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- WEBVTT 00:00:21.629 --> 00:00:25.410 Happy July, everyone. And with that, happy Fourth 00:00:25.410 --> 00:00:29.170 of July. It is this weekend. That's crazy. And 00:00:29.170 --> 00:00:32.789 it's the big old 250th birthday of our country, 00:00:32.890 --> 00:00:35.710 which is crazy to think that we're such a young 00:00:35.710 --> 00:00:38.130 country, y 'all. We really are. We're such a 00:00:38.130 --> 00:00:40.909 little tiny baby country. Like, there are universities 00:00:40.909 --> 00:00:46.729 older than our country. That's wild. That's why 00:00:46.729 --> 00:00:48.149 I always tell people, like, we have to have grace 00:00:48.149 --> 00:00:50.149 with the United States because we're still so 00:00:50.149 --> 00:00:54.130 young that we really haven't learned everything 00:00:54.130 --> 00:00:55.990 we need to know. We're like the youngest child 00:00:55.990 --> 00:00:58.560 who thinks they're a know -it -all. I truly believe 00:00:58.560 --> 00:01:01.240 that in my heart of hearts. Little thing about 00:01:01.240 --> 00:01:05.480 me, though, is I love the 4th of July. It's actually 00:01:05.480 --> 00:01:07.560 my favorite holiday out of all the holidays. 00:01:07.739 --> 00:01:10.180 I know. It's, as a Christian, that's terrible 00:01:10.180 --> 00:01:13.060 to say. It should be Christmas or Easter, but 00:01:13.060 --> 00:01:15.280 when it comes to celebrating the 4th of July, 00:01:15.519 --> 00:01:20.459 it just hits so hard for me. I love it. The fireworks, 00:01:20.700 --> 00:01:25.219 the food, the outfits, the music, the fireworks. 00:01:26.260 --> 00:01:29.799 Once again, because I love fireworks, the sparklers, 00:01:29.939 --> 00:01:32.519 the fireworks. And when you live at the beach, 00:01:32.780 --> 00:01:37.060 oh, the 4th hits so hard. I used to literally 00:01:37.060 --> 00:01:39.780 leave Raleigh just to come to my best friend's 00:01:39.780 --> 00:01:42.099 house at the beach to spend the 4th with her 00:01:42.099 --> 00:01:45.459 family because it's just different. And then 00:01:45.459 --> 00:01:47.719 when I lived in California, the 4th of July just 00:01:47.719 --> 00:01:50.980 hits so different. And now that I'm in Wilmington, 00:01:51.079 --> 00:01:54.579 the 4th of July, yeah, it just hits harder. It 00:01:54.579 --> 00:01:57.239 hits hard. Then when you live inland, and don't 00:01:57.239 --> 00:01:59.340 get me wrong, growing up in Raleigh for the 4th 00:01:59.340 --> 00:02:02.540 was a lot of fun. And I would like find all of 00:02:02.540 --> 00:02:05.040 the firework schedules in the triangle. And I 00:02:05.040 --> 00:02:07.420 would let my friends know what night we were 00:02:07.420 --> 00:02:09.979 going to which thing for the best firework shows. 00:02:10.099 --> 00:02:12.500 And in a weekend, I would easily see three to 00:02:12.500 --> 00:02:15.560 four firework shows. And when I mean in a weekend, 00:02:15.620 --> 00:02:17.580 I mean in a long weekend, starting Thursday going 00:02:17.580 --> 00:02:20.919 through Sunday. I was seeing all the firework 00:02:20.919 --> 00:02:23.680 shows that you could possibly want to see and 00:02:23.680 --> 00:02:26.969 dragging everybody. with me. It was awesome. 00:02:27.750 --> 00:02:31.050 Anyways. So yeah, it's my favorite holiday this 00:02:31.050 --> 00:02:34.710 year. Once again, third year in a row, I'll be 00:02:34.710 --> 00:02:36.870 spending it at Nikki's, but this time she's actually 00:02:36.870 --> 00:02:39.090 having a 4th of July party. So it won't be just 00:02:39.090 --> 00:02:41.689 me third wheeling her and her boyfriend, but 00:02:41.689 --> 00:02:44.530 her backyard has the perfect view of their neighborhood 00:02:44.530 --> 00:02:48.550 fireworks show. It's truly amazing. So excited 00:02:48.550 --> 00:02:50.590 for it. And I'm bringing my younger brother. 00:02:51.659 --> 00:02:54.740 outfit. Let me tell you, it's going to slay. 00:02:54.960 --> 00:02:57.020 It's literally going to slay. It's so freaking 00:02:57.020 --> 00:03:01.879 cute. The boots, the shorts. I did not get my 00:03:01.879 --> 00:03:04.080 top in time. So I'm trying to find a new 4th 00:03:04.080 --> 00:03:06.020 of July top to wear because I used to have a 00:03:06.020 --> 00:03:09.180 George Sloshington top, but it just, I'm mature 00:03:09.180 --> 00:03:12.780 now. I'm a grownup. I don't need to wear that. 00:03:13.219 --> 00:03:16.340 So I'm trying to find something cute, like American 00:03:16.340 --> 00:03:19.280 honey. That was what I bought or I thought I 00:03:19.280 --> 00:03:21.509 bought. But apparently it didn't go through. 00:03:22.330 --> 00:03:23.930 Which I should have listened to the website when 00:03:23.930 --> 00:03:25.629 it said it. But I checked my bank account and 00:03:25.629 --> 00:03:27.430 it said it was being processed. Turns out it 00:03:27.430 --> 00:03:29.930 wasn't being processed. So then I tried to make 00:03:29.930 --> 00:03:34.629 it. Did not go well. Yeah. So now I'm like, do 00:03:34.629 --> 00:03:37.310 I go to altered state? What do I do? I'm not 00:03:37.310 --> 00:03:39.449 really sure. Do I start over with my craft? I 00:03:39.449 --> 00:03:42.110 don't really want to. But the outfit is going 00:03:42.110 --> 00:03:44.969 to be cute. Best believe. And then the food. 00:03:45.169 --> 00:03:49.539 Ugh. I love making food for specific holidays 00:03:49.539 --> 00:03:52.639 like this. So the first thing I'm doing is I'm 00:03:52.639 --> 00:03:54.599 going to get Coca -Cola bottles and I bought 00:03:54.599 --> 00:03:57.259 ribbon and I'm going to tie ribbon to the Coca 00:03:57.259 --> 00:04:00.060 -Cola bottles. Then I'm getting ice cream sandwiches 00:04:00.060 --> 00:04:02.979 and I'm going to cover them on the sides with 00:04:02.979 --> 00:04:05.979 4th of July sprinkles if I can find them. And 00:04:05.979 --> 00:04:08.819 then thirdly, I think I'm going to make quesadillas, 00:04:08.840 --> 00:04:12.400 but I'm going to cut them out in shapes of stars. 