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From Book Club to Murderous Chickens · You Know What I Mean?

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Good morning, I feel like I haven't seen you in forever and
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it's only what, one day later than normal?
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I know, I'm starting to think we should do this twice a week
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'cause I literally said to Bobby this morning.
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I was like, I feel like I haven't talked to Katyn forever
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or done this with her. Seen your face.
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I know. And he was like, it's a day
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late. That might be why.
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And I was like, well. A day late is way too long.
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Yes. So can we start with?
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Whatever you'd like, OK. Thank you the three glimmers.
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Yes. Do you have some?
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I am so glad that you are challenging us to do that
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because there's so many little moments in like a day that's
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like all that, like, feels good or that like, feels happy.
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But then when you sit down and like, write them down, I'm like,
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this is probably my own brain. I'm like, well, that seems kind
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of like lame or like like that's not big enough to be like a
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glimmer. So I don't have you start
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because you just said bring, bring 3 glimmers.
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I'm guessing that's like kind of like moments of gratitude, like
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things that made you happy, like that kind of stuff.
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So to me, the glimmer is more like, well, OK, so people don't
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know obviously. I said to Kate last week, I was
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like, I think it'd be fun to bring 3 glimmers that happened
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in your past week because I've done this before where I saw a
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reel about some girl who she woke up every morning trying to
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find glimmers. And I was like, Oh my gosh, I
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love that. And it's kind of like the red
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car theory or like when you go and you're going to buy.
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Yes, exactly. And it's so easy to overlook
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them. So.
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So for me. OK, well, one of them might
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freak you out, but. I just can't wait to see what
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your definition of or like. That's why you're going to
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change my list real quick. OK.
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So. So please continue.
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I'm just saying that way too literal I'm sure.
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I'm gonna save that one for 3rd because, OK, so cliffhanger.
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I know. So you have to keep listing for
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the next two minutes. OK, so my first one was I found
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a. It's just things that bring me
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joy. That's what I think of when I
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think of Glimmer. The show called Homegrown.
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It's on. You can watch it on HBO.
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It's through the Magnolia Network and it's where she goes.
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She's in Georgia and which I kind of want to move there or
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have like a dream, dream another home there sometime because I
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have family there. And so she goes, she has her own
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farm. It's like in the neighborhood.
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And then she goes to people's houses and goes into their
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backyard, basically does a remodel of their backyard so
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that there's like a fire pit like but mainly gardens.
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So she talks about how to garden the veggies and I can't watch it
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at night. I get too excited, I can't
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sleep. Are you serious?
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I swear it's insane. So there's Four Seasons.
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I've already watched all the episodes, which is very sad.
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I thought there was 5. So anyway, so that was a big
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glimmer. Got me very.
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Excited. It's what?
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Is that the glimmer is finding that show OK?
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I think I'm on the right track for glimmers then.
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OK, yay. OK.
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Do you want to do 1 each? Yeah.
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I'll do one now so one of my glimmers and you can, well, I
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guess we can all have our own definitions of glimmers.
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I was going to say tell me if I'm wrong with this glimmer.
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But this week I didn't like start them all this week, but
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I've started three different books, an audio book, a physical
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book and a book on my Kindle that I'm reading all at
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different in the past and I finished them all within this
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week. And yeah, so I I've been reading
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all of them at the same time. Oh, got it.
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OK, OK. So like it when I'm in the car
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or I'm walking dogs, I'm listening to my audio book.
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At night before I go to bed, I'm reading my Kindle and during the
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day, if you know I'm I don't know, it's kind of like my wine
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down time, but also like maybe a morning read.
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I'm reading my physical book, but I finished all of them like
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within this week. So I started them all kind of
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around the same time. One book is a book that I'm
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doing kind of like a little mini book club with my sister and my
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friend. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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And so we meet every Sunday and talk about the book.
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So that one I kind of knew when I was going to be finishing
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because it was just like, we read this much this week.
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And then my Kindle one was just like, again, I read a couple
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pages. Sometimes at night I'm about to
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fall asleep and then other times I'm reading multiple pages.
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But it was three books that I like, loved all ending at the
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same time. And they were all so different.
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So it felt like I was like living while I'm living my own
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life, like in these three different worlds as well.
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So it felt very like I you need, I think you would really like
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reading. I know you don't read like any
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fiction books really, but it just like takes me away from
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like it makes me a spend way less time on my phone, which
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I'm, I think I'm way worse about that than you are because you
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have your brick. But yeah, so that was a glimmer.
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It's like me finishing three books and enjoying all of them.
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Oh my gosh. OK, so.
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That's probably how it is, how you feel about shows, which I
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love shows too. But like, I love a book where I
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feel like, especially a couple of them, like, you know, there's
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some middle parts that are some slow burn, but all three of
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them, like I couldn't wait to either pick it back up or hit
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play again while I'm like walk. I love that.
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Wow. Yeah.
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So I was just. Like finding?
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Oh, go ahead. Well, I just had the only
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because I don't like reading, only because I feel like my eyes
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get blurry from looking at my laptop so much recently.
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So I did listen to an audio book.
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I still have to finish it, but I I got that feeling.
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I haven't had that feeling about a book and forever where I
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couldn't wait to listen. It was Lena Dunham and her
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memoir. But yeah, so, but so that
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feeling I totally get. It's very exciting.
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Yeah, yeah. So I love that because it just
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gives you that like I can't wait to pick it back up.
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Like I want to know what's going to happen, even if there's like
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slow burn moments. In one of the books I was
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reading, it's called the Wedding people and this is the one
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they're doing for the book club. I there's something I'm sure
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like everyone can relate to this where you can like smell a smell
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and it'll take you somewhere or it'll bring you to someone or
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hear someone. Like I'm reading this book that
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we're reading. It's based out of Newport, RI.
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So you know, the area that Casey and I got married and stuff is
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like not far from that. And like we've gone to Newport
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growing up so many times. So they're talking about like
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this road and like the cobblestone on this road.
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And I could physically put myself there and I would get
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like this butterfly feeling while I was reading this book
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and I felt felt like my body could physically drop.
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There isn't that. Weird.
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I'm like, I don't know if other people, I know other people can
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like obviously feel that, but like I felt like my body was
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there. It was so weird.
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So like, that was a glimmer because I'm like, that's truly
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my happy place is Rhode Island. Oh my gosh.
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Wait, so that's the second glimmer?
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You know that's that's in the book, but like all the books
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making me happy is my wow 3 of. One that seems like major
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glimmer. Well, I've never done that
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before. That was a first for me.
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So I was pretty impressed with myself.
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It took me a while to finish all of those, but like, yeah, it was
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really cool how they all came to fruition at the end together.
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I thought it would be like, I'm gonna finish this one like a
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couple weeks out, but they all, I finished them all this week.
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Wow. Oh no.
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I've always wished that I was an avid book reader.
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I just really never was. Really never was.
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No. Why weren't you?
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I didn't. I was like, am I gonna sit down
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and read a book? Especially, especially when I
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was younger, Like my sister's always been a book person.
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Like, OK, if we were at home and it was like downtime, she's up
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in her room. She would rearrange her room
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like weekly, like move her bed and like by herself, rearrange
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her room. And like her bed, she would make
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into almost like a book nook where she's like, you know, has
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like a little canopy over her bed and like she'd be just like
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reading on her bed. And I'm like, what?
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I'd be playing my Nintendo 64 like I I was a gamer or I was
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like, you know, out rollerblading or something like
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that. Like I was definitely like, I
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need to do stuff. I need to move, I need to like
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be busy. Shocker.
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So I just never like even growing up and even into like
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high school and stuff like that. I would like see everyone
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reading on the beach when we'd go to Rhode Island in the summer
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and I'm like, that looks so vibey, especially as I got
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older. I'm like, no, I need to go
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swimming. Like I need to go like
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literally, I'm still probably 15 building a sandcastle.
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So I just never really, I don't think I gave it a shot.
