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Romeo In The Morning 6-25-26 · Romeo In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: That was going on as Romeo, It's Thursday. We made
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  Speaker 1: it to Thursday.
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  Speaker 2: We talked about summer school, We got into relationships with
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  Speaker 2: Michael Bean from the marriagean Family Center.
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  Speaker 1: And then of course your neighbors. You got good neighbors,
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  Speaker 1: bad neighbors. Let's see what's up.
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  Speaker 2: So we're talking about stupid tricks you did as a kid,
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  Speaker 2: or neighborhood games. You got together with your buddies and
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  Speaker 2: you would always, you know, you would do something dumb.
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  Speaker 2: You would either or you'd play some sort of neighborhood
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  Speaker 2: game to entertain yourself. Eight four two, five four, seven
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  Speaker 2: to seven, Good morning out, what's going on? What I mean?
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  Speaker 3: So I remember back in the day, me and my
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  Speaker 3: little cousins and all the little homies on the block.
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  Speaker 3: We would we're on to w w F when wrestling
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  Speaker 3: was real.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah it was real, okay.
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  Speaker 3: And we used to play poop matches, so whenever a
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  Speaker 3: dog was poop in the grass, first one and landed,
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  Speaker 3: it lost. Yeah that was horrible, man, it was horrible. Hey,
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  Speaker 3: it was fun. It was fun as teas and yeah
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  Speaker 3: it was a knockout own in just the whoever whoever
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  Speaker 3: that it.
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  Speaker 2: Is, that's vast that's that's the alright, man, thanks for calling.
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  Speaker 2: Like I said, man, kids will do anything to entertain themselves.
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  Speaker 2: When you know, it was just you had to go outside,
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  Speaker 2: you had to find other kids to play within your neighborhood,
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  Speaker 2: and kids would just come up with the stupidest games
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  Speaker 2: and do the dumbest tricks.
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  Speaker 1: Just you know, how do.
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  Speaker 2: You think, you know, how do you think a lot
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  Speaker 2: of these kids get hurt? A lot of these scars
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  Speaker 2: came from entertainment. That's what we had to do to
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  Speaker 2: entertain ourselves already. Four two, five four or seven to seven?
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  Speaker 2: What kind of tricks? What kind of neighborhood games did
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  Speaker 2: you guys play? And when I say neighborhood games, like
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  Speaker 2: what the guy just said, they played WWF with poom.
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  Speaker 2: I never heard of that before, But that was a
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  Speaker 2: neighborhood game. Talking about games, neighborhood games you played when
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  Speaker 2: you were a kid, he what's up?
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  Speaker 4: WHOA?
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  Speaker 5: WHOA?
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  Speaker 1: What U brother?
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  Speaker 6: Maybe the game we had we called it was football,
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  Speaker 6: but we called it side by bad. As long as
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  Speaker 6: you ran down the middle with two hand touch, you
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  Speaker 6: ran to the to the sidewalker, whatever you got hit
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  Speaker 6: whatever on that ser whatever you did.
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  Speaker 7: Whow stro.
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  Speaker 2: Going on?
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  Speaker 8: Hey Roman talking about the childhood game. Hey, so there
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  Speaker 8: used to be like ten of us. We all lived
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  Speaker 8: like two blocks from each other. We had the old
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  Speaker 8: you know.
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  Speaker 5: The power wheels, little four four wheel cars or whatever.
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  Speaker 8: Okay, dude, they'd be like six of us. We're all
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  Speaker 8: probably six or seven years old. You team up with
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  Speaker 8: your friend, he'd push you around. We had a little
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  Speaker 8: dirty going on. We smashed into each other.
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  Speaker 5: Bro We did it until our cars broke. Man.
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  Speaker 8: We had these little beat up cars that have no batteries, and.
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  Speaker 5: We just all goought together.
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  Speaker 8: We just mashed into each other.
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  Speaker 5: You know.
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  Speaker 8: Somebody pushed to you and he took turns just like that.
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  Speaker 2: Oh man, that's great, man, that's great.
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  Speaker 5: Great dude.
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  Speaker 8: I never see those kids do that again these days.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you vote, all right, man, they were called all right.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, let's be honest when we talk about this stuff. Though,
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  Speaker 2: kids today will never do that stuff because they don't
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  Speaker 2: have to. I mean, back in the day.
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  Speaker 1: Before the internet, before the.
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  Speaker 2: App laptop, our iPads and computers and all this stuff, iPhones,
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  Speaker 2: before all of that, you.
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  Speaker 1: Had to entertain yourself.
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  Speaker 2: So you went and found a bunch of other kids
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  Speaker 2: in your neighborhood that had nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Else to do, and that's how you became friends. He
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  Speaker 1: became you think about it.
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  Speaker 2: All the friends you have for the most part now
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  Speaker 2: are because you were looking for other people, other kids
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  Speaker 2: that had nothing else to do, just like you, right
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  Speaker 2: you would. You might not be friends with them today
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  Speaker 2: because you know you didn't have you. That's all we
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  Speaker 2: were doing is kids running around looking for other kids
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  Speaker 2: that had nothing else to do, so we could do
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  Speaker 2: nothing together or make up silly games to play. All
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  Speaker 2: righty four, two, five fours, seven to seven?
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  Speaker 8: Romeo, how are you this morning?
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  Speaker 1: Great brother?
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  Speaker 8: What's up well? Growing up?
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  Speaker 6: Man?
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  Speaker 8: A lot of childhood games that I grew up playing
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  Speaker 8: with a few friends that I had until this they
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  Speaker 8: are still part of my life. One of them, we
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  Speaker 8: didn't have a lot of money, so one of them
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  Speaker 8: what we used to do is we used to roll
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  Speaker 8: up a piece of paper you know us in Oregon
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  Speaker 8: and turn it into a dart. I mean what we
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  Speaker 8: would do you grab, you grab dirt and you'd throw
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  Speaker 8: it inside to make it hairy, right yeah, And then
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  Speaker 8: you grab a paper sick that you put at the
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  Speaker 8: very tip right before you put the dirt so that
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  Speaker 8: it doesn't fall out, and you grab a rubber band,
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  Speaker 8: the sickest, hardest rubber band you can find, okay, and
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  Speaker 8: you launch it in the and everybody stands in the circle,
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  Speaker 8: head down and see wherever it hits. Mind you, it's
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  Speaker 8: people with their It's not really gonna hurt if they
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  Speaker 8: hit the back of your head until already. Uh decided
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  Speaker 8: to look up and we're like, we're down. You know.
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  Speaker 8: It's one of those things if you're growing up in
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  Speaker 8: these Baker's fields and you hear the words you're not down,
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  Speaker 8: ye my gosh or double dog dare you? You're gonna
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  Speaker 8: have to do it? So we all decide to look up. Well,
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  Speaker 8: it hits already.
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  Speaker 5: Square in the eye.
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  Speaker 8: To this day we call them bullseye already, or sometimes
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  Speaker 8: we'll call him prey.
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  Speaker 2: Oh that's hilarious to do.
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  Speaker 8: All sorts of stuff, man, if I can tell you real.
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  Speaker 8: Last one, we used to skate downhill. There's a street
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  Speaker 8: called Camino Brimaveda and these bakers fields. Uh, they dared
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  Speaker 8: me to rollerblade downhill. I never rollerblade in my life.
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  Speaker 8: I didn't know how to stop. So as I'm going down,
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  Speaker 8: I'm about to reach College, which is a very busy street. Yeah,
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  Speaker 8: I'm thinking the best thing for me to do, since
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  Speaker 8: I don't know how to stop on rollerblade, is to
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  Speaker 8: throw myself on one of the lawns. Well. Mewing's law
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  Speaker 8: of physics is that a body of emotion tends to
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  Speaker 8: say emotion unless I could have found a greater force,
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  Speaker 8: people in greater force.
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  Speaker 7: Well, guess what.
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  Speaker 8: When I threw myself midair into the grass, I completely
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  Speaker 8: kept going mid air and mid the entiregrass area, landed
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  Speaker 8: on the driveway, and the pavement rolled a few times.
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  Speaker 8: Oh man that was washing his crew his lawn there
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  Speaker 8: just looked at me and he goes, man, you completely
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  Speaker 8: missed that.
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  Speaker 1: We're talking about.
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  Speaker 2: As a kid man before all this electronics, before video games,
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  Speaker 2: before anything that kept you in a house, everything you
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  Speaker 2: had to do was outside the house, which means you
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  Speaker 2: had to go out and find other kids like you
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  Speaker 2: who had nothing to do. And then that's how you
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  Speaker 2: made your friends in the neighborhood. And then after a
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  Speaker 2: while while you'd start making up dumb neighborhood games, or
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  Speaker 2: you'd make up stupid tricks to do. You know, everybody,
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  Speaker 2: lay down. Let's see how many. How many kids we
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  Speaker 2: can jump over on our bikes?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: I mean have you done that already?
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  Speaker 2: Four two five, four, seven to seven?
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  Speaker 5: Going on? Hold up, djo Hey.
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  Speaker 4: When I was little, used to play this game hine
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  Speaker 4: go gigg You heard of that?
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  Speaker 2: No?
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  Speaker 1: What is it?
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  Speaker 4: A bunch of these girls and boys get together and
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  Speaker 4: play and we'd be crushing on each other and say.
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  Speaker 6: We go hide and when they find spot?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god? What is.
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  Speaker 5: That? Was one of my.
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  Speaker 1: That's great? Thanks for.
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  Speaker 5: All right?
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  Speaker 1: What did you play that game? As adults? All right? Hey, roam?
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  Speaker 2: We used to play a game called the Black Widow
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  Speaker 2: where we where we would turn all the lights off
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  Speaker 2: in the room and just start fighting everyone in the dark,
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  Speaker 2: free for all, rumbles in the dark. Nice nice kids
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  Speaker 2: are so stupid? Oh my god, how did we survive?
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  Speaker 2: Eight four two five, four, seven to seven? It's kind
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  Speaker 2: of dumb. Neighborhood games? Did you play with your friends
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  Speaker 2: in the neighborhood? Are stupid tricks you would do?
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  Speaker 1: Good morning? How what's going on?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Doorknob?
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  Speaker 3: Have you ever heard of doorknob?
