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Empowering Men in Faith: Creating Safe Spaces for Growth | FT Tyler Anderson | EP92 · Jess Ask

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  Speaker 1: Yo, it's your girl Jessica and Smith, and you already
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  Speaker 1: know that you've entered the safe space for influencers to decompress,
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  Speaker 1: have fun and just ask God for another Do you
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  Speaker 1: already know what it is?
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  Speaker 2: And then you know it's about to get real.
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  Speaker 1: To be sure to show your girl the love and
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  Speaker 1: like coming subscribe God.
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  Speaker 3: For another day.
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  Speaker 4: Hey, hey, I know we could be another way.
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  Speaker 3: Sorry, guys, I've been warring, I've been warned.
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  Speaker 2: I just gotta literally, y'all, let's just listen. I'm about
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  Speaker 2: to do something so non tradition. Just put the camera
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  Speaker 2: on Tyler.
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  Speaker 1: He's been here before. I ain't even introduced you because
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  Speaker 1: brous y'all, y'all see who it is. It's none other
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  Speaker 1: than my brother Tyler Anderson. But before we get into it,
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  Speaker 1: you just entered the safe space.
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  Speaker 3: This is the.
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  Speaker 2: We're gonna tell y'all in a minute what just happened.
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  Speaker 1: But let me call let me be professional, okay, all right,
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  Speaker 1: So welcome to jazz As for podcast. When we create
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  Speaker 1: a safe states for influences, the decompress half fun, it
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  Speaker 1: just asks It's a girl Jessica and Smith with my
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  Speaker 1: boy Tyler Anderson. Listen if y'all didn't see the first
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  Speaker 1: episode that he was in, y'all gotta see it.
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  Speaker 2: But before I.
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  Speaker 1: Get it, before we get into it, let me try
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  Speaker 1: to get this out. That's all right, thank you coming
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  Speaker 1: need help? That's right.
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  Speaker 2: You want to tell him why you laughing so hard?
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  Speaker 1: She is crying laughing, Okay, explain why she is laughing
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  Speaker 1: so hard right now? Because when you when you give
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  Speaker 1: God yes, you just got.
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  Speaker 2: To be prepared for what that.
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  Speaker 1: So you know, we're getting ready to record today and
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  Speaker 1: Tyler invites his friend to come in that we didn't
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  Speaker 1: We didn't know what was coming.
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  Speaker 2: And as soon as he walked through the door, the
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  Speaker 2: old the.
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  Speaker 1: Spirit beginning to move. Okay, and Jessica, it's just funny.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm laughing because literally it's literally the joy
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  Speaker 1: of the Lord like right, But this is what a
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  Speaker 1: yes looks like, uh, and what ministry looks like. It
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  Speaker 1: doesn't because you're a call doesn't necessarily mean you're always
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  Speaker 1: called to the pool pit, right, And we have to
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  Speaker 1: be open to be used by God whenever he needs
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  Speaker 1: to do what he needs to do. So we just
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  Speaker 1: had a moment. God did his big God thing, and yeah,
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  Speaker 1: here we are again back again.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm Todd.
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  Speaker 1: Were laughing because Tyler, he I said, let me put
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  Speaker 1: a smile on my face because I don't want you
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  Speaker 1: to think I'm bad. But we really just got came.
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  Speaker 1: I'm still like.
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  Speaker 3: They if they look under the table, your legs is
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  Speaker 3: probably get like.
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  Speaker 2: No, Like I'm on my toes right now.
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  Speaker 1: I am on my toes and I'm really trying to
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  Speaker 1: remember everything I'm supposed to do. But Lord, half your way.
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  Speaker 1: That's what Yes three sixty five is about. Just in case,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you watch the podcast, so you've not heard it.
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  Speaker 1: So Yes three sixty five is about fully submitting unto God,
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  Speaker 1: obeying God in every every.
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  Speaker 2: Area of life. Like I know, I supposed to be professional.
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  Speaker 1: I know I'm supposed to have these moments where you
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  Speaker 1: know this platform, But if I really submit it, just
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  Speaker 1: as the podcast to God, and I say, God, yes
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  Speaker 1: you can, you can have it. Every day I give
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  Speaker 1: God a new years, just like He gives me new bread.
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  Speaker 2: Every day.
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  Speaker 1: It says give us our daily bread. Why wouldn't I
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  Speaker 1: reciprocate that to God? And so when I give God,
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  Speaker 1: when we give God our yes, be open to what
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  Speaker 1: they yess looks like you're literally heaven just came quickly,
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  Speaker 1: like the man didn't even walk into dog Goods. If
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  Speaker 1: you ever come on the podcast, this is your warning
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  Speaker 1: that behind the scenes, this ain't play play like we
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  Speaker 1: might play around here, joke around, and behind the scenes,
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  Speaker 1: if you ever get the opportunity, man, just just go
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  Speaker 1: ahead submit your list of God because I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. I am saying I gave my God
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  Speaker 1: my yuess. You give your God your yess and he
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  Speaker 1: give us his best.
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  Speaker 2: Amen. Amen. So before we get into it with Tyler,
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  Speaker 2: you can put it back on me.
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  Speaker 1: Woman got your girl, I'm producing, I'm back, I'm I'm
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  Speaker 1: sorry cause Tyler ain't get no intradition. He family family. Hey,
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  Speaker 1: shout out to your wife, Jessica. Yeah, but I want
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  Speaker 1: to give this special shout out.
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  Speaker 2: This is the community highlight this week. Y'all.
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  Speaker 1: This girl, this woman a god. Okay, y'all know who
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  Speaker 1: she is, and a lot of you guys know who
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  Speaker 1: she is. But I really had to give the community
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  Speaker 1: highlight to this woman of God because she has really
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  Speaker 1: been supporting ten toes down like anywhere. Anytime she introduced me,
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  Speaker 1: she introduces me as j Justica s Smith and just
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  Speaker 1: as the podcast like she gonna do it together, it's not,
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  Speaker 1: it's no separating. She wants you to know who it is.
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  Speaker 1: And she's on her own platform. Just acknowledge the impact
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  Speaker 1: that this this platform, my our platform, has made it
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  Speaker 1: her life. And we gonna of course she's gonna be
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  Speaker 1: back on the platform again because she got more to
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  Speaker 1: the story. I don't know who that's for, but there's
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  Speaker 1: more to your story. Yeah, I want you to grab
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  Speaker 1: hold of that. There's more to my story. And so
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  Speaker 1: she has more to the story that I want her
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  Speaker 1: to be able to explain to the audience over here.
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  Speaker 1: But she is going forth all pun intended with her
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  Speaker 1: podcast and she is just doing amazing things. She uses
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  Speaker 1: her She has influence, but she knows who she's influenced by.
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  Speaker 1: And she also she just loves the Lord and you
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  Speaker 1: can just see that. And so Tiffany Nicole White, my sister,
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  Speaker 1: my white on white on White sister. If you know,
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  Speaker 1: you know, girl, you have just your presence alone, just
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  Speaker 1: in my life, has just blessed me beyond measure. You've
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  Speaker 1: challenged me, You've uplifted me just with your presence alone,
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  Speaker 1: but also your words of affirmation and you just being
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  Speaker 1: authentically you. I want to say thank you. I want
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  Speaker 1: to say congratulations, hallelujah. This year shall be a year
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  Speaker 1: of congratulations for you because you have you've gone through
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  Speaker 1: the suffering, and you've suffer aware and now even hear
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  Speaker 1: the Lord say that you've covered well. And so the
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  Speaker 1: covering that you've given people, may it be your portion
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  Speaker 1: in twenty twenty five. You're gonna get good covering. You're
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  Speaker 1: not gonna experience the backstabbing like you have in the
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  Speaker 1: past or anything like that. Not this year, Not this year.