00:04:13.460 --> 00:04:16.829 That's the plan. I won't let you know if it changes 00:04:16.829 --> 00:04:19.250 until next week's episode, but hopefully it doesn't 00:04:19.250 --> 00:04:26.170 change. Um, yeah. So, oh, and I just got back 00:04:26.170 --> 00:04:30.149 from Florida like Sunday night. It was a long 00:04:30.149 --> 00:04:35.490 travel day. Florida was crazy. I, um, went there 00:04:35.490 --> 00:04:40.560 Thursday because you guys. As you all know, I've 00:04:40.560 --> 00:04:42.600 talked about possibly moving. And as of right 00:04:42.600 --> 00:04:47.079 now, I am officially moving. Crazy. But I landed 00:04:47.079 --> 00:04:50.540 Thursday morning and went to my interview, went 00:04:50.540 --> 00:04:52.699 straight to my interview. Craziest thing happened 00:04:52.699 --> 00:04:56.120 at the interview that I might talk about some 00:04:56.120 --> 00:04:59.439 other time because it was just crazy. Left the 00:04:59.439 --> 00:05:01.920 interview, went home, took like a 20 -minute 00:05:01.920 --> 00:05:03.779 nap because I had a terrible migraine because 00:05:03.779 --> 00:05:06.779 we were at the interview from 12 to 4. Left. 00:05:07.180 --> 00:05:10.000 the home, went to prayer night at my best friend's 00:05:10.000 --> 00:05:12.560 church. From prayer night, we went out to dinner, 00:05:12.740 --> 00:05:17.720 got home super late, woke up the next day. What 00:05:17.720 --> 00:05:23.920 did we do Friday? We did something. Anyways, 00:05:24.079 --> 00:05:26.180 we definitely did not just like hang around and 00:05:26.180 --> 00:05:30.360 find out on Friday because it felt busy. Maybe 00:05:30.360 --> 00:05:34.379 it was a slower morning, but it felt busy. Did 00:05:34.379 --> 00:05:38.600 something Friday. And then went to worship night 00:05:38.600 --> 00:05:41.379 at my best friend's church. And then went to 00:05:41.379 --> 00:05:43.220 dinner again. And I almost fell asleep at the 00:05:43.220 --> 00:05:46.819 table. Saturday, we took the train down to Miami 00:05:46.819 --> 00:05:50.500 to go to a World Cup game party watch thing. 00:05:50.579 --> 00:05:52.379 I don't know. Y 'all know I'm not a soccer person. 00:05:53.079 --> 00:05:55.319 It's just, it is what it is. I'm not really into 00:05:55.319 --> 00:05:59.420 soccer. Anyways, watched the game. Got the call 00:05:59.420 --> 00:06:02.459 that I got the job before I watched the game. 00:06:02.500 --> 00:06:04.139 We were in line to get into this watch party. 00:06:04.259 --> 00:06:06.339 Turned out you had to be there at 12. It was 00:06:06.339 --> 00:06:08.420 like two o 'clock, not even, it was like four 00:06:08.420 --> 00:06:10.300 o 'clock in the afternoon when we got there because 00:06:10.300 --> 00:06:13.600 Serena and her boyfriend had a cooking class 00:06:13.600 --> 00:06:15.920 that they sweetly invited me to. But I was like, 00:06:15.980 --> 00:06:19.579 I do not want a sixth wheel y 'all's couple's 00:06:19.579 --> 00:06:21.339 cooking class with the other couples. Like that's 00:06:21.339 --> 00:06:23.839 just not, not even sixth wheel, seventh. I don't 00:06:23.839 --> 00:06:25.980 want a seventh wheel. Like, thank you so much. 00:06:26.019 --> 00:06:28.040 It would be fun. But like, I don't know these 00:06:28.040 --> 00:06:29.699 people. If I knew them, then it would be way 00:06:29.699 --> 00:06:33.339 more fun. They're not my friends. So they went 00:06:33.339 --> 00:06:34.980 to the cooking class. Then we got on the train. 00:06:35.689 --> 00:06:38.449 Went down, realized it was too packed, went to 00:06:38.449 --> 00:06:42.449 a bar. The bar is a scam, by the way. It was 00:06:42.449 --> 00:06:45.709 $50 to get in. But then once you got in, there 00:06:45.709 --> 00:06:47.449 was nowhere to sit because the tables were $1 00:06:47.449 --> 00:06:50.129 ,000 just to sit down and watch the game. And 00:06:50.129 --> 00:06:54.060 this is why I love... a dirty grungy bar. Because 00:06:54.060 --> 00:06:56.620 if you go into a backwoods dirty grungy bar, 00:06:56.720 --> 00:06:58.879 this would never happen. They would have a game 00:06:58.879 --> 00:07:02.319 on. A beer would be like $3 .50. I know that's 00:07:02.319 --> 00:07:03.839 being dramatic, but that's how it feels in my 00:07:03.839 --> 00:07:06.180 head. Actually, some places in Wilmington, it 00:07:06.180 --> 00:07:09.800 would be that. I take it back. They might, they 00:07:09.800 --> 00:07:13.139 literally might have like onion rings and mozzarella 00:07:13.139 --> 00:07:15.810 sticks for you to eat. They might not. Who cares? 00:07:16.189 --> 00:07:18.470 And wings. And you would just watch the game 00:07:18.470 --> 00:07:20.290 and have a grand time. Sometimes there's darts. 00:07:20.430 --> 00:07:24.290 Sometimes there's pool. It was not that at all. 00:07:24.389 --> 00:07:26.670 It was genuinely, actually, I'm pretty sure it 00:07:26.670 --> 00:07:29.050 was a club, probably not even a bar. But it was 00:07:29.050 --> 00:07:31.389 still fun. We had a blast. Don't get me wrong. 