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Mommy Makeover · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network Talk. You're just two unapologetically
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  Speaker 1: black women with an opinion who talks. What's up y'all?
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode and
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  Speaker 1: we Talked Back and show dedicated to you dreamers and Chasers.
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  Speaker 1: This is your co host, aj Holiday. I know you're
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  Speaker 1: looking at me like that. My jaw is fucked up, y'all.
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  Speaker 1: I'm about to say, damn onto what happened just now
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  Speaker 1: opening your mouth to speak, and you was like, I
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  Speaker 1: barely can. Like y I be using the massage gun
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  Speaker 1: on my ship. It's like bad so it'd be slipping
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  Speaker 1: and sliding when I'm talking sometime. But what's up? Tampam y'all?
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  Speaker 2: Team I love y'allo. Aj Yo, y'all don't work.
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  Speaker 1: I got a doctor's excuse not to suck. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: to say not just saying niggas names on this goddamn
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  Speaker 1: my Sorry. The other day I had to think, like, damn,
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  Speaker 1: I saw this nigga dick since March. Yeah, you can't
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  Speaker 1: eat after seven time? Get out of there. It's crazy
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  Speaker 1: over there. Like I'm in here trying to adjust my
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  Speaker 1: shit to the left or right a little bit. It's
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  Speaker 1: second not have another nigg another bit sucking my man, Dick,
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  Speaker 1: I had adjust my shit a little bit, like, oh god,
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  Speaker 1: I gotta be in pain for a little bit. Yes, please,
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  Speaker 1: that's a real thing. What'd you do over the weekend?
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I did get up with some friends
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  Speaker 1: on Saturday. I had a little quick brunch, y'all. I'm
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  Speaker 1: just tired of eating, you know what I'm saying. It's
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  Speaker 1: like almost soon as soon as you eat, Like I
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  Speaker 1: don't want to be tired as soon as I eat.
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  Speaker 1: That's so crazy. You said that.
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  Speaker 2: Like yesterday I went out to eat twice, two different times,
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  Speaker 2: lunch and dinner, and both times I felt sleepy right after.
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  Speaker 1: I like, you felt tired. I don't know what's that about.
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  Speaker 1: I was talking about it.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, I need something to wake me up,
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  Speaker 2: and they offered someone offered me meth.
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  Speaker 1: It was la what but cocaine or myth? You know,
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  Speaker 1: it's like, we can get you some meth real quick
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  Speaker 1: to wake up, Like, no, no, thank you, that mething.
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  Speaker 1: Go wake you up, bitch. She's gonna have your eyes
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  Speaker 1: stuck somewhere. Oh that's heroin how people be like in
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  Speaker 1: the zombie leading to the side holding their body up
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  Speaker 1: like not like, how y'all do that? It's very distorted. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like as soon as I ate, like every all of us,
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  Speaker 1: we was like, what y'all about to do? Everybody like, man,
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  Speaker 1: I'm abouna go home, I say, and take your clothes
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  Speaker 1: off because it's like at home. I took my clothes
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  Speaker 1: off and got in the fucking bed. Yesterday I ate
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  Speaker 1: a couple of son chips. I worked out yesterday morning.
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  Speaker 1: I ate a couple of son chips, and I automatically
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  Speaker 1: started feeling tired. It's like this food is fucked up. Man,
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  Speaker 1: it's the food. Where's the food? So sleepy, sleepy ass
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  Speaker 1: food sleepy fuck like you literally can't eat no whole
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  Speaker 1: like solid nothing. It gotta be like drinks and juices
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  Speaker 1: and slushies and smoothies.
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  Speaker 2: And then I hear everybody be like eugh. When I
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  Speaker 2: tell them what I was eating, I was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I had an uncrustable what is that that peanut like
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  Speaker 2: the little peanut butter jelly sandwich?
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  Speaker 1: Shit? Ew, why would you eat that? My friends? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I like fresh peanut butt and jelly, my jelly costs
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  Speaker 1: ten dollars, and I get the fresh honey roasted peanut
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  Speaker 1: butter from Whole Foods. Like that's a good peanut butter
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  Speaker 1: and jelly sandwich. That ship that's pre made dog you're
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  Speaker 1: wiling's and that shit snapped after a blunt. That like
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  Speaker 1: that is some jail food dog. I like him. That's common.
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  Speaker 1: For eight seconds. I seen my friends feeding their kids
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  Speaker 1: that ship, and I'm like, y'all tripping. I would never
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  Speaker 1: like if my kid were have ever come to your house.
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  Speaker 1: And y'all, y'all, what is it called a stackable, uncrustable
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  Speaker 1: or uncrustable. If I find out you give give my
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  Speaker 1: kid an uncrustable, I'm gonna cut your ass.
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  Speaker 2: Just bring your own uncrustable sea with your little thirty
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  Speaker 2: dollars people. But you ain't got seem to worry about.
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  Speaker 1: I love peanut and jelly though. That's my meal. That's
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  Speaker 1: a good with some almond milk on the side, nice
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  Speaker 1: and cold. I want no milk nice? What I do?
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  Speaker 1: This weekend?
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  Speaker 2: Elliott got invited to Jason lee birthday party and I
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  Speaker 2: came as his plus one and it was very gay.
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  Speaker 2: It was it was not a lot of straight men
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  Speaker 2: in the building, which is to be expected, is Jason Lee.
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  Speaker 1: He's not a straight man, so I'm sure.
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  Speaker 2: But I started making good all the.
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  Speaker 1: Ladies who like to hang out with the with the girls.
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  Speaker 2: Jonathan Majors was in there, Evan Ross, uh y Ko Cyrus.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's all that I really saw I was
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  Speaker 2: paying attention to.
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  Speaker 1: But that was cool.
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  Speaker 2: Then I went to the comedy store and saw a
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  Speaker 2: roast competition. You know, I loved me some stand up comedy,
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  Speaker 2: so that was that was fun. That was Yeah, they
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  Speaker 2: were terrible. It made me feel like I really could
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  Speaker 2: get up there, like, y'all, I have aspirations to do
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  Speaker 2: like an amateur night of comedy, not no roast session.
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  Speaker 2: I think you would be good at that, aging bitch.
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  Speaker 1: I got it. I got an hour worth a roaster
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  Speaker 1: for your ass.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, so that's what I did this weekend.
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  Speaker 1: It was cool. Is it? Amateurs at the Uh? Yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 1: so people just sign up to roast each other.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yep, and they were terrible.
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  Speaker 1: How do you roast somebody? All you can do is
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  Speaker 1: their parents if you don't know their personal lives. Like
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  Speaker 1: it's like with Battle rappers, like when they push it together,
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  Speaker 1: like they didn't study this person. But how do you
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  Speaker 1: just study this random ass person?
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  Speaker 2: Well, I don't know if they I don't think they
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  Speaker 2: got a chance to study them. Like the girl had
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  Speaker 2: autism one of them, so he kept making fun of
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  Speaker 2: her autism, like how how was the autism?
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  Speaker 1: Like how did he know she had autism?
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  Speaker 2: I guess I think she said. I think she said it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how you give somebody ammo in a
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  Speaker 1: in a roast, right, I would have used that autism
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  Speaker 1: to my Uh she won though, Okay, yeah, because she
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  Speaker 1: probably smarter. She want.
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  Speaker 2: Neither one of them was funny to me, though.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get in this stupid internet news chow. Y'all know
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  Speaker 1: I take shit a little too deep sometimes, But this
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  Speaker 1: word I don't even want to this, this is not much.
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  Speaker 1: I am conscious of the things I do. I don't
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  Speaker 1: even want to say the fucking word that she getting
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  Speaker 1: on my fucking nerve. Okay, so y'all niggas don learned
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  Speaker 1: a new word and sexy Red. Sexy Red tweeted and said,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not demurror. I'm ah, I ain't no demurr. I
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  Speaker 1: ain't no demurror. I'm a hole lip gloss line. So
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  Speaker 1: she has a Yeah, she has a lip gloss line
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  Speaker 1: that she uh is coming out with under her I
• 7:21
  Speaker 1: guess it's her her brand. It's called north Side Princess
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  Speaker 1: y on north Side is like the Nigga side of
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  Speaker 1: town in Saint Louis where all the black people live.
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  Speaker 1: App But she has this new brand, and I guess
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  Speaker 1: this is what she would you know, whatever product she
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  Speaker 1: comes out, what would come under north Side Princess Child.
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  Speaker 1: The names of the lip gloss on this line is ridiculous.
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  Speaker 1: Talk about monopolizing hood ghetto ratchet. I don't even know
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  Speaker 1: know if this hood get a Ratchet's just disgusting right this, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's just gross. It's just nasty. I'm like, why, why
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  Speaker 1: are you gonna make this just about like hood get
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  Speaker 1: a wretched? This is just disgusting. Why does she want
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  Speaker 1: us to look at her in that way? I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I guess she want y'all to see her for who
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  Speaker 1: she is. I mean, she okay, she I know people
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  Speaker 1: like that. I have family members Dad remind me of
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  Speaker 1: Sexy Red. Like Sexy Red looked like she could be
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  Speaker 1: on my daddy's side of the family for sure, mm hm.
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  Speaker 1: And I have people that I know personally that act
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  Speaker 1: like that too, Like Charlston is fucking ghetto as hell. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so they they those people do exist and she represents them.
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  Speaker 1: But y'all, some of these lip gloss uh koochie juice,
• 8:39
  Speaker 1: Uh bootyhole brown. You wearing a lip glass name nut?
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  Speaker 1: I mean it could be chestnut, but it's just nut
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  Speaker 1: on your lips. Uh pussy hoole pink. Now, we saw
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  Speaker 1: the video Sexy Red, we saw your video. I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: but that pussy whole pink. I'm just who is going
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  Speaker 1: to release these lip blosses for her? And when you
• 9:09
  Speaker 1: ask people what they got on their mouth, are they
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  Speaker 1: gonna say yellow discharge? It's a yellow discharge one right, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: there's a gone, a real one that is, there's a
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  Speaker 1: blue balls and there is a sex on my period.
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  Speaker 1: I guess that would be Red Red. This she just
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  Speaker 1: fucking nuts gross. She's like whatever y'all think. This is
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  Speaker 1: the crazy part is but she probably gonna sell out,
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  Speaker 1: sell the fuck out, so right now, I guess on
• 9:46
  Speaker 1: her website is just like email. She collect an email,
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  Speaker 1: so whenever the item drops, you know, it'll be like
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  Speaker 1: an email list, So it's not actually on Selle yet,
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  Speaker 1: which I think the smartest thing would have been, if
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  Speaker 1: you're going to advertise it, have the products already ready
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: right now, like this is the lunch. But yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you gotta you gotta wait for that booty whole brown.
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  Speaker 2: Well listen, I you know, more power to her, and
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  Speaker 2: I hope she does sell out, but I will not
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  Speaker 2: be purchasing any Gneria from my lips.