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  Speaker 1: We're not doing that. I hear the Lord say, I
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  Speaker 1: am covering the gift in the name of Jesus. So
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  Speaker 1: just grateful to be a part of your story. Grateful
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  Speaker 1: that we're in community together. And I just want to
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  Speaker 1: say thank you for supporting this platform, just as the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: So y'all give it up from my girl Tiffany. I
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  Speaker 1: go follow Tiffany's podcasts, Go for podcast. You can see
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  Speaker 1: it on bg TV. Also, she has her own platform
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  Speaker 1: on YouTube, so go ahead and double tap on both
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  Speaker 1: of them.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, time up, what's up? Up? Let me let me
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  Speaker 2: ask you how you do.
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes when you just be in church.
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  Speaker 3: You be in the flow of everything to when it
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  Speaker 3: goes crazy. I am that person that kind of like
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  Speaker 3: sit back, say, allowed God to do his thistle, and
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  Speaker 3: I just you know, just be thinking God silently until
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  Speaker 3: he tells me some stuff. And so I love being He.
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  Speaker 2: The instigated, y'all. He said, just hurry up. He puts it.
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  Speaker 1: Nobody nothing, and the great the fact of the matter is,
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  Speaker 1: you know, you family, when you know the permission, you
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  Speaker 1: know how you folks to.
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  Speaker 3: The house like, oh, she ain't gonna care in.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you didn't want them on that.
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  Speaker 1: We okay, so let yeah, we'll get We'll probably let
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  Speaker 1: the Man of God tends on store one day.
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  Speaker 2: But Tyler, you've been up to.
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  Speaker 3: Stuff I've been doing.
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  Speaker 1: You've been up to stuff I want to I really
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  Speaker 1: want to zone in. Last time we talked about a
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  Speaker 1: lot of things. It's probably too much, y'all. We're gonna
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  Speaker 1: link the desire. We're gonna link the episode, the first episode.
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  Speaker 1: That is, because y'all really got to get the meat
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  Speaker 1: and potatoes of his heartbeat to really understand how this
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  Speaker 1: conversation could possibly go. Because we're at we're probably at
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  Speaker 1: the third heaven right now, like we're podcasting from heaven
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  Speaker 1: like this podcast in the.
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  Speaker 2: Third head literally and literally so.
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  Speaker 1: But one of the things that we touched on but
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  Speaker 1: we didn't get into that I really want to kind
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  Speaker 1: of nurture in this conversation is the idea of developing
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  Speaker 1: the youth.
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  Speaker 2: Right, not the youth, but just youth and young.
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  Speaker 1: A dope baby, he correct He corrected me last time,
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  Speaker 1: he corrected me.
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  Speaker 2: But the youth and a young adult.
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  Speaker 1: And you've been really developing in that space. I'm just
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  Speaker 1: seeing it grow and mature. How do you go from
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  Speaker 1: because we understand that there was an opportunity at the
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  Speaker 1: church that you were at, how do you go from
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  Speaker 1: maybe zero interest to the interest that you have now? Like,
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  Speaker 1: what are we missing with the communication with the youth
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  Speaker 1: and young a dog especially a young adult because they
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  Speaker 1: be mismanaged.
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, it goes back to what we talked about last part.
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  Speaker 3: I mean and everything. I mean, I talk about this
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  Speaker 3: all the time, but discipleship and actually creating relationships. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I just left the crazy thing. I just left a
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  Speaker 3: men's conference that was talking about those pieces on how
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  Speaker 3: we can't connect between the youth and men and everything
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  Speaker 3: like that. Whatever. But like the biggest point honestly is
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  Speaker 3: just creating relationships. I can't go in your house and
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  Speaker 3: tell you what to do. I have the one be invited,
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  Speaker 3: which means I have to build some type of relationship
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  Speaker 3: with you to get invited into the house. Then before
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  Speaker 3: I get into the house completely, before I start saying anything,
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  Speaker 3: I have to get comfortable enough of being in your atmosphere.
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  Speaker 2: You got to go somewhere.
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  Speaker 3: I have to get I have to get comfortable to
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  Speaker 3: being in your atmosphere right for you to also be
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  Speaker 3: comfortable enough for me to start telling you stuff that
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  Speaker 3: maybe need to be corrected. But that happens over time,
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  Speaker 3: it doesn't happen right away. With the youth, you can
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  Speaker 3: do that, especially in the church sating of course, hey y'all,
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  Speaker 3: you know, go read your Bibles. This is whatever type
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  Speaker 3: we're deal and we have our time during them Sunday services,
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  Speaker 3: which is cool for young adults. We all in quote
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  Speaker 3: unquote big church, we all in the sanctuary. I can't
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  Speaker 3: develop those relationships like that quickly because we don't have
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  Speaker 3: our own separate things. So when God told me to
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  Speaker 3: create a space for just young adults and not just
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  Speaker 3: for the church, but for everybody, hear me. Want to
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  Speaker 3: say this just for the church, for everybody, because everybody
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  Speaker 3: needs a place to be vulnerable and safe and have
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  Speaker 3: all of these types of conversations. The gear change of
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  Speaker 3: all of it is the Word of God that's in
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  Speaker 3: the midst of it. So when there's a space that
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  Speaker 3: you can come into with all types of open minded people,
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  Speaker 3: even some close, when that comes through the door and
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  Speaker 3: you're open enough to listen and also give your own opinion,
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  Speaker 3: and you know that the Word is the standard, God's
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  Speaker 3: standard is is literally what we're going to be chasing
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  Speaker 3: and going after. Then now everything is set now, and
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  Speaker 3: from there I build relationships in that. Now your heart
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  Speaker 3: begins to change. Now how you've been thinking begins to change.
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  Speaker 3: All of these things looks like we said, again, don't
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  Speaker 3: keep reference to the last part the last it's literally
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  Speaker 3: the same thing. Like it's if Paul clearly says, and
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  Speaker 3: we've said this multiple times, I mean no, if you
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  Speaker 3: guys haven't heard it, I'm gonna say it. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: it is what it is. But the scripture says, you know,
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  Speaker 3: when we become a new creation, we pick up his
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  Speaker 3: behaviors and leave the old behaviors behind right, that's just
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  Speaker 3: what it is. But if I don't know that I'm
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  Speaker 3: a new creation in Christ, if I don't know who
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  Speaker 3: Christ is, if I don't even know this language at all,
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  Speaker 3: then I'm gonna continue to do the same thing over
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  Speaker 3: and over again, even if I'm doing the right stuff.
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  Speaker 3: But if I'm not doing the right stuff according to
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  Speaker 3: God's will, I'm going to be doing the wrong stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Wait see, here you go. Because if it's not.
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  Speaker 3: God, I'm telling you, if it's not God, if he's
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  Speaker 3: not in it, if you're not walking out he's pleasing
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  Speaker 3: and perfect will, your will is gonna come up short
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  Speaker 3: every time. That's it. I've tried multiple things. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: just talking about this my ministry, just by this SAUTI group,
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  Speaker 3: by itself. I'm in this space now going on three
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  Speaker 3: years now of and like God told me to start
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  Speaker 3: this thing up. Okay, cool guy, how you want to
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  Speaker 3: look like? I did all of the things. I moved
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  Speaker 3: the chairs around, I moved the tables around. I you know, hey,
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  Speaker 3: at the start of service, we're gonna pray you know,
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  Speaker 3: or not, or we're gonna listen to this. The worst
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  Speaker 3: music all now is this? Oh we're just gonna listen
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  Speaker 3: to Christian hip hop music. When y'all come through, we're
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  Speaker 3: gonna speak. I've changed a lot of stuff around, but
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  Speaker 3: hear me when I say this, I've changed it. He
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  Speaker 3: didn't change it so good. So now when I asked him, Hey, God,
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  Speaker 3: what do you want this to look like? For real?