00:07:31.509 --> 00:07:33.730 We had so much fun watching a game that I had 00:07:33.730 --> 00:07:36.230 no interest in. But now I think I maybe like 00:07:36.230 --> 00:07:38.350 soccer a little bit. I would never watch it on 00:07:38.350 --> 00:07:41.370 my own free will, on my own time. But I would 00:07:41.370 --> 00:07:44.980 definitely go to another event for it. you know 00:07:44.980 --> 00:07:47.759 like I I would be okay with that I would I would 00:07:47.759 --> 00:07:51.819 be down for that so anyways yeah went down to 00:07:51.819 --> 00:07:55.480 Florida did that got back super late at night 00:07:55.480 --> 00:07:57.639 like super almost missed the train a couple times 00:07:57.639 --> 00:08:00.000 like running through the train station trying 00:08:00.000 --> 00:08:02.379 to get to the train grabbing each other's hands 00:08:02.379 --> 00:08:05.019 like that scene and Divergent where like they're 00:08:05.019 --> 00:08:06.740 trying to catch the train and you grab they would 00:08:06.740 --> 00:08:09.160 grab Trish's hand and like pull her up it was 00:08:09.160 --> 00:08:11.199 literally like that except the train was still 00:08:12.359 --> 00:08:15.279 the train wasn't moving but it was that dramatic 00:08:15.279 --> 00:08:19.600 in our heads um got home super late went to sleep 00:08:19.600 --> 00:08:22.120 woke up went to church left church went to the 00:08:22.120 --> 00:08:24.879 train station again because i live on this train 00:08:24.879 --> 00:08:27.079 now this train is actually my second home because 00:08:27.079 --> 00:08:30.480 it was my fourth time taking it that week in 00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:35.029 the course of four days um and watched someone's 00:08:35.029 --> 00:08:37.129 bike get robbed or stolen from them in front 00:08:37.129 --> 00:08:38.990 of my eyes while they were also there watching 00:08:38.990 --> 00:08:41.549 it be stolen in front of their eyes. Serena helped 00:08:41.549 --> 00:08:44.070 the crazy lady try to track down her bike with 00:08:44.070 --> 00:08:47.169 the police while I waited for my train to come. 00:08:47.269 --> 00:08:49.149 Apparently a fight broke out on the train. It 00:08:49.149 --> 00:08:52.289 delayed the train, finally got on the train, 00:08:52.490 --> 00:08:55.350 got to the airport 30 minutes before boarding. 00:08:56.449 --> 00:08:58.830 Got on the plane. It was super hot because I 00:08:58.830 --> 00:09:01.029 had to load from the outside, which why Miami 00:09:01.029 --> 00:09:02.710 airport does that? I don't know. It's a huge 00:09:02.710 --> 00:09:04.509 airport. Why are we loading from the outside? 00:09:04.769 --> 00:09:07.350 It's like 103 degrees outside and it's humid. 00:09:07.730 --> 00:09:13.850 It's so humid. And then got home, landed early, 00:09:14.269 --> 00:09:16.909 sat on the tarmac for an hour because there was 00:09:16.909 --> 00:09:22.769 lightning. Finally got off of the plane, disembarked, 00:09:22.769 --> 00:09:25.389 disembored, I don't know. waited for my luggage, 00:09:25.690 --> 00:09:28.169 got my luggage. Younger brother picked me up, 00:09:28.309 --> 00:09:31.509 got Bojangles because your girl loves Bojangles, 00:09:31.590 --> 00:09:34.889 got home, unpacked, went to bed, went to work 00:09:34.889 --> 00:09:38.889 the next day. Yes, that was my weekend in life. 00:09:39.070 --> 00:09:41.309 I feel like I lived like 10 lives in the course 00:09:41.309 --> 00:09:45.649 of like four days. Even day one Thursday, I looked 00:09:45.649 --> 00:09:47.529 at my best friend on Friday. I was like, I can't 00:09:47.529 --> 00:09:49.190 believe that was Thursday. That feels like it 00:09:49.190 --> 00:09:51.389 was two weeks ago because it was just such a 00:09:51.389 --> 00:09:56.360 long day. It was so long. I was so tired, but 00:09:56.360 --> 00:09:59.320 it's okay. Yeah, that's what I've been up to. 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:03.559 And let's talk about what's in. Okay, y 'all, 00:10:03.580 --> 00:10:06.279 what is in? This is going to be a huge shock. 00:10:06.480 --> 00:10:08.320 This is going to surprise everyone. Y 'all are 00:10:08.320 --> 00:10:11.019 going to be like, oh my gosh, she just talked 00:10:11.019 --> 00:10:12.919 about for 10 minutes, but I'm still so surprised. 00:10:13.080 --> 00:10:16.659 The 4th of July is in, truly. My face tattoo 00:10:16.659 --> 00:10:20.200 should be... Yeah, my face tattoos. My face tattoos 00:10:20.200 --> 00:10:26.460 should be coming in today, fingers crossed. Fireworks, 00:10:26.460 --> 00:10:29.539 once again, in. The food, in. The outfit, in. 00:10:29.700 --> 00:10:31.679 Hanging out with friends, in. It's going to be 00:10:31.679 --> 00:10:34.299 so much fun. I cannot wait. Hopefully, the playlist 00:10:34.299 --> 00:10:36.639 is banging. Don't know what time things are starting, 00:10:36.720 --> 00:10:41.899 but the 4th of July is what is in. What is out? 00:10:44.879 --> 00:10:46.860 This is like definitely like more of an inside 00:10:46.860 --> 00:10:48.419 thing, but I'm telling you this is what's out. 00:10:48.460 --> 00:10:50.460 Believing everything you see online just because 00:10:50.460 --> 00:10:53.200 it's on TikTok and just because ChatGPT says 00:10:53.200 --> 00:10:55.320 it's true doesn't actually mean it's true. I 00:10:55.320 --> 00:10:58.379 know that's a crazy concept. Not everything you 00:10:58.379 --> 00:11:01.700 read on the internet is true. This is not a personal 00:11:01.700 --> 00:11:04.259 attack towards anyone. It is a personal attack 00:11:04.259 --> 00:11:08.019 towards everyone. Okay, I'm so sick and tired 00:11:08.019 --> 00:11:12.120 of people sending me things online like it's 00:11:12.120 --> 00:11:16.690 fact. specifically my father, but also many others, 00:11:16.929 --> 00:11:20.350 or making references to things online like their 00:11:20.350 --> 00:11:23.929 fact, or actively chat GPT -ing it in front of 00:11:23.929 --> 00:11:26.669 my eyes, thinking that it's going to be true. 00:11:26.710 --> 00:11:28.470 Because here's the thing, guys, if you don't 00:11:28.470 --> 00:11:32.309 know this, chat GPT takes everything from the 00:11:32.309 --> 00:11:34.559 internet. And then puts it in a little pool, 00:11:34.799 --> 00:11:37.659 comes up with the most like concise answer and 00:11:37.659 --> 00:11:39.960 spits it out to you. So anything that is fact, 00:11:40.120 --> 00:11:42.299 anything that is fiction, anything that is true, 00:11:42.460 --> 00:11:44.460 anything that is false, anything that has been 00:11:44.460 --> 00:11:47.259 written down and published