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Let's Talk Attitude · Fostering Faith

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  Hello and welcome to Fostering Faith. Today the second episode will be about attitude.
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  As we walk into this season together, we thought it was appropriate to talk about everything
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  that should be talked about and everything that's not being talked about. And so we're
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  going to talk about attitudes today, how this can make or break your day. How do you feel
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  attitudes, your attitude affects your day, Gia?
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  Um, I feel like it affects my day on how other people like, I feel like it can affect
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  everyone else's day. Like, the attitude thing just doesn't revolve around me, it involves
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  it on everyone.
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  Do you think of your attitude before you walk into school each day? Is it something that's
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  apparent to you? Do you feel that you are cognizantably aware of your attitude?
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  I feel like, yeah, in school I am.
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  You check your attitude?
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  , I don't think I'll ever have an attitude in school.
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  Okay. Then why, do we have an attitude at home?
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  Yeah.
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  Absolutely. And what do you, do you hold all your frustration in from school and bring
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  your attitude home?
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  Do you have an outlet?
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  What's your?
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  What's your outlets that you use for an attitude? Do you talk to your friends, do you journal,
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  do you talk to God, do you pray?
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  I'll just talk to God and sometimes my friends.
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  When do you talk to him?
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  When like I'm feeling down and everything and when I feel bad after I have an attitude
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  and everything, I feel like that's the right time to.
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  And as, as a parent, you know, walking with a teenage girl during, seasons of
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  change and attitude, how a sweet little girl at the age of six can grow and we have hormone
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  fluctuations.
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  We have, you know, sleep issues and eating issues.
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  Um, and I do feel like we're walking through this journey together as a healthcare provider
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  versus a mom, you, you know, the reasons why these things are happening, but a 13 year
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  old, 12 year old little girl don't care.
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  So as we're trying to walk through this with a Christ like attitude and these emotions are
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  raw and there's anger, there's, there's jealousy, there's bitterness.
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  There's so many different emotions that can walk through our day, but how we're approaching
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  them and having an environment of where there's open communication and looking towards Christ
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  as a reflection of how our attitude should be.
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  Do you feel like the environment that you're around, the people that surround you can either
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  make or break your attitude?
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  Yeah, because how they're acting can like, like reflect on you and everything can like
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  change your whole like perception of everything.
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  And so hanging out with people that have bad attitudes that can seep into you.
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  Do you try to see the positive in people?
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  Do you see the try this?
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  Do people see the negative in people?
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  What do you think stands out to people?
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  I feel like, I feel like most of like the negative stuff because like if I don't want to hang
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  out with a person, I feel like you would think of more of the negatives and if you want to
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  hang out with the person, you would have to think of the negatives also.
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  Like if I hang out with this person, I probably will get like this and they'll probably reflect
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  this on me.
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  So I'd feel like I'd look at all like the bad stuff of people, but I don't think you
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  should do that.
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  And whenever we have a bad attitude, whenever we come into our house, I mean, because we
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  are such a small family, it is just me and Gia and her dad and we have, you know, the
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  dogs that get go and and so it's just we don't have anybody a buffer to, you know, throw,
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  you know, throw things off of.
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  So whenever one person has an attitude, really reflects on the whole house.
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  And so coming in from a day of work, you know, I try to have a good attitude and have that
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  mercy and grace because we have that reflection of Christ and do I get mad?
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  And we were talking before the podcast about anger and she said that she wishes that I
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  would just speak whenever I was mad versus just leaving the room.
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  Can you shine some light on that?
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  What do you mean?
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  Like you said before the podcast, like you just wish that I wouldn't get so mad and
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  just storm off.
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  Oh yeah, because like when someone like I don't know what you're thinking or anything.
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  So like, is she mad?
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  Is she sad?
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  Like so me and dad get confused a lot like on where you're going to go or like where
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  what just happened or anything because mean down don't use no context clues or nothing.
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  So we get really confused and we don't know if like you're mad or anything.
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  You just storm off and like we don't like see that like you just like just look mad
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  and everything.
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  And so I will use it to really like go outside.
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  I will go for a walk.
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  I'll go exercise.
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  But my my inclination was do not say anything that is going to be hurtful, harmful and be
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  said in that moment that I'm going to regret later.
