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The Psychology of Pet Peeves: What Everyday Annoyances Say About Us · All About The Joy

• 0:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey everyone, welcome to All About the Joy.
• 0:02
  Carmen Lezeth: This is the private lounge.
• 0:03
  Carmen Lezeth: We have Cynthia in the house, rick Costa's in the house.
• 0:06
  Carmen Lezeth: How you guys doing what's up?
• 0:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So today we're going to talk about a subject.
• 0:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I think we touched on this before on one of our lives.
• 0:15
  Carmen Lezeth: We talked about pet peeves and I really want to talk about it because I want to think about what it says about us.
• 0:21
  Carmen Lezeth: About what it says about us.
• 0:30
  Carmen Lezeth: So I think it could be both a positive and a negative.
• 0:32
  Carmen Lezeth: So first I wanted to see what you guys thought.
• 0:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Maybe the definition of pet peeves are for you.
• 0:35
  Cynthia: I guess something that just annoys you, that you know kind of is like a tick or something that just triggers you type of thing.
• 0:44
  Cynthia: I've got plenty of those.
• 0:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, yeah, it's something that a particular person finds especially annoying or frustrating.
• 0:52
  Carmen Lezeth: It might be something big or small, but it's not like something general that everyone, that it bothers everyone.
• 0:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, rick, would you kind of agree with that?
• 1:01
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah?
• 1:03
  Rick Costa: To me.
• 1:03
  Rick Costa: I would say it's something that is annoying to you, but the root of it is in consideration on the other person's part.
• 1:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, you made that all like that.
• 1:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, it's the other person's fault, right?
• 1:17
  Carmen Lezeth: I think one of my big we've talked about this.
• 1:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I cannot stand people who don't use directionals.
• 1:23
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't stand it.
• 1:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Think one of my big we've talked about this.
• 1:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I cannot stand people who don't use directionals.
• 1:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't stand it.
• 1:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Uh, when you're driving in some places they're called blinkers right blinkers in in connecticut.
• 1:37
  Carmen Lezeth: What do you guys call them?
• 1:38
  Rick Costa: turn signal, I think turn signals right.
• 1:41
  Carmen Lezeth: So I have gotten so frustrated and I just want to apologize in case this person is ever watching this show.
• 1:48
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know who you are, but you were driving a Lambo.
• 1:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that what they're called the Lamborghinis?
• 1:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that what a Lambo, 21 years old, that's in mint condition.
• 2:02
  Carmen Lezeth: And I went to the stop sign and they were like here and I, and that's a red light, the red light.
• 2:09
  Carmen Lezeth: And I went and I rolled down my window, cause I had that window open and I was like, does your car not come with a direction?
• 2:18
  Carmen Lezeth: They couldn't hear me, but I was like, and they didn't hear, they could care less, like, and I realized like that's bad, like that's road rage, but I was so annoyed.
• 2:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that what the Lamborghinis are called?
• 2:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Lambos?
• 2:35
  Rick Costa: Yeah.
• 2:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, they are Okay.
• 2:36
  Carmen Lezeth: But I said it with attitude and angry, but they didn't hear me.
• 2:42
  Carmen Lezeth: But they also probably heard me and just ignored me, because why would you respond to me?
• 2:47
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you know what I mean?
• 2:48
  Carmen Lezeth: But I felt they knew that what they did was wrong.
• 2:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just going to say yeah.
• 2:55
  Cynthia: Oh yeah, oh yeah.
• 2:56
  Cynthia: I'm the same way Today.
• 2:58
  Cynthia: Actually, as I'm driving home, I'm thinking about like the pet peeves and I said, oh yeah, this is one of them, people not using their blinkers, cutting in front of me, and of course they can't hear me in my car and I'm cussing them out.
• 3:11
  Cynthia: And, juan's, like you think you have road rage?
• 3:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, my God, oh, he's in the car with you.
• 3:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, whenever I'm driving he's in the car.
• 3:19
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what's so ghetto about me?
• 3:22
  Carmen Lezeth: If somebody's in the car with me, especially one of my god daughters or something I'm so composed like, all the rage is inside.
• 3:30
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm totally that person like in the car, I'm totally happy and joyful, but inside, dying, I would never wow.
• 3:40
  Rick Costa: Okay, you have the same road rage thing I do oh yeah, I think my son may have said something to the same effect once or twice in the past before.
• 3:48
  Rick Costa: Like Dad, you're really angry.
• 3:50
  Rick Costa: I'm like because it's stupid.
• 3:53
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what would be great though I know this sounds weird I've always wanted to have a little sign Like is your blinker broken?
• 4:01
  Carmen Lezeth: No, you're so bad, no, but just a sign that you could just put up or whatever.
• 4:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Or you could press a button and it could come out of your car and be like a flag or something and say is your blinker broken, or something.
• 4:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I just don't understand why.
• 4:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, okay, so this is what I think it says about me.
• 4:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Clearly I have issues with road rage, I think no, but I.
• 4:24
  Carmen Lezeth: I think it says about me.
• 4:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Um, clearly I have issues with road rage, I think no, but I.
• 4:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I do think it's about consideration.
• 4:29
  Carmen Lezeth: That was one of the things I wrote was I don't like people who aren't, because people who are doing that are not thinking about the people behind them, right?
• 4:36
  Carmen Lezeth: They're not being considerate that other people don't know where they're going.
• 4:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And when we don't know where you're going, we're assuming you're going to go straight and so we're going to behave that way.
• 4:49
  Carmen Lezeth: And then somebody else would be like well, you're supposed to be one car behind.
• 4:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I am, I am.
• 4:52
  Carmen Lezeth: That's not the point, you know.
• 4:55
  Cynthia: And this week all the school, college schools are moving in, so of course you have people from other states and it's like dude, if you're going to move into this state, use your blinkers.
• 5:08
  Cynthia: Know the rules of Boston.
• 5:12
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 5:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Boston is crazy.
• 5:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Drive is like LA.
