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What is a man? | Ep. 1 · As A Man Awaketh Podshare

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  SPEAKER_00: What is a man?
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  SPEAKER_00: What is a man?
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  SPEAKER_00: What does it mean to be a man?
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  SPEAKER_00: That is the question that very few people know, especially these days.
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  SPEAKER_00: So,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm going to go down a pretty deep rabbit hole,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I'm probably not going to unpack everything in this one video.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it's a question that I have...
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  SPEAKER_00: asked myself and deeply meditated on over these last few months.
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  SPEAKER_00: Specifically,
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  SPEAKER_00: it was sparked by a conversation and a retreat,
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  SPEAKER_00: shall we say,
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  SPEAKER_00: a men's retreat,
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  SPEAKER_00: where that question was posed to all the attendees.
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  And it's quite interesting what everyone had to say when we had
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  a sharing circle and
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  SPEAKER_00: Every man present had to bring forward what they,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: feel is a man,
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  SPEAKER_00: their definition of what a man is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course you heard some of the,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: the more mainstream accepted versions of what a man is.
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  You know,
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  he's strong,
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  he's stoic,
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  he's a provider,
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  he's,
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  you know,
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  a protector.
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  SPEAKER_00: And...
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  SPEAKER_00: There were a few other interesting takes on what a man is too,
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  which I'm not going to get into now because those are the
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  private matters of these
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  SPEAKER_00: other men who attended there.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I'll share mine in a few moments.
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  SPEAKER_00: For me,
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  SPEAKER_00: what I said when it was my turn is that a man is in his heart,
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  SPEAKER_00: no matter what happens around him.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it took me a long time to get to that place.
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  And this was not the first time where I sort of wrestled with
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  that question myself.
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  SPEAKER_00: I've...
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  SPEAKER_00: healed a lot of my traumas,
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  SPEAKER_00: a lot of my emotions,
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  SPEAKER_00: a lot of my deep-seated fears that I've had,
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  SPEAKER_00: both from my childhood and apparently also from pre-birth.
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  And that was something that I realize now greatly affected how
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  I see myself as a
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  SPEAKER_00: man and how I see other men too in this world.
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  SPEAKER_00: So,
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  SPEAKER_00: of course,
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  SPEAKER_00: in the beginning of my journey of self-reflection and inner healing,
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  SPEAKER_00: I've had the same mainstream accepted versions of what a man is.
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  SPEAKER_00: But throughout my journey,
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  SPEAKER_00: specifically with the help of these retreats,
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  I've realized that the notion and the programming of what a man
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  is was first
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  SPEAKER_00: installed by my father.
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  And that's the same with everyone,
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  whether you're a man or you're a woman.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your first exposure to what a man is and what he's not is your father.
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  SPEAKER_00: So just for now, just take a quick minute.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I realized that in my subconscious,
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  SPEAKER_00: I had adopted both the good traits and the bad traits of my dad.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I was living them out,
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  although from a perspective where I was sort of on the opposite
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  side of the
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  SPEAKER_00: spectrum.
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  know he was over here and I realized that you know through my
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  family history and
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  whatever he did what he did and I didn't want to be that so I
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  went to the opposite
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  side of the spectrum of the pendulum so to speak right but I
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  was still connected to
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  SPEAKER_00: him see everything I did everything I was trying to be as a man
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  Until I realized I can let go of that pendulum and I can define
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  for myself what a man is.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can literally write my own programming,
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  SPEAKER_00: my own story,
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  SPEAKER_00: even though,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: stories can be very tricky if you know what I mean.
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  But I can write my own version of who I want to be as a man and
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  who I want to be to others.
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  SPEAKER_00: Both to men and to women.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's the list that I have so far.
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  SPEAKER_00: In his spine.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man is in his spine.
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  SPEAKER_00: How many spineless men do we have walking around on this planet?
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  SPEAKER_00: Or plane.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever you prefer.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: How many spineless men do we know of?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we see on TV every single day?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we see on social media?
