
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: team for five weeks to finish out the year with
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: the Raiders, Yes, where Rich Pasaci was the head coach.
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: And I remember being on the phone with her, like
• 51:36
  Speaker 2: checking in about you know, her rehab, like the knee,
• 51:39
  Speaker 2: like all the post surgery stuff, and she was excited
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: and bragging to me she's not taking it. She's got
• 51:45
  Speaker 2: off her title and all because she's very much like
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: a high pain tolerance woman, like a person who's they
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: want to be a badass. They want to do things
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: faster than hey, it's going to be a four month rehab.
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: She wants to get it done in two. Like she
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: was very she was like that like, I'm like that.
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: I was about to say apple didn't fall far.
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: And when it happened, it was I COVID was taking
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: place and we were about to play the Cleveland Browns
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: and our game got postponed to a different date.
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: We were flying out. I was in Cleveland.
• 52:20
  Speaker 2: I was in my hotel room because we were about
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: to play the Browns the next day. And I get
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: a call from Wyatt. I get a call this thing
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: happens here. Because obviously I go back to the spot
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: and we don't have to go fully into it. I
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: want to I'd like you answered my question thoroughly. Okay,
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: just say you know. I got a call from Wyatt
• 52:45
  Speaker 2: and she he was yeah, let's move.
• 52:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and all essentially they I was just I
• 53:01
  Speaker 3: didn't know, And you answered that question fabulous.
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: If I get beyond that moment, yeah, all of that
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: that took place, Besatch comes.
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: He's sitting in my hotel room with me go home.
• 53:10
  Speaker 2: They allowed me to be home for like two weeks
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: because obviously it's like it's my last year playing. We know,
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: we know him there for being a culture guy, covering
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: some kicks, covering some punts, like I'm tight with everybody
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: in the Raiders organization.
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, the Raiders organization, the fan base. My teammates were pivotal,
• 53:26
  Speaker 1: pivotal for me in that in that moment.
• 53:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, guys speaking about me and to me remembers
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: A Jones, a receiver.
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: He's mentioned me in the postgame presser.
• 53:36
  Speaker 2: We they ended up beating Cleveland and guys had all
• 53:39
  Speaker 2: the greatest messages are like, dude, it was.
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: My heart will forever.
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: Raiders will always have a beast of that because they
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: helped me through one of the hardest times, the hardest time.
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I get to go home for a couple
• 53:52
  Speaker 2: of weeks and as you know, it's very emotional, very tough.
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: It's it sucked, man. It was the most brutal time
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: ever for a lot of us, our family, everybody.
• 54:01
  Speaker 1: Yea.
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: Because she was a centerpiece of a lot of things.
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: She was a school principal for a Catholic school, Saint
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: Rose of Lehman de Soto, Missouri, and so she touched
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: a lot of people. And as I'm doing my own
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: research on the back end of finding closure, god, what
• 54:18
  Speaker 2: fucking happened?
• 54:19
  Speaker 1: Because it was sudden.
• 54:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she made she made a yelp sound that my
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: dad heard in the other room and she was just gone.
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: There was no there was no life ambulance came. They're
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: hoping it's okay. You're hoping it's okay as they go
• 54:30
  Speaker 2: to the hospital, but it was it was gone, you
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: know what I mean, There's no there was no like,
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: can we be doing something right now?
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: Could something of happened before that? And in my brain
• 54:40
  Speaker 1: when I wrap it around.
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: It's like maybe I've been her getting off the baby
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: tilan Ar the Thailand R, like was she's still taking
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: her her meds or things that like got the circulation
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: going to where this blood clot didn't form. You battle
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: through all of that shit, bro, And that is essentially
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: what happened. And that was that was in twenty It
• 54:59
  Speaker 2: was a twenty only one. Yeah, R was born on
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: April third and twenty two, So that happened in December.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: December eighteenth, twenty one, right before Christmas. My last message
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: from her and I still haven't it's what's your address
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: so I can send you Christmas gifts?
• 55:17
  Speaker 1: You know that's a good Hey, that's a good grandma. Dude, dude,
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: she was fucking the best.
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, yeah, God, I get uncomfortable doing.
• 55:30
  Speaker 1: No, You're fine. I hate the crying all the time. Yeah,
• 55:33
  Speaker 1: I know everybody's okay with it.
• 55:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's just man not to cut you off
• 55:40
  Speaker 3: or segue. But one thing that I meant to tell
• 55:43
  Speaker 3: you this off the pod was when I made that
• 55:46
  Speaker 3: video either a week ago or two weeks.
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: Ago, where you were talking about your mom.
• 55:51
  Speaker 3: I just went through your Instagram and I was like
• 55:54
  Speaker 3: ripping images off of your Instagram for like some great
• 55:58
  Speaker 3: pictures of you and.
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: Ma where you're reading captions.
• 56:00
  Speaker 3: Dude, Will It was so great because he just gave
• 56:05
  Speaker 3: me an insight into the relationship with your mom, just
• 56:09
  Speaker 3: a tad bit because I've never heard her voice.
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: I've never mattered nothing.
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and you had a capture on there that they
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: were having a family dinner the Comptons were and you
• 56:19
  Speaker 3: made an extremely off color joke.
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: About putting her in a home. Yes, and you're I
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: love that. His as reaction that he put in the
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: caption was, William, Yeah, because I have done that around
• 56:35
  Speaker 1: the office and others have too whatever, Will like go
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: too far with the joke?
• 56:39
  Speaker 4: Do that?
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: Oh Will Dude? That just made me laugh.
• 56:43
  Speaker 3: So I just I thought that was hilarious that she
• 56:48
  Speaker 3: and you play it in the caption that she was
• 56:50
  Speaker 3: smiling when she said William too that she she loved
• 56:54
  Speaker 3: your humor so right.
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: Like, if I'm putting that caption out there, it'd be like, oh,
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: why are you treating your mom like that? It's like, dude,
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: we have I bust their balls all the time.
• 57:02
  Speaker 2: Like the running joke that will still try and laugh
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: about with my old man is I would literally tell
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: them like if my dad is having like a brain
• 57:11
  Speaker 2: moment something where you're laughing at your old man, yeah,
• 57:15
  Speaker 2: I just beg dad man, I'll be honest with you.
• 57:17
  Speaker 2: I hope I hope you go first if anything happens.
• 57:21
  Speaker 2: And this is back before obviously everything took place, But
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: you're just making those jokes because it's like what.
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: Are you going to be?
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: How are you going to do anything without Mom around?
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: But I'll be okay if you go. I don't want
• 57:33
  Speaker 2: you to go. I'll be okay if you go first,
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: because at least mom, Yeah, we know how to operate.
• 57:37
  Speaker 2: My dad has done an incredible job picking himself up,
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: and you know that's a process as well for any
• 57:45
  Speaker 2: anybody who's gone through something like that.
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: Are similar. They understand this dynamic and my dad's.
• 57:51
  Speaker 3: Relationship with I think it is so funny, is like
• 57:54
  Speaker 3: I never joked with my dad, uh or well I did,
• 57:58
  Speaker 3: but like I didn't do that type of joking with
• 58:02
  Speaker 3: my dad. And when I was on the phone with
• 58:04
  Speaker 3: him the other day, I just love how like you
• 58:07
  Speaker 3: keep that same Will like sense of humor across the board,
• 58:12
  Speaker 3: even with you like not really having any personal relationship
• 58:16
  Speaker 3: with my dad. I'm on a phone call with him
• 58:19
  Speaker 3: and the shirt contest is going on, and I called
• 58:22
  Speaker 3: my dad and he had graciously offered to buy some
• 58:26
  Speaker 3: of the shirts and was wondering which shirt he needed
• 58:29
  Speaker 3: to buy for the PT six shirt to win.
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, which you won, which he's one.
• 58:35
  Speaker 3: And it's not like my dad bought a crazy amount,
• 58:37
  Speaker 3: as the story will tell. But my dad when Will
• 58:40
  Speaker 3: gets on the phone, he walks up mid combo and
• 58:44
  Speaker 3: he sticks his head in the car and he's like.
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: Mister young, you know, blah blah blah.
• 58:48
  Speaker 3: He's just like being Will. And my dad is very
• 58:51
  Speaker 3: proud to tell Will that he's buying four shirts, four
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: PT six shirts. He's like so excited to tell Will
• 58:57
  Speaker 3: that it Will goes four get thirty five those a
• 59:00
  Speaker 3: rookie numbers. We got to bub those numbers. And my dude, wait.
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: On my dad and he's like, oh, well, then I'm like, Dad,
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: he is kidding.
• 59:14
  Speaker 5: Bought all the tumblers down. His dad bought every single
• 59:18
  Speaker 5: for the Dad's coffee tumbler. And we were talking to
• 59:20
  Speaker 5: the Merchen team and they're like, yeah, we ran out
• 59:22
  Speaker 5: of that by like thirty Did.
• 59:23
  Speaker 1: You hear that story? No, he bought it as a
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: Christmas gift for his office. That is amazing And your
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: dad is awesome.
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: And and even when I'm saying it, I almost now
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: understand the dynamic that's happening because number one, your dad's
• 59:36
  Speaker 2: so proud of everything that you're doing. And yeah, he
• 59:40
  Speaker 2: also wants me to know how much it means to him,
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: how much like it's it's like a he's he almost
• 59:45
  Speaker 2: he wants to be we are on the personal level.
• 59:47
  Speaker 2: But it's like a moment for him and I am just.
• 59:50
  Speaker 3: Like and you're doing loss at the end of the day,
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: and Boss in his mind is like this, and you know,
• 59:57
  Speaker 3: he's like, man, like, what you're doing for my kid?
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: And then you also are Will Compton's you.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 3: Have like these jokes that you'll throw in that will
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 3: just catch my dad's so off guard.
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's hilarious. It is fun, dude, it is fun.
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 1: It's very funny. That made me laugh really hard. Nothing
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: ever come across the first pitch video with my mom. Yes,
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 1: you showed it to me the other day. Yeah, we're
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 1: at the Cardinal game.
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 2: It was my It was the second time I got
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: to do a first pitch for the Cardinals, and so
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 2: I was. My mom grew up. She loves baseball. She
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 2: loves the k City Chief, she loves saying Louis Cardinals baseball.
