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The Daily Mess Older People Who Hug Plus What If You Become A Hugger · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 1: doing the research. For instance, why do older people evolve
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  Speaker 1: into huggers? Ooh. Plus, learning how to accept the idea
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  Speaker 1: that you're becoming a hugger. My name is Arrow. I'm
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  Speaker 1: the picture is always going to become clearer. This is
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  Speaker 1: the daily mess. Why do people of later years evolve
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  Speaker 1: into huggers? I mean, what happened here to just keeping
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  Speaker 1: some distance between us and them? Well, it's because after
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  Speaker 1: all of these years, people become more comfortable with physical affection,
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  Speaker 1: especially hugging. But why? When we're younger, the distance we
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  Speaker 1: put in between us and others feels more like protection.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, who wants to look vulnerable? Needy doesn't look pretty. Plus, ouch,
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  Speaker 1: that's the feeling of invading someone's personal space. This is
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  Speaker 1: why we shake hands, nod our heads, and simply say, hey,
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  Speaker 1: good to see you, but the priorities change. Time becomes
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  Speaker 1: more precious. A hug becomes a great way to ask,
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  Speaker 1: so how the hell are you? As we age, people
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  Speaker 1: become less concerned about emotional public display, plus loss becomes
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  Speaker 1: When we start losing family members and friends, our perspectives
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  Speaker 1: physically change. The old social rules loosen up and the
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  Speaker 1: invisible boundary of keep your distance becomes less important. What
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  Speaker 1: happens to distance? Well, when you're young, it's don't even
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  Speaker 1: think about getting that close. The older years unveil the
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  Speaker 1: attitude of get over here. And let's be honest, that
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  Speaker 1: hug from someone you know. And let's be honest, that
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  Speaker 1: hug you get from someone you've known for years, it
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  Speaker 1: just feels so much better than that stupid, typical handshake.
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  Speaker 1: It's no longer about space and more about connection. The
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  Speaker 1: question is, do you feel it? Coming up next, how
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  Speaker 1: do you accept yourself as being a hugger? Hey, thanks
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  Speaker 1: for coming back to The Daily Mess. How do you
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  Speaker 1: accept being a hugger when most outsiders are usually thinking, ooh,
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  Speaker 1: what are you, gay? Hey, here's the thing, here's the thing. First,
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  Speaker 1: there's absolutely nothing inherently gay about being a hugger. A
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  Speaker 1: hug is a human gesture of affection, comfort, friendship, or
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  Speaker 1: simply love. Connection. This becomes noticeable as we age. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we're less concerned about keeping emotional distance and more willing
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  Speaker 1: to say, I care for you. If you're being judged
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  Speaker 1: for being an open hugger, it's absolutely okay to defend yourself.
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  Speaker 1: Just very calmly say, this is who I am. I'm
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  Speaker 1: a hugger. It's how I show people that I really
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  Speaker 1: give a damn. A hug does not define you. Oh,
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  Speaker 1: please let me say that again. A hug defines. Does
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  Speaker 1: not define you. There's a bigger question here. Are you
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  Speaker 1: truly comfortable with being more open with your affection without
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  Speaker 1: letting other people assume that you're just trying to take control?
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  Speaker 1: Here's the reality. If hugging feels natural and respectful, there's
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  Speaker 1: no reason to give up something that is so warm
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  Speaker 1: and very freaking human. Just because someone doesn't understand it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you have to walk off and hide
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  Speaker 1: in a cave. I mean, I laugh at moments like
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  Speaker 1: this because we're living life. Life is not perfect. We
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  Speaker 1: are overtaken by worry, doubt, freaky uncertainty, nervousness, mentally incapable situations.
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  Speaker 1: And is there anybody here that might be a hugger?
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  Speaker 1: Because I think we all need one right now. I'm Errol.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the Daily Mess.