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What if you TWIN FLAME is a Narcissist? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people?
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  Today we're going to be talking about twin flames and
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  narcissist. Can a narcissist be your twin
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  flame? Do narcissist believe in twin
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  flames? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammond. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom. Welcome back folks, welcome
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  back, welcome back yes twin flames and narcissist right,
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  Twin flames and narcissistic people.
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  So if you don't know what a twin flame is, I had to Google it
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  because people keep saying my people keep saying my comment
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  section. I think my it's so hard.
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  We have a soul tie, but a narcissist or a narcissist is
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  your twin flame and done. It is so I've been here about
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  twin flames for a long time and it just so when you Google a
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  twin flame, it says a new age concept that describes a
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  relationship between two people who are thought to be each
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  other's other half or mirror soul.
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  Like the concept that two that one soul can split between two
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  people, right. And I feel like just, and this
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  is just my perspective on twin flames and narcissism, right?
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  I feel like the other half of your soul shouldn't be abusive.
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  You see what I'm saying? And I feel like this concept or
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  concepts similar to it, like I said earlier, soul ties,
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  religion, some of these concepts like that can keep you bonded to
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  a narcissist or in a relationship with an with an
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  abusive person for a longer period of time.
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  It makes it harder to break because there's things out here
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  that they say to you or things out here that you might read
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  about, things that you learn. They keep you tied to this
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  person even longer. What you want to be like, you
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  might not even love this person anymore.
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  But if you feel like this person is your twin flame or your soul
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  have you have a soul tie or this person is your soul mate, that
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  is of course it's going to be harder to break that
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  relationship space, right? Of course it's going to be
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  harder because if you think that you found the the other half of
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  your soul in someone and of course you're not going to let
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  you want to let this person go. Of course you're going to go
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  through more trials and tribulations and hurt and put it
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  with more. Of course you're going to
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  forgive more. Of course there's going to be
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  more reconciliation. There's this one girl I did a
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  live with years ago. I did a live with this girl
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  years ago and she was saying this is on Instagram.
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  She was saying something along the lines that like her partner
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  was abusive as hell, like lying, cheating, manipulated, and she
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  was kind hearted. She's like, I have a good soul,
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  I have a good spirit. I'm just the nicest person ever.
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  And I feel like he's my twin flame because he's the exact
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  opposite of me. He's abusive as hell.
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  He's a liar, he's a manipulator. I can't trust anything he says.
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  He's a pathological liar. I was like, damn, I'm like, huh,
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  yeah. It's like it's just so hard to
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  leave as we're twin flames. And I tried, I talked to her for
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  a few minutes and then a while a couple months later, she was
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  pregnant by this person. And I was just like, I just felt
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  so bad because the twin flame dynamic in her mind, she had
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  convinced herself that this person was the counterpoint to
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  her soul, like the yen to her yank, right?
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  I was just like yin and Yang. I just don't feel like it's good
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  and evil. You know what I'm saying?
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  I don't think the other half of your soul is evil, always
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  abusive. Like if you're an impact, I
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  don't think the other half of your soul or the other the the
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  tie, the other tie to your soul, the mating of your soul is
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  abusive as hell is evil. You see what I'm saying?
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  It's like good and evil, like we match.
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  No, you don't match. I don't think you match.
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  You see what I'm saying? But I feel like that's what
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  keeps so many people bound in these relationship dynamics,
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  right? Because you think the twin flag
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  has been around since the 1970s, but it says it's going to be
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  traced back to the Greek mythology and things like that.
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  It's not it's not a recognized clinical term.
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  So it's something that somebody made-up, right?
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  It's important to remember twin flame bonds or just one idea of
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  a happy relationship and that you can choose what a successful
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  relationship looks like for yourself.
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  Thank you. You absolutely can.
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  You can choose what a successful relationship looks like.
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  So except there's so many people who have like especially I think
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  a lot of I think a lot of movies contribute to this concept of
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  struggle. Love is the best type of love.