online gets pulled 00:11:47.259 --> 00:11:52.159 into it and then spit out. Okay. And the reason 00:11:52.159 --> 00:11:54.860 I don't have faith in chat GPT is I did Google 00:11:54.860 --> 00:11:56.700 something once and I decided to read the chat 00:11:56.700 --> 00:11:59.879 GPT answer. And it was like a Bible thing. And 00:11:59.879 --> 00:12:02.269 I knew for a fact that it was wrong. like 100 00:12:02.269 --> 00:12:05.029 % wrong. So then I went and looked up the actual 00:12:05.029 --> 00:12:07.289 verses and I was like, yeah, chat GPT was, it 00:12:07.289 --> 00:12:09.110 was trying to say like this one guy was a woman 00:12:09.110 --> 00:12:11.330 and was someone's mother. And I was like, no, 00:12:11.330 --> 00:12:14.610 that's not right. That's not right at all. And 00:12:14.610 --> 00:12:16.610 if that's not your clear giveaway, I don't know 00:12:16.610 --> 00:12:19.649 what else is. Before that, I never really used 00:12:19.649 --> 00:12:23.049 chat GPT, but I'm just saying anything online, 00:12:23.330 --> 00:12:26.610 anything on your TikTok, your Instagram, the 00:12:26.610 --> 00:12:30.750 Facebook and chat GPT, just please do your research. 00:12:31.259 --> 00:12:35.700 It's really hurting me. Like, I can't. I really 00:12:35.700 --> 00:12:37.700 can't. I'm losing all faith in the human race 00:12:37.700 --> 00:12:41.379 at this point. It's exhausting. So yeah, this 00:12:41.379 --> 00:12:43.679 is not towards anyone specific. This is towards 00:12:43.679 --> 00:12:46.960 everyone. Everyone I come into contact with. 00:12:47.019 --> 00:12:50.299 This is towards all of you, okay? Just want to 00:12:50.299 --> 00:12:53.320 make it clear. And if you give me a TikTok answer 00:12:53.320 --> 00:12:57.279 or a chat GPT answer, just know your credibility 00:12:57.279 --> 00:13:00.299 has gone out the door with me. I know. I sound 00:13:00.299 --> 00:13:02.740 like a hater. I know. I'm sorry if it hurts your 00:13:02.740 --> 00:13:05.179 feelings. I just think that you don't know how 00:13:05.179 --> 00:13:07.299 to do research on your own, and it's embarrassing, 00:13:07.419 --> 00:13:10.320 and we should all be embarrassed. Okay? Sorry. 00:13:11.139 --> 00:13:15.919 Anyways, that's all I have for you. It is going 00:13:15.919 --> 00:13:19.700 to be a UV tent today. I'm going to the pool, 00:13:19.799 --> 00:13:22.799 and this episode is going to be on gossip, so 00:13:22.799 --> 00:13:26.740 I hope you will love it. And yeah, that's it. 00:13:27.080 --> 00:13:35.820 So I hope you enjoyed this episode. I have to 00:13:35.820 --> 00:13:38.600 confess something to you. I live in a world of 00:13:38.600 --> 00:13:43.539 gossip and TBH, I don't hate it. It does get 00:13:43.539 --> 00:13:47.120 exhausting though, but it quite literally comes 00:13:47.120 --> 00:13:50.500 with the territory of my job. And sometimes the 00:13:50.500 --> 00:13:56.470 tea is piping hot. And maybe, just maybe, you 00:13:56.470 --> 00:14:00.330 can relate to it question mark or maybe you can't 00:14:00.330 --> 00:14:03.190 at all i mean okay i don't hate getting the tea 00:14:03.190 --> 00:14:06.009 on people i'll never meet who does it's like 00:14:06.009 --> 00:14:08.549 having a tv show you're listening to except you 00:14:08.549 --> 00:14:10.110 have no idea what the characters look like so 00:14:10.110 --> 00:14:13.429 you get to imagine everything and for me that 00:14:13.429 --> 00:14:16.129 is just how creativity is and how my brain works 00:14:16.129 --> 00:14:19.450 i don't dislike receiving information on what 00:14:19.450 --> 00:14:22.870 to me are basically fictional characters And 00:14:22.870 --> 00:14:25.429 I can't complain about hearing other people's 00:14:25.429 --> 00:14:28.029 drama that I will never have to deal with. Can 00:14:28.029 --> 00:14:30.509 I get an amen? Because I don't mind other people's 00:14:30.509 --> 00:14:33.850 drama as long as it's not my drama. And let me 00:14:33.850 --> 00:14:37.529 tell you, it's so easy to tell my clients my 00:14:37.529 --> 00:14:40.649 own gossip because there's no way on God's great 00:14:40.649 --> 00:14:43.830 earth that they will, one, connect it to my circle, 00:14:43.950 --> 00:14:46.750 and two, that they will ever become a part of 00:14:46.750 --> 00:14:49.990 my circle. So it's safe, in a sense, to... couldn't 00:14:49.990 --> 00:14:52.690 tell them these things but recently i found out 00:14:52.690 --> 00:14:55.309 that our brains when it comes to gossip actually 00:14:55.309 --> 00:14:58.470 accounts for that neuroscience news says a new 00:14:58.470 --> 00:15:01.509 study reveals how humans instinctively calculate 00:15:01.509 --> 00:15:04.809 who to gossip with by weighing popularity and 00:15:04.809 --> 00:15:08.000 social distance This cognitive process allows 00:15:08.000 --> 00:15:10.779 gossip to spread widely while minimizing the 00:15:10.779 --> 00:15:13.220 risk of it reaching the wrong person. Researchers 00:15:13.220 --> 00:15:16.259 found that people unconsciously build mental 00:15:16.259 --> 00:15:18.879 maps of their social networks to predict how 00:15:18.879 --> 00:15:21.500 gossip travels. These findings highlight the 00:15:21.500 --> 00:15:24.120 sophisticated role of gossip and social dynamics 00:15:24.120 --> 00:15:27.639 in the brain's hidden secret superpower. Um, 00:15:27.820 --> 00:15:32.730 that's crazy. Our brains literally help us decide 00:15:32.730 --> 00:15:35.330 who is safe to gossip with to minimize fallout 00:15:35.330 --> 00:15:39.450 between friends. I have this saying though, and 00:15:39.450 --> 00:15:41.529 unfortunately my mom has had to hear me say it 00:15:41.529 --> 00:15:43.509 a lot lately because there's a lot of gossip 00:15:43.509 --> 00:15:47.409 going on in my family. Not in the direct family, 00:15:47.710 --> 00:15:49.830 I will say in the extended family, but none of 00:15:49.830 --> 00:15:52.509 them listen to my podcast, so I can say that. 00:15:52.649 --> 00:15:55.610 Anyways, I've been telling my mom this saying, 00:15:55.750 --> 00:15:58.110 and it says don't say something out loud if you 00:15:58.110 --> 00:16:00.720 don't want it repeated out loud. I came up with 00:16:00.720 --> 00:16:03.100 it one summer when there was a huge fallout in 00:16:03.100 --> 00:16:05.200 a friend group. A guy friend of mine was having 00:16:05.200 --> 00:16:08.100 drama with his roommate and a crazy girl who 00:16:08.100 --> 00:16:10.399 I didn't know was crazy at the time and was friends 00:16:10.399 --> 00:16:13.179 with her. Anyway, she was sleeping with the roommate. 