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How do narcissists handle it when you reject them · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on duty for people walking to another episode of
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  the narcissist Code? I'm your favorite selfaware
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  narcissist Mr. Lee Hammett better known as mental illness
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  across all social media platforms.
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  This is the first time I see my face or hear my voice.
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  I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform
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  on social media to raise awareness for NPD, get more
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  people into therapy and also validate the victims, survivors
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  and thrivers of said disorder, said Toxic people said toxic
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  Trace. Today's episode is going to be
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  about how do narcissist handle rejection.
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  How, how, how how. So before you hop in today's
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  authenticity after a, you know, touch relationship and what not.
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  But yeah, yeah, how do some narcissists handle rejection?
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  It's going to be different, but everybody's going to handle
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  rejection differently. Y'all, I promise you that every
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  single narcissistic person that you deal with, toxic person that
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  you deal with, is going to handle rejection in a different
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  way. Some of them when you reject the
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  narcissist, like if you reject the narcissist that's that's
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  trying to date you, right? The narcissistic person is
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  trying to date you or be in a relationship with you, you
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  reject them, then some of them will get absolutely angry as
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  hell at you. Y'all this is when you see the
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  narcissistic person. Just like when they when you try
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  to approach them or you try to date them or you try to give
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  them a compliment or something like that and they you and they
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  reject. Wait, wait.
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  If they try to approach you, give you a compliment or
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  something like that and you reject them, they can become
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  outright. This is a lot of time when you
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  see like you see the narcissistic people that do the
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  cat calls. There's cat calling people and
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  then when the person the the typically is a woman when the
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  person doesn't respond, they over doesn't respond how they
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  wanted to respond. You ugly, then you fat then you
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  ought to shave there. I just wanted to hit it.
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  That's when you see some narcissistic people become very
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  childish in their responses and they tried to hurt the other
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  person's feelings because guess what, my feelings are hurt,
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  their feelings are hurt. So that's how it goes a lot of
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  times in these spaces y'all they just want to match your energy.
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  Like you make me feel rejected, you make me feel ashamed.
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  So I need to make you feel the same thing.
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  I need to match your energy, even though you didn't.
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  Even though I'm not matching your energy, I feel like I I
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  feel like I am. You just rejected me by saying
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  no or not responding how I wanted you to respond.
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  It's all the same. Y'all it.
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  It doesn't. It doesn't matter your tone, it
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  doesn't matter how you say it. Rejection is rejection to
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  narcissistic people. They're going to get mad.
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  Some of them will absolutely get mad.
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  They just will if they approach you, give you, give you a
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  compliment or something like that, and you don't respond how
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  they want you to do. Rar, rar.
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  You want to get the anger, you're going to get the disdain.
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  You're going to get the hate. You're going to get a lot of
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  different things. Y'all, some, a lot of
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  narcissists. Y'all.
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  It's not just some. A lot of narcissists cannot
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  handle the rejection. It just, it's just rejection.
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  Y'all when the narcissist gets rejected, it just it brings on
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  the shame monster. Rejection can lead to some
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  narcissistic bring bringing on the shame monster.
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  So much shame. Just like it's like a big tidal
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  wave of shame just drops in on their narcissistic person.
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  That's what rejection does. It hurts.
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  It sucks, you know? And I know it hurts and sucks
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  for everybody. I know this is not just a
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  narcissistic thing everybody has to deal with.
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  Everybody has to deal with rejection in some way, shape or
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  form. But a lot of times, narcissistic
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  people are going to respond in a negative way.
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  They just are. They're going to come at you.
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  They're going to be super angry as hell.
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  They're going to be. They might.
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  Some of them might get violent with you.
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  Y'all. You know, man, when you reject
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  that narcissistic person, just, I mean, you might not know that
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  they're a narcissist. They might be a stranger to you.
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  But if you reject the narcissist, they're gonna take
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  out, some of them will absolutely just lose their damn
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  minds. And that's part of that, that's
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  part of this of the of the space, that's part of the
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  dynamic. That's how a lot of people deal
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  right there. And I I was trying to share that
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  with a lot of people. Just, hey, look, this is what's
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  going on right here. This is what's going on in this
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  space. This is what happens.
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  This is what you know. This is the you know, this is
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  the kind of the cost of of getting rejecting them.
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  I know you don't necessarily want to pay that cost, but it
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  is. And sometimes with narcissists,
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  y'all some of them handle rejection this way, rejection or
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  send the word no to Narciss, rejection breeds obsession.
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  Some of them will become obsessed with you, like if
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  you're in a relationship with them or if you're not in
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  relationship with them, Like even if you're in one or not in
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  one, they will become angry with you, they will become super,
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  super accusated with you and they become obsessed with you.
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  That's when this y'all, this is when it's stalking and stuff
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  like this begins. This is when they start to stalk
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  you. This is when they start to pop
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  up at your job and work and send you letters and try to get back
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  into your life in some way, shape or form.
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  Even if you don't have a relationship with this person,
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  they will try to find a way to stalk you and find you and stuff
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  like that. You have to be very, very
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  careful in a lot of these situations.
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  You just, you just have to, you know, you have to be very
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  careful in a lot of these situations because that
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  narcissistic person is going to do something.
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  They could do something to you. They just could, you know, They
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  very well could. So be careful, like, take your
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  space. Take some time for yourself.
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  Y'all. Because if you don't, you're
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  going to run into this toxic, this toxic person.
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  When you reject them, they can become obsessed.
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  So protect yourself if you like to say.
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  If you dealt with the Narcis, if you're in a relationship with
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  them and you reject them, you already know.
