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THE ROYAL MIC PODCAST by ZACHERY WILLIAMS | 2nd THURSDAY & 4th SUNDAY LIVE ON DA CREW PODCAST........ · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Legs and gentlemen, may I have your attention please? The
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  Speaker 1: show starts in turn right seven SHIHI.
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  Speaker 2: Shoot, come on, hey, you guys.
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  Speaker 3: I know, I know, I know y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Miss me, y'all, miss me, I miss me, I miss
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  Speaker 2: y'all too. Man, Welcome to your royal Mike Broadcast. Is
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  Speaker 2: your boy, your truly mister boy, Missus Zachary Win aka
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  Speaker 2: Missus zach Attack those who know it.
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  Speaker 3: Man, It's good to be.
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  Speaker 2: Here again with you guys man today today, today has been.
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  Speaker 3: In long day, but we are here ready. I am
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  Speaker 3: ready to talk to y'all. So today I have a
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  Speaker 3: special special guest. She is joining me.
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  Speaker 2: She's my sister, she's my sorrow, Zeta Phi Beta. That's welcome, Michelle.
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  Speaker 2: Come on, Michelle, let's get only here. Hello, Hello, z five.
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  Speaker 3: Girl. How are you doing today?
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  Speaker 2: Who? It's been a monday. This monday has been monday
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  Speaker 2: in Okay. You see see.
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  Speaker 3: Put a dog outside trying to.
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  Speaker 4: Make everybody listening to their mama, you know, just handling
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  Speaker 4: business out of contact vendors.
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  Speaker 2: Today I've been doing the thing a chicken wing. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: So my first question for you before we dive right,
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  Speaker 2: and you know My lessoner is my you know, my
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  Speaker 2: lucker is my audience. Want to tell us about yourself,
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  Speaker 2: those who don't know you.
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  Speaker 4: Well, First of all, as you already mentioned, I'm a
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  Speaker 4: member of the most fabulous d not organization that has
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  Speaker 4: ever been created. They took I make the sorority incorporated. Okay,
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  Speaker 4: that's first and foremost.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Second of all, I am a mom, I am a
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  Speaker 2: child of God Engionary, I'm an entrepreneur. I'm an insurance agent.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 4: In my insurance company is called Cornerstone Wealth Advisory and
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  Speaker 4: Insurance Services, since with life insurance, Medicare first timers.
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  Speaker 2: And those already on Medicare, and also with investments. And
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  Speaker 2: I'm a single mama of four beautiful children, two boys
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  Speaker 2: and two girls and three teenagers. Anyway, but yes, the applications, well,
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  Speaker 2: I just want to say thank you for taking the
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  Speaker 2: time out of your schedule and coming on my broadcast
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  Speaker 2: around problem as everybody be theirself and were talking about
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  Speaker 2: real conversations. So today we are going to talk about
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  Speaker 2: you know, self care, self love. You know, I want
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  Speaker 2: Tom off with an icebreaker for you, right all right?
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  Speaker 3: So now.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so ready, So when people hear about the phases
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  Speaker 2: of self care. You know, they all would think about,
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  Speaker 2: you know, a spa day, but when you hear it,
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  Speaker 2: when it comes to your mind.
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  Speaker 4: At first self care, the first thing about is rest,
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  Speaker 4: because my thing is rest isn't always laying down prostrates,
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  Speaker 4: which is laying flat feet propped up with the pillows
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  Speaker 4: and your little cucumber of sizes in your eyes.
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  Speaker 2: It's rested to make sure are things getting done? Are
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  Speaker 2: things being handled? And sometimes that rest can incorporate resting
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  Speaker 2: your mind, not just your body, but your mind as well.
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  Speaker 2: It could be something as small as journaling to have
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  Speaker 2: a quiet moment to yourself, listen to your ratchet music
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  Speaker 2: or spa music, whatever whatever you gospel music, whatever music
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  Speaker 2: can choose.
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  Speaker 4: But this makes that's the first thing that comes to
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  Speaker 4: mind when I think about self care is rest.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I think for me, I think of self care.
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  Speaker 3: I think of.
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  Speaker 1: MMM.
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  Speaker 3: I say I said love, Why love? I think because
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  Speaker 3: you you have to love yourself, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, like for melf self love like self love is
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  Speaker 2: definitely where is that self care?
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  Speaker 3: Because who don't care about you besides you?
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  Speaker 2: And if you don't love yourself, who will love you?
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  Speaker 2: You expect me to love you, love yourself right.