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  Speaker 8: Dor?
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  Speaker 3: No? So well, you're right there with your with your
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  Speaker 3: friends or family members, and you part they rush it
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  Speaker 3: will start beating you up until you touch the doorknob.
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  Speaker 3: We did that all the time. Yeah, that's what we do. Man,
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  Speaker 3: someone cut one rush them.
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  Speaker 2: That could be the dumbest thing I've ever heard. All Right, man,
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  Speaker 2: ext you college door knob. Let's play doorknob?
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  Speaker 1: All right? What's going on?
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  Speaker 5: Hey?
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  Speaker 4: What's up Romeo?
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  Speaker 5: Guy?
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  Speaker 8: Here?
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  Speaker 6: You talking about the game we used to play? Dumb kids?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I was, and my home plays had a game
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  Speaker 4: we used to play. It's called B B Bridges.
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  Speaker 8: So that mean all of us to be.
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  Speaker 3: Together and we're trying to use words without using the
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  Speaker 3: letter B and then if you use the word beat,
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  Speaker 3: everybody just gets a punch on you until you say
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  Speaker 3: B B bridges.
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  Speaker 1: That might be the second and stupidest thing I heard.
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  Speaker 6: Said anything with it being it and you forgot that
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  Speaker 6: we were playing B B Bridges everybody, I just wrap down?
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  Speaker 2: All right, man, you guys are crazy for college. And
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  Speaker 2: like slug Bug. We used to play slug bug in
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  Speaker 2: the car, right. I don't think they play slug no
• 10:00
  Speaker 2: more so. Yesterday a friend of mine, she asked me
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  Speaker 2: to pick up her kid kids in high school and
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  Speaker 2: at summer school, and she got caught up in an
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  Speaker 2: appointment or something, and I said, y'all go grab them.
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  Speaker 1: So I went to pick up pick.
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  Speaker 2: Up her son, and uh my god, how many people
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  Speaker 2: are going to summer school? Well, what's going on with
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  Speaker 2: summer school?
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  Speaker 1: Are you guys?
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  Speaker 2: Are your parents making your kids go to summer school?
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  Speaker 5: Now?
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  Speaker 2: It was packed back in my day when I was
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  Speaker 2: in high school, you only went to summer school when
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  Speaker 2: they when you.
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  Speaker 1: Had to, when you were going to graduate. What in
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  Speaker 1: the hell is going My.
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  Speaker 2: Mom never made me go to summer school. It was
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  Speaker 2: never even an option. Summer was to hang out, play,
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  Speaker 2: have a good time. What is going on with summer school?
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  Speaker 2: Why are all these kids taking summer school? Are there
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  Speaker 2: that many bad kids falling behind? Are you parents making
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  Speaker 2: your kids go to summer school so you don't so
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  Speaker 2: you have a babysitter?
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  Speaker 1: What's going on? Alrighty? Poor two?
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  Speaker 2: Five, four, seven to seven. A friend of mine asked
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  Speaker 2: me to pick up their kid from summer school, and
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  Speaker 2: I did because I can and I'm a nice guy
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  Speaker 2: to my friends. But god dang, there was a lot
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  Speaker 2: of kids at summer school.
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  Speaker 1: What is wrong?
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  Speaker 2: Are you making? Are you?
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  Speaker 1: Why do you why do your parents make your kids
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  Speaker 1: go to summer school.
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  Speaker 2: Thy four two, five, four, seven to seven. Gordon Hopp's
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  Speaker 2: going on? What's hey?
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  Speaker 8: I told you brow another day. I told you they
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  Speaker 8: used the school their daycare. And then after daycare, one
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  Speaker 8: of the one of my daughter's friends, told me that
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  Speaker 8: he goes to he goes to school because.
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  Speaker 9: The mom worked and the dad were And then after
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  Speaker 9: that they get dropped off at the at the movie
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  Speaker 9: theater the studio.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, okay, and by after they're done watching the movie
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  Speaker 2: that the moms getting off picking them all up. They
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  Speaker 2: were they're going home.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 6: People might caught there about.
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  Speaker 4: Fifteen months, you know what I mean for the for the.
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  Speaker 8: Studio movie girl.
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  Speaker 1: But sure, I'll tell.
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  Speaker 8: You they guy did it to their daycare.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, what happened to just uh letting your kids fend
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  Speaker 2: for the fend for themselves during the summer. What's up
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  Speaker 2: with that?
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  Speaker 1: Alright?
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  Speaker 2: I need four two, five, four, seven and seven worry that.
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  Speaker 1: What's going on any morning?
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  Speaker 5: Romeo?
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  Speaker 3: Honestly, that's for the summer school team topic.
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  Speaker 9: It's like this, Uh, it's not that year for me.
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  Speaker 2: In my case, I went almost every summer throughout middle
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  Speaker 2: school and high school due to the fact that like, well,
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  Speaker 2: I need a babysitter, and at the.
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  Speaker 3: Same time I needed I wanted you.
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  Speaker 6: My parents want me to get ahead.
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  Speaker 4: So in an investment type of way, it paid off.
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  Speaker 3: But honestly I kind of hated it there they were
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  Speaker 3: serving us like person type of food.
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  Speaker 1: All right, all right, yeah, man.
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  Speaker 2: In my day, summer school was for the kids that
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  Speaker 2: were going to fail or that failed my mom. It
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  Speaker 2: was never even a conversation about how, hey, you want
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  Speaker 2: to go to say hell, no, I don't want to
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  Speaker 2: go to summer school. My summer is for me to
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  Speaker 2: get in trouble and do my thing with my friends,
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  Speaker 2: go to summer school. Friend, somebody asked me to pick
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  Speaker 2: up their kid from summer school, and I did, and
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  Speaker 2: when I got there, I thought, so I just went
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  Speaker 2: right when it got out, It didn't occur to me
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  Speaker 2: summer school. What they're gonna be like three kids at
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  Speaker 2: summer school right now, parking lot was full line of
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  Speaker 2: cars picking up kid. Looked like regular school. And I
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  Speaker 2: was like, what in the hell are these kids? What
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  Speaker 2: are all these kids doing here? It's summertime. Shouldn't you
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  Speaker 2: be out getting in trouble somewhere pissing somebody off sit
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  Speaker 2: hanging out in front of a liquor store with your
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  Speaker 2: friends on your bikes. What are you all doing here?
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  Speaker 2: To me, summer school was always when. It's always where
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  Speaker 2: you went, either when you fail the class or you
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  Speaker 2: had to make something up, so you went to summer school.
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  Speaker 1: I do not know what's going on now, are you? Apparently?
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  Speaker 2: According to Ruben, it's daycare. Is that what you guys
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  Speaker 2: are doing with your kids?
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  Speaker 9: Now?
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  Speaker 2: You're making them go to summer school so you can
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  Speaker 2: have daycare already? Four two four seven to seven, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: I use summer school as away for my kindergartener to
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  Speaker 2: remain in the routine of school. When she gets older,
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  Speaker 2: she can choose if she wants to. So you're making
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  Speaker 2: your kindergartener go to summer school, and your your excuse
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  Speaker 2: is she needs to stay in a routine. Nah that now,
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  Speaker 2: come on, man, at least be honest about it. At
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  Speaker 2: least be honest about it. Ah, that's just daycare. I
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  Speaker 2: think I might agree with Rubin. All you parents, are
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  Speaker 2: you got daycare now? Summer school's daycare. Yesterday some friends
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  Speaker 2: of mine asked if I can go pick up their
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  Speaker 2: kid from summer school. So I just roll up thinking,
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  Speaker 2: you know what, I could be there two minutes early.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, you know, two minutes still, school gets out,
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  Speaker 2: No big deal, one minute.
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  Speaker 1: They're not gonna beat It was packed, Man, there was
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  Speaker 1: a line.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, damn, there's not many bad at because
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  Speaker 2: summer school, to me, is when you're failing and you
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  Speaker 2: got to go try to make it up. What the
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  Speaker 2: hell is going on now? I'm finding out it's daycare?
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  Speaker 2: Rome I went to summer school a couple of times.
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  Speaker 2: Now I don't even work during this summer. I take
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  Speaker 2: that time off and go on vacation.
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  Speaker 1: Nice. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: When I was in school, man, summer was all you
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  Speaker 2: my mom's philosophy. What's all you get out of my
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  Speaker 2: house and go play till the sun goes down?
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  Speaker 1: Good morning? Now what's going.
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  Speaker 8: On, Romeo?
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  Speaker 5: I gotta chime in on this conversation?
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  Speaker 4: What's up about this daycare?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah?
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  Speaker 9: I mean about school.
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  Speaker 6: My daughter is in pre.
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  Speaker 4: K when she graduated, and I do.
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  Speaker 3: Now I'm a full time message to it.
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  Speaker 4: So I do use the school for jown care.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not gonna lie.
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  Speaker 5: I do loved it, but I ain't gonna lie.
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  Speaker 3: I need it, you know, I need it both her
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  Speaker 3: dad worked, I work.
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  Speaker 4: I mean her dad worked, I go to school.
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  Speaker 8: So of course, you.
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  Speaker 6: Know, and the opportunity is there, why not use it?
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  Speaker 1: Okay?
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  Speaker 2: I know you, Romeo, at least you honest about That's
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  Speaker 2: all I'm at. All I ask is you be honest.
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  Speaker 2: That's all I asked for everybody. You have a good
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: day too, I mean, that's all I've ever asked, is
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: just be honest. All right? Oh my god, eight four four,
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: seven to seven, rom It's three hours.
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: Oh, this is one that said the kindergarten.
• 16:22
  Speaker 2: They send their kindergartener there to keep them in a routine.
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: It's three hours.
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: Summer school is only three hours. Well that's still three
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: hours a daycare.
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: Three hours. You don't have to worry about, right.
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: Alrighty four, two, five, fours, seven and seven. I was
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: amazed how many kids were in summer school. And all
• 16:41
  Speaker 2: I thought when I was sitting there was damn all
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: these badass kids. What is wrong with this place?
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: Already?
