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2nd DATE UPDATE: Ava & Elias · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: The next segment we're going to do is called second
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  Speaker 1: Date Update, because that's what we're going to try and
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  Speaker 1: get and that's what the bit is called. Second Date
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  Speaker 1: Update starts right now on John Jayne Ridge one O.
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  Speaker 2: Four to seven Kiss FM. John Jay and Rich Time
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  Speaker 2: for Second Date Update. You meet somebody, you go out
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  Speaker 2: a date, you have a good time. You expect there
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  Speaker 2: to be a second date. It doesn't happen. You talk
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  Speaker 2: to your friends, you talk to your family. Somebody says,
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  Speaker 2: why don't you go on Second Date Update with.
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  Speaker 3: John Jay and Rich.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, that's a great idea. We'll find out why. Ava.
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  Speaker 5: Good morning, Good morning.
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  Speaker 4: What's your story? Ava?
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  Speaker 6: So I'm calling because I'm I'm genuinely dis confused. I
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  Speaker 6: went on a date with this guy. I met him
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  Speaker 6: un hinge and.
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  Speaker 7: I really liked him.
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  Speaker 6: Which is it's kind of rare for me because I'm
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  Speaker 6: pretty shy and I don't really date much.
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  Speaker 7: But the dates felt so good, Like we talked for
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  Speaker 7: a long.
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  Speaker 6: Time, he was nice, asked me questions. I actually felt
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  Speaker 6: comfortable being myself. Uh So, when beside good bye, he
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  Speaker 6: hugged told me he had a great time too. He
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  Speaker 6: even texted me when he got home saying the same thing.
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  Speaker 6: So I thought everything was fine. But but after that
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  Speaker 6: everything started getting shorter and slower, and now it feels
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  Speaker 6: like he's basically disappeared. And I just keep replaying the
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  Speaker 6: whole thing in my mind. And maybe I was too quiet,
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  Speaker 6: Maybe I was boring, or I don't know, maybe saying.
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  Speaker 7: That I did tell him that I don't date a lot.
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  Speaker 6: Maybe that was weird. I just need to figure this out,
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  Speaker 6: or if I'm just overthinking it. I just want to know.
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  Speaker 8: Mmmm, shy and quiet Eva. I mean it sounds like
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  Speaker 8: you you you talk now, you were just quiet on
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  Speaker 8: the date, right, you said felt really good? So you
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  Speaker 8: must have been talking on the date.
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  Speaker 6: Oh yeah, no, in this That's why I really want
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  Speaker 6: to know what happened is because I did. I felt
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  Speaker 6: like I was able.
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  Speaker 7: To be myself and come out of my shell.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah.
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  Speaker 7: I don't know what happened.
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  Speaker 9: Maybe maybe you were onto something. I feel like sometimes
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  Speaker 9: with guys, it's like if they hear that you haven't
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  Speaker 9: dated or you're not you know, maybe maybe that did
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  Speaker 9: spook him. Maybe did you guys talk about the level
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  Speaker 9: of relationship that maybe you guys are looking for, Like
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  Speaker 9: maybe he's looking for something serious and if you've never
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  Speaker 9: really dated before, maybe he just doesn't think you're an option.
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  Speaker 7: Well, I mean we talked about that a little, and
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  Speaker 7: I was honest with him about where I was. But
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  Speaker 7: I just I just don't know, because that didn't like
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  Speaker 7: after we talked about that part, it seems fine.
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  Speaker 6: It's just started.
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  Speaker 7: Getting like less and less later in a date so
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  Speaker 7: and through text.
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  Speaker 6: So I don't, you don't know. I maybe I guess
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  Speaker 6: that could have been it. If that doesn't feel like
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  Speaker 6: the trigger, I don't know. I feel like I am
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  Speaker 6: overthinking it. And I just I just want to know
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  Speaker 6: what happened.
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  Speaker 4: Let's just call him.
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  Speaker 8: Let's just call him.
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  Speaker 4: Let's just call him, all right, what's his name?
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  Speaker 6: Elias?
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  Speaker 4: Okay, we're gonna call Elias.
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  Speaker 2: We're gonna find out why he's ignoring you or not
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  Speaker 2: falling through with a second date.
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  Speaker 4: And this date took place? How long ago?
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  Speaker 6: HI was? Last week?
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  Speaker 2: Okay, So you hang tight, we'll call We'll find out
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  Speaker 2: why he's blowing you off. Second date update continues next
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  Speaker 2: with John Jay and Rich in.
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  Speaker 6: The eternal battle of morning show supremacy.
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  Speaker 1: We are one of them.
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  Speaker 4: It's John Jay and Rich.
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  Speaker 2: John Jay and Rich. We are in the middle of
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  Speaker 2: second ate update. Ava and Elias.
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  Speaker 8: Poor quiet, shine Ava. He's an overthinker and she might
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  Speaker 8: have overthinked her way out of a relationship.
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  Speaker 4: As her day.
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  Speaker 8: Elias slowly backed away from the once electric date that
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  Speaker 8: they shared. Now he is all but disappeared. He is
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  Speaker 8: all put a mirage. What happened to Ava and Elias?