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  Like all relationships have this point in it in them where
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  there's a huge struggle for authenticity, a huge struggle
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  for validation, a huge struggle for forgiveness and things like
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  that. Kind of basketball, my son got a
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  huge struggle and whatnot. I don't think it's supposed to
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  be that way. Y'all struggle love is not the
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  best type of love. Like are there in a normal
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  healthy relationship, right? Are there going to be
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  roadblocks? Are are there going to be things
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  that naturally happen? Are you going to argue?
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  Are you going to fuss sometimes? Are you going to fight?
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  Maybe you break up or something like that, Maybe have some
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  differences and things of that nature and then y'all come back
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  together. But it's not abusive that y'all
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  come back together and then you then you made it through though
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  you made it through that rough patch.
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  I don't think a rough patch or struggle of should include you
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  taking care of somebody and going to help build them up when
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  they're a bomb and in a because when you help build them up,
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  they leave you or they never get built up and they just mooch off
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  of you for the rest of your existence with this person.
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  This is my twin flame. Oh, I'm it's a soul tie, y'all.
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  I just don't believe that y'all. Again, I'm up to being wrong,
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  but it's just any spaces right here.
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  I'm open to being wrong. This is like is these spaces
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  right? I just don't believe the other
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  half of your soul is a manipulator.
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  I don't believe the other half of your soul is like evil.
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  I don't believe you were put here.
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  And This is why I hear from people too, with the twin flame
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  dynamics or the soul ties or the soul mates.
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  I don't believe you were put here to heal this person.
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  You said. I think so many people.
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  I've heard people say that to me before.
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  I just feel like I was here. I was put our place into this
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  person's life to heal them. You are not.
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  Yeah. You don't have the tools to heal
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  them. If you're religious, that's God.
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  That's for God. You don't man.
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  But God can't. God can.
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  God's going to. He can heal, God can heal, but
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  faith without works is there. You got to they got to put some
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  work in. Hey, babe, I'm going to sleep on
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  the I'm going to lay on the couch all day today, but God
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  going to heal me. Oh, God going to say get your
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  ass up. Maybe you've got a little cuss,
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  but you know, get your ass up and put some work in.
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  Get your ass up and and go to therapy.
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  Don't get your ass up and just sit up here on the couch and
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  just think things are going to be better.
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  No, you have to be willing to put some work in.
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  They have to be willing to put some type of work in, don't
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  they? Some type a little bit
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  something, anything, right? There should be some something
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  going on, but so many people in these places, just it just the
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  twin flame ideology can get so many people caught up.
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  I just truly believe that, right?
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  I just like I truly believe that so many people see think that
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  they saw the signs in their toxic narcissistic partner that
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  this is their twin flame and you have their belief and then you
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  get tired and twisted into a pretzel into this relationship
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  because narcissists maybe, maybe they don't believe in twin
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  flames. Maybe you do.
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  You bring it up to them and now they believe in it because it
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  keeps you there. You going to leave?
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  Wow, you're going to put out the twin flame.
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  I thought we were soul mates. You know, how am I going to live
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  without the other half of my soul?
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  How am I going to live without the other part of my soul?
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  Whatever. How am I going to live without
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  you twin flame? We supposed to keep each other
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  warm. We're supposed to keep each
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  other warm. You know what I'm saying?
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  I just feel like this is the part of where you have to decide
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  like that. Maybe this isn't your twin
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  flame. If you have the twin flame
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  belief that you refuse to give it up, you can also decide that
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  maybe you got it wrong, right? Maybe this person isn't your
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  twin flame. Maybe this person is is is maybe
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  leaving this person or leaving this relationship or ending this
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  friendship or quitting this job or whatever it may be.
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  Maybe they set you free and then you find your actual twin flame.
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  You find your actual soul mate, you find the person you're
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  actually supposed to be soul tied to.
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  You know, I don't think the counter the other half of your
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  soul, the other part of your soul is a manipulative
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  narcissist that you're supposed to be here, that you're put here
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  to try to heal because you can't heal them because you can't fix
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  them. That's not your job.