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  Speaker 1: Sounds like manifestation to me. No thanks, I'm cool on that.
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  Speaker 1: I wonder what the ingredients are. She probably even give
• 10:26
  Speaker 1: a fuck. She probably didn't go through no damn dermatology.
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  Speaker 1: She ain't go through no medical, not medical but a
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  Speaker 1: cosmetic scientist. Nothing, just a bunch of bullshit. People don't happened,
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  Speaker 1: and people don't. Right, there's probably some Alibabas ship packaged
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  Speaker 1: up yep and put the name on it. But to
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  Speaker 1: be peeling and breaking up from Gneria, ooh, it's crazy,
• 10:50
  Speaker 1: mean Conorea. Anyway, what else happened? Angela jo Lee? All right,
• 10:54
  Speaker 1: so I thought this was funny? She any, Yeah, this
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  Speaker 1: is funny. I don't think it's funny. It was sad
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  Speaker 1: to me.
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  Speaker 2: Go ahead, Angelina Jolie hire a hit man for herself.
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  Speaker 2: So she battled with darker times during her younger years,
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  Speaker 2: and her quotes about hiring a hitman have recently resurfaced.
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  Speaker 2: In two thousand and one interview with IMDb, the forty
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  Speaker 2: nine year old admitted she tried to hire a hitman
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  Speaker 2: to kill her when she was playing with suicidal thoughts.
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  Speaker 2: Hiring a hitman to kill yourself is kind of.
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  Speaker 1: Like what it is wild, but I understand and why not?
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  Speaker 2: Just my thing is why not just off yourself? But
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  Speaker 2: the reason why was that she didn't want her family
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  Speaker 2: to Uh, it would be easier for her loved ones
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  Speaker 2: to deal with right if she was murdered versus having suicide.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And to me that kind of makes sense, right,
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  Speaker 1: Like if you want to get the fuck about this
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  Speaker 1: planet right now, and you also, you know you don't
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  Speaker 1: want to hurt your loved ones, if that's really where
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  Speaker 1: your mind is at, can't nobody like you know how
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  Speaker 1: people go to psychiatrists and therapists. They can't talk you
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  Speaker 1: off the ledge for real. They'll try to keep medicating people.
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  Speaker 1: But that's a decision that individual has made up and
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  Speaker 1: if they actually followed through, like she really like found
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  Speaker 1: a hit man. And the craziest thing she said in
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  Speaker 1: New York, it's like kind of easy to find a
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  Speaker 1: hit man, like, well, you know what she a hit
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  Speaker 1: man is any nigga with a gun willing to shoot,
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  Speaker 1: you know, anybody that's willing to kill somebody is a
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  Speaker 1: hit man. It ain't got to be like you know,
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  Speaker 1: I wonder how much she was paying the hit man.
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  Speaker 2: She might have found a nigga name Marcus Off off
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  Speaker 2: of the Bronx.
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  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it was a white person, and Angelina
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  Speaker 1: Jolie was not about to hit up no nigga in
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  Speaker 1: the hood like he killed me for five hundreds. I'm
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  Speaker 1: sure it was somebody like real sketch.
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't no hit man, nobody coming with a briefcase
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  Speaker 2: and a silenceer on a gun.
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  Speaker 1: It was a nigga. Was like, shit, how much you
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  Speaker 1: give me? I do it. So it says I was
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: very aware that so many people around me, like my mother,
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  Speaker 1: would feel as though they didn't give enough or do
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  Speaker 1: enough if I had taken my own life, she told
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  Speaker 1: the publication in twenty twenty three. So my solution to
• 13:12
  Speaker 1: that was if someone else had taken my life like
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  Speaker 1: in a robbery. Then it would be murder and it
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't be that anyone would feel they'd let me down.
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  Speaker 1: So she was still considering her family, even in her
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  Speaker 1: it is warped and as weird as it might seem,
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  Speaker 1: it made it was a thoughtful way end your life.
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  Speaker 1: We're your loved ones. I get it. But somebody would
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  Speaker 1: have went to prison because they probably would have found
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  Speaker 1: your killer, right because Marcus don't know what he doing.
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  Speaker 1: He just wanted that five stacks. So that the hitman
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  Speaker 1: told her to wait two months and see how she feel.
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  Speaker 1: And she's still alive today with a family.
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  Speaker 2: So right, so I guess two months later she was like, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: my acne is cleared up, so I guess I can
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  Speaker 2: stay alive now.
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  Speaker 1: The fuck out of here. I don't know if anybody's
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  Speaker 1: out there having fleeting thoughts of suicide. Go talk to somebody,
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  Speaker 1: talk to somebody. Stay here. We love you, I love you.
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  Speaker 1: Stay here.
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  Speaker 2: Don't call no hit man for yourself. Baby, It's gonna
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  Speaker 2: be okay. You see how two months later she was
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  Speaker 2: willing to live again exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, all right.
• 14:20
  Speaker 2: Carly Red says she doesn't want her friends to contact
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  Speaker 2: her man in no circumstances.
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  Speaker 1: So.
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  Speaker 2: The love and hip hop atl star recently sparked debates
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  Speaker 2: after revealing her boundaries regarding friendships between her girls and
• 14:34
  Speaker 2: her babe. She spoke on the controversial subject during a
• 14:37
  Speaker 2: sit down with Lauriel on The Morning Hustle. The radio
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  Speaker 2: host asks you don't want your friends to be cool
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  Speaker 2: with your man? Carlly Red played no games with her
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  Speaker 2: spicy response, telling Laurial, not even if I died.
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  Speaker 1: What the fuck? Now? That's trip. She tripped a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: She said, me and you in a car and we
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  Speaker 2: get in a car accident, and I need to go
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  Speaker 2: to the hospital, and you need to call my man.
• 15:01
  Speaker 2: Don't call him, curly asked with added with a straight face,
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: what happened to you?
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: Bitch? She might be exaggerating, just a little tiny bit,
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  Speaker 1: you know, just still make it funny. But I understand
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  Speaker 1: because I have had people like I have given my
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: man's phone number to friends in the past, who people
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  Speaker 1: people I'm no longer friends with and probably should have
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: cut the ass off then, right, I don't really care
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: because my thing is always you know, if you could
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  Speaker 1: bag them, you can have them. She's like her responses
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: are coming from a place of insecurity. Yeah, I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Like I'm not even the type that be like, oh my,
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  Speaker 1: you can't come to my house when I'm home with
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  Speaker 1: my man in the house. What.
• 15:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't get friends. I trust these bitches with everything.
• 15:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, and then if that's something that was supposed to
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: be revealed to me, let it happen soon. In earlier Okay,
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: but I have had a friend like, I'm giving you
• 15:55
  Speaker 1: his number in case of emergency because I'm like going
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: into surgery. This is a real situation. I'm going into surgery,
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: and I give my then homegirl my man's number to
• 16:06
  Speaker 1: call him and let him know how I'm doing. I
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: already spoke to him. I know he's coming after he
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: gets off of work. I'm gonna be in surgery. So
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: for him to be sitting here in a waiting room
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  Speaker 1: for no reason doesn't make sense. I'm not that needy
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  Speaker 1: of a person where I need a nigga to be
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  Speaker 1: waiting around for me like her. Right, So I had
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  Speaker 1: already discussed with him, like, hey, I'll see you when
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  Speaker 1: you get off. She proceeds to call him, and you know,
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: she really needs you here, she really wants you to
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: be here, like I ask you to do all that.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't ask you to chastise this nigga about nothing
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  Speaker 1: on a day like this. We already have a plan.
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  Speaker 1: Just call a man, let him know how I'm doing.
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  Speaker 1: And that's it. That's that I should have learned from
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  Speaker 1: that situation. The next nigga she was selling, she was
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  Speaker 1: selling in short and so I gave her my man
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  Speaker 1: at the time phone number to get life insurance for
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: his kid. How do y'all end up on the phone
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  Speaker 1: talking about our fucking relationship? He done picked this bitch
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  Speaker 1: for all type of information about me. This nigga is
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: a con artist. I know my nigga's probably just green
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: as your nigga could never get me on the phone
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  Speaker 1: to talk about you never. Who's this hello? Girl? Right?
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: I'm all listen. I had that nigga donumber save and
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: if it ring and I see it, I'm calling you first.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: I ain't even answer, and I'm calling you like your
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: man call, like where are you at? Like even those
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: of pranks that people are doing right now, like they
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: calling their friends like they would never get me. I'll
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: say hello, and when I hear it is your nigga,
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna act like something happened in my phone because
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: I need to get off the phone with him to
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: call you, because why are you calling him? I'm not
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: even answering because I already noticed your nigga calling, Like
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: my best friends, I have all my best friends boyfriend's numbers,
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: but for whatever reason, it'd be like, how would it happen.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: It'd be like, oh, we're surprised were playing in the
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: surprise party or for some shit like that has happened
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: for me to have their numbers. That's not something like that,
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: so I would already know who the fuck it is
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: calling me. Please don't play on my phone, nigga. I'm
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: calling your girlfriend right now.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: Because we go. Before I talk to you, I'm gonna
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: talk to her.
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: Yes, what are you doing?
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: Like that's not your friend? If a bitch get on
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: the phone talking with your madam, Like, don't call my
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: friend about shit. He was wrong and so was she.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: So maybe Carl wadd just wants to avoid this type
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: of shit happishness because she knows the women and she
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: knows her man. Yeah, she know her friends and she
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: knows her man. But if you can't trust your friends
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: or your man, you might need to reconsider all those relationships,
• 18:43
  Speaker 1: all the people. Yeah, you know, like you might want
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: to reconsider it because imagine, imagine you told your homegirl
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: something like this, y'all tell me if I'm wrong or not.
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: You shut the fuck up, you tell your homegirl girl,
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, I dread the day that somebody I
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: used to fuck with in this city sees me with
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: my now boyfriend, because niggas don't give a fuck who
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: you fucking with until they see you. They don't even
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: remember that y'all used to fuck around until they see
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: your mass. It's not it really doesn't have nothing to
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: do with you. It's just like, yes, I want to
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: let him know that I hadn't fucked this bitch before
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: type shit. So that's a conversation I had with my
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: then best friend. Do you think that's something that she
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: should tell your man? Hell, that happened in real fucking life.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: That's how I knew she had done talk too fucking
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: much exactly, And why would that come up? Like, why
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: would you think that you were on my side telling
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: him that? Are you nuts? But just be retarded? So
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: like you you know, I'm not talking to your boyfriend,
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: for an hour on the phone about your relationship. Even
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: though I know your side and maybe now he's given
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: me his shit, I don't even fuck about his side.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: You're not my friend, dude, so what the hell am
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: I talking to you for? But in case of emergency
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: and shit like that, like why why wouldn't you want somebody? Right?
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: You would have had a car accident and don't nobody
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: know your nigga a holy and a cheeseburger, don't know shit?