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  Speaker 3: I feel you.
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  Speaker 2: I was looking at you, So when did you first
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  Speaker 2: realize self care has been a deep, deep importance to
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  Speaker 2: you better than you know.
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  Speaker 3: Bubble bath and vacation.
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  Speaker 2: Let me get mussel together, because hold on there. I
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  Speaker 2: realized how important self care was when I was going
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  Speaker 2: through my divorce.
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  Speaker 3: Let's just be real, because.
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  Speaker 4: I realized after being a mom for so long, a
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  Speaker 4: wife for so long, and wear those hats and putting
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  Speaker 4: me before my health to where my doctor was saying,
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  Speaker 4: you have ulcers you have you're losing hair, You're losing skin,
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  Speaker 4: your teeth is hurt, and all that stuff going on.
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  Speaker 2: It was stress induced.
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  Speaker 4: That was my bottom and my valley experience to realize
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  Speaker 4: how important self care is. So now my self care
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  Speaker 4: is getting my nails done, going for a walk at
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  Speaker 4: the gym, around the neighborhood, making sure I have moments
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  Speaker 4: throughout the date and a felt the week that I
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  Speaker 4: have that self care. And when I realized I don't
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  Speaker 4: have that self care, I start to stress a little bit.
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  Speaker 4: I feel tension in my face, in my neck. I'm
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  Speaker 4: looking for physical markers to say, hey, when's less I
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  Speaker 4: arrested okay, and it's just that was.
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  Speaker 2: The biggest thing.
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  Speaker 4: I realized that I was not taking care of myself
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  Speaker 4: when my doctors were telling me straight up, hey, we
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  Speaker 4: don't know what's going on in your life right now,
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  Speaker 4: but if you don't stop whatever's happening to you and
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  Speaker 4: take care of yourself, then you're gonna die and you're
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  Speaker 4: gonna die out and look just like this because of stress.
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  Speaker 2: And well, they didn't realize that I was going through
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  Speaker 2: a divorce, so they didn't realize this.
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  Speaker 4: I have a chronic illness for over twenty eight years,
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  Speaker 4: well almost twenty eight years now. I have chron disease
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  Speaker 4: that requires me the case and also self care. But
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  Speaker 4: that again, to be a wife and mother, I put
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  Speaker 4: everything on the back burner. I didn't know how to
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  Speaker 4: balance time for me and time as a mom and
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  Speaker 4: other titles that I have in my life.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know how to do that.
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  Speaker 4: So through that experience, I've learned if I don't take
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  Speaker 4: care of myself and even more reason like, I felt
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  Speaker 4: that burnout feeling like throughout the summer because I have
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  Speaker 4: one kid doing football, I have so many things going
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  Speaker 4: on a different levels with my business, you know, the
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  Speaker 4: entrepreneur mode, getting that mode sometimes and not know how
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  Speaker 4: to off.
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  Speaker 2: All the time.
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  Speaker 3: So tell me about it. Excuse me.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like I feel again, and also with my
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  Speaker 4: health tory to balance out, you know, new medications and
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  Speaker 4: these tests they want to do and it's just a lot.
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  Speaker 4: But I have to make sure and make a priority
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  Speaker 4: consciously or it's going to be on the back burner
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  Speaker 4: again and I can't go through that again.
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  Speaker 2: I think with me with self care is I think
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  Speaker 2: because you know, you know me, I'm always on boom boom.
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  Speaker 3: Boom boom boom boom boom boom.
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  Speaker 2: Like even my friends, my family and my spouse, they
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  Speaker 2: always tell me when you gonna relax, when you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: do for you, and you know I take certain things
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  Speaker 2: off like oh no, I do nothing.
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  Speaker 3: The answer is no, no, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not going nowhere. Let's say I got my who,
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  Speaker 2: I got my wine. Listen, when I'm at home, I
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  Speaker 2: want nobody to bother me, like my man understand, Like yo,
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  Speaker 2: I don't wanna talk at the moment.
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  Speaker 3: Just give me this timeframe, just too and just what's that?
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  Speaker 4: Literally, just give a few minutes and don't gotta be
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  Speaker 4: all day I still love your care for you, baby,
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  Speaker 4: but you're gonna give you a few minutes for myself
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  Speaker 4: to realize I have to touch base with myself and
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  Speaker 4: be into myself for a few minutes because it's been
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  Speaker 4: a easy day.