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  You probably know who you're dealing with.
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  They might become obsessed with you.
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  They might rage y'all. Or you might get a combination
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  of all of it. Y'all.
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  You might get a combination of the rage, the obsession, the the
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  anger, the silent treatment When they reject you, reject them
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  when you know them or you're in a relationship with them or you
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  around them. If you could be your parent,
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  they could give you the silent treatment and just completely
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  shut down. Like I I don't, I don't know.
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  I haven't seen a narcissist that's that handles rejection
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  well. Anybody, anybody I've dealt with
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  is narcissistic or anybody that I know, just even in any of the
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  communities I'm part of, I haven't seen the narcissist deal
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  with rejection. Well, I never seen them.
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  Just like, oh, that's that's fine.
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  Everybody's entitled to their own opinion.
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  Oh, that's fine. Everybody's not going to say yes
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  to me. Oh, I I get a lot of notes.
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  I never said one that someone knew it.
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  Yeah, I know. I haven't seen one.
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  Because sometimes when you reject, like when you reject the
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  Narciss job, you you say no to them, you reject them.
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  Sometimes they yeah, they might not even, you might not even
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  know. You hurt their feelings, but
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  they hold a they will hold a grudge forever, that rejection.
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  Sometimes they'll use that as motivation in their life.
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  To try to be. To to become super ambitious
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  with the intent on coming back. To hurt your phone in some way,
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  shape or form. To prove that you that you
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  messed up by saying no to me. To prove that you that you're
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  missing out on a good life by by not being here.
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  To prove to you that you, hey, you made, you made a gross error
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  in judgment. You were negligent in your
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  judgment of me. So this is to prove to you that
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  this is how it's going to go right here.
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  This is the space that a lot of people fall into right here.
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  That's why. And This is why I tell people
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  like this is what happens. This is how it goes.
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  We deal with toxic, narcissistic people.
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  They're going to continuously do stuff like this and they they're
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  going to mess with you. They they just are you.
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  When you reject the narcissism, when you say no, when you set a
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  boundary boundaries, the word no, all of that is a rejection.
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  Y'all not giving them the answer that they won't.
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  That's rejection negotiated with them.
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  They can, they can view that as rejection.
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  There's different forms of rejection, but it always kind of
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  ends the same way with that person taking offense to the
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  rejection. You can let them.
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  Like there's no such thing as letting a narcissist down easy,
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  from what I've seen. Prove me wrong.
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  You mean there's no such thing as letting a narcissist down
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  either? I'm going to, I'm going to let
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  them down easy. I'm going to break up with them
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  and there's going to be a kind, a kind hearted breakup or
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  something like that. I don't.
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  I don't. I don't see that transpiring,
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  transpiring when you're dealing with a narcissistic person.
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  I just, this is not something I see happening, like that
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  narcissistic tax person or whatever.
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  It's going to take offense to everything that you do,
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  everything that you say, everything you know, everything
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  that goes on. So you have to protect your
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  peace, you know, because once you reject them, once you say no
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  to them, especially if you already know them, If you don't
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  know them, y'all, you don't really know what you're going to
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  get. If this is a if this
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  narcissistic person is a stranger to you, you don't
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  really know what you're going to get.
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  And a lot of people, especially in today's society, have been
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  conditioned to, you know, try to let people down and be nice to
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  people when you're rejecting them because you never know how
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  somebody's going to react. Because I saw a video very
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  recently. Young lady had on the.
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  I guess she had on like a pink dress.
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  She's ready to go into the club. And the guy said, hey young
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  lady, you look really, really good.
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  And now you're looking real good tonight.
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  You bad, you bad. I take you home, I'll get you
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  pregnant. And she's like, yeah, no, I'm
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  not interested. She said no, I'm not interested.
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  And then guess what happened? She said, no, I'm not
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  interested. He went ballistic.
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  He lost his damn mind. He doesn't know her.
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  She doesn't know him. All she said was no, I'm not
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  interested. He lost his Dang on my I did the
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  video about it recently. It's back back on my YouTube
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  channel. He was threatening to hurt her,
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  put her in his truck and make her go missing.
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  He was like he lost his damn mind because he all she did, all
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  he said was no, I'm interested. He's like, I actually be
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  interested. I just try to give you a
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  compliment. See that's wrong with y'all.
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  Y'all be worries today. Y'all can't handle nothing that
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  nobody say to y'all. Y'all can't get a compliment.
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  Y'all don't know. I take a compliment.
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  I'll give her a compliment. Y'all see how she act running up
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  on her being threatening towards her.
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  And now what she did was say no, I'm not interested.
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  Of course he was interested in her.
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  She hurt you. Of course she was interested.
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  He was interested in her. She was just not interested in
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  him. And of course he got his
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  feelings hurt. He rejected her and he became
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  super obsessed and angry and raging out.
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  And then all of a sudden then when she rejected him, it's all
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  of a sudden. You're not cute at all.
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  You're not that cute. I was just trying to be nice.
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  You can't be nice today. In this day and age.
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  See, me and not her can't be nice to people.
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  He was toxic. He considered himself a nice
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  guy. Yep, the nice guy snapping and
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  raging up. So you just never know how how a
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  stranger is going to react to you y'all.
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  So if you like, say rejection, you know, just be careful out
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  here, this world today, y'all because you never know how
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  somebody's going to react or somebody's going to take their
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  rejection personally. Get a side treatment, ignore
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  you, try to harm you, try to hurt you, threaten you, you
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  know, try to bring you know, disrupt, disrupt the balance of
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  peace within your life and within your space.
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  It happens quite a bit. Y'all it really really does.
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