00:16:13.379 --> 00:16:16.320 Drama, drama, drama. So something hateful was 00:16:16.320 --> 00:16:19.919 said about her and I wanted her to stop wasting 00:16:19.919 --> 00:16:24.259 her time with the loser of a guy. So I told her 00:16:24.259 --> 00:16:26.950 because again, I didn't know she was crazy. Well, 00:16:27.110 --> 00:16:31.169 the roommate got mad at me, low -key, kind of 00:16:31.169 --> 00:16:34.230 as he should, but I told him, hey, listen, don't 00:16:34.230 --> 00:16:36.389 say something out loud if you don't want it repeated 00:16:36.389 --> 00:16:39.029 out loud. You should think before you just run 00:16:39.029 --> 00:16:41.450 your mouth. You can imagine that didn't go over 00:16:41.450 --> 00:16:44.929 well with him, but now everybody knows. If you 00:16:44.929 --> 00:16:47.269 talk trash about my friend, whether she's psycho 00:16:47.269 --> 00:16:50.950 or not, I'm going to let her know. Anyways, two 00:16:50.950 --> 00:16:56.670 years later, and only me and the one guy. from 00:16:56.670 --> 00:16:59.649 back in the day are still friends and the rest 00:16:59.649 --> 00:17:01.769 of that whole friend group does not hang out 00:17:01.769 --> 00:17:05.450 like at all. Which no one is surprised by because 00:17:05.450 --> 00:17:09.230 there was always drama and everyone was always 00:17:09.230 --> 00:17:11.769 talking crap about each other behind their backs. 00:17:11.990 --> 00:17:16.549 Well, except me. I did say it to their face often. 00:17:17.230 --> 00:17:20.369 Every time, actually. Back to the subject, though. 00:17:20.650 --> 00:17:23.210 If you think about it, gossip is junk food for 00:17:23.210 --> 00:17:26.000 the brain. Imagine you're at a party. Your bestie 00:17:26.000 --> 00:17:28.619 leans in close into your ear and says three simple 00:17:28.619 --> 00:17:32.380 words. Did you hear? And that's it. Your brain 00:17:32.380 --> 00:17:34.880 is lighting up with excitement like you're eating 00:17:34.880 --> 00:17:37.359 fresh Chick -fil -A on a Sunday or someone asked 00:17:37.359 --> 00:17:39.720 if you wanted to go get coffee. At least that's 00:17:39.720 --> 00:17:41.839 what has my brain light up. We don't start off 00:17:41.839 --> 00:17:43.799 our life eating junk food, just like we don't 00:17:43.799 --> 00:17:46.279 start off our life gossiping, y 'all. But oh, 00:17:46.400 --> 00:17:49.799 don't we just naturally love it? Gossip feeds 00:17:49.799 --> 00:17:52.299 the reward statement in our brain, which feels 00:17:52.299 --> 00:17:56.559 so good. Gossip actually can help predict who 00:17:56.559 --> 00:17:59.740 is friend or foe. Gossip involves complex social 00:17:59.740 --> 00:18:02.539 intelligence and emotional regulation. It's a 00:18:02.539 --> 00:18:05.839 social value in most circles, and it can help 00:18:05.839 --> 00:18:09.740 find common ground between acquaintances. I didn't 00:18:09.740 --> 00:18:12.539 mean to start listing positives, but here we 00:18:12.539 --> 00:18:16.039 are. So, it's like ice cream. We don't need ice 00:18:16.039 --> 00:18:18.640 cream, but ice cream serves a purpose, at least 00:18:18.640 --> 00:18:21.460 for me when I'm on my period, or when I want 00:18:21.460 --> 00:18:23.299 a sweet treat with a friend in the middle of 00:18:23.299 --> 00:18:26.309 summer. Like, are there better options out there? 00:18:26.829 --> 00:18:29.730 Absolutely. But do those options hold the same 00:18:29.730 --> 00:18:34.369 value or satisfaction? Probably not. Even if 00:18:34.369 --> 00:18:37.609 that satisfaction is fleeting, which with gossip 00:18:37.609 --> 00:18:41.890 and ice cream, it always is. Gossip being so 00:18:41.890 --> 00:18:44.930 integrated into my work life makes it hard to 00:18:44.930 --> 00:18:47.730 get away from and not participate in. So it's 00:18:47.730 --> 00:18:50.369 nice that it doesn't run rampant in my personal 00:18:50.369 --> 00:18:52.829 life. I'm never going to throw shade at those 00:18:52.829 --> 00:18:55.230 who gossip because it's such a human experience. 00:18:55.789 --> 00:18:59.210 But I will brag for a minute about my friendships. 00:18:59.450 --> 00:19:02.930 My one friend group here in Wilmy that is not 00:19:02.930 --> 00:19:06.650 built on Christian values. Man, those girls don't 00:19:06.650 --> 00:19:10.529 gossip at all. Like literally not at all. They 00:19:10.529 --> 00:19:13.549 shut it down or breeze right past it. The other 00:19:13.549 --> 00:19:15.390 day I said to one of them, I have to tell you 00:19:15.390 --> 00:19:17.640 some gossip. And she said, hmm. Interesting. 