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  Speaker 2: Their stresses life on everybody. Everyone has their stressors. They're
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  Speaker 2: different for different people. Everybody can get stressed off with
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  Speaker 2: different things differently. You may be want be stressed for
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  Speaker 2: some person, may be a trigger for somebody else. And
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  Speaker 2: you gotta always get conscious of that. And if you
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  Speaker 2: don't take that top for yourself, who wanta do it?
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  Speaker 2: You won't be checking out of the hospital. Oh I
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  Speaker 2: guess you did it, break, but it is too late.
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  Speaker 4: Sometimes you can't read, you can't you can't retract on
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  Speaker 4: certain things.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 4: So it's you better take that time, baby, listen.
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  Speaker 2: If you don't land, it's like, how can you functioning life?
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  Speaker 3: You know?
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  Speaker 2: Like you said, you are a mom, you're a business
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  Speaker 2: owner and slash an entrepreneur. You know over here, I'm
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  Speaker 2: an author, I'm a poet, I'm a brock at and
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  Speaker 2: I'm in school and I have a relationship. I don't
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  Speaker 2: have kids, but I have different You know our program.
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  Speaker 3: What's the word.
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  Speaker 2: I'm looking for other things I need to maintain. So
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  Speaker 2: how do you teach your kids self kid?
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  Speaker 3: You know?
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  Speaker 2: You know football practice, you know school, you know doing
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  Speaker 2: different organizations, you know being being the children, being a child,
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  Speaker 2: you know how the brothers and sister running around. You
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  Speaker 2: know as a mom, like, how do you teach your
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  Speaker 2: children how to self kid at the early age?
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  Speaker 3: At dar right now?
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  Speaker 2: Communicate. We can't expect our kids to communicate with us
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  Speaker 2: effect living. Can't communicate with our kids effectively. So a
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  Speaker 2: lot of times it's mommy needs a break right now.
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  Speaker 2: Mommy is tired, right now, I need a few minutes.
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  Speaker 2: Oh I got no, give me a few minutes, Mammy,
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  Speaker 2: give me about five minutes was my timer. I did
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  Speaker 2: a few minutes a quiet time and then you can
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  Speaker 2: come on with the questions or you know, I mean sitting,
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  Speaker 2: have my quiet moment and they may not know that
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  Speaker 2: and bust them in the room.
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  Speaker 3: Oh no, no.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's quiet time. Come back in about ten minutes.
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  Speaker 2: That I got you.
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  Speaker 3: And if you don't.
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  Speaker 4: Communicate with our kids, know that it's appropriate to ask
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  Speaker 4: for it's okay to ask for and communicate.
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  Speaker 2: That with our children. How do you gonna know how
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  Speaker 2: to do it? And I'm not screaming, I'm not hollering.
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  Speaker 2: I'm talking, Hey, it's quiet time. So my kids are
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  Speaker 2: much younger, I would say, oh it's quiet time, but
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  Speaker 2: it's not outside. It's time to go on your bed
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  Speaker 2: for some rest for a little while.
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  Speaker 3: The mommy look outside like this.
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  Speaker 2: Bobby, Yes, because sometimes you know when you when you
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  Speaker 2: fore your fuse being let them both ins, and you
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  Speaker 2: would have blow out on your kids, and you don't
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  Speaker 2: want to show them that part of you because your
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  Speaker 2: childhood or through other experiences that maybe tread it for you.
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  Speaker 2: You don't want to be and you call your kids
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  Speaker 2: a B C, A to Z. You want you your
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  Speaker 2: nose and your ears and they know it's you better tell.
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  Speaker 4: Them kids, go to be. It's quite a time of
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  Speaker 4: fifteen minutes. Y'all be an arguing all day. I suggest
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  Speaker 4: y'all go to your rooms.
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  Speaker 2: So like that, So having kids, you know self kids
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  Speaker 2: also you know called boundaries. You know because because a
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  Speaker 2: lot of people again I always speak this a lot,
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  Speaker 2: I spent us on you know, the wrong broadcast, you know,
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  Speaker 2: just a black canvas and I had just to do bodcasts.
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  Speaker 3: You know, boundaries is always a pull in.
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  Speaker 2: You know, boundary is always you know that self love,
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  Speaker 2: boundary is always you.
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  Speaker 3: Know that self care.
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  Speaker 2: So how do you you know, how can I say,
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  Speaker 2: how do you handle.
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  Speaker 3: Boundaries with you know, a family member, friends, you know,
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  Speaker 3: I work have.