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 2: She loved it, like wed go and uh, we just
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 2: randomly on a weekend, she'd be like, let's get in
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: the car, we're gonna go up and scalp tickets. And
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: she just worked the streets like she was very much
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: like that, where you're going up. We don't have any tickets,
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: We're gonna scalp tickets. I got to watch Dontrelle Willis
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 2: with the Florida Marlins. I love, you know, fantasy baseball,
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: playing triple play on computer, backyard baseball. I loved baseball
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 2: growing up, and the Florida Marlins were in town playing
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: the Cardinals in Dontrell will was throwing, and I love
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 2: Dontroll Willis because he had this arm action, this sideal
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: action where he just kind of had to swag. He
• 1:01:05
  Speaker 2: had the juice, and so we got to watch him.
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 2: We got to watch him play that day. But I
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: knew my mom loved the Cardinals so much, so the
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 2: second time I got to do a first pitch, I'm like, hey, Mom,
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: I want you to do the first pitch, like we'll
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 2: walk out to together, but I want you to throw
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: the ball because I know she's in heaven getting to
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: go and see all this stuff. They're taking us behind
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: the scenes, showing us facilities and doing all the fun things.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 2: And we get out there and I know my mom's
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 2: about to throw, and I kind of know her our emotion.
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: You throw the ball like that, You throw a ball
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 1: like the girl. You throw a ball like a girl.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 1: You throw the ball like a girl. So they took
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: him over to get out, but I'm busting her balls.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: We're doing quotes from what's the movie with Tom Hanks,
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: the women's baseball movie Their Own, We're doing quotes from
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 2: a league of their Own. But she goes out there
• 1:01:51
  Speaker 2: and I'm recording and she throws it, throws the pitch
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 2: in the dirt, and I'm.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: Like, oh, trash, trash. She's like putting the camera in
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: her face.
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 2: But that's a video I always look back on just
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: to see moment that.
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 3: That is a funny clip worth Chef putting into the episode.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: Dude, all right.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 7: Going out for going out for our first pitch.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: I gotta bring it all the way out to the mound.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: This is the Mother's Gate, the Mother's Day gift.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 7: Everybody there you go, damn mom.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: Trash tread because it's Yeah, Will is just out of
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: bashly Will in that moment. You were sure that dude.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 1: I've got a lot of.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: Cool messages over the last week from friends of the family,
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: like friends of my mom. Oh good, just like writing
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: about that message. I woke up to another one this
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: morning from my boy, uh Foster Moreau, who was the
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: tight end on the Raiders at the time, that saw
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: that clip and he sent me a really nice message.
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 2: But yeah, man, I number one, I appreciate you guys.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: Is you guys sitting here with the boy as I
• 1:03:08
  Speaker 2: talked through something.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 5: Yah, did one call out just to say people were
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 5: asking the comments if it was like a templated book
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 5: she wrote, or if it was like an empty notebook
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 5: that she filled because a lot of people were curious.
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 1: There's like books that can happen nowadays.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 2: So yeah, it was a templated where there's questions from
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 2: her past growing up. Thinks her parents taught her old
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 2: friends that she spoke about, like she's answering questions in
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: like a templated book.
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: Then it gets to my birth.
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: You know what she envisioned for me when I was young,
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 2: And it seems like she stopped writing in it when
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: I was a senior in college because there's no mention
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 2: of like, you know, the NFL or anything like that.
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: She talks about how proud she is of getting to
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 2: play college football and playing in Nebraska.
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: But it's a very much like a templated thing. Part
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 1: of me.
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 2: I took so long to even look at the book
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 2: or even think about it. I never opened it to
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 2: where I'm like, did she write is just like a journal,
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 2: to where she wrote to me in it, you know
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: what I mean to her. I had no clue what
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 2: I was about to open. Yeah, this new ru was
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: having such a hard time, and I'm like, man, I've
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: been talking about doing this, it seems like the moment
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 2: to do it. Uh, but yeah, it was a templated
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 2: book because there's a lot of them now that are
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 2: kind of sold out there, which I I love that,
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 2: and I like tell myself, I need to do that
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: for my kids because I think it's a really cool thing.
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 2: Oh buddy from away past episode putting us on game
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 2: with a journal.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: Remember Spotify and the email account too.
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 3: That's been a dad hack that's come up plenty of
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 3: times of create a Gmail account or whatever email service
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 3: you want to use and just email it every single
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 3: day and then once the kid is old enough, give
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 3: them a password and the email address and they can
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 3: get through and read through that.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And dude, honestly, it's a I feel like, I
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 2: don't know this to be a fact, but I feel
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 2: like it. This was this was a situation that really
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 2: helped incubate this show, you know what I mean, Like
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 2: from as from a a position of it impacted me
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 2: in such a way, especially with Charli being pregnant and
• 1:05:05
  Speaker 2: having rue and articulating what I wanted to be as
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 2: a father and gravitating towards all the dad content and
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 2: the world out there because I just love it. I
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: love getting whatever new ideas are out there. When people
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: write in with questions and I might not have the answer,
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 2: but I like see myself in those questions because I
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 2: would gravitate to a lot of dad content that goes on, yeah,
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: towards being in the podcast game and everything else. It's like, man,
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: this would be this would be really cool. Like essentially,
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 2: you're making a show speaking to your old self that
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: you know, my mom made such an impact on me
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 2: that it has impacted me in my own journey as
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: a dad, which having the show has been has meant
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 2: the world. Like whenever you guys reach out, whenever you
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 2: guys do comment about this stuff as awkward as I
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: feel crying or when my mom's stuff comes up in
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 2: my brain, I'm like, man, does this stuff come up
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 2: too much?
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: Am I crying too much about this? People? You don't
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 1: know how much joy.
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 2: And how much value you guys do bring to me
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 2: when I see that it does help impact or help
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 2: somebody that has missed their dad for thirteen years. Beck
• 1:06:06
  Speaker 2: was It was nice seeing that and understanding that we
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 2: all do. We all go through this shit together. Yeah,
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 2: and you're kind of one listen or one conversation or
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: one comment or right up away from connecting to something
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: that feels like yeah, I should see it this way,
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: or yeah, I am feeling that anger and you just
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: feel like you're not alone, you know what I mean?
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 3: Yes, And it's great to be able to smell the
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 3: flowers from a standpoint of being able to see the
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 3: community that has been built from this. We talked earlier
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 3: about the Jared Ladds Twitter group before the Dad's Twitter
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 3: community that he started and a lot of dad up
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 3: to one hundred and ninety eight members now, which that's
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 3: let's go, that's sick. But in that group, like these
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 3: dads are just like posting pictures of like them hanging
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 3: out with their kids.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 1: Like it's the most dad coded group ever. Like we've
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 1: got our own Facebook now, it's like a Facebook for
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: these dads and be like I took my.
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 3: Kid fishing, we went to this pizza spot like blah
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 3: blah blah. But like the just to be like entered
• 1:07:20
  Speaker 3: into that world of being surrounded by other people that
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 3: are like, man, family is so important and being a
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 3: good dad is so important, and having that constant reminder, yeah,
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 3: being a part of this show like kind of puts
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 3: the blinders on because it is my job to like
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 3: do the show and to interact with that community. But
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 3: it is also a nice refresher sometimes of like, man,
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 3: I'm so lucky to be a part of this community
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 3: and see all this positive I have the most positive
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 3: timeline on the internet quote graphic, like I really do.
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 3: It's crazy, it is. It's awesome. So oh and shout
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 3: out to you for ideating this show. But shout out
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 3: to the community.
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 2: The shout out to the community. Askment because it does.
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: It's like you almost it helps you if you just
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: think of the brand or the community and you factor
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 2: it into one singular person. It feels like you almost
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: have like an accountabil a buddy. Yeah, because there's a
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 2: lot of times where if I'm getting frustrated or I'm thinking,
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 2: because it's obviously it's it's an ongoing cycle all the time,
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 2: I'm almost like thinking about stuff we've said on the show,
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 2: or thinking of a write end that somebody had, you
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 2: know what I mean to where you know.
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: You're dealing with it in real time.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: Of you know what the Willie one shelf like anytime
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: Charles talking about hanging up something now or doing something
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 2: like that now infiltrates my brain to where if there's
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: no if there's no none of that, who knows whatever
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 2: cycle it would have created if like I don't want
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 2: to do this, I'm being.
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 3: So serious when you say that, But prepping for this show,
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 3: we used to have that or not used to have
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 3: we still have it. The the trenches segment that we'll
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 3: do sometimes, and the trenches segment that I would have sometimes.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 1: Is solo Dad weekend.
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 3: That was like something that I was like, man, I'm
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 3: going I'm really going through the shit, and not to
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 3: make light of anything that's been submitted to us.
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 1: But like now in my head, I have these.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 3: Ride ends of oh my dog died, I got in
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 3: a huge car accident, almost died, had to get surgery,
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 3: blah blah blah. At least I get to hug my
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 3: kiddos though, and I'm like, man, what am I doing
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 3: writing down the trenches.
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 1: I had to have a solo Oh whoe is me?
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 1: It was just me and my daughter this weekend? Fuck,
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: Like it really did shift my perspective so much of like, bro,
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 1: I'm so freaking lucky, It's unreal, and like, yeah, I
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: could get emotional if I went further, but that that's it.
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 1: I'm very low. I need this show. Well I do
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 1: have some building there, so I see it. That counts.
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 1: We did have a ride in.
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 3: If we want to go into some quick dad comments
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 3: and then maybe we hit to crack a cold one.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do it. Mark, So what is this? What
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 1: is this? Preface as? Is this and this I see email?
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 3: Uh yes, but it was preface as like general comments.
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 1: Okay, general comments.
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 3: So this one is fun because although it is email,
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 3: it's quick. Caitlin's husband wrote into the show last week
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 3: and I forget his name, his first name, but he.
• 1:10:36
  Speaker 1: Like he casually Zach. He casually was like, you.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 3: Know, there's this great this great quote from my old
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 3: ball coach back in the day, Pete Carroll and Will
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 3: and I like laughed very hard at that because they're like,
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 3: oh yeah his old ball copy.
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, just nonchalantly Pete Carrol, just a little old Peete
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 1: Carroll and so, uh yeah, man, one of my old
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: mentors of mine, of Vince Lombardi, my old fish you
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: don't know who he is, my old fishing buddy, Nicholas Sabin, Whatst.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: Virginia guy back in the day he goes by Nick. Yeah,
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 1: he goes by Nick. He's got this great quote you
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 1: just spoke at the White House. But uh, his wife
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: rodin and this is what she had to say.