• 5:16
  Carmen Lezeth: True but true, but still use your blinker right, exactly.
• 5:22
  Rick Costa: You know, what always makes me madder is not that they didn't use their blinker at all.
• 5:28
  Rick Costa: It's when they slow down.
• 5:31
  Rick Costa: They're already starting to turn, and then they turn on their blinks.
• 5:38
  Cynthia: They already knew.
• 5:40
  Rick Costa: That pissed me off even more.
• 5:43
  Carmen Lezeth: They're already in the turn, they're already almost there, and then they put on the blinker.
• 5:48
  Carmen Lezeth: That one's a good one.
• 5:49
  Carmen Lezeth: It's hilarious, yeah.
• 5:50
  Carmen Lezeth: What other pet peeves do you guys have?
• 5:55
  Cynthia: Oh, I hate the sound of people chewing.
• 5:57
  Cynthia: Do you really?
• 5:59
  Cynthia: It's really?
• 6:02
  Cynthia: Oh my God.
• 6:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Wait, so that's not an ASMRmr thing you want to listen to wow, I didn't know that.
• 6:11
  Carmen Lezeth: It really bothers me, yeah so what do you think it says about you?
• 6:17
  Carmen Lezeth: I know people who haven't seen our episode where we did asmr for like the whole hour, all all three of us.
• 6:23
  Carmen Lezeth: It was so random, it was one of our Friday night lives.
• 6:27
  Carmen Lezeth: It was very funny actually, right, yeah, what do you think it says about you?
• 6:31
  Carmen Lezeth: That I have anger issues?
• 6:35
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, it probably means that, like you don't like kind of ambient noises like that.
• 6:44
  Cynthia: Yeah, there's certain noises that really bother me, like very, very high-pitched noises bother me, like alarms, like a fire alarm.
• 6:49
  Cynthia: That really bugs me.
• 6:51
  Cynthia: Okay, that's supposed to bug you.
• 6:54
  Cynthia: Well, yeah, I know, I know it is, but there's certain ones that are just really, really high pitch and it really hurts my ears, but chewing sounds.
• 7:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Sounds is interesting, because how do you get around that when you're at dinner with somebody?
• 7:10
  Cynthia: Yeah, you just kind of your face yeah Hard.
• 7:18
  Carmen Lezeth: Is it anybody chewing, or certain like people who, like you know, do the chewing thing very loudly, very loudly, or is it just chewing?
• 7:29
  Rick Costa: Very loudly yeah.
• 7:32
  Cynthia: There's another person that, like they chew with their mouth closed, but it's almost like you can hear the teeth hitting each other and it's like why are you chewing like that?
• 7:42
  Cynthia: Wow.
• 7:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Is the food that hard?
• 7:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Wow, I've never.
• 7:48
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I know there are people who don't like that, but okay.
• 7:50
  Carmen Lezeth: But Rick, what were you going to say?
• 7:52
  Rick Costa: I think this is more like an old movie thing, but there used to be like characters would be like chewing gum Hang, hang a gun, don't want you to die.
• 8:01
  Carmen Lezeth: Look at Cynthia's dying dying.
• 8:03
  Cynthia: That's annoying.
• 8:05
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, there's so much ASMR videos and stuff on YouTube and TikTok where that's all they're doing.
• 8:12
  Carmen Lezeth: They're like licking their lips, really.
• 8:16
  Cynthia: She just keeps swiping.
• 8:17
  Cynthia: I know someone else who eats fruit and they're always like and I went.
• 8:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I wonder, what that means.
• 8:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Right like I wonder, because I don't know, it's just okay, but wait, I have something similar, rick, we're gonna get you in a second, that's what?
• 8:34
  Carmen Lezeth: But just because we're the same thing, I don't like when people are typing too loud or their phones like, and to me it's like.
• 8:42
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't like noise pollution.
• 8:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if that's a thing, but I don't like.
• 8:46
  Carmen Lezeth: I like it quiet.
• 8:47
  Carmen Lezeth: So I wonder if there's something similar there.
• 8:49
  Rick Costa: But I don't like clickety clackety keyboards, like when my boss gave me the last computer I was like, oh no, got rid of it.
• 9:01
  Cynthia: I hate that, it's just annoying what about the when they have the long nails and they're typing no?
• 9:05
  Cynthia: I hate that, it's just annoying.
• 9:06
  Cynthia: What about the typewriters?
• 9:07
  Carmen Lezeth: When they have the long nails and they're typing.
• 9:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, I don't get the long nails thing and typing and I don't know who said wiping their ass.
• 9:14
  Carmen Lezeth: One time I was like it's too much information.
• 9:18
  Carmen Lezeth: But now, whenever I see somebody with long nails it doesn't matter who it is, celebrity, anything I'm like it's the.
• 9:26
  Carmen Lezeth: It's the only thing that comes to my head, like that must hurt.
• 9:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Or you're not wiping fully, or maybe you have a bidet.
• 9:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 9:38
  Carmen Lezeth: You must have a bidet Because you can't.
• 9:45
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, like Cynthia Erivovo, who we all love, her nails are longer than she is tall.
• 9:48
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, she's like a little thing and her nails are like clam, clam, clam.
• 9:52
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, um, but yeah, oh.
• 9:55
  Rick Costa: So you don't like an old school typewriter, though, rick that's like a vintage thing, yeah, like that's almost on purpose.
• 10:03
  Rick Costa: So that was almost.
• 10:04
  Rick Costa: That would just take me back.
• 10:05
  Rick Costa: I wouldn't be annoyed, unless I had it here every day.
• 10:09
  Rick Costa: Then I'd be like, okay, it's giving me a headache, where's my aspirin?
• 10:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, what other pet peeve do you have?
• 10:16
  Rick Costa: People that can't clean a bus to themselves.
• 10:18
  Rick Costa: I can like their normal house and their mother works there.
• 10:21
  Rick Costa: You expect me to clean your mess?
• 10:24
  Carmen Lezeth: No, but you don't just tell them, I tell them.