00:19:17.859 --> 00:19:22.480 I said, yeah, I know. And then that was it. That 00:19:22.480 --> 00:19:25.119 was quite literally it. We both just moved on. 00:19:25.480 --> 00:19:28.539 The only time you might catch us actually gossiping 00:19:28.539 --> 00:19:31.019 for a sec is when one of us is going through 00:19:31.019 --> 00:19:33.579 something and we're telling the whole story to 00:19:33.579 --> 00:19:37.079 get feedback. And then we move on. So I personally 00:19:37.079 --> 00:19:40.740 wouldn't call that gossip. Now, I did have a 00:19:40.740 --> 00:19:43.180 guy friend call me the other day and he said 00:19:43.180 --> 00:19:46.529 that. He was listening to this podcast at the 00:19:46.529 --> 00:19:48.230 beginning where me and one of my friends were 00:19:48.230 --> 00:19:50.109 just talking. And Eric, if you're listening to 00:19:50.109 --> 00:19:52.950 this, yes, I'm calling you out. And he was like, 00:19:52.990 --> 00:19:54.769 yeah, you guys were talking about her cat and 00:19:54.769 --> 00:19:56.750 you just spent like 10 minutes gossiping about 00:19:56.750 --> 00:20:00.309 her cat. First off, that's not gossip. That's 00:20:00.309 --> 00:20:02.309 having a conversation with your friend about 00:20:02.309 --> 00:20:06.130 her animal that you both live with. So I just 00:20:06.130 --> 00:20:10.230 hate when men call women having an actual conversation 00:20:10.230 --> 00:20:13.210 gossip because like that's legit not gossip. 00:20:14.649 --> 00:20:17.009 conversation for people to have. Let's just all 00:20:17.009 --> 00:20:21.730 be clear. Okay. Thank you. Back to the subject 00:20:21.730 --> 00:20:24.309 once again. I do want to say though, I've been 00:20:24.309 --> 00:20:26.589 a part of a friend group made up of girls who 00:20:26.589 --> 00:20:29.710 love Jesus. And let me tell you, they also love 00:20:29.710 --> 00:20:33.009 to gossip. It might not always come across as 00:20:33.009 --> 00:20:35.650 gossip, but by the time I'm getting a call or 00:20:35.650 --> 00:20:38.269 text that says, pray for Jessica because X, Y, 00:20:38.309 --> 00:20:42.049 Z. Well, you get the point. They overshared Jessica's 00:20:42.049 --> 00:20:44.470 business. Poor Jessica probably didn't want me 00:20:44.470 --> 00:20:48.210 to know her business. And it was all in disguise 00:20:48.210 --> 00:20:52.210 of a prayer request, that is. But I will also 00:20:52.210 --> 00:20:54.470 say that is the most Southern Christian way to 00:20:54.470 --> 00:20:57.150 spread gossip down here in the South. Anyone 00:20:57.150 --> 00:21:00.150 who goes to church in the Bible Belt knows exactly 00:21:00.150 --> 00:21:03.410 what I'm talking about. Like, why are we like 00:21:03.410 --> 00:21:06.349 this, though? Did you know that the average person 00:21:06.349 --> 00:21:10.549 in average conversation, Gossip makes up two 00:21:10.549 --> 00:21:13.509 -thirds of the conversation. Now, before you 00:21:13.509 --> 00:21:18.269 go, ugh, girls are the worst. BBC says, Gossipy 00:21:18.269 --> 00:21:21.410 women are overrepresented in popular images of 00:21:21.410 --> 00:21:25.289 gossip. An informal analysis of 100 Google images 00:21:25.289 --> 00:21:29.769 of gossip revealed 62 % were women only, 7 % 00:21:29.769 --> 00:21:33.430 were men only, and 31 % showed men and women 00:21:33.430 --> 00:21:37.400 gossiping. This reinforces the popular and enduring 00:21:37.400 --> 00:21:40.539 myth that men don't gossip, but research shows 00:21:40.539 --> 00:21:43.119 that men and women engage in the same amount 00:21:43.119 --> 00:21:46.619 of gossip activity. That means men and women 00:21:46.619 --> 00:21:51.039 gossip equally, y 'all. Both. It's not just us 00:21:51.039 --> 00:21:53.579 girls having conversations about our roommate's 00:21:53.579 --> 00:21:57.339 cat with said roommate. I do, however, remember 00:21:57.339 --> 00:21:59.440 in high school, my guy friends would come up 00:21:59.440 --> 00:22:01.720 to me and say, hey, what's the latest gossip? 00:22:02.460 --> 00:22:04.599 You got all the gossip. Share it with me. Come 00:22:04.599 --> 00:22:07.420 on. I know you have gossip. Just tell me. And 00:22:07.420 --> 00:22:10.099 in fact, I did not have gossip to tell or share, 00:22:10.279 --> 00:22:13.700 so I left them often disappointed. But do you 00:22:13.700 --> 00:22:15.940 know how often one of my girlfriends came up 00:22:15.940 --> 00:22:19.259 and asked me for gossip? Not once. I'm not joking. 00:22:19.779 --> 00:22:22.579 Not a single time. Maybe because it slips in 00:22:22.579 --> 00:22:24.640 more naturally into conversation between women, 00:22:24.720 --> 00:22:27.259 so they didn't have to ask. Or maybe because 00:22:27.259 --> 00:22:29.900 we had too much going on to share any gossip. 00:22:30.759 --> 00:22:33.319 Or maybe because we just didn't have gossip. 00:22:33.420 --> 00:22:37.000 Who knows? Clearly not me. I know I've shared 00:22:37.000 --> 00:22:38.940 this story, but I'm going to share it again because 00:22:38.940 --> 00:22:41.579 I have to brag on my bestie. But I was with Serena 00:22:41.579 --> 00:22:44.460 at a dinner with one of her friend groups. It 00:22:44.460 --> 00:22:46.500 was my first time meeting them. And the thing 00:22:46.500 --> 00:22:48.839 about me is when I'm around new people, I'm quiet. 00:22:49.279 --> 00:22:52.140 I am just watching. I'm getting a feel for the 00:22:52.140 --> 00:22:56.180 room. I'm taking it all in. And that's basically 00:22:56.180 --> 00:22:58.619 all I'm doing. So in that moment, that's what 00:22:58.619 --> 00:23:01.859 I was doing. There was like six to eight people. 00:23:01.900 --> 00:23:03.799 They were all engaged in the same conversation 00:23:03.799 --> 00:23:06.519 that I had nothing to do with and knew nothing 00:23:06.519 --> 00:23:08.519 about because I didn't know the person they were 00:23:08.519 --> 00:23:10.980 talking about. When all of a sudden Serena goes, 00:23:11.180 --> 00:23:14.160 hey, we're crossing the line into gossip, so 00:23:14.160 --> 00:23:16.359 let's change the conversation. They all quickly 00:23:16.359 --> 00:23:19.019 switched up the convo to something else. As for 00:23:19.019 --> 00:23:21.900 Bestie, I was so freaking impressed because I 00:23:21.900 --> 00:23:24.160 don't know if I would have the guts or the confidence 00:23:24.160 --> 00:23:27.359 to call out a group of friends that large at 00:23:27.359 --> 00:23:31.599 dinner in public, but... I will say she 100 % 00:23:31.599 --> 00:23:34.640 