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: For two, five, four, seven and seven I had to
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: pick up my friend's kids from summer school, high school,
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: summer school. Right, I can't believe how many kids are
• 16:56
  Speaker 2: in summer school. My God, what is wrong? Eight four two,
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: five hours, seven to seven? What happened to the good
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: old days when kids were out terrorizing the neighborhood, having
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: fun running up the ac Now you guys put him
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: in summer school more than what's going on?
• 17:09
  Speaker 7: Hey, I agree, some people are using it for daycare.
• 17:13
  Speaker 3: Or some people are using it because they failed.
• 17:16
  Speaker 5: But my daughter's logic.
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: She's a high school student at Frontier. She would rather
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: do six weeks of algebra for five hours.
• 17:26
  Speaker 8: A day than eight months of algebra, and so she
• 17:30
  Speaker 8: takes MAT to get ahead so she doesn't have to
• 17:32
  Speaker 8: do eight months of it.
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: She tried to pull a straight hustle.
• 17:37
  Speaker 3: She is, but I can't blame her.
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: And I'm going bad for the man that marries that
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: shyster dead.
• 17:46
  Speaker 8: Hey, mom, I could pass that in six weeks rather
• 17:50
  Speaker 8: than like fairly papping.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: That's hilarious. Fine, you know it's funny though. We used
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: to do that in college. We took certain classes. I
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: guess I did go to summer school and college because
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: you took certain classes because they weren't as long and
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: they couldn't they were easier to pass. That's funny. Already
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: four two or seven to seven, they roam. You'd understand
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: if you had kids. Oh about the daycare, Hey, roam.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: I think high schoolers get extra credit that they attend
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: summer school makes graduating easier.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Really, that's crazy.
• 18:25
  Speaker 4: We're wrong. What they Hey kid, they're going to summer
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: school cause they they're playing mart and dumb at the
• 18:33
  Speaker 4: same time.
• 18:34
  Speaker 7: Okay, you've had high school, right.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, these kids will go to summer
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: school get the extra credit even though they didn't need them.
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: That way, they could just mess around the whole school
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: year because they already know they got the credit that
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: they need.
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's stupid.
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's really done.
• 18:53
  Speaker 3: But I mean for one month, I think for one
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: month or two the one month, like eight weeks or whatever.
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: No of the sixth week they get the credit for
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: like a semester or a.
• 19:01
  Speaker 6: Quarter or something like that.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: Oh I see what you Oh I see so they
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: can oh I see so and then get the same
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: thing done in six weeks that they can instead of
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: whatever six months or three months and whatever.
• 19:13
  Speaker 6: Or something like that.
• 19:15
  Speaker 8: They just messed around during school hours and school time,
• 19:17
  Speaker 8: you know, like that, and.
• 19:18
  Speaker 10: But they already know the summer school look like instead
• 19:21
  Speaker 10: of being ahead even out gotcha?
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: Wow, okay, alright, I'm in thanks. Yeah, that's dumb.
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: I don't know, I guess I I guess I can't
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: understand it because I was I was smart, and I
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: didn't need summer school, and I had friends who I
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: hung out with all summer. So yeah, I guess, I
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: just I just don't understand that when it comes to
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: summer school. Hey roam uh send my boy to summer
• 19:49
  Speaker 2: to summer school to take advantage of ex expedited health classes.
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: Got five credits in two weeks instead of four months.
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: Just two weeks though, Well, I mean, I get it.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: I guess that's the way to do it. I just
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: like I said, when I was in school, we didn't
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: care about all that we wanted our summers, and summer
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: school was for the kids that had to remake I
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: had to make up or fell behind.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: Yell row.
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: My daughter and a lot of kids at her high
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: school actually like going to summer school. They are in
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: college credit while knocking out their graduation requirements, which puts
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: them ahead by senior year, and many of them have
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: mostly activities left or can or can even graduate early.
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: She says that that way she'll have a stress free
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: senior year.
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: Well, I can tell you that I don't get it, though.
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: I understand that logic, But I never went to summer school,
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: and I never I got out of I got out
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: at lunchtime my senior year. So what is being done
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: different than I mean, maybe I'm just that much smarter
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: than these kids today and didn't need summer school to
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: get ahead. I don't understand that already. Four two four
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: seven to seven. Hey, Rome, it's funny that you mentioned
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: this about summer school because my grandson goes to Stockdale.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: We went out for lunch the weekend this weekend.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: And he said he was taking summer school PE so
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: he didn't have to do it during the regular school season.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: Now he was in band, so.
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: Maybe it helps him so he doesn't have to deal
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: with that much of a workout.
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: Maybe I have heard though.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: If I was a little bit dumber, if I just
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: was a little bit dumber, I would have probably gotten
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: to the education system because there's some things there that
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: could be worked out.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: I heard that, and you guys can correct me if
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: you're wrong.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: I heard that kids that are in sports have to
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: take PE also in school. So when I was in
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: high school, if you played sports, you didn't have PE.
• 22:00
  Speaker 2: But I don't know if that's true or not, but
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: that's just one of the stupidest things I've ever heard.
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: If these schools, these high schools, are making these kids
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: take PE, even if they're an athlete, even if they're
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: on a team, that's pretty stupid. Like I said, if
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: I was dumber, I would have gotten to education. All right,
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: we were talking about summer school, and I wanted to
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: get back to some of the text messages because I
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: just think it's insane these people going to summer school.
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: But you know, like I said, back in my day,
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: summer school was for the kids that had to catch
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: up or they failed a class, And now you know,
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: kids are doing it for what already four two, five,
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: four seven to seven year roam. My son took a
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: class in summer school, so he will have one last
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: period his senior year.
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: I understand where you're coming with that, But I also
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: I never took summer school, and my senior year I
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: only took four classes. That was that was my senior year.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: Four classes one semester, four classes out by noon every day,
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: out by lunch.
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: So I don't understand.
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: That Rome and nephew was taking summer school, which he
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: doesn't need to be with his girlfriend, dumb ass.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Well, I will.
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: You know, I gotta tell you man, I guys, I
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: just said this morning. Guys will do stupid things for women. Okay,
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: Unfortunately we're guys were that stupid. A woman will make us,
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: you know, do stupid things. So I can't call it
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: your your nephew dumbass.
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: Although I don't know why.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: I mean, maybe kids just don't have anything to do
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: during the summers. I don't know already four two or
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: seven to seven your room. My son was a freshman
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: last year and played both football and baseball and still
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: had to take PE all year. That, yeah, I think
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: that's stupid too. During the baseball season, my son's PEE
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: teacher gave my for a quarter grade because he missed
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: a few classes. Rome, my son only missed because he
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: was at baseball every time. He was literally a starting pitch,
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: and if not pitching, he was playing shortstop only time
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: he was on the Well, okay, so your kids an athlete.
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: Now you're gonna tell me about how he's gonna go
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: d one. Come on, man, my son was upset that
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: his teacher gave a B for the quarter three because
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: it messed up as four point zero grade. I mean,
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: now you're just called to brag abatch, Okay. I think
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: it's stupid that you have. You have these kids that
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: play on sports teams in their high schools and they
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: still have to take bee.
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: I'm with you on that.
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: This guy's trying to get this kid recruited by somebody
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: right now already four two, five, four or seven at seven.
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: When I was in high school, I played football and baseball,
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: and they.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: That was my pe. That was my pe. But I
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know how that works.
• 24:47
  Speaker 5: Now.
• 24:48
  Speaker 2: That's why I said, if I was a little bit dumber,
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: I would have gotten too the educational system and tried
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: to I don't know, be as dumb as these people
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: are there.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: It's Romeo. Uh what did you send me?
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: U A rome Bro Back in the day. You only
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: went to summer school to catch up, not to get ahead.
• 25:06
  Speaker 2: That's crazy to me, I mean it is. It's it's
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: sad right these kids. I mean, I know some high
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: school kids that were trying to get into college and
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: they got to do community service. They're going to summer
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: school to get ahead, or to the summer school to
• 25:28
  Speaker 2: pump up their resumes. I mean, these kids are going
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: to high school. Is it really that difficult to get
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: into college. I'm gonna tell you. When I was in
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: high school, I didn't do community service, I didn't go
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: to summer school. I was really smart, and I still am.
• 25:42
  Speaker 2: I was very good. I was very academic in high school.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: I was you know, I was kind of a nerd
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: in high school. Very much was easy for me. But uh,
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: these kids, like you said, are doing these things to
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: pat their resumes, pat the stats on their resumes so
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: that they can go to college. I got called out
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: of class my senior year of high school for my
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: accounselor to go, hey, are you going to go to college?
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: And I went, yeah, I'm gonna go to college.
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: Well you need to apply today, You're I mean, you
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: have you applied yet?
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: And that's how That's why I.
• 26:25
  Speaker 2: Don't understand how things have changed. I just don't get it,
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: because no, you got to get these college applications out today.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: So I applied for colleges that day. Told my mom
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: and dad, Hey, I'm supposed apply for college today. They said, well,
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: you better do it.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: If you're going to go to college. And got accepted.
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: Every college I applied for. So I don't know what's
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: going on in this Well, I can't believe.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: I just don't know. I just don't know. Hey, good
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: going to Rome.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: You're right, I remember not taking summer school. My senior
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: year only had a class was government and I took
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: an dependent studies for that one and graduated midterm. Have
• 27:03
  Speaker 2: a good day, because that's what I'm saying. What's really
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: going on here? We're talking about summer school.
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: Man.
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: So many kids are going to summer school. Back in
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: my day, apparently you know, well, I know, summer school
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: was from the kids that were failing, falling behind. You
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: maybe had one kid, that one smart kid that everybody
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: cheated off of, that went to summer school because he
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: was gonna, you know, be Elon Musk, and he probably
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: ended up being Elon Musk.
• 27:28
  Speaker 10: You know.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: But I mean, what now these kids are going to,
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: you know, for their resumes, they're trying to boost up
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: their resumes by going to summer school community service. I mean,
• 27:36
  Speaker 2: what is that about? What has changed? I mean, these
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: kids aren't that bright, so I don't know, and these
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: colleges aren't aren't pumping out geniuses, so I don't know
• 27:46
  Speaker 2: what's going on. Hey, Rom, what's the point of doing
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: community hours during high school?
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: I have no idea. I never did any Good morning
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: to how's going on?