• 10:30
  Rick Costa: I guess it depends on my relationship with them.
• 10:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Let me be very clear.
• 10:34
  Carmen Lezeth: If you are ever invited to my home, you will pick up after your damn self, because I am not your maid.
• 10:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I'll tell you to your face I don't care, that's where I'm mean, or whatever.
• 10:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you know what I mean?
• 10:44
  Carmen Lezeth: What do you think it says about you?
• 10:52
  Cynthia: He's a neat freak.
• 10:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 10:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if you're.
• 10:56
  Rick Costa: Are you a?
• 10:57
  Carmen Lezeth: neat freak.
• 10:59
  Rick Costa: I wouldn't say that.
• 11:00
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I think it's what you said earlier.
• 11:02
  Carmen Lezeth: I think all these things come down to maybe some type of being considerate, you know.
• 11:05
  Carmen Lezeth: So the thing that I was researching a little bit I didn't do a lot of research on it, but it's micro truths that come out right.
• 11:13
  Carmen Lezeth: There are things that we learn about ourselves, and here's the thing Do you ever do the same pet peeve that annoys you?
• 11:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you actually do it as well, is the next question or do you have any things that you do that other people might consider a pet peeve?
• 11:31
  Carmen Lezeth: So I use my directional all the time.
• 11:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just going to say straight up all the time, whatever.
• 11:37
  Carmen Lezeth: However, I do sometimes, like all humans, make mistakes when I'm driving.
• 11:47
  Carmen Lezeth: So I love that.
• 11:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Most people think they're like everyone thinks they're the best driver on the planet, and I'm the complete opposite.
• 11:53
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I am going to drive the actual speed limit.
• 11:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I am not good.
• 11:59
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I might go five above or five under or whatever, but I'm not going to go 85 just because that's how the traffic's going, and I know that annoys people, but I don't love to drive.
• 12:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm a careful driver.
• 12:12
  Carmen Lezeth: The speed limit says 75, used to be 65.
• 12:17
  Carmen Lezeth: Now you're all going 85, 90.
• 12:18
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't understand, so I know I can see.
• 12:22
  Cynthia: Something is like uh-huh I know, but you keep the one behind you, like oh.
• 12:28
  Carmen Lezeth: They're going at me right, because I'm never going to be in that left lane over to the, you know, the one that Terry K always talks about.
• 12:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Don't be in this.
• 12:37
  Carmen Lezeth: The what's the, that's the lane he's in the travel lane.
• 12:40
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, but he calls it the ticket money lane because you got ticket money.
• 12:43
  Carmen Lezeth: What?
• 12:43
  Carmen Lezeth: No, no, but he calls it the ticket money lane because you got ticket money.
• 12:45
  Carmen Lezeth: What was great about him when he did that?
• 12:47
  Carmen Lezeth: He's the.
• 12:47
  Carmen Lezeth: He's an influencer on TikTok Police officers.
• 12:51
  Carmen Lezeth: This was before ICE, everyone before ICE.
• 12:54
  Carmen Lezeth: But the police officers came out and you know and did, they did stitches with him on TikTok and they were laughing.
• 13:09
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): I thought this was common knowledge, but obviously not.
• 13:10
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): So let me teach some of y'all.
• 13:11
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): The left lane, also known as the fast lane, it's for people who have ticket money.
• 13:13
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): It's for people who have ticket money.
• 13:13
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): If you are going to follow the rules, follow the laws as you should.
• 13:17
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): That middle lane is reserved just for you.
• 13:20
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): It's yours.
• 13:21
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): If you are scared, if you're going to tiptoe, if you are hesitant, that far right lane is just for you.
• 13:29
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): Nobody else wants to be over there.
• 13:31
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): That is your area.
• 13:32
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): But by golly gee, do not get over in that far left lane, also known as the fast lane, tiptoe, because we're trying to him.
• 13:43
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): We have ticket money and even if we don't have ticket money, look, that's our burden to bear.
• 13:49
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): Don't get over here holding us up because you scared.
• 13:52
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): Now, middle lane if you're going to follow the rules.
• 13:55
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): Far right lane.
• 13:56
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): If you're scared, left lane, look your back.
• 14:01
  Carmen Lezeth: They're like yeah, don't be in the ticket because we're going to get you.
• 14:04
  Carmen Lezeth: So if you don't have ticket money, don't be in the because we're gonna get you.
• 14:06
  Carmen Lezeth: So if you don't have ticket money, don't be in that fast lane.
• 14:08
  Carmen Lezeth: So I I use my directional all the time, but I do go the speed limit.
• 14:14
  Rick Costa: Fight me and I actually stop at stop signs.
• 14:18
  Rick Costa: Fight me, yeah, I do in california.
• 14:21
  Carmen Lezeth: That's against the law.
• 14:22
  Carmen Lezeth: It has to be a rolling stop sign.
• 14:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm kidding, Nobody stops it.
• 14:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean we stop it Like, we kind of stop, Like we stop, but we're still rolling.
• 14:33
  Carmen Lezeth: You don't pause.
• 14:35
  Carmen Lezeth: It's a rolling stop sign.
• 14:37
  Carmen Lezeth: It's just.
• 14:38
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, everyone kind of does it.
• 14:40
  Carmen Lezeth: It's kind of the lie air, but you guys stop at your stop signs.
• 14:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh my God, this is so boring but kind of funny conversation.
• 14:57
  Rick Costa: One thing I will say, though, about the blinkers is maybe the only time I won't do.
• 14:59
  Carmen Lezeth: It is if you are in a lane and there's only you can only turn one certain way.
• 15:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I think you should use it all the time, because I think that's where you make the mistake.
• 15:03
  Carmen Lezeth: If I'm coming out of the parking lot and there's only one way to go, it's habit.
• 15:06
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not even thinking about it and I think the problem is people pick and choose when to use it.
• 15:10
  Carmen Lezeth: But if you just use it all the time, you're never going to not use it.
• 15:14
  Cynthia: But I think that's come naturally to you at that point.