inspired me to do so in the future. The Journal 00:23:34.640 --> 00:23:37.759 of Science says, Negative gossip alters the way 00:23:37.759 --> 00:23:40.740 our visual system responds to a particular face. 00:23:41.400 --> 00:23:44.240 Y 'all, it will literally change. I don't know 00:23:44.240 --> 00:23:45.859 why I say literally like that, but that's what 00:23:45.859 --> 00:23:48.940 I have. It will literally change the way you 00:23:48.940 --> 00:23:54.279 visually perceive people. That is crazy. The 00:23:54.279 --> 00:23:56.920 Brainerd Academy says that when we gossip, our 00:23:56.920 --> 00:24:00.380 amygdala becomes overactive and overstimulated 00:24:00.380 --> 00:24:04.039 while our prefrontal cortex, well, while our, 00:24:04.119 --> 00:24:07.380 I'm like forgetting how to use my mouth. Maybe 00:24:07.380 --> 00:24:09.880 I talked too much today. While our prefrontal 00:24:09.880 --> 00:24:13.809 cortex loses its edge. Basically, it's the same 00:24:13.809 --> 00:24:16.730 case we can put our brain into fight or flight 00:24:16.730 --> 00:24:19.529 based on the topic of conversation, like how 00:24:19.529 --> 00:24:22.869 much it's stressing you out. So while we are 00:24:22.869 --> 00:24:26.910 here on negatives, let's continue. It can decline 00:24:26.910 --> 00:24:31.470 our focus, cloud judgment, memory friction, and 00:24:31.470 --> 00:24:34.670 again, we are being put into fight or flight 00:24:34.670 --> 00:24:36.750 mode. If you've ever been in that headspace, 00:24:36.990 --> 00:24:40.230 you know it is not healthy and it is not fun. 00:24:40.640 --> 00:24:43.079 And those are just some major negatives. Trust 00:24:43.079 --> 00:24:46.460 me, there are more. So, I have a question for 00:24:46.460 --> 00:24:48.960 you. Do you want to talk about the history of 00:24:48.960 --> 00:24:51.299 gossip before we jump into what the Bible says? 00:24:51.940 --> 00:24:57.579 Yes? Okay, great. BBC and other sites say during 00:24:57.579 --> 00:25:00.599 the Middle Ages, the word gossip, originally 00:25:00.599 --> 00:25:06.299 gossip, as in G -O -D -S -I -B -B, meaning a 00:25:06.299 --> 00:25:09.640 sponsor at baptism or a godparent in Old English, 00:25:10.109 --> 00:25:13.029 evolved to describe women who supported other 00:25:13.029 --> 00:25:15.990 women during childbirth. Okay, so you picture 00:25:15.990 --> 00:25:19.509 a midwife. We went from, in Middle Ages, gossip 00:25:19.509 --> 00:25:23.069 was a woman supporting other women during childbirth. 00:25:23.990 --> 00:25:26.990 Over time, and after a number of changes to spelling, 00:25:27.190 --> 00:25:30.289 the term gossip took on a meaning of a familiar 00:25:30.289 --> 00:25:34.490 acquaintance, a friend, and later to anyone engaging 00:25:34.490 --> 00:25:37.690 in familiar or idle talk. Today, the term is 00:25:37.690 --> 00:25:41.880 used and interpreted in an and a number of ways 00:25:41.880 --> 00:25:45.859 as a verb to gossip. A noun, the gossip, or even 00:25:45.859 --> 00:25:48.480 referred to a specific person who engages in 00:25:48.480 --> 00:25:52.700 gossipy behavior, a gossip. There was actually 00:25:52.700 --> 00:25:55.539 no negative meaning attached to gossip until 00:25:55.539 --> 00:25:58.920 the time of the European witch hunt in the 16th 00:25:58.920 --> 00:26:02.660 to 18th centuries. Gossip was a catalyst for 00:26:02.660 --> 00:26:05.579 accusations of witchcraft and sorcery leading 00:26:05.579 --> 00:26:09.880 to inhumane uses of medieval instruments. of 00:26:09.880 --> 00:26:13.099 torture. Dun, dun, dun. The scold bridle was 00:26:13.099 --> 00:26:15.500 designed to punish and prevent women from speaking. 00:26:15.720 --> 00:26:18.920 Thus, gossip, negative reputation, and stereotype 00:26:18.920 --> 00:26:23.420 as woman talk began. Paradoxically, at the same 00:26:23.420 --> 00:26:26.460 time, gossip as men's talk spread throughout 00:26:26.460 --> 00:26:29.720 the 17th and 18th century in English coffee houses 00:26:29.720 --> 00:26:32.980 and exclusive resorts of the educated and rich. 00:26:33.140 --> 00:26:36.230 They were places where men learned. And there's 00:26:36.230 --> 00:26:38.410 little evidence of women in the coffee houses 00:26:38.410 --> 00:26:41.450 unless they were servants. And their male students 00:26:41.450 --> 00:26:44.269 came to demonstrate their wit and intellectual 00:26:44.269 --> 00:26:47.369 talents. Here, the myth that women gossip but 00:26:47.369 --> 00:26:51.450 men have serious conversations was born. So now 00:26:51.450 --> 00:26:53.609 that we know what science has to say about gossip 00:26:53.609 --> 00:26:56.650 and where the word originated from, let's talk 00:26:56.650 --> 00:26:59.529 about what the Bible has to say about this not 00:26:59.529 --> 00:27:04.490 -so -hot topic. Lately, I am a big ESV girl, 00:27:04.529 --> 00:27:07.710 so that's the translation we will be using. Proverbs 00:27:07.710 --> 00:27:10.789 16 .28 says, A dishonest man spreads strife, 00:27:10.910 --> 00:27:13.869 and a whisper separates close friends. Proverbs 00:27:13.869 --> 00:27:16.869 20 .19 says, Whoever goes about slandering reveals 00:27:16.869 --> 00:27:20.809 secrets. Therefore, do not associate associate 00:27:20.809 --> 00:27:24.809 with a simple babbler. Ephesians 4 29 says, do 00:27:24.809 --> 00:27:27.349 not let any unwholesome talk come out of your 00:27:27.349 --> 00:27:30.210 mouth, but only what is helpful for building 00:27:30.210 --> 00:27:32.910 others up according to their needs, that it may 00:27:32.910 --> 00:27:36.529 benefit those who listen. Proverbs 11 13 says, 00:27:36.789 --> 00:27:40.210 a gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy 00:27:40.210 --> 00:27:43.390 person keeps a secret. Okay, those are just a 00:27:43.390 --> 00:27:47.759 few verses out of many. So we see the Bible says 00:27:47.759 --> 00:27:50.200 gossip betrays trust, it can separate friends, 00:27:50.440 --> 00:27:53.559 can cause conflict, and it has never been able 00:27:53.559 --> 00:27:56.680 to build up the one being talked about. And as 00:27:56.680 --> 00:27:59.000 we have learned from science, it doesn't build 00:27:59.000 --> 00:28:02.059 you up either. Like we don't become particularly 00:28:02.059 --> 00:28:06.819 smarter by gossiping. So what should we do? And 00:28:06.819 --> 00:28:10.259 it not be like in a lame or cheesy way. Well, 00:28:10.619 --> 00:28:12.359 I think it depends on the relationship to the 00:28:12.359 --> 00:28:15.759 person and how bold you want to be. So if I knew 00:28:15.759 --> 00:28:18.640 them well and would call them a friend but didn't 00:28:18.640 --> 00:28:21.079 want to make it awkward, I would just simply 00:28:21.079 --> 00:28:23.460 redirect the conversation, change the topic. 