• 27:54
  Speaker 8: Okay, why did you do that? I would have to
• 27:57
  Speaker 8: go three kids in summer school, and thy you.
• 28:01
  Speaker 5: Talk about you going to summer school.
• 28:05
  Speaker 8: I'm gonna see them in summer school to sit.
• 28:07
  Speaker 5: At my house on their games, watching TV all day.
• 28:10
  Speaker 5: I think I'm gonna coup for them all day. Okay,
• 28:14
  Speaker 5: but the incoming Cristmas they're not behind. But just in
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: case they get behind, they got these you know extra
• 28:24
  Speaker 5: say They're like, can hear what he's saying? Okay, fool,
• 28:34
  Speaker 5: Let them at.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Least fall behind before you make them go to summer school.
• 28:39
  Speaker 4: No, I want to see them walk off the change,
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: and they're gonna walk but you the face, you know
• 28:45
  Speaker 4: what you say?
• 28:46
  Speaker 5: I'm like, yeah, out here, but y'all get out.
• 28:48
  Speaker 8: This car by Michael being.
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: Is here for the Marriaging Family Center. We're gonna try
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: and see if the phone is working.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: Good morning, Michael, Well, good morning, how are you there?
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: We go?
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: That was my fault. Michael, all right, don't worry.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: The reason the phone was feeding back was I had
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: a button push that I wasn't supposed to have pushed.
• 29:06
  Speaker 7: So we just shouldn't give you so many.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: But maybe they should hire somebody that knows what they're
• 29:12
  Speaker 2: doing instead of me having me here, all right, Michael
• 29:15
  Speaker 2: being us here at six six one three two seven
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: fifty one one hundred.
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: Good morning again, Michael, Let's get going.
• 29:23
  Speaker 7: Let's talk about they get off to a good start
• 29:26
  Speaker 7: or a bad start, and but one out of ten
• 29:29
  Speaker 7: relationships has some friction from the very beginning. They have
• 29:33
  Speaker 7: this real attachment to each other, but from the very
• 29:36
  Speaker 7: beginning they just kind of have these escalating conversations.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: How do we just I mean, how do we get there?
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: Though? Michael? I mean we we we go with the
• 29:44
  Speaker 2: best intentions into a relationship. Then we get to the
• 29:49
  Speaker 2: point where we just do we get? Are we complacent
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: with somebody? We get we take them for granted. I
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: Mean what amazes me is when we talk talk about
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: relationships with couples, okay, and then we talk about relationships friendships,
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: we don't get complacent with our friends as we do
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: with our wives or our husbands. We tend to treat
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: our friends better than we treat our spouses for some reason,
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: or we don't get into these situations where we take
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: them for granted.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: Why do you see that, Michael? And if so, why
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: why do we get that way with people?
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 30:27
  Speaker 7: I think it's the perfect use of the word entitlement.
• 30:31
  Speaker 8: I really do.
• 30:32
  Speaker 7: I think we feel entitled. It's like, Okay, well, no,
• 30:35
  Speaker 7: we're we're committed to each other now, so they're not
• 30:38
  Speaker 7: going anywhere, so I can treat them anyway I want.
• 30:40
  Speaker 7: I know that's not conscious. I know we're not like
• 30:44
  Speaker 7: like realizing we're saying that, But I think we act
• 30:47
  Speaker 7: that way.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: You don't think do you think you don't think we can't? Well, no,
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: let me rephrase that. Do you think we consciously act
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: that way or do we just get in the we
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: unconsciously act the way you've just said, we get entitled
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: their not.
• 31:00
  Speaker 7: Going anywhere exactly. I just think it's under the surface.
• 31:03
  Speaker 7: We don't notice that we're even kind of doing it.
• 31:05
  Speaker 7: If we flect back on it later, then we do
• 31:08
  Speaker 7: ask ourselves, just like you said, well, I would never
• 31:11
  Speaker 7: treat my best friend that way? Why would I treat
• 31:13
  Speaker 7: them that way? And we just kind of scratch our heads.
• 31:17
  Speaker 8: I do.
• 31:17
  Speaker 7: I think it's kind of we just feel entitled. We
• 31:21
  Speaker 7: just feel like somehow they're not going anywhere, and I'm
• 31:27
  Speaker 7: upset and up so I can sort of justify it
• 31:29
  Speaker 7: to myself, whatever behavior I do. It's kind of a
• 31:33
  Speaker 7: tragic human nature thing and we get that way.
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: Does it have to do with stress? Does it have
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: to do with.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: I guess what I'm trying to ask you is how
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: does that begin? I mean, everything's going great, everything's going great,
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: everything's going great. All we want to do is be
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: with each other. All we want to do is see
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: each other. All we want to do is sleep with
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: each other. All we want to do is be around
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: each other. And then where does that start to turn?
• 32:00
  Speaker 2: And it doesn't turn immediately. It's a it's a slowly,
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: slowly gradually turns into that, right, Michael.
• 32:07
  Speaker 7: I like to talk to couples about boundaries. Okay, it
• 32:10
  Speaker 7: feels like it's kind of a boundary issue.
• 32:14
  Speaker 8: We all have to have them.
• 32:15
  Speaker 7: Some people say, well, you know, this is the person
• 32:17
  Speaker 7: I'm the most in love with. We shouldn't have any
• 32:19
  Speaker 7: boundaries with each other. Wait a minute, hold it that
• 32:22
  Speaker 7: person you're closest to you have the most opportunity to
• 32:27
  Speaker 7: step on their toes, you know, literally or metaphorically. Yeah,
• 32:31
  Speaker 7: if somebody you're really close to, it's really easy to
• 32:34
  Speaker 7: say something dumb or to do something thoughtless because you
• 32:38
  Speaker 7: are together so much, because you are so close, and
• 32:40
  Speaker 7: so it's even more important to have really clear boundaries
• 32:44
  Speaker 7: with that person. And sometimes that's what it's about. A
• 32:47
  Speaker 7: person kind of pushes in a way that's not okay,
• 32:51
  Speaker 7: and the other person needs to basically communicate that and say, hey, hey,
• 32:54
  Speaker 7: that's that's not okay.
• 32:56
  Speaker 8: Have a really good story.
• 32:59
  Speaker 7: I'd love to tell people after the break about somebody
• 33:01
  Speaker 7: setting a boundary in a really powerful way that worked
• 33:03
  Speaker 7: and pretty much saved their relationship.
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: All right, Michael hold on a second, Michael being his
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: here from the Marriage and Family Center. We're going to
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: talk about boundaries. I didn't even understand what he's talking
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: about right now, but we'll get there. So, Michael being
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: his here from the Marriage in Family Center. That's Marriage
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: Family Center six six one three two seven fifty one hundred.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: Good morning, Michael, Good morning. One of the interest things
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: you brought up, and I don't.
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: Even think I even thought about it, was couples having
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: boundaries with each other and being in a relationship.
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: So go ahead, Michael, what do you got.
• 33:36
  Speaker 8: Yeah.
• 33:37
  Speaker 7: So a friend of mine said that early interaction with
• 33:40
  Speaker 7: his wife pretty much saved their marriage. He was young
• 33:44
  Speaker 7: and full of you know, emotion and passion and everything,
• 33:47
  Speaker 7: and she just needed a break and she was going
• 33:50
  Speaker 7: to just go take you know, go for a drive
• 33:53
  Speaker 7: or something, and he just clung on to her. He
• 33:56
  Speaker 7: like wrapped his arms around her legs or something, and
• 34:00
  Speaker 7: she kicked herself away and left and just left him
• 34:07
  Speaker 7: sitting there, you know, on the ground, and okay, And
• 34:11
  Speaker 7: it gave both of them time to calm down. Like
• 34:13
  Speaker 7: an hour later or something. Comes back and uh, he's
• 34:17
  Speaker 7: just sitting there and she, you know, he's sort of
• 34:21
  Speaker 7: expecting her to apologize for leaving. Oh what in Instead,
• 34:26
  Speaker 7: she says, if you ever treat me like that again,
• 34:30
  Speaker 7: we're done.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 34:32
  Speaker 7: That that completely set the tone for how they were
• 34:38
  Speaker 7: going to respect each other in the relationships. They weren't
• 34:40
  Speaker 7: going to put their hands on each other, no matter
• 34:42
  Speaker 7: how upset they were, and they never did.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: Now, he wasn't really trying to hurt her, He was
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: just trying to not in that aspect. I don't want
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: to ask you Leu's Michael when we talk about in
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: a sense of a bound And I don't know if
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: this much relates, but people will always go there's two
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: things you always hear about, uh, and I don't know
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: who created this is well, we always got to have
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: a date night, and we always got to spend time apart.
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: Those are the two things that kept our marriage excite,
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: you know, kept our marriage together.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: And I would argue that the being a part is.
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: More detrimental than the idea of we need to go
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: be you know, be apart from it. It's more detrimental
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: to your relationship obviously than the date night. But it
• 35:32
  Speaker 2: seems like when people get out of their marriages, that's
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: the wrong way to say it. When people take when
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: people are apart, it always ends up being girls' night,
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: guys night weekend, and they're never they never seem to
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: be positive.
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: For the marriage for the most part.
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: But yet I think that's a common practice of people going, yeah,
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: we need this, that's how we keep our marriage alive.
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: We go our separate ways every once in a while,
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: you know, for a few hours or for a few
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: days or whatever the case. May be, do you see
• 36:03
  Speaker 2: that has been a positive influence on the marriage.
• 36:07
  Speaker 7: I mean, let's let's make a distinction here, because I
• 36:10
  Speaker 7: kind of agree with you that I think couples should
• 36:13
  Speaker 7: go to parties together. Okay, you know, I think if
• 36:17
  Speaker 7: you're going to just socialize and maybe have some adult
• 36:22
  Speaker 7: beverages and just kind of kick back a bit, then
• 36:28
  Speaker 7: you probably want to do that together. But on the
• 36:31
  Speaker 7: other hand, I think it's really healthy that each person
• 36:36
  Speaker 7: in a relationship has their own hobbies, has kind of
• 36:43
  Speaker 7: their friends that they can go and just kind of,
• 36:47
  Speaker 7: you know, go hunting with or whatever. I think it's
• 36:50
  Speaker 7: really important that because you were an individual before you
• 36:53
  Speaker 7: got together.
