How Knowing It Was Abuse Didn't Mean Iris Could Leave — Part 2

Brave Hearts Speak · Oct 7, 2026 · 1h 6m

In Part 2 of Bravehearts Speak, Iris continues sharing her journey through coercive control and psychological abuse. After seeking help for years, she recounts the escalating violence in her marriage, including the moment her husband grabbed her by the neck, and the long process of recognizing the pattern of abuse. A marriage counselor eventually gave her Why Does He Do That?, while another therapist reminded her that the decision to stay or leave was hers. Iris describes how support helped her hold that choice, set boundaries, and navigate divorce while continuing to co-parent with her ex…