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Re-creating characters in your life · Beauty In Positivity

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  SPEAKER_00: Hello, gorgeous souls.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome back to the Beauty and Positivity Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: My name is Alyssa Skinner.
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  SPEAKER_00: I heard something the other day about recreating a character.
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  SPEAKER_00: Usually your partner.
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  SPEAKER_00: For example, your partner is acting in a way that you don't love.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not making you feel excited or good about their relationship and who they are becoming, how they're acting, how they're speaking to you, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like you just want your partner to be different in some way.
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  SPEAKER_00: You love things about them, but you wish X, Y, and Z was different.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you want to recreate your partner, your partner's character in your movie.
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  SPEAKER_00: I always say your life is a movie.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are the main character.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the part people forget: you are also the author.
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  SPEAKER_00: You hold two positions.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's kind of like you're two characters in your own life, in your own movie.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you've been trying to manifest new qualities in your partner, you want them to talk about the law of attraction with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want them to manifest your dream life together with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want them to be into the things that you're into, or at least show interest when you talk about it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you want them to have goals or a career on the horizon.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want them to have their own hobbies.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want them to have friends.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want them to make you feel loved in this type of way.
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  SPEAKER_00: You want them to show up in this type of way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And let's say you were trying to manifest these things.
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  SPEAKER_00: You've been trying to bring this out of them, but it seems like nothing's working.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's probably because you were trying to manifest recreating your partner's character from your main character's perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's the thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: The main character does not pick and choose what comes next, what this next episode holds, how the characters show up, what is said in these next episodes.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the author does.
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  SPEAKER_00: The author does choose what happens, what is said next, how the character shows up in today's episode, the author does choose those things.
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  SPEAKER_00: So maybe you've been trying to recreate your partner's character through the main character's lens, but you need to switch positions and recreate from the author's lens.
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  SPEAKER_00: Remember, you are the author.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you have to feel like you were the author, and you actually are creating your reality, your future experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you're standing in the main character's position and you are reacting to the script.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are reacting to your partner not doing this, and you wish they would do that, and you've asked so many times, you're reacting from the main character's perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: Which means you are your partner is going to keep showing up that way in the future in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: The author doesn't react.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you cannot react to your partner's behavior and expect them to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: Expect this pattern to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can't expect the story to change when you both are being the character in the from the episode you want to change.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you want them to show up differently, you also cannot repeat the pattern.
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  SPEAKER_00: So from the author's position, you'll step back, you start redesigning the overall story, you start changing the setting, and you do this by deciding how your partner's character will show up from now on.
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  SPEAKER_00: You will choose what behaviors you accept, what you are okay with, and what behaviors are not creating a healthy environment for yourself, and you will remove yourself from those unhealthy boundaries.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or you want to clearly communicate what you want and need and expect nothing less.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you are showing up in a new way.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're showing up from the author's perspective.
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  SPEAKER_00: I will accept X, Y, and Z in my life, and that is that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or I want and need to be loved this way, and that is that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the author controls the environment.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you get to choose which new hobbies you introduce together.
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  SPEAKER_00: How you speak to one another.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you want them to speak to you in a certain manner, you speak to them in that manner first.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are setting the new tone.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do you want them to meditate with you?
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  SPEAKER_00: Open up a meditation on your phone and express.
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  SPEAKER_00: This would mean a lot to me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would really love it if you joined.
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  SPEAKER_00: I would really like to do this together.
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  SPEAKER_00: Change the setting, offer a new storyline, show up differently, and they will show up differently.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, focus on character development as well.
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  SPEAKER_00: So instead of focusing on your partner's flaws, focus on all the things you love about them.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't focus on they always do this or they never do this or they always speak this way, they always show up this way, they never do X, Y, and Z, they never make me feel blah blah blah.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are right.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are always right.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you ask, it is always given.
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  SPEAKER_00: And whatever you focus on, you are asking for more of.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is so important you understand that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your thoughts are incredibly potent.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you truly believed you created your reality, you would pick and choose your thoughts very carefully, girl.
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  SPEAKER_00: Very carefully.