• 36:53
  Speaker 5: When if you.
• 36:54
  Speaker 7: Lose that individuality, then yeah, that kind of doesn't work either.
• 36:58
  Speaker 7: You start to lose yourself if you start to feel like, well,
• 37:00
  Speaker 7: who am I even so I think I want to
• 37:04
  Speaker 7: just kind of pull back a little bit from what
• 37:06
  Speaker 7: you said. I do think that individuals in relationships still
• 37:10
  Speaker 7: need to have their own life, their own preferences and
• 37:14
  Speaker 7: hobbies and interests that their partner's not involved in. But
• 37:18
  Speaker 7: I kind of am with you in the with let's
• 37:21
  Speaker 7: make sure we like celebrate together, Let's make sure we
• 37:24
  Speaker 7: have parties together.
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: Well, it's but what it seems to me, Michael, is
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: this balance of what you're saying, the majority of people
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: don't know how.
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: To handle, don't know how to deal with it.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: I really, I can go out with guys who are
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: married and we can go clay shooting or whatever for
• 37:42
  Speaker 2: a couple of hours, right and they get.
• 37:44
  Speaker 1: And but after that, I mean, it's it's so innocent.
• 37:49
  Speaker 2: That's, you know, three or four guys out clay ship
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: and immediately after that meeting their wives for lunch. But
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: I don't see that happen on I still I see
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: a lot of problems when people say, well, we're going
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: to go out because I need a break or I
• 38:04
  Speaker 2: need to be with my friends, and we go out
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: to a nightclub or I don't even know if there's
• 38:08
  Speaker 2: nightclubs anymore, but we go out to a bar where
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: everybody's drinking and getting hit on, or the guys go
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: out and they're hitting on women. It just never seems
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: like it seems like it's a tough balance for a
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: lot of people to keep how you would say, your hobbies,
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: your individualities, without it turning into something that could be
• 38:26
  Speaker 2: disrespectful to your marriage.
• 38:28
  Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, use that word club and I think that's
• 38:30
  Speaker 7: it right there. I think the clubbing days need to
• 38:34
  Speaker 7: be over.
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: Well, I mean, but if that's where all my friends
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: are going, yeah, I just I see it.
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: I think here's the thing when you say keep your individuality,
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: and which is completely I think correct. I think people
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: have a hard time understanding what their individuality is with
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: respect to them being in a marriage.
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: Does that make sense to Michael?
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: I picked if I was a drinking whore and then
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: I decided to get married and my individuality is drinking horror?
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: I mean, then well maybe I need to realize that
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: I can go out drinking. I can't be a whore anymore.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: But I can't, you know, I don't think people see
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: it that way.
• 39:16
  Speaker 7: Yeah. Yeah, I need to change how I see myself now.
• 39:20
  Speaker 7: I need to change my literal identity into.
• 39:23
  Speaker 1: The person that's saying, well, we can't write that.
• 39:26
  Speaker 8: Sometimes.
• 39:27
  Speaker 7: I think people have a hard time with that. You're
• 39:28
  Speaker 7: is Sometimes people really kind of want to keep seeing
• 39:31
  Speaker 7: themselves the same person they were before and nope, now
• 39:34
  Speaker 7: I have a different status.
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: Isn't that the always the argument? Michael, Oh, this is
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: how I was when you met me?
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: And now you're trying to change me, But don't we
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: have to change to an extent when we have marriages
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: and families and kids in different.
• 39:47
  Speaker 7: Lives depending on the relationship. Right, there's so many different
• 39:51
  Speaker 7: kinds of relationship. There a lot of people listening right
• 39:52
  Speaker 7: now and they're kind of, well, that's not how we are.
• 39:55
  Speaker 7: We're a lot more open and we don't really stress
• 39:59
  Speaker 7: over who our partner is with. Yeah, but that's a minority.
• 40:03
  Speaker 2: I don't think those those people are having as many
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: problems in their relationships if that's how they feel.
• 40:08
  Speaker 10: With the whole other conversations, that is a delicate and
• 40:14
  Speaker 10: it it really is, and there's okay, it's almost like
• 40:18
  Speaker 10: there's a certain level of maturity that people wish they
• 40:21
  Speaker 10: have who are in those kind of relationships aspire to it,
• 40:25
  Speaker 10: you know.
• 40:25
  Speaker 7: And they don't always get there. But yeah, that's all
• 40:29
  Speaker 7: of It's all the time, isn't it all?
• 40:30
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 40:30
  Speaker 1: Michael Vian is here six six one three two seven
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: fifty one hundred.
• 40:35
  Speaker 7: Good morning, Michael, Good morning.
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: I want to you brought something up right before uh
• 40:41
  Speaker 2: we went to break and that was about the types
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: of relationships and could we handle it or what we
• 40:47
  Speaker 2: get into.
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: Do we even know what we want when we get
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: into relationships.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: I mean, you have to know what type of relationship
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: you want on right, to know what type of person
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: that you're looking for.
• 41:05
  Speaker 7: Well, I think everybody has that kind of that checklist
• 41:09
  Speaker 7: that nobody could possibly ever you know me. But as
• 41:13
  Speaker 7: you're meeting people, then there's the whole chemistry thing there. Say,
• 41:17
  Speaker 7: you know, we just were hitting it off with Wow,
• 41:19
  Speaker 7: I feel like I can talk to you and we
• 41:21
  Speaker 7: just might have this really nice interaction that goes smoothly,
• 41:25
  Speaker 7: and the attraction is there. That's what we noticed happening
• 41:29
  Speaker 7: despite whatever kind of person we thought we were going
• 41:33
  Speaker 7: to So often we fall for somebody that is so
• 41:36
  Speaker 7: different from who we thought we were going to fall for.
• 41:40
  Speaker 1: And that's but that's chemistry fades. It's not real. I
• 41:44
  Speaker 1: mean it is real, but it's not real for long.
• 41:46
  Speaker 7: Term, right we Chemistry later in a relationship, it comes
• 41:51
  Speaker 7: and goes. And that's the thing that kind of throws
• 41:54
  Speaker 7: people sometimes as you get out of that honeymoon phase
• 41:57
  Speaker 7: and that's going to end in you know, six months
• 42:00
  Speaker 7: to a couple of years at the most for most people.
• 42:04
  Speaker 7: But people get out of that and then all of
• 42:06
  Speaker 7: a sudden, they think, oh, I must not be in
• 42:08
  Speaker 7: love anymore. And wow, Now when we have our arguments,
• 42:12
  Speaker 7: you know that it takes longer for us to kind
• 42:14
  Speaker 7: of reconnect or the reconnection doesn't feel the same, and
• 42:18
  Speaker 7: when those feelings change, people are convinced they're no longer
• 42:21
  Speaker 7: in love. Sometimes, but sometimes it takes a lot of
• 42:25
  Speaker 7: relationships for somebody to learn that, Oh, I guess that's
• 42:28
  Speaker 7: just what happens.
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: You know, We've had that argument multiple times, Michael, about
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: these high school sweethearts that find each other and oh
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: my god, they're the greatest couples ever. They won the
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: relationship game, as opposed to someone who who has dated
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: a few people before they figure out who they need
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: to or who they are and who they want to
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: be with in a relationship. And experience does matter, right, Michael.
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: I'm not telling everybody to go out and just date
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: a thousand people. But knowing, understanding who you are in
• 43:03
  Speaker 2: a relationship and knowing and being able to judge other
• 43:07
  Speaker 2: people better, you know, it gives you a better chance
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: of success, right Michael.
• 43:15
  Speaker 7: Well, I have had a number of couples who are
• 43:20
  Speaker 7: having issues or have had issues because I don't know
• 43:26
  Speaker 7: if it's because but maybe despite the fact that they
• 43:31
  Speaker 7: were Bichael sweethearts, that they really haven't had other relationships.
• 43:36
  Speaker 7: So I definitely will say, well that it doesn't somehow
• 43:39
  Speaker 7: make you immune to having issues. Not having had other
• 43:43
  Speaker 7: relationships doesn't somehow make you like, Okay, well, we don't
• 43:47
  Speaker 7: have a lot of baggage from other relationships. Okay. Nevertheless,
• 43:50
  Speaker 7: you've got your own, we've all got our growing up
• 43:53
  Speaker 7: stuff and all of that. So I would say that
• 43:57
  Speaker 7: I don't know that it offers you special status. I
• 44:01
  Speaker 7: just I don't And maybe there's something to what you're
• 44:07
  Speaker 7: saying that is having been through some relationships, I kind
• 44:11
  Speaker 7: of I kind of have learned some things about myself.
• 44:14
  Speaker 7: Maybe I can learn about myself in one relationship.
• 44:18
  Speaker 8: Maybe. Yeah, So I don't know.
• 44:21
  Speaker 7: It's hard for me to just kind of like jump
• 44:23
  Speaker 7: completely on board, and it's also hard for me to
• 44:26
  Speaker 7: really kind of argue against it. I'm just like hearing
• 44:29
  Speaker 7: it and I'm like, well, I'm kind of okay with
• 44:31
  Speaker 7: that way of thinking.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: One thing, I don't think we've ever I don't know
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: if you and I have ever talked about it. I
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: don't know if i've even ever considered it? Who decides
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: what a good relationship is? Who's the judge of you've won?
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: Who's the is it?
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: Is it the fifty years together without knowing what they
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: went through, but we're still together? Is it the twenty
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: years of we've just had non bliss and now where
• 44:59
  Speaker 2: you know? Who's what's? How do we decide who won?
• 45:06
  Speaker 8: Right?
• 45:07
  Speaker 7: Is staying together a victory when most of the time
• 45:10
  Speaker 7: you were together you're miserable. I don't know, but I
• 45:12
  Speaker 7: think that's what a.
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: Lot of people will say, though.
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: Is staying together the longer you've been with somebody that's
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: the victory? What if you go through What if you
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: have a great twenty year relationship with somebody and then
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: you decide, hey, we're not in love anymore, and then
• 45:26
  Speaker 2: you go to another twenty year relationship. Is that person
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: lost because they didn't stay with the first person for
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: forty years? Or I think the judge. The sign that
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: most of the society says is well, the longer you're together,
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: it means you've you've done it.