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  Speaker 2: To learn that if they really would care, they would
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  Speaker 2: reach out. I can't always reach out to people because
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  Speaker 2: sometimes my mind may forget or I'm like I need
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  Speaker 2: some time to myself. Most of the summer I don't
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  Speaker 2: really reach out a lot of people the summertime. This myth.
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  Speaker 2: This summer was like I didn't do a lot of
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  Speaker 2: vacations with my kids running around. My kids. We would
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  Speaker 2: the beach a few times. That was it.
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  Speaker 4: My goal this summer was to rest and heal because
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  Speaker 4: I had a lot of medical things going on as well.
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  Speaker 4: And then when I put out a balance to work
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  Speaker 4: at the work, you know, workload in there as well.
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  Speaker 4: But the biggest thing with boundaries is I'm gonna do
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  Speaker 4: what I can when I can. I can't do for everybody,
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  Speaker 4: and if I can't, I'm gonna tell you no. And
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  Speaker 4: I don't have to explain what my no is and
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  Speaker 4: why I'm saying no, I can say disrespectfully no, thank
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  Speaker 4: you and going about my business.
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  Speaker 2: You're not gonna add more my play because your play
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  Speaker 2: is full of you on the no, like I said,
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  Speaker 2: just as nice as I did. I don't think the
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  Speaker 2: attitude nasty with you. But no, it's my no and
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  Speaker 2: my boundaries, my boundary. I'm gonna explain that to you.
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  Speaker 2: And I've learned that just run the past a year
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  Speaker 2: or two. If I said no, noo, kids will say, well, why,
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  Speaker 2: but why? Sometimes you can always answer why because I
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  Speaker 2: said so, And in the moment when I have more
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  Speaker 2: time on my hand to explain that to you, out
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  Speaker 2: of that moment, whatever that necessary moment is, I can
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  Speaker 2: break it down for you. But in this moment, the
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  Speaker 2: answer is no, and that's it, and that's what friends, children, whatever.
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  Speaker 2: I think a lot of people don't understand the word
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  Speaker 2: no because it's definitely oh. They oh, They want oh, listen,
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  Speaker 2: they want an explanation after no. And I think for me,
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  Speaker 2: I have learned even with this year, I have not
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  Speaker 2: been out. Honestly, I've been outside for certain things, right,
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  Speaker 2: I haven't like when people book me for certain things.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, what if I'm gaining off of this, you know, right,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, no, you're just when use me because I
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  Speaker 2: mean no the answers, no, why you can't do this
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  Speaker 2: or why.
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  Speaker 3: You can't I don't have to give you that answer.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not able to have this time. I pray you
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  Speaker 2: for I s wil to feel that spot that you
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  Speaker 2: need me to feel, have a blessed day exactly. It
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  Speaker 2: rubbed me the wrong way, and it rubs some of
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  Speaker 2: my friends refreshing like they want to answer right then
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  Speaker 2: me as an individual person, I don't have to.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not obligated to give you that answer.
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  Speaker 2: That part, that part, I'm not obliging to tell you anything.
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  Speaker 2: Noah's no. I apologize you feel some kind of way
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  Speaker 2: you want to show up to the event or do
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  Speaker 2: ABC X y Z, but it's not can I And
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  Speaker 2: I'm not able to do that now. I'm sorry I
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  Speaker 2: disappointed you, but I cannot be there for everybody that
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  Speaker 2: can't be there for myself. And sometimes like I hate
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  Speaker 2: to say no to people.
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  Speaker 4: I always wanted to try to go and go to
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  Speaker 4: everybody's even to support everybody, but sometimes God shows me
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  Speaker 4: I need to slow my happy self down and just
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  Speaker 4: be still, peace, Be still, sounds forty six and one,
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  Speaker 4: and it says be still so many times in the Bible,
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  Speaker 4: But how many times we have to actually operate and
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  Speaker 4: that be still more, be still and listen, be still
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  Speaker 4: and no no what know who you are?
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  Speaker 2: Know to how I say no? So my next question
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  Speaker 2: is for you, how have you ever felt guilty for
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  Speaker 2: putting yourself first?
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  Speaker 3: And how how did you handle it?