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 3: Her name is Caitlin. I hope I'm pronouncing this correctly.
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 4: A bear.
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 3: Or keeber mt six here, mom of three, married to
• 1:11:31
  Speaker 3: the hottest USC offensive lineman to ever set foot in
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 3: the coliseum two thousand and six to twenty ten.
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 1: Did he play in the in the Rosewell game? That
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 1: means he would have played in the rossee Oh six, right,
• 1:11:44
  Speaker 1: that's that was fo It was four years old because
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 1: he's Reggie bok he one was Yeah, Zach.
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 3: Zach Abert number seventy four and no hot offensive lineman
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 3: is not an oxymoron.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 1: Single ladies.
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 3: Courtney Strong in parenthese she actually wrote that that's not
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 3: Caitlin's obviously an empty sicco Uh find yourself an offensive lineman.
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 3: They get the job done, best husband and best dad.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 3: Two comments empty fit. I'm a nurse, shout out Jillybean,
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 3: and I made it a priority to wake up at
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 3: five am before uh work four times a week to
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 3: get my workout in in the garage squat rack dialed
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 3: in waits ready to go, and let me tell you,
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 3: empty sixers. It's a game changer for my mental health,
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 3: my physical health, and hey, if I'm being honest, it's
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 3: kind of an empty shockwave for the hubs. Works both ways.
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 3: Crying laughing face, hashtag.
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: Put a bow on ito, Uh siko, that's a good
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 1: looking for right. I want to be as that flow?
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 1: Still going on with that? Did he play with Clay? Yeah?
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, God, you gotta ask Clay about Zach. He'll be like, Oh,
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 3: the hotty number seventy four and what's her name? Kayln Kaylin,
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 3: and god, she's I'm sitting here listening. It's like the
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 3: pet Fits world. It's not even done.
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 1: Oh we're still gone. We're still no, but continue your thought.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: No we finished. It's seeping with all these I know
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 1: what you mean.
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 3: Other comment for the girl dads out there, we have
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 3: two girls and got our boy two years ago. Our
• 1:13:33
  Speaker 3: family is complete and so full of love and joy.
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 3: Watching our girls love their brother is incredible. I'm gonna
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 3: share some advice, and someone told us when we decided
• 1:13:42
  Speaker 3: to roll the dice for one more, don't make eye
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 3: contact when you're trying to make that boy, I'm going to.
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 1: Read that again. I'm going to read that again because
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 1: that that this is this is my game, this is
• 1:13:57
  Speaker 1: raw game. This is from her.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 3: Don't make eye contact when you're trying to make that boy.
• 1:14:08
  Speaker 3: That's all I gotta say. It's evidence based, this is
• 1:14:12
  Speaker 3: backed by science. Essentially. Love what you guys are doing.
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 1: Keep it up. MT six out that. Put that in
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 1: a frame. Put this one in a frame. That's a
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 1: great one.
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna go ahead and as good as he gets
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 3: right there, I'm gonna put it on the shelf.
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 1: You literally am.
• 1:14:27
  Speaker 2: Don't hey, you want game on how to make a boy?
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 2: Don't make eye contact? I wonder if that came from
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 2: her or came from him.
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 1: Like, think if it came from her and they're about
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 1: to hit the shockwave and she's looking at him and
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 1: she's like, don't make eye contact with me, trust me.
• 1:14:46
  Speaker 1: And the fourteenth would be a great date to test
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 1: that theory out. I mean, you get a little bit out.
• 1:14:55
  Speaker 2: You're hitting a different we're hitting a different No, no, you're
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 2: in a different coaster.
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 1: Yoh sure, but who's to say, you know, I don't
• 1:15:05
  Speaker 1: just go to six lags and go, oh, I'm only
• 1:15:07
  Speaker 1: gonna do that one. I'm only gonna do the mister Freeze.
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 3: Oh, We're gonna do Mittal Freeze like five times, guys.
• 1:15:11
  Speaker 3: That's the only one. No, we're gonna work our way
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 3: over to the Titan. We're gonna do Batman a little bit,
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 3: and you know we're gonna hit shock Wave.
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 1: But just know when we hit that Batman, don't look
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: me in the e Don't fucking look at me. Don't
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 1: you fucking look at me. You look away right now.
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 1: That's that's amazing. Shout out Kaitlyn. Shout out Kaitlyn.
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 4: A quick quick clarification the national champion champ. That game
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 4: was five oh six, so we're both we're all kind
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 4: of right on that.
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 3: Okay, thank you for the clarity. Should update from Chef.
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 2: I got a couple here on Spotify Jeff four days ago,
• 1:15:48
  Speaker 2: new listener, dead of two beautiful girls four months and
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 2: twenty seven months. That's two brother, can't believe I'm just
• 1:15:55
  Speaker 2: not discovering you guys. Better late than never, Stoked to
• 1:15:58
  Speaker 2: be a t PT sixer. Let's go, Jeff. Thank you
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  Speaker 2: for joining the brand. Thank you for joining this army
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  Speaker 2: of bt sikos.
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 3: Jeff Better late than never better, Nate than lever, Jeff,
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 3: We're glad to have you. Yeah, we're glad to have you.
• 1:16:13
  Speaker 3: Nick Dido on Instagram. Boy, his mom is fighting for
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 3: her life at night with the three week old, but
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 3: tomorrow morning starts the war, my war at home. The
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 3: toddler is ready for potty training, and mornings are dad's responsibility.
• 1:16:28
  Speaker 1: Good.
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 3: We have to start this on the right foot. Tonight
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 3: I moved the kid potty in the right position, covered
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 3: the couches and blankets, and studied the material.
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 1: I think we're ready. As a US Navy sailor. Thank
• 1:16:42
  Speaker 1: you for your service.
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 3: Thank you sir, for fourteen years now we have sailors
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 3: around the world kicking ass right now so that I
• 1:16:49
  Speaker 3: can be on leave to take care of my family.
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 3: Thank you for their service. So is potty training important?
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 1: Yes? But will it break me?
• 1:16:59
  Speaker 6: No?
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 1: God bless you more. Good ship on it? Ship but yeah.
• 1:17:06
  Speaker 1: The new comment this week hashtag ship on it. Good
• 1:17:13
  Speaker 1: ship keep going. They'll just stop with bt make our
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 1: life hell.
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 3: But this is how we learn. The obstacle is the way.
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 3: Put a bow on it, put a blindfold on it. Yeah,
• 1:17:27
  Speaker 3: if you're trying to have.
• 1:17:28
  Speaker 1: A boy yeah, yeah, don't look him in the eye.
• 1:17:30
  Speaker 1: I do have a quick new dad one. I only
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 1: have one.
• 1:17:32
  Speaker 2: I still got, I still got another one, still got
• 1:17:36
  Speaker 2: another one. From William Dousa on Spotify. The fella's laying
• 1:17:40
  Speaker 2: here watching the podcast with my three week old baby
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 2: girl in my chest, talking about pet fit. There is
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 2: such unaccountability up for pet Fit. It's staring us in
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 2: the face. Shirt it is we can touch off in
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 2: the face. Something we can do is sign up for
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 2: then here we go. Oh now now we got we
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 2: got an idea. Man with William, I signed up for
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 2: a half marathon in May. So this is a half
• 1:18:08
  Speaker 2: marathons that's a slow burn and it's helped me get
• 1:18:11
  Speaker 2: out and work out and go on runs. Since I
• 1:18:14
  Speaker 2: signed up, I really felt better with my health and
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 2: it helps that you have something to work towards. Once
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 2: that event is over, the routine is set. Thank you.
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 2: My mind has never gone Listen, this is Dan Gable quote.
• 1:18:29
  Speaker 2: My mind has never gone very far from what I
• 1:18:33
  Speaker 2: wanted to accomplish.
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 1: He threw a Dan Gable. Can I see that? Yeah? Absolutely,
• 1:18:41
  Speaker 1: well this one will go somewhere as well. Okay, we'll
• 1:18:44
  Speaker 1: just start hanging up comments. We're just gonna start hanging
• 1:18:46
  Speaker 1: up comments. That's a new thing. Pek fit has got
• 1:18:53
  Speaker 1: to be a reality it it is. Did you see
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 1: the call out that I got? I don't so no,
• 1:19:01
  Speaker 1: remind me now, remind me, tell me about it.
• 1:19:03
  Speaker 3: Somebody wants to race me to a sub two hundred weight.
• 1:19:07
  Speaker 3: He's at two thirty and he's six foot I'm at
• 1:19:12
  Speaker 3: two twenty five or far two point fifteen and I'm
• 1:19:17
  Speaker 3: five foot eight.
• 1:19:20
  Speaker 1: So I feel like I one hundred have the leg
• 1:19:24
  Speaker 1: up on him right Possibly, who knows.
• 1:19:27
  Speaker 3: Possibly it could be a genetic freak, isn't it kind
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 3: of it's kind of harder for the leakier guys to
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 3: drop or is it harder for shorter guys to drop weight?
• 1:19:36
  Speaker 1: It just depends. Depends. But he wants to race me
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 1: to do sub two hundred for diapers, depends on That's
• 1:19:42
  Speaker 1: a that's a good challenge. That's a good challenge.
• 1:19:45
  Speaker 2: But as far as pt fit goes, we think about
• 1:19:47
  Speaker 2: routine and structure. Because I've been hitting my Zone two
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 2: this week, but that's about it. I have a sore.
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 2: Next is outfitting the weight room at the end of
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 2: this month.
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 1: Two.
• 1:19:55
  Speaker 2: Zone two is staying within a heart rate of zone
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 2: two heart rates, so mine is like one twenty five.
• 1:20:00
  Speaker 2: I have to one thirty five. I won twenty five
• 1:20:02
  Speaker 2: to one for I stay in that zone. The structure
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 2: right now is getting one hundred and fifty minutes a week,
• 1:20:08
  Speaker 2: so five thirty minute sessions and that's that's light work
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 2: to what I need to be at. Okay, But pt
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 2: fit there's an opportunity for routine and structure for this
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 2: community to where you might have that challenge.
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 1: But what is the overall framework that we can give ourselves? Yeah,
• 1:20:27
  Speaker 1: how will this be implemented into my life?