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I think that was more than anything cuz I feel like when I
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did have to read, it was like you're in school and you're
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being told to read a book that it's like, I would never pick
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this book up. Oh yes for sure.
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Like the only time I ever felt like I loved reading was after I
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went to Renfrew, an eating disorder facility, for a month
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and it was in my, I think early 20s.
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Definitely after high school and I remember we were there cuz
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when I we got there also that's the first time I ever had
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coffee. So they got me hooked on coffee.
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No way. Yeah.
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I like really looked forward to my little teeny cup of coffee.
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But anyway, so but I remember being there and before that I
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was addicted to TV like our family is ATV family.
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Same with mine. OK, so always watching TV,
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always had it on, always watching.
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So I was like, what am I going to do in this pre, you know,
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phones and social media and stuff?
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So I was like, Oh my gosh, my TV.
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So when I got out of there, I remember one day I had a
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cabriolet. Do you know what that car is?
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No, I don't think so. Maybe if I saw it I would know
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what that is, but I don't know it based on the name.
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It's basically a Jetta convertible.
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Oh my gosh, you were just so cool.
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I don't think I appreciate it as much back then, but I remember
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this one I. Talked about cars on a walk this
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last time that, and I think you told me about that.
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Yeah, that was it, yes. And I remember you saying that
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same thing like I don't think I appreciated it.
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Well, I like 1. I love being.
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Like a a young woman in Florida with a convertible.
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In high school, and I remember this girl who Emily Smythe, who
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she really nice, but very, like, pretty and all the guys liked
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and stuff. And she had a Lexus, which we
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all thought was like, Oh my God, that's the coolest thing ever.
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Yeah. And who's this cute little
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Lexus? And one day she came up to me
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after I got my cabriolet. You can't say that enough.
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I just love saying it. It was.
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Like who? Like Lexus?
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Who? Cabriolet.
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I know I feel like I'm French. I don't think that's French.
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Hi, my name is Bethany like talk really normal and I drive at
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Cabriolet I. Think I mentioned that car to
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Bobby twice this past week very randomly, but it was olive green
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with a tan top Anyway, so but she came up to me and was like
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one day at lunch she was like, whoa, I love your car.
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And I was like, Oh my God, like, you know, and someone cool like
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Bethany you. Have no idea this is my entire
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high school experience where I was like reaching like who could
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tell me I was kind of cool and I was like stay less but actually
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tell me more did. You like play it cool like wow.
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I would have had no idea that that was cool.
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And then you think about the entire rest of the day like, Oh
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my God. Really cool.
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So, so after run through, I got back home.
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I was driving one time and before this I had the TV on,
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always had music on, always listening to something, just had
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to constantly have things on. And one day I was driving in the
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cabriolet and no music was on, just the windows down.
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And I was like, Oh my God, I think going to this place made
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it so that I didn't have to listen to things.
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And I one of my favorite things was driving to Barnes and Noble,
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sitting or laying in an aisle reading a book.
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I can see this. I didn't even think, like, who's
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been stepping here? That was not it it.
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Was a public store, not even a. It's not even like a library,
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it's a bookstore. Oh, and there were chairs where
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people were sitting. And I don't just mean like
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lightly, like really deep sitting in the chairs.
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Anyway, deep sitting. I have this memory of one of the
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chairs looking a little disheveled, a little dirty.
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Oh yeah. Oh, for sure.
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Like a chair. Like a big cozy chair.
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Oh yeah, yeah, they're not chairs that you necessarily want
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to sit in. No.
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But they look inviting until. You I don't know if like laying
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on the aisle floor is the best next step, but it's.
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OK, tell the tale, yeah. I'd get a coffee I loved, you
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know, the feeling, You know, like when we've been to Whole
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Foods and we get the fancy water and we're like, oh, it's just a
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feeling. So I would go in.
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There's a Starbucks in the Barnes and Noble.
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I'd get a little coffee, go and lay in the aisle, read a book
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from this one author I found who I used to love her books.
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And if anyone knows it, that will be wild to me.
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Jennifer, it's Weiner. But you could say Weiner.
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Oh yeah, I've definitely seen that author's name.
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Yeah, yeah. But that was the first time
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where I was. It was like I my brain wasn't
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super noisy, and even with distractions, I could really
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focus on the book. Yeah.
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Wild. Yeah.
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But that's the last time I remember really being able to
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read. Well, maybe you need to get back
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to it. The audiobook.
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Seems so uninterested with that. I would.
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I'd rather watch TV, but I would love to be someone who reads a
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book. Why can't you do both?
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I love watching TV. It's almost painful reading a
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book to me. Really.
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Now, does reading a cookbook count?
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That's not the same. I do not like reading cookbooks.
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Oh see, I could do that all day long like.
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What reading recipes? Well, there's one it's Have you
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ever seen the documentary series Salt, Acid, Fat Heat?
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No. Oh.
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My God. Well, she has a cookbook and
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it's not really there's some recipes, but there's also really
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cute illustrations in it. Like on her it's a like force
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episode docu series on Netflix and her illustrator is in one of
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her episodes drawing little beans.
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It's I could read that. Yeah, I could like, yeah, glance
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through it and then put it on my bookshelf and probably never
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look at it again. OK, well I have.
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Some cookbooks, they're just decor.
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Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, Like some of the books, which one of them?
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I turned back around, but you turned it 'cause it looks nicer
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when it's on. Well, I like it both ways, but
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yeah, sometimes if you. It's nice visually, yeah.
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Yeah, OK. 2nd glimmer Was it only our each of our first
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glimmers? Yes OK, so my second, you know
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what, I'm going to jump to the third because now I just want to
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tell it. But I was saying to Bobby this
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morning when I was talking to him about the glimmers and I was
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like, I I want to say this one as a glimmer, but I don't know
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what it's going to say about me because I don't know.
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But and also it includes a mouse.
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OK, is it you know my? You know my irrational fear of
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mine. No.
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Are you going to be OK if I tell?
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You I can hear a story. OK, if it's not like in your
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vicinity? What do you?
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No, no, I'm like, what do you mean?
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Is there something about a mouse in my house?
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No, no, I'm good. A mouse?
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Cute. A little mouse with little ears.
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So we saw a couple in the garden which I haven't seen like a
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mouse, and it was small, not a rat, but yeah.
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A rat don't even start with that, but a mouse?
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OK, it's little. I can, I can handle this.
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Yep. One of our chickens ate one.
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This is a glimmer. This is a glimmer.
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The. Only reason, the only reason
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it's. They are murderous chickens.
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Yeah, I don't know if the glimmer is the right word, but
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it was more like because I've been watching this gardening
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show, I'm really into the garden right now and it felt like a
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little ecosystem. I know.
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Well, I'm regretting saying this out loud as a glimmer because.
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I I, I thought you were going with like, I found the mouse
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just like cute that it was in my garden and it felt like that was
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like, you know, a nice area that they wanted to like bed.
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They felt safe. No, they're being murdered by my
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chickens and that's my glimmer. Eww.
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And did you see it? Eating it?
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I did. And this is a glimmer, Bethany.
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I'm not even going to tell. You.
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You're like rainbows and butterflies, friend.
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But I think we might be a. Little.
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Psycho in there. I like the chicken so much, it
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just felt. Like it was Loretta, No.
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She tried. It was one of the black ones.
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The two black ones that are here because they are your like more
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docile, like chill. So they're just lurking in the
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shadows to come out and murder. You know how like who you're
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around really impacts how you are as a person.
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When I'm watching this, I have Bobby next to me who is like
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basically cheering them on. So that's why I thought maybe I
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get. I get being like sweet, I don't
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want mice in my yard. And yeah, and like, it's a
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clean, healthy, like way for them to go out.
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And it's. I get that.
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But we're calling it a glimmer. That's my.
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Own put that aside. Let's so that's a side by line.