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  Speaker 4: What happened? Is she too shy for him? She seems
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  Speaker 4: a little like, well, we'll see a Are.
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  Speaker 6: You there, Yes, I'm here.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, We're gonna get him on the phone right now,
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  Speaker 2: so you stay quiet and.
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  Speaker 4: Then le's figure things out. So hold on, we'll call
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  Speaker 4: right now.
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  Speaker 3: Nine.
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  Speaker 9: Hi is this Elias?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah?
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  Speaker 9: Hi, my name is Peyton. I'm with John Jaye Rich
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  Speaker 9: and we just wanted to on the radio really quickly
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  Speaker 9: this morning.
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  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, okay, sure, what's this regarding Well.
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  Speaker 2: We got a really a nice phone call from somebody
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  Speaker 2: named Ava and she said she went on a date
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  Speaker 2: with you and she really liked you, as she thought
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  Speaker 2: there was chemistry, but now she says things kind of faded,
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  Speaker 2: and she was asking our opinion on stuff, and we're like,
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  Speaker 2: you know what, can we just call him and we'll
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  Speaker 2: find out through him if there's something, if there's an issue,
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  Speaker 2: would you.
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  Speaker 4: Mind sharing with us your thoughts on Ava? She seemed
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  Speaker 4: really sweet.
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  Speaker 5: No, yeah, I don't mind at all. Excuse me. It
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  Speaker 5: is like it was a good date like with Ava,
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  Speaker 5: and it went really well. I don't know, and like, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: she was sweet. It was like an easy.
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  Speaker 4: Kind of day. She was nice to talk to.
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  Speaker 10: But I don't know.
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  Speaker 5: I could tell that she was a bit nervous and
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  Speaker 5: I was trying to figure it out without fishing, you
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  Speaker 5: know what I mean, uh huh. And I kind of
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  Speaker 5: figured it out because once we got to the bar
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  Speaker 5: where we were going to have our date, the first
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  Speaker 5: thing she said was she had to step out text
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  Speaker 5: her mom to let her know where she was and
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  Speaker 5: that she got there safely. I was like, okay, I
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  Speaker 5: mean I've gone out with people who you know, usually
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  Speaker 5: check in if they're going out on a date with,
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  Speaker 5: you know, somebody new, they'll let somebody know, like hey,
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  Speaker 5: I'm gonna check in with you, just you know I'm safe.
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  Speaker 5: And so it wasn't like new to me, but it's
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  Speaker 5: just like okay, sure, whatever date went well, so well
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  Speaker 5: in fact that I was like do you want to
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  Speaker 5: go grab ice cream afterwards? And when she said yes,
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  Speaker 5: she had to text her mom first to let her
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  Speaker 5: know and get permission. I was like, what, And I
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  Speaker 5: know that maybe I'm coming across it's like a bit
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  Speaker 5: I don't know, kind of a hater or whatever. But
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  Speaker 5: to be honest, my last I'm sorry, my dog's barking. Okay,
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  Speaker 5: my last relationship ended because of something very similar where
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  Speaker 5: there was zero boundaries between you know, like her mother
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  Speaker 5: and checking in and doing all this stuff, and so
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  Speaker 5: I don't know, like having her mom involved from date one,
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  Speaker 5: like all I could think about was like thinking ahead, like,
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  Speaker 5: oh my god, every opinion, every date, every decision is
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  Speaker 5: all going to have to be even like fights, which
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  Speaker 5: which happened a lot in the path, is all going
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  Speaker 5: to be going through her mother.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, but this was with Ava. It only happened twice,
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  Speaker 2: right or did it happen again a third time that
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  Speaker 2: same night?
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  Speaker 5: Well, I mean it fe like anytime she checked her
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  Speaker 5: phone I was like, oh my god, she's probably texting
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  Speaker 5: her mom again.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I can get how you'd be sensitive to that,
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  Speaker 2: but also look at her point of view, how many
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  Speaker 2: movies have you seen? Were the girls like, hey, I'm here,
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  Speaker 2: I'm safe at the restaurant, and then the guy kills
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  Speaker 2: her later when they're getting ice cream.
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  Speaker 4: That's true, right now, She's got to be yeah all
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  Speaker 4: the time.
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  Speaker 3: All the time.
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  Speaker 4: They get saved.
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  Speaker 2: Even even the Jeffrey Dahmer movie, say they get they
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  Speaker 2: get to one place and they're fine, but it's the
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  Speaker 2: second place where they get you.
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  Speaker 4: Well, he better up.
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  Speaker 8: You're not Jeffrey Dahmer, are you.
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  Speaker 2: That's why that's why she text me mom, hey, momm here.
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  Speaker 2: In fact, I was weird just watching that show run Away.
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  Speaker 2: Remember when the girl she texts the mother in law
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  Speaker 2: and says, hey, I'm going here in case there's an issue.
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  Speaker 2: Here's the picture of the license plate of the car
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to meet. And guess what she died. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 2: they killed her, right, So I could see that point
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  Speaker 2: of view.