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  SPEAKER_00: Take it seriously.
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  SPEAKER_00: The less you ruminate on the thing, the less of it you get, the less of it you see, the less of it you experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: I can speak from experience.
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  SPEAKER_00: My husband has totally jumped on board in this spiritual realm with me, to the point to where those crazy little practices I like to do and rituals and the meditation I do every single night.
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  SPEAKER_00: Before, yeah, he's spiritual.
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  SPEAKER_00: I wouldn't marry him if he didn't have it in him.
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  SPEAKER_00: But he definitely's different.
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  SPEAKER_00: He joins in in a blink of an eye.
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  SPEAKER_00: He's like, Yeah, let's do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Hell yeah.
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  SPEAKER_00: And he believes it the way I do.
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  SPEAKER_00: But it wasn't always to the degree we're at now.
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  SPEAKER_00: We didn't start that way.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I decided not to focus on is he doing this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is he doing enough of that?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is he manifesting with me?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, no, it's I believe I manifest my reality, and if I want him in my reality, I will take care of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: If I don't, I will take care of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I choose my reality.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what do you know?
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  SPEAKER_00: He jumped in.
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  SPEAKER_00: He wants to meditate, he wants to manifest, he wants the timeline jump.
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  SPEAKER_00: Things can change when you stop focusing on the shit you don't want.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, I wanted a partner who was very spiritual, but I didn't ruminate on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: I just let it be.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, you know, this is me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll be me.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll be spiritual.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, it's no coincidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: Naturally, he becomes really spiritual with me.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's just not coincidence.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's detachment, it's manifestation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's me stepping into the author's position and writing the script.
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  SPEAKER_00: So everything works out around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything always works out around you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Me and my husband co-create our life together, which, if you know, when two people focus on one thing at a time, it manifests twice as fast, maybe even ten times faster.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know the actual number, but it happens quicker when two or more people focus on it.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, yes, you are right to want your partner to co-create with you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Of course, you'll experience your dream life much sooner.
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  SPEAKER_00: But that doesn't mean you won't get it at all if they don't.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can do it on your own.
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  SPEAKER_00: Go listen to my episode, um, The Law of Assumption, and step into your power.
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  SPEAKER_00: Refresh your mind on the law of assumption.
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  SPEAKER_00: What you get, you expect.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that means whatever you assume is gonna happen will happen.
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  SPEAKER_00: Whatever you assume he will say, he will say.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, you assume he'll react, he will react.
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  SPEAKER_00: Start assuming different.
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  SPEAKER_00: Start assuming the experience you want.
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  SPEAKER_00: And it might not happen the first time or the second time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Keep going.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are also stepping into a new character.
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  SPEAKER_00: You are you are reacting differently than your old character used to.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a change for the two of you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Assume your partner loves to hear you talk about the things you like.
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  SPEAKER_00: Assume your partner wants more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Assume if your partner's tone is off, it wasn't intentional, it just sounded that way, but that wasn't what he meant in his head.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, you know, you know where I'm going with this.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can truly rewrite your story.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get to choose the meaning of what happens.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I do want to disclaim if you feel unsafe in a relationship or it's abusive emotionally or physically, this does not apply to that.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think you should absolutely leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: I think there's absolutely a line drawn in the sand.
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  SPEAKER_00: Do not stay in a place you know is unhealthy or unsafe.
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  SPEAKER_00: This episode is meant to encourage you to expand the smaller things in a relationship, such as your hobbies together, what you want to experience together, the adventure you want to go on, or the practices you want to do, like meditation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is absolutely not meant to apply to anything abusive or unsafe.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should not stay somewhere where those apply.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let me know if you try this, what changes in your life.
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  SPEAKER_00: And in my Lang Babe Academy, I do teach exactly how to rewrite your story in your subconscious mind.
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  SPEAKER_00: And my podcast is always a little hint, a little tease of the things I have in my brain, and I can't wait to share with you, but you do have to find it in my academy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the link is in my bio and my social media at gorgeous by Alyssa.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sending you so much love and success.
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  SPEAKER_00: Bye.