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So the glimmer is that you feel like you have a little ecosystem
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in the backyard. Yes, because my second was about
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my soil, my compost pile. Let's go with that one, because
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let's forget I talked about the. Other Oh, I'm so glad we brought
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that up. Glad you felt that that was a
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glimmer. Wait till you hear my second
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glimmer. It's just like very monotonous,
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like has nothing to do with an ecosystem on my.
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Back. Let me just say, to balance this
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out, earlier in the week I saved a mouse that was swimming in our
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pool. You didn't watch it drown.
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No, I saved it. No, God, I'm not a OK that that
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would be psychopath behavior. OK.
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Like I'm just gonna watch him drown.
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I would be like I need to reconsider this fun check.
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No. Can you imagine?
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If I was like, if you're just like I, my glimmer is that I saw
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a mouse drown in my pool, I would be scared.
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No, I wouldn't believe. It I would be like, you're
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trying to like make me have a reaction right now, is what I
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was saying. I was like, there's no way you
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actually would want this. 'Cause if I wrote a children's
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book, a mouse would be in it for sure.
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So it's like, but I also, I can't eat chickens anymore.
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I can't eat. So it's like, you know, there's
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a lot of aspects to my farming personality.
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So when we were making chicken thighs there, I know that
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initially you were like I just. But have you guys not really
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eaten much chicken since we left?
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No, really. I could eat the eggs, eat the
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eggs, beef. OK.
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Beef. I got some pork tenderloin
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Turkey with. We just like the Turkey with the
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soup. Yeah.
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Yeah. I just.
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I can't see the flesh. That's fair.
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OK, But I mean, you're out calling them the girls, so I.
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Really like them so much. OK, tell me your second glimmer.
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Mine is just very straightforward that for our
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Hawaii trip in October, we booked a convertible that was
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like, mine is nothing I didn't think we were.
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Going to Hawaii. Yeah, I thought that we in
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October, we're going with Casey's family and Casey's
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brother and now fiance are getting married while we're out
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there. Yeah.
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So they're kind of doing like an elopement and then we're all
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afterwards doing like a dinner, you know, little party for them.
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Oh, that's so nice. Convertible in Hawaii, Yeah.
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I know it's. We did.
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A Mustang convertible. I don't I know how you feel
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about Mustangs. But I mean y'all could break the
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stigma. Yeah.
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And we don't know until it's just like you picked a
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convertible. All we put is that we wanted to
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make sure that we had a four seat convertible.
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You can't like pick the the. Cabriolet.
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I don't even know do they make those anymore.
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No, they don't know. That's why I would be
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unbelievable. Because usually rental cars,
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it's like they're a little bit newer.
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Because I also feel like some companies are trying to like
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have it be where it's like gonna be a sales like, oh, they drove
21:50
this in the rental car and then I wanna go buy 1.
21:52
So they're never like 20 year old cars or anything like that,
21:56
OK Unless it's like, I know in some areas you can rent like
22:00
vintage cars. We're definitely not doing that.
22:02
You know, that would be so cool. It's probably a Mustang.
22:04
I bet. I'm gonna bet, yeah.
22:06
I bet you it like. We'll break the stigma,
22:08
obviously. It'll be so fun.
22:10
Yes, so fun. Oh, that's a great glimmer.
22:13
Yeah, God, my other glimmer, since you already gave me yours,
22:15
is so we have these in the morning, these love doves.
22:19
I call them love doves, but I think there's called mourning
22:21
doves. But I like calling them love
22:22
doves because there's two. Yeah.
22:25
I looked at them the other morning and 1 was like
22:28
scratching its neck and it reminded me of fit.
22:32
It looked like a Kitty. And I was like, love doves are
22:37
like little kitties in bird form.
22:40
And it now I saw it this morning doing a little neck scratchy
22:44
thing that our cat does and I'm like, I can't Unsee it.
22:49
So now I see these mourning doves as little flying kitties.
22:55
Oh my gosh. And people that hate cats would
22:57
probably be like that sounds disgusting.
23:00
People hate cannats. Hate.
23:03
Bethany people are savage about cats are.
23:06
You serious? Awful, I bet you.
23:09
Obviously not from ever having them.
23:13
I don't know, but like anyone that's like I hate it's like I
23:18
hate a dog. It's like who peed in your
23:22
Cheerios? Like why are you so upset?
23:24
So aggressive? It is so intense.
23:26
People literally hate cats. Yes, like I know like I'll even
23:33
literally when people I'm like, are you a cat person?
23:35
Because like cats are savage and ours is.
23:38
I know she is like love her to death and she's super cute and
23:42
like pretty and like people want a pet and she comes out like but
23:45
I know she'll scratch and bite and stuff like that.
23:48
So like but you don't have to usually ask people like are you
23:52
a dog person? Yeah.
23:54
It's always like, I feel like I have to like, are you a cat
23:57
person? And maybe it's just because I
23:58
want to make sure they don't think they can just go like pet
24:01
a cat uncontrollably on the belly and expect it to be OK
24:04
with it. I want to kind of give them a
24:05
forewarning that like, she'll bite.
24:08
Yeah, yeah, she's not trained. Like there's no training my cat.
24:12
But yeah, people hate cats and I don't get it.
24:15
I guess it doesn't. Surprise me because everyone is.
24:17
It's OK if people don't like about things.
24:19
Because like, I wouldn't call Bobby like a cat person, but
24:22
he's not like, I hate cats. No, yeah.
24:25
So it's OK if people are like, I can associate with people that
24:28
are like me. I'm I'm good.
24:30
Like that's fine. But people that are like, I
24:32
would take a cat out back and kill him.
24:35
Oh my God, yes. Wait.
24:38
Well, that's a whole other. I feel like.
24:41
Yeah, that took another turn. Like if you ever hear someone
24:44
say that, that is. I have like what in there, yes.
24:50
In person. Yes, maybe not to that extreme,
24:53
but like that thing should be taken Outback.
24:55
I'm like, how are you to say that?
24:57
Yes, what? I was like this farmer person.
25:02
OK, well. Oh my God.
25:03
I can't give detail on who said this, but yeah, I'm like, you're
25:07
a sociopath. You know the right term that you
25:09
would use. But I probably shouldn't be like
25:11
diagnosing people. But that's how we feel.
25:13
That's my feeling. So there's my glimmers.
25:17
But now I got a good idea on what glimmers are and I feel
25:20
like we're both on. Yeah, well, there's fifteen
25:24
other glimmers that like the other I 'cause I'm gonna replace
25:27
the chicken 1. So I was walking with two dogs
25:31
and Cora, who I have whose sweetest little lab walking, and
25:36
there was a bird that was just like singing, singing, singing,
25:39
and it was a really pretty blue sky.
25:42
Did you post on your story? Yes, like stuff like that.
25:46
That is where it really glimmers, chicken killer aside,
25:50
where it makes you notice things.
25:53
It's kind of like when you reach a goal and then this is what I
25:56
hate about goals so much, but I also love them is once you reach
26:00
it, then it's like, oh, OK, we're there's so many things for
26:03
the day like. Why don't you just, yes, I know
26:05
and I'm, I'm totally that way. But then when I look back,
26:09
sometimes I'm like, why don't I just like enjoy the moments to
26:12
get to that goal or then like really sitting in in that goal
26:15
and like enjoying what was accomplished type of thing.
26:17
Yeah, so same with glimmers where it just makes you look at
26:20
things differently. Yeah, something funny that
26:23
happened literally this morning right before we recorded.
26:26
And now I can kind of see it as a glimmer since you used that
26:28
mouse one as a glimmer. We're sitting here and a bird
26:33
just bashes into the side window and I'm like, Oh my gosh.
26:37
And I go over and luckily, like, it must have flown off.
26:39
And Casey's first response is, well, do they have enough food?
26:44
I'm thinking, you think that they're flying their bodies into
26:48
the windows because they're like, they're like, hello,
26:51
fetus, we need more food. And they have food.