• 1:20:30
  Speaker 2: What I think in my head is I think of
• 1:20:32
  Speaker 2: you know, Form Energy. They're they're a partner of ours
• 1:20:35
  Speaker 2: in the Busting with the Boys universe. Yes, first Form
• 1:20:38
  Speaker 2: or Andy Furcella had a framework called seventy five Hard,
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 2: which is like more of an extreme like it's it's
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 2: an awesome framework in formula and everything else, but it's
• 1:20:48
  Speaker 2: almost like, how can you do an iteration to where
• 1:20:52
  Speaker 2: this pt fit is not only a movement but an
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 2: accountability thing for dads, like for us in our community. Yes,
• 1:20:59
  Speaker 2: whether it's you know, smaller things, whether it's like you know,
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 2: hitting strength workouts, x amount of times a week zone
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 2: to her cardio x amount of times a week. Steps
• 1:21:10
  Speaker 2: getting your steps, and people are big on getting their steps,
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 2: and who knows. I'm opening this up, but I do
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 2: think there's something there because bro, I know for me personally,
• 1:21:19
  Speaker 2: I've got to get right. I've got to get like
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 2: on it like Charo Charo crushes it. She got her
• 1:21:26
  Speaker 2: You know how I said, I did my DEXA and
• 1:21:27
  Speaker 2: I'm like twenty seven percent body fat. Yeah, six hundred
• 1:21:30
  Speaker 2: grams of visceral fat. She does the same thing as
• 1:21:32
  Speaker 2: I do. Her stuff came back after essentially seven months,
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 2: She's down like four percent body fat. Her viscral fat
• 1:21:40
  Speaker 2: is way down. Like she like I have six hundred grams,
• 1:21:43
  Speaker 2: she's got like one hundred or eighty five.
• 1:21:45
  Speaker 1: Maybe I've read she's fresh off Kiddo number two.
• 1:21:48
  Speaker 2: She's grinding Shit's being a great partner for me right
• 1:21:51
  Speaker 2: now on like because she knows I've been a little
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 2: disappointed in myself about all of that stuff. Like I
• 1:21:55
  Speaker 2: sit there, I use jokes, I do all these things
• 1:21:57
  Speaker 2: for my insecurities and everything else. But she's been a
• 1:22:01
  Speaker 2: great partner on like how can we structure stuff because
• 1:22:03
  Speaker 2: it's essentially it's like waking my ass up.
• 1:22:06
  Speaker 1: Earlier than you know.
• 1:22:07
  Speaker 2: We already wake up at like six thirty am, seven o'clock.
• 1:22:10
  Speaker 2: Get the kids going, she does the kiddo's upstairs. I'm
• 1:22:12
  Speaker 2: the dad who you know, well, whoever gets out the
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 2: feed while first. But I'm making breakfast and lunch for
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 2: Rue and getting breakfast going for Scottie.
• 1:22:20
  Speaker 1: Like we have our roles to where our susans. We
• 1:22:22
  Speaker 1: crush it together.
• 1:22:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's like, man, how can I own the
• 1:22:25
  Speaker 2: morning because I know it's just me going to bed earlier,
• 1:22:28
  Speaker 2: and I know it's just me waking up earlier and
• 1:22:31
  Speaker 2: getting the work in.
• 1:22:32
  Speaker 1: Because she even brought up I feel like you need
• 1:22:35
  Speaker 1: to be.
• 1:22:35
  Speaker 2: Around an accountability buddy or a group or something, because
• 1:22:39
  Speaker 2: you don't have that now that you're not done playing football.
• 1:22:42
  Speaker 2: And clearly I've fallen off the I've fallen off the
• 1:22:45
  Speaker 2: bike when it comes to my own self care with
• 1:22:47
  Speaker 2: me being the only individual doing it or taking control
• 1:22:50
  Speaker 2: of what my structure is going to look like. She's like,
• 1:22:52
  Speaker 2: I think it'd be good if you got around other people,
• 1:22:55
  Speaker 2: whether it's me and you. Now that we have our
• 1:22:56
  Speaker 2: little room set up in the house, like if we
• 1:22:58
  Speaker 2: do stuff in the morning together.
• 1:22:59
  Speaker 1: She's been all the time.
• 1:23:01
  Speaker 3: Yes, A running group, a online group.
• 1:23:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:23:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, She's like, I think you just need the team aspect,
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 2: and my brain just goes to it's like pt fit.
• 1:23:12
  Speaker 3: Yes, dude, I think we have a huge opportunity. And
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 3: also a side note, a very funny moment with Will
• 1:23:18
  Speaker 3: being at your house. I was asking you about some
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 3: financial advice. It then turned into you talking about your
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 3: health and stuff, and you were almost like trying to
• 1:23:30
  Speaker 3: explain like your health situation and how you're wanting to
• 1:23:35
  Speaker 3: get back on track. And it wasn't like you were
• 1:23:38
  Speaker 3: defending yourself to me, But in that moment I wanted
• 1:23:41
  Speaker 3: to be like, Will, do you do you see who
• 1:23:43
  Speaker 3: you're talking to? Like you got enough, Like, hey, don't
• 1:23:47
  Speaker 3: worry you're preaching to the choir, buddy, right, I'm right
• 1:23:52
  Speaker 3: there with you, I know, but but not to soften
• 1:23:57
  Speaker 3: the fact that you are very passionate about this, and
• 1:24:00
  Speaker 3: I equally saying, can I very quickly just because you
• 1:24:05
  Speaker 3: like hit so many buzzwords, talking about first form, talking
• 1:24:09
  Speaker 3: about seventy five hard all that stuff. I have a
• 1:24:12
  Speaker 3: really great email from Emmett Rodriguez that touches on all
• 1:24:16
  Speaker 3: that stuff I read no shit, yeah yeah, rip it.
• 1:24:20
  Speaker 3: So Emmett says, what's going on? Boy, has been a
• 1:24:23
  Speaker 3: long time listener. And now once you start by saying
• 1:24:26
  Speaker 3: thank you, the last the cries, the advice you have
• 1:24:28
  Speaker 3: shared have given me a great perspective and better feeling
• 1:24:32
  Speaker 3: going into my first baby. Boy, let's go, Immitt. I
• 1:24:36
  Speaker 3: want to talk about pt fit. I was once three
• 1:24:39
  Speaker 3: hundred and fifteen pounds at about the age of eighteen.
• 1:24:43
  Speaker 3: Around that period in time, I began having a rhythmias
• 1:24:50
  Speaker 3: in my heart. My heart would spike all over the place.
• 1:24:54
  Speaker 3: Despite being an athlete in middle school in high school, I.
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 1: Was severely out of shape.
• 1:25:00
  Speaker 3: During the time, I was hospitalized for a week and
• 1:25:03
  Speaker 3: had to have two ablations and coded during the second one.
• 1:25:07
  Speaker 3: Coding is very serious for anybody outside of the medical realm.
• 1:25:12
  Speaker 3: That's when the little thing beside the hospital's bed starts
• 1:25:15
  Speaker 3: going deep and everybody in the floor runs in. That's
• 1:25:19
  Speaker 3: a coding is a big deal. Thankfully, I had a
• 1:25:23
  Speaker 3: great cardiologist and nursing staff that shocked me back to life.
• 1:25:27
  Speaker 3: While waking up, I would come in and out of
• 1:25:29
  Speaker 3: sleep and listen to my parents talk about me and
• 1:25:32
  Speaker 3: how they didn't want to lose me. This was the
• 1:25:34
  Speaker 3: first time I saw my dad cry. Being the oldest,
• 1:25:39
  Speaker 3: I quickly understood how they could have easily buried their
• 1:25:42
  Speaker 3: child that week. The amount of pain and guilt I
• 1:25:45
  Speaker 3: had created for them, I knew I had to change.
• 1:25:49
  Speaker 3: Once medically cleared, I began my fitness journey, dropping to
• 1:25:52
  Speaker 3: about two point fifty over a year three fifteen to
• 1:25:55
  Speaker 3: two point fifty in a year. Then I found first form,
• 1:26:00
  Speaker 3: became a legioneer while applying for physical therapy school and
• 1:26:05
  Speaker 3: committed to seventy five hard Through that I got down
• 1:26:08
  Speaker 3: to one eighty five and probably one eighty five from
• 1:26:12
  Speaker 3: three fifteen to one eighty five, and probably the healthiest
• 1:26:15
  Speaker 3: I have ever been. He's now twenty nine years old
• 1:26:18
  Speaker 3: and he exercised and exercise is his career now. As
• 1:26:22
  Speaker 3: a physical therapist, I prescribe exercise, so I have to
• 1:26:25
  Speaker 3: look the part, but I had to let myself go
• 1:26:28
  Speaker 3: a bit currently two twenty, but now that I'm expecting
• 1:26:32
  Speaker 3: my first son, I have recently been moved by living
• 1:26:35
  Speaker 3: to see him grow and being able to play and
• 1:26:38
  Speaker 3: run with him, show him how badass his dad is,
• 1:26:41
  Speaker 3: and inspire him to always prioritize health. He doesn't know
• 1:26:45
  Speaker 3: it just yet, but he has already made my life
• 1:26:48
  Speaker 3: so much better. And I'm so grateful that I get
• 1:26:52
  Speaker 3: to be his dad. Best from Fort Worth, Texas. I'm
• 1:26:55
  Speaker 3: telling you, we just there's something in the water.
• 1:26:58
  Speaker 1: He also really juices me up. Man, keep providing these pictures.
• 1:27:03
  Speaker 2: That's for Sella right there on the right, the guy
• 1:27:06
  Speaker 2: he's due.
• 1:27:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Okay, they're awesome. They are awesome people.
• 1:27:10
  Speaker 1: Missouri boys. Really yeah.
• 1:27:12
  Speaker 2: When we when we went out to do and Isa Bush,
• 1:27:15
  Speaker 2: yeah HQ, that's we went to their place. Like I
• 1:27:17
  Speaker 2: was on Andy Forcell's MFCO podcast, like back in twenty fifteen,
• 1:27:22
  Speaker 2: where I'm talking about like Redskins football lead like all
• 1:27:26
  Speaker 2: this stuff. Like I'm a massive first form fan love
• 1:27:29
  Speaker 2: the Forcella brothers. Shout out sal and Andy. Okay, that's
• 1:27:32
  Speaker 2: they're awesome dudes, man, they are awesome dudes. And that
• 1:27:35
  Speaker 2: culture is is incredible. It's an A plus like people
• 1:27:40
  Speaker 2: that finding go on to and buy into it. It's
• 1:27:43
  Speaker 2: it's all time will plus to compliment them. If there's
• 1:27:47
  Speaker 2: any first form people listening. When Will H went and.
