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Build Days You Actually Want to Live (S5) S34:E1 Saturday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well there, hello everyone, it is so great
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to be with you on Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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here today, if this is your very first
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time.
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thank you, and I want to say the
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words welcome.
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So it's great to have you here and
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to be a part of my day and
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my life, really do appreciate that from the
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bottom of my heart.
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So thank you very much everyone, really do
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appreciate that, and I hope that you'll get
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some great wisdom out of tonight's show.
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Okay, let's get this show kicked off, all
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right?
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So this is Inspirations for Your Life, in
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case you didn't know, and this whole week
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we've been talking about a very incredible master
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topic, and that is stop waiting for your
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life to change.
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And this is Series 5, Show 33, we're
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wrapping that up today.
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Become the person who makes things happen, that's
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the granular today, Series 5, Show 33, episode
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number seven, it is Friday, yes, and that
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means we're ending our master topic, but don't
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worry, tomorrow we'll be starting a brand new
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master topic, and this is Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I am a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist,
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video producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, a
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graduate student at Montclair State University, a passionate
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lifelong learner, and so grateful now to be
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a published author.
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Yes, guys, really grateful for that.
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So there are people who talk about what
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should happen, people who wait for somebody else
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to make it happen, and people who step
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forward and turn ideas into results.
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Today, I'm talking about becoming that third person,
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the one that actually takes the action.
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This isn't about controlling everything or doing everything
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yourself, it's about initiative, it's about execution, it's
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about responsibility.
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Responsibility, gotta get some water here.
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And ladies and gentlemen, it's about becoming somebody
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others know they can count on.
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Let's get into our 30 points that I
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think you guys are gonna find really great.
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Number one, stop waiting to be chosen.
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You don't always need an invitation before you
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begin contributing.
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If you have something worthwhile to offer, stop
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waiting for somebody else to officially choose you
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or welcome you.
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Number two, become an initiator.
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Initiators don't constantly ask who is going to
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start.
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They recognize an opportunity, they seize it, and
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they create the first moment to do it.
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Learn to become comfortable taking that first responsible
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step.
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You're gonna get a little uncomfortable, so you
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have to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable.
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Number three, see what needs doing.
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Pay attention, ladies and gentlemen.
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Sometimes the greatest opportunities aren't hidden.
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They're sitting directly in front of everyone waiting
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for somebody willing to notice and act.
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Powerful.
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Number four, move without being chased.
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If somebody constantly has to remind you, follow
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up with you, or push you forward, you're
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giving away ownership.
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Become someone who moves your own needle because
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you made a commitment to yourself.
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Number five, bring ideas into reality.
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Ideas are everywhere.
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Execution is rarer.
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Take an idea and ask what concrete action
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would make and begin the transforming of it
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into something real.
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That means taking the thought that you have,
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the inspired thought, turning it into action.
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Number six, guys, become known for execution.
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It's great to be creative, but become known
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for finishing too.
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Build a reputation where people know that when
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you commit to something, progress follows.
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Yeah.
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A lot of people get impatient because they're
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not seeing the progress tomorrow.
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I think that's a big thing for a
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lot of people.
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They're not seeing it tomorrow.
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So turn conversations into action.
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Great conversations can create possibilities, but possibilities disappear
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when nobody acts.
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Before walking away, determine what happens next.
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Number eight, close the gap between the idea
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and the result.
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I know that's not always comfortable, guys, but
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you've got to practice getting comfortable being uncomfortable.
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That's the whole key.
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The space between having an idea, getting the
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inspired action to take, and doing it and
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producing that result is filled with lots of
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decisions, guys.
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It sure is.
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It's filled with work, adjustments, adaptation, and of
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course, follow through.
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Learn to operate inside that gap.
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You can do it.
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I'm not going to say it's going to
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be easy.
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Number nine, create energy around good ideas.
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When you believe something worthwhile can happen, bring
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enthusiasm and direction to it.
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Positive energy combined with action can encourage others
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to participate.
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Number 10, guys, be the person who follows
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through.
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Plenty of people start enthusiastically.
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Fewer remain when the excitement disappears.
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Follow through is where trust is built.