26:54
I just filled them up. But I thought that that was so
26:57
funny that he thought that, like, the bird was running
27:00
itself potentially to death into the window because it's
27:04
demanding us to give us more food.
27:06
Feed me. Oh, man, I can't remember.
27:09
I know you said that you watched the show, but someone in the
27:12
comments said to watch Shrinking.
27:17
Oh yes. It's my new comfort show.
27:21
So. Good.
27:22
We're still in Season 1, no Season 2.
27:25
I think I obviously there's like heavy and sad topics and stuff
27:33
like that, but the dynamics of I feel like it's setting people up
27:36
to fail that that friendship. I know.
27:41
I'm like that like neighbor dynamic and then they're all
27:44
besties. I'm like, maybe that happened
27:47
some places, but I'm like, I literally want that.
27:51
Like I want to, but I don't want to.
27:53
I know this sounds so crazy but I don't want to like buddy buddy
27:55
with my neighbors but if like is Derek are my neighbors.
27:59
Yes. Bring it to me like you know.
28:02
Every time I watch it, I think about how and they're
28:05
characters, you know, written for TV.
28:07
But the thing I love the most about them and how so many
28:09
people are not like this where and again, so let's say they're
28:13
real so they don't overthink what they say.
28:16
They literally just say whatever they're thinking.
28:18
And I think so many people overthink all these things, and
28:23
that is what's so great about those relationships and those.
28:27
Characters and it helps that like majority of them are
28:30
therapists so they're probably really good at like saying what
28:32
they need to say, but like Derek, who's not the therapist,
28:36
he reminds me and even Casey Casey's like I relate to him so
28:40
much like he reminds me of like what older Casey would be like,
28:44
like some of the things he says and he's just like this like
28:47
happy guy that, but also like I love when they start to like
28:51
take him a little bit more seriously too, because he's not
28:53
like he's not like this dumb guy.
28:56
He's just like really happy and I think sometimes when people
28:59
are like the like happy find the silver lining the cup is, you
29:03
know, half full versus half empty.
29:07
People don't always take that person very seriously and I feel
29:11
like especially and I'm luckily seeing him get back to that.
29:15
But like, that was very, very much Casey before going through
29:19
all the stuff that he went through and I would even
29:22
sometimes pick on him for it of being like, all right, here
29:25
comes Casey's like toxic positivity and or like, you
29:29
know, being like, Oh, Mr. where's my silver lining?
29:34
Sometimes you have to like just listen to people and not always
29:38
give them a like, well, it could be like, you know, trying to be
29:41
like, it could be worse type of thing.
29:43
So once in a while, like if it was like a friend talking to us
29:46
about something, sometimes I would just say like, maybe
29:48
sometimes just listen. Like not everyone wants a yeah
29:52
or like a, you know, well, at least you're not this.
29:56
And it's like in. But I also appreciate that about
30:01
him so much that he literally like Will.
30:05
I also, I'll say Will, I'll say not as much this past year, but
30:09
like we're getting back there. But especially before that was
30:12
very much him like finding the positive thing.
30:14
And that's why I feel like that's very much you too.
30:17
It's like finding like the positive and something, even if
30:21
it like, I don't know, I just feel like I really liked Derek.
30:24
I think he's hilarious. He like brings this like levity
30:28
to a situation. But one of the things that I'm
30:31
like, I literally look over at Casey when he says it because it
30:34
was literally us. And he's like, I again relate to
30:38
this so much. Was he was out talking to one of
30:41
the neighbors or something? And he's like, well, I don't I'm
30:46
going to totally botch how he said it, but something about
30:48
he's looking for the scissors and he's like, well, I'm not
30:52
going to ask Liz where the scissors are.
30:53
So I'm going to go look for them all day because like versus
30:57
being like for the play at the 10th time, here are the scissors
31:02
and she plays like, Oh my gosh, they're here where they always
31:05
are. He's like, I'm just gonna go
31:06
look for them all day. That is literally Casey.
31:10
Like there will be things that it's like he'll ask me where
31:12
something is. I'm like the same cabinet's been
31:15
for five years that we've lived here.
31:17
Like what? What?
31:20
Oh, but I'm just finding probably all.
31:22
Are watching. It yeah, we're both loving it.
31:25
Totally turning into like this is a show that I could totally
31:28
rewatch. It's so good.
31:31
I'm excited to. See you you're gonna make us
31:32
want to rewatch it because we just finished the last season.
31:36
OK, Yeah. So how many?
31:37
Seasons. Are there a couple more?
31:38
Huh. How many seasons are there?
31:41
I think 43 or 4. They go so fast because they're
31:44
only like 30 minute episodes. No, they're so short, the whole
31:49
thing because you've gotten wait with only.
31:52
In the beginning of season 2. So like what just is happening
32:00
his the last episode we just watched was I don't even
32:03
remember his name, but this cute teenage boy that comes to take
32:08
Alice on like they're going to go get pizza or something like
32:11
that. And dad is what is his name
32:14
again? Jason's character Jimmy.
32:17
And Jimmy throws a grape up in the air and catches it and is
32:21
choking in the kitchen and he's like telling the high schooler
32:24
who's just being like, let me let like about telling him not
32:27
to help. And then finally he invites him
32:29
in to help and the kid does the Heimlich on him or whatever.
32:35
And then Alice was like did blah, blah, blah.
32:38
I don't remember his name. Save your life.
32:39
He's like, well, I wouldn't quite say he saved my life.
32:42
That's the episode that we're. OK, I'm not going to say that I
32:46
don't know if you're at this other part, but there's some
32:47
really cool storylines. OK, for sure.
32:50
Have you ever seen oh, what is the show?
32:54
I feel like it's a good, it's a feel good comfort show.
32:58
It's on Apple. It's about the soccer team in.
33:03
Oh, Ted Lasso. Yeah.
33:04
Oh yeah. Yeah, we love Ted Lasso.
33:07
It gives that kind of vibe, like how it's filmed, the humor,
33:12
which I feel like Jason Segel and isn't that Jason Sudeikis
33:15
that's in. Yeah, they give similar vibes.
33:19
Not necessarily how they look, but just like their mannerisms
33:23
and stuff I feel like are kind of similar, yeah.
33:25
Yeah. Do you want me to ask you one of
33:27
these questions? Yes, do it.
33:29
Do it. OK, Poppy was like, are you
33:32
doing these because you're worried about running a book to
33:35
talk about? I was like.
33:36
No, no, we're usually like at an hour and it's like, oh, we need
33:39
to wrap this up while you're finding a question.
33:41
I'm going to quickly text Mandy before she gets here for because
33:44
I realized I forgot to write a list.
33:46
OK, no. Hi Mandy.
33:49
If you're listening to this, hi Mandy, I'm I'm texting you a
33:53
little starting to the list, OK? And I have no idea, I have
33:58
obviously have not looked at it, even though Bobby pulled one the
34:00
other day and it was so cute and I wanted to ask you, but we'll
34:03
save it, OK? You ready?
34:06
Yep. OK, so these are I heard these
34:10
on a podcast and it's Wild Card with Rachel Martin.
34:15
OK, NPR OK. Pulled a card.
34:19
Oh, what feels unreachable to you?
34:23
Oh. Not much like nothing that and
34:29
when I say that, I mean it like in a I've found a lot of comfort
34:34
and I feel like I always have want.
34:37
I always want more like I definitely like.
34:41
I mean, I think that that's an OK thing, but I, there's nothing
34:44
like I'm so like I love like I could be like I want a 6000
34:51
square foot house. I want like, but like I love our
34:54
home. I love that type of thing.
34:55
So something I would say that feels like unreachable right now
35:00
is maybe finding a true balance of where I want this can kind of
35:15
go back to like me talking about turning 34, where I want to go
35:18
professionally and personally. I feel like because again, so
35:24
much of that is like you can't put a lot of control around it.