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  Speaker 5: For real?
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  Speaker 3: You told me the basics, But what you really want
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  Speaker 3: in detail, what you want to look like? Now, these
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  Speaker 3: numbers of people coming through the door, I'm telling you
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  Speaker 3: just have been coming through and been consistent and not
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  Speaker 3: just that, because it's not just about the numbers. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: Now I've seen over these past couple of years their
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  Speaker 3: heart's begin to change. I have people calling me saying, hey, Tyler,
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  Speaker 3: I wasn't gonna tell you this, but I'm going to
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  Speaker 3: tell you this. And the reason why I didn't fall
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  Speaker 3: into that type of temptation anymore because of the conversation
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  Speaker 3: within that at Sardi in front of all these other folks.
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  Speaker 3: There's a post out today. There's a post out today
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  Speaker 3: the lady was driving driving to work has has terrible
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  Speaker 3: world rage. Hell. Look like y'all, y'all be careful out
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  Speaker 3: there in this road.
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  Speaker 2: May you might catch me on the right day.
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  Speaker 3: Look. Look, but she was like, I was about to
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  Speaker 3: go off and we had a conversation last night about
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  Speaker 3: patience and all I did was said God, my bad
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  Speaker 3: and turned on worship music and went about her day.
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  Speaker 2: Her response was different.
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  Speaker 1: So the thing, Okay, you're talking so good, because I
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  Speaker 1: was just about to ask you, how do you gauge
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  Speaker 1: that is God, God's idea and not your idea? And
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  Speaker 1: I think that if we recognize we can become very depleted.
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  Speaker 1: When is our idea, like when we're not full? Like
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  Speaker 1: God only pours into what to himself. I want you
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  Speaker 1: to hear that again, God only pours into himself. That
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  Speaker 1: means his idea, That means the extension of him.
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  Speaker 2: That means that Desert Rae said this to me today.
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  Speaker 1: She said, doing things outside of relationship with God is witchcraft.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like, if I'm outside of God, my source
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  Speaker 1: is off. Like so my source can't if you're feeling depleted,
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  Speaker 1: check your source.
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  Speaker 2: Check You can only be your resource to your source.
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  Speaker 3: Because you can't. You can't plug into two things at
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  Speaker 3: one time.
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  Speaker 2: I'm about to I am about to throw this road.
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  Speaker 3: You can't.
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  Speaker 2: You can't.
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  Speaker 3: There's only one source if I have, okay for for
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  Speaker 3: my technical nerds you if I have, I have this
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  Speaker 3: one plug in front of me, but I have multiple
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  Speaker 3: things that's attaxted as one plug. It's still one source.
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  Speaker 1: Some plugging bro because they was trying to go get
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  Speaker 1: technical because they talking about the surch you talking about.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's still on one.
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  Speaker 3: It's still on one. It's still on one. It has
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  Speaker 3: to go through one like it goes to one power plan.
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  Speaker 2: This is so good.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know why I just heard this, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna say it. So I literally saw the plug right
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  Speaker 1: that you were talking about. And some of us, some
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  Speaker 1: people like Desiert always talks about how multi faceted I am, like,
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  Speaker 1: I can just do, I can just.
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  Speaker 2: Move like I go through podcasts, the prophecy I really like.
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  Speaker 1: Then we go to ad men like everything, and I
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  Speaker 1: hear the Lord say that the reason why people are
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  Speaker 1: able to successfully be multi multiple, multifaceted is because what
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  Speaker 1: what you just descripted.
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  Speaker 2: I know who I'm connected to, but.
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  Speaker 1: He knows multiple streams of things come out of me.
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  Speaker 1: I can be plugged into a lot of different things,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm plugged into one.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if you called it, what's that lady say? Cockatching?
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  Speaker 2: But I can be plug.
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  Speaker 1: I plug into the source which makes me available to
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  Speaker 1: be a resource in these other other areas.
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  Speaker 2: And then sometimes I gotta check my search. Sometimes the
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  Speaker 2: surge need to.
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  Speaker 3: Be changed, because why are you short? You know what
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  Speaker 3: makes you short? But what makes me saying what we
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  Speaker 3: talked about last, Then we go hey, DESI ray.
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  Speaker 2: Then we go through all the Genesis one And.
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  Speaker 3: This is the reason why we have a shortage of
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  Speaker 3: a connection to him because even as believers, that's the
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: struggle for us. You remember, and I know y'all know
• 18:44
  Speaker 3: a little bit more shot. The ladies got hair, but
• 18:46
  Speaker 3: you know that, you know that dry got the little
• 18:49
  Speaker 3: reset But regular you know what I'm saying. For us,
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: the crazy thing is like we we also got a
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: reset button. That's so good, Like we got a power button.
• 18:59
  Speaker 3: We got a reset button. The crazy thing is our
• 19:01
  Speaker 3: power bund has never died off and never went off.
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: As soon as we were born. It became on. The
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: only reset button that we have is when we begin
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  Speaker 3: to either walk off his will and do our own thing,
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: or when we began to actually get into his will
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: for real, start to understand who he is, us actually
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: believing who is us doing all these amazing things. So
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: when that first ought to call happened, oh reset, this
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  Speaker 3: is who you are. Now, let's walk this thing out,
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: Let's let's do this thing. And then when we're beginning
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: to be like, all right, guy, you so good and
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: I low key kind of forgot how good you are,
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: I'm about to do my own thug this one thing
• 19:46
  Speaker 3: here because you're still good. But you know, I'm not
• 19:51
  Speaker 3: going to continue to pray as much for real, I'm
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: not gonna continue to I'm about to go there a
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: little bit. I'm not about to continue to tide the
• 19:58
  Speaker 3: little I'm not about to live. I'm not that to give,
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: you know, the community to what they need to give.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: I'm not about to serve you as much as I
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: said I was going to in the beginning. I'm just you.
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: Know, we good though, yeah yeah.
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: And then somehow, some way he like, okay, cool, stay
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: out there. I got you. I still got you because
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: I promised you something and I still got you. Okay,
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: you know I would never leave you, never, Yeah cool.
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: And but then you became empty and you really feel
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: the repercussions of your decisions, how you feel. So the
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: you know, the weight that Jesus was talking about is
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: you know my yokisas Yeah, all that stuff like that.
• 20:38
  Speaker 3: It's crazy how we begin to feel the weight of
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: the world when we're not connected to him. Don't throw
• 20:48
  Speaker 3: it just we family.
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: No, that you're not lying, because I even I just
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: talked to just There's a raider the other day and
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: I was saying that I know I made some emotional decisions,
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: and I know I made them because I'm feeling.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: Tired. If this was a God decision, I don't think
• 21:15
  Speaker 2: I would be tired.
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: Not not drained spiritually, emotionally and physically. It's a it's
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: a level of tired when God says, okay, you need
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: to risk, like when we took a break from the podcast,
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: like we took we had recorded enough to take a
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: whole month off, like we ain't doing nothing.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Okay, that's a spiritual revival.
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: Revival, that is a this is replenishment, That's what I'm saying.
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: But when you know the decisions that you've made, how
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: you know the decisions For me, how I found out
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: the decisions I've made have been the world that I'm
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: carrying is because it has I can't even I don't
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: even have energy to think anymore. And so when you're saying,
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: like these safe spaces, this is what people been needing
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: because they've been like, I've been trying to do this myself,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: and I've been looking for an answer.