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  SPEAKER_00: Do we see in the government?
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  SPEAKER_00: A man has a spine.
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  SPEAKER_00: He does what is right, even if everyone thinks it's wrong.
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  SPEAKER_00: He knows what's right.
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  SPEAKER_00: He knows what's morally right.
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  SPEAKER_00: What is the moral thing to do that is not up for debate?
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  SPEAKER_00: And it takes a spine.
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  SPEAKER_00: It takes guts.
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  SPEAKER_00: It takes a spine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Standing in your spine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feeling your spine.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the power that comes with that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then of course in the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Centered in the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: Standing in his spine.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man is calm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now of course life throws all kinds of things at us.
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  SPEAKER_00: That may ruffle some feathers.
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  SPEAKER_00: That bring up emotions.
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  SPEAKER_00: That trigger us.
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  SPEAKER_00: But if you have disconnected your buttons that people can push,
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  SPEAKER_00: if you have healed your fears and your traumas,
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  SPEAKER_00: at least the majority of them,
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  so that stuff when it comes up no longer triggers you and
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  you're not reactive to
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  SPEAKER_00: what comes towards you,
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  SPEAKER_00: then you can be calm.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man is present.
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  SPEAKER_00: Present,
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  SPEAKER_00: not thinking all the time,
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  SPEAKER_00: not,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  pulling up memories from the past or planning things ahead of
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  the future or fearing
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  SPEAKER_00: about the future or worrying about what happened in the past.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man is present in the now with whoever he's dealing with.
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  You know,
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  if you're in a conversation,
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  don't think about the next thing you're going to say.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man is present and he listens.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then he lets, you know, if we're talking about a conversation,
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  SPEAKER_00: He lets the other person finish and takes a moment.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: whatever he needs to say,
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  SPEAKER_00: wants to say,
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  SPEAKER_00: then say it without cutting off anyone.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man has tamed and mastered the mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: emotions and actions.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, of course, those are all, you know, very big cans of worms.
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  SPEAKER_00: All of these require,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: several videos,
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  SPEAKER_00: obviously,
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  SPEAKER_00: but Master of the Mind,
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  SPEAKER_00: that was a big one for me,
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  SPEAKER_00: and I'm not there yet fully,
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  SPEAKER_00: but I've realized through these
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  inner reflections and through these retreats that the mind is
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  an incredibly complex
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  SPEAKER_00: yet surprisingly simple labyrinth once you really unpack it.
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  And you can't unpack it unless you look at your fears directly
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  and face your fears head on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll probably make a video and certainly a Substack post on that,
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  SPEAKER_00: that night when I faced my existential fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was the scariest moment of my life.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it freed me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It freed my mind from being locked inside a mental cage of fear.
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  SPEAKER_00: Next, a man breathes deeply, always, a deep breath away.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, we don't realize how important the breath is.
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  SPEAKER_00: I certainly didn't,
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  especially as I was still very much in my fear response of
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  dealing with life.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wasn't breathing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if I was breathing, I was very shallowly breathing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But breath is life, just like water is life.
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  SPEAKER_00: We are water, we are breath, we are air, and we are water primarily.
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  And when you breathe deeply,
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  that obviously helps with calming the mind and staying present.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man is a leader that others want to be around and follow.
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  SPEAKER_00: Notice that others want to be around and want to follow,
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  not because he's being propped up by media or social networks
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  or whatever the case
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  SPEAKER_00: may be.
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  There's a presence around him,
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  even though he may not be in a leadership position.
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  SPEAKER_00: But there's something,
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  SPEAKER_00: there's a,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: I guess it goes back to being in your spine,
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  SPEAKER_00: which,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: you could translate also into confidence.
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  Knowing your core,
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  knowing who you are and standing in your spine and in your
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  heart.