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  And so for me taming my tongue is a huge battle because I have very I had very loose lips
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  and I did not choose my words wisely.
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  And so I really try to reflect and say because I know that life and death are in the tongue.
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  And so I really try to use my words wisely and not say things when I'm upset or angry
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  because I know from past experiences, I can crush someone.
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  I mean, I will lash you with my tongue and and and just be there could be such damage
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  done and I'm not even really mean it.
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  And that's why for me just walking leaving the room but taking what you said into context
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  and from now on saying, you know what, I'm super upset at this moment.
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  I'm walking away.
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  And so I don't say something that I regret and we'll come back and we'll discuss that
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  later.
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  And I think that is a great communication point to to talk openly in the family and
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  just say, you know what, okay, so how could we do this situation better if it happens
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  next time?
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  And as a parent coming into we don't, you know, we didn't do anything to cause the attitude,
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  but yet the attitude is back on to us.
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  I think that it's, you know, oftentimes seen as disrespectful, you know, I didn't do anything
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  to you, but also to looking at it from a perspective of look at our attitude towards Christ.
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  How do you feel as we are maturing in your walk with God that your attitudes and how
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  you approach situations differently?
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  I feel like I just think of what would God would do or like what would Jesus do and think
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  if I'm like mad or something or if I'm about to say this, I would think would God do that,
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  would Jesus do that or anything like that?
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  Yeah, and I think that's a good, a good point to to try to reflect his characteristics.
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  And once you mature and as you get older and speaking from an adult perspective, just
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  being far from Christ and as we mature in our faith and walk with Christ, you can see
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  just kind of the evolution of how we were broken, crushed, far from God, looking at people
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  in our own eyes versus looking at him in his eyes and then knowing that he, he chose us,
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  he loves us, he's adopted us.
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  And for me to have a bad attitude because I'm now looking at people with Christ like
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  lenses and because that is his son, that is his daughter, how could I disrespect a son
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  or daughter of Christ?
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  I mean just looking at them that the God of the heavens made them like he knitted to them
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  together and has made them and has a purpose for them.
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  And how could you not just look at that person and just love them for who they are, where
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  they're at and know that because of grace and mercy that he's given to us how we have
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  to give it to them.
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  And that is what has saved you multiple times because of your attitude, because of your
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  disobedience, because of the way that you have that you have spoke to us.
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  And for me not to lash back at you, I think of his grace and mercy that he's given to
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  me.
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  Do you, do you try to reflect that?
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  Yeah, I feel like that is like a great thing to try to reflect is trying to be more like
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  God and everything.
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  So I feel like that'd be a great thing to like reflect on.
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  Do you have any advice for kids trying to communicate with their parents about if they're having
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  a bad mood or an attitude or how they could talk to their parents openly and more like
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  with confidence?
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  Just think, have they been in your situation before or like anything like that?
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  Or just like go up to them and say, hey, can I have a minute to talk or anything?
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  Or like, can't like just talk like really respectfully and everything and like say, I
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  need your advice on this or something like that.
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  Or I'm just like what you said, just being very honest about, you know, my attitude is
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  not good today.
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  Like I'm having a really bad day.
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  My attitude, you know, stinks.
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  But also to kind of looking at what fuels your attitude, making sure that you're getting
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  enough sleep, making sure that you have enough rest, making sure that your nutrition is on
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  point because we all know that whenever someone gets hungry, they get very like cravy and
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  complaining and so making sure that you have your nutrition, making sure that you have
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  enough sleep and just looking at everything that's surrounding you, looking at your environment,
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  looking at the friends that you're hanging out with, even just what are you putting in
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  your gates, like your music that you're listening to and things of that nature.
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  So I think that was the way that we could end this.
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  And so just kind of look at your environment, look at how you're sleeping, look at your
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  nutrition and just have that open communication with your parents and for parents, just always
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  having that open door, even an open journal for you to communicate with your kids and
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  making sure that we're giving them the grace and mercy as they grow and mature and as hormones
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  go awry and just us being the reflection of what God has given us, so much grace and
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  mercy.
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  So thank you for turning in this week.
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  Stay tuned for next week and have a great week.