• 22:06
  Speaker 2: But how people have made this so unattractive.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: The idea of doing relationship with God was so unattractive,
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: has really turned me off. And I just rather do
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: it by myself. I really rather do it by myself.
• 22:17
  Speaker 1: Speaking of doing it by ourselves, I love how you
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: brought up that the dynamic of not just young adult
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: where we're missing, but also the men. Shout out to
• 22:30
  Speaker 1: the men out there, you know, you know, if you're
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: a brother, but no, shout out to the men that's
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: really out here doing it and like really trying. Because
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: typically in the in the traditional church area, you see
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: a lot of women, a lot of women, and people
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: have their different opinions about.
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: Why women are so.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: Catered to, like so sold out for the church, and
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: it plays on the emotion and all that stuff like that,
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: and men don't have nothing to do. I think there's
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: an opportunity still there, but we have to go beyond
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: the four whiles of the church to express and I
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: feel like you're doing it.
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: What does that look like you being a man? How
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: do you how?
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: What are some tools that we can walk through or
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: to possess to help men develop their relationship with Rice
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: or what that?
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: What does that discipleship look like for them?
• 23:33
  Speaker 3: And encourage the mess out of us? Like that's I
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: think that's the biggest piece. We don't get a lot
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: of encouragement, like we we don't like we're only seen
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: but not heard like that is it? Like we would
• 23:51
  Speaker 3: say that we're there, we're there for the family and
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: stuff like that, whatever, and we will hold again carry
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: all this weight and one is on us a little
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: bit because we don't talk about it because that's how
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: we were being raised over generation over generation of generations
• 24:03
  Speaker 3: of taking all of this stuff. But when it comes
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: to let's just say, the church, we're not being heard.
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: The only time that we're being seen is security is
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: the pastor the pastors, maybe the deacons, you know what
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: I'm saying, or like or you know, helping around around
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: the church whenever it's needed. But we're not we're not
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: being heard about what we actually really need for us
• 24:29
  Speaker 3: on the inside with with you guys. As women, you
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: guys are always forecoming for every like you're gonna say
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: how y'all feel mentally, spiritually, emotionally, even if it's not
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: even even if I pull you a little bit, you're
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: gonna wind up telling me. But for us, it takes
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: time to knock down these walls, and that honestly starts
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: with again. In order for us men to get that
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: open and honest dialogue, you have to encourage me to
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: continue to doing what I need to do and not
• 25:01
  Speaker 3: just bully me into submission, because typically that's what happens.
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: From male, from a woman to male, like from women
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: to men.
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  Speaker 1: Let's get into that conversation, because lord, yeah, we're gonna
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: get into that conversation because as a woman, let's just
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: speak freely as a woman. It's hard for me. It's
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: a single woman too. Let's let's specify that I'm still
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: learning tell to somebody because you know, I'm a lot
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: of woman. I am a lot of women, and so
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: I'm a lot of women in the spirit, all right,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: So I struggle.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: This is an area of.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: Struggle for me of what that looks like because in
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: my mind, this is my mind. I think that a
• 25:54
  Speaker 1: man should disciple man, but are there enough men to
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: disciple each other?
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: Like who who's gonna show up?
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: And not? Because when you can either you got Paul,
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: Paul that's had the church for eighty five years, just
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: trying to disciple somebody that's twenty years old. Their lifestyle
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: is not the same. And so I really want you know,
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: I'm about there the.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: Three mm hm hmm he.
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: Three three, I Jesus you, I really don't want to
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: be And let's not even make this an intimate relationship.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: Let's just talk about relationship in general.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: Like sure, I don't know if it's healthy for me
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: personally to be trying to disciple or share that level
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: of wisdom with a man. Because my in my in
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: my past were talking about Joska, it's gotten a little tainted.
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: Talk to me, Okay, I got you so gosh, stage,
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: I know who's going you know my spirit talking about
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: relationships so one because of how we have put stick
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: relations on male and women relationships. Let's just just talk
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: about just the church. The only time that we say
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: that we need to be together or have community with
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: each other is if we're dating or trying to get married, right,
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: we don't talk about what the Bible says community is,
• 27:32
  Speaker 3: which is brothers and sisters Christ. So we've gotten away
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: from that because before we was in Christ, the only
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: thing that we saw was sexual things, physical things. So
• 27:47
  Speaker 3: now we get into the church and the church pushed
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: the push the super big agenda of marriage. Oh, if
• 27:52
  Speaker 3: they're just around each other all the time, they must
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: be dating, they must be whatever. So it's hard to
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: have a true connection with a person, not just because
• 28:03
  Speaker 3: you want to be with them or not, but just
• 28:05
  Speaker 3: a person that has gifts us inside of them, that
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: has all of these things that God is poured inside
• 28:11
  Speaker 3: of them so that you can receive it. Because I
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: may need something that you got, right, we say that
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: all the time, But how can I do that if
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: you're a woman and I'm a man that doesn't But
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: that's what we've built. So that's the reason why that's
• 28:26
  Speaker 3: a problem too. I would say, just since she was
• 28:30
  Speaker 3: since she was free, you know, you know me, I'm
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: gonna go there a little bit. But that's also the
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: reasons why we have to understand ourselves too, because you're
• 28:41
  Speaker 3: probably not the right person to do that with because
• 28:45
  Speaker 3: you have learned. If I go here. I may fall,
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: i may be weak in this area, so I'm not
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: going to do that, which is cool. But you've cultivated
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: other male men, godly male men that you can point
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: these guys to that you respect, that you love, that
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: you honestly call them them brothers. Hey, hit up, Caleb,
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: shout out to my hommie.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: Shout out, shout out, shout to you.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: Know what I'm saying. You know, all of all of
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: these got JD coach, coach coach.
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: That's the that's that's the family.
• 29:17
  Speaker 1: If y'all get disciple by him, he's gonna.
• 29:21
  Speaker 3: Keep it, you know what I'm saying. So it's like
• 29:25
  Speaker 3: it's like, you know, so you can. But that's that
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: also worked out because God was like, you just need something,
• 29:32
  Speaker 3: and you said this before. You need some men in
• 29:36
  Speaker 3: your life that's gonna show you what your husband may
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: possibly look like. You didn't have to get super intimate
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: and be with you know, something like on that type
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: of level. Now you need it strong brotherly love around
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: you to show you. Hey, like if this, if this happens,
• 29:52
  Speaker 3: it's not just me you gotta go through. It's these guys.
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: I'm the same way. Well, I'm well I'm not saying, well,
• 29:57
  Speaker 3: I'm actually weird. I don't care if you're a girl
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: or a guy. Guy's honestly placed those boundaries away from me.
• 30:05
  Speaker 3: I don't have that type of thing. I love people, period.
• 30:09
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna talk to you if you if you're an animal,
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: if you want to know Christ is happening. The only
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: difference now is because I'm married. Yeah, so I can't
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: cross the boundary of super friendly because I have to
• 30:27
  Speaker 3: respect my house wife. You see what I'm saying. So
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: it's a difference. But this is this is great. This
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: is the great daytip, this is this is great. My
• 30:36
  Speaker 3: wife still is okay if I do, but she has
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: to be in the fold of all because she doesn't.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: She doesn't step on what God is putting on the
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: inside of me either. She doesn't stepped on the gifts
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: because she also knows again communication is key and all relationships.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: She also knows that that's low key. He kind of
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: handcuffed me in certain areas of what God wants me
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: to do. So if I am here to talk to
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: the world and it's specifically the body of Christ for real,
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: that Gods really have pushed me towards, then I have
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: to talk to all men, as the Bible says, not
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: just just men and just not just women, but all
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: men when it comes to relationships period. So I have
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: to have those conversations. I will get text messages and
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: caused by women. I will get conversations and text message
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: by men or whatever all at the same time. And
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: check this out because I'm married speakerphone. Hey, babe, I
• 31:43
  Speaker 3: just talked to some and such like, even if she's not,
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: I talked to something such and this is what we
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: talked about. Whatever. How do you feel about that? Because also,
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: if you're connected to me, that I mean we also
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: share some one of many spiritual gifts together as well.