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And that's something that I know a lot
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of people have a hard time with.
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They don't think they can do the right
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thing.
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And that's very, very, very, very important to
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actually understand.
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Okay?
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Very important to understand that.
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Number 11, make useful things happen in your
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life.
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See, activity isn't automatically progress.
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People think it is, but it's not.
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Focus on the actions that solve problems, that
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help people, that improve situations, or create something
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genuinely valuable.
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Number 12, connect people who should know each
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other.
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Sometimes making something happen means recognizing that two
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people could help each other.
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Make thoughtful introductions when you genuinely see value
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for both sides.
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Number 13, find answers instead of excuses.
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I said before, if you're not part of
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the solution, then unfortunately, guys, you're part of
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the problem.
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You're part of the problem, and I think
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that's something that a lot of people hear.
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They just don't get that.
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And I know a lot of you are
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saying to me, John, like, I don't always
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get this, but I'm here to tell you
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something, all right?
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I'm here to tell you that you can
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make a very big difference in your life,
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but you have to make the time.
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You have to decide that you're going to
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do this.
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You can't say, well, gee, it didn't work
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out today, so I give up.
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No.
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Try again.
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You have to retool.
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When something doesn't work, don't immediately explain why
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it can't be done.
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Ask what information, resource, personal, or alternative approach
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might move things forward.
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Think about that for a moment.
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Just ponder that thought, okay?
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Number 14, bring solutions into the room.
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Time for some more water.
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Anyone can point at a problem.
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Develop the habit of arriving with possible solutions.
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Thoughtful questions or a path toward the next
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step is the key, but a lot of
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people are afraid to take the next step.
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A lot of people are afraid to be
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the first ones.
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They just don't want to do it.
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Again, not because they don't.
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It's because they're fearing things.
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That could be fear of lots of stuff.
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It's a challenge for a lot of people.
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I think when you can understand these things,
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you can be on track with lots of
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stuff, okay?
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And you can get answers to things that
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might have been out there the whole time,
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but you see, when our mind becomes in
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alignment with the energy to produce our outcome,
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our outcome changes from being in here to
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coming into the real world.
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A wise person once said to me, John,
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in order to create something in the real
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world, you have to first create it in
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your mind, then you can create it in
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real life.
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Number 15, don't wait for instructions.
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When the appropriate action is clear and within
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your responsibility, don't always wait for somebody to
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tell you exactly what to do.
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Use judgment and initiative.
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Number 16, create momentum for others, okay?
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Your initiative can help other people move too.
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One person taking action can turn a stagnant
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situation into something everyone suddenly believes can succeed.
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Number 17, make yourself useful.
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Ask what you can contribute, skills, knowledge, relationships,
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experience, organization, or simply a willingness to help
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can make you valuable in almost any situation
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here.
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Number 18, I want you to turn your
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obstacles into assignments.
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When an obstacle appears, don't immediately treat it
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as a stop sign.
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Treat it as something to understand, investigate, solve,
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or work around.
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Responsibility.
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Number 19, take responsibility for outcomes.
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Don't only take credit when something succeeds.
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Ownership means examining your role when results aren't
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what you expected and deciding what needs to
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improve.
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Number 20, finish the last 10%.
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The final portion of a project can be
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the hardest because of the excitement being gone.
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Finish the details.
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The completion is what turns effort into something
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usable, something that's going to attract people, something
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that's going to give value to you and
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to others.
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When something gives value, you know what happens?
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People say, this is what I want to
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be part of, okay?
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I want to be part of this.
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I want to be part of this.
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I've used this analogy many times.
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You can get people to come to an
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event one time or get people to come
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to your party once, but the kicker is
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getting people to want to return because they
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want to.
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Number 21, become someone people trust with action.
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Trust grows when people see consistent follow-through.
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Let your history demonstrate that when something matters,
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you don't disappear when work begins.
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Number 22, make progress visible.
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Don't confuse communication with bragging.
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When others depend on your work, communicate, progress,
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so everyone understands what's complete and what still
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needs attention.
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Number 23, convert knowledge into results.
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A lot of people have all this knowledge
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from many different places, but if you don't
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convert it, you never get a value.