00:28:24.019 --> 00:28:27.500 But if you're feeling a little spicy for personal 00:28:27.500 --> 00:28:30.819 growth reasons or if they aren't the type to 00:28:30.819 --> 00:28:33.700 pick up on your subject change, then you'll just 00:28:33.700 --> 00:28:37.420 have to be bold and call it out. And once again, 00:28:37.799 --> 00:28:39.940 If you don't want to repeat it out loud, baby, 00:28:40.140 --> 00:28:43.259 we don't say it out loud. Now, my personal favorite 00:28:43.259 --> 00:28:45.720 thing to do with people, one, I just don't get 00:28:45.720 --> 00:28:48.220 along with and they are using gossip as a currency 00:28:48.220 --> 00:28:51.940 in the situation. I like to say, wow, that's 00:28:51.940 --> 00:28:54.339 a weird thing to tell me. And then my second 00:28:54.339 --> 00:28:57.960 option is to just be silent and stare. If it's 00:28:57.960 --> 00:29:01.119 someone I don't dislike but hold no strong relationship 00:29:01.119 --> 00:29:04.579 with, every once in a while I'll say, well, there's 00:29:04.579 --> 00:29:08.039 two sides to a story. And then I walk away. to 00:29:08.039 --> 00:29:11.500 go get something, quote unquote. The truth is 00:29:11.500 --> 00:29:13.559 there are probably many ways to handle it or 00:29:13.559 --> 00:29:16.960 shut it down if you feel called to, and it all 00:29:16.960 --> 00:29:19.359 depends on the situation and environment. As 00:29:19.359 --> 00:29:21.619 I already said though, I don't shut down the 00:29:21.619 --> 00:29:24.259 gossip my clients tell me because it makes the 00:29:24.259 --> 00:29:27.000 day go by faster. It informs me of their lives 00:29:27.000 --> 00:29:29.180 and is something for us to catch up on in the 00:29:29.180 --> 00:29:32.740 future, but I do come home more exhausted than 00:29:32.740 --> 00:29:35.319 the days I don't have an overload of gossip. 00:29:35.769 --> 00:29:38.109 Maybe you've been feeling pulled to not participate 00:29:38.109 --> 00:29:41.509 in gossip, and maybe you already knew what the 00:29:41.509 --> 00:29:44.710 Bible had to say, but knowing what science had 00:29:44.710 --> 00:29:47.549 to say confirmed something for you. Maybe you 00:29:47.549 --> 00:29:50.410 have bitterness around the mis -designed assumptions 00:29:50.410 --> 00:29:52.930 when it comes to gossip, and knowing the history 00:29:52.930 --> 00:29:56.279 of it gave you clarity and put it to ease. Maybe 00:29:56.279 --> 00:29:59.259 you've been so over it and exhausted by the gossip 00:29:59.259 --> 00:30:01.579 around you in this world, but you didn't have 00:30:01.579 --> 00:30:03.799 the tools to shut it down in your life. Well, 00:30:03.960 --> 00:30:07.359 now you do because one, we can call it out. Two, 00:30:07.559 --> 00:30:10.559 we can change the topic. Or three, blank stare 00:30:10.559 --> 00:30:12.960 it up, baby. I guess whatever floats your boat 00:30:12.960 --> 00:30:16.819 in the situation at that time. Anyways, that's 00:30:16.819 --> 00:30:18.700 all I have for you today. I hope you learned 00:30:18.700 --> 00:30:21.779 something or got reaffirmed in some way or like 00:30:21.779 --> 00:30:24.240 whatever you needed. I hope you got it, girl. 00:30:24.440 --> 00:30:27.759 Okay, let's pray. Jesus, thank you so much for 00:30:27.759 --> 00:30:30.299 your words of wisdom and the Bible about gossip. 00:30:30.460 --> 00:30:33.859 That it helps us protect friendships. It helps 00:30:33.859 --> 00:30:36.440 us protect the body of Christ. It helps us protect 00:30:36.440 --> 00:30:39.099 our brain. And it keeps us from getting ugly 00:30:39.099 --> 00:30:41.740 if we don't gossip because gossip can cause stress 00:30:41.740 --> 00:30:44.720 and stress makes you ugly. I thank you that for 00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:46.759 the person who does deal with gossip, either 00:30:46.759 --> 00:30:50.029 being spoken about them, that... They know that 00:30:50.029 --> 00:30:52.170 you're walking with them. Because honestly, Jesus, 00:30:52.289 --> 00:30:54.890 low -key, you were high -key gossiped about a 00:30:54.890 --> 00:30:58.890 lot in the Bible. And if anyone knows what it's 00:30:58.890 --> 00:31:01.170 like to be gossiped about, it's you. Because 00:31:01.170 --> 00:31:03.529 gossip isn't always true. And for the girl who 00:31:03.529 --> 00:31:06.210 does gossip, I ask that, and who wants to stop, 00:31:06.390 --> 00:31:09.109 I ask that you help her guard her mouth. That 00:31:09.109 --> 00:31:11.470 she learns to watch what she says and speak about 00:31:11.470 --> 00:31:14.250 others the way that she wishes to be spoken of. 00:31:14.390 --> 00:31:16.130 And I just thank you for the kindness that you 00:31:16.130 --> 00:31:19.309 show us every day. And in your name. In Jesus' 00:31:19.430 --> 00:31:32.089 name, amen. Okay, that's all I have for you today. 00:31:32.210 --> 00:31:34.369 Thank you so much for listening to the Living 00:31:34.369 --> 00:31:37.970 Free Podcast. 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