• 31:58
  Speaker 3: God doesn't want to pun you with somebody that you're
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: not spiritually connected to. That doesn't make any sense. So
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: I need your opinion on this too, what you feel
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: about this? Whatever? And I'm gonna go back and then
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: to check this out. Shout out to shout out to Asia.
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: Y'all met Asia, Yeah, yas, she has her number two.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: So when it's when this girl.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Talk, it's time yep.
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what I'm saying, you know. Or if
• 32:20
  Speaker 3: I just need my big brother hey, or if he
• 32:23
  Speaker 3: I need to talk to both of you guys, you know,
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: and we on the phone were all talking group chat,
• 32:28
  Speaker 3: FaceTime like all of these things. Yeah, because that's that's
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: what we're supposed to be doing in the Bide Christ period.
• 32:34
  Speaker 3: We're supposed to helping each other out. If we don't
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: do if we don't do that, then somebody on down
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: the line that is being short short changed. And I'm
• 32:41
  Speaker 3: gonna go back to doing what you know I'm gonna
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: do all the time. That's that's just what it is.
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: No, you just brought up something, and since we're in
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: this transparent area, let's go so since we're using me
• 32:50
  Speaker 1: at example, be sacrificing myself conversation.
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: So what I just.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: Really realized what you just said was because I've honestly,
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: I honestly feel called for sure to speak to a
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: level of being like there's no way that I have
• 33:11
  Speaker 1: relationships with like you and and coach j D and Caleb.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: I mean y'all three alone. Let's just talk about that.
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: But shout out to Greg Riley, like my bro hold
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: me down. Okay, But also all y'all married, you get
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: All y'all are all y'all married?
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: Let's all y'all married, and so I feel safe because
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: of that. It's when I don't know about the marriage
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: and it's the single I feel safe in the space
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: of talking to men that are proud, Let's be very clear,
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: because it's some men that are married and that's just
• 33:52
  Speaker 1: you know, that's another conversation for another day. But all
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: everybody that's in coming is and committed marriages, and they're trying.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: And I feel like there's a fear because of what
• 34:05
  Speaker 1: I've been through in the past, and the Lord one
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: day is going to release me to tell that testimony
• 34:11
  Speaker 1: is that I am incapable of developing those biblical relationships
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: because of what I've experienced, and it's almost like I
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: am I don't even know how we are here, but
• 34:24
  Speaker 1: we hear it's almost like the people that I've experienced
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: have some strong mother wounds that I think God can
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: utilize those tools in that space, But right now the
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: source is broken because there's still some healing that I
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: have to do. So what I hear that you're saying
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: is like, it's not impossible. Because obviously people like men
• 34:48
  Speaker 1: watch just as the podcast just as much as women
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: like I look at the analytics bro Nick and Neck.
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: Like it was on YouTube, it was like fifty three
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: percent women. That means forty something percent. Was that forty
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: seven percent are men? That's that's that is a high ranking.
• 35:08
  Speaker 1: Normally it's like, oh, it's just so much. No, the
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: men gonna show up just as much as the women
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: gonna show up. And so that tells me that I
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: have to believe what I understand and just kind of
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: train myself to like really be protected by the covering
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: that I have.
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: Sure, that's what I heard you say. Is that fair?
• 35:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah? Because then also like you are speaking, you just
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: said it, You are speaking to those guys. You have
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: to get over that past that fear of going into
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: If I take this step, if I quote unquote cross,
• 35:48
  Speaker 3: this a magic because it's like, let me talk to you,
• 35:51
  Speaker 3: big brother.
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: Okay, let me let me talk to you, big brother.
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: You it's imaginary, this imaginary line, literally imaginary line. If
• 36:07
  Speaker 3: you literally cross that, it's fine because of the covering
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: that God has put you under. Now, even when you
• 36:16
  Speaker 3: begin to start let me speak, even when he becomes
• 36:19
  Speaker 3: that you start the dating, you have some stuff. You
• 36:23
  Speaker 3: have an amazing foundation of men that you can lay
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: down on, that's gonna be okay, that's gonna You're gonna
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: be straight. So when it becomes hey, don't don't worry
• 36:34
  Speaker 3: about all of that stuff. That stuff over it, Hello,
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: that stuff over it. You also know the foundation that
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: you have in Christ too. So now you know all
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: of these things. You donet learned yourself over these years.
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: You don't walked out all of these all these amazing stuff.
• 36:50
  Speaker 3: You done trial yourself. You don't put yourself on trial.
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: You don't sacrifice yourself. You done did all these amazing things.
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: So when he comes, because he come, when he comes,
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: he's gonna be ready for you, and you're gonna be
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: ready for him. That's that's just it. Me and me
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: and Jessica, not you, obviously, me and my wife his wife.
• 37:13
  Speaker 3: Just this is so funny.
• 37:16
  Speaker 2: That's how she knew I was real.
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: Facts when we were dating, Like we always had to
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: question people, always saying, well, how you know how y'all
• 37:26
  Speaker 3: do this and anything like that, whatever you know, I'm like, well,
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, one, we just keep guided in the
• 37:31
  Speaker 3: center of our relationship. That's it. Like you will always
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: hear her say that in every statement that we say when,
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: especially when it's talking about relationships. But one thing we
• 37:40
  Speaker 3: really stated was literally, if we are focused on God individually,
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: then at some point I'm gonna meet that person I'm
• 37:52
  Speaker 3: supposed to be with. If I'm looking to my left
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: or my right and worrying about what everybody else is doing,
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: if they booed up, if they married, if you know,
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: they career is good, all of the stuff like that, whatever,
• 38:05
  Speaker 3: then I'm not focused on what God want me to
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: do in this season continuously from my life. And if
• 38:13
  Speaker 3: that person is doing the exact same thing of walking
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: that line and putting God in everything that they do,
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: have those God ideas and going after those God ideas
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: and anything like that, whatever, then eventually, if because this
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: is big too, this is not you, I'm gonna speak
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: to people that are supposed to be single for the
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: rest of their lives, which is which is also a
• 38:31
  Speaker 3: topic that we can talk about.
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: Because there are some people that's supposed to be single.
• 38:36
  Speaker 3: But with the people that are supposed to be married,
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: you know, ordained married, that God that you know, God
• 38:43
  Speaker 3: has actually put in their lives to be married for
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: sure for a lifetime, then they're going to be focused
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: on the right stuff and they're gonna wind up meeting
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: in the middle. And that's just it. But if we
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: continue to worry about all this other stuff, when the
• 38:57
  Speaker 3: process is gonna take longer, or check this out, God
• 39:00
  Speaker 3: will speed up that process. And now you're going to
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: have to be in a marriage with somebody that's not
• 39:05
  Speaker 3: completely healed with everything that they're going through. Now. Granted,
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: the crazy part about this is is the fact that
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: you can still be in a marriage and not be
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: healed completely. But when you meet them, when you guys
• 39:21
  Speaker 3: get that union going on, it's going to be a
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: lot tougher for you guys to continuously to be together
• 39:26
  Speaker 3: because there's some stuff. Inner work is I gotta do.
