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Finding Your Purpose: The Question That Transforms Everything · Reborn w/ Antonio Boutros

• 0:01
  SPEAKER_00: Oftentimes as entrepreneurs we have an ego that gets in our way.
• 0:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and oftentimes that ego also unfortunately impacts our prospects, our partners, our investors, our uh vendors, those who are around us, those who uh are involved or related or around our business.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_00: And one of the most important things is separating ourselves from our businesses because we can have a we can have pride, and we shouldn't, but we can.
• 0:38
  SPEAKER_00: But if we can at least separate ourselves from our businesses, then it'll impact us and it'll impact our personal relationships, which obviously we don't want, but at the very least, it will not impact our prospects, our clients, our partners, those around us.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_00: And one thing that was brought up in a group I was in the other day was it can be good in some well, let me let me say this.
• 1:15
  SPEAKER_00: A mentor of mine, um, he said, some students, some entrepreneurial students asked him, What is your superpower?
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: And he said, My superpower, and and and this is gonna be funny, my superpower is the the power to delude myself, to be delusional.
• 1:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I think in some cases that can be ego, that can be something that's not good, but in some cases it can be good to delude yourself.
• 1:40
  SPEAKER_00: As an entrepreneur, you become accustomed to not being able to say no, um, you're not being able to be told no.
• 1:50
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you be accustomed to resilience, and so if you have resilience, oftentimes you will have to delude yourself.
• 1:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um and then another thing that was brought up that's super powerful is the more influence you have, the less people will be honest with you, and so it makes me think of social media because there's so many influencers on social media who are doing amazing things, but there's also so many influencers on social media who are not, and so many people they have millions of followers, and they are promoting bad culture, and in some cases, I believe that it might not even be what they want to do, what they want to promote, it's just that's how they built their brand, and so they have money coming in, they can't they feel like they can't change, and that's difficult because a we have we want to we want to stay with our lifestyle, but at the same time, we are not being told by others around us that we do need to change because we have the influence that we have, and yeah, then we went into what I've heard from Alex Ramosy was how to create content, new shit, talk about it, do more shit, repeat, done because it's easy to become someone else on social media, it's easy to to talk about stuff that we have never done, but that we think is cool that we've heard someone else do it.
• 3:39
  SPEAKER_00: It's easy to not be authentic, to not be transparent on social media, and then there was also other than that, just some amazing people there.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: Uh Andrew Fenning, uh, Love Justice International Anti-Traffitting, uh, trafficking nonprofit, uh, mostly serves 18 to 35-year-old young woman, uh young women, uh, but they also serve some slave labor men uh and sometimes even children.
• 4:10
  SPEAKER_00: And we usually, I think, think of nonprofits as a great charitable business, but oftentimes nonprofits make it seem like it is an obligation to donate if you have the means.
• 4:31
  SPEAKER_00: Andrew goes against that.
• 4:35
  SPEAKER_00: He says it's an opportunity to donate, it's an opportunity to serve, but it's not an obligation, and you shouldn't make an investor or a donor feel like it is.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_00: We have Wes Kate, who is an exact executive coach, and for good I can I can see why he said all transformation starts with a bigger question.
• 5:00
  SPEAKER_00: What is that question for you?
• 5:04
  SPEAKER_00: Is it what is my purpose?
• 5:07
  SPEAKER_00: Why am I doing this?
• 5:09
  SPEAKER_00: What can I do to improve?
• 5:12
  SPEAKER_00: What is the bigger question for you?
• 5:14
  SPEAKER_00: Think about it.
• 5:18
  SPEAKER_00: And something that I brought up was he said, in some cases, a mentor can be someone who just asks questions, but don't doesn't really give advice, doesn't really give guidance.
• 5:29
  SPEAKER_00: They can be someone who gives too much advice, they become a dictator in that sense, and then there's the equal in middle ground that does a little bit of both.
• 5:47
  SPEAKER_00: That is the perfect balance, and so the way I identify those were boss, the one that's bossing you around, therapist, the one that is asking questions but not giving much guidance, uh, and leader doing both.
• 6:06
  SPEAKER_00: And that's not to say a therapist cannot be a leader or a boss cannot be a leader, but those are the three words I've thought of.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_00: Another thing is that the people, again, as we spoke about people with influence, people at the top, uh, CEOs, founders, um, we don't they don't get honest feedback most of the time, even though they might they might.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: But from uh someone who's working for them, my job's underlined, right?
• 6:36
  SPEAKER_00: And so it's it's difficult to come to my boss and be like, oh man, you need to improve X, Y, and Z.
• 6:41
  SPEAKER_00: And obviously, you know, you would say with more grace than that, but still, yeah.
• 6:47
  SPEAKER_00: Cody Pittman, great guy, software marketplace, um, helps with home cleaning, uh, hope home service businesses, helps them um connect with older folk who who need the services.
• 7:01
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so this makes it super easy for you know for clients and for business owners.
• 7:07
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and he and he was talking about what to look for in a coach.
• 7:11
  SPEAKER_00: He said, confidential.
• 7:13
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to worry about your coach telling the whole world, um, good or bad, um, trusted, leader, low stakes, realistic, and transparent.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_00: I think the number one thing for me is realistic.
• 7:33
  SPEAKER_00: Because it's easy to make our goals all the way up here, but it's harder to stay consistent with the actions that we'll actually bring, that will actually curate those goals, and so when we set those goals, we need a coach that'll keep us accountable, that'll be realistic.
• 7:59
  SPEAKER_00: Like, man, you want to be here, but you're acting like you want to be here.
• 8:06
  SPEAKER_00: It's something to think about.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_00: Ron Um Brombogger, great guy, has sold a business or two, I believe, and he said entrepreneurship is about problem solving and problem finding.
• 8:24
  SPEAKER_00: And some of us are blessed with that skill inherently, but that doesn't mean it can't be taught, it is a taught skill.
• 8:37
  SPEAKER_00: Alex Hunter, great quote.
• 8:41
  SPEAKER_00: Um, he said, reality, reality may be less flattering and more mundane than it appears, which is oftentimes true, which is also oftentimes not portrayed on social media, um, on advertising.
• 8:59
  SPEAKER_00: We don't come off as mundane, we don't come off as less flattering, we come off as exaggerating, really, is what is what it is.
• 9:10
  SPEAKER_00: Um we encourage uh being honest with your prospects with those around you, and then last but not least, Kendra Lating, great woman, um, has a redemptive um wedding videography business, and she is soon to get married, and she was asking, you know, what does new marriage look like?
• 9:37
  SPEAKER_00: So, for any of you guys that are married, I would love to hear your thoughts on the comments and what new marriage looks like.
• 9:43
  SPEAKER_00: I can't answer that because I'm not married.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: What does new marriage look like?
• 9:47
  SPEAKER_00: What does it look like to you?
• 9:50
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you guys enjoyed the episode.
• 9:52
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you guys have a blessed week.
• 9:55
  SPEAKER_00: Reborn Nation.
• 9:56
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much.