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  Speaker 2: Yes? Again, Like, the biggest issue I had with like
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  Speaker 2: self care and boundaries is when I was going through
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  Speaker 2: my divorce, and a lot of times that was I
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  Speaker 2: realized I had to say no more often, and a
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  Speaker 2: lot of times I felt guilty because I'm like, I
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  Speaker 2: couldn't be there for everybody to do this. I don't
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  Speaker 2: feel like I just I was not in the mental
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  Speaker 2: capacity to go on people's faces ki ha ha if
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  Speaker 2: how I was going through Even then, I was going
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  Speaker 2: through real private So I'm not going to broadcast I'm
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  Speaker 2: going through the streets. Some people were trying to say,
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  Speaker 2: what's going on with you? Nothing? I can't know. But
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  Speaker 2: that really hurt me, And it kind of bothered me
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  Speaker 2: because I hated showing two people out. But for my
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  Speaker 2: mental health, talk about things that are traumatic for you
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  Speaker 2: and to you over and over and over and over
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  Speaker 2: and over and over and over and over and over again.
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  Speaker 2: It's not healthy.
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  Speaker 4: Mental health professionals said that all the time, you know
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  Speaker 4: what I'm saying. So that was like the hardest part
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  Speaker 4: of them was saying no. And even when my kids were
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  Speaker 4: much younger, they wanted to go, excuse me, this party,
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  Speaker 4: that party, this event, that event. Sometime I couldn't just
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  Speaker 4: do it. I had to tell them no. They're crying boohoo,
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  Speaker 4: and Mamma loves you. I'm gonna say your mama, I
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  Speaker 4: still love you. You could be upset, you can have
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  Speaker 4: your emotion, but I have to say no at the time.
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  Speaker 4: And it's just eventually getting more used to it. I
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  Speaker 4: have four, so eventually you start getting good at it.
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  Speaker 3: No. Just like that. I think for me growing up,
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  Speaker 3: I think I didn't. I had another. It wasn't a
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  Speaker 3: lot of noes for me.
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  Speaker 2: I think it was a lot of I can see
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  Speaker 2: what I can do, I can see what I can do,
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  Speaker 2: and eventually, you know you're telling that child not to
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  Speaker 2: get your hopes up, but not to get your hopes
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  Speaker 2: It's like it's mid level, and you know, I learned
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  Speaker 2: that you know, a lot of people are scared to
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  Speaker 2: tell me you know why I was little because like
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  Speaker 2: it hurt my feelings.
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  Speaker 3: But now you tell me no, cool, Cool because I
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: respect that.
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: I respect your boundaries, right, and I respect you as
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: a person being out front with me. Hey, I'm sorry
• 17:36
  Speaker 2: I can't do this. Hey, I'm sorry I can't come
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: because back then, for me, I always expect a lot
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: of people be like why did not come in? I
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: always been like down, like right, I expect so much
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: people to do certain things, but reality kicked them.
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: Like sometimes they can't do what you they can't.
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: Do right, and sometimes they can show up how you
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: want them to show up.
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: That's right.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: Sometimes they have to show up for their own self.
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: They don't even know how to do that exactly. So
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: people really do not and you can tell about their
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: self care. You ain't brush your teeth, brush your hair,
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: get your hair washed, and wash your tail and how long.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: And one thing I'll be saying, one of my little
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: quotes I'll be saying is especial TikTok. A little little
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: social media pages.
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: If y'all follow, I say, I'm gonna mind my business,
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: brush my teeth with my deorder and drink my water.
• 18:28
  Speaker 4: Just I gotta worry about worry about you too, no ma'am,
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: no sir.
• 18:35
  Speaker 3: Oday. So let's let's switch a little bit, switch more
• 18:39
  Speaker 3: about it. You know, you say you're an entrepreneur.
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: You know, let's talk about your business, you know, real quick,
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: you know, let's let's talk about you know, health assurance.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: You know why it's important to have health assurance because
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: pretty much self care and self love is always have
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: to do with that will come down to you know,
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: family members and have a certain thing happen, be having
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: this honest conversation with them, So let's talk about it
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: for minutes.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: Well, for me, I specialize in medicare more for health
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: insurance for seniors who around sixty five or have a
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: disability and how are able to get medicare right, So
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: it's basically the same thing for you people who are younger.
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: If you care about your simple love yourself, go on
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: a doctor on a regular basis. Don't be fearful of
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: the doctors. I know you have trauma when it comes
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: to doctors. But if you do basic maintenance that helps
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: curb a lot of things to go with your body.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: If you know there's something hereditary in your family, diabetes,
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: high blood pressure, congestive heart failure. It would be wise
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: to use wisdom to get these things check out regularly
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: so you can have preventative measures in place. If you
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: brush your teeth, I may joke about it, but if
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: you honestly, my great great brother, a great great excuse me.