• 39:28
  Speaker 3: Inner work is that you got to do all this
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: crazy stuff whatever has happened, and it can still work.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: It can happen for sure, because it's a covenant, not
• 39:37
  Speaker 3: just what you, you and me. It's a covenant with you,
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: me and God. And if God's hand on it, we
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: know this, if God's hand in it, it's not gonna fail.
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: The only way that it feels is if you take
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: your hand off of him. Yeah, and you don't and
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: you don't sacrifice your own self for the other person.
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: And this is God put people through stages of singleness
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: because if they have if they have to go through
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: the healing process, they go through the selfishless process, They
• 40:11
  Speaker 3: have to go through all of these things so that
• 40:13
  Speaker 3: when that person shows up now, it's going to be
• 40:18
  Speaker 3: easier to please you the way that you need to,
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: not how I how I think you need to be pleased,
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: but how you're supposed to because God is actually wired
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: all of us up and trained, has been training all
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: of us to just be selfless overall. That's that's his word,
• 40:34
  Speaker 3: that's the gospel, right. Jesus was sacrificed right for us.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: He also was willingly went to the cross for all
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: of this weight that he put on so that we
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: can be yoked up to him because his yoke is easy,
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: which is weird because you, Jesus, had the whole weight
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: of the world on you, you know. But you're training
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: me through this process while I'm in this world. That's
• 41:06
  Speaker 3: also marriage. I'm not just yoked up to you now, Jesus.
• 41:11
  Speaker 3: I'm actually yoked up to you and also my wife,
• 41:16
  Speaker 3: and we're doing all of this thing together. But if
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: one let's go, it's just me and you Jesus, which
• 41:22
  Speaker 3: is good, which is great. We're gonna get back to
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: her cool beings, but it sucks that she's away and
• 41:30
  Speaker 3: vice versa. But if we both away from him and
• 41:35
  Speaker 3: we're doing our own thing, everything is going to crash,
• 41:39
  Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying. So this is why, this
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: is why sometimes in the single in that single space, whatever,
• 41:45
  Speaker 3: God is doing that to train and do all those
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: things so that you can be not just show up
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: for that person, but show up for him in the
• 41:54
  Speaker 3: right way when it comes to marriage. Because also, it's
• 41:56
  Speaker 3: not even about y'all, it's about other people that's watching.
• 42:00
  Speaker 3: And that's the big piece. That's why you can shout
• 42:03
  Speaker 3: me JD you know, and Greg out because it's like,
• 42:08
  Speaker 3: you guys are showing that marriage actually is great, even
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: though we probably don't know all the ins and out
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: of everything that's going on the inside of the house.
• 42:18
  Speaker 3: But just the fact that you guys are showing up.
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: You guys are proud about your wives and your kids
• 42:24
  Speaker 3: and all of these things like that. And it's not
• 42:26
  Speaker 3: it's not hidding you showing it all on social Media's
• 42:29
  Speaker 3: y'all going around, going on trips, going like all of
• 42:32
  Speaker 3: this stuff and y'all loving it. It's attractive and it's godless.
• 42:40
  Speaker 3: That's why you can do that. If not, we know
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: them people that we can't shout out. Yeah, even in church,
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: be quiet.
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: Okay, that was so good. I appreciate the poor like no,
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: it's so.
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: It was well, was that does already the the time
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: you recorded And we had four recordings that day, and
• 43:09
  Speaker 1: out of four recordings, three of y'allur men. Shout out
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: to Tristian McFarlane. I got bro shout out to my
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: dog like that that. Don't let it fool you. He
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: loved his wife, dude publicly like he loved her for real,
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: like and I love I love them and loving each
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: other like.
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: So he's one that just.
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: I admire him just being a good man. And so
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: that specific day, the Lord just.
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: Kind of like overwhelmed.
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: And I get emotional when I say this, So if
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: I cry a little bit, y'all know I'm a crab.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: The Lord showed this to day.
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: There's ray because her and I in the same boat
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: as being single and powerful women of God. And it's
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: because of my past experiences I didn't know how much
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: I needed to know that men wanted relationship with me
• 44:16
  Speaker 1: beyond the bedroom.
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: Like and ain't nobody seeing no bedroom, none of these folks.
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: Like, let's just be clear, because folks be taking stuff
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: out of content, So.
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: Let me just say that out loud.
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: But for me, everything was so sexualized, like because people
• 44:34
  Speaker 1: have not like when they experienced Jessica. I'm just that chick.
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: Like I don't know how to I don't know how
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: to say that humbly. So I hope this don't sound
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: like honky, but I'm that chick. And so when you
• 44:49
  Speaker 1: start experiencing me and you're lacking in an area, yeah
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: that I feel it.
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: Like I'm I don't know how to say.
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: Some people might take this the wrong way, but I
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: know what I I mean by when I say this,
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: and I think you do too.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: And so like to be in the presence of.
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: Three black men, three black men that are happily married,
• 45:11
  Speaker 1: that are around our age, right.
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: They y'all all?
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: When I say all, Tria, y'all all, Tria, y'all poured
• 45:19
  Speaker 1: into us differently that day, but it was all necessary,
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: each one of y'all.
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: You got Caleb going, oh no, no, I'm finna pray
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: for y'all. I'm finna cover y'all.
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: Like Caleb just by let y'all know he is a
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: covering for just ask the part. He is one of
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: our coverings. Like he's made it very known that he's
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: made it very known that he's gonna cover and protect
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: us in prayer. And he did it that day, like
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: literally is shifted in the in the space. So he
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: praying for us. He said, what do you want? He
• 45:51
  Speaker 1: was like, no, just this is what you got. And
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: then we didn't even ask him to pray for the
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: Man of God. He didn't even he didn't ask us
• 45:59
  Speaker 1: to pray for the Man of He didn't ask We
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: didn't ask him to pray for our Man of God.
• 46:06
  Speaker 1: We just asked him to cover, you know, just ask
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: the podcast.
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: And so he did that. Tristian was like, and y'all
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: gotta know, Trician, he's a character. He just kept saying,
• 46:18
  Speaker 2: this is nice. I like y'all, I like it, y'all.
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: Good, y'all good, just pouring good energy to us. And
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: then Tyler Kom and just the brotherly love is just there.
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: And so I think in this space just for both
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: of us, you know, I'm gonna speak for us, I'm
• 46:36
  Speaker 1: gonna speak for both people. That's what we needed, you know,
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: because we battled with some of the same obstacles in
• 46:47
  Speaker 1: that realm. And so I just want to say thank
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: you for that, because just realizing even you submitting and saying, hey,
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: he gotta come.
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: Through us, that's a whole nother level of protection. Because
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: I need it. I ain't gonna lie. I need it
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: because I'm a sucker.
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: Who one thing week about me and when that name
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: come around, they.
• 47:10
  Speaker 5: Like, why are you from?
• 47:24
  Speaker 3: No, no, no no, I understand.
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, So I want to get into this before I
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: know we're about to wrap it up. But before we
• 47:32
  Speaker 1: wrap this thing up, I know, for a fight. Did
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: my bro got some some of his sleeve that he
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: got to tell me about somebody I don't have to
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: be a podcast?
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: Tell us about this podcast?
• 47:50
  Speaker 3: A man, so one. I've been trying to do this
• 47:54
  Speaker 3: thing for a long time. Okay, like it's been a minute.
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: Guy's been impressed that on my heart for a minute
• 47:59
  Speaker 3: because at first, you know, I thought it was I
• 48:02
  Speaker 3: thought it was a me idea at first, because I'm
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: like everybody podcasting, you know, everybody got their own podcast.
• 48:11
  Speaker 3: Everybody doing their thing, they telling their story. They you know,
• 48:14
  Speaker 3: controversy go crazy, all of this stuff. They talking about
• 48:17
  Speaker 3: the church, not talking about the church stuff.