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You never get a value, okay?
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Knowing something has value, but applying it creates
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an impact.
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So you can have all the knowledge you
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want, but if you don't apply it to
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something, it's like you don't even have the
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knowledge.
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Take what you've learned and use it to
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solve a problem, improve a process, or create
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something meaningful.
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Number 24, turn plans into completed work.
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Planning is important, but planning cannot become a
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permanent substitute for execution.
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Eventually, the meeting ends, the document closes, and
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somebody has to do the work.
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Number 25, become a catalyst.
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A catalyst creates movement.
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Be the person whose presence helps good ideas
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gain traction and helps people move from talking
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toward doing.
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Now, you may have this great idea, but
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for whatever reason, you're like, oh, it's not
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going to go anywhere.
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Have some belief in you.
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I have worked with lots of groups and
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organizations, and sometimes the idea is not mature
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enough yet.
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It needs some work, some retooling.
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That doesn't mean it's bad.
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It just means that it needs work.
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And when it gets the proper work, guess
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what happens?
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It takes off.
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So you've heard divine timing.
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When we know what things are, they just
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work.
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They just work, and they work really, really
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well.
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I mean really well, so well that they
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make a difference for you.
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That's important to understand.
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They make a really big difference for you.
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But if you're constantly on the fence saying,
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I take one step forward, then you take
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two steps back.
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One step forward and two steps back.
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So now you're behind four steps.
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Right?
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So one step forward, two steps back.
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Right?
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So you're taking two steps back.
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Take another step forward, two steps back.
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So now you're three steps behind.
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So you just keep getting behind.
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I think a lot of people in our
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world are waiting for the sign.
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They're waiting for somebody to give them, basically,
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do I have a pen here?
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They're waiting for somebody to give them a
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written invitation.
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A written invitation to take action.
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You see, the world's not about written invitations.
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Those who choose to seize the moment will
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have the moment and more.
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I also want to tell you that if
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you're a leader, don't overpower things with too
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much speech.
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I lead a not-for-profit.
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And I took about two minutes to welcome
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everybody and tell them our agenda.
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And the most important thing I said was,
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after that, today is not about me.
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Today is about all of you.
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Put the ball back on the people's court.
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Don't be afraid to praise others.
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I think that's something a lot of people
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today, they just don't do.
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OK?
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And that's hard for a lot of people
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to understand.
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And the reason they don't understand it is
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they've failed in the past.
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And the reason they failed is their belief.
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Interesting, right?
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Pretty crazy.
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It's important to know this.
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I think sometimes most people won't realize the
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difference they can make until they start to
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see the small signs of the results.
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Today, I was working on something for quite
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a while.
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And I got to see a little bit
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of the results from an event I put
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on today.
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But not just the event, from the demeanor
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of the people and from them saying to
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me, John, this is the best event I've
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ever attended.
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I took that personally.
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I felt so good when I heard that.
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I think when you find your people, they
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find you, you connect.
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But that process is not a simple process,
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guys.
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It's not a simple process.
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You have to get out of your shell,
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and you have to do something in life.
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I know that sounds hard.
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And I told you it's not going to
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be comfortable, didn't I?
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I meant it.
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It is not going to be comfortable.
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That's something that a lot of people here
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don't realize.
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And the reason they don't realize it, I'll
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tell you why.
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It's because they're still stuck.
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They're still stuck in the what if mode.
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What if this doesn't work, right?
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What if it does?
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Do you know, I learned this a long
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time ago.
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I used to think the reason why sometimes
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I wasn't becoming successful when I was younger
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is I was fearing failure.
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But you know what I really learned after
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doing this many years?
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I thought I was fearing failure.
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But you know what I was fearing?
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I was fearing success.
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And so when you can embody the success
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already there, when you achieve it, it feels
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natural.
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So maybe there's certain things you might do
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when you get more successful, right?
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Maybe.
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But if you make those things part of
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your daily life, even if they're not in
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your daily life, but you think about them.
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You think about them as just a part
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of your day.
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They're not special.
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Number 26, just your daily new life.
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Leave situations better than you found them, right?
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Whatever you contribute, look for an improvement you
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can make.