35:28
You can't do so much planning. So like when I think of like
35:32
what my I have almost like 2 perfect lives in my head right
35:36
now and I'm trying to figure out how to merge them and right now
35:39
that feels slightly unreachable. Can you tell a little bit about
35:42
each life? I think you've touched on it.
35:43
You don't have to. Like professionally, I would
35:47
love to build a larger team under me where I'm really only
35:53
training dogs and working with people because I'm the top of
35:58
the top and I'm being like paid to go out and fly out to help
36:01
people that want my approach and my demeanor to help them and
36:06
their dog. Or people are, you know, coming
36:10
here and I'm training one dog on my own, but then like my team is
36:14
doing the rest. I'm potentially doing seminars,
36:18
but not in a way where it's just like cranking them out every
36:22
single week. And it'd be more of like retreat
36:24
style seminars for owners and dogs and dog trainers and a mix
36:30
of stuff. More of like, and also very
36:31
women focused, I would say, or couple focused where it's really
36:36
helping couples that also find like conflict within working
36:42
with their challenging dog that I find I attract a lot of.
36:47
And I think that I have a lot of expertise in that at this point.
36:50
Because also when we were going through the trenches with
36:53
Roadie, there was totally conflict between Casey and I.
36:57
I, you know, want to just be the sought after, not just even
37:02
trainer, but like supporting, helping people and then also
37:08
trainers, helping owners live a life that doesn't feel out of
37:14
balanced. So that's like professionally
37:16
where you know, where it's like we can't make enough E courses
37:20
to keep up with things like I want, I'd want that to be like,
37:23
that's like my professional goal.
37:25
But then also that means way more time for me to not have to
37:30
be. I'm going down to the kennel
37:33
room to teach dog place, like less, less of that, more of
37:37
what's going on up in my brain to give to people.
37:41
And then personally, I feel like this, I don't know.
37:47
I just feel like this poll of like I I don't even know how to
37:50
really that I want to be in a little bit more of my not soft
37:55
era. I don't know the way, but like
37:57
where I'm letting up some of my like boss babe mentality, like
38:04
I'm so entrepreneurial, business driven.
38:07
I love like that, that I'm like really wanting to lean into like
38:13
having Casey have his time to like grind, if you will, and to
38:18
like take care of those types of things without me feeling the
38:23
pressure of needing to do that, like financially.
38:27
And I can tell he's definitely, he's been pushing himself big
38:30
time in like a good way. And so like almost personally
38:36
letting myself be a little bit more like I don't need to be
38:39
doing all the things. And that for me honestly feels
38:43
more unattainable than the other.
38:45
Because that's really hard for you.
38:46
It's. Really hard for me because I
38:48
like doing all the things. Yes.
38:50
And so like now that it can't still do a lot by like slowing
38:55
things down a little bit. But yeah, that's, that's a tough
39:00
one for me. But I do feel like I am living a
39:04
little bit of that balance, which is great.
39:05
I do feel that. I just, yeah, I think more and
39:10
more and you know, we've talked about it too, and I've gotten
39:12
better on so many things, but I would like to be less physically
39:16
demanding on how much I ask my body to do for me every single
39:22
day with working with the dogs in person.
39:26
Yeah. Yeah.
39:28
You're going to answer that question.
39:31
It feels. Unattainable.
39:33
Well, I loved hearing about yours because I love hearing
39:37
those goals and it makes me think about when I visited you
39:41
in your first house and you I, I remember that so vividly where
39:47
you were talking about your vision and dream of having other
39:51
trainers and you said specifically like female dog
39:53
trainers, but a team to work with you.
39:57
And I was like, Oh my God, that's so cool.
39:58
And that was like 7 years ago or something.
40:02
So hearing you say that, it's just so cool to hear.
40:07
For me, what feels unreachable it's more about.
40:14
Being around family, so I, I have this vision where I would
40:19
love to have a piece of property in Georgia closer to family, but
40:25
then I start thinking like, I feel like it's going to be too
40:29
late when we are able to do that or that's what I worry about
40:32
because it would be great right now or.
40:34
Meaning like you're a niece and nephew will be so much older
40:36
when like financially it's attainable type of thing.
40:39
Yeah, or my brother and his wife, they might move.
40:44
They've talked about, you know, jokingly, like when y'all go to
40:48
college, we're going to move out to Colorado.
40:51
And so I, I would, I wish that could happen right now.
40:55
And I think everything happens for a reason.
40:57
But that kind of dream where it kind of feels a little bit
41:00
unreachable at the moment. But I think we're both very
41:04
expansive, and I just think we have jobs that lend themselves
41:09
to more possibility. It's kind of like it's up to us
41:13
and it can happen. And so I know that things can
41:15
happen, but that feeling, if I'm really thinking about what feels
41:19
unreachable, it would be that. OK, yeah, I love that.
41:22
I don't see it being unreachable, but I could
41:24
understand what feels that way. Well, when I'm watching this
41:27
show Homegrown and Bobby's like, Oh no, you're going to want to
41:32
get goats and move to Georgia. And I was like, yeah, she
41:36
mentions these different cities and I'm looking it up on Realtor
41:39
and, you know, got a dream. You want one more?
41:43
Yeah. OK.
41:44
Yeah, let's do one more. Also, I was saying to Bobby that
41:48
I love this because it helps. I know you very well.
41:50
But there's always things we can learn about each other.
41:53
The other thing I was thinking at some point I feel like, and
41:57
whatever you'd feel comfortable with, but even like at the
41:59
trainer, you and stuff we talk about when we're reading our
42:04
intros to people and stuff like that, we always brush over and
42:09
like never. Cause of course people aren't
42:10
gonna probably ask. But you telling your story about
42:13
like, you know, the month I spent it, like, or the weekend I
42:15
spent it, like the psych ward or like, like you just say that.
42:19
And it's like to me like that's immediately like, what the heck
42:22
does that mean? And I think that like the story
42:26
of, you know, things like that, I feel like I'm such an
42:30
inspiration to people. So I feel like at one point we
42:32
need to dive into your month at the what is it called?
42:38
Renfrew Yeah, it was in Coconut Grove, FL.
42:41
One of the best months of my life.
42:43
Crazy. And I think that people think of
42:46
like there's like a stigma of like you had to be sent away
42:49
somewhere and it's like my parents.
42:52
Yeah, yeah. So that's.
42:53
Awesome. Well, and also at the time,
42:55
Speaking of my cat Roulet, one time because it was so funny at
43:01
this place, there were a couple of like phone booths where you'd
43:04
close the door, you'd get on the phone and call someone.
43:07
And one time because insurance was basically paying for most of
43:12
my stay because it was like an expensive place, like, you know,
43:16
going anywhere for a month I think would be.
43:18
But I was like, Oh my God, I had like 2 weeks left.
43:22
And my therapist reminded me so much of the shrinking people.
43:27
But he looked just like Adam Sandler when he was really
43:32
funny. And I've been to like 5
43:34
therapists, I want to say, and he was the only one that I
43:38
really liked being around. And so.
43:41
But one of those times I was on the phone with my dad begging
43:43
him like please sell my cabriolet so I can stay longer.
43:48
That's one of the. Things I said, are you serious?
43:50
Yeah. Did he do it?
43:52
What did he do it? No, he was like trying.
43:56
I don't even remember what he said.
43:57
It's. Like Bethany, when you come
43:58
home, you're gonna need a car. I think he was kind of like, all
44:02
right, relax. Like, we're gonna figure
44:04
something out, OK? What makes you irrationally
44:08
defensive? Probably.
44:13
Too much anyone coming at like saying anything negative about
44:22
Casey, even if even if I if I were to say it, it's fine, but
44:31
anyone think anything negative about him.
44:34
I'm like blogs come out. Who could possibly say something
44:40
negative about Casey? Even if it's like a jokey thing.
44:44
Like at his expense. At his expense, yes, I want to
44:50
like, I go cutthroat with that kind of stuff.
44:53
Oh, you. Can just feel like your heart
44:54
start beating in your. Throat.