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: I'm like, man, but everybody.
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: Facts, you know the crazy thing about that day, that's
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: exactly what God said. Yes. And so I was like, Okay, God,
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: if you want me to do this, I need some
• 48:34
  Speaker 3: help because I don't.
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: Know who you said. Wait, that sounds like me.
• 48:39
  Speaker 3: I need some help. I don't know. I don't know
• 48:41
  Speaker 3: where I know where to start because I'm around media,
• 48:43
  Speaker 3: I'm around all of this stuff, you know, you know,
• 48:48
  Speaker 3: shout out to bracs and look enterprises. But like, I
• 48:54
  Speaker 3: don't know where to begin. Got so I'm just hop
• 48:57
  Speaker 3: on to social media and just do little stuff for
• 48:59
  Speaker 3: social media. He like, yeah, I want you to do that,
• 49:02
  Speaker 3: but I want you to do pot. I want you
• 49:03
  Speaker 3: to do pots too. And I'm like, okay, where though, Lord,
• 49:08
  Speaker 3: like where I'm gonna do this? At it? Honestly, if
• 49:11
  Speaker 3: I'm gonna be real with you, just it sounded like
• 49:13
  Speaker 3: you sound like your testimony to Don Gon Flax. It
• 49:15
  Speaker 3: really do. And then I was like, okay, all right,
• 49:19
  Speaker 3: you just you just gonna just place me whenever you
• 49:21
  Speaker 3: want me to start. I started, and I just sat
• 49:24
  Speaker 3: on it. For a minute, life life stuff was happening again,
• 49:28
  Speaker 3: saw the group was going good, all this stuff like that, whenever,
• 49:30
  Speaker 3: trying to figure out all this stuff, and then God
• 49:32
  Speaker 3: started me starting. I started to expand audio for a
• 49:35
  Speaker 3: little bit, listen all of this stuff. So I'm instilled
• 49:37
  Speaker 3: in the back of my mind this podcast needs to start.
• 49:41
  Speaker 3: But I'm like, I still don't know what to do.
• 49:45
  Speaker 3: And then I ran into my homie. He goes to
• 49:49
  Speaker 3: Rebirth Christian Fellowship Arthur art Rough as they call him,
• 49:54
  Speaker 3: uh and uh. He has a group just all men
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: and it's called I Am My Brother's Keeper, and he
• 50:02
  Speaker 3: basically does the same thing that Sad the group does.
• 50:04
  Speaker 3: It had holds of space where men can come and
• 50:08
  Speaker 3: talk about whatever, and everything is geared around and centered
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: around the Word of God, right and I love it.
• 50:15
  Speaker 3: It's literally like an older version of me life for real,
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: for real, literally and I just love it. And so
• 50:22
  Speaker 3: we did we combined and did stuff together with SARDI
• 50:27
  Speaker 3: group and stuff like that. Had conversations. I'm like, man, bro,
• 50:29
  Speaker 3: like we we sat next to each other and everything.
• 50:31
  Speaker 3: I'm like, Bro, this this low key just feel good.
• 50:34
  Speaker 3: We keep doing this, bro. And then one day he
• 50:38
  Speaker 3: hit me up. I was like, bro, like I'm thinking
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: about doing a podcast. I'm like, oh really, I'm like really, okay,
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: I you know, you know I told you I'm trying
• 50:51
  Speaker 3: to do. He was like, yeah, we might need to
• 50:54
  Speaker 3: do this together. I think that's a great idea because
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: also I was like, I don't I can't seen in
• 51:01
  Speaker 3: front of camera, just talk to myself. Yeah, I'm I'm
• 51:04
  Speaker 3: a conversational type of person. Yeah, I'm gonna need help.
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: And then every conversation I have on the phone or
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: not you we talked on the phone, We're either gonna
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: be on the phone for hours no where. He's gonna,
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: God gonna drop some gyms and it's gonna you know
• 51:17
  Speaker 3: what I'm saying, you know, go and I don't. I
• 51:20
  Speaker 3: also don't want God's words to be just falling without
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: being caught.
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: That's so good.
• 51:29
  Speaker 3: And so I was like, I need to I also
• 51:32
  Speaker 3: need to record these things yea that I have conversations
• 51:36
  Speaker 3: with people with And then he was like that's it.
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: He was like, so y'all need to do this thing.
• 51:41
  Speaker 3: Pass forward. New Brad shout out to b GTS. New
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: Brad knew what he was doing at these amazing studios
• 51:49
  Speaker 3: and everything like that. But then one of my homies
• 51:54
  Speaker 3: he started a podcast with students. So on this platform,
• 51:58
  Speaker 3: now I'm a shot the shot the Hey. On this
• 52:00
  Speaker 3: platform on once once every Tuesday, third tuesdays of each month,
• 52:06
  Speaker 3: there is a amazing podcast called Rebirth and it is
• 52:12
  Speaker 3: just high school led students that's leading this part. They're
• 52:15
  Speaker 3: doing an amazing job. Like it is when I say five,
• 52:18
  Speaker 3: it is fire, okay. And so came into the studio.
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: This is you know, Brad was doing it at his
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: house that first time and then got this studio right,
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: so they started doing it here and I was just like,
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: oh man, this is this is fire. Like I ain't
• 52:33
  Speaker 3: gonna be able to pay for this thing.
• 52:35
  Speaker 2: Come on do this cause we thought I ain't be.
• 52:39
  Speaker 3: Able to pay this thing. So and then I started talking.
• 52:42
  Speaker 3: Then we talked a little, Me and Brad talked a
• 52:46
  Speaker 3: little bit. He gave me his card and he was like,
• 52:47
  Speaker 3: hey man, just hit me up and we will talk.
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: I'm like okay. I was like okay, cool beans, and
• 52:52
  Speaker 3: then talked to Roughing about it. He was down. The
• 52:56
  Speaker 3: crazy thing is his daughter was up here doing the pot.
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: He was in the car.
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: Actually just reached out to me and tell me his
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: daughter watched the podcast, so shout out was it or
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: and shout out to you, I'm my homie too.
• 53:09
  Speaker 3: That's the homyeh singing about to graduate. Turn up, bro.
• 53:13
  Speaker 3: But we'll talk about it there anyway. I'm just getting
• 53:17
  Speaker 3: super excited now. I'm sorry, guys, I'll post anyway. Uh
• 53:22
  Speaker 3: so you rough and he like, yeah, bro, we need
• 53:26
  Speaker 3: to meet and just sit down and talk to him.
• 53:28
  Speaker 3: And so literally we met up, we talked, We basically
• 53:32
  Speaker 3: had our little first interest meeting and talked about it,
• 53:35
  Speaker 3: and he was like, yeah, like we don't. I don't.
• 53:38
  Speaker 3: I don't ask for nothing. I just want you guys
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: to donate, you know, if you can anything like that whatever,
• 53:43
  Speaker 3: But I'm not checking for y'all, Like, if y'all can,
• 53:45
  Speaker 3: I can. And literally, when that happened, that wasn't just
• 53:48
  Speaker 3: the words, but also when he said what this platform
• 53:51
  Speaker 3: was all about. That's what made it all clear to me.
• 53:56
  Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, God, cool bings. And so we've
• 54:02
  Speaker 3: been recording in the dark.
• 54:06
  Speaker 1: Come on, so when can we expect like the revelation
• 54:11
  Speaker 1: of what's been happening behind the scenes, Because I think
• 54:14
  Speaker 1: this is gonna be amazing, not just for the kingdom,
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: but particularly for men like to see men like one
• 54:20
  Speaker 1: reason why I love Hardy initiated. I love those brothers.
