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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: On Not Judging Your Beginnings Too Harshly · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, Emily A.
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  Speaker 2: Baddi here coming to you live from the AG studio.
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  Speaker 2: You are listening to five Minute Friday from Hurdle. I
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  Speaker 2: feel like I've got some new listeners in the mix.
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  Speaker 2: Really great turnout earlier this week for the live recording
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  Speaker 2: of Hurdle inside of Hub seventeen at Lululemon. The podcast
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  Speaker 2: is making the rounds. So if you are new to
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  Speaker 2: the show, welcome. You are officially a hurdler. I'm so
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  Speaker 2: happy to have you.
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  Speaker 1: Now. Five Minute Friday on.
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  Speaker 2: The show is a little breezy segment that happens every Friday.
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  Speaker 2: It's a quiggi in which I share a story from
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  Speaker 2: my week with a takeaway that I have for you.
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  Speaker 2: I go ahead and answer a listener question which you
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  Speaker 2: can call and leave me a voicemail to be featured
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  Speaker 2: on the show. The link to do that is in
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  Speaker 2: the show notes. A huge thank you to all the
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  Speaker 2: hurdlers that have been doing that recently. I really appreciate it.
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  Speaker 2: And that's that's the whole shebang. So this week I
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  Speaker 2: want to talk about a commitment that I made on Tuesday.
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  Speaker 1: Now, I feel like I've been rambling.
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  Speaker 2: About how my go to habit of journaling every morning
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  Speaker 2: has been like a little bit lackluster literally for the
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  Speaker 2: past I don't know, three four months, and this week
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  Speaker 2: on Tuesday morning my rule before big events, which obviously
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  Speaker 2: again I had that live show on Tuesday night, it's
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  Speaker 2: twofold one.
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  Speaker 1: I need to journal in the morning.
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  Speaker 2: I need to get out my thoughts like where my
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  Speaker 2: head is at, et cetera, before going into it. And
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  Speaker 2: I also need to sweat in some way. And I
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  Speaker 2: realized come Tuesday morning when I went to go to
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  Speaker 2: my event day ritual of sorts, that it had been
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  Speaker 2: I hadn't journaled since Italy that was almost a month ago.
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  Speaker 2: And I think it's really easy for us to get
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  Speaker 2: frustrated about the things that we're not doing rather than
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  Speaker 2: implement some immediate change. I mean, that's certainly relevant to
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  Speaker 2: everything from starting a fitness routine to eating a certain way.
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  Speaker 2: I know I recently spoke about being in some sort
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  Speaker 2: of a funk, but the reality is is that rather
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  Speaker 2: than giving your energy to being frustrated about something, you
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  Speaker 2: have the opportunity instead to just take some action. So
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  Speaker 2: Tuesday morning, I decided the conscious decision to not judge
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  Speaker 2: my new beginning too harshly, and I committed on Tuesday.
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  Speaker 2: It didn't need to be a full page like I
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  Speaker 2: used to do what felt like effortlessly every day, finishing
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  Speaker 2: that page with a couple of sentences about something that
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  Speaker 2: I'm grateful for that happened in the past twenty four hours. Instead,
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  Speaker 2: I made the decision to, okay, just write something. It
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  Speaker 2: can be a sentence, it can be two sentences. I
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  Speaker 2: really do feel firmly about, or strongly anyway about finishing
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  Speaker 2: whatever that little entry may be, with a little bit
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  Speaker 2: of gratitude, but not sitting there trying to implement what
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  Speaker 2: was and just letting whatever come from my hand on
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  Speaker 2: the pages of my Barren Fig notebook, just letting it
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  Speaker 2: be right that I needed that, I needed that mental
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  Speaker 2: shift to begin again.
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  Speaker 1: And I am proud to report that I have journaled
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  Speaker 1: every day this week.
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  Speaker 2: And I'm kind of digging my new routine, which looks
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  Speaker 2: a little bit different than the old one. And again
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  Speaker 2: that's fine. I know there are so many benefits to
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  Speaker 2: taking some time to reflect. I know the benefits of
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  Speaker 2: being able to articulate the things that you're grateful for,
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  Speaker 2: and I want those benefits.
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  Speaker 1: And when we.
