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Men Remarry · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: why do men remarry so much faster than women do
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  Speaker 1: after divorces or deaths of their first spouses.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 1: And joining us now our American mama's on the phone,
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  Speaker 1: Terry Nedeville and Kimberly Burlison. How y'all doing today?
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  Speaker 3: Hey, gaonderful.
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  Speaker 1: So this is something that I've noticed for a very
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  Speaker 1: very long time that men after divorces, they're usually the
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  Speaker 1: ones faster to get remarried. After the death of a spouse,
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  Speaker 1: men are often faster to get remarried. I know more
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  Speaker 1: women who after the death of their spouse never got remarried.
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  Speaker 1: I know a lot of men who after the death
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  Speaker 1: of their spouse got remarried within a year. Why is that?
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  Speaker 3: You know, this is so weird because this is actually
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  Speaker 3: happening in our life. You know, as you know, my
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  Speaker 3: mom and dad were married forty years, and then after
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  Speaker 3: my dad died, my mom eight years later married a
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  Speaker 3: man who also had been married thirty years and his
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  Speaker 3: wife died. They got married after a month. Well, my
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  Speaker 3: mom died four and a half months ago, and her
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  Speaker 3: husband is in love again, and as happy as we
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  Speaker 3: are for him, there's that little sting. You just kind
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  Speaker 3: of feel a little bit of sting of that. But
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  Speaker 3: you have to realize that grief for your companion is
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  Speaker 3: very different than for children. Our grief is forever. But
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  Speaker 3: I know that men they women. We have lots of friendships,
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  Speaker 3: We have a lot of women that we can fight,
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  Speaker 3: and men don't. Usually their best friend is their wife.
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  Speaker 3: And so I get it. I totally understand that I
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  Speaker 3: wouldn't do it. I would not get married again.
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  Speaker 4: Well you know, I will say, let me just speak, okay,
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  Speaker 4: so the earthly me says one thing. So when I'm
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  Speaker 4: in heaven, I know I would want Kevin to marry again.
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  Speaker 4: I know I want him to love again. But I'll
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  Speaker 4: tell you the first time that this kind of happened
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  Speaker 4: is when what we had a distant cousin that passed
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  Speaker 4: away and a few years ago, and like two weeks later,
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  Speaker 4: her husband was dating the lady that owned the funeral
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  Speaker 4: home and we were like, wait what And it was Mom.
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  Speaker 4: Whenever I called Mom with fatigle you will never believe
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  Speaker 4: and said, she said, terry men cannot be by themselves.
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  Speaker 4: They cannot be alone, especially if they've had a good marriage.
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  Speaker 4: And you know, you just can't judge anybody until they're
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  Speaker 4: in that until you're in that situation. And I thought,
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  Speaker 4: oh wow, I don't know that's that's quite fast. Well then,
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  Speaker 4: you know, since said, I've had some friends pass away
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  Speaker 4: and their husbands do move on within the year. So
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  Speaker 4: one night I was talking to Kevin and and I
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  Speaker 4: was talking about this very subject and like I said,
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  Speaker 4: the heavenly me will be happy for him, but the
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  Speaker 4: earth of me is like, I will haunts your tail
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  Speaker 4: so hard they can get married within the year. And
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  Speaker 4: so anyway, so we started talking about it, and he
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  Speaker 4: was like, Terry. He's like, now, Terry, look, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 4: die before you. Anyway, I said, let me tell you something.
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  Speaker 4: We got this argument, y'all. We got an argument, and
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  Speaker 4: by the end of it, he said, wait a minute,
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  Speaker 4: it would time out.
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  Speaker 3: He said, time out.
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  Speaker 4: We are in a fight over me with a younger
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  Speaker 4: wife I've never met. I'm in Hawaii with her.
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  Speaker 3: He said, You've.
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  Speaker 4: Always wanted to go, but I didn't take you. But
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  Speaker 4: now I'm with her on the beach of Hawaii. I said, yes, Kevin,
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  Speaker 4: that's going to happen. And I said, you know what,
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  Speaker 4: and let me just tell you something. You're gonna have
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  Speaker 4: a bunch of women come after you because they're going
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  Speaker 4: to see the end behind your name. But guess what,
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  Speaker 4: just on them because you are so tight with your money.
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  Speaker 4: I hope, I hope he does come for your mind,
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  Speaker 4: he said, Terry.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not.
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  Speaker 4: I don't. He's got me married off in Hawaii using
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  Speaker 4: our children's money.
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  Speaker 1: He got in trouble over nothing that he's done, Oh
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  Speaker 1: my gosh, nothing.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, he may not, he may not. I mean really,
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  Speaker 4: and truly, I will say the best cook wins. So
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  Speaker 4: I don't know so we younger or older. I don't
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  Speaker 4: know who she is, but the best bless his heart,
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  Speaker 4: and he has had to do without that for all
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  Speaker 4: this stuff.
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  Speaker 3: So whoever is the.
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  Speaker 4: Best in the kitchen winds wins his heart. But I
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  Speaker 4: did my children. I did tell them, I said, listen,
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  Speaker 4: if she's y'all's age, make make him suffer. And he
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  Speaker 4: did talk about Terry.
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  Speaker 3: I was not never going to do this, that.
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  Speaker 2: Wow of it.
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  Speaker 4: But I will say you know that Heavenly me, I
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  Speaker 4: like my mom when it comes to this, I definitely
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  Speaker 4: don't want him to be alone. I know men cannot
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  Speaker 4: be by themselves, and I've been a really good wife
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  Speaker 4: and I feel like that he would definitely have to
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  Speaker 4: have somebody with him. I just asked him to kind of,
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  Speaker 4: you know, hold on, keep it a secret for a year,
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  Speaker 4: and then go public if he wants to after a year,
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  Speaker 4: you know, I'll probably help set it up. But like
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  Speaker 4: after two months, if you go Facebook, it's still I
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  Speaker 4: swear you're gonna hear You're gonna hear ghosts, chains blinking
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  Speaker 4: in the night, because I'm gonna make life miserable. From
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  Speaker 4: the other.
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  Speaker 2: Side, I think what you're saying, Terry, is the better
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  Speaker 2: the marriage, the quicker the man will remarry.
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  Speaker 4: Well yeah, well if that's the truth, Lewis, then he'll
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  Speaker 4: be married in a week.
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  Speaker 3: I'm possible.
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  Speaker 1: If you like that, that's hilarious. If you'd like to
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  Speaker 1: Mama's button. Terry Nutteville, Kimberly Burls and thank y'all so much,
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  Speaker 1: Thank
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  Speaker 4: You Black guys,