• 54:24
  Speaker 1: I love them. They live out loud and they say
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: things that black men don't really hear, and that it
• 54:32
  Speaker 1: gotta come from. That's why I believe like it's just
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: some stuff, just gotta calm from a main and a
• 54:37
  Speaker 1: man that looked like you. Say that again because they
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: talking about fighting the flesh and ain't no black men
• 54:45
  Speaker 1: really talk.
• 54:45
  Speaker 2: Because you ain't talked there in our culture.
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: But that's a whole that's a whole nother if I
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: that's a whole nother forty five minute conversation. Listen, we're
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: gonna support, We're gonna we're gonna support. We're gonna have
• 54:56
  Speaker 1: the podcast link. Is it gonna be on bg TV studios. Okay,
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: so y'all following BGTV studios and also since you heard
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: the gag.
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: The gag is that this.
• 55:07
  Speaker 1: Is kingdom activity that you can fund like fund like
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: we haven't for just as we haven't even been asking
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: for funds because we want to make sure that our household.
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: BGTV is our house and we take care of our house,
• 55:20
  Speaker 1: we will be taken care of as well. So your
• 55:23
  Speaker 1: funds you're sewing BG TV studios. We have everything linked
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: in the bio. Please donate if you're led to or whatever.
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: Anything helps, anything helps, Okay, but there's a ray.
• 55:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: Brother Tyler was like what what what he what he
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: digested over there? Like where he downloaded over there because
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: it got real.
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I think the main thing is.
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: As we talk about relationship, right, is that why relationship
• 55:52
  Speaker 1: with God is so important because your process is important.
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like as you as you
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: begin to journey and do.
• 55:59
  Speaker 1: Relations and shit with God, the process, like he begins
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: to process you for the thing that he's calling you
• 56:06
  Speaker 1: to do. So well, it's a podcast, right, he didn't
• 56:09
  Speaker 1: the idea of the podcast didn't just start when you
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: got the idea of the podcast. The idea of the
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: podcast has already said before you even got into the nil.
• 56:16
  Speaker 1: He came into the earth, right, But you have to
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  Speaker 1: go through this a process that that allows him to
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  Speaker 1: go in and you know, remove some things or put
• 56:23
  Speaker 1: some things in there that so that when it's ready
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: to manifest, like you're ready to handle it. The same
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: thing with like relationship like the reason why your single
• 56:30
  Speaker 1: process is so important is because that God there's some
• 56:33
  Speaker 1: things that needs to be worked in and worked out.
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  Speaker 1: Not saying that you're gonna fully be there by the
• 56:37
  Speaker 1: time you get to get to your person, but the
• 56:39
  Speaker 1: majority of the things you're gonna be able to manage,
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: Like what I told you earlier, like he's gonna be
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: able to hold like have the grace the whole and
• 56:47
  Speaker 1: to carry the capacity of what you carry, right, And
• 56:50
  Speaker 1: it's and vice versa, like when you've journeyed, like God
• 56:52
  Speaker 1: is preparing you for for what he has for you,
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  Speaker 1: but also what he has for you, which is the
• 56:58
  Speaker 1: man the woman of God. Right, So some things that
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: specifically they need that he's trying to prepare you for,
• 57:04
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. And so that's just the
• 57:07
  Speaker 1: thing that just came up because in my own process,
• 57:11
  Speaker 1: like the journey I'm on right now, God has me
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: in this space where I'm staying with some family, family, friends,
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  Speaker 1: And it wasn't really until I got there that I
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, I understand. Like it's a couple. They're
• 57:26
  Speaker 1: in their early fifties, you know, been married over twenty
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: something years, and the very first Sunday morning, I get up,
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  Speaker 1: she sends me a text mess and she says, hey, Dad,
• 57:35
  Speaker 1: I cook breakfast. It's about eight thirty in the morning.
• 57:38
  Speaker 1: I'm getting ready for church. She said, hey, dad'n I
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: cook breakfast.
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  Speaker 2: You know, da da da da.
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  Speaker 1: So I go upstairs and she's like, oh, yeah, and
• 57:44
  Speaker 1: this is something quick and easy you can put together
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  Speaker 1: and you can do this and this and this.
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: And I'm sitting there like, oh.
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  Speaker 1: Then I look out the window and her husband is
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: outside washing her car at eight thirty in the morning.
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: So then it dawned on me. Gud was It was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: this part of the process. You wanted me to be
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: able to see something different, you know what I'm saying.
• 58:01
  Speaker 1: Like when I can see something like, I'm like, oh,
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: you're showing me this for a reason. So as I've
• 58:06
  Speaker 1: been there, like man like just the poor that they've
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: been able to instill to pour into me, like talking
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: to mister Reggie and very neat like just talking to them,
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: and also the community aspect.
• 58:20
  Speaker 2: I'm an only kid, so I'm just used.
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: And it's not that I'm selfish, like even though I
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: have a heart to give, I only have to consider
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: myself when I'm by myself, right, So he now has
• 58:29
  Speaker 1: me in this space where I'm having to intentionally like
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: cause I'm downstairs, like I'm intentionally making myself go upstairs
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: and do community with them. Like even the other day,
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: like I was like, oh, I want some chili. Before
• 58:41
  Speaker 1: I just made some chili for me, but I'm like, no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to invite the people downstairs to have chili
• 58:46
  Speaker 1: with me. And they came down. I was like, man,
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  Speaker 1: this is so cool. And so as I'm just leaning
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: into the process and allowing the process to be what
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: it is, I like, he's literally opening me up to
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: more of what he wants to do. But I have
• 58:57
  Speaker 1: to be okay with the process, right. So that's just
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: what I was just thinking about as I was just
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: sitting over here, and I love sitting over here and
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: just just cleaning all the things. You knew seemed to
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: be so good, so good. Yeah, I didn't know Tyler
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: was gonna pull out my business like that.
• 59:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah, who was? It wasn't me, It was the Holy Spirit.
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: I didn't know he was a bad lord. Yes, three,
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: that's what it looked like.
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: Tyler. You already know what it is.
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: You watch the podcast so kill the people. Your last statement, baby,
• 59:28
  Speaker 1: what what? What's on your heart?
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  Speaker 3: Man? I just want everybody to evaluate the fruit that's
• 59:37
  Speaker 3: on the inside of them. That's just it. And once
• 59:40
  Speaker 3: you evaluate the fruit that's on this side of you,
• 59:42
  Speaker 3: the bad and the good, throw away the bad, choose
• 59:47
  Speaker 3: the good and take that. That's just it, I mean,
• 59:52
  Speaker 3: because once we lean into the Holy Spirit and all
• 59:55
  Speaker 3: of the good things that's on the inside of that fruit,
• 59:58
  Speaker 3: once we take that bite of it, all the other
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 3: bats of won't even matter. Allow him to drive this heat,
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 3: let him take the card, let him take the ship.
• 1:00:08
  Speaker 3: Whatever you want to put it in, he gonna take
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 3: care of it, for sure, he will. You don't have
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 3: to you just sit down and chill.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: Sit down and chill and be be soalt be soft
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  Speaker 1: and be like and be late.
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  Speaker 2: Amen, y'all, we love you guys. Thank you so much
• 1:00:24
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• 1:00:27
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  Speaker 4: Thank God for one another day. Hey, hey, I know
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 4: we could be another way. Hey, pray thank God for
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 4: another day. Hey hey, I'm just thankful another day. Hey hey,
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  Speaker 4: another day, Oh, another day wise, another day to get
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  Speaker 4: it right, another day to rise up, another day living.
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  Speaker 4: Another day. We loved ones. I always remember hold it
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