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: You at the hospital fighting for your life and even
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: if your dad like who cares? If? Like, who want
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: this nigga next? If I'm dead? Like right, the hell o? God,
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: bitch is nuts.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but that just comes from a place of like
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: hurt and having past situations that somebody betrayed her.
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: That's sad too, or she know herself. Maybe she's done
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: that a lot of times. You know how people online
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: on social media they always want to put like everybody
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: hating on me, Like they just have these negative posts
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: that they always put up, And half the time I'd
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: be like, bitch, that's you right, because everybody hate your ass.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: There's a general consensus that you ain't shit out here.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: But you tell you you telling the world and random
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: people who really don't know you that everybody's hating on you.
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: Which one is it? So I feel like, you know,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: sometimes people don't trust people because they don't trust themselves.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: Write that part.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: I want all my girls to have my nigga numbers.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Say y'all can tell him what ring to.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Get period right, Yeah, get me the right ring. He
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: need to be able to contact y'all exactly.
• 21:25
  Speaker 2: But I trust my girls. I trust my girls with
• 21:27
  Speaker 2: my life, my man, my mama.
• 21:29
  Speaker 1: You know. So we'll just be weird. This is what
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: you pulled up. You read it. That was about the
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: house in Virginia. We're gonna close out stupid internet news
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: with this wammy, y'all let us know what you think.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: So somebody posted on Twitter or ex whatever y'all want
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: to call it nowadays, says this nurse. Said a patient
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: came in with his girlfriend. He was HIV positive but
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: didn't want to tell her the nurses. Coworker was so
• 21:59
  Speaker 1: b o that she went to the girlfriend, pull the girl,
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: pull the pull the girl to girl move and told
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: her the nurses are at odds on if it was
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: right or wrong not but wait, what the nurses are
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: at odds on if it was right or not. But
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: the one that babble got fired and is now facing
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: potential jail time. What is of what's that girl? I was?
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: I'm not. It says you take on, you take an
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: old and hippo ain't nothing to play with. It's all
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: very unfortunate. Okay, So who told one of the nurses?
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: So this is so let's say me and you like
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: you're both we're both nurses. A patient comes in. This
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: is my patient, right you ever, you overhear the conversation,
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: you pull the girl to the side and say, hey,
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: your dude in here sick, right. He doesn't want you
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: to nothing that he could give you. Yeah, he doesn't
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: want you to know. But here's a situation. You didn't
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: get fired. This is my patient though, So you just
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: I mean, I think I would have sent her an
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: anonymous message on social media. I wouldn't have jeopardized my
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: job right then and there. But I think it's kind
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: of sick and fucked up that if two people are
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: there in the office together and let you know, yes,
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: and I know somebody that does happened to where the
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: guy had HIV?
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: I can see you now where you outside in the
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: rain and the raincoat like carbon San Diego and a
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: payphone somewhere.
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: Call it a bitch telling her yes because it's not
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: just her when she's cheats. Or maybe she goes into
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: another relationship and she hadn't gotten tested, or maybe they
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: both went to get tested together and his shit came
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: back positive and not hers. Right, that's the situation I
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: know of. That actually happened to somebody that real close
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: to me. But he told her not the nurse did
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: he tell her right away? Girl? When he came out
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: with a gray white face, she was like, what's up?
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: My tests? Also was good, what's up with yours? The
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: nigga says what's HIV again, as if he didn't fucking
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: know what HIV is? Who are you playing there? That's scary.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: That is scary as a fuck.
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So I don't understand, Like legally, I mean, I
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: get the law you can't share someone's medical information, but
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: when it comes to something like that, it should be
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: if they came in together and you know they're sexually active,
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: there's should be something that should be allowed to be
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: shared between both parties.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: What state is that? Because in the state of South Carolina,
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: if somebody comes in with like that's like d Hack
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: is on your ass. D Hack wants to know who
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: you've had access to. D Heck is going to call
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: other people. They're gonna call the people that you tell
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: them that you've had access to. That's nothing to play with.
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: So I'm confused as to why it's a hip of
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: violation like what stated we Maybe it's a state that
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: just I don't know, Yeah, because that's next level. Why
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: wouldn't you tell her sitting right there, y'all came together, right,
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: but you will tell him my shit? Negative? Right?
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: I don't think they'll tell anything. Like it's on the
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: person to tell their truth.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: I guess their truth. Ain't it against the law to
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: pass out HIV? Is it against the law that has?
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: What state is that? Yes? What state is that? Yeah?
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: Because if you are in certain states, and I believe
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: a lot of them, if you intentionally inflict that type
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: of harm on people, you will get jail time. If
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: you know what your status is and you are out
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: here having sex with a bunch of different people and
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: it leads back to you you going to prison. As
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: you should remember that white guy, he was a DJ
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: in South Carolina.
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: Carolina Stephen, all those young black white guy.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he got arrested for that.
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: He would have jail.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: Serves them. Right. He looked sick though, but he was.
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: He was praying on really really young black women, young
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: black women.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: Mm hmmmm, that's terrible. Yeah, I would have told you,
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: but I don't think I would. But then I would
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: have follow old girl because you the one who told.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: Because how did they know that I violated hippo?
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: Right? Who told? I violated hippo? Bitch? The patient, the girlfriend,
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: the girlfriend told on the nurse. This is why sometimes
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: you got mind your fucking business, because if somebody were
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: to give me some shit like that, I would have
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: tried to go about it and a roundabout way to
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: not get that person in trouble. I would have been
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: so appreciative that they told me. Right, but she you know,
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: but she probably wasn't shocked, like you know, you just
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: never know how you're going to react when you Yeah news.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: I hope the girl is okay.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: I hope the man it's okay, shit, because I mean he's.
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: Very the fucking seitful. Okay, he probably knew he had
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: that ship the day they went to the hospital. Yeah,
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: or maybe he didn't.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: If he didn't, and he just is shocked and embarrassing
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: and shame, and it was like, I want to tell her,
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: but I need to tell her on my own time.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: Which would be never, because you got a first what's
• 27:20
  Speaker 1: what's your own time while you still having sex with me?
• 27:25
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe later that night, I don't know. No, No,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: there's never a right time to tell someone your HIV immediately.
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: It's the right time immediately, yeah, But I mean, like,
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: if you're someone with HIV, that's a hard conversation to have,
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: you know, imagine that, Like, that's a hard conversation to
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: have to come to your partner and tell him I
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: have this illness.
• 27:54
  Speaker 2: I didn't know I had it, or I didn't know
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: I had it, But now I'm telling you because i'm
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: you know, go get.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Your dick check and stop cheating on your home on
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: your girlfriend's tests. Stop men, stop cheating off your girls' tests.
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: That is an individual test that you need to get.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: It ain't no oh you good, I'm good type shit.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: There's a window pieriod. There's all types of shit like
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: go get your own test, and.
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: If y'all gonna be out here, fucking all willy nilly.
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: They have will willy nil willy niling with your penis.
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: They have drugs like prep can keep you from getting HIV.
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: You know that, Like I know they said, that's what
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: they say, right, But look at the name of the medicine, preparation.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: It's preparing you for what exactly to be HIV free?
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah? Or is it just uh? When you go
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: for testing you get the false negative type shit HIV blocker.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: Because prep to me, that word in itself means to prepare.
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: So what are you preping the body for? Be careful, y'all.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: That's all you can do a fight. It ain't nothing
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: that could prepare you for that shit, not even a
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: medication called prep The only thing that can uh guard
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: against it is condoms and no sex. That's it.
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: Well, let me just say this. This is gonna sound crazy.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: Y'all probably gonna be in the comments saying timmy stupid.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: I don't care what y'all think. At this point, I
• 29:34
  Speaker 2: would rather get HIV than cancer. If I had to
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: choose between HIV and cancer, I would take HIV over cancer.
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: People are living full lives with HIV like they take
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: their medicine and they're almost non detected.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: They can go. See that's what I think PREP does.
• 29:51
  Speaker 1: PREP does like that non detected bullshit which I've seen
• 29:53
  Speaker 1: a crazy woman on it.
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: Where the disease you don't even thrive in your body
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: no more, it doesn't kill you. The same people are
• 29:59
  Speaker 2: living long. Cancer, on the other hand, is taking people
• 30:02
  Speaker 2: every single day.
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: I think about. I think both of them is about detection,
• 30:08
  Speaker 1: detecting it early enough to where you can, you know,
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: help yourself not get six. So HIV is AIDS is
• 30:16
  Speaker 1: the HIV is the virus that causes AIDS, right, So
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: if you can detect your status and that HIV status,
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: then you can live long. But there's a lot of
• 30:24
  Speaker 1: people out here who never get tested and then they
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: die of AIDS. It's the same thing with cancer. You
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: know you're not going to get the scans and things
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: you need, like the minute you should, bitch, we are
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: out here talking about were sleepy after we eat? We
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: need to see about that. You see what I'm saying.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: It's young people who shouldn't even be testing for cancer
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: at such a young age are coming up with cancer.
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: But it's tongues. But there's things that be happening that
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: they avoided or they didn't pay attention to to go
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: check on early enough. Yeah, you know, there's your body's
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: been telling you something going.
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: On, right, God, tongue cancer died in a year after Yeah,
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: ain't doing now like stuff like that. How do you
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: even get tongue cancer?
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: What the fuck is that? That shit is crazy. It's
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: a lot of shit going on. Hey, I got my theories.
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: But when somebody goes into the hospital and comes out
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: with monkey pox, HIV and what was it was a
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: third something? I saw an article. This guy he uh
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: tested positive. It was like the first person to test
• 31:20
  Speaker 1: positive for all three of these things. They're all no,
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: it was COVID. Sorry, it was COVID, HIV and monkey pox. Okay,
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: I need y'all to do some fucking research. Shit, he
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: is too goddamn that damn backs that's what the fuck
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: he was into. Because that shit literally, you don't have
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: an immune system anymore, and that's essentially what HIV is.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: You no longer have an immune system, you know, so
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: now your body can't fight against outside it's immune disease. Sure, yeah,
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: I don't want either place that went to a dark morning.
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: Let's get the fuck out of here before get darker. Right,
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: what are we talking about this week? We look, we're
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: talking about living and having children. That's what we're talking
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: about this week. Okay, because we got a bright, long
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: future ahead of us. Bet ch'a. I'm just going to
• 32:13
  Speaker 1: get better, not worse, period. Yes, and so that's the future.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: So we're talking about the future today, y'all. That's what
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: we're talking about them. We'll be right back after this commercial. Hey, y'all,
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: we are back.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: And I was talking to AJ and we were thinking
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: of content, and I was like, you know what, I
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: really want to have a conversation about motherhood, which is
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: a sensitive topic for both of us.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: I think.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Because doctors say that if we were to get pregnant today,
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: it would be a jery accurate pregnancy. And I was
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: very offended pregnancy, very offended by the term. And I
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: was just thinking about how we see more women having
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: children later in life, like like how old Janet had
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: a baby fifty.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: Moregnant. Yeah, so the girls are giving births. I don't
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: look exactly like a Shaunty pregnant, like already beautiful, happy,
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: thick up yeah, full yeah, But I mean that's I
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: already know baby, gonna baby, gonna do me in a
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: little bit.