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: You used to say, take care of your teeth, your eyes,
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: your ears, and your feet. With eyes, you got to
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: be able to see. You can't go to prescription. I
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: need to know one now if you have a prescription,
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: excuse me, Gary aunty, but you can't see right if
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: you cant take care of your teeth, But how you
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: teeth in your mouth? And also a lot of bacteria,
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: a lot of heart infections and blood can come out
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: of sores and lesions in your mouth. You got taking
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: care of your hearing. How you gonna hear what going on?
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: If you can't, you can't, you can't. You know what
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: I'm saying. I got that situated. Also when it comes
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: down to taking care of your feet. How many people
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: diabetes are told to be extra cautious of what's going
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: on with their feet? A lot, right, A lot right
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: now that I deal with with seniors, especially those who
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: are African American, deal with heart issues, deal with UH diabetes,
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: high blood pressure, cardiovascular issues. Hey, taboid rice zevi anyway, anyway,
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: But that's the biggest thing that I'm dealing with, and
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: not just call you know, our elderly black you know,
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: our elders of the family, but also with Caucasian individuals.
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: They deal more with mental health issues.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: Sometimes not saying every white person or every Black person
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: just with these things, but this I see prevalent in
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: a home.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: Another big thing I see with seniors is loneliness.
• 21:07
  Speaker 3: Y'all.
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: Self care isn't about abandoning granny and grandpa. Now I
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: understand generational trauma, etc. But sometimes all they want is
• 21:15
  Speaker 4: you to pop up real quick and say hello, I
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: don't look like half my clients. I make sure you
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: on my mind. If God puts you on my heart
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: in my mind, I want to pop up. And right now,
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: loneliness is one of the biggest killers of seniors. Right now,
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: they're neglected themselves.
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: They don't care they and God bless us who have
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: cats and puppies as they feel like some reason to
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: live forward. You know what I'm saying, But any preventative
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: of anything. As far as your health is important. I
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: don't care what age you are. If you've an issue,
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: get taken care of. It's what you see on TV
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: and what's.
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: On popular right now, pipple pop and all those stuff
• 21:48
  Speaker 4: they got leisures and cancers, bulbous things all across save
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: body from top to bottom and not get they taken
• 21:53
  Speaker 4: care of.
• 21:54
  Speaker 2: I had this leave on my back for seven years.
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: I had this lump on my hip for seven and
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: twenty seven years. And I think Jayla and dangling baby
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: baby couldn't be me? Is this a what of me?
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Is this a I'm going to the.
• 22:16
  Speaker 3: Doctor see by a lot of people scared? You know what?
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: I think a lot of people are scared of the results.
• 22:22
  Speaker 4: That and it has to be what it is, the fear.
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: But if you get you know one, it's minute, but
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: to make it's bigger, women, it really is cancer and
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: everything's put across your whole day one body and been
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: ten twenty years now.
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: Baby, it's too late.
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: But they called it when it's permitted, when it was small,
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: when you first got that thing checked out.
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? Like cool now, A lot
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: of it I got to be fair, baby, it gotta
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: be me who I'm a Listen, I am a true
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: believer man and going to the doctor.
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: I am a true believer. I'm telling you just wasn't here.
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: I'm telling you I'm true. Listen.
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: If anybody have go to my social media back in
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: the day, you have seen, if you have seen my
• 23:04
  Speaker 2: teeth and was horbout.
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: I took the first. I took the first that.
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: It gotta fix a lot like a lot of people
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: are just scared to take that first step.
• 23:14
  Speaker 4: I'm telling you, yeah, he did fear. I bet what guy,
• 23:18
  Speaker 4: he was fifty eight years old for a holler at
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: me baby.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: That's a whole other conversation.
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: But one thing about it. He had trauma from his
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: teenage ys or get his teeth done. This man teeth
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: was rotten in his mouth and he talking about he's
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: scared to go to he wanna get a whole new
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: cit of teeth. But you know how much a whole
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: of the teeth costs For what I'm got a hold
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: on one side of my mouth. That thing cost five
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: thousand dollars for one tooth. Imagine the whole cit of thirty.
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: Two Okay, and that's not including insurance.
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: That's gonna include pain, because not including the injections put
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: you to sleep every two beating the place and pulled
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: out and put back together.
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: Everybody, maybe.
