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Exaggerating! · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So, let's talk about exaggeration today, big subject
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  because most of us are constantly exaggerating.
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  And we don't even realize how much we do it.
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  We love to have that, what's that old term spinning yarn make
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  it bigger than it? Actually is be inflammatory
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  about things and how they were said, and, you know,
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  exaggeration can be a very difficult thing.
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  Recognize in yourself because some of us just like to tell
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  stories, myself included. So we have to be careful not to
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  exaggerate and not to conflate issues.
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  Mixing things up and trying to you know put too much into
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  something where we're blending, our opinion with facts.
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  That's been a lot of that going around in the last couple of
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  years and it it definitely causes people to look at you
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  differently when they think that you are not accurate factual.
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  And you exaggerate all the time. So I thought it would be
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  important to bring up the subtleties of where the shows up
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  because communication is my thing.
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  And I love to educate you guys on this.
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  So, think about how much you exaggerate in your own head.
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  We as a culture have a tendency to do with everything, like,
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  simple little things, we go, oh my God, I'm starving.
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  We have to get me food right now, I am starving.
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  I've said the words myself, hangry.
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  Over the top, but guess what? I'm not starving.
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  I'm not going to die in a moment's notice.
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  Just from not having food. I'm not going to have a complete
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  and total meltdown. If I don't get the food.
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  It mediately, I'm not a toddler. I'm a grown-ass woman and it's
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  stupid how we do this but it's become, okay?
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  It's become okay to be an exaggerator.
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  One thing that I absolutely adore about my husband is that
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  he's a very factual person. He's Very low-key and in his
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  communication he's usually like. Well is that a fact or is that
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  your opinion? Is that something that you know
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  for sure I think you're exaggerating, you're not going
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  to die, you know you're over the top with it when I got attacked
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  by fire ants a couple weeks ago and I did get a lot of bites and
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  it was extremely painful but I was not going to die they were
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  not going to kill me but you might have thought I was by my
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  reaction because I was over the top and you know, he's like Well
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  clearly, you're never going on - afraid because you can't even
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  get a few fire and B and B and you know, he was making a joke
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  about it to minimize the situation even though he was
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  helping me. But I was so focused on the fact
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  that this awful, it's awful. I can't believe how bad it hurts
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  and I was like out of control with it because it was
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  unexpected and they crawled into my boots and if you've never
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  been bitten by a fire it's not fun.
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  So and down into my boots and it was just I got into a nest of
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  them. Where I happen to live, there
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  are a lot of them and I did exaggerate.
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  And I know I did. And later on, I was like, okay,
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  I said, I had hundreds and hundreds of bites and I probably
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  had about 60. So it was not even close to
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  hundreds and hundreds of bites, but in my mind, I quickly,
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  exaggerated the fact, you know, it shows up in the smallest of
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  places and we use language around it, that makes it It even
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  worse will say things like like you go to dinner and you'll say
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  this was outrageous. The food was so expensive, it
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  was over the top and we instead of just saying the truth, we're
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  okay. It was pricey compared to what
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  we typically by but I wouldn't go so far as to say it was
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  outrageous, you know or you know our culture right now is big on
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  saying, it's offended by pretty much everything but really are
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  we offended? Like, is it that or was it just
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  that it Rubbed us the wrong way. And we have to watch this
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  because it creates real challenges in our minds to get
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  past with this real challenges to get past when we are putting
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  up these little walls around ourselves and creating this
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  drama in our heads. So I'm going to ask you guys to
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  really start thinking about this and looking where am I being
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  dramatic? Where am I telling accuracies,
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  but where am I being over the top?
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  Pop dramatic, so I can dial it back.
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  And I'm not saying you can't be descriptive, and I'm not saying
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  it's, you can't be funny with it and you can't be, you know,
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  Silly and how you use words? I'm not saying that at all, but
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  I'm saying, when drama and exaggeration become part of your
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  Norm you want to make sure you're not doing it to the point
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  where people then tend to think, well, you're just going to say
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  anything and it's not going to really matter and they don't
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  take you seriously. And it's like that whole thing
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  about the boy who cried wolf, because it sounds so asinine
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  when you're talking About something that they just don't
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  believe you. So it dings your credibility a
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  lot. So I will say, check in this
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  really work on this you don't want to be that person that you
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  know oh God, here she comes again.
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  She's so dramatic. I don't want to talk to her.
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  She's exaggerating everything that she's talking about, so
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  watch it, see where you do it, catch it.
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  I mean this has been I've been putting out a lot of these
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  podcasts this past couple days all about this communication
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  level because I'm just run into it so much lately.
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  And I just really feel like it's a point of making you elevate
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  yourself to the next level. Every time we do this and we
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  check on these things, we Elevate ourselves.
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  So work on it, put yourself out there, examine it.
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  And hopefully you catch yourself exaggerating and you correct it.
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  All right, my friends. I hope you have a blessed day
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  and I will see you tomorrow. Bye.