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: But he had the baby, right, she did, I believe, so, oh,
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: congratulations to her. I didn't see any reports on it.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: No, I'm lying. Yeah, I feel like I've seen something
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: that said they had the baby, like a week ago.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: No, I don't know, but you might be right now
• 33:53
  Speaker 2: with Jane's baby.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: Have we seen you? Where is the baby? Jack? I
• 33:57
  Speaker 1: have not seen the baby either, not sure. I remember
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: her having one picture when he was an infant. You
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: just like a little like a little doll based, little
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: puffy face, but nothing, you know, big this This kid
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: should be at least five years old now, right, Yeah.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: Well, I'm assuming somewhere in there four or five. Tom's
• 34:17
  Speaker 2: moved that baby might be twenty one.
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Time been moving really fast lately. We
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: want to see the baby, Janet.
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: Is there a cut off age for you, like if
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: I'm not pregnant, if I don't get pregnant by this.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: I was saying forty at one point, but it's like
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: when forty comes, it's like, so now I'm at forty two.
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: So every year you push you for it, so if
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: it don't happen, like okay, so I want to have
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: a Gemini, so I might actively start trying to get
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: pregnant in September. I don't know this year. Yeah, okay,
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: Like I'm here following my uh ovulation, like for I
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: already follow it, but I follow it to not get pregnant,
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: which because I've had two tube of pregnancies, and once
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: you have one, your chances of having another increase. So
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: I've already had a second one, so I don't want
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: to end up in a situation where I have another
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: like ectopic pregnancy. But the better way for me to
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: get pregnant would be to do an in vitro. But
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: I can is Carol, you don't know what in vitro is.
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: You never looked it up, Like, no, I've never never,
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: because I actively, like before I stopped working at the
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: last company I worked for, like I'm trying to hurry
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: up and use all my health care benefits and shit,
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: I did start like trying to just do like the
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: beginning process of checking on your fertility and stuff like.
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: So they they check your tubes, your philopian tubes and
• 35:42
  Speaker 1: stuff like that, and they which I only have one
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: of you only have one? Yes, I have one, but listen, y'all.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: The amazing thing about a woman's body, even with one
• 35:54
  Speaker 1: philopian tube, do you know that it moves to the
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: next ovary to catch day like you're philopian too, one
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: actually moves. You don't need both of them. Obviously you
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: had to, Yes, obviously you had too for a reason.
• 36:11
  Speaker 1: But you can still operate with the one.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: Just like a man can have one nut and make babies.
• 36:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's true.
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: I know somebody who lost the nut in high school,
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: I mean in college, wrestling with his roommate and got needed.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: I know somebody with one nut too, because they shit
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: had got twisted once, like inside, how are you going
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: to nuts? Okay, but go ahead, sorry, reason it's nuts
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: right this girl nuts? Girl nuts inside. So yeah, I
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: only have the one tube, so it moves anyway. So
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: I track my ovulation because sometimes I feel like I
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: might feel like I'm ovulating, but I'm not. And I
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: think it's because of the the one over. Because they
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: say you can have like phantom periods. All types of
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: shit be happening a child when you get a certain
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: age and when you have had some type of fertility issue,
• 37:03
  Speaker 1: like you still have a cycle. Yeah, but that doesn't
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: mean you're actually like yeah. So I started like going
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: through the process to check on that stuff. So I
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: only got as far as and I forgot the name
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: of the procedure. But it's just like they both die
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: through the fallopian tube, receive if it's any blockages. So
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: I have the one tube with a little blockage. So
• 37:24
  Speaker 1: did you have a tube removed? So the first time,
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: the first time, the first the first pregnancy I had,
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: you know, it was in the tube, so they had
• 37:35
  Speaker 1: they actually removed No, excuse me, I'm lying. The first
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: time the one tube that I have, it was a
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: pair or a pair, So they removed the ectopic pregnancy
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: and they patched up the tube. But we're talking about
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: something as small as a vein basically, so there's gonna
• 37:53
  Speaker 1: be some scar tissue on that one tube. The second
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: time I had an ectopic pregnancy, they remove the entire
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: tube and they did that through like the liposcopic, like
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: they just go through your neighbor. And they told you
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: they were going to do that or they the first time. No,
• 38:08
  Speaker 1: I did not know. And this is how, this is
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: why I know that the medical system is not for black.
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: Even with the first one, I knew something was happening
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: with my body, and I kept trying to get an
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: appointment to go to the doctor because I'm like, ma'am,
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: hey i'm pregnant. I'm calling a nurse. I'm like, hey,
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: I'm pregnant and I'm bleeding. But what I also told
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: this one because the guy who I was pregnant for
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: at the time, which was my boyfriend, I thought, right,
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: but you don't know niggas until shit, you're real. So
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: now he's acting from the time I told him I
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: was pregnant, he started acting weird. So I was contemplating
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: having an abortion because one thing about a baby. I
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: ain't forcing a nigga to do shit. Let me say,
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: if she have a baby with a guy, if he leave,
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: you take your baby. Yes, absolutely, I do want to
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: put that baby on the porch. What do you want
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: to I'm gonna call your ass from the corner store, like,
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: what are you gonna do? Well, I don't know what
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: I'm do it without you. I'm not doing it, like
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: I really really I appreciate mothers, especially ones that had
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: to do it by themselves, because how I guess you
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: you know, you don't know until you So it feels
• 39:18
  Speaker 1: like prisoning me. I guess I would adapt, but do
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: I want to go through it? No?
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: By for today she was like it was trying to
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: go pick up her baby from daycare. She's like, I
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: can't believe I gotta go pick this kid up.
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: Every day. I gotta do this shit. I can't believe
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: I gotta do what girls asked me. She was like,
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: am I a bad? Am I a bad mom because
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: I can't parent without being high? I'm like, no, bitch,
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: She's an amazing parent, but she just need a little
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: I think. I mean, some people might say that that
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: is not the most healthy way to parent, but as
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: long as your kids are okay, I mean, who am
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: I to do? Mean wrecking out? Like these kids are phenomenal.
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: So obviously the weed has enhanced her parenting skills. But
• 40:02
  Speaker 1: the fucking health system. So I'm I'm spotting, and I
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: call and call my doctor, my O G Y N.
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: And I'm talking to the nurse and I'm like, hey,
• 40:11
  Speaker 1: I am pregnant. I tested pregnant. I'm I tested positive.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: I'm pregnant, right, I'm having all the symptoms, all the things.
• 40:20
  Speaker 1: I am contemplating having an abortion, But I am spotting
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: so I need to come in for an appointment so
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: I can see what's going on. She got real quiet
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: on the phone and started whispering to me. She was like,
• 40:33
  Speaker 1: why do you want to have an abortion? I said,
• 40:36
  Speaker 1: because I have a I said, I have a situation,
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: and I'm just not sure about it. Like what the fuck, mama?
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: She was like, well, your baby is already growing, your
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: baby already has arms.
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: So that was her personal feelings about She was trying
• 40:51
  Speaker 2: to deter me from hoping. She was doing the lawyer's
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: work too, like I saved the child.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: This medical university, which is like a Christian college, Christian
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: college at Christian hospital, right, And you know, I don't
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: know if people notice. Hospitals can deny you here. But
• 41:09
  Speaker 1: in this instance, she had no business denying me care
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: because what this witch told me on the phone was, well,
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: take another pregnant test. If it's negative, then you're not pregnant.
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: No shit. So what I did. I had already made
• 41:21
  Speaker 1: the appointment at the abortion clinic, right, So I just
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: went on with my appointment at the abortion clinic because
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: I need to be seen at this point. So leading
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: up to that appointment, I'm in Victoria's secret bitcha. I'm
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: passed out in the mall like I'm bleeding internally, which
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: is why I called to doctor. So I get to
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: my appointment the next day after passing out in the
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: day of Victoria's secret. I get to the appointment. They're
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: doing an ultrasound EC topic pregnancy. So I end up
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: back at the hospital that I called a week prior
• 41:55
  Speaker 1: trying to get in. So I end up their emergency
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: surgery that night.
• 42:00
  Speaker 2: And that's why I always say, y'all, we have to
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: advocate for ourselves. You know something is wrong with yourbody,
• 42:05
  Speaker 2: don't let them turn you around. You make it a priority,
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: like you are going to fucking see me. Somebody's going
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: to see me.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: So I actually tried to suit the hospital. So I
• 42:13
  Speaker 1: put like, you know, these message not message boards, but
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: I guess it is a message board like online you
• 42:17
  Speaker 1: could put your case whatever, and different lawyers of contact you.
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: So I don't know if this attorney was an affiliate
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: of the hospital or something. I don't know, but when
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: I spoke to him, he was basically I needed to
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: have died and then my family would have a lawsuit
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: for it to be malpracticed because I didn't bleed out
• 42:37
  Speaker 1: and die somewhere. That's some bullshit because I could have
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: So you denied me care based on your personal views
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: and it may not even be the views of my
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: doctor or everyone at the hospital. It was this one
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: bitch in particular, right who denied me care. And I
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: end up back there having to have surgery, emergency surgery,
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: so I have the one tube. And then the next
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: time I was living in Atlanta, still they just took
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: the tube out. Still, can you please tell me what
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: vitro is? Oh shit, what happened? And vitros when they
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: remove your eggs, so you have women of our age,
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: like even people do it earlier, like if they don't
• 43:16
  Speaker 1: have a partner at thirty five thirty, they start they
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: might freeze their eggs and stuff like that. Right, So
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: even if aside from freezing your eggs in vitro, they
• 43:24
  Speaker 1: remove your egg, they fertilize it with the sperm, and
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: then they implant it in your uterus, so you basically
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: bypassing the ovary excuse me, you're bypassing the Philipian tubes
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: because with your filopian tubes, that's where the egg gets
• 43:38
  Speaker 1: fertilized through a natural conception. So you have sex, sperm
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: goes in there, the egg meets the sperm, and then
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: it drops down into your uterus, and that's where your
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: baby grows at. Your baby cannot grow in a tube.
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: Your tube is the size of a vein, so it
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: will burst if some kids starts growing in there. Exactly,
• 43:58
  Speaker 1: you could bleed out internally. Well, can't give me your hand.
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: Let me say this. I'm sorry that happened to you.
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: For real. That was very traumatic. It is so that
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: you were able to share that story, like and just
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: like that was a lot to share. So I love
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: you and I love you for sharing that. Man. But
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: I think a lot of women are going through this,
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: not just black women. It's a lot of women with
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: fertility issues. But y'all know they put the they put
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: the abortion clinic in our neighborhoods. But white people have
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: always had fertility clinics. So be careful when you go
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: to the doctor and they want to remove your entire
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: womb because you have fibroids. Because please don't think for
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: a moment that your womb is not going into somebody else,
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: because I think that's what's happening when they start removing
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: our parts. Yeah, because they sell them to somebody else.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: I had surgery on twenty twenty three February where they
• 44:48
  Speaker 2: took fourteen fibroid tumors, and they offered to take my uterus,
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: and I told them no that I did not I
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: wanted to.