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  That's not you. You don't have the tools and
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  this is not me trying to be just be like you're worthless.
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  You can't do anything. No, I didn't, I just don't think
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  you have the tools to breakthrough childhood trauma.
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  I don't think you have the tools to just you know what I'm
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  saying? My therapist has the tools for
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  that. She's helping me breakthrough
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  childhood trauma. But this is the thing right
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  here. I think people said the signs
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  you met the twin flame, feeling an inner pool towards that
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  person, feeling as though you have met before or always known
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  each other. That right there is big because
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  I just feel like when I'm talking to people, I'm doing
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  coaching calls and this is my twin flame.
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  I just felt like we met in the previous life and this is, you
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  know, this is how we're supposed to meet and we're supposed to go
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  through these struggles troubles.
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  They're supposed to cheat on me. They're supposed to lie to me.
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  They're supposed to hit me. I was like, wait, what?
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  They, they y'all met in a new life for them to beat your ass.
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  What you met here for them to cheat on you.
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  Y'all were lovers and y'all were lovers in a past life and now
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  you're now they're cheating on you.
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  You know what I'm saying? I'm not trying to make y'all
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  feel silly. I just trying to wake you up to
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  understand how it sounds when you say it out loud.
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  You see what I'm saying? Well, with passion generated
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  within a relationship flows in other areas of life, you feel
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  like you have this connection. I think doing a love bombing
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  phase is when a lot of people feel like they're, they feel
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  like you fell on your twin flame.
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  I feel like that's what happens to so many people.
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  Like you get caught up in a love bombing phase so much so that
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  you feel like you met your twin flame like you, you've been love
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  bombed, you've been manipulated. You've been caught up in this
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  relationship so long, then now you feel like you met your twin
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  flame. Because of course in the
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  beginning, narcissists are mirroring you.
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  They're mirroring you. They were like you haven't met
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  the you haven't met the other half of your soul.
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  You just met a reflection. You just met, met the mirror
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  image of you because they're holding the mirror up to you
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  right here. So it's not I, I can understand
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  how it seems like you've met your soul mate or your soul tie
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  or your twin flame. Because the y'all, you feel like
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  this person is a part of your soul.
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  Like we know each other. I feel like we know each other
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  so long that it is because y'all have similar interests or
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  similar traits. A lot of time they're just
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  mirroring back what you give to them.
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  They're they're reading what you're writing on these dating
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  apps and they're taking advantage of you.
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  You see what I'm saying? They're doing this type of stuff
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  right here to you. This is the mentality that so
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  many people fall into and face. I promise you, this is how I
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  said, don't let, don't mistake love bombing for a twin flame
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  relationship because so many people get caught up and tied
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  into it and they can say like, say, love bombing is not always
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  going to be a fast process. Love bombing can take time.
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  Like love bombing can take a little while to take place.
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  So don't let like don't let the narcissist or toxic person,
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  whoever you're dealing with just convince you, just manipulate
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  you into thinking that they or your twin flame.
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  If you don't refuse to give that belief up.
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  Hey, I can't. I can just give you the
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  information and this is just my perspective right here.
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  I just don't think you're you're the other side of your soul is
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  evil. You know what I'm saying.
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  But I know when people when I said that to people right there
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  only I'm not perfect either. You automatically, when I said
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  it to people, they automatically start that is telling me the
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  stuff that they've done wrong in their life.
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  Well, Lee, I'm not perfectly there.
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  I yelled one time. I've done this.
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  I've done that. Yeah, nobody's perfect.
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  We understand that. But don't let your imperfections
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  make you seem like you are equal, Like an equal level or
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  equal abuse. Equal abuse, equal to an abuser.
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  You know what I'm saying? No, nobody's perfect.
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  But your imperfections don't make you an abuser.
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  I had to get off. Oh, my goodness.
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  Drop drop the mic y'all. Amazing time to go.
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