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It doesn't have to be dramatic.
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Small improvements compound when they become part of
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how you operate.
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Number 27, build a reputation for getting things
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done.
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Your reputation is created through repeated behavior, consistency,
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reliability, communication, and completion.
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Eventually, teach people what they can expect from
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you.
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Teach them.
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Approach the world as education.
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I've had some people that I tried to
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coach with sales where they try to just
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throw cards at people because that's what they
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think they need to do.
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And I said to them, you know, bud,
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I got something you should try.
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And they said, yeah.
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Instead of trying to push your products or
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services or your cards, why not try to
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educate them on some benefits in life with
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your products and services?
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Don't sell it.
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Just educate people in general, OK, on your
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types of service, your types of products, but
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not you directly.
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Talk about the industry in general.
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Number 28, stop describing what should happen.
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There comes a point when another conversation doesn't
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add value.
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If you know what needs to happen and
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you're able to act, move from description into
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execution.
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Number 29, be the reason something happened.
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You remember, be the reason for the season.
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Be the reason something happened.
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Be the reason somebody took a step in
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their life because of you.
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You might say, well, gee, I'm not cut
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out for that.
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Even if you made one impact on somebody's
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life, you made a difference.
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You don't have to impact millions of people.
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Impact just one person.
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Maybe you'll impact another one.
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That's priceless, guys.
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Imagine looking back at something worthwhile and knowing
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it exists solely because you decided to act.
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You made the introduction, solved the problem, started
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the project, or created the momentum.
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That's key, guys.
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Number 30, make things happen, OK?
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This is where everything comes together.
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Don't spend your life waiting for perfect circumstances.
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They're never going to happen, or perfect permissions,
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or instructions, or somebody else to take responsibility.
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Not happening.
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Another way of secretly disguising, well, your fear
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and your procrastination.
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Take thoughtful actions and create movement.
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Doesn't have to be a lot of movement,
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but make movement in your life.
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When you create movement, like in the water,
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you create a ripple to catch people's attention.
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And you're not doing it to catch people's
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attention, but when you have that positive energy,
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people want to be around you.
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That's positive, guys.
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In closing today, making things happen doesn't mean
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doing everything yourself.
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It doesn't mean controlling everyone around you.
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Most people think it does.
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It doesn't, and it gets you into trouble.
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And it doesn't mean rushing into situations without
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thinking.
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You wonder what it really means?
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Yeah, it means becoming someone who recognizes when
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action is needed and is willing to take
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responsibility for creating progress, to step up, to
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listen to those inspired thoughts and turn them
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into action.
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See what needs doing today.
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Take initiative, connect people, bring solutions, follow through,
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finish the last 10%.
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And when an obstacle appears, don't, don't, don't
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automatically ask why something can't happen.
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Ask what needs to happen next.
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Over time, people will notice your new attitude,
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your new behavior.
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They'll know that when you say we're going
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to do something, you follow through with it.
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They'll know that when a problem appears, you
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look for answers.
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I'll give you an example.
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So today was a very big day for
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us in Franklin Lakes.
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We had the relaunch of our brand new
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Grow & Connect networking breakfast and the launch
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of My Baby, a site we created all
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from scratch, a really powerful automated chamber management
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member system and directory management.
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They're going to know that when a good
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idea needs momentum, you're willing to help kick
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it along or to create it.
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But even more importantly than all this, you'll
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know that about yourself.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
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Morley and thank you so much for choosing
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to join me for another amazing episode of
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Inspirations For Your Life.
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Stop waiting to be chosen, ladies and gentlemen.
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Stop describing what somebody else should do.
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Take the idea, take the bull by the
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horns.
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Take the responsibility now.
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Take that first step.
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Don't just be there when something happens.
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Be the reason for the season.
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Be the reason something's happened and become the
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catalyst, the person who makes things happen, that
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creates change.
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I know that sounds scary, but it's also
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very rewarding when you're the person to help
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bring an idea to pass, when you're the
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person that got somebody to get out of
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their shell, or when you're the person that
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helps somebody achieve their goals or their aspirations.
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I hope you guys have a great rest
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of your day and evening.
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