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  Speaker 5: Elias, No, I totally. I mean that's what I'm saying, Like,
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  Speaker 5: I understand the safety issue, but but you.
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  Speaker 2: Wait till you're in a relationship and then or till
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  Speaker 2: you go on the third or fourth day, and if
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  Speaker 2: she does it every time, then you're like, Okay, this
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  Speaker 2: is a problem. Now I can see why you're sensitive
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  Speaker 2: because you just gotta have a relationship when that happened,
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  Speaker 2: you know.
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  Speaker 4: So I get that exactly, but give her the benefit
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  Speaker 4: of the doubt.
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  Speaker 5: Well, it's just like, hey, I have enough self actualization
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  Speaker 5: to know that I'm projecting this, but I also don't
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  Speaker 5: want to ignore like that gut feeling like a relationship
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  Speaker 5: just ended because of something and it's the first red flag,
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  Speaker 5: Like the first thing I noticed about her is that's repeating,
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  Speaker 5: Like I don't know what that pattern says about me.
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  Speaker 5: But it's also like I don't want to immediately hop
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  Speaker 5: into something that's so similar to just that just feels
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  Speaker 5: for me.
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  Speaker 6: Okay, Hi, I'm sorry. I I just want to say
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  Speaker 6: that I'm I'm really sorry if my texting my.
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  Speaker 7: Mom me.
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  Speaker 2: Yes on the line listening the whole time. We have
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  Speaker 2: we have her mom on the phone too. We have
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  Speaker 2: her mom on the phone.
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  Speaker 4: No, we don't. No, no, she'd like to give you.
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  Speaker 6: I totally get why that sounded like a lot.
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  Speaker 10: My mom is.
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  Speaker 7: Really protective, but I I do. I do not live
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  Speaker 7: at home, she does not live in the same town,
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  Speaker 7: but she does.
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  Speaker 6: Worry, and I guess I'm used to checking in just
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  Speaker 6: so she doesn't.
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  Speaker 7: Spiral, right.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I I understand it. I do.
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  Speaker 4: It's just.
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  Speaker 5: Like it's hard to admit that like taught me off guard.
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  Speaker 5: Like I hate talking about like my past relationships, but
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  Speaker 5: like there were zero boundaries, zero boundaries with her mom
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  Speaker 5: and it like it totally wrecked us and recognize.
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  Speaker 6: That totally makes sense. I understand. I am not trying
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  Speaker 6: to bring my mom into my dating life. Seriously, I'm
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  Speaker 6: actually you know, it is one of my New Year's resolutions.
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  Speaker 6: I am trying to get better.
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  Speaker 7: About not feeling like I owe her updates on everything. Right.
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  Speaker 5: I could even like tell you were kind of nervous
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  Speaker 5: about that, and I'm trying to like, I don't want
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  Speaker 5: this to come across as like there was a red
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  Speaker 5: flag about you, but honestly, I was just like panicking
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  Speaker 5: and immediately got in my own head about it.
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  Speaker 4: Well, she sounds like a great girl. You should ask
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  Speaker 4: her how again.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, I wish you would have said something because I
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  Speaker 6: really liked you and I did feel things change what
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  Speaker 6: I felt like with out of nowhere.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I'm sorry, that's that's that that is on me.
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  Speaker 5: I'll take it, but I just like I know I
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  Speaker 5: should have been communicating more instead of just like assuming
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  Speaker 5: the worst. But it's just hard, you know, And yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I mean, what are you to say? It is true,
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  Speaker 5: like I do want to ask you out again, but
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  Speaker 5: I'm just like I'm cautious.
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  Speaker 9: Just do it, Elias, like yolo.
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  Speaker 2: Also, your your new love interest isn't always your old
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  Speaker 2: love interest, so you can't always live in the past unless.
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  Speaker 4: You go back and start dating your old love and
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  Speaker 4: if that.
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  Speaker 9: Is your old flexix becomes your new flex found this.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, so you guys want to go Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: he asked you out, you gonna do it?
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  Speaker 4: I would do what?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I had a good time despite like the phone stuff,
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  Speaker 5: Like if we could just like, I don't know, let's
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  Speaker 5: try it again, and I'll try to be more open
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  Speaker 5: and maybe like you don't have to check the phone
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  Speaker 5: the whole time.
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  Speaker 10: Maybe I promise not to. I will put my phone away,
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  Speaker 10: I will not text mom, and maybe we can avoid
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  Speaker 10: the panic spirals this time too.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Also one other condition, if she puts her phone away,
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  Speaker 2: you have to promise to not kill her. Fair Yeah, okay, okay, okay, okay,
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  Speaker 2: all right, we're gonna hold you to that.
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  Speaker 4: We're going to keep this tape. We're going to keep
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  Speaker 4: this tape.
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  Speaker 2: Tape.
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  Speaker 4: You said you weren't going to kill her.
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  Speaker 2: I've been watching a lot of murder shows on document
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  Speaker 2: on Netflix. All right, you guys, thanks for calling in.
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  Speaker 2: Hold on the line. That's second Date update with Tod
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  Speaker 2: Jay and Rich