• 15:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure the person in the Lamborghini was like ah, it's just a Honda, she's going to make sure she knows where she is around me.
• 15:25
  Carmen Lezeth: No big deal, I won't use it.
• 15:27
  Carmen Lezeth: I think if you start making excuses about it, that's what we get in trouble.
• 15:31
  Carmen Lezeth: Any other pet peeves?
• 15:35
  Cynthia: My old coworker, the one that got laid off.
• 15:37
  Cynthia: She used to burp like a truck driver.
• 15:42
  Cynthia: That's just bad manners.
• 15:45
  Cynthia: It's like, okay, everybody burped.
• 15:47
  Cynthia: You know what I mean.
• 15:48
  Cynthia: But there's also a little discreet way to do it.
• 15:51
  Cynthia: Sometimes you might let out a burping.
• 15:53
  Cynthia: Maybe she has a problem.
• 15:54
  Cynthia: She had a problem, all right, I bet you she watches our show.
• 16:00
  Cynthia: Just kidding, but she used to do it constantly and so loud and it was just like at some point it was just like okay, you know, you're doing it, you know.
• 16:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I just think people don't have manners and etiquette.
• 16:17
  Carmen Lezeth: I think that's what it is right Like, or people get too comfortable.
• 16:23
  Cynthia: Yeah, yeah, I made the one thing.
• 16:25
  Cynthia: You can do it around you know, family, friends, whatever you know but it's like you're doing it at work, I know, but I think she probably has a problem.
• 16:35
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm not defending her.
• 16:36
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like that's kind of embarrassing, that's like farting or whatever, like pretending you're not.
• 16:44
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 16:44
  Carmen Lezeth: Like you know, I don't know if you ate something bad.
• 16:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, this is going down a really bad way, I don't know whatever okay, rick, share with us your bodily issues.
• 16:59
  Rick Costa: I'm just kidding well, I was gonna say I know some people they do have a problem and they almost can't help it.
• 17:06
  Carmen Lezeth: But if you always stink, I don't think people know they have a problem?
• 17:13
  Rick Costa: no, you generally don't.
• 17:15
  Carmen Lezeth: But uh, like, I don't know, like, if you have to take a shower a few times a day, then do what you gotta do but people don't know, okay, the reason why I bring this up, because somebody came to me in one of the offices I worked in, I'm just gonna say, in the last few months, and they said that one of the other co-workers stinks all the time.
• 17:34
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like really, I never smell him.
• 17:36
  Carmen Lezeth: And they were like no, because you're not around him.
• 17:38
  Carmen Lezeth: We work with him all the time.
• 17:40
  Carmen Lezeth: And I'm like I don't think so.
• 17:42
  Carmen Lezeth: He's given me a hug before whatever.
• 17:44
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I'm like maybe an eye stick, maybe they're trying to tell me something.
• 17:48
  Rick Costa: The smells are combating each other.
• 17:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like wait a minute, I was freaking out.
• 17:53
  Carmen Lezeth: But then I realized, because I made it a point to like stand next to him in the kitchen or whatever, and I was like, oh, I see what they're saying.
• 18:04
  Carmen Lezeth: Now I smell what they're saying now I was like I don't know how to tiptoe on that one.
• 18:15
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know how to deal with that one, like I don't know.
• 18:17
  Carmen Lezeth: And they were coming to me like can you take care of it?
• 18:20
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like let me see my contract.
• 18:25
  Rick Costa: You had a hygiene tweet.
• 18:28
  Cynthia: I don't know.
• 18:29
  Cynthia: That's part of my job description.
• 18:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I know I'm here to fix problems, but that's a weird one.
• 18:35
  Carmen Lezeth: But, I started thinking about it.
• 18:38
  Carmen Lezeth: I've have conversations, like I've had conversations with women and men regarding dress attire.
• 18:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Like we've had some women in the couple and I'll say in the past few years where they've gone into, like they've come in to start a job and they're dressed in a way that is probably not.
• 19:00
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like it's like walking on eggs.
• 19:03
  Carmen Lezeth: Basically too much cleavage, too much ass, like just too much.
• 19:06
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 19:07
  Rick Costa: Like too much tightness.
• 19:09
  Rick Costa: It's an office, not a club.
• 19:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Right, and here's the thing you have to be very careful because you can't you know what I mean.
• 19:16
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, people have the right to dress however they want, and but not in our office.
• 19:22
  Carmen Lezeth: There is a dress code and we have it as part of our handbook that there is a dress code a lot of places.
• 19:29
  Carmen Lezeth: Don't you know what I mean?
• 19:30
  Carmen Lezeth: But it's still something.
• 19:32
  Carmen Lezeth: You have to be careful because everybody has their own style, and I have to say, like one woman that we had a conversation with and I say we because I had somebody else in the room with me right, there's a way you do it.
• 19:43
  Carmen Lezeth: You don't do it by yourself or whatever, you know.
• 19:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Um, she fabulous, if she was going to a club, you know what I mean like she was going out, you know like, she just like, but there was no need.
• 19:55
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, now I can't tell her not to wear.
• 19:58
  Carmen Lezeth: She was wearing like stilettos every day to work, like just, but you, I can't, you do you.
• 20:03
  Carmen Lezeth: That's fine, whatever, but the cleavage down to here.
• 20:07
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 20:08
  Carmen Lezeth: And so it was so difficult to have the conversation, but then she was like no, I get it, I get it, I'll do it.
• 20:17
  Carmen Lezeth: She was totally cool about it, because she wanted a job so badly.
• 20:20
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 20:21
  Carmen Lezeth: She had already gotten a job and she wanted to keep it.
• 20:23
  Carmen Lezeth: And I said here's the thing.
• 20:24
  Carmen Lezeth: You should be able to wear whatever you want.
• 20:27
  Carmen Lezeth: Whatever you want to wear should be the way it is, unfortunately, because we live in a country full of crazy people.