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  And if there's a situation that calls upon leadership and no
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  one else is stepping up,
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  SPEAKER_00: you feel fine standing and stepping up into that position.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you make a mistake,
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  SPEAKER_00: well,
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  SPEAKER_00: you can always apologize and you can always own up to your mistakes,
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  SPEAKER_00: which was a big one for me that I had to overcome.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know,
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  I was also afraid of making mistakes and how am I going to look
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  if I make a mistake
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  SPEAKER_00: and what if other people get hurt because of my mistakes.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I was not taking action, not positive action for myself,
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  SPEAKER_00: because I was afraid I would make mistakes.
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  A man knows and sees the brain slash mind as an auxiliary tool
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  that is only to be
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  SPEAKER_00: used when necessary.
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  That is the real,
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  shall we say,
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  order where it should be,
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  the brain,
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  okay?
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  SPEAKER_00: The brain...
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  SPEAKER_00: is an amazing servant, but a terrible master.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's what Albert Einstein said, you know, over a century ago.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we have created a society that worships the servant.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything is about mind and cerebral and mental action.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where is the heart in our society?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where is the heart in our world?
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  SPEAKER_00: Love doesn't even have a definition in the legal dictionary.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't exist.
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  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that alone should tell you something.
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  Knows and sees the brain mind as an auxiliary tool that is only
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  to be used when necessary.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was completely using my mind to live life.
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  I was using my mind to feel my emotions because my heart was
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  completely blocked.
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  My heart was blocked by trauma and fear and sadness and anger
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  and anxiety.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's an auxiliary tool.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it, when you need it.
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  SPEAKER_00: The brain is great at keeping us alive and identifying danger.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's really all it's designed to do.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yet we live our life from the auxiliary engine.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of it like this, okay?
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  So an airplane has this auxiliary engine with which you can
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  taxi the plane.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, it runs the lights, it runs the AC.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I think it also is used for taxiing the plane.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we are running our life with that auxiliary engine.
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  Whereas we have the real engine,
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  the real power is right here in the heart.
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  SPEAKER_00: by trauma and fear and all kinds of other negative emotions,
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  SPEAKER_00: which no one is exempt from,
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  SPEAKER_00: right?
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  SPEAKER_00: There's very few people on the planet that don't go through trauma,
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  SPEAKER_00: especially in childhood years from zero to six or seven years old.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man is the I am and just is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, this goes into a way deep of a rabbit hole, but a man essentially...
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  SPEAKER_00: knows that he has a direct connection to whatever he identifies as God,
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  SPEAKER_00: as source,
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  as the impersonal being that created and continues to create
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  the universe,
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  SPEAKER_00: all dimensions.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's a knowing that a man is part of that consciousness,
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  that all-encompassing consciousness that created everything and
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  continues to create
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  SPEAKER_00: everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, that, for some people, that takes a lifetime to realize.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people never realize it.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, you know, it comes with facing your fears, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: Who are you really?
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  And at some point,
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  you're going to realize that you're not who you think you are.
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  SPEAKER_00: Who you think you are, most likely, is a mental construct of
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  SPEAKER_00: based upon all of your past experiences, both good and bad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about that.
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  Who you think you are as a total sum of all your past
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  experiences from birth to right now.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an egoic structure.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's an image that was created in your mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: A lot of people call it the ego.
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  Although I think that's a bit too simplistic,
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  putting it too simplistically.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it's all subconscious, unfortunately.
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  SPEAKER_00: So there are certain plants,
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  SPEAKER_00: obviously,
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  with which you can go into your subconscious and examine some
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  of these structures.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are they serving you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Some of them, yeah, they might be serving you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But most of the time, those structures are not serving you.
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  And they're creating patterns and habits and actions in your
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  own life that you don't like.
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  SPEAKER_00: because they were installed when you didn't have a conscious mind yet.
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  SPEAKER_00: You were still a baby or you were still a toddler,
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  SPEAKER_00: you know,
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  SPEAKER_00: anywhere from birth to six or seven years old.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything that happened during that time was directly installed in your
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  SPEAKER_00: subconscious and is running programs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of it like a computer.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's very much like a computer.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is the last one that
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  You know,
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  my teacher brought forward when he shared it during that
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  circle.