• 1:27:52
  Speaker 3: Visited their office, you said something to the effect that
• 1:27:55
  Speaker 3: it was like touring a football program like and you'll
• 1:28:00
  Speaker 3: do the spring tours, and that it was the best
• 1:28:02
  Speaker 3: run football program that you have come across as far
• 1:28:05
  Speaker 3: as team buy in and mentality within the door, their.
• 1:28:09
  Speaker 2: Culture, operation, people, the way the way they do anything
• 1:28:15
  Speaker 2: is the way they do everything.
• 1:28:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, core values.
• 1:28:18
  Speaker 2: It's it was fun to go to because you almost
• 1:28:21
  Speaker 2: get inspired with our own business culture and everything else
• 1:28:25
  Speaker 2: because the way they do everything is very it's very tight.
• 1:28:28
  Speaker 2: But also everybody is bought in because they do personal
• 1:28:31
  Speaker 2: development stuff with their company.
• 1:28:34
  Speaker 1: It's clean, it's beautiful.
• 1:28:35
  Speaker 2: It does seem like a like someone sunk money into
• 1:28:39
  Speaker 2: a perennial D one university. Yeah, it's as close to
• 1:28:42
  Speaker 2: a football facility in college Division one as you would get,
• 1:28:47
  Speaker 2: in my opinion, to any company culture that's not like
• 1:28:50
  Speaker 2: in football.
• 1:28:50
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean. They're supplements, their fitness, they're
• 1:28:52
  Speaker 1: all these other things. But it is. It's incredible, man, truly,
• 1:28:55
  Speaker 1: it's incredible.
• 1:28:57
  Speaker 3: That's so sick, dude, And I love how much it
• 1:28:59
  Speaker 3: got you from coming back. You talked to individually everyone
• 1:29:03
  Speaker 3: in the office, and I got to hear you each
• 1:29:06
  Speaker 3: time telling.
• 1:29:07
  Speaker 1: A different uh fact. But the word is. In fact,
• 1:29:14
  Speaker 1: it was like a different attribute about their company that
• 1:29:17
  Speaker 1: you'd forgotten. A detail, Yeah, a different detail that you'd forgotten,
• 1:29:21
  Speaker 1: and you'd be like, oh, bro, they don't even they
• 1:29:25
  Speaker 1: don't even have cleaning. They don't have a cleaning crew
• 1:29:28
  Speaker 1: in the office. They pick it up, they pick it up.
• 1:29:31
  Speaker 1: You don't pick it up. They dock your pay. Imagine
• 1:29:34
  Speaker 1: he imagine if I did that around here? What do
• 1:29:38
  Speaker 1: you think what happened?
• 1:29:40
  Speaker 3: I'm sitting there with like eight like cups on my desk.
• 1:29:43
  Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, I mean, good call out last. This
• 1:29:47
  Speaker 3: is the last new dat comment. I'll just what else
• 1:29:49
  Speaker 3: do we have?
• 1:29:50
  Speaker 1: Because I know we've been we've been rocking. Yes we can,
• 1:29:53
  Speaker 1: we can hit this because.
• 1:29:54
  Speaker 2: There's there's six over here I haven't read. Sometimes you
• 1:29:57
  Speaker 2: just gotta think we're rolling.
• 1:29:58
  Speaker 1: You just gotta have an instinct to be like, okay,
• 1:30:00
  Speaker 1: we don't crack a cold one. Let's crack a cold one. Pt.
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• 1:30:10
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• 1:30:14
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• 1:30:17
  Speaker 3: But somebody we have been mentioning enough because we can't
• 1:30:20
  Speaker 3: stop talking about them. Is Lollipop and will I.
• 1:30:24
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• 1:30:28
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• 1:30:31
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• 1:30:36
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• 1:30:40
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• 1:30:44
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• 1:30:46
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• 1:30:49
  Speaker 1: Really? Yeah?
• 1:30:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I've hit the watermelon line way too much. Yeah,
• 1:30:55
  Speaker 2: And honestly, tasting the Classic Grape on the taste test,
• 1:30:59
  Speaker 2: let me to drink another one over the weekend, and
• 1:31:01
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I messed with grape.
• 1:31:03
  Speaker 3: I messed with Grape heavy as well, and that was
• 1:31:06
  Speaker 3: from the blind taste. That's funny enough. I walked away
• 1:31:10
  Speaker 3: with the Classic Grape and the cherry. I was messing
• 1:31:14
  Speaker 3: with the cherry heavy. And I've never messed with any
• 1:31:17
  Speaker 3: cherry flavor. If I'm picking flavors, cherries never at the top.
• 1:31:21
  Speaker 1: With Ollipop.
• 1:31:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it was maybe number one. I forget
• 1:31:25
  Speaker 3: my rankings. However, Ollipop, it's one of our favorites we
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  Speaker 3: talk about all the time.
• 1:31:30
  Speaker 1: I'll take a little sippy poo and just a while,
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  Speaker 1: he's taking a little sippy poo.
• 1:31:34
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  Speaker 1: No, he was promise. Yep, that's fact? Is that on Instagram? Yeah? Yeah,
• 1:31:45
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  Speaker 2: My crack of cole One is going to go to
• 1:33:33
  Speaker 2: the weekend with Scotti. It was I've watched Scotti solo
• 1:33:37
  Speaker 2: before when she's when she was a lot younger, and
• 1:33:39
  Speaker 2: Charlo took Rude to London.
• 1:33:41
  Speaker 1: Charlo takes roof everywhere. Why she's taking you? But yeah,
• 1:33:47
  Speaker 1: I know, well she did off and I was like
• 1:33:48
  Speaker 1: I cannot keep it. You're gonna take rude. Not my
• 1:33:51
  Speaker 1: first born, but getting a rock with Scotty.
• 1:33:54
  Speaker 2: Scotti's again sixteen months, and I feel like the fifteen
• 1:33:57
  Speaker 2: sixteenth month parties were person really starts coming to life
• 1:34:02
  Speaker 2: when you're if you're a parent, you got a younger one,
• 1:34:04
  Speaker 2: like with Scarlett. I know I've told you this, but
• 1:34:06
  Speaker 2: it's like I remember back to Rue, around sixteen months
• 1:34:09
  Speaker 2: is when their personality and everything comes to life because
• 1:34:11
  Speaker 2: they can walk, they can do all the things to
• 1:34:12
  Speaker 2: where they know what they're trying to do, and they're
• 1:34:14
  Speaker 2: starting to look at you and try and listen and
• 1:34:16
  Speaker 2: everything else.
• 1:34:16
  Speaker 1: Yep. So it was kind of.
• 1:34:18
  Speaker 2: My first weekend or a few days with Scotty where it's
• 1:34:20
  Speaker 2: just me and her, like taking her around town, going
• 1:34:23
  Speaker 2: eat with the boys, getting her around different people because
• 1:34:25
  Speaker 2: on Friday, Clump and Jerry came to the house too,
• 1:34:28
  Speaker 2: and them just just interacting and socializing her with my buddies,
• 1:34:32
  Speaker 2: with my friends, and it was just a lot of fun,
• 1:34:35
  Speaker 2: like being on a routine, playing with her again, taken
• 1:34:39
  Speaker 2: her around town. It was just a lot of fun
• 1:34:40
  Speaker 2: to connect with Scotti where it's just me and her
• 1:34:43
  Speaker 2: and not the whole tribe of the entire family, where
• 1:34:46
  Speaker 2: it's me, Mom, rue Scottie, like it's just me and her, connecting,
• 1:34:49
  Speaker 2: me and her doing everything, getting to know her, her
• 1:34:52
  Speaker 2: waking up from her nap and be like daddad dad,
• 1:34:54
  Speaker 2: dad her in her mind like that's the only one
• 1:34:57
  Speaker 2: he does, the only one here banging on the crib dad. Yeah,
• 1:35:00
  Speaker 2: I don't think I talked to her. I'll be up
• 1:35:02
  Speaker 2: in three minute, sweetheart. And uh, but it was just fun, man.
• 1:35:06
  Speaker 2: I had a good time with Scotty. So that's what
• 1:35:07
  Speaker 2: my kracker cole.
• 1:35:08
  Speaker 3: One goes to congratulations on that Kracker cole and I
• 1:35:11
  Speaker 3: got to see it personally, and I'm glad I did
• 1:35:13
  Speaker 3: because you were operating. I just want to shout out
• 1:35:16
  Speaker 3: this one moment when you had both oven mits on
• 1:35:19
  Speaker 3: and you were making Scottie's pre nap launch and uh,
• 1:35:25
  Speaker 3: the chicken nuggies were not ready yet in the oven
• 1:35:28
  Speaker 3: and she was letting you know from the high chair
• 1:35:31
  Speaker 3: da with the hands going and you had both oven
• 1:35:34
  Speaker 3: mits on.
• 1:35:35
  Speaker 1: You go, honey, hey, I know, I hear you listen,
• 1:35:39
  Speaker 1: but they're not ready. They need three more minutes.
• 1:35:42
  Speaker 3: And her kind of makeup face like ah, shit, and
• 1:35:46
  Speaker 3: y'all like having that little communication with each other. Yeah,
• 1:35:49
  Speaker 3: it was incredible to see. She's incredible, true too. She
• 1:35:53
  Speaker 3: put down the fruit.
• 1:35:55
  Speaker 2: The point I keep opening up these little the little oranges.
• 1:35:57
  Speaker 2: What are they called?
• 1:35:58
  Speaker 1: Cuties? Tanger danjerine cuties them? I ate sharing? You want
• 1:36:02
  Speaker 1: one of these? She's running through them right now. Scarlett
• 1:36:06
  Speaker 1: sucked that entire one, you know, her mouth.
• 1:36:08
  Speaker 3: I had to fish it out of there, and I
• 1:36:11
  Speaker 3: got some notes from Mom. That's the number one way
• 1:36:14
  Speaker 3: to make them choke. You did not put your finger
• 1:36:17
  Speaker 3: in there and pull it out? Did you actually do that?