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  Speaker 2: Know what we want, then we have the chance to
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  Speaker 2: implement smart strategies to go after it. And so especially
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  Speaker 2: right now as I feel like I'm really dialing in
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  Speaker 2: on all of these good for me practices, what is
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  Speaker 2: it you know? Nine days out from the New York
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  Speaker 2: City Marathon. I'll uh, I'll take every little bit that
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  Speaker 2: i can get. And so my prompter you this week,
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  Speaker 2: what have you been waiting to start over with? What
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  Speaker 2: are you judging? What are you holding resentment toward? And
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  Speaker 2: can you just release that? What do you want to
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  Speaker 2: start over with? Maybe there's someone you want to start
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  Speaker 2: over with. What's holding you back? And how can you
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  Speaker 2: take some action on that? A SAP and now a
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  Speaker 2: listener question.
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  Speaker 3: Hi, am Lee, this is Amanda quick question and maybe
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  Speaker 3: it's a little too personal, So my apologies ahead of
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  Speaker 3: time of how to deal with awkward holiday situations. Holidays
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  Speaker 3: are coming up and my parent parents are newly separated,
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  Speaker 3: not divorced, but separated, and things are already starting to
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  Speaker 3: get a little awkward, and I just don't know how
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  Speaker 3: to handle the situation. There's a lot of great arguing,
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  Speaker 3: there's a lot of bickering. So do you have any
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  Speaker 3: advice for me and my brother, it would be greatly appreciated.
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  Speaker 3: Love the show.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks, Hey, Amanda, thanks for this question. I feel you
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  Speaker 1: I have.
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  Speaker 2: My parents have been divorced since I was twenty one,
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  Speaker 2: and I am so lucky because they get along great,
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  Speaker 2: They love me unconditionally, They you know, will sporadically get
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  Speaker 2: together with one another. I'm so so grateful to have
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  Speaker 2: two loving, supportive parents. But come the holidays, it definitely
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  Speaker 2: still you know, I'm thirty three now, twelve years later,
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  Speaker 2: it feels as though I wish I could be in
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  Speaker 2: two places at once. I think since they got divorced,
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  Speaker 2: we've done maybe two or three Thanksgivings together, But typically
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  Speaker 2: the holidays, the big ones are spent apart, and that
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  Speaker 2: means that I need to do the best that I
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  Speaker 2: can to spend time with both parents for every holiday.
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  Speaker 2: With Christmas it's a little bit easier because I split
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  Speaker 2: up Christmas Eve as one holiday and Christmas Day as another,
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  Speaker 2: and I have that like down to a science. But
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  Speaker 2: Thanksgiving only lasts for so long. What we have implemented
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  Speaker 2: in our family is every other year I flop for
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  Speaker 2: Thanksgiving dinner, which means that I will be at one
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  Speaker 2: house until around like three in the afternoon, and then
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  Speaker 2: I'll go to the other one until you know, the
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  Speaker 2: following morning. That seems to be the most fair way
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  Speaker 2: for me to divide my time. I have no idea
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  Speaker 2: what I'm going to do when I have another you know,
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  Speaker 2: when I finally have a significant other to bring into
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  Speaker 2: this equation, and we have to take into his family
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  Speaker 2: into account. But what I will say is that just
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  Speaker 2: because you're trying to be diple with how you delegate
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  Speaker 2: your time doesn't mean that feelings aren't going to get hurt.
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  Speaker 2: And the best thing that you can do articulating to
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  Speaker 2: your parents that you love them both and that you're
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  Speaker 2: truly trying to do the best that you can year
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  Speaker 2: after year to show up for everyone and that you
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  Speaker 2: love them each as they are. And it's not easy,
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  Speaker 2: but find some solace in knowing that you're certainly not
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  Speaker 2: the only one who is experiencing this, and that you
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  Speaker 2: have to during this time make sure that you find
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  Speaker 2: small ways to give back to you as well, because
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  Speaker 2: tensions are high and you really are doing the best
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  Speaker 2: you can with what you have, And remember that you know,
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  Speaker 2: remember that you have the best intentions, and these tensions
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  Speaker 2: are high because there is so much love and a
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  Speaker 2: want for your time, So have some grace with yourself,
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  Speaker 2: remember what the holidays are supposed to be about. And
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  Speaker 2: if you need me, I'm only a voicemail away.
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  Speaker 1: I got you. That's it for this week.
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  Speaker 2: Make sure you're following along on social at Hurdle podcast
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  Speaker 2: I'm over at Emily a Body, Another hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time.