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: Why would you need to do that? Why would you why?
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: That's you literally take in a woman's soul. That's where
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: all of our energy is at, So why would you
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: want to remove that from somebody's body.
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: I'm like, no, sir, I'm gonna keep the uterus.
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna keep my uterus, thank you.
• 45:13
  Speaker 2: And then they were saying like and even then, my
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: the fibroids were not inside my uterus, they were around
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: the outside. So what even reason do you need. You're
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: not going into my uterus, so there's no reason to
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: take it. Like, I don't even understand why you would
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: offer that, you know, to a woman who has no children,
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: to a woman who has no children, Right.
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: That's weird, bitch. I'll be trying to just double check.
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: You might even get an ultra style I might have exactly.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: You don't even know, Like, can you check and see.
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: If I still have a uterus? Yes, that would be
• 45:42
  Speaker 2: crazy if I went to the doctor like, oh yo,
• 45:44
  Speaker 2: shiit hollow bitch. Wait, then I would have a lot
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: of suit for sure.
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, feel like they'd be doing that. They were
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: doing that to Hispanic women at the border. They were
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: giving these women hysterectomies and they didn't know.
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: Think about Henrietta Lax. Let's talk about her, Like, if
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: you don't know who Henrietta Lax is as a black woman,
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: I'm mad at you a little bit.
• 46:09
  Speaker 1: But here's some education.
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: She was a black woman.
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: What is this the nineteen early thirties, I was by said,
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: early nineteen hundreds, and she got on time ago.
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: She got diagnosed with cancer cancer, yep, and they did.
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: They took her DNA and cells without her permission, and
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: she had the only regenerating cell known to man.
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: Which doesn't make sense because if she has cervical cancer
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: and she has cells that can regenerate themselves, would her
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: body not have cured her out of the cancer. So
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: they murdered Henrietta Lax and they took her cells. And
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: they have even sent her DNA to the.
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: Moon, right, they said, they have used her cells so
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: many times and created that it could wrap around the
• 46:54
  Speaker 2: Earth like thousands of times.
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: They've been using her shit to make vaccines and medicines.
• 46:59
  Speaker 2: Right, the only thing, the reason we know about autism, sickle,
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: sell all these different diseases is because of this black
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: woman and her family just recently got any amount of compensation.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: They should be one of the richest families on the
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: planet because of that.
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: I think her the last person in her lineage. I
• 47:18
  Speaker 1: think it was a son he passed away.
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: Oh really, I did not know that. Rest in peace
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: to that man.
• 47:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So, I mean, I'm pretty sure they got more
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: family members, but they did, and I don't know what
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: the settlement was. But they can't. They can't compensate that
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: family enough. Right, there's no way.
• 47:34
  Speaker 2: There's no way to compensate them enough.
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: She kissed off. I do you want kids? Like how bad?
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: I would like a baby, And I've decided more recently
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: that that was something I want. I think it was
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: my god kids that made me like want my own
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: kids because I just loved them so much. And if
• 47:58
  Speaker 2: I could love these kids that didn't come from me
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: so much, like, I don't imagine, You're right, I only imagine.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: I can only imagine how much I would love my
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: own You know, so it didn't make me want a
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: baby like I do have like a pregnancy hard story,
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: but I'm not capable of sharing that here. Like I
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: don't think I could, like like the way you did
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: that just now that I was very courageous, because I
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: probably might just fall apart, you know.
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: So I can't share that story.
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: But I do want a baby, you know, I would
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: like to, but I'm just I'm very afraid, like it
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: would take a very I would need a very strong
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: partner to hold my hand through pregnancy at this stage
• 48:38
  Speaker 2: in my life, because the last time I did it
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: was not a good experience. So I would need that,
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: and I didn't have that the first time because not
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: because my partner wasn't a good partner.
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: He was a great man that I was.
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: I mean, he was all right, but you know, he
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: was a good We were very we were in a
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: healthy state at that time. But he was in the
• 49:01
  Speaker 2: military and he was deployed. He was all the way,
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: you know, protecting this great country that we live in
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: and we were separated by the military, so he could
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: not be there for me. So that experience I had
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: to go. I was living in another country. I didn't
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: have family, there. I had friends there, but it was
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: just a lot to go through by myself.
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: So to do that again at this age and I
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: a geriatric practice, I just wouldn't need. Like God would
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: have to send me very someone, very loving and patient.
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: You're gonna have to get any presisting baby daddy, somebody
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: who've been through something. And see, I don't know if
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: I want that, because I don't want somebody hell, our
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: age male with no children who said he had to
• 49:49
  Speaker 1: be our age.
• 49:52
  Speaker 2: I get my nigga a little younger. Drea might had
• 49:57
  Speaker 2: the right idea. It's like that's for me, but girl, Like,
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: the only thing I don't like about men who have
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: kids and already done it is like I don't want
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: no nigga like, nah, you're holding the baby wrong. You
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: gotta do it like this, you got to pour the
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: milk on here, like you ain't doing it right.
• 50:15
  Speaker 1: I don't want no nigga doing that to me. Like
• 50:17
  Speaker 1: I kind of want our.
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: Experience to be the first time together, you know, but
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: at this age, you know you're right, it's it'll probably
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: be harder to find unless I go younger, which I'm
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: not a post.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: And funk with y'all. Niggas talking about. I really feel
• 50:30
  Speaker 1: like men who don't have kids are like the socially
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: awkward ones. It's a lot of reason why women right
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: don't have kids. I hate when people ask me that. Yeah,
• 50:39
  Speaker 1: I feel like at a certain age, stop asking women
• 50:41
  Speaker 1: why they don't have kids? What I do? I'd be like, oh,
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: I had to to a pregnancies and I just look
• 50:46
  Speaker 1: at them, look at them.
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because now I'm not like my business now, like
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: because we're having a good time and now you just
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: ruined a good time with that.
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: Kids like aunts and just random asks people. Yeah, people
• 50:58
  Speaker 1: have a real problem. And like you're a single mom,
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: So are you urging me to do that? Right, bitch?
• 51:04
  Speaker 1: Like why your kids ain't got no daddy? Like what
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: that's like you gotta ask?
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: That's almost like that question equally fucked up. You pauled
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: by my question, but I'm also equally appalled by yours.
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: Bitch, don't ask me that, where's your baby daddy? Right?
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: Where they daddy? I ain't never seen him, man, none
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: of this shit. He wasn't at your baby shower. That's
• 51:27
  Speaker 1: not nice. I'm sorry, girl. People don't be nice. You know,
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: people need to be more considerately if I'm not talking
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: to why you ask?
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: It's never women that ask that. To me, it's always
• 51:37
  Speaker 2: men though. It's always a.
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: Man on a date or something like why you ain't
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: got no kids? But then they judge women who already
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: have kids when they meet him. So what what what
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: y'all want? Really? I'll be like, I just want to
• 51:51
  Speaker 1: offend us. I think I'm like, I don't like that question.
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: Be wanting to offend us?
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: Right, I don't know if it's intentional. Some people just
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: don't know that that's it could be a hurtful question.
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: And if you tell them the truth, like like if
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: I told them really why I didn't have kids and
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: what happened, it would ruin the evening, like everybody.
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: Just looking down at the plate, just minding they fucking business. Yeah,
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: fun anymore what I needed? So I think at I'll
• 52:21
  Speaker 1: say thirty. When you see a woman thirty where no kids,
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: don't ask her if she wants children, don't ask her
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: why she doesn't have children, don't ask her why she
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: doesn't have a husband. Don't just mind mind your family
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: that you created and probably not taking care of mine.
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: Marry her and give her a baby. That part That's
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: That's one thing I can't stand about niggas talking about
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: women like pick one. It's so many women out here,
• 52:45
  Speaker 1: Why are you single? Mm hmm. So nobody's good enough
• 52:50
  Speaker 1: because we really be trying with the worst of the worst.
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: We still be trying with them.
• 52:54
  Speaker 2: I was saying, I haven't let some good ones get away.
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: I have bless some good ones get away from me,
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: especially in my twenties.
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: When good or they were being good to get you
• 53:07
  Speaker 1: so then they can then treat you. How the nigga
• 53:10
  Speaker 1: that got you treating you? I say that, Larry, are
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: they really good or are they being good? So when
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: they get you they can treat you how the nigga
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: that got you treating you? You see what I'm saying,
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: Because you just don't know somebody until you know them.
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: So once he does acquire you, like then you meet
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: the real man and now it's like, this is the
• 53:30
  Speaker 1: same pro this is the same nigga. You know you
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: don't know though, yeah, you never know. You never don't know.
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: So there was something why you didn't go with that person,
• 53:40
  Speaker 1: something very much something.
• 53:42
  Speaker 2: Sometimes it used to be me like, bitch, I'm outside,
• 53:45
  Speaker 2: you want to you want to lock me down and
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: I'm outside. When I was in my late twenties, I
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: was having my way, baby, like I'll have my way like.
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: Time is up.
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: But like you know, I can look back and say, damn,
• 53:59
  Speaker 2: he probably would would have been a good husband. But
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: who knows, he might be somewhere beating a bitch up
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: right now.
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: So exactly know, you just never know. You never know.
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: But at least one. That's where I'm at. I want
• 54:10
  Speaker 1: at least one kid. And this might be for a
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: real selfish reason. I just want to see what my
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: kid would look like, what they look like. I just
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: and I think about like the nine months leading up
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: to seeing what they look like and who they are, right,
• 54:28
  Speaker 1: I just want to see who God gonna send me, right,
• 54:31
  Speaker 1: you know, I might not be a serial killer. You
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: never know, a Gemini, you never know. Girl by.
• 54:39
  Speaker 2: I think if if God blessed me with the child,
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: especially at this age, I would just want to have
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: life beyond my own. You know, we're getting older, we're
• 54:49
  Speaker 2: not getting we never getting younger, right, so one day
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: we leaving here and I just want to have a
• 54:55
  Speaker 2: life beyond this one. It just would be a shame, but.
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: I'm coming back. I might come back this time. I'm
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: not sure. I've been back a lot of times. I
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: might not come back to Yeah.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: I mean, your soul will come back, you know, if
• 55:05
  Speaker 2: you believe in reincarnation, your soul will exist in another
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: form at some point.
• 55:10
  Speaker 1: But Ashley James, yes, I have been back before as
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: Ashley Jane. Yes.
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: So you're gonna come back as Actually James.
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: No, I'm probably gonna come back as Rick James. Bitch,
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: that's what's gonna happen. I want to come back as
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: Brett James, a white, rich white man, James Brown. I'm
• 55:37
  Speaker 1: gonna come back, but I don't know. People be warning.