• 20:34
  Carmen Lezeth: So I turned around I said we need to be more aware of how we dress so that we don't have to deal with the crazy people.
• 20:44
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean and I'm so good at my job like, because it's true and but she was also very receptive, like I was lucky one of the men that came in.
• 20:51
  Carmen Lezeth: He was just wearing half shirts and he was like it's like, but I just came from the gym.
• 20:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, we don't, I get it.
• 20:56
  Carmen Lezeth: But I was like no, you have to wear.
• 20:57
  Carmen Lezeth: She's like no, but I have.
• 20:58
  Carmen Lezeth: I said not a.
• 20:58
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, we don't, I get it.
• 20:59
  Carmen Lezeth: But I was like no, you have to wear shades, like no, but I have.
• 21:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I said not a half shirt.
• 21:02
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I don't need to see your belly, like we need to, you need to clean up or something Like just, you have to have consideration.
• 21:09
  Carmen Lezeth: Going back to that word, people in the office, you know, if you don't have time to take a shower and get dressed or whatever, then you need to change the time you go work out because you need to be here at work.
• 21:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Is your gym paying your bill or are we paying your bills?
• 21:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm just trying to figure it out, because he had a little bit of an attitude and I was ready to be like that's all right, it's warning number one and we're going to fire your ass because you're not that great anyways, motherfucker, that was all deep down inside.
• 21:40
  Cynthia: I.
• 21:40
  Cynthia: That was all deep down inside.
• 21:41
  Cynthia: I hope you're not watching the show.
• 21:42
  Cynthia: Speaking on how to dress at work, I remember people coming in for an interview and wearing flip-flops and I'm like really, but what's your job?
• 21:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Where are they working in At a?
• 21:56
  Cynthia: hospital.
• 21:57
  Cynthia: Well, you can't wear open-toed shoes at all, right?
• 22:01
  Cynthia: You know what I mean.
• 22:02
  Cynthia: You're dealing with patients, you're dealing with medicines or whatever Like they're sharp objects, and you're wearing flip-flops to an injury.
• 22:10
  Carmen Lezeth: Can you say my feet smell?
• 22:11
  Carmen Lezeth: No, I'm just kidding, yeah, yeah, I mean, oh God, those are just bad fashion Cause they're ugly.
• 22:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, um, no, but it's in the handbook.
• 22:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Like, I think the mistake people make is that people usually just take any and I'm not a hospital wouldn't do this but they'll.
• 22:33
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, people start a business and they'll just pull any random handbook off the internet to start their business or whatever, and they won't really read it and they won't really talk to a lawyer about it and you act.
• 22:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, if you're having an at-home, remote job or it's different, but if you have an in office and you're hiring people, you need to make sure you cover all the bases.
• 22:51
  Carmen Lezeth: You know, now, I can't tell someone you're dressing too sexy, see, I can't say that because that's not, that's not objective and you know people may think me wearing a gap t-shirt is sexy.
• 23:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 23:06
  Carmen Lezeth: Ooh, carmen, that wrinkled neckline.
• 23:08
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why you can't say something like that.
• 23:13
  Carmen Lezeth: You have to be very objective about it, you know.
• 23:20
  Carmen Lezeth: But if you have it in the handbook and if you can put it towards the idea that, like we, we need to be able to be considerate of everyone in the office, you know, and this needs to be a place like as much as I love your outfit for the club where everyone be like hey, who's that here?
• 23:35
  Carmen Lezeth: We need to be like hey.
• 23:36
  Carmen Lezeth: We need to just work together and not be worried about the flashiness of it all.
• 23:40
  Carmen Lezeth: She still kept wearing her heels though.
• 23:43
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey, go ahead.
• 23:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Is there a day when you won't be able to still knock that shit out?
• 23:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I know because I used to wear them all the time.
• 23:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I never wore heels like that, though Three or four inches was enough for me.
• 23:59
  Rick Costa: This is actually an issue that comes up not to be religious, but in church too.
• 24:02
  Rick Costa: It's like girl if you bend over a little bit, something might pop out.
• 24:08
  Rick Costa: What are you doing?
• 24:08
  Rick Costa: You're in church, really.
• 24:10
  Carmen Lezeth: You're loving the Lord.
• 24:11
  Carmen Lezeth: What are you doing?
• 24:12
  Carmen Lezeth: Do you tell people in church they can't wear something?
• 24:17
  Rick Costa: If it's like a woman, they'll have a woman like an older woman say something.
• 24:22
  Rick Costa: Or if it's a man, I don't want to be the man really.
• 24:24
  Carmen Lezeth: So it usually would be like a young person wearing something out of line probably right.
• 24:28
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): That's funny.
• 24:30
  Carmen Lezeth: It's always the young kids who don't understand.
• 24:32
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, so I never did go and talk to that person about them smelling, but I did have.
• 24:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, first of all, I didn't know he smelled, so I don't work with him.
• 24:44
  Carmen Lezeth: So I don't care, not my department, but um, but I did talk to the group of men who worked with him and said you know what, maybe you could do it one of two ways.
• 24:57
  Carmen Lezeth: The first way is to talk about your own showering habits.
• 25:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't mean like so, guys, what do you do when you shower?
• 25:05
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't mean like that, just be like God.
• 25:09
  Carmen Lezeth: I missed my shower this morning.
• 25:11
  Carmen Lezeth: Do I smell?
• 25:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I shower every morning without fail.
• 25:14
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 25:15
  Carmen Lezeth: You do it like that.
• 25:18
  Rick Costa: I just got a new body wash that smells so, so good.
• 25:20
  Rick Costa: Have you ever tried this body wash?
• 25:22
  Carmen Lezeth: exactly, yeah, that's how you do it, so that's how I told them all to go about it to be make it more about what we all, because some people just don't know.
• 25:31
  Rick Costa: Yeah, you know, I at first one.
• 25:34
  Rick Costa: Make sure it wasn't me it wasn't me.
• 25:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, you know it's him everybody.
• 25:39
  Carmen Lezeth: You know it's him.