44:55
The other thing that I get, and I don't necessarily say as much,
44:59
but internally I'm feeling very, very defensive.
45:02
Is anyone making a comment about like like a lifestyle choice of
45:08
oh, but like you wouldn't eat that or like something where
45:11
it's like, so because I'm choosing not to have a drink
45:15
that makes me like the oddball out, I'm like, well, I wanna
45:20
judge you for drinking every single night or I wanna.
45:23
Make a comment around you about that.
45:25
Oh yeah, and it's like like even family members, well, that I
45:28
like love to death. It's like they just because they
45:32
have unhealthy habits and patterns, my healthy ones make
45:36
me uptight and stringent. And I don't even know how
45:39
stringent is the word. So like that makes me like, I'm
45:43
like, OK, well, I sleep at night and you're constantly talking
45:46
about being up at 3:00 AM, four AM and wonder why we're not
45:49
sleeping well. And so I get I get very
45:52
defensive with that kind of stuff and attitude.
45:55
Like my attitude is like not today, not today.
46:02
Anyone that ever would want to like say anything negative about
46:05
Rhodey, I get irrationally, especially because like it would
46:11
be if if someone were to and I'm also making things up in my
46:14
head. I'm not even saying that these
46:16
things are like, if anyone were to say this irrationally,
46:19
irrationally upside or like. The game it like that, yeah.
46:23
Yeah. Is it his birthday Sunday?
46:27
Is that May is May 11th or May 10th on Sunday?
46:30
Oh yeah, cuz his is it. On Mother's Day.
46:33
Mother's Day. Cute.
46:37
He's gonna be 11. That's a special birthday.
46:41
Yeah. 11. Lucky 11.
46:44
Yeah, I don't know. I'm sure I could literally tell
46:46
you so many things that make me irrationally too.
46:49
Now that you're going down, if someone did say.
46:52
This. Oh yeah.
46:54
So defensive. Things that make me also, and
46:57
it's a lot of it I will say is internally just because I've
47:01
with time found that like getting super defensive with
47:04
someone that would even say something that could make you
47:09
irrationally defensive is not worth my time typically for
47:12
sure. That's what I have found.
47:14
So it's like backhanded like not saying you would, but like
47:20
they're 100% saying you would. I don't know how to explain it
47:23
like I'm talking about like a I'm trying to explain it without
47:31
like saying this person that says stuff all the time that I'm
47:34
like irrationally thinking I would love to like throat punch
47:38
you right now. I don't know people saying stuff
47:41
where it's like it's passively trying to say stuff about you,
47:44
but like they're sugar coating it by being like but not saying
47:48
you would. I don't know if I'm even making
47:51
any sense, but I'll let you interpret that in the way that
47:54
anyone wants to interpret it. I I can see that where they're
47:57
saying a situation, but then they're like, Oh yeah, but you
48:00
do do this, but you but then out loud they say but you not you
48:04
would never do that. Yeah, it's like, obviously.
48:06
Or people that like talk about other people's like financial
48:12
choices or how they're raising their children.
48:15
Someone that's like, they know everything of like, I can't
48:19
believe that they're like gonna, let's just use this example.
48:22
This didn't actually happen. I can't believe they're gonna
48:24
like buy their 16 year old brand new car.
48:26
And it's like, well, just 'cause you didn't, and that's not your
48:29
choice. Yeah.
48:31
Like it's not, why are you even putting that mental load on
48:35
yourself when it doesn't impact you at all?
48:38
Like the constant people that have to have opinions about how
48:42
everyone else is doing something makes me irrationally defensive.
48:48
Not even for the people, but just wanting to be like, why do
48:50
you give up? Because it's like it doesn't
48:53
impact you at all. You just like drama.
48:55
You just like talking about people.
48:58
This was a great question for you.
49:00
I clearly needed to get that out.
49:03
Holy crap. Very enlightening, yes, because
49:08
you got me thinking about. OK, so I have.
49:12
One for now, I'm just gonna make you come up with all these like
49:15
if this happens moment. Well, it's a family member.
49:18
I'm not, I won't say who, but when they've said insinuated or
49:26
they, it's almost like they're defending someone else because
49:31
they have a harder time instead of where.
49:34
Well, I'm probably gonna give this away.
49:37
Well, it's like like Bobby and I, we pretty well like we have a
49:42
great life. We have worked really hard and
49:47
let's say I have family members who they've gone on a different
49:51
path, so they maybe struggle a little bit more financially.
49:54
I'm not being great. No one's gonna listen to this
49:56
but that I'm thinking of. But then someone will say, like,
50:00
it's more like they come to the defense of, oh, this isn't
50:04
making sense at all. It's like you minimize someone.
50:07
Who's hard to give the example without like saying my person
50:11
said this and it like makes. Me.
50:13
Interesting. She's not gonna listen.
50:15
Well, no. Just no.
50:18
You're doing great. You're explaining it well
50:19
without giving away. OK, Yeah, yeah.
50:20
But it's just I get very defensive when I feel like
50:24
working hard is minimized. The IT must be nice type of
50:29
thing. Yes, yes.
50:30
And it's kind of like like my dad always used to, he'd be
50:36
really excited about like, let's say a financial goal or
50:40
something or. And I was always so excited
50:45
because I always thought that I would never make any money.
50:47
I thought I would go and get a, a job that you go to school to
50:52
get and you get a certain amount of money each year.
50:55
And that's just it. And so I, I never thought I
50:57
would, you know, Bobby and I have ebbed and flowed with kind
51:00
of like you talking about you and Casey, where he made more, I
51:03
made more. It's just kind of balanced out.
51:06
But I feel like, and it's probably maybe it's not
51:08
defensive. It's more like but I do get
51:11
defensive of us like well just because we or doing well doesn't
51:15
mean no this isn't making sense because I'm not giving any
51:19
context to the relationships. I get what you're saying.
51:26
I know what you. Mean yours are great.
51:28
You came up with so many good ones and I'm like what do I get?
51:30
Defense, OK, I do get defensive about online stuff with E collar
51:35
things when like someone comes after an owner who's talking
51:38
about they used a new collar, but actually that's never I I
51:41
don't know when I've seen that honestly, but the thought of it,
51:44
I do get defensive of that, yeah, irrationally.
51:48
That just goes to show the difference of our personalities
51:50
too. You're a little bit more like.
51:53
I know there's so many good ones like I'm literally trying to
51:59
grasp at something. There are so many things I find
52:02
egregious and. I talk to Bobby all the time.
52:07
I should ask him what I get defensive about.
52:10
It's like I get annoyed with people all the time.
52:12
Yeah. I only tell him and then it's.
52:14
Like, well, it's similar to you being like, there might be
52:17
something that makes you immediately feel like, Oh my
52:19
gosh, and then you're going to be like, hi, mommy, like like
52:23
you're you're like quickly over things and like you just needed
52:27
to have your like venting moment with Bobby where I'm a little
52:31
bit more like there will even be moments like, and my family
52:35
members know this about me that Casey will that Kate like,
52:39
because I'll kind of like challenge it a little bit in
52:41
front of people and be like, you know, if they'll say something
52:44
like, well, what makes that like, why is that an unhealthy
52:48
choice? Or I don't know, something that
52:49
I'll be like digging in case you'll give me the eyes.
52:53
I know he just wants me to like stop but I just keep keep poking
52:59
just so. If people say if people say
53:01
things and they're never confronted with like the other
53:04
end of where that conversation. Goes.
53:06
That's not me. Like, am I going to sit here and
53:09
like hear someone say something that I highly disagree with?
53:13
Yeah, unless it's like, I know it's not worth my time.
53:17
But when it comes to like a, a family member or something like
53:20
that, I love a good challenge. And honestly, I know like my dad
53:25
appreciates that about my personality, but he'll be the
53:27
first I'll kind of like jump on and like challenge him with
53:30
something. It's always in like it's not
53:33
good fun, but like it's never like we're actually getting into
53:35
an argument or anything like that.