• 45:40
  Speaker 7: Yeah, even if there's a lot a lot of couples
• 45:43
  Speaker 7: come to me who never really should have gotten together
• 45:45
  Speaker 7: in the first place, and they certainly need to come
• 45:48
  Speaker 7: to that conclusion. Most people who've had good times together,
• 45:52
  Speaker 7: who've had a really significant period of time when things
• 45:55
  Speaker 7: have been good and now they're not, most people can
• 45:58
  Speaker 7: get back to the good. But like I said, there
• 46:01
  Speaker 7: are some people who are just like, well, maybe this's
• 46:05
  Speaker 7: what's mistake, and it's really important to kind of sort
• 46:08
  Speaker 7: that out because it doesn't mean you don't love the
• 46:10
  Speaker 7: person just because they're wrong for you.
• 46:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 46:13
  Speaker 7: A wise person once told me that maturity is knowing
• 46:16
  Speaker 7: that you can be in love with someone and still
• 46:18
  Speaker 7: know that you shouldn't be together.
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: Let me ask you this, what about these people who say, Okay,
• 46:24
  Speaker 2: we got married, we had a couple of kids, it
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: wasn't great. Now that we're divorced and raising these kids
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: together separately, we get along so much better. Does that
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: mean does that mean you have you had a good
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: relationship or a bad relationship?
• 46:40
  Speaker 7: Well, when you figured some stuff out right, it means
• 46:45
  Speaker 7: it does sound better than Captain Doggs, you know, and
• 46:51
  Speaker 7: just trying to hold things together for an arbitrary reason.
• 46:56
  Speaker 7: But I will say that a couple splitting apart when
• 47:00
  Speaker 7: they have kids, that's what that's the worst thing that
• 47:02
  Speaker 7: kids will go through. Sure that is worse than losing
• 47:05
  Speaker 7: that parent. Just when when you look at the impact
• 47:09
  Speaker 7: on the psychological impact on the kid, Uh, it is
• 47:12
  Speaker 7: harder on kids to have their family split apart, then
• 47:16
  Speaker 7: have a parent get addicted to drugs, or then have
• 47:20
  Speaker 7: a parent die. So when you look at that and
• 47:23
  Speaker 7: then you realize, okay, well then we better not take
• 47:26
  Speaker 7: this casualty. We better not just say, well, we're fighting
• 47:28
  Speaker 7: a lot, so let's know, how about there is a
• 47:32
  Speaker 7: third option? You know, sometimes we do we do like,
• 47:35
  Speaker 7: well we just have to put up with this or
• 47:37
  Speaker 7: we have to split up. Well how about we fix it?
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I don't.
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: I don't.
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: That's so that's yeah, I don't know, Michael, I don't.
• 47:47
  Speaker 2: I don't know where how do I say this When
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: people get to the point where they don't when they
• 47:54
  Speaker 2: look at each other and instead of saying, let's fix this,
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: fix this and get better, and they look at each.
• 47:58
  Speaker 8: Other and go, this is just no.
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: We got to we're not well, no, we got to
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: get apart from each other. I don't understand that because
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: I don't know. I guess it matters on what what
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: led you to that place to begin with?
• 48:10
  Speaker 7: Right, Well, When you get to that point, you become
• 48:13
  Speaker 7: convinced that you can't fix it. Oh, you tried everything
• 48:17
  Speaker 7: you know and maybe it worked for a minute and
• 48:20
  Speaker 7: then it stopped working. Until you're convinced that well that
• 48:22
  Speaker 7: just won't last. Or maybe nothing you try has worked
• 48:26
  Speaker 7: and nothing that and it's not like, Okay, I just
• 48:29
  Speaker 7: gave it a half effort. No, I ask around, I
• 48:32
  Speaker 7: do my research, I asked jat GPT before I make
• 48:39
  Speaker 7: that sip. I do everything that I know to do. Yeah,
• 48:44
  Speaker 7: And so people do really become convinced that there's no
• 48:48
  Speaker 7: way to fix it, all.
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: Right, Michael being a Marriaging Family Center six three two
• 48:54
  Speaker 2: seven fifty one hundred.
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: Well, Michael Bean was on from the Marriage and Family Center.
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: We were talking about relationship and balancing your relationships with
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: your with your partner, with your spouse. How do you
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: do it? He was saying, have boundaries? What kind of
• 49:08
  Speaker 2: boundaries do you have with your spouse? And four two
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: five four or seven to seven. Hey, Rome, I balance
• 49:15
  Speaker 2: my life in a way that my wife's needs and mine.
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: For example, if I go golfing with my buddies, I'm
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: considerate enough to ask my wife if she's interested in
• 49:24
  Speaker 2: going to breakfast, lunch, or dinner, depending on the time,
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: we go golf, and if so, I call it a day.
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: I call it a day with the guys.
• 49:33
  Speaker 2: But if she doesn't feel like grabbing something to eat,
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: I continue my individual time first myself. Simple, simple, and
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: it works for my relationship. Have a great day, Rome, Yeah,
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: it does, which is nothing wrong with it. But that's
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: kind of a giver. That's kind of a you know,
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: I get to do this, so you get to do
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: that kind of a thing. What does your wife do?
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: Does your wife get to do the same thing? Does
• 50:04
  Speaker 2: she have friends that she goes and hangs out with.
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: I think the problem is a lot of you are
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: It's almost like it's a competition.
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: If I do that, you get to do this, you know.
• 50:16
  Speaker 2: I think that's how most people justify their relationships as
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: being is being good. I mean kind of what you're saying,
• 50:23
  Speaker 2: I'm not disagreeing with. If it works for you, it
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: works for you, and that's all you can ask for.
• 50:27
  Speaker 8: Right.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: But this idea that.
• 50:31
  Speaker 2: If I go golfing, then I have to do something
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: for her, that's kind of a tit for tat thing, right,
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: It's kin, I get this, you get that kind of
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: a competitive It makes it a competition. How many points
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: do I get on my board? How many points do
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: you have on your board to make us equal? I
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: mean it, just, yeah, I get it. I get what
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: you're saying. If it works for you, it works for you.
• 50:59
  Speaker 2: I just that type of relationship seems to be a
• 51:04
  Speaker 2: you know, competitive thing. If I get something, you get
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: something that shouldn't be how our relationship works. You know,
• 51:15
  Speaker 2: all righty four two, five four or seven to seven.
• 51:18
  Speaker 4: I'm hearing what you're saying about.
• 51:19
  Speaker 9: I think I think that's what that guy's saying is
• 51:21
  Speaker 9: like as far as like, I don't know if you're
• 51:24
  Speaker 9: in a relationship room, but right now, if you go,
• 51:27
  Speaker 9: if you when you get out of work, do you
• 51:29
  Speaker 9: go get something to eat?
• 51:30
  Speaker 4: If you're in a relationship, don't you think it's considerate?
• 51:32
  Speaker 7: Maybe this stats your wife who say, hey, are you
• 51:35
  Speaker 7: it yet?
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: I agree with you. But what I'm saying is he
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: gets everything he wants. She gets to go to dinner
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: or lunch or shouldn't. Both should But that's my but
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: that's my point.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: Under What his example was is I go play golf
• 51:54
  Speaker 2: and then I asked my wife to join me afterwards
• 51:57
  Speaker 2: to go and eat lunch, breakfast, lunch or or whatever.
• 52:01
  Speaker 1: But he's the one controlling she wants to or not.
• 52:04
  Speaker 4: But if she doesn't, right is that what he said
• 52:06
  Speaker 4: or whatever?
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if she doesn't, he'll leave. If she wants to
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: leave there, go to lunch, whatever. But my point is
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: he's doing everything he wants. He wants to go play
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: golf of his friends and then meet his wife later
• 52:17
  Speaker 2: and get everything. What does she get out of it?
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: She gets a meal? Do you see what I'm saying?
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: No?
• 52:24
  Speaker 4: Well, yeah, no, I get exactly what you're saying. There
• 52:27
  Speaker 4: is relationships like.
• 52:28
  Speaker 2: That, wellips, most relationships are like that.
• 52:32
  Speaker 7: I got I got a buddy then and I don't know,
• 52:34
  Speaker 7: I'm not gonna say the name.
• 52:35
  Speaker 4: But she doesn't do anything with his wife. He always
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: wants to do stuff with us. You know what the
• 52:42
  Speaker 4: government is like, bro, We have families too, though. Well yeah,
• 52:46
  Speaker 4: you know you have to expect that just because your
• 52:49
  Speaker 4: relationship isn't good. I mean, we still have to maintain ours.
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: But but let's go back to this.
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: Most relationships I think are negotiation with their as opposed
• 53:01
  Speaker 2: to two people who just want to be with each
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: other and and do what each other wants, either with
• 53:06
  Speaker 2: each other because they want to or not with each
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: other because they don't want to. But still there, it's
• 53:12
  Speaker 2: a negotiation. Well I'm gonna go out and do this, Okay,
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: Well then I'm gonna go out and do that. Or
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: if you do this, then you got to bring home dinner,
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: you know, if you got you know, it's it's always
• 53:22
  Speaker 2: a negotiation. And what that guy, that guy texted is
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: a negotiation with his wife, right it's and he's trying
• 53:28
  Speaker 2: to make it sound like, oh no, it's that's how
• 53:31
  Speaker 2: we keep our life, you know great or but no,
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: you're not. Your wife's accepting your terms. So that's all
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: my point was. I mean, but if it works for
• 53:42
  Speaker 2: them some women, maybe that's maybe all she wants is
• 53:44
  Speaker 2: a meal, and so she's okay with that, So it
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: works for her, it works for them. I'm just the
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: idea that you a lot of you think your relationships
• 53:53
  Speaker 2: are so amazing and working if you really break them down, No,
• 53:58
  Speaker 2: you're really you're really just a negotiating with each other
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: for you to get and her.
• 54:02
  Speaker 7: To get what they want.
• 54:04
  Speaker 4: Right No, no, no, yeah, And you know what I am,
• 54:08
  Speaker 4: I reallysh I named that in the but I don't.
• 54:10
  Speaker 4: I don't like that, you know, I like, Okay, so
• 54:14
  Speaker 4: because you're because I'm going to.
• 54:15
  Speaker 5: Go to this.