• 25:39
  Rick Costa: Go ahead I had a friend, that very large person, say that way and, yes, they did kind of have this issue and so somebody thought I'm gonna give him a big hint and be anonymous about it and they gift wrapped and when he opened that up he was heated that's not nice I was like that's what I'm saying.
• 26:02
  Rick Costa: It wasn't me.
• 26:03
  Rick Costa: He was heated.
• 26:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like, oh, that's that's mean but also, I mean, first of all, it was a bad way to do it, but secondly, they probably still got the point.
• 26:12
  Carmen Lezeth: And I think when you're bigger and look, it's not even bigger.
• 26:17
  Carmen Lezeth: I have, as I've gotten older, some areas that flap over that never flapped over before my poor boobs.
• 26:28
  Carmen Lezeth: So you know you sweat a little bit, you gotta wipe a little bit and you know you gotta do some damage.
• 26:35
  Carmen Lezeth: But that's how I would approach that, right, I would go up to that person and and make it about I.
• 26:38
  Carmen Lezeth: But that's how I would approach that, right, I would go up to that person and make it about I think that's the thing is that the best way to help other people, especially when it's an embarrassing thing, is to make it about you.
• 26:51
  Carmen Lezeth: But that requires empathy and we lack that in this country.
• 26:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if it's just this country, but this society.
• 26:57
  Carmen Lezeth: We are so divorced of having empathy and sympathy that we don't seem to be able to do it.
• 27:04
  Carmen Lezeth: We just get mad at other people in a Lamborghini.
• 27:07
  Carmen Lezeth: We don't think that maybe they were just having a bad day and they forgot, and maybe it's not really their Lamborghini.
• 27:15
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what dawned on me too.
• 27:16
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like because I work with so many people that own a lot of these stupid cars and I was like they don't drive them.
• 27:23
  Carmen Lezeth: Their maintenance people will drive them or bring them.
• 27:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Or I'm like what if it wasn't?
• 27:30
  Cynthia: You know what I?
• 27:33
  Carmen Lezeth: mean.
• 27:33
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I'm like you know what?
• 27:36
  Carmen Lezeth: Now I feel better about it.
• 27:37
  Carmen Lezeth: It's okay, go ahead, enjoy your fun drive.
• 27:39
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know, but just being more empathetic and sympathetic about things I think would make it easier.
• 27:48
  Rick Costa: One that's for me.
• 27:49
  Rick Costa: If you use the last bit of toilet paper and you don't put the new roll in, it's going to be me and you.
• 27:59
  Rick Costa: It's right there, You're not going to know it was me.
• 28:02
  Carmen Lezeth: You're not going to know it was me.
• 28:05
  Rick Costa: I hate that.
• 28:07
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, but do you do the toilet paper up or down?
• 28:10
  Rick Costa: I had a feeling you were going to say that.
• 28:13
  Carmen Lezeth: Because there's only one right way to do it.
• 28:15
  Rick Costa: There was a whole episode about that.
• 28:17
  Carmen Lezeth: It's over.
• 28:18
  Rick Costa: Yeah, I do over.
• 28:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Why do didn't do it?
• 28:21
  Carmen Lezeth: There was a whole show about that it's over.
• 28:23
  Cynthia: Yeah, I do over.
• 28:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Why do people do it under?
• 28:25
  Carmen Lezeth: That don't even make no sense.
• 28:26
  Carmen Lezeth: It doesn't whatever okay, very weird.
• 28:27
  Cynthia: All right, another pet peeve of mine.
• 28:29
  Cynthia: Hey, um, cars that have sound systems that are just way too loud.
• 28:36
  Cynthia: People are sitting in the car.
• 28:37
  Cynthia: You cannot even hear the song.
• 28:40
  Cynthia: All you hear or feel actually is boom, boom, boom.
• 28:44
  Cynthia: You can't even enjoy the song I don't get that Okay.
• 28:50
  Carmen Lezeth: So I'm going to say something.
• 28:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Okay, I agree with you.
• 28:53
  Carmen Lezeth: I agree with you.
• 28:53
  Carmen Lezeth: However, I have my old Honda Civic Hybrid and I don't have a new stereo system in it at all, whatever.
• 29:01
  Carmen Lezeth: But I remember when I lived on 21st Street.
• 29:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I think you came to my apartment when I lived on 21st Street I would always I had my own garage.
• 29:09
  Carmen Lezeth: That was the kind of cool part of that apartment complexes, it's like that was like a whole other.
• 29:13
  Carmen Lezeth: You can have a whole other apartment in there.
• 29:18
  Carmen Lezeth: I didn't realize that when I pulled in and I had my music blaring or whatever, because I felt like I have my windows up, no one can hear it Like.
• 29:26
  Carmen Lezeth: My neighbors came down one day.
• 29:28
  Carmen Lezeth: They were like Carmen, we love you, we think you're a great person.
• 29:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I was like what happened?
• 29:35
  Carmen Lezeth: What?
• 29:35
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I thought they were going to give me a gift or something.
• 29:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like.
• 29:38
  Carmen Lezeth: They're like, can you please stop listening to your music so loud in your car and then drive into the?
• 29:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm like.
• 29:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I had no idea.
• 29:46
  Carmen Lezeth: They're like I said, but the windows are up.
• 29:49
  Carmen Lezeth: They're like carmen, it's like you're in our living room.
• 29:51
  Carmen Lezeth: We can hear it.
• 29:52
  Carmen Lezeth: It's like a.
• 29:53
  Carmen Lezeth: Then the husband was like you bought a new, like a new surround system or something for your car, right?
• 30:01
  Carmen Lezeth: But all they hear is the boom, boom, boom, like, oh my god, old school, I shouldn't say that because people will try to steal it, but it is pretty loud so I don't do that anymore.
• 30:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't have it loud anymore, but I didn't know, wow.
• 30:16
  Cynthia: Yeah, but see, you didn't know.
• 30:17
  Cynthia: These other people know They've got all the windows down and they're doing it on purpose.