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: I hate when men say my seed. That is so
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: disgusting to me, my seed, because a lot of them
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: just literally just be dropping seeds around mm hm. As
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: long as but as long as they're taking care of them,
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: I don't care how you can call them whatever the
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: fuck you want to. Got a certain amount, you can't
• 55:56
  Speaker 1: take care of them kids, you know what I mean,
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: even helping like Elon Musk got like eleven kids. One
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: of his kids. I was looking at the baby named
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: dark He got to be a super villain when he
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: grew up, like Darkness the moment I was born, you know, like,
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: is the villain.
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you name your baby dark one of the babies,
• 56:17
  Speaker 2: that name is just some symbols.
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: I don't even know. Look it up. It's like a symbol.
• 56:22
  Speaker 1: It's not even like. I don't know how I was
• 56:24
  Speaker 1: allowed to because you know their names. They won't allow
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: you to give a baby right.
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: How Like you can't name a baby Satan in America.
• 56:33
  Speaker 2: I think it's against the law. You can't name a
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: baby Satan or something like that.
• 56:38
  Speaker 1: Lucifer.
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: You can't name a baby Lucifer.
• 56:41
  Speaker 1: You can't.
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: I'm I'm lying real quick because I think you can't
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: name a baby.
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: Say I can't name my kid that some people named Lucifer. Yeah,
• 56:53
  Speaker 1: me baby, the best of the band.
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: Baby names in the law on naming children any unions
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: in the States, can you nam Kate Lucifer?
• 57:01
  Speaker 1: Saying yeah you can. Yeah, I don't see why not.
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: I mean, I thought it was against people have a
• 57:09
  Speaker 1: different understanding of those entities. You know what I'm saying.
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: Lucifer is the light Bringer, Well, yes, the light Bringer.
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: List all these things is inside. You ain't got nothing
• 57:24
  Speaker 1: to do with anything outside of you. You come in
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: in contact with humans that possess these energies, so you
• 57:33
  Speaker 1: can fuck around and meet the devil Jesus. But anyway,
• 57:41
  Speaker 1: let's get into the benefits of having children later in life.
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: Because people like to tell you all about shit geriatric
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: or you're gonna get diabetes, you're gonna get a big
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: ass baby. You're gonna get two babies. I would love
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: that if I can just get two, So hold on.
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: Look, it says most states prohibit using baby names with numerals, emojis,
• 57:59
  Speaker 2: or symbols in them.
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: But I bet you some of these young fucking gen
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: zers is like, I'm would name my baby eggplant. Oh
• 58:12
  Speaker 1: like the little crazy that's my favorite emoji crazy. And
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: this one, no, this is mine, y'all? And this one
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: what's your name? Baby? First day bake dumb ass? That's
• 58:38
  Speaker 1: another thing, y'all.
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: School about the start, and you been calling your baby
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: moot moot since the baby was born. Please teach your
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: baby they real name before they go to kenano because
• 58:50
  Speaker 2: they're gonna.
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: Be waiting on their teacher. You're waiting on the teacher
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: to call moot. Go ahead, all right, So seven benefits
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: of having a child leader life. Reacher research has turned
• 59:01
  Speaker 1: up some surprising benefits of being an older parent for
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: both you and your baby. Here are a few perks
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: of parenting life parenting later in life. Okay, people rarely
• 59:12
  Speaker 1: talk about the benefits of having a baby after thirty five. Okay,
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: so look, geriatric is thirty five plus. I don't know
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: if y'all know that, but yeah, bitch, you ain't that
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: young at thirty five. Instead, we often hear only about
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: the worries movie You're not Old for the Earth? You know,
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: but remember what was that movie where they was trying
• 59:31
  Speaker 1: to get in the club. It was like, he was like, what,
• 59:34
  Speaker 1: you bitch is trying to get in this club. He's like,
• 59:36
  Speaker 1: you old bitch is coming to the club. He's like, oh, bit,
• 59:39
  Speaker 1: He's like, you're not old for the earth for this club.
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: If y'all know that movie, You're too old for the
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: baby club, it says, we often hear only about the
• 59:49
  Speaker 1: worries about pregnancy later in life. This makes some sense,
• 59:52
  Speaker 1: is knowing that we have ticking biological clock, which is
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: why women calculate time a little bit different. It can
• 59:59
  Speaker 1: be real, really scary, and it's true that the number
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: of eggs people with ovaries have. You heard that, and
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: it's true that the number of eggs people with ovaries.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 1: This is a gender neutral article because you women have ovaries,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: but anyway have decreases as they age. Pregnancy over thirty
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 1: five also comes with the higher risk of certain complications
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: like hypertension or diabetes for you, and chromosomal abnormalities like
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 1: Down syndrome for your baby. However, there are also a
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 1: number of compelling benefits of having a baby after thirty five.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 1: In fact, while there is no one right time for pregnancy,
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 1: there are a number of advantages for advantages to postponing parenthood,
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 1: potential benefits after having a baby after thirty five, or
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 1: says there's no pot that part okay. Studies show that
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: having kids later in life can make you mentally sharper
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 1: as you age. A study published in the Journal of
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: American Geriatric Society tested eight hundred and thirty middle aged
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: women to determine whether there was a link between having
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 1: a baby at a later age and brain power. I'm
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 1: gonna get smarter.
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: I just want to say, you read that really well.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 1: Shut up, girl, I've been practicing. Obviously a bent for
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: practicing reading. The researchers found that their's excuse me, found
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: that those who had their last child after thirty five
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 1: had sharper cogni cognition and verbal memory post menopause. They
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 1: also found that people who had their first child after
• 1:01:39
  Speaker 1: the age of twenty four were better at problem solving
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 1: and better at problem solving than their peers who had
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 1: children younger. It says you're likely to be happier and
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: less stressed. Now there's money, yes, period, and the support.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: I'm not going to offend anybody by I'm gonna try
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: not defend any offend any women who have experienced postpartum
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 1: disorder right because I'm not saying it doesn't exist. But
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 1: I think that when you have support system, especially the
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: person that you had this baby with right there. I
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: don't want to say at your back and call, but
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 1: a dependable person by your side, actually doing the wanting
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: with you, you might find yourself less depressed, less stress.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: And then I mean there's also some not just just
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 1: because you can have a baby doesn't mean you're a mother.
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 1: I don't have any kids, and I'm a mom all
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 1: day long, like I'm very nursing. So some people, some
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 1: people don't have that thing. Yeah, some people don't have
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: any if I don't do nothing for you. I'm a
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 1: fedialized and I know babies require you really like really
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: would love it too, your food too, Like i'd like
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: I was at agent house. I was like, maybe a sandwich.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: The sandwich came out with honey butter glazes on it
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: and like just very extra, like it's midnight, bitch, I
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 1: just wanted a sandwich. You unless it's gonna be good. Yeah,
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 1: I am real meticulous about food. Girl. If it was
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 1: the other way around. At twelve o'clock, he was like,
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: make me a sandwich. You would have got a little
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: piece of meat, some bread, you want Mayo's, some lettuce, tomato.
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 1: I'm not sprinkling no salt and pepper on your sandwich.
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: It's twelve o'clock. Eat it this way, grill it, bitch,
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: go to sleep. I like to eat good, so I
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: like you said, they might come from money. Like one
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 1: of my best friends, she had both of her kids,
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 1: the last one at last year of high school, and
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 1: then she got pregnant nine months later. Like I know
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 1: what she went through to be the woman that she is,
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 1: staying with these two grown ass kids, and she'd be like, girl,
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 1: I'm done. Like yeah, and I'm ready.
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: They remember like being nineteen and twenty and looking at
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 2: friends that had kids and I'm like, damn girl.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 1: But now the kids is grown. Yeah, and they're good
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 1: and they're good. Yeah. Listen, mama's come with a slice
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 1: of bread. Man. All my friends who got kids be rich.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 1: Lem me just be having money. I don't know if
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: it's because they got somebody dependent. That's how we think
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: of like.
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 2: Every morning, like how do y'all afford these children?
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: They got to you see. I remember when and people
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: was trying to get on a JT about this, but
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: she did an interview with Angie Martinez and she was
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 1: saying how she don't got to go to that hard
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: because she don't got kids, and so people like and
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure young Miami probably felt away about that too,
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: because she has two kids. And JT just is basically saying, like,
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 1: I don't have kids, I don't have to do the most.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. It's just it's just me. Yeah,
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: but it's just a true statement. Right But before she
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: but some people don't you know, some people don't give
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: a fuck and they're still doing bad with the kids.
• 1:04:59
  Speaker 1: But if you are a sound mind adult or even
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 1: a young person. It forces you to want to be guy.
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 1: It might be the reason why you struggle, but a
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: baby will definitely be the reason you hustle. So I
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 1: probably would have a little more hustle. I think I
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 1: had to take care.
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: But you know what, I feel like it's more for
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: women than men.
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 1: Though. Am I tripping off for that? I think you
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 1: might because I the men that I know, and I
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: know some wonderful men, even if they did me some
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: type of way, they're great fathers. I feel like our generation, yeah,
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 1: I don't really know niggas who don't. I don't associate
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 1: myself with those types of people, like I think ostracized.
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 2: I think our parents' generation like it was okay to
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: be a dead beat. Yeah, but our generations don't.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: Play that ship.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: Like if you don't fuck with your kids, niggas do
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 2: not fuck with you.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: No men really be out here fucking with their kids.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 1: To the men we're proud of y'all. Yeah, man, all
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 1: my friends take care of their kids. I don't know
• 1:05:55
  Speaker 1: who y'all know.
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 2: I don't know know no guys that don't. I can't
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 2: think of one, but I'm sure that watch them like bitch,
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: So exactly so, but I also know some women who
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 1: make it hard and I mean personally, I know some
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 1: women who make it hard for their kids dad to
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 1: be a dad because you know, so they make it
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 1: hard for them going through the court system, or they're
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 1: just angry, which I understand. I can understand why you
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 1: would be angry having a baby, you know, because no
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: woman just wants to be a baby mom. Nobody goes
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 1: into that ship like that, like we women really be
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 1: in love with every nigga they fucking with, and they
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: really think this the one, and they really think like better.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Nobody goes into it to
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 1: be a single mom. No, nobody don't. No matter what
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: they say. Women want to be loved.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 2: Everybody wants to be loved. I think you know, such
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 2: an ugly web.
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: Okay, since as research shows that older parents tend to
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 1: feel less stressed and more contentment and joy after having
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 1: children than their younger counterparts. In fact, according to the
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 1: authors of twenty seventeen review, existing studies show that happiness
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 1: increases around and after childbirth among older mothers, whereas for
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 1: younger mothers, the effect does not exist or it is
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: short lived. So you have a baby, you and this
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 1: guy just full of bliss, and it could be a
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 1: young couple. And I have seen this over and over again.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 1: When that baby comes, it's something that happens. We know,
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: women going to just stress, women are going to change,
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 1: and I just don't think that men are allowed enough
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 1: time to catch up to the changes.