• 1:36:20
  Speaker 3: I was like, babe, my fish looked it. I went
• 1:36:22
  Speaker 3: in there. I didn't push you more in. I got
• 1:36:25
  Speaker 3: in there, scooped it out.
• 1:36:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah, there wasn't a problem. How else am I supposed
• 1:36:29
  Speaker 1: to get it?
• 1:36:29
  Speaker 4: Go?
• 1:36:31
  Speaker 1: Suck it out? I mean, what are we doing?
• 1:36:34
  Speaker 3: My crack a cold one was couple's date night, and
• 1:36:37
  Speaker 3: it would have been playing at your house. But I
• 1:36:40
  Speaker 3: was guessing that might have been yours, so I wanted
• 1:36:42
  Speaker 3: to differentiate I equally that would have been my crack
• 1:36:46
  Speaker 3: a cold one. Okay, we had a date night, a
• 1:36:50
  Speaker 3: couple's date night with a babysitter.
• 1:36:53
  Speaker 1: We're talking full fledged, the real deal thing.
• 1:36:56
  Speaker 3: Jill and I got to go to Popstroke in Antioch,
• 1:37:00
  Speaker 3: and uh, if you've never been to Popstroke, it's a
• 1:37:02
  Speaker 3: nice little puppett kind of like adult putt putt thing
• 1:37:06
  Speaker 3: where you know, adult bevies are flowing. They got the
• 1:37:09
  Speaker 3: waiters running out to the course like mid putt putt.
• 1:37:14
  Speaker 3: It was so much fun. Dude, really got to turn
• 1:37:17
  Speaker 3: off dad brain. Got to celebrate the couple that we
• 1:37:20
  Speaker 3: were with Brian and Hillary. She is very pregnant, due
• 1:37:25
  Speaker 3: like towards the end of May, so we're getting to
• 1:37:27
  Speaker 3: like celebrate that.
• 1:37:29
  Speaker 1: Just fine. Getting to be out there, dude, and get
• 1:37:32
  Speaker 1: your hair down.
• 1:37:33
  Speaker 3: Let your hair down, dude. Jill's coming up to me.
• 1:37:36
  Speaker 3: She's she's got some little drinking poos in her. She's
• 1:37:38
  Speaker 3: coming up to me and she's putting her arm around
• 1:37:40
  Speaker 3: me and looking up at me and doing the I'm like,
• 1:37:43
  Speaker 3: come on, man, hey, w'd that ben man with that
• 1:37:48
  Speaker 3: shit been trying to put a bow on it? Oh yeah, dude,
• 1:37:51
  Speaker 3: winking on my boy. Brian giving Jill a kiss.
• 1:37:54
  Speaker 2: Hey, I'm gonna take this one home, and nice I
• 1:38:00
  Speaker 2: went over.
• 1:38:00
  Speaker 1: There and taking her in nice pot, babe, nice put Yeah,
• 1:38:04
  Speaker 1: but yeah, dude, it was, it was huge, It was.
• 1:38:06
  Speaker 1: It was a great night.
• 1:38:08
  Speaker 3: And shout out Julia or babysitter again, I am not
• 1:38:11
  Speaker 3: doxing her because you're not taking her from me.
• 1:38:13
  Speaker 1: That's our babysitter. And you do nothing but.
• 1:38:18
  Speaker 2: Encourage the dad's prioritizing a date night. Yeah, you talk
• 1:38:21
  Speaker 2: about it a lot. That's put it on the calendar.
• 1:38:24
  Speaker 3: Execute, execute, execute execute. That's part of my lesson the week.
• 1:38:27
  Speaker 3: But I hear that you have a lesson of the
• 1:38:29
  Speaker 3: week as well. I have an awesome one and we're
• 1:38:32
  Speaker 3: coming up on an hour. So do we want to
• 1:38:35
  Speaker 3: jump into some voicemails?
• 1:38:37
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 1:38:40
  Speaker 3: First one is I guess I'll eat the pizza. This
• 1:38:44
  Speaker 3: comes from Jared Ladd. Jared lad Come on, Jared, Hey.
• 1:38:51
  Speaker 8: Guys, I don't work. My wife left.
• 1:39:00
  Speaker 1: Yes, okay, yea ca you stop that started over? Key,
• 1:39:05
  Speaker 1: turn it up. It's all the way up. It's all
• 1:39:07
  Speaker 1: the way up. It's all the way up. You want
• 1:39:09
  Speaker 1: me to move it closer to you? Just go again,
• 1:39:11
  Speaker 1: go again, I'll focus, I'll focus.
• 1:39:13
  Speaker 8: Okay, Okay, Hey guys, this is a cured lad. Hi, Jared,
• 1:39:20
  Speaker 8: I don't typically first Sunday I had to and uh
• 1:39:24
  Speaker 8: I came home, my wife left. It's fice and I
• 1:39:30
  Speaker 8: was devastated because now I haven't hit me and no
• 1:39:36
  Speaker 8: one here.
• 1:39:37
  Speaker 1: Play with and don't eat the whole thing. I don't
• 1:39:40
  Speaker 1: know what on the couch watched.
• 1:39:43
  Speaker 8: No, I don't know what to do, but UH appreciate
• 1:39:47
  Speaker 8: all before you guys give us for dads. But again,
• 1:39:53
  Speaker 8: I just don't know what we'll do. I guess I'll
• 1:39:54
  Speaker 8: just sit here any people by myself. Oh it is
• 1:39:59
  Speaker 8: what it is voice.
• 1:40:04
  Speaker 1: I'll tell you what. We go through a lot of storytelling.
• 1:40:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, on this pod, people have write ends where
• 1:40:09
  Speaker 2: it's it makes you reflect and think, why do I
• 1:40:12
  Speaker 2: sweat the small things when you hear stories like this?
• 1:40:17
  Speaker 2: And to me, this is another example of perspective. Do
• 1:40:24
  Speaker 2: you know what I mean? Yeah, to where it's like why,
• 1:40:27
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 1:40:28
  Speaker 1: You're Marri of that group on Twitter that I was
• 1:40:30
  Speaker 1: talking about where everybody's sending them photos in of hanging
• 1:40:33
  Speaker 1: out with their kids. Who's the one that's sending the
• 1:40:35
  Speaker 1: most photos with their kids in there? It's Jared lit
• 1:40:38
  Speaker 1: Jared let That's like the only thing he likes to
• 1:40:42
  Speaker 1: do in this world.
• 1:40:44
  Speaker 2: Like I cry about my mom all the time. And
• 1:40:47
  Speaker 2: when Jared Ladson's in a voicemail, yeah, of my wife
• 1:40:54
  Speaker 2: took the kids at six Flags. When I got us
• 1:40:56
  Speaker 2: in the house, a quiet house and have a whole
• 1:40:58
  Speaker 2: piece of to myself, it makes me think, why am I?
• 1:41:03
  Speaker 1: Why do I even get caught up?
• 1:41:04
  Speaker 2: Hey, I understand what I went through with my mother
• 1:41:07
  Speaker 2: when I have a pet sixer out there right now
• 1:41:10
  Speaker 2: with a house to himself. Yeah, and nothing but time,
• 1:41:13
  Speaker 2: nothing but boredom in pizza and cheese and sports and.
• 1:41:19
  Speaker 1: Video game March madness.
• 1:41:21
  Speaker 3: It's start the conference tournaments were starting up. Oh my god,
• 1:41:27
  Speaker 3: and dude, silver Lining. I just want you to know
• 1:41:31
  Speaker 3: I get how you could feel like that. Jared doesn't
• 1:41:33
  Speaker 3: want you to feel like that for a second, like
• 1:41:36
  Speaker 3: he understands how you could feel that way.
• 1:41:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Jerry, we appreciate you calling in, man, Thank you, dude.
• 1:41:46
  Speaker 2: You guys talk about our vulnerability all the time, Like
• 1:41:49
  Speaker 2: to call in and be that vulnerable with us about
• 1:41:52
  Speaker 2: what you're going through. Papa Team six for the dads.
• 1:41:55
  Speaker 2: We're all thinking about you, our heart is with you,
• 1:41:58
  Speaker 2: we're all praying for you.
• 1:41:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, man, I almost don't have words that's all right. Hey,
• 1:42:04
  Speaker 1: just before this gets to sloppy, I'm just gonna move
• 1:42:08
  Speaker 1: into our second voice, okay, if that's all right. Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:42:12
  Speaker 1: This one's titled Crying Again. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. This one's
• 1:42:15
  Speaker 1: titled we made It. What's up? Boys? Andy here down
• 1:42:23
  Speaker 1: in Florida just bought my family a lake house.
• 1:42:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah you did.
• 1:42:30
  Speaker 1: That's all I had to say. Yeah you did, brother,
• 1:42:35
  Speaker 1: Let it. Let's go. Let's go do that one right there.
• 1:42:43
  Speaker 2: You just go out stand and you look at the lake,
• 1:42:46
  Speaker 2: and I got this house for the fam, Like that
• 1:42:49
  Speaker 2: is a goal that he should be so damn proud
• 1:42:51
  Speaker 2: of himself.
• 1:42:52
  Speaker 3: And brother, Brother, it's a boat, a CD, a pon tune,
• 1:42:56
  Speaker 3: whatever it is that very first time that you're pulling
• 1:42:59
  Speaker 3: pulling out into the water, get that dal get that
• 1:43:06
  Speaker 3: bumping on the boat, dude, and also grab.
• 1:43:10
  Speaker 2: The most sentimental song that you have and just stop
• 1:43:13
  Speaker 2: the boat somewhere out in the middle and just stop it.
• 1:43:16
  Speaker 2: Have some piece and quiet play the most sentimental song
• 1:43:19
  Speaker 2: you can, and just maybe a tear rolls down your
• 1:43:21
  Speaker 2: face because you should be so damn proud of yourself
• 1:43:25
  Speaker 2: for getting to a point where I bought my family
• 1:43:28
  Speaker 2: a fucking lake House and fucking belt that song too,
• 1:43:31
  Speaker 2: like all the sacrifice, the responsibility, everything, Yes, feel so
• 1:43:35
  Speaker 2: worth it when you're gonna have that moment. Grinder grinder,
• 1:43:39
  Speaker 2: very quick note, Jill and I did like our own
• 1:43:42
  Speaker 2: little valves like separate of the wedding ceremony before, and
• 1:43:47
  Speaker 2: that was like the dress reveal too, and hey, you
• 1:43:51
  Speaker 2: know your boy so one.