• 30:23
  Cynthia: Oh yeah, no yeah.
• 30:24
  Cynthia: Like I was on the bus the other day and you could feel it through the bus, I was like, yeah, that's just way too much.
• 30:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Unless it's a good song that I agree with and I'm okay with it.
• 30:37
  Rick Costa: That's my problem.
• 30:38
  Rick Costa: If this is like, this is my jam.
• 30:40
  Rick Costa: If I can't hear myself singing, it's not loud enough.
• 30:47
  Carmen Lezeth: I walked across the street the other day and somebody had their music up.
• 30:50
  Carmen Lezeth: What were they playing?
• 30:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I can't remember.
• 30:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, did a little boo thing.
• 30:55
  Carmen Lezeth: I walked across like dancing.
• 31:00
  Carmen Lezeth: I was such a dork.
• 31:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I'm sure other people didn't appreciate it, but I was like that's a good sound Cause I got a bounce to it, you know.
• 31:09
  Cynthia: Yeah.
• 31:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I agree with you and people do.
• 31:14
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, it's too much, especially when people have it, you know.
• 31:17
  Carmen Lezeth: They clearly have bought a new stereo system so that everyone can hear the music they listen to.
• 31:22
  Carmen Lezeth: And how come it's never someone who listens to like classical or orchestra, you know what I mean.
• 31:27
  Carmen Lezeth: It's always like hard rock or rap or heavy metal.
• 31:31
  Carmen Lezeth: It's always something I don't want to listen to.
• 31:33
  Carmen Lezeth: So true, I'm sorry that's so true.
• 31:47
  Rick Costa: I'm sorry.
• 31:48
  Rick Costa: What about people that take forever to respond back to a text or email, when you know they are always on their phone?
• 31:51
  Rick Costa: They're ghosting you with them.
• 31:52
  Rick Costa: They're always on the phone.
• 31:53
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): I didn't see it bro, you was, I'm with you.
• 31:56
  Terry Kaye (Influencer): You were always on your phone, which means you didn't see it right?
• 32:02
  Carmen Lezeth: yeah, but people have different.
• 32:04
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I don't know, I shouldn't say what people do, but I have different chimes and different rings for everybody, so if I hear a certain one, I can wait.
• 32:12
  Carmen Lezeth: I guess that's not nice.
• 32:17
  Cynthia: I know the reason why she doesn't respond.
• 32:19
  Carmen Lezeth: I respond to everyone's texts at minimum within 24 hours, but I always.
• 32:25
  Carmen Lezeth: When have you ever waited for me to respond to your texts?
• 32:28
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh, never, never, I respond, Rick.
• 32:33
  Carmen Lezeth: Have you ever texted me and I not responded?
• 32:36
  Rick Costa: Always.
• 32:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Always, I always.
• 32:38
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I'm, I don't know why people, you know people like oh my God, I get so many emails.
• 32:43
  Carmen Lezeth: That's why I didn't get back to you, shut the fuck up.
• 32:44
  Carmen Lezeth: I've had five or six clients at one time, staff offices of like 20 and 30 in each office people emailing me.
• 32:52
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
• 32:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I still get to my emails when my friends email me.
• 32:55
  Carmen Lezeth: But that's just me, you do, you.
• 32:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I have a system, though I don't think people because I'm ridiculously organized, but you know, from like 8am to four o'clock I do business emails and then anything after that is personal.
• 33:12
  Carmen Lezeth: So I close that off.
• 33:14
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't have emails mixing in.
• 33:16
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 33:18
  Carmen Lezeth: So for me it's really easy.
• 33:20
  Carmen Lezeth: So that's why I always get back to my friends or whatever so, and I only do an hour each, like morning, and then hour at night and get back to emails, okay, so you all know my trick now.
• 33:29
  Rick Costa: So there, it is why I think dios what if you're like in a doctor's office right, you're surrounded by strangers.
• 33:35
  Rick Costa: You don't know any of these people.
• 33:36
  Rick Costa: You're maybe already a little bit agitated and you hear what's that?
• 33:42
  Rick Costa: Exactly somebody doing that.
• 33:46
  Rick Costa: It's like, oh my god, please, for the love of god, stop.
• 33:49
  Rick Costa: But it's a stranger.
• 33:50
  Rick Costa: So it's like what do you do?
• 33:51
  Carmen Lezeth: okay, wait, that really bothers you the sighing who does that?
• 34:01
  Carmen Lezeth: do I do, that do I do that I do that sometimes yeah, rick does the sighing and I was like, and then I'm like is that what jesus would do?
• 34:15
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that what jesus would do?
• 34:16
  Carmen Lezeth: That's what that's always my rebuttal.
• 34:19
  Carmen Lezeth: Is that how Jesus would react?
• 34:21
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know if tapping bothers me.
• 34:25
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I guess it depends on where I'm at.
• 34:26
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I told you, when I'm in an office, in an intimate office, like there's three of us sharing a shoebox and somebody's you know phone is ringing and they're texting and you can hear it click, click, Like I don't I text without the clicking.
• 34:39
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I don't I text without the clicking like I don't understand why you would do that.
• 34:48
  Carmen Lezeth: It drives me insane.
• 34:48
  Carmen Lezeth: And then they get upset with me because I asked them to turn off the sound.
• 34:50
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I hate when you're here, I'm like, okay, well, I'm gonna still be here, so turn off your fucking phone, I don't care.
• 34:53
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, I don't care.
• 34:54
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, those are my things I don't know.
• 34:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 34:57
  Carmen Lezeth: I think if it's a stranger and it's really bothering me, I might be cute about it.
• 35:01
  Carmen Lezeth: I tell people.
• 35:03
  Carmen Lezeth: I know I'm bad, I'm blunt.
• 35:08
  Cynthia: My thing is early in the morning.
• 35:11
  Cynthia: Why do people feel the need to have a virtual or FaceTime and talk so loud?
• 35:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Wait, I don't know what you're talking about.