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 2: Of this woman physically going to do all the changes
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 2: and mentally changing as well during that time.
• 1:07:52
  Speaker 1: Whereas the man he don't feel it, you know. So
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 1: now you've got a parent the baby and parent the man,
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: and men could feel like who you're talking to, you know.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 1: So I could see, like a younger couples, why dissolve?
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 1: It becomes harder as soon as the baby come. You
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 1: haven't seen somebody have been together for years, as soon
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 1: as they have a baby, the nigga's out of there. Yeah,
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 1: like what happened? Yeah, I've seen y'all thought that baby
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 1: was gonna make the stronger.
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: M Yeah, that connection got to be stronger already because
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 2: that baby is gonna test it for sure, exactly. But
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 2: I think when you older, I think people want to
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 2: be in the house more when they're older, like you.
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: Know so, so workout. We're gonna have to chase these kids.
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 1: Mm hm. At least your husband, he's gonna have to
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 1: have some stamina to keep a pair can get out.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 1: I don't want nobody else raising my kid. I do.
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 1: Your child may have a reduced risk of injury, it says.
• 1:08:48
  Speaker 1: Parents of any age aim to protect their children at
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 1: best excuse me, as best as they can. However, several
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 1: studies point to the fact that a child's risk of
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: experiencing an unintentional injury that requires medical attention declines with
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 1: increasing uh maternal age, So basically older moms the kids
• 1:09:09
  Speaker 1: are less likely to get hurt, possibly because older parents
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 1: are more aware of dangerous and are better equipped to
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 1: guard against them. And you'll get like our older moms
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 1: doing all the fun bullshit with the kids. Right, No,
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 1: probably the older moms probably are like they got more
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: patience with the kids like younger moms. You gotta cook.
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 1: He jumping off a slide, You're doing a TikTok right, Oh,
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 1: broke legs. Stupid. I always at the beach. I swear
• 1:09:49
  Speaker 1: to God, this is where I feel like I'm a mom.
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: I be watching other people kids. I watch people not
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 1: watch their kids, like at the beach, you this fucking
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 1: kid is too close to the damn shoreline, Like where
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 1: are you at? Like, where the fuck is the parent
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 1: your kid? Quick enough? If something would have happened. Yeah,
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 1: So I find myself watching other people's kids all the time.
• 1:10:14
  Speaker 1: I watch how people. I was in higher seat the
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 1: one day and I'm like almost I just kind of
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 1: like started like creeping around, like in the fruit section,
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: like I was looking at shit. But really, I'm watching
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: this lady interact with her kid because he just seemed
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: like he wanted to get away from her so bad,
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 1: like he wasn't supposed to be with her or something.
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 1: So I don't know if he was having a little
• 1:10:33
  Speaker 1: issue or did you steal this kid because he doesn't
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 1: seem to like your ass at fucking all. So I'm
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 1: like watching and I almost said something, I just mind
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: my business and went on. I just hope the kid
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: is okay. I remember one time, this was recently. I
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 1: was on a plane and I had just seen a
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: missing child. It was like a little Mexican little girl
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: and it was a little Mexican girl over at the seat,
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 1: and I kept on watching her like and then we
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: was like, uh no, she was like a seat right
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 1: here looking back at her. I was like, is that her?
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 1: That kind of looked like her. I can't remember the name,
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: but I said the name and she ain't look I
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 1: was like, okay, that ain't her because we going we
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: leaving this plane together if she look at this name.
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 1: Because one thing I cannot stand and seeing white people
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: with black kids, Oh, I just be like, man, black
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 1: people need to adopt children, Like I am open to adoption,
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 1: and but I don't have my own kid. I would
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: definitely adopt a kid, and I might get a seven
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: or eight year old, might not even shoot they try
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 1: to get an infant because these kids get left in
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: the system until they're eighteen. So we can't be upset
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: that white people are adopted adopting our kids, but are
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 1: we able to adopt theirs. I see one family online
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 1: adopted their son's friend, little white boy with them now,
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: but I just can't stand it. I'd be like, well,
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 1: will you get this fucking baby? For why you want
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 1: this baby?
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  Speaker 2: I just I don't if they're being loved and not
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 2: abused being kennels. Do you see these these these stuff
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 2: that's crazy. They're locking the kids up in a barn
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 2: having a message. Honestly, I think nobody, but that's what's happening.
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 1: My mind just always go there when I see even
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 1: though they could be being loved, and that's what we
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 1: could all hold for, that they're being loved to taking
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 1: care of.
• 1:12:16
  Speaker 2: Because a child that grows up in the system and
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 2: never gets adopted, that is the saddest thing, you know.
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 2: So obviously we don't want nobody's baby and no kennel
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 2: in a barn and ship like that. I hope them
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 2: white people that had them black kids like that, I
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 2: hope they getting the ass whooping jail for real, because
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 2: that's just sick. It's some sick people out here.
• 1:12:36
  Speaker 1: That one family had the kids in a barn by
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: four little black kids. This other white lady, she literally
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 1: was just putting this little girl in a kennel in public,
• 1:12:48
  Speaker 1: like she opened the back hatch to her suv and
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 1: like the little girl knew to get in there. That's
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 1: so sad. Belt to ask, right, I'm not calling the police.
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 1: I would have been her first. I would be going
• 1:13:01
  Speaker 1: to jail firms, I swear to God, y'all. Should I
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 1: be staying like I'd be willing to die for black people. Y'all.
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 1: Niggas ain't like y'all not like me. I'm a real
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 1: militant with this shit. I would have dragged that bitch
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 1: if I had seen her with that baby in that
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 1: kennel in her truck. That should hurt my feelings to
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 1: even see it online. And then the babies just know
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 1: to go in there like she's a trained pet. That said,
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 1: right now, as we talk and record this episode, that
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 1: has happening to a child somewhere anyway, you might be
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 1: more emotionally prepared. There's an undoubted sense of maturity that
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 1: comes along with age. Just think about how much you've
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 1: changed since your teens. Research suggests that maturity place.
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 2: And you said, I'm ready to die for black people.
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 2: I was like, I'm glad it's people like you. I'm
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 2: ready to die for the people I love.
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 1: But I don't know if I would just like, like
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 1: give my life for And that's why we fucked up.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 1: A lot of people gave their life of of us,
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 1: like people be on Kanye saying how Kanye was talking
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 1: about the slaves and saying how slavery was a choice. Listen,
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 1: Lincoln did not end slavery. We end of slavery because
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 1: we was fucking slaughtering ass. Okay, let's be very clear.
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 1: We had the Haitians coming in, Barbadians, everybody, the Bayesians,
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 1: every people. That they're doing it today. That's what I'm getting.
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 1: That's the point I'm getting to. If anybody's choosing slavery,
• 1:14:31
  Speaker 1: it's us today. Because if you're not willing to what
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 1: the fuck you? You're not willing to die for nothing.
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 1: I am.
• 1:14:37
  Speaker 2: There's a lot of things I'm willing to like for.
• 1:14:39
  Speaker 2: I'm willing to die for my god kids. I'm willing
• 1:14:41
  Speaker 2: to die for my family, my sister, my mother.
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 1: I see children, people, children, myself, and the little girls
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 1: we had on yesterday, Like, I'm willing to die for them,
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 1: and they just I don't even know them. It just
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 1: depends on what the situation.
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 2: I guess it just depends. Yeah, Okay, I'll say that
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 2: my situation.
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 1: Now, I'm an organized her Okay, I'm not saying I'm
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 1: in the front line type bitch.
• 1:15:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it sounds like. It's about to put
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 2: on boots and get hit the ground.
• 1:15:06
  Speaker 1: No, if she comes to the front line, I mean
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 1: come behind the line. I'm willing, but I'm organizing crash. Okay,
• 1:15:13
  Speaker 1: we're on the same. I like, let's put on black
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 1: paint tomorrow and go outside. Okay, so listen, I saw
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 1: a video recently with Tommy tell Me from Love and
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 1: Hip Hop. I saw a video of her recently, and
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 1: I sent it to a couple of people who will
• 1:15:30
  Speaker 1: be on the type of time I'm on because when she,
• 1:15:32
  Speaker 1: if I'm ready, if she get real, if we can
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 1: collectively be down for change. No, I'm not about to
• 1:15:37
  Speaker 1: just go throw myself into the fire when these niggas
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 1: will still be doing the same. That's what I what
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 1: I'm saying. But some people that's in the streets, that's
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 1: just not living right there. I ain't trying to do right.
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 1: They gotta go to see. Those are not even the
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 1: people I'm considering. Okay, So Tommy was like, y'all call
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 1: me when y'all ready to go get on some police.
• 1:16:00
  Speaker 1: Call me when y'all ready. Dude, I'm not about to
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 1: be marching down the street about this ship. But call
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 1: me when y'all on some real ship. And that is
• 1:16:06
  Speaker 1: how I feel, so we can collectively get on some
• 1:16:09
  Speaker 1: real ship. I'm down. I'm down for the next generation
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 1: because once you conquer death, like, yes, I want a child,
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 1: and I feel like and maybe if I had a
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 1: kid right now, I wouldn't feel this way. But I
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 1: don't mind dying.
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 2: When you say conquered death, okay, freof yes, the.
• 1:16:28
  Speaker 1: Fear of dying, the fear of transitioning once you get
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 1: past that, because we dying every day. But once you
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 1: get past that, you it's limitless. Would would you like
• 1:16:39
  Speaker 1: to think of myself living every day and not dying.
• 1:16:44
  Speaker 1: You were talking about age and what your body, but
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 1: to go through before and after child? Okay, it's the inevitable. Okay,
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 1: let me get back to my thing, because we get
• 1:16:54
  Speaker 1: a little bit too deep, right, Just let y'all. I
• 1:16:59
  Speaker 1: don't know if y'all knowing not, but I am.
• 1:17:01
  Speaker 2: I mean, everybody plays their role. You gotta like, I'll
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 2: probably you'll be outside with Tommy with the guns. No,
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 2: I'll be inside prepared meals. So y'all have nurishment.
• 1:17:12
  Speaker 1: Everybody has a role, Nick and blow the building up
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 1: that you win. Listen, we all again, and we all
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 1: got to do our part. Though, I'm just saying, you's
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 1: gotta be a well old machine. Everybody gotta do their part. Okay,
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 1: it so I could die last. I'm gonna make sure
• 1:17:27
  Speaker 1: y'all well fed if you need a like, if you
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: need your shoulders like worked out after you come back
• 1:17:34
  Speaker 1: you seem ye, that's me. That's my job. Car the
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: face size girl. Everybody gotta know their role. Baby shame. Uh.
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 1: This says your child is is likely to be more
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 1: tech savvy. Yeah, because y'all letting the tablet reis a journey.