• 1:43:53
  Speaker 1: I cry and I'm crying. I'm getting through it.
• 1:43:56
  Speaker 3: Number four on that list, Jill, Jill Young, I promise
• 1:44:01
  Speaker 3: to you that I will purchase waterfront property and we
• 1:44:06
  Speaker 3: will sit on that front porch and we will be
• 1:44:10
  Speaker 3: wrinkly and old and we'll be holding hands and rocking chairs.
• 1:44:13
  Speaker 1: Vowed it. I love that. God, o God.
• 1:44:19
  Speaker 2: And when you guys are sitting on that front porch
• 1:44:22
  Speaker 2: and looking out during the when the sunset Golden hour,
• 1:44:27
  Speaker 2: halfway sitting there, you see all the different shades of
• 1:44:30
  Speaker 2: orange and purple and red and pink reflecting on the water.
• 1:44:37
  Speaker 1: Just suddenly, I can't play it too long.
• 1:44:54
  Speaker 3: Can't play it too long, and we may we may
• 1:44:55
  Speaker 3: even have to supplement it with another song and just
• 1:44:58
  Speaker 3: say that we are playing scroll up.
• 1:44:59
  Speaker 1: But here is it a nice little yeah? Uh? You
• 1:45:02
  Speaker 1: know we love the copy right in there in a
• 1:45:05
  Speaker 1: clip in an edit. Hey, hey, I don't think so.
• 1:45:09
  Speaker 2: But what it would have would have would have? What
• 1:45:12
  Speaker 2: if I did it? What if it comes from my account?
• 1:45:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you can't do that. Wait really quick, hold on,
• 1:45:22
  Speaker 1: I'm sorry. You know, we gotta compete. Yeah, we gotta
• 1:45:26
  Speaker 1: get we gotta get right.
• 1:45:29
  Speaker 3: I just wanted to say, uh, that sunset sounded really beautiful.
• 1:45:35
  Speaker 3: It sounded like a spring sunset, maybe even a sunset
• 1:45:38
  Speaker 3: on like March fourteenth.
• 1:45:40
  Speaker 1: Per se.
• 1:45:43
  Speaker 3: Uh, I feel good on voicemails? How does everyone else
• 1:45:48
  Speaker 3: feel feel great? Will Compton? You said you had a
• 1:45:52
  Speaker 3: lesson of the week, and I parlay to you, I
• 1:45:56
  Speaker 3: will skip my lesson of the week and do it
• 1:45:58
  Speaker 3: next week. And instead I just read a quick little
• 1:46:01
  Speaker 3: dan Gable quote and then you pop into your lesson
• 1:46:03
  Speaker 3: of the week.
• 1:46:04
  Speaker 1: I don't think any PT sixers have a problem with
• 1:46:06
  Speaker 1: getting fed a Dan Gable quote, especially big ten tournament,
• 1:46:10
  Speaker 1: the conference.
• 1:46:11
  Speaker 2: Sermon, it's just finishing wrestling. We're now looking at the
• 1:46:13
  Speaker 2: NCAA's coming up. Okay, I think dan Gable is necessary.
• 1:46:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah for this time.
• 1:46:19
  Speaker 1: Matt Madness, mart March Madness, could I twist your Matt's arms.
• 1:46:24
  Speaker 1: Tell me if I'm wrong here, twist your arms. You
• 1:46:26
  Speaker 1: each do have a new dad? Shout out?
• 1:46:28
  Speaker 5: That are some version of surprises that are very fast,
• 1:46:31
  Speaker 5: very fast. Do you each have a new dad that
• 1:46:33
  Speaker 5: chose to write in for the show and congratulate So
• 1:46:35
  Speaker 5: if you, if you don't mind.
• 1:46:36
  Speaker 1: I would love the shout out.
• 1:46:37
  Speaker 2: Trevor Smith on X Trevor Smith, Hey Fellas. He sent
• 1:46:43
  Speaker 2: just Hey Fellas at twelve ten pm in the DMS.
• 1:46:46
  Speaker 2: Then it's twelve twelve another message comes in. Wanted to
• 1:46:49
  Speaker 2: give a shout out to one of my best friends
• 1:46:51
  Speaker 2: and new dad, Alec and his wife Tory, on the
• 1:46:54
  Speaker 2: birth of their baby girl, Scottie. No doubt he's going
• 1:46:58
  Speaker 2: to be a great dad and he's been a siko
• 1:47:00
  Speaker 2: since the jump. Also, just wanted to send him some
• 1:47:03
  Speaker 2: thoughts and prayers. He's got a lot going on with
• 1:47:06
  Speaker 2: having he's got a lot going on with having BofA mind,
• 1:47:10
  Speaker 2: Goblins and room forty all at once.
• 1:47:13
  Speaker 1: No, No, and he's ugly as hell. Oh love your brother, congrats.
• 1:47:22
  Speaker 1: Wait what is BofA? What's shine? Goblin Chef? Tellam you're
• 1:47:29
  Speaker 1: the Semen team. Say what's room fortydelln What is that?
• 1:47:35
  Speaker 1: What's both of me? What's a BofA both of these nuts?
• 1:47:42
  Speaker 1: Who wrote that? Who the fuck wrote that? Room? Throw
• 1:47:46
  Speaker 1: these nuts on you in your mouth? Yeah? Who the
• 1:47:48
  Speaker 1: fuck wrote that?
• 1:47:50
  Speaker 3: Trevor smith Man, Oh my gosh, dude, I was actually
• 1:47:53
  Speaker 3: worried about it.
• 1:47:54
  Speaker 1: I was like, he has three illnesses at once. Are
• 1:47:57
  Speaker 1: the other ones? Are DC night strokes as well? I
• 1:48:00
  Speaker 1: mean mine goblins. I think that's like it could be
• 1:48:02
  Speaker 1: like a movie. Sounds like it. It sounds like a movie.
• 1:48:06
  Speaker 1: It sounds mind goblin these balls. Oh, we joke. We're joking.
• 1:48:11
  Speaker 1: We're joking. Hey, do you remember when I said that
• 1:48:16
  Speaker 1: I had a no dad thing to read and you said, hey,
• 1:48:19
  Speaker 1: you know, I get it, but we gotta you know,
• 1:48:22
  Speaker 1: we gotta move on. And then I threw it. Yeah,
• 1:48:25
  Speaker 1: I don't know where it went. Yeah, I'm so sorry
• 1:48:29
  Speaker 1: you to read it or give you the no you yes.
• 1:48:32
  Speaker 5: Reading the Lane from Spotify Lane longtime listener, first time commenter.
• 1:48:37
  Speaker 5: The wife and I found out a few weeks ago
• 1:48:39
  Speaker 5: we're expecting our second kid. March fourteenth. We're going to
• 1:48:42
  Speaker 5: announce to the family. Great day to announce my two brothers.
• 1:48:46
  Speaker 5: Tyler and Jordan claimed to be sickos. If they are
• 1:48:48
  Speaker 5: truly sickos, they'll see my comment or hear it on
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  Speaker 5: the show and get to know first love the show
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  Speaker 5: and use a lot of the hacks with my two
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  Speaker 5: year old son. Pease don't tell mom or my wife.
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  Speaker 5: I told the PT six world before the family.
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  Speaker 1: I love that.
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  Speaker 2: If they're real sickos, they would obviously hear that, because
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  Speaker 2: you could be tuning in and in the moment your
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  Speaker 2: comment doesn't seem like it's getting read.
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  Speaker 1: Because we moved on. The real sickos stay tuned in
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  Speaker 1: no matter what. Yeah, you know what I'm saying, Like looking.
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  Speaker 3: They're there, tell the very very end when we say,
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  Speaker 3: hey the doe hushtag put a ball on it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yea yeah, hashtag medium rare, honey. And I just realized,
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  Speaker 2: I say, you know what I'm saying a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, buddy, I hear you. It's okay, yeah, buddy, okay, listen,
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  Speaker 1: hey listen.
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  Speaker 3: Also, I found the lame one mid Red I do
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  Speaker 3: say sorry about that, Deke, so sorry about that, but well.
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  Speaker 1: Dined, well done on the read.
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  Speaker 3: Ummm listen, let's oh Dan Gable quote then lets yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: Yeahdan Gable quotes. This one comes from Dan Gable on
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  Speaker 3: The Joe Rogan Experience, episode number one, six hundred and
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  Speaker 3: twenty seven, and it goes as fallows, you know I
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  Speaker 3: was crazy. I was crazy. I was definitely crazy, and
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  Speaker 3: I used to run to work sometimes. It was a
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  Speaker 3: couple miles away, Dan Gable. That Gable is a sick Oh,
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  Speaker 3: he's a sicko. He was sick in the head. He's
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  Speaker 3: admitting it.
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  Speaker 1: He's crazy, probably a little crazy. You know what. I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna run to work today. Why not. It's a couple
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  Speaker 1: of miles away. That's fine. I love Dan Gable, love them.
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  Speaker 2: This one comes from Derek Thompson on X It is
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  Speaker 2: at dk thomp th h o MP. I booked marked
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  Speaker 2: this one because when it came across my time home,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, this is damn good man and it's a
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  Speaker 2: He captioned it a new newsletter in all caps, three
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  Speaker 2: reasons to be a parent.
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  Speaker 1: I opened it up. It's got a short, little short,
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  Speaker 1: a little something something.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, the baby you bring home from the hospital is
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  Speaker 2: not the baby you rock to sleep at two weeks,
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  Speaker 2: and the baby at three months is a complete stranger
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  Speaker 2: to both in a Jesus Christ in a we might
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  Speaker 2: have to edit this up in a phenomenological sense. That
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  Speaker 2: sounds great, phenomonological phenomenological sense.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, let's start that over.
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  Speaker 2: The baby you bring home from the hospital is not
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  Speaker 2: the baby you rock to sleep at two weeks, and
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  Speaker 2: the baby at three months is a complete stranger to both.