• 54:17
  Speaker 4: It doesn't work like that. We're not going to play
• 54:19
  Speaker 4: that game. You know.
• 54:19
  Speaker 8: If you've got something to new.
• 54:20
  Speaker 5: Go do it.
• 54:21
  Speaker 4: And when I got something that I'll consider doing it
• 54:24
  Speaker 4: if it works in my schedule.
• 54:26
  Speaker 9: Sure if it doesn't, right, because the last time I
• 54:29
  Speaker 9: got in trouble, I always stick to this room.
• 54:32
  Speaker 4: To make a long story short, the last time I
• 54:35
  Speaker 4: get in trouble was when I live with my mom
• 54:36
  Speaker 4: and dad. That's only people that can get me in trouble, right.
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: I've said that forever.
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: No adults should be able to tell another adult what
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: to do.
• 54:47
  Speaker 4: And if you're the principal at the house, I tell
• 54:49
  Speaker 4: my kids, where do I go when the principal gets
• 54:51
  Speaker 4: in trouble.
• 54:52
  Speaker 2: I don't never get in trouble.
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: There's no offense for the principal to go to get
• 54:56
  Speaker 4: out of here.
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: All right, man, that's funny here, I mean I.
• 55:05
  Speaker 2: Anyway, all right eight four two five four or seven
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: to seven. Let's see here, hey, roam. We need to
• 55:13
  Speaker 2: quit with the mentality of happy wife, happy life, because
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: men's happiness matters as well.
• 55:22
  Speaker 1: I said that forever that it's your Your happiness matters
• 55:27
  Speaker 1: just as.
• 55:28
  Speaker 2: Much as your wife's happiness. One of the stupidest things
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: you could ever do is just totally cater to your
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: wife to the point of you being miserable. You know,
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: she's not always going to be happy even if you
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: do everything you want or she wants you to do.
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: It's just not a way to live.
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: I can't even imagine how a woman would be happy
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: watching her husband cater to her every need and him
• 55:52
  Speaker 2: get nothing out of it. I can't even imagine. You'd
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: have to be a certain type of psychopath to be
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: that type of woman to just not care about.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: Your husband's well being at all.
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: You mean, happy wife, happy life, right, What kind of
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: psycho wants to live by that motto? But I've always said,
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: you should want to do stuff for your wife. You
• 56:11
  Speaker 2: should want to do stuff for your husband. You know,
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: there are people that only do stuff for their their
• 56:16
  Speaker 2: wives and their husbands on special occasions Birthdays, anniversaries, you know,
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: Mother's Day, Father's Day, whatever, Okay, Christmas. You know, you
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: should want to hang out with your wife. You should
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: want to hang out with your husband. If you don't,
• 56:29
  Speaker 2: why in the hell are you together? There's no reason
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: to be together. So yeah, I totally agree with that
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: that that mentality of happy wife, happy life is the
• 56:38
  Speaker 2: stupidest thing any any relationship should live by.
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: So ridiculous.
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: And what kind of psychopath wife do you have to
• 56:46
  Speaker 2: be to not be to not care about your husband's
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: well being, to not care about his happiest Now, as
• 56:53
  Speaker 2: I'm saying that, you need to understand that you men
• 56:59
  Speaker 2: have a certain responsibility as the man and if you're
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: caught up in your emotions wanting you know, gratitude for
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: the things that you're supposed to be doing as a
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: father and a husband, well now we've got a real
• 57:14
  Speaker 2: problem too.
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: That's also a problem. Okay, I mean you're not.
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: We just went through Father's Day, we just went through
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: Mother's Day, and there are two totally different days of celebration.
• 57:32
  Speaker 2: Dads want one thing, Well, a real dad just wants
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: to cook and hang out with his family. A mother
• 57:40
  Speaker 2: wants to be catered to and you know, praised. They
• 57:44
  Speaker 2: are two different ideas. Then there's nothing wrong with those ideas. Okay,
• 57:48
  Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with a woman who wants her acknowledgment
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: for being a mom and a wife, but not to
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: the extent where a husband been in a father doesn't
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: get what he wants out of the relationship, not to
• 58:04
  Speaker 2: that extent. But you also can't be a little you
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: know what, all up in your feelings all the time
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: because you know your kids aren't saying thank you when
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: you've done something for them in a way that you're
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: supposed to do because you're their father, you know.
• 58:22
  Speaker 3: So.
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's a.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: It's a balance, to say the least. Already four two
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: four or seven to seven year rom The reason most
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: marriages are bad or relationships are bad is because these
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: females feel so entitled and they want to dictate what
• 58:39
  Speaker 2: a man does. If these women would just know their
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: role of the man that they're with, things would be
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: much better. I think that might be a little heavy
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: handed for you to say that, right. That might be
• 58:55
  Speaker 2: men don't do the exact same thing and get complacent
• 58:59
  Speaker 2: with their wives and don't treat them the same. That's
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: so you might be a little I don't know. I
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: don't know if that's necessarily true. But I will tell
• 59:07
  Speaker 2: you one thing, and I want to tell you the
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: story from yesterday about these guys, and he said, happy wife,
• 59:14
  Speaker 2: happy life. You know these that's not real and it
• 59:17
  Speaker 2: shouldn't be real. And I know where you're going with
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: what you're saying, but you guys got to also understand
• 59:23
  Speaker 2: that you can have what you want. Like, let me
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: just tell you what happened yesterday, and this is how
• 59:29
  Speaker 2: a real man should be. I was a buddy of
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: mine calls me. He needs to move some stuff in
• 59:33
  Speaker 2: his garage. He asked me to come over to help him.
• 59:36
  Speaker 2: I come over to help him, and we're moving some
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: stuff in the garage. His wife walks out and just says, hey,
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: your daughter's car needs winshow wipers.
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: And she walks right back in to the house.
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: And he looks at me and he goes, hey, let's
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: run to the Let's run and get this over real quickly.
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: That was the conversation. So we run to the auto
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: parts story, he grabs some winshow wipers for his daughter's car,
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 2: puts them on, takes thirty minutes whatever to do it.
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 1: And life went on.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: He didn't go in and ask for congratulations and praise
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: from his wife and or his daughter because he did
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 2: what he was supposed to do. We just went back
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: to moving stuff into the garage. Don't even think he
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: went in.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: That's but a lot of men out here nowadays don't
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 2: know how to do don't know how to act like that. Okay,
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: So that's why I say, you guys got to understand
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 2: what's going on. Both of you talk about your neighbors. Right,
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: everybody's got good neighbors. Some of you got great neighbors.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 2: There's some neighborhoods you live in. Man, everybody loves each other.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 2: Everybody gets along. Man, it's just awesome. Some neighbors you
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: don't like. Some neighbors are weird. Some neighbors are crazy,
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 2: some neighbors are just you know, is what it is.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: Thready fourteen four seven to seven Rome. My neighbors always
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: complaining on the neighborhood Facebook page instead of just going
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 2: to my house and tell me what he doesn't like.
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: And he has no friends, no one visits him.
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that neighborhood, that neighborhood app or whatever it is,
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: the ring app or the neighborhood app or social media
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 2: has really changed the uh has really changed the way
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 2: neighbors do things.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: Right, they'll just complain about you.
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: I have a neighbor.
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 1: I have a neighbor my neighborhood.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: Nobody likes him. He thinks everybody likes him. Nobody likes him.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: It's funny, Hey, ro there's a huge uh okay, alrighty
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 2: four two four seven to seven, let's talk about it.
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 1: What kind of neighbors do you have?
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 2: Already four two five four seven to seven, Hey, Roam,
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 2: I live in oil. They all has its reputation, but
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: I'm blessed with good neighbors all around. It might be
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 2: some strange characters, but good people.
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 1: What else I'm saying?
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 2: Not just because some of your neighbors are crazy doesn't
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 2: mean they're not good people.
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 1: They're just nutty.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 2: Like my I got this neighbor. She lives next to me,
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: and she's cool as hell. Her and her husband are great.
• 1:01:59
  Speaker 2: They're great people, just amazing. Actually, they're amazing people. But
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: she crazy, right, she told me.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 1: These neighbors were open, like she got.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 2: I don't know where she gets her information, but she
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 2: information all the time about the neighborhood. And it's always
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: wild information. You're like, where did you even think about that?
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 1: And she's always wrong.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: But but they're great people. Already four two five, four,
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 2: seven to seven. Hey, Romeo, that guy Angel. Do you
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: know if he has a second name. He sounds like
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 2: a guy used to work with.
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: No, I don't know.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 7: I just know he.
• 1:02:37
  Speaker 2: I just know he He lived next to the pineapple crew,
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 2: and that gets a little dicey for him. Already four two,
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 2: five or seven to seven. Kind of neighbors you got?
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: Let's talk about your neighbors.
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: What kind of neighbors do you have? Good neighbors, bad neighbors,
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: crazy neighbors.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 2: The best are actually the crazy neighbors because they always
• 1:02:54
  Speaker 2: keep you entertained.
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they always doing something.
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 2: Already four two pop four or seven seven?
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: Good morning out? What's going on?
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 5: Hey, good morning?
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: I'm going it's going great, Bruning, what's up?
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 5: Oh man? I've had every neighbor upid thing. But I've
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 5: had the hey you've got me, neil. I've had a
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 5: couples that you beat each other up every night. I
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 5: don't even have the guy say hey, can I let
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 5: my electric wire into your team so I can run
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 5: my refrigerator? Okay? And now now that I've gotten to
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 5: that point.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 8: In my life where I'm in I've bought the house.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 5: I'm in the spot I want this is it? My gosh, dude,
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 5: I got the neighbor. He just just long story short.
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 5: He just did last thing he told me two days
• 1:03:37
  Speaker 5: ago with hey, dude, you clean your backyard too much?
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 5: What's going on over here? Yeah? So, I mean, good man,
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 5: I've been always talked at bottle shy. I love that neighbor.
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 5: No matter what. You get along with your neighbor and
• 1:03:53
  Speaker 5: bite your tongue and it kills me because you have
• 1:03:55
  Speaker 5: no responds. Yeah, but it really it'll make you just
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 5: nothing there is you know.
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 1: That's a that's awesome. All right man, thanks for calling.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 2: Hey wait wait wait, have you had the hot chick?
