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71: Monday Moment: You Were Never Meant to Fix It All · Banish the Lies: Outsmart Your Inner Critic

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  Happy Monday.
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  A couple days ago, I found myself sitting on the sofa, tissue box nearby, feeling pretty powerless.
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  I really wanted to help my daughter through something that she was facing, but I really didn't know how.
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  And I think that instinct is pretty normal when you care deeply about someone, whether you're a mom or not.
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  I know for me, my instinct in those moments is to fix it, to, you know, find the answer or just somehow make the situation better.
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  And as I sat there not knowing what to do, a Facebook notification popped up on my phone.
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  A memory had come up.
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  And in that memory was a story about a hummingbird during a forest fire.
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  She was flying back and forth, carrying tiny drops of water in her beak from a nearby river, trying to put it out.
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  And of course, it wasn't enough.
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  There was no way that bird was going to stop a fire like that.
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  But she kept going anyway.
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  And there was a part of the story that really landed for me in that moment.
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  A jaguar asked the hummingbird what she was doing.
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  And after she explained that she was carrying water back and forth, the jaguar laughed at her and said,"Are you crazy?
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  Do you really think that you can put out that big fire on your own with your very small beak?" And that was when she explained that the forest was her home and she cared about it.
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  And she went on to say,"I know I can't put out the fire, but I must do my part." And in the story, something bigger eventually steps in.
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  The spirit of the forest saw the heart of the hummingbird and brought a huge rainstorm.
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  So in the end, the fire was extinguished, but not because the hummingbird could do it alone, but because she was never really meant to.
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  And I have to tell you, I really appreciated the message of that story in that moment, that maybe not everything is mine to fix.
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  Not everything is mine to solve, even the things I care deeply about.
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  Sometimes my role is just to show up, to listen, to be steady, even when it feels like it's not enough.
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  And maybe that is the challenge, to keep showing up, to keep the faith, to trust that our part can matter even when we can't see how it could possibly be enough.
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  So if you're in a moment like that right now where you wish you had the answers or that you could make something better for someone you care about, maybe your job isn't to put out the fire.
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  Maybe it's just to bring your drop of water and to trust that the rest isn't yours to carry alone.