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  He said to him,
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  a man is a platform from which other people can grow from.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think about that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Feel that.
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  SPEAKER_00: A man is a platform from which other people can grow from.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, if I had a mic, I would drop it right now.
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  But when he said that,
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  that floored me because that completes the circle.
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  SPEAKER_00: It encompasses everything that I said and all the other men said too.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because in order to be a platform for other people to grow from,
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  SPEAKER_00: you're going to have to have all,
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  SPEAKER_00: first of all,
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  SPEAKER_00: you're going to have to be completely healed,
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  SPEAKER_00: completely heal yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: You have to know who you are and you have to not only have
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  SPEAKER_00: But know enough to help others do the same work,
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  SPEAKER_00: have the experience to teach others how to live like that,
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  how to look at your fears and deal with your anxieties and
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  dismantle these old
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  SPEAKER_00: programs that no longer serve you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then naturally,
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  SPEAKER_00: when these other people grow from that platform,
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  SPEAKER_00: they become better versions of themselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then they can become platforms for other people to grow from.
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  And so it creates this ripple effect throughout generations
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  where we continue to
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  SPEAKER_00: improve and upgrade and up-level.
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  why mankind is in such a you know shithole right now on every
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  level in every sense
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  SPEAKER_00: of the word because we have continuously ignored our emotions our traumas
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  generation after generation after generation and we're not
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  looking at ourselves
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  SPEAKER_00: deeply in the mirror and saying you know what
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  The life that I'm creating for myself and for my family is not
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  what I want it to be.
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  SPEAKER_00: Changing things on the outside doesn't work.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if it does work, it only works temporarily and for a short time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm going to have to look inside myself.
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  What's inside myself that is causing my reality to hurt myself
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  and hurt others around me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because at the end of the day,
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  SPEAKER_00: and this is verifiable quantum science and psychology,
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  SPEAKER_00: we are creating our experience of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every single second.
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  So when something happens in our reality that we don't like,
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  we cause that.
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  SPEAKER_00: One way or another, we caused it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now,
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  SPEAKER_00: of course,
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  there are certain things outside of ourselves on the planetary
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  scale that we can't
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  SPEAKER_00: directly affect because it's a collective consciousness kind of thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But guess why the collective consciousness is the way it is?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because we're not doing this kind of work.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not looking at ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: We're not looking deeply inside of ourselves.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're saying, okay...
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  SPEAKER_00: How can I heal myself from all the trauma that not only I was exposed to,
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  SPEAKER_00: but my entire ancestral lineage was exposed to?
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  So some of these emotions that are continuously coming up for
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  you and that don't
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  SPEAKER_00: make sense,
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  SPEAKER_00: and you have these random anxieties,
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  SPEAKER_00: for example,
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  SPEAKER_00: which was a big part for me,
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  SPEAKER_00: these random anxieties,
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  SPEAKER_00: out of nowhere,
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  SPEAKER_00: they might be,
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  SPEAKER_00: a program stored in your DNA from your ancestors.
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  One,
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  two,
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  three,
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  four,
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  10 generations past that no one in your lineage has looked at
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  and healed.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it just gets passed on to the next generation.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then each generation accumulates more trauma.
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  Life's been very difficult on this planet for a long time,
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  from what we know.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there we are.
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  So we're just these unconscious trauma machines walking around,
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  completely unconscious.
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  But once we start looking at ourselves and once we start the
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  internal healing
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  SPEAKER_00: process,
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  SPEAKER_00: that's when a lot of things start shifting very rapidly.
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  SPEAKER_00: So...
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  SPEAKER_00: Anyway, that's my rant today on what a man is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And, you know, this is an ongoing process for me.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'll continue to update you guys on all that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So anyway, thanks for listening.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I hope you're doing well out there.
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  SPEAKER_00: So start looking within.
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  SPEAKER_00: Love you.