53:38
But like I'll be like dad, like no, I, I will be the first to
53:43
like and he always the thing I try to, I pick and choose what
53:47
that is that I'm going to potentially challenge him on
53:49
because he's also very smart. So I'm like, I can't have this
53:53
guy outsmarting me. So if there's anything that has
53:56
to be like facts or like current news or I'm like, I'm not saying
54:00
anything because he's way, he definitely is much more up to
54:05
speed on that kind of stuff. But when it comes to like, I
54:09
don't know, lifestyle things or like just because that's the way
54:14
it's been for 70 years, I'm like, I definitely will
54:18
challenge my dad. Yeah, yeah.
54:19
I thought it's healthy. Totally.
54:22
You know what this question that and I would have done much
54:25
better on this card if it said what do you get irrationally
54:28
annoyed at that? I could go on all day long.
54:31
No, it alls. No, it alls aren't the worst.
54:34
When you state something. That they think it's fact.
54:38
They think it's fact. Not only that, but they think
54:40
that. They are like an expert at it
54:42
and they assume that you don't know about it.
54:44
It's like, why are you? Yeah, that annoys me so much.
54:49
I think like a. That in combo with like a
54:52
passive aggressive comment that's like meant to like
54:57
belittle someone makes me, I cannot say names, but I'll say
55:05
the exact thing that was said. And if this person's ever
55:09
listening to it and they feel like teaching moment, yeah,
55:12
then. You know that you said that.
55:14
And then that's how this made me feel.
55:16
But someone said to me something about a story in the Bible and
55:24
it goes, but you wouldn't know about that when I'm like, First
55:29
off, that's just you making assumptions of everything about
55:34
me. And 2nd off, I went to Bible
55:36
school 'cause I grew up Catholic every Sunday and probably don't
55:40
remember any of the stories because, yes, I was a child that
55:42
was like, but I'm just like, yeah, I don't like that.
55:46
I'm just like, I'm just like, I'm like, I'm just going to add.
55:49
That one to the mental tick. Tick, tick.
55:54
But it's like stuff like that, that I'm like, you know nothing
55:58
about me, but like you should know things like even if that's
56:04
accurate, who freaking says that out loud?
56:07
Out loud that. Was an 0.
56:09
I've actually said to someone about something that like should
56:13
not be said out loud. It wasn't about me.
56:15
It was about someone else. I go, I think that's an inside
56:17
thought. And she kind of looked at me
56:20
like, holy crap, I can't believe that to me.
56:23
Like I have to keep that one inside.
56:25
That's an inside thought. I'm like, at least they can be
56:28
jokey about it when really I want to be like, why would you
56:30
say that? Yes, but I was just like, I
56:32
think that's an inside. Thought we'll keep it as.
56:34
That OK, I have another annoying thing people that.
56:37
Don't respect boundaries. I mean you say 1.
56:41
Thing it's. Almost always with family, but
56:45
with these names apparently going down like.
56:47
The family rabbit hole. We love our families also.
56:49
We love our families. Yeah.
56:51
Oh, you. Say no to something one time and
56:53
then it comes back and it's asked again and it's like it's
56:57
almost as if they're happy. Boundary they will change, yes.
57:01
Like it didn't exist and to. Me.
57:02
It's like a very disrespectful thing.
57:04
Yes, yeah, totally another. One that this is nothing to do
57:10
about like personalities. There will be little parts of
57:13
like me that will probably miss going to the gym once ours is
57:17
done a little bit just because people watching is so fun.
57:19
So maybe I'll just go from time to time when I need a little bit
57:21
of people watching, but this is more like a pet peever and ick
57:25
or just like I think it's hilarious, but also I'm like,
57:28
who do you think you are? Is like people will get done,
57:31
especially on like the cables and they're doing the tricep
57:35
push downs with the rope. You know, we all feel a good
57:37
pump with those. Like I feel strong when I'm
57:39
doing those, but then they're like going up to the mirror and
57:41
being like and like. Showing off their muscles.
57:45
Or like acting like they're doing like a bodybuilding, like
57:49
a show position. I am like, we're at a Planet
57:52
Fitness. Let's let's, let's not like
57:57
leave this for our bedrooms. Oh yeah, I see it.
58:00
All the time. In public in.
58:03
Public. So once, once Casey.
58:08
Then when I walked up to him, he went like, I'm like, don't ever
58:10
do that again. I'm like, I'm gonna forget you
58:12
just did that. But then we'll never do that
58:15
again. He's like, yeah, he's.
58:16
Like we'll never do that again when I'm in a gym, when I've
58:18
been in a gym and. Like the mirrors, I try, I
58:22
actually try in my head and tell myself don't look at yourself
58:25
too long in the mirror because I don't want to be a person.
58:28
Yeah, I don't want to be a person that's like, oh, it's
58:31
like, you know, look at that. You know, I don't know.
58:35
So I'll look at. I know what you mean.
58:37
Yeah. I'll just look real quick and
58:39
then look away. This is a really weird memory,
58:43
but in high school. Because it was out, some of our
58:47
hallways were outside. And I remember I would walk past
58:51
like a door and it would almost be like a reflection of you in
58:54
every single door. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
58:56
And I realized. Oh my God, you're looking.
58:58
At yourself in every single door you pass by.
59:00
Like you need to relax a little bit.
59:02
I remember I was walking with my friend Anna and we were walking
59:05
up by a door and I was like, I had to tell myself don't look at
59:09
the, don't look at the door weird.
59:12
So I thought, no, I definitely have done.
59:15
That as well. I don't think that's a I'm full
59:18
of myself thing. I think it was probably more of
59:20
an insecurity thing. Oh, for sure.
59:22
Yeah. Yeah, especially.
59:23
Because I totally when I was younger for sure.
59:25
Like every I think that's also a woman thing.
59:30
Like I would like look and make sure I'm like sucking it in,
59:33
making sure like I, you know, don't have a weird hair out of
59:36
place. But now, which I also love, I
59:40
feel like you're like this where like those sunglasses I had you
59:43
put on you go. I look amazing.
59:46
I love that you said that. And like now when I'm at the gym
59:50
and stuff, I used to just like, and I still can fall into this
59:53
sometimes, but I would just like tear myself apart.
59:55
But like now if I'm doing something, especially if it's
59:57
anything's shoulders, I'm like, I look ripped and I'm like,
59:59
yeah, I look so strong where I like never used to like mirrors
1:00:03
used to be like a. I wasn't sometimes in the
1:00:08
mornings and it's especially like I just had three shadow
1:00:11
students. So it was just like A and 2GO
1:00:13
homes and a drop off and just it's been a busy and the crew
1:00:16
that I have right now. I like them all, but it's a very
1:00:19
misfit. There's a reason two of them are
1:00:21
very behavioral like the my three-week program.
1:00:25
So it's a very unconventional dynamic in my kind of room right
1:00:29
now. I would say.
1:00:31
So like this morning I woke up and I just like looked in the
1:00:34
mirror and I was like, because I just felt so inflamed and like,
1:00:38
oh wow, there's my love doves. They just.
1:00:43
Squirrel, my little Kitty birds. Kitty birds.
1:00:46
But yeah, I totally know what you mean of like looking at a
1:00:48
mirror every single time you pass by, especially as a young
1:00:52
teenager. Yeah, well, just like like
1:00:55
being. Conditioned in it like my, my
1:00:57
best friend growing up, Julie, her sister Charmin, who was like
1:01:01
this gorgeous. She was like, like Charmin Ultra
1:01:04
toilet paper. Yeah.
1:01:05
But spelled with an SI think. Anyway, anyway, yeah, yes, Casey
1:01:10
just walked in here and now he's.
1:01:11
Geeking out because I said that, but she one.
1:01:15
Time it was in their kitchen. Oh my God.