• 1:17:56
  Speaker 1: That's why you might be more financially stable and healthier.
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 1: That is to me, that is the plus, okay, right,
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 1: just having the means to have fun with the kid.
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 1: There's nothing that can And I don't have any kids,
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 1: but I can imagine like having a child and not
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 1: being able to feed them. That would break my heart.
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 1: And there's a lot of people that go through that.
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 1: I would never want to bring a kid into this
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 1: situation like that, Like I don't I'm not promoting abortion,
• 1:18:26
  Speaker 1: but I definitely ain't for fucking struggling the fuck, Like
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 1: what are you doing? Like you're ruining other.
• 1:18:32
  Speaker 2: People's life, like looking into the eyes of your hungry
• 1:18:35
  Speaker 2: baby and not being able to do nothing about it.
• 1:18:37
  Speaker 1: It's got to be next level pain, you know, yeah,
• 1:18:41
  Speaker 1: and this last one you may live longer. I believe
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 1: that people will be wanting to get rid of their periods, Like, girl,
• 1:18:49
  Speaker 1: I love to see my period, okay, because as long
• 1:18:52
  Speaker 1: as I see it, that means I'm not menopausal. Okay.
• 1:18:57
  Speaker 1: If you can have a baby later in life, that
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: means you're health like your body was healthy enough to
• 1:19:02
  Speaker 1: produce another fucking human.
• 1:19:04
  Speaker 2: Onto god shit.
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 1: So it says having kids later might make you live longer.
• 1:19:08
  Speaker 1: Some people think that having babies late in life either
• 1:19:11
  Speaker 1: means you won't have the energy to keep up with
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 1: the young kids, or worse, you won't be around for
• 1:19:16
  Speaker 1: their major life events like getting married and having children
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 1: of their own, says doctor Sabler. But research finds that
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 1: this couldn't be further from the truth. In fact, in
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 1: twenty fifteen, studies published in Menopause found that women who
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 1: have children after the age of thirty three were twice
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 1: as likely to live to the age ninety five compared
• 1:19:35
  Speaker 1: to women who had their last child before thirty And
• 1:19:39
  Speaker 1: that's something worth considering. I'm gonna tell y'all my friends
• 1:19:42
  Speaker 1: who had kids early, they got they got my fucking
• 1:19:44
  Speaker 1: uh Ara rheumatoried authoritis right now, which is hands is crippled,
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 1: all type of shit going on. So I think like
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 1: the babies might also aige you earlier to having children early.
• 1:19:57
  Speaker 2: You don't feel like, uh women who don't have husbands
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 2: and have kids, Yeah.
• 1:20:02
  Speaker 1: They'd be looking at all good. That's why I wanted
• 1:20:03
  Speaker 1: my uh my cousin, Big Tash, not the low one
• 1:20:07
  Speaker 1: to come on to day because she's fucking fabulous. She's
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 1: beautiful and she has a big grown ass son and
• 1:20:13
  Speaker 1: doing well. So if you can do it early and
• 1:20:16
  Speaker 1: come out on the other side successful, I'm jealous. Yeah,
• 1:20:20
  Speaker 1: me too, you know so Now I wasn't jealous when
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 1: we was twenty two and you was right, Oh you
• 1:20:24
  Speaker 1: can't go with me to see jun out of night. Damn,
• 1:20:27
  Speaker 1: that's crazy, girl. I'm gonna call you the woman. But
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 1: now definite. Yeah, they can babysit, you can still go outside. Yeah.
• 1:20:34
  Speaker 1: I feel like Cardi b made it real popular and
• 1:20:36
  Speaker 1: okay for women to be women and have babies and
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 1: keep her career. Yes, because she did all the fucking things.
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 1: And even if her and old boy breaking up right now,
• 1:20:46
  Speaker 1: which I don't think so, I think is more of
• 1:20:47
  Speaker 1: a financial thing. But anyway, even if they are, she
• 1:20:51
  Speaker 1: has her children, she has her career. She still has
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 1: a many years ahead of her in life. And I'm
• 1:20:57
  Speaker 1: pretty sure Nicki Minaj was putting child being during years
• 1:21:01
  Speaker 1: on the back burner because.
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 2: A lot of women felt like for the care Yeah,
• 1:21:05
  Speaker 2: so shout out to she had the most beautiful Cinderella story.
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 2: We saw her from loving him her and she's like,
• 1:21:11
  Speaker 2: I wear my shirt like this, so you don't look
• 1:21:13
  Speaker 2: at my teeth. Remember my tee?
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, look at my TD soill you don't look at
• 1:21:16
  Speaker 1: my teeth. Now look at her.
• 1:21:18
  Speaker 2: She's so beautiful and yes, beautiful. It's just such a
• 1:21:21
  Speaker 2: beautiful Cinderella.
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 1: And I remember her being on the breakfast leve and
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 1: saying like, I'm trying to have kids. Like soon she started,
• 1:21:28
  Speaker 1: she did.
• 1:21:28
  Speaker 2: She did everything people told her not to. You know
• 1:21:31
  Speaker 2: that she was going to ruin it and looking yeah
• 1:21:34
  Speaker 2: so yeah, so.
• 1:21:35
  Speaker 1: Baby, don't wait on no career shit. And then the
• 1:21:38
  Speaker 1: older you get, now they're not waiting on the man.
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 1: Bitch is the freezing they sperm? What's old? Girl? Damn?
• 1:21:47
  Speaker 1: I don't know who you're talking about. You know who
• 1:21:48
  Speaker 1: I'm talking about? No, I don't she was on black Effect,
• 1:21:52
  Speaker 1: remember she did in one of our episodes and then
• 1:21:54
  Speaker 1: didn't want to put the episode out. Oh pretty privileged,
• 1:21:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, Ebany, Ebanie Williams, Ebonie Williams. She's pregnant right now.
• 1:22:04
  Speaker 1: She froze her eggs in her thirties and she's pregnant.
• 1:22:07
  Speaker 1: People are talking shit about her because she wasn't able
• 1:22:10
  Speaker 1: to lock in a husband, a man, she's been married before,
• 1:22:13
  Speaker 1: but she wasn't able to lock in somebody to have
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 1: the baby with. So she guess she got a sperm
• 1:22:17
  Speaker 1: donor or whoever, and she's having her baby like she
• 1:22:22
  Speaker 1: has the means to take care of kids. So so
• 1:22:24
  Speaker 1: we mad at that. But then y'all also, don't y'all
• 1:22:28
  Speaker 1: talk about single moms who had a baby, daddy who
• 1:22:31
  Speaker 1: chose not to be there.
• 1:22:33
  Speaker 2: You can't You can't please anybody, so I mean, you
• 1:22:35
  Speaker 2: can't please everybody, So there's no point.
• 1:22:37
  Speaker 1: Ye happy as hell, Just make yourself happy. Yeah, me too.
• 1:22:40
  Speaker 1: Congratulations girls here, y'all be fine. Everything to be mad at?
• 1:22:46
  Speaker 1: What's our last last? Have the yddamn baby? Okay, it's
• 1:22:50
  Speaker 1: a goddamn had a baby. Y'all go pro create and before.
• 1:22:54
  Speaker 2: Don't because some people don't want a baby, you know,
• 1:22:56
  Speaker 2: do what makes you happy whatever.
• 1:22:58
  Speaker 1: If you don't want the baby, because Michael Jackson said,
• 1:23:00
  Speaker 1: if you can't feed the baby, don't have the baby. Okay.
• 1:23:03
  Speaker 1: But if a woman doesn't want to be pregnand there
• 1:23:05
  Speaker 1: is so many things you can do to avoid pregnancy
• 1:23:08
  Speaker 1: as a woman, you know, aside from using lightsol on
• 1:23:11
  Speaker 1: your kuchi, you could use my Day's app. You remember
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 1: we read that thing how women use lights alack, Yeah,
• 1:23:21
  Speaker 1: the altered that was the you know talking about. I
• 1:23:25
  Speaker 1: said that was the original that you like, put a
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 1: little tap of bleach in you.
• 1:23:29
  Speaker 2: I ain't put no bleach in there.
• 1:23:32
  Speaker 1: You do that well when I do, when I do
• 1:23:34
  Speaker 1: a spiritual bascist to cleanse the outside of my body,
• 1:23:38
  Speaker 1: I do put a cap full of bleach. Put it.
• 1:23:40
  Speaker 1: I put a cap full of APPI side of vinegar.
• 1:23:44
  Speaker 1: I put some salt in their. No, bitch, a little
• 1:23:49
  Speaker 1: capful of bleach is not going to kill you. We
• 1:23:51
  Speaker 1: are chlorine in our water that we're drinking like it's
• 1:23:55
  Speaker 1: not you be all.
• 1:23:56
  Speaker 2: Right, Chlorine in the bottle water, chlorine.
• 1:23:58
  Speaker 1: And all this stuff, fluoride, fluoride, chlorine, whatever, ships calcifying
• 1:24:06
  Speaker 1: your pinot gland. That's what I do.
• 1:24:07
  Speaker 2: Put a little apple, snap that puss it back.
• 1:24:13
  Speaker 1: That do not work. Gonna starts the last last. Stop
• 1:24:19
  Speaker 1: putting stuff up, y'all couci like penis, No not the
• 1:24:23
  Speaker 1: penis just all us extra ship the suppositories, all the boras.
• 1:24:28
  Speaker 1: Get your diet together. And the kuchi is a self
• 1:24:30
  Speaker 1: cleaning organism. It'll be all right. What about I see
• 1:24:33
  Speaker 1: girls putting all right? No, I know we gotta go.
• 1:24:35
  Speaker 1: But yogurt not I've done. I've done. Garlic for East infection.
• 1:24:42
  Speaker 1: You put a piece of garlic like you do it
• 1:24:44
  Speaker 1: at night. Do it that night, because as soon as
• 1:24:46
  Speaker 1: it gets in your body, you're gonna taste it in
• 1:24:48
  Speaker 1: your mouth. Oh, I know it's coming all out. And
• 1:24:51
  Speaker 1: when I tell you that is a natural remedy for
• 1:24:54
  Speaker 1: East infections. You take a needle, put a piece of
• 1:24:57
  Speaker 1: string right, and you put the uh. You put the
• 1:25:01
  Speaker 1: garlic in the tampon applicator and shoot it up.
• 1:25:04
  Speaker 2: Last you had the house spelling like pizza.
• 1:25:10
  Speaker 1: I want a pizza right now. You're not voice when
• 1:25:18
  Speaker 1: you tell jokes, bitch, you'll be coming out what I
• 1:25:22
  Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know who that is. That's that's
• 1:25:26
  Speaker 1: why I'm a man. That's my last list. Stop putting
• 1:25:29
  Speaker 1: stuff in your couchie. Happy baby, have a baby, be
• 1:25:31
  Speaker 1: happy whatever it is? All right, y'all. If you enjoyed
• 1:25:35
  Speaker 1: this episode, y'all tune in every Thursday on The Black
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