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: You need how God like I'm telling you because I
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: just don't understand you sit here. I understand you know
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: health health. You know you don't have a health assurance
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: and stuff like that. But baby, you go to the hospital,
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: they have to check you out, they have to doctor office.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: It's a different right, different right. But there's even free
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: health cliics out right now. You have to do your
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: research and do your homework, but there's free health clinics
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: and get help you out right now for for either
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: for absolutely free or for a minuscule minute price. And
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: here in the low Country there's a clinic and Summerville
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: that will meet on a regular basis at a local church.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: I think call He Hands Ministry if I'm not mistaken,
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: they'll meet on a regular basis and do basic over
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: check of your body. They have free dental clinics there
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: as well. If you guys want to get pulled, get
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: the tooth pulled, make sure is the right one, but
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: get the tool palled questions, But it's It's very important, man,
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: it's very important. I don't know because the game fear
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: a fear is mentally tru My people don't like yo.
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: If you know you have the fear because I get
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: I hear these stories. I definitely hear these stories of
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: you know, doctors do take advantage of patients when they
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: at a low point.
• 25:13
  Speaker 3: But that's not every doctor. That's right doctor.
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: And then do you have do your.
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: Research if you think your doctor is a scle wad
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: and you have insurance or not, find one that you trust,
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: Find irreputable doctor that you like and you trust. If
• 25:27
  Speaker 4: you want want to look like you, I don't care
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: what your color you have, if I want to look
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: like you, If you don't want to like you, if
• 25:31
  Speaker 4: you want a female, if you want a male doctor,
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: what your issue is, request what you would like. But
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: make sure you get out of that fear and can
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: so check because God forbase something happening. You have children
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: depend on you, a spouse depending on you, family depending
• 25:43
  Speaker 4: on you, and you being selfis oh, I got time, I.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: Got time, I got to work these hours. I want
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: to put that check in with it. That's I mean,
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: it is what it is. You know what I'm saying.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: And some people are so fearful whether they got chest
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: pains or side pains or something they think made going
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: on because they're so fearful. But at the same time,
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: you have the use that fear to scare you to
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: get right. You know what I'm saying.
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: If you know you gotta lose some weight and the
• 26:05
  Speaker 4: beanies and weenies and eat them fat back and put
• 26:07
  Speaker 4: back and the fat ryns and ik me for dinner,
• 26:10
  Speaker 4: did you need to start doing that?
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: But the see and the thing is honesty, honesty, right,
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: you know you you want to lose, and I'm on this.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: Weight loss journey. I'm telling you I was lost fifteen. Listen,
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: I was big by your boy and your boy looking.
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: But like you have to be honest with yourself, like
• 26:31
  Speaker 3: you have to be honest with yourself.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: Like I said, if you look at my social media
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: way back in my college year, this was not like
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: this telling you until I've been realistic and be like, yo,
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: my tea look messed up.
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: I want to say the other word, but my tee
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: look messed up.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: Especially nobody would date no personally when I messed out,
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: Like it's not self.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: Care, like you not taking care of yourself. Right.
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: That tells a lot, you know, and and shot to
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: my doctor Trevor because Trevor Trevor is wanted to girls.
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: And really he really be honest with you. It's like,
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: you know you're supposed to be doing that. You know
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: you're supposed to be doing that. This is right.
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: But shout out to traveler man, like real quick. So
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: my next question for you, right is you see let
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: me get nervous.
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: Let you the question. I'm like, oh, let me look.
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: I'll be like, hold on, well, I'll be like, hold up,
• 27:22
  Speaker 2: what's the next question?
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: A b cd M. True? So how do you you
• 27:31
  Speaker 3: know self evaluate yourself?
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: You know, like I said, I do about how I feel.
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: So sometimes I'm feeling that kind of down. Let me
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: go for a walk, Let me have a little ton
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: of myself. Let me listen to my music. I like
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: to said, I listen to a wide variety of music.
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: If I, like I said before, if I feel attention
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: to my body in a certain places, even now, who
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: else I have to bow bath? You know what I'm saying.
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: I check myself and sometimes even to day, like my
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: goal is to day just get to the gym for
• 27:53
  Speaker 4: thirty minutes. Like after that, Michaels are already in the car.
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: I know how I get. So my goal is in
• 28:00
  Speaker 4: the gym, but these thirty minutes, get on the trip
• 28:01
  Speaker 4: and go. I when and every time I say it,
• 28:03
  Speaker 4: even when I say I had a trip myself, I say,
• 28:05
  Speaker 4: let go for ten minutes, just get it, just get
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: to the door, and now the punnet fitness up my
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: house two miles away to the four miles away.