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: Have you had the hot neighbor who's always walking around
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 2: have naked?
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 5: Dude? I had a sixty year old woman who literally
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 5: used to go out there in her little bikini top.
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 5: You're so bey And I told my son going, how
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 5: do you have the six year old chick out here
• 1:04:23
  Speaker 5: in the VIRGINI meeting and you won't even take.
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 8: The trash out?
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 2: All right later, brother, Yeah, you ain't lived here. You
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: had miss Parker in your neighborhood? Alrightly four two, five, four,
• 1:04:35
  Speaker 2: seven to seven?
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 1: All right?
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: What kind of neighbors. You got talk about your neighbors
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: a little bit, right, What kind of neighbors do you have?
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 8: All?
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 5: Right?
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 2: Uh, let's see for two, five, four or seven to
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: seven your room. I'm the neighborhood security. Me and my
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: frenchy patrol our neighborhood and make sure ain't no tweakers
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 2: messing with our stuff. I only know like three of
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 2: my neighbors, but I take care of all. I'm also
• 1:04:58
  Speaker 2: the first house the kids come to when they're selling
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 2: stuff for fundraiser.
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 1: I always buy twenty.
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 2: Dollars worth, but only pick a couple of candies so
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 2: they can maximize their profits.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 2: Right now, you wanna you guys in any neighborhood.
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 5: You do that.
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: You you buy the kids stuff. You you you support
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 2: their fundraisers. You might throw them something, you know, you
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: you hook them up with stuff. They're the last house
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 2: that they messed with, the last house already, four, two
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 2: or seven to seven. I'm trying to think of all
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 2: the places I've lived in my life and all the
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: neighbors I've had. Let's see, my old house, I had
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 2: an old lady. My old house was funny. My neighbor
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 2: one of my neighbors was really cool. Then he lost
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 2: his house, so the house was open for a long time.
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 1: I don't think I'm trying to think.
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 2: Oh, I had a neighbor ones always bumping hip hop
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 2: just ooh boom boom. Found out it was the preacher
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 2: of some church. He wasn't and it was always religious
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 2: hip hop. Never just heard the beating, you know, the
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 2: base the speakers. Yeah, that was an interesting situation. Do
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 2: ever tell you, guys about ever tell you about the
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 2: neighbor who called the cops on me? I had a
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: neighbor who called the cops on me because I get
• 1:06:20
  Speaker 2: up at three am.
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 7: And this was.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: My I think it was my first house in Rosedale.
• 1:06:29
  Speaker 2: I live in I think so. And I never went
• 1:06:34
  Speaker 2: out the front door. I would pull in the garage,
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 2: go in the house, leave, But then again, i'd leave
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 2: it three in the morning. I'd leave it three in
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 2: the morning, you know, to go to work. I'd be
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 2: home by you know, ten and just driving in out
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 2: of my garage. Never talked to any of my neighbors
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 2: except the old lady next to me, because the husband
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 2: or the son of the old lady said, hey, would
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: you mind keeping an eye on my mom for me.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 2: We bought this house for her. We didn't want to
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 2: put her in a home. But you know, she's she's
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 2: still capable of living by herself. But just in case,
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 2: I said, sure, I'll do that. I don't have no
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 2: problem with that. So I talked to the old lady
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 2: who lived next to me, which, by the way, she died.
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: And the next person in that house was another old
• 1:07:12
  Speaker 2: lady that her son and wife and son moved her in.
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 2: So I too, old ladies lived like me. But yeah,
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 2: they called the cops to me. They thought I was
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 2: a drug dealer because I was always I was always
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 2: home from their perspective, because I worked at three am.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 2: You know, I did the show, so I was home
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: by ten.
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was crazy.
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 2: The cop showed up. It was funny already four two
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: five four seven to seven. Kind of neighbors you live
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 2: next to? Let's talk about your neighbors, right, you got
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: good neighbors.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 1: Bad neighbors? What you got already? Four two five four
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 1: seven to seven.
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  Speaker 2: Rom I have a neighbor who used to leave their
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 2: five year old to the neighborhood. They would come and
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 2: go and their son would just walk into our house
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: without knocking, set up his toys on your yard. Yell
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 2: yell through our mailbox for my kids to come out.
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 2: They ate our food, then eat. Then then when Uber
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 2: Eats accidentally sent one hundred dollars worth of food, laughed
• 1:08:05
  Speaker 2: at us and thanked us for the food and paid
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: us back a month later. What paying us back was
• 1:08:12
  Speaker 2: an excuse to get our number and then constantly text
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 2: us saying their son was bored, so can he come over?
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  Speaker 5: Man?
• 1:08:26
  Speaker 2: That sounds like the old days. Man, Remember the old
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 2: days when the neighborhood kids were just everybody everybody fed
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 2: the neighborhood kids.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 1: Hey, Rom, I got two nosy neighbors.
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 2: They act like they act like their girls and always
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 2: run to my ex and letting them know who comes
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: around to see me. You got two nosy neighbors watching you,
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 2: and they always tell your ex. That's awesome already four two, five, four,
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: seven to seven. Hey Rome, I'm more interested how someone
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 2: who only works four hours a day can buy a home.
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 2: No hate, just wondered if I'm the wrong the wrong business.
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 2: But my neighbors are older and my neighborhood is quiet
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: for the most part, so it's a it's chill. Cops
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 2: live all around, so I don't gotta worry about my
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: stuff being stolen. Nice cops are usually the CD you remember,
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: remember the neighbors.
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 1: I told you I was gonna buy a house in
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 1: this neighborhood and the.
• 1:09:32
  Speaker 2: Pineapple Crew was next door and they were getting busy
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 2: at like eleven thirty in the morning. Yeah, that was cops.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: There were cops and me, my neighbor used to hate
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: each other. Now we're best friends.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes it's rough, man, when you don't know your neighbors.
• 1:09:52
  Speaker 2: You don't know your neighbor, You don't you don't know
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 2: what you don't know, right, Like we had one time
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 2: I lived in this neighborhood. This was when I was
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 2: in high school. With my dad, I lived and we
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 2: lived in a cul de sac and there were these
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: neighbors that never came out of the house.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 1: Nobody really knew him.
• 1:10:09
  Speaker 2: They had kids, but you know, they were always just
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 2: kind of into themselves. And then one.
• 1:10:17
  Speaker 1: Then they had so finally the neighborhood.
• 1:10:19
  Speaker 2: Decided to have a party, a block party like a
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 2: cul de sac party.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: Invited all the neighbors in the culder sack right, help.
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 2: Find out guy his wife was just and his uh
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 2: he worked for Amnheuser Busch. So this fool rolled out
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 2: for the block party with him and his you know,
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 2: his family. This dude had all kinds of beer for everybody,
• 1:10:41
  Speaker 2: was handing out twelve packs to all the neighbors.
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 1: Hey, I'm so and so.
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 2: They were great people. They were just shy people, you know,
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 2: didn't didn't didn't have a way. When they moved in,
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 2: nobody walked over. I mean, do you still walk over
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 2: and introduce yourself to neighbors when they move in. Sometimes
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 2: neighbors don't know what to do, right they move into
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 2: a new spot. You know, they might be shy, they
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 2: might be afraid to come say hi.
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 1: They don't know you.
• 1:11:04
  Speaker 2: You don't know them, so unless you welcome them. Sometimes
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 2: you don't know who your neighbors are. But talking about
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 2: your neighbors, right, you got good neighbors, crazy neighbors, kind
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 2: of crazy.
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: You know what's going on in your neighborhood.
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 8: I remember this neighbor.
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 2: When I was in college, I lived with my grandfather. Now,
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 2: my grandfather was kind of weird, kind of rich, but
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 2: nobody really liked him in his family. Nobody really liked
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 2: my grandfather except me. So I lived with him when
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 2: I was in college for a little bit and my
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 2: grandfather told me, you only get hot dogs. He goes
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 2: because my grandfather went out and ate every night, went
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: out and ate every meal with his friends. And he said,
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 2: if you want to eat, I'll take you out with
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 2: my friends every time. But you got to eat were weat,
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 2: and you know, don't complain about it, but there's always
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 2: gonna be hot dogs for you. His next door neighbors
• 1:11:56
  Speaker 2: were this couple who's daughter. They had two dogs. One
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 2: had gone to college a couple of years before and
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 2: when I moved in with my grandfather the the other
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 2: one was just leaving for college. Not in the same town,
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 2: just out of state. So they knew I was a
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: college student. They would always hook me up because they
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 2: knew my grandfather wouldn't feed me anything.
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 1: In the house.
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so they would always be hooking me up, feeding me.
• 1:12:21
  Speaker 2: I think they were kind of like empty nesters. I
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 2: think they were kind of living vicariously because I was
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 2: a college student living next to them. But they were
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 2: pretty cool. They were good people, all right. They four
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 2: two five, four or seven to seven.
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 1: Not what's going on?
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 8: Neighbors?
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 5: Yeah, what a man. Hey man, Well, my neighbors they're
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 5: so annoying. I haven't known you neighbors, man, because every
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 5: time I do like.
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 9: A gunna or or boil at the school where I'm
• 1:12:49
  Speaker 9: out there drinking, man, they always come and preload.
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 7: Off of me.
• 1:12:55
  Speaker 8: I think that's wrong, wrong.
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 2: I can't believe there's somebody in your aighborhood, Lou, that is.
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 1: Cheaper than you.
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 8: Yeah, it's crazy, hat.
• 1:13:09
  Speaker 5: And then they'll kids to come eat, and it's like
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 5: it's okay, you know the kids, but why do you
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 5: guys know he's eating.
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 3: They never have a barbecue, so I could never go
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 3: over there and breload off of them, you.
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 2: Know, all right, all right, all right, I'm sure they're
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 2: going to love you for calling in, Lou. Thanks. I mean,
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 2: maybe that's seahawk Lo's way of saying, stop coming over
• 1:13:35
  Speaker 2: to freeload off me. Four seven to seven. I never
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 2: had any freeloading neighbors. I'm trying to think no, but
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 2: then again, I never had anything, so nothing to freeload
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 2: off of.
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 4: Throw me the morning every morning.
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 2: Morning.
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 5: One