1:01:17
I feel like I don't remember a lot of things, which makes me a
1:01:20
little nervous about. I don't know what happens when
1:01:22
you get older, but like Bobby will ask me about a memory and
1:01:25
I'm like, I don't remember. I remember being in Julia
1:01:28
Kroll's kitchen. Her sister Sharman told us she
1:01:33
was in high school. We were like in first grade.
1:01:35
And she was like, you should always suck your stomach in.
1:01:38
You should always suck it in because it trains it to be flat.
1:01:41
And I was like, Oh my God. So I'm pretty sure for the next
1:01:44
7 years I was sucking in my stomach.
1:01:47
Oh, I still think about it everyday.
1:01:51
It's that is our generation AI will say also, what has made me
1:01:56
like naturally just do that is also more of like the lifting
1:01:59
I've been doing the last, you know, now seven years is it's
1:02:03
just like core control, core control.
1:02:06
But Oh yeah, us young girls, like it's constantly sucking in.
1:02:11
Oh my God, it's exhausting. It's exhausting.
1:02:16
My God. Yeah, keep your stomach sucked
1:02:18
in and don't have wrinkles. Oh, OK.
1:02:19
OK, I know it's so easy. I went.
1:02:23
So I'm I've been getting laser hair removal, got the bikini is
1:02:27
Bobby, Bobby is Casey, whatever, who cares?
1:02:30
It's we're also turning on a public.
1:02:32
Podcast, OK. Are you?
1:02:35
Worried about Casey hearing it. Meanwhile, like I've said, I'm
1:02:41
sure there's a couple of them that listen to this.
1:02:43
It's probably only like 2%, but I've said way weirder things.
1:02:46
But yeah, we were. Talking about Constipation, last
1:02:48
one. So we're fine.
1:02:49
Well, I'm not gonna say anything.
1:02:52
Anyway, I don't even know why I said that, but so anyway, so I
1:02:55
go I'm there and the thing about this girl, because I really
1:03:01
don't know, I'm not going to shop around for laser hair
1:03:04
removal people. It's just not going to happen.
1:03:05
Like I don't know. So I like this girl.
1:03:08
She's Greek and she's, I love how she talks and she's a
1:03:12
hustler. Like she always wants to like
1:03:14
every time I go there, she's like, are you coming back for a
1:03:16
facial? And I'm like, Oh my God, I'd
1:03:18
rather spend that money on other stuff.
1:03:20
Like when I've gotten a facial, I feel like every single time I
1:03:24
could do this myself. And then one time she used this
1:03:28
thing on my head to massage it. And I'm really good usually
1:03:32
about saying like, no, no, no, I don't do that, please.
1:03:35
But for some reason I was worried I was going to hurt her
1:03:38
feelings. She's taking this thing and like
1:03:41
going on my head and like I have a very sensitive head.
1:03:44
Like if anyone pulls, I can't have anyone pulling my hair.
1:03:49
If you brush my hair and it snags, I feel like I'm being
1:03:52
tortured. So but she's taking this massage
1:03:56
thing and I would love that. It was snagging all my hair all
1:03:59
around. So the visual is killing.
1:04:04
Me so it's supposed to be relaxing and I'm.
1:04:07
Literally sitting here thinking just kill me like this is the
1:04:10
worst thing ever. So then.
1:04:13
I'm like, I'm never doing this. Again, I could just tell her
1:04:16
that and it'd probably be a little bit more nice.
1:04:18
You're like, I'm in there to get laser hair removal.
1:04:20
And I'll I'd rather that pain than my scalp being massaged.
1:04:23
1000% like tattoo my. Forehead, so I she tried to get
1:04:29
she was like, but how she does it, I don't like and this makes
1:04:31
me think just with like customer and business owner and I, I
1:04:36
don't, I don't she doesn't realize this at all.
1:04:38
But anytime I go in she never is like, oh, you have nice skin
1:04:42
like, 'cause I feel like my skin's been looking kind of
1:04:45
nice. She always points out a flaw.
1:04:48
What? Yeah.
1:04:50
She's like the exiting. Stage left.
1:04:52
Immediately, 'cause I'm I'm always self-conscious of my
1:04:54
nose. 'Cause when I was in high
1:04:55
school, everything comes back to high school.
1:04:58
I took my mom's microscope. No the.
1:05:04
Magnifying mirror, Oh my God and I.
1:05:06
Would just go to town on my nose.
1:05:08
Same. OK, I still have like.
1:05:11
Big pores on my nose. It's the worst thing so.
1:05:14
Well, and she said she was like, I can see like some of your
1:05:18
blackheads through your, your powder or she said makeup.
1:05:21
I only have powder on. And I was like, Oh my God, but
1:05:24
it didn't make me want to never notice the blackheads.
1:05:27
OK, good. Because I came home and I was
1:05:28
like, Bobby, can you see my blackheads on my nose?
1:05:32
That's just something. No one's telling me.
1:05:34
But I have eyes too. So I went and looked in the
1:05:36
mirror and I was like, no, I've seen.
1:05:40
It's not. I've seen worse.
1:05:41
Gosh, I would not go back to this lady.
1:05:44
But she says it in a way and I'm like, down.
1:05:47
To like nothing and you're like, you're at my coochie.
1:05:49
Can we just focus? About that exactly, I know I
1:05:52
don't need to know about my. Blackheads at this point.
1:05:54
Like why not say something positive about my skin that.
1:05:56
Might make me want to actually book a facial.
1:05:59
Totally. I have to tell my person that I
1:06:01
go. To love her to death.
1:06:02
She's almost too nice to me. She tells me every single time I
1:06:05
go in. You just have the most beautiful
1:06:07
skin. You just.
1:06:08
And I'm like, you do have great skin.
1:06:10
Like, I mean, I have a giant crater on my chin.
1:06:13
I need your help. And she's like, I don't even see
1:06:15
it. Like, yes you do.
1:06:16
You're lying, Flip. I wish we could switch.
1:06:19
Yeah, switch people. I would love that.
1:06:21
Tell me my skin looks great all day long.
1:06:22
I don't need to know the truth. Totally.
1:06:25
Yeah, Don't tell me the truth. I can't do that.
1:06:30
OK, well, this was awesome. We literally talked nothing
1:06:34
about dogs. It's fine.
1:06:36
I even. Wrote.
1:06:38
I even wrote down a topic. That we could talk about with
1:06:40
dogs. We'll save it.
1:06:42
Who needs to talk about dogs? This is dog training podcast
1:06:45
where we don't talk about dogs and I kind of.
1:06:49
Forget what we talked about. This is the thing about this
1:06:51
podcast. It's literally just like, catch
1:06:53
each other up at all of what's going on in our lives.
1:06:55
Which there's not like a ton, but like usually we start with
1:06:57
like that hour and 6 minutes in, we're afraid we're going to ever
1:07:01
run out of topics. False.
1:07:04
Never. And also it's kind of one of
1:07:06
those things that I'm like, A, we do not care and B, we're, we
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are here for the people, but we're more here for us.
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So what we talked about we enjoyed.
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Yeah. So we really don't care if y'all
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like it or. Not no offense, but if if you're
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an hour and 7 minutes and. You love us?
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Yeah. You have to Like who's?
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Listening to us. Talk and ramble for an hour and
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7 minutes if you're not here loving us.
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This honestly feels like the most.
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When I think about cuz what we do, there's different aspects to
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our business. Social media projects we're
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working on, dogs, we're working with owners, all the things.
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This is the one thing in my business right now that feels
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the most on point. Like I don't even have to think
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that like a business thing. No.
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And it's not really. It's just us hanging out.
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Yeah, I love it. Yay, yay.
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OK. All right.
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Enjoy the rest of your day. I hope there's no.
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Mortarous mouse killings in the back.
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I mean, I know you kind of hope they that happened.
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It's more the whole. It's not literally.
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Enjoy your ego system. Yeah, OK.
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OK. All right.
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I'll talk to you soon. Bye.