• 28:12
  Speaker 2: So I had no excuse.
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: But my fond wonder you want to go, but I
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: go away. So with my self care, I know that
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: I go. You know, I have a busy day and
• 28:22
  Speaker 4: I'm exhausted. I know if I go for thirty minutes
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: an hour, I'm gonna feel so much better, and I'm
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: gonna sleep real good because versus sleeping, you'll work out
• 28:28
  Speaker 4: in the morning. You would help pep your day up.
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: But at night, I've learned with me, do not work
• 28:32
  Speaker 4: out at night. You in thirty minutes, ten minutes, whatever,
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: even an hour or two. I get caught up. I
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: say for hours to the kids home. They save they
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: good with my grandparents, you know they're good. But if
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: I get a gym at night, I see so much
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: better at night, and sometimes I know my self cares
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: also need to be.
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: More more work or receive more work. When I can't
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: get sleep at night. What's on my mind? What's what's
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: going on? You know what I'm saying. I had to
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: check myself. So it's like, you know, I I've listened
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: to my body. My body's hurting certain areas, bowl, baths, walk, music.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: Know there's different things I do. So now get my
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: nails done, that's my shirt today, different things for me
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: to distress. I think now, I think for a lot
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: of my people who are listening, who's watching, So I
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: have a like a one on one conversation with God,
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: like that's very well. We if we like, we're here,
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: we like this, he's my homie. Like that's definitely where
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: I definitely feel like I can always talk to somebody
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: who doesn't judge me, even though he listening. I might
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: not want the you know, the the end results what
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: I want, but you know, God know what's best for me,
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: and God knows what's best for anybody who believes in God,
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: anybody who believes what they believe in.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: But that's the part of my self care. So my
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: last question is for you.
• 29:55
  Speaker 2: Miss ma'am, Like, what advice can you give somebody on
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: you know, self care and self love or anything on
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: this fresh drool. The biggest thing I would I would
• 30:08
  Speaker 2: hit home after our discussion on today is love yourself first,
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: treat yourself well well, and find things and does have
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: to be money related, but find things.
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: Three fourth, things that you enjoy doing that helps relax you.
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: I don't care if it's blowing bubbles, call on the
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: coloring book, going for a walk, journaling, meditation on God's word,
• 30:30
  Speaker 4: or outside in the peace peaceful nature if you like
• 30:32
  Speaker 4: peaceful nature. So that's my biggest thing. To find something
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: that you like to do at least two to three things,
• 30:39
  Speaker 4: and it's seek to do those things on a regular
• 30:41
  Speaker 4: basis to lower your stress levels and take care and
• 30:43
  Speaker 4: love on you.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: Okay, And how can people find you on social media? Facebook,
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: TikTok business.
• 30:53
  Speaker 4: Okay, Well on TikTok, Shelley, wellye pooh, coming at you
• 30:56
  Speaker 4: and I'm playing you. Put on TikTok Now. TikTok is
• 30:59
  Speaker 4: my stay to relax. I cut over on TikTok. I'm cooking,
• 31:03
  Speaker 4: I'm talking, I'm going live. I'm enjoying life. I'm having
• 31:06
  Speaker 4: something about crozy.
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: I talk about life, chronic illnesses, I talk about cooking,
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: the relationships. Everything is a social media on there Facebook
• 31:14
  Speaker 2: with my professional or professional I just a little goofy
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: stuff on that more professional Michelle Raking on Facebook, on
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: TikTok Chili with Pooh. I'm also other forums with the
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: other two main ones I use for right now and
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: also on Insta and somehow there. As much as I
• 31:28
  Speaker 2: am my TikTok, I cut up, So if you want
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: to cut I'm gonn get a good laugh. I say, man,
• 31:34
  Speaker 2: thank you, man, I appreciate it. I appreciate it. Thank
• 31:37
  Speaker 2: you sitting down with me. Listen. You know you are
• 31:41
  Speaker 2: definitely my girl, You are definitely my friend. You are
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: definitely wanting to have this real conversation with men. It's
• 31:47
  Speaker 2: a lot of conversation that a lot of real people
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: can't have, right And I'm real with it. I always
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: gonna stay real, oh way, something to blunt some situation.
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: I'm always kill now. I'm always gonna be real. Well,
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: thank you, thank you so much. It's your boy, mister
• 32:05
  Speaker 2: Zachary William And walk to the Royal mic and I hope,
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: I hope you have a great night man suiting me
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: next time.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: See your letter.
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: H whom m m m I take you