• 35:22
  Cynthia: Who's doing that?
• 35:23
  Cynthia: People waiting for the shuttle or on the bus or walking anywhere, and they're talking so loud in their FaceTime.
• 35:32
  Cynthia: It's 7am.
• 35:34
  Cynthia: Who the hell are you talking to?
• 35:35
  Cynthia: Shouldn't they be at work too?
• 35:37
  Carmen Lezeth: Maybe somebody in another country, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know, I know, I don't know, I don't walk.
• 35:45
  Carmen Lezeth: So there are things I don't do that other people do, that I still.
• 35:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't even think it's about coordination.
• 35:50
  Carmen Lezeth: I just think I don't think people have learned how not to use their phones all the time.
• 35:56
  Carmen Lezeth: We always talk about kids.
• 35:57
  Carmen Lezeth: It's not kids, it's adults who have the problem.
• 35:59
  Carmen Lezeth: The problem.
• 35:59
  Carmen Lezeth: I see people walking across the street.
• 36:02
  Carmen Lezeth: I'll be in my car and they're.
• 36:04
  Carmen Lezeth: They haven't even looked up, they're stepping off the curb and they're still texting.
• 36:08
  Carmen Lezeth: And in my head I'm like I just don't trust car.
• 36:11
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't trust other people so much that I'm gonna be okay with you, hoping that you're gonna stop your car so that I can walk gracefully across the street.
• 36:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Like I don't trust nobody.
• 36:24
  Cynthia: Like today I'm coming home and this girl is literally on the bus talking really loud on her phone to a credit card company about some charges that were on her phone, and then she's saying her credit card number out loud.
• 36:37
  Cynthia: Are you an idiot?
• 36:39
  Cynthia: These are personal calls.
• 36:42
  Carmen Lezeth: There are no rules on the see, because when I used to take the bus and the trolling stuff, you didn't, we didn't have phones.
• 36:48
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh my god, there's no rules that you can like in restaurants.
• 36:53
  Carmen Lezeth: You can't have your phone on.
• 36:55
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what I mean.
• 36:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Like no, there's no rules.
• 36:57
  Carmen Lezeth: Oh see, but again, it's consideration.
• 37:00
  Carmen Lezeth: Yeah, but you're expecting people need rules then right, so I'm just saying this is one of those moments where I would personally send a letter to the mayor and to the mbta or whatever it's.
• 37:13
  Carmen Lezeth: What's it called in in massachusetts?
• 37:15
  Cynthia: no, it wasn't even the regular t, it was our shuttle bus, the employee shuttle, oh, that's even worse.
• 37:21
  Carmen Lezeth: Well, you should talk to.
• 37:23
  Carmen Lezeth: I thought you meant like public transportation, no, it was our employee shuttle.
• 37:28
  Cynthia: It's like you have a bus full of people and you're saying your credit card number.
• 37:33
  Carmen Lezeth: I'll allow you really trust these employees why don't you, just why don't you send the?
• 37:36
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what?
• 37:37
  Carmen Lezeth: You send them the link to the show.
• 37:39
  Carmen Lezeth: This is a problem, seriously.
• 37:45
  Carmen Lezeth: I mean, I thought you were talking about the regular tea, I'm like that.
• 37:49
  Carmen Lezeth: I think there were rules.
• 37:50
  Carmen Lezeth: You can't do that.
• 37:51
  Carmen Lezeth: I don't know.
• 37:52
  Carmen Lezeth: I haven't been on a on a.
• 37:54
  Carmen Lezeth: I haven't been in a in a long time, even in a place where normally people don't talk loud, in a bus in a long time.
• 38:01
  Rick Costa: Even in a place where normally people don't talk loud, and I don't mean a library, that's obvious, but like a grocery store, for example, Like I don't need to hear that.
• 38:15
  Carmen Lezeth: You know what Restaurant people do that, that I am.
• 38:24
  Carmen Lezeth: Don't be in the grocery store with me and be in line and get mad at the cashier because your ass is on the phone and you didn't hear her when she said 42, whatever.
• 38:29
  Carmen Lezeth: And then I have told like I cannot tell you.
• 38:31
  Carmen Lezeth: I almost wait for it.
• 38:32
  Carmen Lezeth: I get in line just to wait to see who the motherfucker is that's going to do this shit.
• 38:37
  Carmen Lezeth: I will defend the cash cashier.
• 38:39
  Carmen Lezeth: That drives me insane.
• 38:41
  Carmen Lezeth: I tend to use my phone in the grocery store, not to be on the phone, but because I use my coupons with my phone.
• 38:48
  Carmen Lezeth: But I think, being on the, I don't.
• 38:51
  Carmen Lezeth: People try to multitask and people there's no such thing as multitasking.
• 38:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Everyone thinks they can multitask, but that's not how the brain works and what you're doing is everything half-assed at the same time.
• 39:02
  Carmen Lezeth: That's what you're doing instead of focusing on one thing.
• 39:05
  Carmen Lezeth: But I do think one of the things that we can take away from this is consideration, empathy, sympathy and just trying to be more considerate of other people, because you're annoying Cynthia with your chewing.
• 39:22
  Carmen Lezeth: Hey everyone, thank you for stopping by.
• 39:25
  Carmen Lezeth: Remember we have our Friday night shows at 6 pm Pacific, 9 pm Eastern.
• 39:30
  Carmen Lezeth: We also have our Thursday night shows, 6 pm, called Culture and Consequence.
• 39:35
  Carmen Lezeth: So check out that show, but beware, it's heavy on politics.
• 39:40
  Carmen Lezeth: Anyways, remember, at the end of the day it really is all about the joy and we'll see you next time.
• 39:45
  Carmen Lezeth: Bye everyone, bye.
• 39:46
  Carmen Lezeth: Thanks for stopping by.
• 39:51
  Carmen Lezeth: All About the Joy.
• 39:52
  Carmen Lezeth: Be better and stay beautiful folks.
• 39:55
  Carmen Lezeth: Have a sweet day.