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  Speaker 2: In a phenomenological sense, parenting a newborn is not at
• 1:51:40
  Speaker 2: all like parenting a singular newborn, but rather like parenting
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  Speaker 2: hundreds of babies, each one replacing the previous week's child,
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  Speaker 2: yet retaining her basic facial structure. And this is a
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  Speaker 2: quote parenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with
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  Speaker 2: a stranger. That Andrew Solomon wrote and far from the tree,
• 1:52:02
  Speaker 2: almost parenthood. It catapults us into a permanent relationship with strangers,
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  Speaker 2: plural to the extreme.
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  Speaker 1: It's a love.
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  Speaker 2: We got a lot of verbiage. It's a yeah. When
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  Speaker 2: you become a parent, you meet your child, and then
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  Speaker 2: you meet your child again and again and every day
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  Speaker 2: after that. You will never stop meeting your child. That
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  Speaker 2: is the one reason to become a parent, to have
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  Speaker 2: a child, is to fall in love with a thousand
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  Speaker 2: little beautiful strangers, and I.
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  Speaker 3: Think that is that could not be more true. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I definitely feel that way. I feel like I'm getting
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  Speaker 3: to meet a new person every single morning.
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  Speaker 1: It does feel that way.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And just again like the just all the thinking
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  Speaker 2: about all the new versions, Like now I think back
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  Speaker 2: to my crack of cold one and getting to spend
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  Speaker 2: time with Scottie at fifteen months compared.
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  Speaker 1: To when I watched her when she was a lot younger.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I know I'm hanging out and building a
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  Speaker 2: connection with a completely different person because she's a little
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  Speaker 2: bit more with it. So there's a there's an element
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  Speaker 2: there that I'm getting a lot more joy from. Not
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  Speaker 2: that I didn't have joy when she was a little baby,
• 1:53:05
  Speaker 2: but you do feel like you're with a completely new person.
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  Speaker 2: But I love that perspective. He does have a it's
• 1:53:12
  Speaker 2: a newsletter. You'd sit there and click on the link
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  Speaker 2: and read all three reasons, one being loving strangers, the
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  Speaker 2: second one being ride the Rides, and three is titled
• 1:53:23
  Speaker 2: Another Way. So this is his whole rite up on
• 1:53:28
  Speaker 2: being a dad.
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  Speaker 1: That's sick, and that's just getting straight posted to Twitter. Yeah, yeah,
• 1:53:34
  Speaker 1: and then under it like you know how you'll do
• 1:53:35
  Speaker 1: the thread.
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  Speaker 2: He's got his link to the overarching all three reasons why,
• 1:53:38
  Speaker 2: and he dives in on what it's like for him
• 1:53:40
  Speaker 2: being a dad.
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  Speaker 1: Got it? And that was kind of the surface level,
• 1:53:44
  Speaker 1: which again a lot of verbiage.
• 1:53:45
  Speaker 2: I would have sit there and had to type in
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  Speaker 2: and google some definitions on a couple of these words,
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  Speaker 2: you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But I do love the perspective on you are always
• 1:53:57
  Speaker 2: meeting your child, coming across a different version every day,
• 1:54:03
  Speaker 2: and they all pour into every day that you have
• 1:54:05
  Speaker 2: with them, pours into the next day, which pours into
• 1:54:07
  Speaker 2: the next day. So even as a parent when you
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  Speaker 2: think they're not going to remember this, or because you
• 1:54:13
  Speaker 2: as you as an adult now can't recollect all of
• 1:54:16
  Speaker 2: these memories from when you were before what four years old,
• 1:54:20
  Speaker 2: maybe somebody has a phenomen logical.
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  Speaker 1: Memory when they were two, you know what I mean? Yeah,
• 1:54:25
  Speaker 1: you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, But just knowing that everything is so foundational for
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  Speaker 2: the next version and the kid's going to be.
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  Speaker 3: It is a very kind of scary eye opening experience.
• 1:54:37
  Speaker 3: Was that I've mentioned on this show. We'll do very
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  Speaker 3: small amount of screen time with Scarlet with the Mickey
• 1:54:45
  Speaker 3: Mouse Clubhouse. Yep, and that's really it. We've only done
• 1:54:50
  Speaker 3: Mickey Mouse Clubhouse to this point. Jilly Bean's at Target
• 1:54:54
  Speaker 3: and shows Scarlet this mini mouse doll. Scarlet went ballistic.
• 1:55:00
  Speaker 3: It's her favorite thing in the world, and there was
• 1:55:03
  Speaker 3: like actual Jill could tell that. She was like, I
• 1:55:07
  Speaker 3: know that thing. Yeah, I know that thing. Yeah, that's crazy, dude.
• 1:55:11
  Speaker 3: How many months?
• 1:55:12
  Speaker 1: Well eight? Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: And that's not to say like, oh, Scarlett's are super
• 1:55:16
  Speaker 3: smart at eight month old. It's just that, yo, you
• 1:55:19
  Speaker 3: might not think that stuff's impressionable. Obviously, she's you know,
• 1:55:24
  Speaker 3: recognizing something and just witnessing all the development is just
• 1:55:28
  Speaker 3: so fun. Yeah, fascinating for the parent when you see
• 1:55:31
  Speaker 3: the next iteration of like, oh damn, she knew what
• 1:55:33
  Speaker 3: that was. Yeah, and you're seeing them grow up in
• 1:55:36
  Speaker 3: real time. It's dude, it is the best. It's the best.
• 1:55:41
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying? What else is the best?
• 1:55:43
  Speaker 3: Will If there was a date on the calendar, just
• 1:55:46
  Speaker 3: to like put a bow on this episode, if there
• 1:55:49
  Speaker 3: was a day on this calendar.
• 1:55:50
  Speaker 2: If I don't think two long term and I just
• 1:55:53
  Speaker 2: what's in front of me?
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  Speaker 1: What's the micro? The micro is the micro is March fourteenth?
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  Speaker 1: Oh really for what? For what reason?
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  Speaker 6: Oh?
• 1:56:09
  Speaker 1: Steak and blow Job Day. That's a national holiday.
• 1:56:15
  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, it is, so that's an official thing.
• 1:56:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you if you google what holiday is March fourteenth?
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  Speaker 2: Let's just look at it now.
• 1:56:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so let's go ahead and get on the Google machine.
• 1:56:27
  Speaker 1: What do people celebrate on March fourteenth? It? What's the
• 1:56:37
  Speaker 1: internet say?
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  Speaker 6: Fuck Pie Day, International Day of Mathematics, Genius Day, National
• 1:56:49
  Speaker 6: Potato Chip Day, and Bake a Pie in Solidarity Day.
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  Speaker 1: Ah so now I get a sneak, a blowjob and
• 1:56:56
  Speaker 1: a pie. Damn of them. You can celebrate both. That's okay.
• 1:57:04
  Speaker 1: Let me just all hit the dive, dive deeper in
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  Speaker 1: AI mode. Oh okay, what about.
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  Speaker 5: As you on March fourteenth? Well, what Wikipedia's Steak and
• 1:57:13
  Speaker 5: Blowjob Day? It's also Steaking Knobber Day, our Friend's Overseasnobber Day.
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  Speaker 1: No, bah, I canna get your stiking. You gotta get
• 1:57:27
  Speaker 1: me a jump.
• 1:57:28
  Speaker 2: I just asked, I said, what about Steak and blow
• 1:57:30
  Speaker 2: Job Day? Steak and Blowjob Day, often called Steak and
• 1:57:35
  Speaker 2: BJ Day, is an unofficial satrical holiday celebrated on March fourteenth,
• 1:57:42
  Speaker 2: exactly one month after Valentine's Day. It was conceived as
• 1:57:47
  Speaker 2: a male response to Valentine's Day, which some feel is
• 1:57:51
  Speaker 2: a holiday primarily focused on women.
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  Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, so I'm not saying that that's true,
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  Speaker 1: but that's fair. I see that. I see how they
• 1:58:00
  Speaker 1: land on that. Yeah, that's like some ticket.
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  Speaker 2: Literally is widely considered an internet meme or a joke
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  Speaker 2: rather than.
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  Speaker 1: A legitimate holiday.
• 1:58:08
  Speaker 3: Oh okay whatever, Okay, Well, it's near and dear to
• 1:58:14
  Speaker 3: some people's Sorry, It's.
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  Speaker 2: Not recognized by any government or greeting car company, and
• 1:58:17
  Speaker 2: it remains largely viral internet phenomena.
• 1:58:20
  Speaker 1: Oh okay, is it recognized by any like podcasts?
• 1:58:23
  Speaker 4: Think?
• 1:58:23
  Speaker 2: Oh well, I don't think we need an answer. It
• 1:58:25
  Speaker 2: is recognized before the dad's pat.
• 1:58:27
  Speaker 1: Okay, cool.
• 1:58:27
  Speaker 5: You see what the response to the response for Valentine's
• 1:58:30
  Speaker 5: Day is the female version of Steak and Blowjob.
• 1:58:33
  Speaker 4: Day follow up follower's a follow up follow on the
• 1:58:36
  Speaker 4: fourteenth of April.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna pronounce this in correctly.
• 1:58:40
  Speaker 5: It's cake and cannilingush knelgis, which is the FEMA fallatio
• 1:58:47
  Speaker 5: if you will. So it goes Valentine's Day, Steak and
• 1:58:51
  Speaker 5: Blowjob Days a.
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  Speaker 1: Little trip downside, get on down there. I'm good with that.
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  Speaker 1: That's good.
• 1:59:04
  Speaker 3: That feels like a really great place to uh finish
• 1:59:09
  Speaker 3: the Yeah, the episode.
• 1:59:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, to wrap the sode and we will keep the
• 1:59:13
  Speaker 1: empty sixers in mind when we have this next April
• 1:59:16
  Speaker 1: fourteenth coming, cake and kind of angus. Yeah, cake and
• 1:59:19
  Speaker 1: kind of angus.
• 1:59:20
  Speaker 3: You get some on Valentine's, I get some on steak
• 1:59:24
  Speaker 3: and BJ you get something again, and then well that's
• 1:59:27
  Speaker 3: we need to have been another one.
• 1:59:29
  Speaker 1: March fourteenth and April fourteenth. We head south. We just
• 1:59:34
  Speaker 1: head south. Came man, you don't have to move down.
• 1:59:38
  Speaker 1: Then you visited? Yeah, put a blindfold on it. How
• 1:59:43
  Speaker 1: should I put h? Good? So take out your trash.
• 1:59:47
  Speaker 1: I love you for the dance, man, for the dance.