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Season 4 - Episode 323 - Christmas Eve message for managing our emotions · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good Morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my Chicken coop and I
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  come out here. Every day to record a podcast
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  to. Teach distinctions,
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  possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring some
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  joy. Into the.
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  World. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good early morning.
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  I'm actually standing on the porch.
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  It's pitch dark and it's Christmas Eve and this quiet,
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  this beautiful quiet with just the wind in the background, no
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  noise. So Dark Rooster hasn't even
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  started going off yet has really got me into this place of
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  thinking. You know, holidays can be so
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  stressful because we worry about interacting with other people or
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  how things are going to go or is the meal going to be on time?
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  Or am I going to get the present I want?
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  Or is anyone going to Remember Me?
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  And we start to spin in our head before anything even happens.
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  And this is a very normal condition, my friends.
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  It happens constantly. It happens to me.
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  But the issue is not like, is it going to happen?
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  Because it most likely is going to happen.
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  We could, we could predict pretty well.
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  We'll start thinking about, well, what's going to happen
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  when Uncle Harold gets there? You know how that's going to go.
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  Like we, we just go into those stories, but those stories have
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  energy, those stories have emotion with them.
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  And when we get into that emotion and that space, all of a
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  sudden we start attracting it and we start becoming very.
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  It's almost like you're magnetic in the sense that you're pulling
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  those things right to you instead of just being,
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  acknowledging that that's a possibility, allowing yourself
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  to be mentally prepared. How am I going to handle it if
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  something shows up? What is the best way for me to
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  me to handle it? And then moving on from it.
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  So you don't attract it, just acknowledge it, see what's
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  there, and then move on from it because nothing is more
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  important than keeping in the right energy when you're in
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  this. And this is Christmas Eve for
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  Christians, this is a very, very, very special time.
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  So here we are on the precipice of having this happen.
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  And we're worried about the interaction of us with people
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  or, you know, going to a new restaurant.
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  So we traditionally we go out to eat on Christmas Eve and then
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  cook on Christmas Day and stay home and have like a really nice
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  quiet Christmas Day. That's like always been the
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  tradition since I was a little girl and that's what we stick
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  to. That's like, I've always just
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  made that happen with my family. So tonight we are going to a
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  brand new restaurant and you know, the first question that
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  was thrown my way was, huh, well, do we know if it's going
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  to be any good? Have we talked to anybody that
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  was there? And the reality is there are not
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  a lot of restaurants that are open on Christmas Eve where we
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  live. And there are a good number of
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  them, but not a ton of them. And I wanted to try something
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  different. So I kind of threw it out there
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  and said, OK, let's just try it now.
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  Am I concerned if it's going to be good or not?
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  Well, it it wouldn't matter, would it?
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  Because I'm going to go anyway and I'm going to have a good
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  time because it's something different and try something
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  different and it looks fabulous. But we'll see.
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  We will see what it's like. And the more important part of
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  it is when the question was thrown out, could that have been
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  a trigger? Sure, because I was the one that
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  did the planning and I was the one that put put it together.
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  But instead I just was like, I don't know, we'll see.
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  And it was very much AI did not allow it to affect me.
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  And that's how you have to take all of this on for the holiday.
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  When something is thrown your way, when something is said,
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  when someone is perceived to be critical or someone is perceived
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  to be joking in a way you don't like, or when someone is being
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  too political or someone is being just, you know, not nice
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  or inconsiderate. That's a really big one that I
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  hear from a lot of people that I work with is that people are
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  inconsiderate. They don't think about should I
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  offer to help. Now, some people don't like to
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  have help cleaning up. I happen to be one of them.
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  But I do want people to like at least bring things to the
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  counter. I just like to do the stuff
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  myself. I like to stay busy.
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  I don't like to just sit. It doesn't make me feel good to
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  just sit. So I like to be busy buzzing
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  around like, you know, the bee kind of thing.
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  And but I still would like people to be considerate and
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  bring their stuff to the counter.
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  And I have to watch myself because I can be like so
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  judgmental if someone's not at least bringing something to the
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  counter for me. Now that might be very
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  legitimate, but it's my job to manage that thought process and
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  I know it. Do I do it 100% well, all the
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  time? Hell no.
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  I'm a human and sometimes it gets the best of me and
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  sometimes I'm just like, you know what?
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  No, that really was crappy what they did.
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  And I'm OK saying it. And, and that is true.
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  You can feel that way, but you can't hang on to that emotion.
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  That's the key. You can't hang on to it.
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  Manage your expectations, manage your language, manage what
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  you're allowing to set in over the next 24 hours, and hopefully
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  you will be able to navigate this holiday season really,
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  really well and not have the stress of having it all come
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  back and bite you in the hiney. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed, blessed Christmas Eve and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Bye.